“I never wanted kids - at 45 I'm childless and thriving - I don't regret my decision and love being a rich auntie"

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A woman who decided not to have children in her 20s says she doesn't regret it now she's in her 40s - and enjoys "being a rich auntie".

Dominique Baker, 45, says she's never wanted children and made the decision to be child-free at 29.

She never had children "on her radar" and says her husband was completely on board with it.

Dominique - who worked in the corporate world, before qualifying as an aesthetician - and her partner have been married for 19 years and don't feel they've missed out by not having children.

She said: "I started dating my husband when I was 15, and we married at 26.

"I sensed that he was on the same page as me on wanting to live a childfree life.

"When I was about 29, I mustered the courage and let him know how I felt... thankfully, he agreed!"

Instead of spending their days clearing up after tiny terrors, the pair enjoy their high-flying careers and the freedom they have to travel at the drop of a hat.

Dominique, a skincare and fashion influencer, from Ottawa, Canada, said:

"I never really felt like I had that maternal instinct.

“I feel like there’s been a shift in society in recent years.

“In my 20s people pressured me to have kids.

“People would openly ridicule me.

“When I was in high school and going to university, a lot of my friends still had that old school mentality of thinking their whole goal was to get married and have children.

"Being a rich auntie is truly my destiny, I have no regrets!”

Despite her successful career and happy life, Dominique has come up against a barrage of criticism for her decision not to start a family.

She claims her parents were initially saddened by her decision not to have kids.

Dominique said: “I remember my father saying ‘oh no, my legacy is going to end.'"

While other comments Dominique and her husband - who are a bi-racial couple - heard were even stranger.

“A lot of people would tell me I should have kids as they would be so beautiful as they have white dad and black mum," she said.

But not having children has allowed Dominique to lead a jet-set lifestyle.

“I would not have been able to travel the world like I do if I had kids," she said.

“I go to London at the drop of a hat.

“I’ve recently been to France, New York for fashion week, the Dominican Republic, Miami and Las Vegas for a beauty convention.

“In the past I’ve been to Australia, Peru, and Egypt.

“Later this year I’m going to Monaco.”

While 20 years ago, Dominique would be on the receiving end of unsolicited opinions about why she should have kids, she now says she gets more comments from people envious of her life choices.

“A close girl friend of mine tells me all the time that she wishes we could switch lives," she said.

“She has kids who she loves dearly, but she has had to sacrifice a lot of her independence."

Dominique says they key to her success has been being authentic and working hard.

“Influencers get a bad rap, but many of us are cultured and educated," she said.

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00:00 [MUSIC PLAYING]
00:03 There's parents out there who don't even like their kids.
00:12 That's what one of you left on one of my last child-free posts.
00:15 And that sort of blew my mind.
00:16 And I don't know why.
00:17 But I thought I would do a little research into it.
00:19 And I found an entire subreddit devoted to parents
00:23 who don't like their kids.
00:24 There were parents complaining about how much they can't
00:27 stand being touched all the time.
00:30 That actually resonated with me, because I'm not
00:32 a touchy-feely, affectionate person.
00:33 And that totally makes sense when
00:35 you have a couple of toddlers all over you,
00:37 touching you all the time.
00:38 There were a lot of people complaining also
00:40 about how heartbreaking it is to have their stuff broken
00:44 all the time, all the stuff that they have accumulated
00:47 over the years.
00:48 And they have toddlers who just come and break everything.
00:51 Now, that's a minor thing.
00:52 But yeah, I get that.
00:54 There were also a lot of posts going on
00:56 about how disappointed people were in their children.
01:00 I don't know.
01:02 I think this says a lot about, I think, the age that we're in.
01:07 We all expect a lot, so on and so forth.
01:10 We're all low on patience and tolerance.
01:12 But it was just so eye-opening reading
01:15 the posts from this group.
01:16 I always felt that child-free people
01:18 who say that parents don't even like their kids
01:20 were just being mean.
01:22 But my eyes were opened after reading this Reddit string.
01:25 Is it called a string?
01:26 The other most prevalent post was how tired
01:30 all of these parents are, like so exhausted,
01:34 so tired beyond belief that they can't function.
01:37 They can't open their eyes.
01:38 They can't take a minute to recover from the flu,
01:41 recover from being sick.
01:44 There were so many entries about just so desperately
01:46 wanting to sleep in.
01:48 Oh my god.
01:49 I didn't realize so many parents out there were struggling.

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