“I’m 27, single and living with my dad - I have no interest in climbing a career ladder"
A single woman who moved back in with her dad aged 27 and has no interest in climbing the career ladder says she's on her "own timeline".
Eve Bokor, 27, felt a societal pressure to go to university and start a career but found herself burned out and unsure of what she wanted from life aged 25.
She took a leap and moved to Canada in June 2023 but decided it wasn’t for her and came back and moved back in with her dad, Frank, 52, a delivery driver.
But since returning she had an “awakening” and is now taking a slower approach to life.
Eve isn’t worried about getting into a relationship, buying a house, climbing the career ladder or having investments and likes where she is at.
Eve, who works in admin, from Leeds, Yorkshire, said: “I don’t feel that bothered about these things anymore.
“It was external pressures.
“I don’t need those things to be happy.
“I want a relationship and a house and they will happen at some point.
“I'm on my own timeline.
“I genuinely like myself.
“I like where I'm at in my life.”
Eve went to Manchester Metropolitan University and studied childhood studies before taking a job as a teaching assistant in the city when she graduated.
She said: “I felt this pressure to do it. To go to university and do childhood studies.
“Everyone said I was good at it.
“I felt like that was the only thing I good enough for.
“I took a job as a teaching assistant. I enjoyed it but I felt myself burnout.
“I felt like there was a lot of pressure to become a teacher.”
Eve left the profession in 2021 and took a job in admin while she worked out what she wanted to do.
She said: “I felt this pressure to work out a career change.
“There was a pressure – are you going to buy a house? Are you going to get a relationship?
“I wanted time and freedom.”
Eve decided to take a leap and move to Canada in June 2023.
She said: “I decided I wanted to try and explore different things and experiment.
“But I found it really difficult being away from home.”
Eve decided the move wasn’t for her and ended coming back in July and moving in with her dad, Frank, step-mum Sally, 48, and her younger sister, 18, and half-brother, 12.
She said: “I was feeling quite low.
“I felt lost. I felt like a bit of a freeloader.
“I went on a self-discovery journey.
“I found small joy in the day-to-day little things – like going for coffee.”
Eve realised she didn’t want to be pressured by what society says we should be doing at a certain age and accepted where she was at.
She said: “I don’t worry about those things.
“I don’t worry about my future. I find small joy
“I'm unsure about what I want to do for the rest of my life but I enjoy my life day to day.”
Eve is considering going into yoga, healing and spirituality but is working in admin in the meantime and doesn’t feel in a rush to start her career path.
She said: “I don’t feel embarrassed about it.
“I feel proud.
“Be kind and compassionate to yourself.
Eve Bokor, 27, felt a societal pressure to go to university and start a career but found herself burned out and unsure of what she wanted from life aged 25.
She took a leap and moved to Canada in June 2023 but decided it wasn’t for her and came back and moved back in with her dad, Frank, 52, a delivery driver.
But since returning she had an “awakening” and is now taking a slower approach to life.
Eve isn’t worried about getting into a relationship, buying a house, climbing the career ladder or having investments and likes where she is at.
Eve, who works in admin, from Leeds, Yorkshire, said: “I don’t feel that bothered about these things anymore.
“It was external pressures.
“I don’t need those things to be happy.
“I want a relationship and a house and they will happen at some point.
“I'm on my own timeline.
“I genuinely like myself.
“I like where I'm at in my life.”
Eve went to Manchester Metropolitan University and studied childhood studies before taking a job as a teaching assistant in the city when she graduated.
She said: “I felt this pressure to do it. To go to university and do childhood studies.
“Everyone said I was good at it.
“I felt like that was the only thing I good enough for.
“I took a job as a teaching assistant. I enjoyed it but I felt myself burnout.
“I felt like there was a lot of pressure to become a teacher.”
Eve left the profession in 2021 and took a job in admin while she worked out what she wanted to do.
She said: “I felt this pressure to work out a career change.
“There was a pressure – are you going to buy a house? Are you going to get a relationship?
“I wanted time and freedom.”
Eve decided to take a leap and move to Canada in June 2023.
She said: “I decided I wanted to try and explore different things and experiment.
“But I found it really difficult being away from home.”
Eve decided the move wasn’t for her and ended coming back in July and moving in with her dad, Frank, step-mum Sally, 48, and her younger sister, 18, and half-brother, 12.
She said: “I was feeling quite low.
“I felt lost. I felt like a bit of a freeloader.
“I went on a self-discovery journey.
“I found small joy in the day-to-day little things – like going for coffee.”
Eve realised she didn’t want to be pressured by what society says we should be doing at a certain age and accepted where she was at.
She said: “I don’t worry about those things.
“I don’t worry about my future. I find small joy
“I'm unsure about what I want to do for the rest of my life but I enjoy my life day to day.”
Eve is considering going into yoga, healing and spirituality but is working in admin in the meantime and doesn’t feel in a rush to start her career path.
She said: “I don’t feel embarrassed about it.
“I feel proud.
“Be kind and compassionate to yourself.
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00:00 Listen to this if you're feeling behind in life.
00:02 Hi, I'm Eve and I'm 27. I live with my dad's. I don't own a house. I don't have a boyfriend. I can't drive.
00:07 I have no investments and I'm not on any career ladder and I have no interest in climbing it.
00:11 I'm pretty unsure about what I want to do for the rest of my life
00:14 but what I will say is I actually enjoy my life day to day because I find small glimpses of joy all the time and
00:20 I genuinely like myself.
00:21 I'm sharing this because I know it's so easy to get lost in the world of social media where everyone looks like they have
00:26 a life together and have it all figured out. Everyone's on a completely different journey, timelines.
00:30 Also, please stop for a second and consider you may be comparing yourself to somebody who has had more privilege in life
00:36 and this isn't to hate on people who have had privilege in their life.
00:39 It's just to give you a perspective when you're comparing yourself to someone who has started life a few steps ahead of you.
00:43 One last thing I want to say is that happiness is not when you acquire all of these things.
00:48 It's being able to find small joy in your day to day existence.
00:51 If you're always looking to the future of happiness,
00:53 you'll never find it because the future doesn't exist and we only have this moment now.
00:57 Go easy on yourself. You're doing better than you think.
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