Coach reveals how to overcome burnout and says that "you might be the problem"

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A burnout coach has revealed "you might be the problem" - suggesting zoning out and doom scrolling are signs of it.

Elissa Lynn, 33, became a burnout coach when she realised the root cause of her work-related stress was her own doing.

Burnout is a state of chronic overwhelm accumulated overtime.

Elissa claims people telling her she was "so dependable" made her realise she was using their validation as her "fuel".

Her "24/7 work life" attitude compromised her health and well-being as she found she was always on her emails and felt she always had to be 'on'.

Elissa says even after a multi-vehicle collision in January 2016, her first thought was about work.

She suggests signs someone might be burnt out include chronic migraines, shoulder tension and a lack of sleep as well as zoning out and doom scrolling on social media.

She now works with other high-achieving professionals to tackle their own burnout problems by creating an identity outside of work and setting boundaries.

Elissa believes a common cause of burnout to be ourselves - especially high-achievers and those "guilt ridden" at saying no and says simply quitting a job for a new one won't always help to alleviate problems.

She helps others commit to more activities outside of their work to improve time management - allowing them to "say no" to work thoughts outside of work hours.

Elissa also coaches people who overcommit at work, fail to delegate and say yes to everything.

Elissa, from San Diego, California, US, said: "The number one thing you have to do is admit that you are the problem.

"If you have been over committing and over promising and quitting jobs to find yourself feeling the same way then you need to admit your part.

"People don't like to hear that but I say that as a means to take ownership of your power.

"Because the one thing you can 100 per cent control is you.

"When you change your mindset, you can change your life.

"You give yourself the opportunity to step into the driver's seat instead of living at the mercy of everything else you can't control.

"Also, when you focus on you, you learn how to operate differently, which directly correlates to doing your job more efficiently, thus, making your workload much more manageable."

Elissa's own burnout problems stemmed from feeling like she wasn't doing enough and that there was "always more to do".

She said: "I went to South America and thought I'd escape my job and I had this overwhelming thought that I was the problem.

"I had been selling myself out for the job and no one was forcing me to resent my work and snap at my partner.

"When I had that revelation, I realised I had no boundary. How can I learn to say no? How can I practice saying no?

"When I moved back two years later, I got into another high-level role and did my job with boundaries and working half the amount of time I did before and was still one of the best performers on the team."

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