90 Day Fiancé Season 11 Episode 8
90 Day Fiancé Season 11 Episode 8
90 Day Fiancé Season 11 Episode 8
90 Day Fiancé Season 11 Episode 8
90 Day Fiancé Season 11 Episode 8
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00:00:00Previously on 90 Day Fiancé...
00:00:03Here's to you.
00:00:04Thank you, baby.
00:00:06I wish I didn't feel jealous,
00:00:08but it's important you feel supported,
00:00:10acknowledge all these things.
00:00:20To see your loved one hide you,
00:00:22it's just, like, so triggering for me.
00:00:27It's time that she shows me
00:00:29things are going to change.
00:00:34Earlier today, you were having an issue
00:00:36with talking about the past,
00:00:38and I want you to know
00:00:40that I'm rolling with the changes,
00:00:42and I made you something
00:00:44so that you could understand
00:00:46that I'm being in the present.
00:00:49This is the first time that I can see,
00:00:51like, a confirmation
00:00:53that he is really being supportive to me.
00:00:55We can finally move forward.
00:01:00Salper, I'm going to be honest with you.
00:01:02I think that I would be a better,
00:01:04you know, a better guy to be with.
00:01:07I just want to ignore him,
00:01:09but I'm hearing what he's saying.
00:01:11It's too dangerous to poke the beard that much, you know?
00:01:14You better not want to have problems with me, for sure.
00:01:17You look like a bad boy, but you are a good boy.
00:01:20I cannot hear this anymore. I'm sorry.
00:01:22Like, what the **** is that? I'm done with this ****.
00:01:25If one day you don't want to be with me,
00:01:29I would still stay in the U.S.
00:01:34This is the first time I've ever heard Maddie
00:01:37talking about if we didn't work.
00:01:39I don't want to get married unless it's forever.
00:01:41I mean it.
00:01:45Have you guys talked anymore about a prenup?
00:01:48We're going to do that.
00:01:50You think I come just for your money, Mark? You too?
00:01:54Oh, boy.
00:02:05Did you sleep with that girl?
00:02:07It's taken a year for you to admit this to me, Juan,
00:02:10when I confronted you in Colombia a year ago.
00:02:12The same time that Juan was feeling weak in our relationship,
00:02:16I found myself kind of catching feelings.
00:02:18He even asked me about that guy, like,
00:02:20do you have feelings for this guy?
00:02:22I mean, he was your ex-boyfriend.
00:02:25What?
00:02:27Yeah.
00:02:43You do a protein shake?
00:02:45Yes. It has a lot of things in it.
00:02:47Protein powder, magnesium.
00:02:50Oh, and then MCT oil for your brain health.
00:02:53Is that all you need?
00:02:55Sure.
00:03:07How did you sleep, babe?
00:03:09Not bad.
00:03:11Every day better, you know?
00:03:13Yeah.
00:03:15Let me try.
00:03:17Cheers.
00:03:21It is good.
00:03:23Yeah.
00:03:25How do you feel after last night, meeting my friends?
00:03:29So-so.
00:03:31I mean, everything was great, except Dan.
00:03:34Except for Dan?
00:03:36Mm-hmm.
00:03:38Last night, I met with Shekinah's friend,
00:03:41and overall everything went well,
00:03:43except one detail.
00:03:45A little French detail.
00:03:47Dan, he pushed the button nonstop.
00:03:53Do you hate how he says your name?
00:04:08He is just like a French bulldog
00:04:10barking to a German shepherd.
00:04:12They bark, but the German shepherd doesn't care.
00:04:14They keep going.
00:04:16I'm trying to be a German shepherd.
00:04:18Oh, my God.
00:04:20It will be difficult.
00:04:24It made me really happy to see that you could, like,
00:04:26hold your ground.
00:04:28That was a high-pressure situation.
00:04:30You had a lot of eyes looking at you,
00:04:32and a lot of people would fold under that pressure, you know?
00:04:34And you didn't.
00:04:36I just want you to know something.
00:04:38I'm saying it right now,
00:04:40then don't say me that you didn't say anything.
00:04:42I understand it's your friend group,
00:04:44and he's one of the, unfortunately, part of it.
00:04:48But if he does it again,
00:04:50I mean, it will be the last time
00:04:52that he saw modern sharper, okay?
00:04:56In my past, if you have a problem,
00:04:58we go man-to-man, one-to-one.
00:05:00We fight.
00:05:02But right now, I'm modern.
00:05:04I'm trying to solve everything by talking.
00:05:06I love this version of you,
00:05:08and I just really hope
00:05:10that you don't go back to your old ways.
00:05:12I hate this version of mine,
00:05:14but I understand it.
00:05:16You know what?
00:05:18I'm glad that you didn't lower yourself
00:05:20to his level.
00:05:22It makes me feel a lot better about you meeting Sophie,
00:05:24actually, and my family.
00:05:28Now that Sarper's in the U.S.,
00:05:30I need him to meet my daughter, Sophie.
00:05:32The problem is, Sophie has heard
00:05:34a lot of negative things from my family about Sarper,
00:05:36so she hasn't wanted to meet him before,
00:05:38but now the 90 days has started,
00:05:40and there's a time crunch she's on.
00:05:42Like, I want her to meet him
00:05:44before we get married,
00:05:46because if Sophie doesn't improve
00:05:48my relationship with Sarper,
00:05:50I won't be able to marry him.
00:05:52I love the side of you
00:05:54that you showed to me last night, babe.
00:05:56That was so attractive.
00:05:58Modern one?
00:06:00Yeah.
00:06:02Let's go make the bed.
00:06:04Let's go to the bed.
00:06:06But I don't promise to be modern there.
00:06:08Oh, really?
00:06:10You're going to turn back into Caveman Sarper?
00:06:12I'm okay with that.
00:06:14In the bed.
00:06:16Caveman is coming.
00:06:18Caveman is coming.
00:06:20Sarper! Sarper!
00:06:34It's so beautiful!
00:06:38And red is my favorite color.
00:06:46It's a beautiful car.
00:06:48Well, I'm glad you like it.
00:06:50This is a 1959 Ford Edsel,
00:06:52boys and girls.
00:06:54It's 65 years old,
00:06:56which also means it's a good chance
00:06:58we're riding home in an Uber tonight.
00:07:00Today, I'm so excited.
00:07:02I arranged for this beautiful
00:07:04classic car to pick us up,
00:07:06and we're going on a winery tour.
00:07:08A private winery tour.
00:07:10You've had a good time here so far?
00:07:12Yes.
00:07:14I think that this place is like a little diamond
00:07:16in the rough of Baja.
00:07:18It's one of our favorite places in the region.
00:07:20We feel like we're such a good place
00:07:22after setting up our throttle rules.
00:07:24But at the same time,
00:07:26the car ride where Anya's at bed,
00:07:28she is not forthcoming
00:07:30with her family about us,
00:07:32and she's hiding me.
00:07:34It's still on my mind.
00:07:36Our next destination is Guadalajara,
00:07:38where she's from.
00:07:40Guadalajara.
00:07:42To meet her family.
00:07:44My family.
00:07:46So your family's Mexican?
00:07:48Yeah, I'm Mexican.
00:07:50You're going to show up with your boyfriend and his wife?
00:07:52Okay.
00:07:54No, no, no.
00:07:56He understand me.
00:07:58He understand me.
00:08:00All right,
00:08:02here we go, boys and girls.
00:08:06Don't drink too much.
00:08:08Enjoy.
00:08:10See you later.
00:08:12We're all making new memories together,
00:08:14finally.
00:08:16Oh, so nice.
00:08:18Hi, welcome to the winery.
00:08:22Oh, you guys.
00:08:26So beautiful.
00:08:28This is a chardonnay,
00:08:30100%.
00:08:32Sparkling wine, traditional method.
00:08:38Cheers.
00:08:40What do we want to toast to?
00:08:42For a good, good night.
00:08:44Cheers to us.
00:08:50We're going to start looking at the winery.
00:08:54Careful with the steps.
00:08:56Okay.
00:08:58We are 10 feet underground.
00:09:00That's a necessity for cellars.
00:09:02Also,
00:09:04this is a beautiful room.
00:09:06Hey, you have a good taste.
00:09:08In this moment, we're so happy
00:09:10and we're
00:09:12stronger, you know, closer together.
00:09:14But being in a throuple,
00:09:16there's always that
00:09:18equal feeling that you're chasing.
00:09:20Since the beginning
00:09:22of the trip, things were just
00:09:24more
00:09:26in favor of Matt.
00:09:28He's the person who
00:09:30she kissed first when we met
00:09:32on the Day of the Dead.
00:09:34He's
00:09:36the person she had sex with for the first time
00:09:38alone, one-on-one, while I
00:09:40was not part of that.
00:09:44He's the person who she tells her family
00:09:46about. He's the boyfriend, and I'm the friend.
00:09:50Careful with the steps.
00:09:52In a way, I'm happy with the progress
00:09:54we made of, you know, the rules we set
00:09:56up and how we're continuing to
00:09:58progress this relationship beautifully.
00:10:00But there's a growing closeness between them that
00:10:02worries me, and I want to make sure
00:10:04I don't, like, get upset or jealous over that.
00:10:06Because if it is, it's going to be a problem
00:10:08for everyone. We can't be able to move
00:10:10forward without
00:10:12going through that uncomfortableness.
00:10:16Would you like me to take a picture?
00:10:18Oh, please.
00:10:20Stay like that.
00:10:22Beautiful background.
00:10:24Beautiful wine.
00:10:28Thank you, baby.
00:10:30Oh, nice.
00:10:32Aww.
00:10:34Mmm.
00:10:36I love.
00:10:38Ooh, cheese.
00:10:40This cheese is good.
00:10:42Pleasure, sir.
00:10:44What are you thinking?
00:10:50You're very quiet in the car.
00:10:52Yeah. Just thinking.
00:10:54Because the last time we were in the car,
00:10:56it was not quiet.
00:10:58It was too much information thrown at me.
00:11:04I think that you have
00:11:06some things you don't tell
00:11:08with me and say.
00:11:10Well, do you want to talk
00:11:12about it? Tell me.
00:11:14I don't understand.
00:11:16I'm sure you know, but I'm
00:11:18really hurt by the fact
00:11:20that you're introducing me as
00:11:22just a friend
00:11:24to your family.
00:11:26If the issue is
00:11:28really Pauly or me, and you could have
00:11:30presented me as a girlfriend individually,
00:11:32or you could have presented him as just a boyfriend,
00:11:34then why can't I be the girlfriend,
00:11:36and he's the friend, you know?
00:11:38But I told you I present you
00:11:40for my girlfriend.
00:11:42When I am staying in Guadalajara...
00:11:44...
00:11:46I just have a couple
00:11:48questions. Are we planning
00:11:50on telling your family before
00:11:52we go?
00:11:54Before? No, honey.
00:12:00I can't do this.
00:12:08You don't understand, honey.
00:12:10I think we're
00:12:12afraid that you can
00:12:14kind of
00:12:16cover up who's important to you.
00:12:20She don't understand.
00:12:22I'm crying because
00:12:24I feel very bad.
00:12:26I feel like
00:12:28she's forcing me
00:12:30and
00:12:32forcing me
00:12:34to do something
00:12:36that I'm going to do right now,
00:12:38but I need time.
00:12:40I understand.
00:12:42I swear I love you,
00:12:44but you need to give me
00:12:46time, please.
00:12:48I just want you
00:12:50to make me feel that you want
00:12:52this, that you want to
00:12:54be with us.
00:12:56Do you tell people you're even in a relationship?
00:13:00None of your family knows.
00:13:02Does anyone know?
00:13:04Do you tell people you are in a relationship
00:13:06with us?
00:13:08That should be
00:13:10a yes or a no, and it shouldn't take this long
00:13:12for you to answer.
00:13:14Are you not telling people you are in a serious relationship?
00:13:20I am done.
00:13:22I'm done.
00:13:24I want to go back home.
00:13:26I want to go back to my children.
00:13:28This is ridiculous.
00:13:30You can't turn her into a housewife.
00:13:32That's what's going on.
00:13:38When I got in the house,
00:13:40it was really, really weird for me
00:13:42to just see books, paintings.
00:13:44Do you think you are sexually
00:13:46attracted to them?
00:13:48What do you mean?
00:13:50I think it's insane that Maddie's
00:13:52even asking me if I'm bisexual, so I don't
00:13:54think I should have to answer a question like that.
00:13:56We should just end the conversation.
00:14:10I love her, and
00:14:12I need everybody to get on board with it
00:14:14and feel like it is for the right reason.
00:14:16It was slowly building a wall,
00:14:18and if you don't take it down
00:14:20before it gets too big, you're not going to
00:14:22take it down.
00:14:24I don't like you.
00:14:36There's the mall. I used to work there.
00:14:38Diggs.
00:14:40Isn't it weird?
00:14:42It is weird, but it's a name.
00:14:44Diggs.
00:14:46You have to finish it.
00:14:56All right, we're here.
00:15:00All right.
00:15:02Let's go.
00:15:04Do all the gym things.
00:15:08It's definitely hard to act normal
00:15:10whenever I know we have such
00:15:12big questions and issues
00:15:14kind of just hanging over us right now.
00:15:16Hey, welcome in.
00:15:18Hey.
00:15:20But regardless of what's going on, we have to move forward,
00:15:22so today we're going to the gym.
00:15:24Where is the guy's dressing room?
00:15:26Right here, right?
00:15:28Perfect. Thank you.
00:15:30As a person who has been
00:15:32going to the gym every single day
00:15:34for so many years,
00:15:36this is not normal to me.
00:15:38I've never seen the gym
00:15:40with, like, females in, like, workout
00:15:42clothes and stuff, so
00:15:44this is something that I've always seen
00:15:46in the movies, and I had never
00:15:48thought that I would be in
00:15:50one of these gyms.
00:15:52Hey. You ready?
00:15:54I got you a towel.
00:16:02I think that the government of Iran
00:16:04always think about the things
00:16:06that people
00:16:08can be turned on about.
00:16:10For example, they think that
00:16:12if a female bend over at the
00:16:14gym and another guy looks at it,
00:16:16it can be turned on, so
00:16:18that's totally against our law.
00:16:20That's why you can't find
00:16:22any coed gyms in Iran.
00:16:24Where do you want to start? I don't know.
00:16:26I can go do cardio on the treadmill
00:16:28for a little while if you want to just figure out what machines
00:16:30you want to do. Is that cool with that?
00:16:32So let's go there. Yeah. No, no, no.
00:16:34Like, I go. All right. You figure out
00:16:36what you want to do. Yeah, I need to warm up.
00:16:38I can warm up beside you.
00:16:40I feel weird here.
00:16:58In Iran,
00:17:00most women don't show their hair,
00:17:02let alone, like, their body, so
00:17:04working out beside women
00:17:06really makes me uncomfortable.
00:17:08I'm always, like, talking to myself,
00:17:10like, don't look at this, don't do this,
00:17:12don't do that. It's, like, so weird
00:17:14to me.
00:17:26We do not use, like, pounds.
00:17:28Yeah, so I'm not sure
00:17:30how much is 30 pounds.
00:17:32I'm like,
00:17:34please do not use this. Please don't do that.
00:17:36I don't know how to react.
00:17:40Hey, babe. Hey.
00:17:42You look great. Why are you shaking my hand?
00:17:44Huh?
00:17:46Are you helping her out?
00:17:48No, she was helping me.
00:17:50Oh, she's helping you? That's good.
00:17:52Yeah. What's her name?
00:17:54I don't know.
00:17:56Thanks for letting me work here. Yeah, you look great.
00:17:58Thank you. Thank you. Y'all too.
00:18:04So, I was just wondering if you're okay
00:18:06with, um,
00:18:08me being a personal trainer.
00:18:10Uh-huh. And if a girl comes up to me
00:18:12and wants to have classes with me,
00:18:14would you be okay with it?
00:18:16I guess my question for you would be, like, how professional
00:18:18are you going to be?
00:18:20Girls are a little bit more forward here than probably
00:18:22your country.
00:18:24Like, if I saw you at the gym and I wanted to talk to you,
00:18:26I might, if I don't see a ring on your finger, I might
00:18:28walk up to you and say, you look nice. Like,
00:18:30are you seeing anyone? Do you want to go out?
00:18:32Do you want to do something?
00:18:34How would you want me to handle that?
00:18:36Um,
00:18:38what would be the first thing you should say if somebody
00:18:40asked you that kind of question?
00:18:42Like,
00:18:44I'm married?
00:18:46That's a good start.
00:18:48Right? Okay.
00:18:50There's your answer.
00:18:52I think we can go to the other side.
00:18:54Sounds good.
00:18:56Okay.
00:18:58What am I doing?
00:19:00Okay, do this.
00:19:02Okay, don't move it from here.
00:19:04Is this right? Okay.
00:19:06Yes. Go down.
00:19:08Yeah.
00:19:10Like, go ahead.
00:19:12What were you saying? Finish your conversation.
00:19:14I'm just trying to program myself.
00:19:16I feel like...
00:19:18I'm sorry, but you get defensive.
00:19:20But let me ask you this question.
00:19:22How would you feel if I did that?
00:19:24Would you be okay with me paying them?
00:19:26I wouldn't be okay with it if it was me.
00:19:28But I'm sure it's not because of me.
00:19:30It's because of you.
00:19:32What do you mean?
00:19:34When I got in the house,
00:19:36it was really, really weird for me to just see
00:19:38too many
00:19:40boobs paintings.
00:19:42Okay.
00:19:44Let me just be honest.
00:19:46Like,
00:19:48are you... Do you think you're
00:19:50sexually, like, attracted
00:19:52to them?
00:19:58I don't know if I've ever been asked this question before.
00:20:00It's weird.
00:20:02You don't want to answer that?
00:20:04No. That's weird.
00:20:06I'm attracted to you.
00:20:10I think it's insane that Maddie's even asking me
00:20:12if I'm bisexual, so I don't think I should
00:20:14have to answer a question like that.
00:20:18Do you think it would put his mind at ease
00:20:20if you gave him a definitive answer?
00:20:22I don't know why his mind is
00:20:24not at ease. Therefore, I don't understand
00:20:26why I have to comfort him in that way.
00:20:32You sound like my dad.
00:20:34When I was trying to tell him about you, he was like,
00:20:36did you meet a woman?
00:20:38Oh, so your dad has a tattoo?
00:20:40Yeah. You guys are weird.
00:20:42Maybe he has seen something.
00:20:44I think he was being sarcastic.
00:20:46Are you sure
00:20:48he hasn't seen anything?
00:20:52Yeah, I'm sure.
00:20:56Are you done?
00:20:58Yeah, but that wasn't my answer.
00:21:04I said, yeah, I'm sure.
00:21:06You were, like, so vague about it.
00:21:08I'm not going to give you any answer
00:21:10that I think you're wanting,
00:21:12so we should just end the conversation.
00:21:14All right.
00:21:17To be honest,
00:21:19I'm really not okay with her
00:21:21not giving me the 100% answer.
00:21:23I need to know before we get married
00:21:25if she is bisexual or not,
00:21:27because, say, we get married,
00:21:29and after that, she says,
00:21:31this is not enough for me. Like, I want something else.
00:21:33I want to experience something else,
00:21:35and what if I get,
00:21:37like, faded away?
00:21:39That's going to be a problem.
00:21:47I feel like right now,
00:21:49we're all kind of ganging up on her,
00:21:51and now she's walked off.
00:21:53Every time, it's complicated for me.
00:22:17I love her,
00:22:19and we have
00:22:21beautiful daughter Maria together,
00:22:23and I need everybody to get on board with it
00:22:25and feel like it is for the right reasons,
00:22:27and I appreciate the concern,
00:22:29but I don't want to sit here
00:22:31and gang up on her,
00:22:33especially at our first big family barbecue in the USA.
00:22:35Yeah.
00:22:37Let me just go check on her.
00:22:39Maybe I'll get her number.
00:22:41Maybe I'll get her number.
00:22:43Maybe I'll get her number.
00:22:45Let me just go check on her, make sure she's okay.
00:22:47I'll be right back.
00:22:51Jordan, just in front of the whole family
00:22:53here at a barbecue,
00:22:55brought up the prenup,
00:22:57and this is certainly not the time or place for it,
00:22:59but now that they've brought it up,
00:23:01I don't know how to fix it.
00:23:03Mina,
00:23:05you okay?
00:23:07No, I don't look okay.
00:23:11Sorry.
00:23:13I just told him
00:23:15we can't all be talking about all this.
00:23:19No, I don't think so either.
00:23:25Listen here.
00:23:27Maria.
00:23:43I know.
00:23:45This is what I just said.
00:23:49I did just tell him that,
00:23:51and I walked off to come over here
00:23:53to talk to you.
00:24:03I feel really bad that she's this upset,
00:24:05but I'm upset, too,
00:24:07and I want everyone to get to a place of peace,
00:24:09so I feel like it would mean a lot
00:24:11if you talked to him,
00:24:13and I think if he heard it from you.
00:24:15Okay, I'm more than willing to try.
00:24:19All right, we're there.
00:24:21Okay, everybody pray for me.
00:24:25Hello.
00:24:27Yeah.
00:24:29Are you okay?
00:24:31No.
00:24:33You feel like you're picked on, huh?
00:24:35I don't know.
00:24:37Don't cry.
00:24:39We were just really being concerned
00:24:41about each other.
00:24:43It wasn't against you.
00:24:47She comes all the way here,
00:24:49has to leave Clayton at home,
00:24:51her and her baby,
00:24:53and then feeling like the new family
00:24:55is ganging up on her.
00:24:57It was slowly building a wall,
00:24:59and if you don't take it down
00:25:01before it gets too big,
00:25:03you're not gonna take it down.
00:25:05I can see we got a fractured relationship here.
00:25:07My mother said,
00:25:09can I ask you one question?
00:25:11Do you want to talk with Jordan?
00:25:17I don't need to talk with Jordan.
00:25:19She's nice in my face,
00:25:21but she's stuck bad in my back.
00:25:31Can I make the magical bed do the thing?
00:25:33Yeah, I love the bed.
00:25:35We did have sex last night.
00:25:37It was special.
00:25:39That is an at-home
00:25:41HIV test kit.
00:25:43Really? I just want to be cautious
00:25:45because we have an
00:25:47open relationship.
00:25:49Her mental
00:25:51ideas can run wild,
00:25:53so it's affecting how
00:25:55intimate we can be and how often.
00:25:57Come on.
00:25:59You want to go see Mommy?
00:26:01Okay, let's go.
00:26:03Come on.
00:26:05I'll take you there.
00:26:19Where's the Mommy?
00:26:27Okay, okay, okay.
00:26:29You can make it out.
00:26:31Everybody wants their kisses.
00:26:41Last night, me and Sean
00:26:43had a great time together.
00:26:45Okay, I think you can take this.
00:26:47This?
00:26:49This, the puppy, the baby.
00:26:53We did have sex last night.
00:26:55It was special.
00:27:03Come here.
00:27:05You know he doesn't like to get out of the bed.
00:27:07Once he's in the bed, he wants to stay in the bed.
00:27:09How could you resist?
00:27:11Don't worry.
00:27:13You go. Go play.
00:27:15Go on.
00:27:19That's my face.
00:27:21You're all germicated.
00:27:23Can I make the magical bed
00:27:25do the thing?
00:27:27Yeah, I love the bed.
00:27:29Ready?
00:27:31Here we go.
00:27:33Magical vibrations.
00:27:35Actually, I should use the magical bed
00:27:37to do the other magic to get you out.
00:27:39No.
00:27:41Get out.
00:27:43Get out.
00:27:45You're forcing me to leave.
00:27:47Exactly.
00:27:49No, you cannot sleep anymore.
00:27:51You must wake up and get out of the bed
00:27:53and do life.
00:28:01I think I will go
00:28:03brush my teeth, wash my face.
00:28:05Ugh.
00:28:19Love.
00:28:21Love.
00:28:23Yeah?
00:28:25Look at this.
00:28:27My toothbrush was laying there all night.
00:28:31Laying where?
00:28:33On top of the bathroom.
00:28:35Touching the wall, everything.
00:28:37You mean the soap dish.
00:28:39Yeah.
00:28:41Inside, touching.
00:28:43How can I use this?
00:28:45When I flush the toilet,
00:28:47all the germs and bacteria go to the air
00:28:49so they go to my...
00:28:51So now, you can use this.
00:28:53Get it.
00:28:55You can use it. Get it.
00:28:57And I need a new one now.
00:28:59You actually...
00:29:01Yeah, you just leave it there?
00:29:03Yeah, I just run it every time
00:29:05underneath the faucet and wash it off
00:29:07and then put the toothpaste on.
00:29:09You leave your tooth there
00:29:11and then you kiss me.
00:29:13Okay.
00:29:15So what do you want to do?
00:29:17Go out, buy a new toothbrush
00:29:19and we can buy the other things
00:29:21for the house, whatever.
00:29:23The things to clean.
00:29:25We need a place to put inside
00:29:27and we can close.
00:29:29Kiss me. I will throw this away.
00:29:31No, the other side.
00:29:33Aliyah's always been
00:29:35very particular about germs
00:29:37and cleanliness and felt like that was
00:29:39just a side
00:29:41adjunct of being a nurse
00:29:43but now I'm finding that it's actually
00:29:45germophobia where
00:29:47she's scared she's going to get
00:29:49sick
00:29:51from the germs.
00:29:53I freak out.
00:29:55Totally dirty.
00:29:57I try to accommodate it as much as
00:29:59I can but then there's
00:30:01certain things that I just can't.
00:30:03I don't want to do and I just refuse.
00:30:07Alright.
00:30:17I can see there is a lot of mansions
00:30:19on top of the mountain.
00:30:21Yes. Many, many
00:30:23mansions. Many, many millions.
00:30:25In Brazil, we would be like a favela.
00:30:27Yeah, it's the exact opposite here.
00:30:29If you can afford to live in the mountain,
00:30:31you're the richest.
00:30:33In Brazil, if you're on the mountain, you're the poorest.
00:30:35That's crazy.
00:30:39Alright.
00:30:41We're here.
00:30:43Okay.
00:30:53Okay, here we are.
00:30:55Toothbrush heaven.
00:30:57Look at that. What?
00:30:59Toys for the dog.
00:31:01You know how many toys I bought that dog?
00:31:03My God, look what this says.
00:31:05Louis Vuitton.
00:31:07It's like Louis Vuitton, like the luggage
00:31:09but for the dog.
00:31:11Oh my God.
00:31:13I'm sure they all do that.
00:31:17He will love this.
00:31:19He will love all of them for like five minutes.
00:31:21I need to look at the things.
00:31:23Did you saw like toothbrush here?
00:31:25Back to business.
00:31:27Oh, here we are.
00:31:29Toothbrush.
00:31:31This is what you're wanting,
00:31:33which is a cover.
00:31:35And this is a different kind
00:31:37but does the same job.
00:31:39This is the pink one.
00:31:41Okay, it's a style choice.
00:31:43Something more?
00:31:45I don't know.
00:31:47I never saw this before.
00:31:49It's an at-home HIV test kit.
00:31:51Really?
00:31:53Do you think it's like safe?
00:31:55Like we can trust?
00:31:57Yeah, I'm sure it's pretty accurate.
00:31:59Aaliyah has this thing
00:32:01about getting an HIV test every
00:32:03month basically.
00:32:05Might be germophobia
00:32:07or hypochondria.
00:32:09One of the two, but one of those is up.
00:32:11I just want to be
00:32:13cautious because
00:32:15we have an open
00:32:17relationship.
00:32:21When we're getting more intimate
00:32:23then I feel like she's
00:32:25worried about contracting the
00:32:27STD even if everybody's
00:32:29tested and I still think
00:32:31her mental
00:32:33ideas can run wild.
00:32:35So it's affecting how
00:32:37intimate we can be and how often.
00:32:39Any other issues?
00:32:41I don't think so.
00:32:43In a perfect world
00:32:45we'd just be monogamous.
00:32:47But that being said
00:32:49it seems like catch 22.
00:32:51We open up the relationship
00:32:53then there's more fear of
00:32:55STDs. But if she
00:32:57transitions fully
00:32:59then I feel like I'm losing
00:33:01things that I enjoy.
00:33:03Here you go. Hope to see you guys soon.
00:33:07We're trying to figure out how to navigate
00:33:09this thing because
00:33:11I want her
00:33:13happy with her life but I want to be happy about
00:33:15my life too.
00:33:19Okay.
00:33:23I don't want you on my wedding day
00:33:25not liking my husband.
00:33:27But how am I supposed to
00:33:29ever trust him again?
00:33:31Once you break my trust it takes a lot
00:33:33to gain that back.
00:33:35If you would have known, you would have
00:33:37given me your opinions
00:33:39but I don't want to hear them.
00:33:41You are not my
00:33:43ordinary. You're like drama.
00:33:45Me no.
00:33:47I like to make a point.
00:33:49I'm definitely stuck
00:33:51in the middle. I don't know what to say
00:33:53to either one of them to be honest.
00:33:55I don't think that went very well at all.
00:33:57Oh my god. That's the best thing you can say?
00:34:01Yeah.
00:34:13Hi.
00:34:15How are you? I'm good. How are you doing?
00:34:17Good.
00:34:19Could I get two
00:34:21mango daiquiris? Yeah, absolutely.
00:34:23Perfect.
00:34:32Thank you, Holly.
00:34:34The other night
00:34:36Megan found out that Juan cheated
00:34:38and she cried and was very
00:34:40hurt and heartbroken and then
00:34:42she found out that I knew
00:34:44and was even more devastated
00:34:46and cried even more.
00:34:48Thank you. You're welcome.
00:34:50I'm like her best friend.
00:34:52Like her only friend really.
00:34:54So Juan cheated on me
00:34:56felt like he cheated on her in a sense
00:34:58and to find out that I knew
00:35:00he probably felt like I cheated
00:35:02on her as well.
00:35:04Hi. You ordered me a drink?
00:35:06I did order you a drink.
00:35:08Sorry, I'm always late.
00:35:10I really just need her to let things go.
00:35:12They're in the past. He's here now.
00:35:14And I also worry like if any other things
00:35:16came out, how she would be able
00:35:18to handle them.
00:35:22I got you a mango daiquiri.
00:35:24Oh, just like cruise life.
00:35:26Yeah, thanks.
00:35:28It was good.
00:35:30Well, that's good.
00:35:32So I mean I wanted to talk
00:35:34with you about what happened the other night.
00:35:36I mean
00:35:38obviously I was
00:35:40really hurt because obviously I
00:35:42knew deep down that that probably happened,
00:35:44right? But he kept saying
00:35:46it didn't. You kept saying it didn't.
00:35:48I feel like lied to by both of you now.
00:35:50Yeah.
00:35:52Once you break my trust, it takes a lot
00:35:54to gain that back. If I
00:35:56would have found out
00:35:58a year ago, I would have been hurt
00:36:00probably, but I think I would have honestly been
00:36:02less hurt than I am now.
00:36:04It's happened twice to me basically.
00:36:06I've had to work through it twice, and it's just
00:36:08twice the damage, twice the hurt.
00:36:10And twice the work to
00:36:12work through this and be able
00:36:14to trust Juan again.
00:36:16If you would have known, you
00:36:18would have given me your
00:36:20opinions, but I didn't want to hear them.
00:36:22I felt
00:36:24like it was something
00:36:26I could work through on my
00:36:28own. It just breaks my heart.
00:36:32I think
00:36:34when it comes to your relationship
00:36:36and my relationship, there's
00:36:38things
00:36:40that we don't share, and I'm like
00:36:42I don't want that to affect your opinion of Juan.
00:36:44You're going to be my maid of honor.
00:36:46And
00:36:48I need you two to be family
00:36:50too.
00:36:52Me and Jessica
00:36:54are partners in crime,
00:36:56so we're not going anywhere.
00:36:58Juan, on the other hand, I mean, he has some
00:37:00proving to do. I'd like to think that this was
00:37:02the only incident that's ever happened, right?
00:37:04That's my best friend and
00:37:06her soon-to-be husband, and they have
00:37:08a beautiful family together.
00:37:10It better be the only incident.
00:37:12I'll say that.
00:37:14I have to figure out how I
00:37:16can start moving forward all over again
00:37:18with Juan. I think that'll
00:37:20take some time.
00:37:22I mean, you don't got much time because our wedding has to be within
00:37:2490 days, so I don't want
00:37:26you on my wedding day not
00:37:28liking my husband.
00:37:30But how am I supposed to ever
00:37:32trust him again?
00:37:34Megan is
00:37:36so protective at a fault
00:37:38sometimes and unwilling to let things
00:37:40go. I definitely worry
00:37:42about, you know, Megan
00:37:44and how she's going to treat Juan
00:37:46over the next 90 days. I don't think she'll
00:37:48trust him. She's not criminal,
00:37:50but, I mean,
00:37:52two would be scary.
00:37:54I have to process that I've been lied to
00:37:56over the past year by my best friend and her
00:37:58fiance that was lying
00:38:00straight to my face, so
00:38:02I understand
00:38:04why you kept it from me,
00:38:06but it just hurts.
00:38:18F***.
00:38:44Do you know why she's upset?
00:38:46No.
00:38:50I'm such a f***ing idiot.
00:38:52I don't understand.
00:38:54I didn't know that she doesn't tell people
00:38:56all the time.
00:39:06So far since we've been here,
00:39:08we have uncovered a lot of deception.
00:39:10You know, was all this
00:39:12a big game to you? And then when it
00:39:14became real, and it's right in front
00:39:16of your face, you're going to pretend
00:39:18like it?
00:39:20I don't know.
00:39:24You were just a f***ing fun
00:39:26for her. I didn't know it.
00:39:44F***.
00:40:00Baby.
00:40:04Don't cry.
00:40:06It hurts so bad.
00:40:08I love you,
00:40:10honey, baby.
00:40:12You lied to me.
00:40:14I am not lying here, baby.
00:40:16Please, baby.
00:40:22Go get your jacket.
00:40:36Why?
00:40:38Explain, baby.
00:40:42I
00:40:44want the world to know
00:40:46you're taken. Is that so much to ask for?
00:40:48Honey,
00:40:50please. If it was just you not wanting
00:40:52the world to know that you were in a
00:40:54throuple, I understand, but you're not telling the world
00:40:56that you're taking, period, and I have a f***ing problem
00:40:58with that. Are you ready to be
00:41:00in a serious relationship? I'm ready. Why don't you
00:41:02tell the world you are in a serious relationship, at least?
00:41:04Can we make that progress
00:41:06and tell the world that you're in a serious relationship?
00:41:08I don't like
00:41:10her reaction.
00:41:12I feel bad.
00:41:14I feel
00:41:16sad
00:41:20because she don't
00:41:22understand me. She want
00:41:24too many things in short time.
00:41:26I understand
00:41:28she have many questions. I have
00:41:30many questions, too, but
00:41:32because she's open
00:41:34with all, she want
00:41:36all people is open with her.
00:41:40I protect myself.
00:41:44That's it.
00:41:46You need give me time.
00:41:48When are your actions gonna
00:41:50match your words?
00:41:52What did you want? Your actions
00:41:54to match your words. I just said that. Do you even listen
00:41:56to me? Okay.
00:42:00If you want, I tell with my people.
00:42:02With all of them.
00:42:06Please.
00:42:08I don't know.
00:42:10I can't think straight right now.
00:42:16Okay. All right. Let's go.
00:42:28Do you wanna leave now?
00:42:30Are you sure?
00:42:32I need to sleep.
00:42:34I need to sleep for hours.
00:42:36The thing is, I
00:42:38love you. I'm not gonna be like, oh, I'm leaving, going
00:42:40back to San Diego, and this is done. I can't
00:42:42do that. I don't even have the balls to do that.
00:42:44I wanna be with you. I wanna make this
00:42:46work. I want things to change.
00:42:50It's hard, honey.
00:42:52You don't understand.
00:42:54It's back to the same.
00:42:56Can you please explain?
00:42:58You don't understand what you say.
00:43:00What the f*** did I get
00:43:06myself into? I swear to God.
00:43:08If you want, I am going.
00:43:10It's okay. I don't care.
00:43:12You're going nowhere.
00:43:14I didn't tell you I was done with you.
00:43:16Let me make that f***ing clear.
00:43:18I have problems in my mind, in my life.
00:43:20I have many problems.
00:43:22I'm still
00:43:24f***ing talking to you.
00:43:26I am talking to you.
00:43:28You do not get to walk away from me
00:43:30like that.
00:43:32I told you.
00:43:34You are not my
00:43:36owner.
00:43:38I wish you could see that I
00:43:40f***ing love you. I care about you.
00:43:42I didn't care about you.
00:43:44I don't work for you.
00:43:46I never said you did.
00:43:48Why would you even say that?
00:43:50You're like drama.
00:43:52I like to make a point.
00:43:55Oh, f***.
00:43:58I love Amani,
00:44:00but I am scared
00:44:02if I go to the USA
00:44:04now.
00:44:06I want,
00:44:08but I'm scared.
00:44:10She thinking
00:44:12if she have money,
00:44:14she can give me order,
00:44:16say no.
00:44:18I take care of myself.
00:44:20I take care of my family.
00:44:22I take care for any person.
00:44:24I don't think that went
00:44:26very well at all.
00:44:28Oh, my f***ing God. That's the best thing you can say?
00:44:30I'm f***ing done.
00:44:32It's kind of hard to say
00:44:34how I'm feeling right now.
00:44:36I'm definitely stuck in the middle.
00:44:38I don't know what to say to either one of them, to be honest.
00:44:40Do you want to be serious
00:44:42with us?
00:44:44I don't care about him.
00:44:48I love you more him.
00:44:50You don't f***ing understand.
00:44:52I don't know what is going on
00:44:54in your head or your heart,
00:44:56but he comes part of the package.
00:44:58What am I supposed to do?
00:45:00You don't need...
00:45:02I feel more things for you.
00:45:04Well, that's kind of a problem.
00:45:06I stay with
00:45:08this relation for you.
00:45:10I can explain.
00:45:12Let's not tell him that.
00:45:16I'm so confused.
00:45:18Honestly, I can't make sense of anything.
00:45:20Here I am, just
00:45:22afraid this woman would leave,
00:45:24but also at the same time
00:45:26upset about everything I've heard.
00:45:28And she says,
00:45:30I stay in this relationship for you.
00:45:32I love you more than him.
00:45:34Okay.
00:45:36You ready?
00:45:38I've been waiting so
00:45:40long to hear such validation from
00:45:42her, but at the
00:45:44same time, I don't
00:45:46know if it's coming out of her mouth because
00:45:48I got really mad at her, so she's giving
00:45:50me what I want to hear.
00:45:52It sucks. It really does
00:45:54suck when you're like, I don't know what the truth is
00:45:56anymore. I don't know how
00:45:58to tell Matt or even if I should tell him.
00:46:08The prices of
00:46:10changing my status to permanent
00:46:12resident is just increasing so bad.
00:46:14We have to get married
00:46:16in a couple of weeks.
00:46:18I definitely don't feel like
00:46:20Matty should be asking me to push up the wedding
00:46:22if he's not 100% sure that this is
00:46:24what he really wants. It's just very
00:46:26confusing for me.
00:46:28As far as getting married, I don't know
00:46:30how I feel about that.
00:46:44Hey.
00:46:46Hey.
00:46:48Did you expect all this?
00:46:50Oh, you look so cute, babe.
00:46:52I look cute, or this looks cute?
00:46:54Everything.
00:47:08Do you want to sit?
00:47:10Yep.
00:47:12Look, we match.
00:47:14Yeah, it's kind of cool.
00:47:16My dress and you in your cozy clothes.
00:47:18Yeah, I didn't expect that.
00:47:20I'm planning a date night for Matty and I, but I really
00:47:22want to keep it at home because I want Matty
00:47:24to feel at home with me.
00:47:26To be honest, back in Iran,
00:47:28I never even saw my parents
00:47:30kiss each other or hug each other,
00:47:32so this date night is kind of
00:47:34like a new thing to me.
00:47:36It's new for me, too. I'm not a romantic
00:47:38person.
00:47:40Oh.
00:47:42Did I look good?
00:47:44You look amazing.
00:47:48Wine.
00:47:50Oh.
00:47:52It's okay. Some cheap wine.
00:47:56You know that
00:47:58we can't have alcohols in Iran?
00:48:00Yeah, you told me that.
00:48:02And did you know you will get punished?
00:48:04Like...
00:48:06Seriously?
00:48:08Are you joking right now?
00:48:10I swear.
00:48:12So,
00:48:14I know you've been kind of homesick, so I wanted to
00:48:16bring you home for a date night.
00:48:18Oh, that's cool.
00:48:20And I'm going to paint your nude portrait right here, okay?
00:48:22Seriously?
00:48:24Yeah, so just get naked and I'm going to paint you right here.
00:48:26You're kidding, right?
00:48:28I'm kidding.
00:48:30I'm kidding.
00:48:32No, but I was thinking about
00:48:34doing another painting.
00:48:36How do you feel about
00:48:38you would put paint on my butt and my
00:48:40legs and then I would sit on a canvas?
00:48:42Why not?
00:48:44I'm not okay with that.
00:48:46Why not?
00:48:48Not yet.
00:48:50It just makes me uncomfortable.
00:48:54I have experienced so many
00:48:56culture shocks so far,
00:48:58so I really don't want to see
00:49:00my wife's butt on a canvas.
00:49:02You don't want other people to see my
00:49:04butt on a canvas.
00:49:06Let's be honest.
00:49:08So, what are we going to paint
00:49:10if we can't paint my butt? My boobs?
00:49:12No.
00:49:14Then what?
00:49:16Paint my guns.
00:49:20It's not going to show up, probably,
00:49:22but we can try.
00:49:28Take your shirt off.
00:49:30Oh, my God.
00:49:32I can't get it over your guns.
00:49:34I'm just kidding.
00:49:36It's probably going to feel weird.
00:49:38I'll try to be generous and not
00:49:40do too much.
00:49:42Okay.
00:49:44Oh, it looks nice.
00:49:46Okay.
00:49:48Oh, my God.
00:49:50It's kind of cool.
00:49:52Is this my call?
00:49:54Yeah, should we do it again?
00:49:56No, I want to feel it.
00:49:58I'll help you
00:50:00feel your gun.
00:50:02Okay, next time it's my butt.
00:50:04I can't promise that.
00:50:06You can sit for a second if you want.
00:50:10I really can't remember
00:50:12if I have told you about
00:50:14the prices of
00:50:16changing my status to permanent
00:50:18resident is just increasing so bad.
00:50:20You told me you were worried about it.
00:50:22Yeah, it's like
00:50:24double or something, say?
00:50:26What if we get married
00:50:28like a bit
00:50:30earlier than 90 days?
00:50:34Like in a couple
00:50:36of weeks?
00:50:38I know that it's hard,
00:50:40but it would just
00:50:42help us a lot to just save money.
00:50:48Don't you think it's worth it?
00:50:50We can save money and I can
00:50:52work earlier.
00:50:54I understand what all you're saying
00:50:56from a logical standpoint, but
00:50:58that's a lot to process.
00:51:04I hear all the things
00:51:06that you've been talking to me about
00:51:08and like
00:51:10mmm
00:51:14as far as getting married
00:51:16at this point right now
00:51:18I don't know how I feel about that.
00:51:20Like rushing it.
00:51:24I think I can
00:51:26promise you that I'll be
00:51:28happier soon.
00:51:30You're telling me that you'll get adjusted,
00:51:32but I need you to be adjusted because I don't
00:51:34want to get married and then after we're married
00:51:36you decide you want to go home.
00:51:38Yeah, but the wedding is not tomorrow.
00:51:40Like we have time. It's still way quicker
00:51:42than anyone would normally get married.
00:51:46I definitely don't feel like Matty should be
00:51:48asking me to push up the wedding if he's
00:51:50not 100% sure that this is what he really wants.
00:51:52Since Matty got here
00:51:54he's been having these doubts and questions.
00:51:56So Matty's wanting to push up the
00:51:58wedding date is just very
00:52:00confusing for me.
00:52:06We're gonna go
00:52:08see Sophie finally.
00:52:10I brought Sarper with me even though Sophie
00:52:12hasn't agreed to meet him.
00:52:14What is her opinion about me?
00:52:16I think her opinion about you right now
00:52:18is based on what she's heard from my family.
00:52:20I'm starting with a
00:52:22minus one with her.
00:52:34This is it.
00:52:36We're gonna go see Sophie
00:52:38finally.
00:52:40The two loves of my life are gonna meet.
00:52:42I'm so
00:52:44excited.
00:52:46I know Sarper's nervous though.
00:52:48But it's gonna go great.
00:53:00Let's get our
00:53:02luggage. Let's get the rental car.
00:53:04And then we can head to the rental
00:53:06house.
00:53:08We just landed in Northern California
00:53:10where my daughter Sophie goes to boarding school.
00:53:12I brought Sarper
00:53:14with me even though Sophie hasn't agreed
00:53:16to meet him. Sophie hasn't been
00:53:18ready to meet Sarper yet and I'm still
00:53:20unsure if she's ready now.
00:53:22But we're running out of time.
00:53:24Sarper and I only have two months
00:53:26before we have to get married and I'm not
00:53:28walking down the aisle without my daughter's approval.
00:53:32There's a lot riding on this trip.
00:53:46Can you guess anything
00:53:48as you know her?
00:53:50I think her opinion about you right now
00:53:52is based on what she's heard from my family.
00:54:08Wait, what?
00:54:10You're saying that my
00:54:12sister acts like a slut?
00:54:14I mean,
00:54:16bitch.
00:54:18That's like f***ed up.
00:54:22I admit it. I mean, I was an asshole.
00:54:24But I was
00:54:26old version Sarper that time. I mean,
00:54:28I am so strict.
00:54:30And this is my life. If you accept it,
00:54:32okay, if you don't,
00:54:34you can go away. And I'm sure they talked
00:54:36about me. I don't know.
00:54:38Some stuff I heard about him upstairs
00:54:40were pretty weird.
00:54:42All the stuff is just so like, ugh.
00:54:44Okay, Sophie.
00:54:46I didn't know any of that.
00:54:48And now I have a different opinion
00:54:50on him.
00:54:52Great.
00:54:54Right now, I am different than that
00:54:56old version of Sarper. That's my hope.
00:54:58And I wish Sophie
00:55:00didn't know about this, but
00:55:02it happened like this.
00:55:04So I'm starting with a minus
00:55:06one with her.
00:55:08I know you're really hopeful and
00:55:10excited to meet Sophie, babe, but just
00:55:12keep in mind that she hasn't
00:55:14agreed to meet you yet.
00:55:18I just have this fear that she could
00:55:20potentially say that she's not ready to meet
00:55:22you yet. You know, and if she's
00:55:24not ready to meet you yet,
00:55:26that's really scary
00:55:28for me because we have this 90
00:55:30day deadline.
00:55:34I hope I have clarity
00:55:36after this weekend.
00:55:40Cute.
00:55:42Look at the beauty of the place.
00:55:46We're going to have to carry these
00:55:48because we can't roll them on this.
00:55:50You can carry both?
00:55:52Bad boy turned into a bell boy.
00:55:54Wow.
00:55:56So beautiful.
00:55:58You can interrogate the meaning of
00:56:00life here with this
00:56:02quietness.
00:56:04Come.
00:56:06Look at this.
00:56:08Come.
00:56:10Look at this beauty.
00:56:12I love it here.
00:56:18It's so gorgeous.
00:56:20I wish you wouldn't need to go.
00:56:22But you have to go.
00:56:24We have a mission to accomplish.
00:56:26It's an important one.
00:56:28Let me go inside and get ready, babe.
00:56:30Can you help me take my suitcase into
00:56:32the bathroom so I can change?
00:56:34Of course.
00:56:36Look how cute this is.
00:56:38Since I started dating Sarper,
00:56:40I have invited Sophie
00:56:42a number of times to meet him
00:56:44and she was never ready,
00:56:46which is fine. I respect that.
00:56:50It's important as a mother
00:56:52to see your partner
00:56:54with your child, to see how they
00:56:56interact.
00:56:58That can really determine whether or not you want to
00:57:00go further with the relationship.
00:57:02Okay, babe. I'm going to leave.
00:57:04So I need to convince her
00:57:06to give him a chance.
00:57:08Good luck. Thank you. I need it.
00:57:10We need it.
00:57:12Okay, babe. Love you. Bye.
00:57:18I was trying to be patient
00:57:20but the time is coming to where
00:57:22we have to either get married
00:57:24or not.
00:57:30And I really need Sophie's
00:57:32football. Hi.
00:57:40You said that when I come to America
00:57:42it will be monogamous.
00:57:44As long as we're, like,
00:57:46relating to each other sexually and whatever,
00:57:48I'm happy.
00:57:50I fell for a man and I don't know
00:57:52how I'm going to feel once
00:57:54that person that I fell in love with has been
00:57:56erased. The other day you said to me
00:57:58that you feel like you're
00:58:00going to forever be changing.
00:58:02I think if Aliyah gets the full
00:58:04gender reassignment surgery, I don't
00:58:06really know how I'd feel and what would happen.
00:58:18And this
00:58:20here is where we're going.
00:58:22Oh, it's big. Party of two?
00:58:24Party of two. We're here for the party.
00:58:26Okay. I love that.
00:58:30Hi, how are you?
00:58:32Good, how are you?
00:58:34So, can we get three
00:58:36of the
00:58:38pan-seared tuna?
00:58:40Okay. And then can we
00:58:42split a tuna
00:58:44tartare and a meatball?
00:58:46Sure.
00:58:50I'm feeling happy with the new
00:58:52toothbrush.
00:58:54It's the best toothbrush
00:58:56I've ever had.
00:58:58The new toothbrush
00:59:00and the thing that I can
00:59:02cover.
00:59:04Are you happy about the
00:59:06revolutionary HIV
00:59:08testing that you can do at home?
00:59:10I never saw that real
00:59:12so I think I feel more safe
00:59:14doing that.
00:59:16Right, because I know in the past
00:59:18year
00:59:20has there been a
00:59:22month that you haven't tested
00:59:24yourself, that you haven't
00:59:26been fearful that something
00:59:28has happened?
00:59:30I think I had some and I did
00:59:32some tests, like
00:59:34six, seven, I don't know.
00:59:36So you think in a year you've tested
00:59:38yourself seven months worth
00:59:40of tests? Yeah, because my mind
00:59:42created possibilities
00:59:44and that was like the way that I found
00:59:46to
00:59:48be fine and be
00:59:50relieved.
00:59:52But don't you feel like that's a lot?
00:59:56Yeah, it's crazy.
00:59:58The reason I
01:00:00found out about the germophobia, even in the
01:00:02first place, was she went to a nail salon
01:00:04and we were talking about it on the phone and she said
01:00:06she had to get tested for AIDS and I was like
01:00:08what?
01:00:10She
01:00:12went, okay, I'll go a month, you know, if I
01:00:14test negative then I'm fine, but what happened
01:00:16from there was
01:00:18something else happened. Oh, I scraped myself at
01:00:20the gym. Oh, I cut myself on a
01:00:22subway. You know, now I have to test
01:00:24again, now I have to test again, now I have to test again
01:00:26and it became clear that
01:00:28everything was a danger.
01:00:30We were intimate yesterday,
01:00:32which is a big deal.
01:00:34Are you going to start worrying
01:00:36in three days, a week,
01:00:38have to get tested in 30 days?
01:00:40How do you think that's
01:00:42going to go?
01:00:44I thought you said that when I come to
01:00:46America you'll be
01:00:48back and we'll be monogamous.
01:00:50So
01:00:54yeah,
01:00:56as long as, you know,
01:00:58we're being intimate. Being what?
01:01:00Intimate, as long as we're like relating to
01:01:02each other sexually and whatever, I'm happy
01:01:06and we can be
01:01:08monogamous, no problem.
01:01:12I want to be monogamous because
01:01:14with my germophobia, being
01:01:16in an open relationship makes me always
01:01:18feel uncomfortable, but
01:01:20now he's saying that
01:01:22he will only be monogamous
01:01:24if he's feeling happy with
01:01:26our intimacy.
01:01:28Makes me have a lot
01:01:30of questions like
01:01:32is he still feeling attracted
01:01:34to me? Because since the beginning
01:01:36of the relationship his desires
01:01:38were more up for men.
01:01:40What do you have to
01:01:42say about if I want to
01:01:44change my body and do surgery
01:01:46and this kind of things?
01:01:48Do you continue feeling
01:01:50attracted or that you can?
01:01:56You know, to this point
01:01:58you've been like, I'm
01:02:00only want to
01:02:02maybe shave
01:02:04down my brown bone, add
01:02:06some volume to my butt
01:02:08and, you know, be more
01:02:10curvy that way and that everything else
01:02:12is staying
01:02:14as is.
01:02:16I'm not sure
01:02:18how you're feeling now because
01:02:20the other day you said to me
01:02:22that you feel like you're
01:02:24going to forever be changing.
01:02:26So
01:02:28I can understand your side
01:02:30and like the
01:02:32fears that you have or whatever
01:02:34but
01:02:36I cannot take that
01:02:38I have a limit.
01:02:40I think if Aliyah gets
01:02:42the full gender reassignment surgery
01:02:44I think that's such a foreign thing
01:02:46in my mind, like something
01:02:48that's so out of my wheelhouse
01:02:50that I don't really know how
01:02:52I'd feel and what would happen
01:02:54if that's what she wants to do and I'm not
01:02:56clear that that's even happening.
01:02:58I never feel quite secure with
01:03:00the answers I'm getting about these things
01:03:02but then again
01:03:04it's all new to her.
01:03:06She's figuring it out as she's going along
01:03:08so I'm not holding her
01:03:10to anything.
01:03:12I don't want you to feel
01:03:14like you have to lose something in order
01:03:16to have our relationship work
01:03:18and I don't want to feel like I have to give up
01:03:20something to have our relationship work
01:03:22and I would love to
01:03:24say like oh
01:03:26everything's fine, it doesn't matter what
01:03:28you do and doesn't matter what I do
01:03:30and everything's going to be fine but I don't
01:03:32feel like that's probably true.
01:03:34Before our
01:03:36relationship you were like friends
01:03:38and then I started to feel
01:03:40love so
01:03:42it doesn't matter how you be
01:03:44the future, something that will happen
01:03:46I love you and I will
01:03:48not like, I will always
01:03:50hold your hand.
01:03:54I'm grateful to Aaliyah that she wants
01:03:56to help guide me through
01:03:58all this and wants to support me
01:04:00as I'm supporting her.
01:04:02I know that we share something special
01:04:04that goes beyond gender
01:04:06or names but
01:04:08I fell for a man and
01:04:10I don't know how I'm going to feel once
01:04:12every nuance of
01:04:14that person that I fell
01:04:16in love with has been erased.
01:04:18I love you.
01:04:20I love you.
01:04:22And we both realize that we're
01:04:24under the gun of a 90 day
01:04:26timeline and that is ticking
01:04:28away.
01:04:34I feel like
01:04:36every time you talk to your family
01:04:38it kind of puts you back in a mindset
01:04:40of being super, super homesick and it
01:04:42puts a strain on our relationship.
01:04:44I'm trying so
01:04:46hard to balance the life that I had
01:04:48in Iran with the life that I
01:04:50have here in the U.S. and nobody's
01:04:52happy. I feel like I'm
01:04:54stuck in the middle.
01:04:56You're asking me not to call my family?
01:04:58Talking to them every day is
01:05:00keeping you in a mindset that you live there
01:05:02and you live here.
01:05:05We have 90 days
01:05:07to get married and
01:05:09the biggest thing for me is
01:05:11finding out if you like Sarper.
01:05:13How would that play out if
01:05:15me and him didn't necessarily get along?
01:05:17I'm not going to force our
01:05:19relationship when I'm not ready.
01:05:31I just need to know before we get married
01:05:33that this is where you want to be.
01:05:35The only way I think I'm going to be okay
01:05:37with rushing it
01:05:39is if in this small amount of time
01:05:41I feel better about where we're at
01:05:43because I still have a choice too.
01:05:53What do you mean by saying that you have a choice?
01:05:55I mean, I have a choice as to
01:05:57whether we get married or not, Maddie.
01:05:59When you're saying things about
01:06:01potentially leaving me,
01:06:03there is a part of me that's like,
01:06:05what if he actually does mean this?
01:06:07What if he is already planning on going home?
01:06:09Those things are
01:06:11helping me to decide if this is something
01:06:13that I want to do forever because
01:06:15if I'm going to be with you forever,
01:06:17then I want it to be forever.
01:06:19I think up until this point he's had this
01:06:21feeling of like it was his choice,
01:06:23but I think he's starting to realize that
01:06:25I have a big part in this decision also
01:06:27and if he doesn't make me feel 100% sure
01:06:29of what he wants, then I don't plan on
01:06:31marrying Maddie.
01:06:33I've been seeing a lot of changes
01:06:35in you since you've gotten here.
01:06:37I feel like every time you talk
01:06:39to your family,
01:06:41it kind of puts you back in a mindset
01:06:43of being super, super homesick
01:06:45and it kind of puts a strain
01:06:47on our relationship a little bit.
01:06:49Like I tell you goodbye in the morning
01:06:51and you're okay and you tell me
01:06:53have a good day and stuff like that and then when I come home
01:06:55sometimes you're a completely different person
01:06:57and the reason that you're like that
01:06:59is because you call your family and you talk to them
01:07:01and I think you feel homesick.
01:07:03Me going to work
01:07:05all day and then like I come home and I'm like
01:07:07so excited to see you and then I kind of see the person
01:07:09that I love like deteriorating because he's here
01:07:11is hard for me.
01:07:15Whenever I wake up
01:07:17I call my
01:07:19family in Iran and
01:07:21unfortunately my mom starts
01:07:23crying. It's really
01:07:25hard. I'm trying
01:07:27so hard to balance the life
01:07:29that I had in Iran with the life
01:07:31that I have here in the U.S.
01:07:33and no one is happy. I feel like
01:07:35I'm stuck in the middle.
01:07:37I really used to think
01:07:39that I'm doing a good job hiding my feelings
01:07:41and you come home
01:07:43and I always try to smile and just like
01:07:45hug you. I can always tell, even on the
01:07:47phone I can tell.
01:07:49So maybe
01:07:51you could not talk to them
01:07:53as much.
01:07:57You're asking me
01:07:59not to call my family?
01:08:01I'm not asking you not to call your
01:08:03family. I'm trying to tell you that
01:08:05talking to them every day is keeping
01:08:07you in a mindset that you live there and you live
01:08:09here.
01:08:11Yeah.
01:08:13It's really hard to hear that
01:08:15Stevie is telling me that I need to have
01:08:17less contact with my family
01:08:19in Iran. What I'm seeing right now
01:08:21is her being
01:08:23selfish and thinking about herself
01:08:25only and not being understanding
01:08:27of my situation.
01:08:29I gave up my life,
01:08:31my job, my friends and family
01:08:33to be here with Stevie
01:08:35and if she is not ever
01:08:37willing to trust me on this one
01:08:39maybe she's right
01:08:41and maybe we shouldn't get married.
01:08:43All I know is that I
01:08:45do love you
01:08:47but
01:08:49what I'm telling you
01:08:51is that if I don't know that you're 100%
01:08:53sure, then I'm not
01:08:55going to be able to marry you.
01:09:13Oh! Hi!
01:09:15How are you?
01:09:17I missed you.
01:09:19You're so tan.
01:09:21I've been tanning in the beach. Should we go inside?
01:09:23Yeah. Okay.
01:09:29Do you have pedicures?
01:09:31Yes. Okay, perfect. Let's go ahead and get you right over here.
01:09:33Thanks. It feels so good
01:09:35to see Sophie. I always miss
01:09:37her. You know, with her being at boarding school
01:09:39it was a really difficult
01:09:41adjustment at first. We've kind of gotten
01:09:43used to it but still
01:09:45I love to come visit her.
01:09:47I love when she comes home when home leaves.
01:09:49It's always good to see my daughter.
01:09:51What is this one?
01:09:53Oh, that's like the white.
01:09:55The white makes you look even more tan.
01:09:57That's the goal.
01:09:59I'll grab that for you.
01:10:03What have you been up to?
01:10:05Well,
01:10:07you know, Sarper's here now
01:10:09so it's fun showing him
01:10:11when did this
01:10:13start going?
01:10:15It just started? Yeah.
01:10:17That was very strange.
01:10:19It's been
01:10:21fun showing him all of the
01:10:23little things that you would
01:10:25never really think about because we're so used to them.
01:10:27It's like brand new to him.
01:10:29It's cute. Trying mac and cheese for the first
01:10:31time. I don't have mac and cheese in Turkey.
01:10:33No.
01:10:35It's like seeing your own
01:10:37culture through new eyes.
01:10:39You know? Which is fun.
01:10:43Oh my god.
01:10:45Sea lions.
01:10:47I never saw them in person.
01:10:49This is the first time in my life.
01:10:55They are just like us.
01:10:57Me and Shekinah.
01:10:59Kind of mating dance.
01:11:01But they are so cute.
01:11:03I just want to pet them.
01:11:05I can lay down there and
01:11:07live with them, you know?
01:11:09They are so cute.
01:11:11I wanted to come see you as soon as
01:11:13we got back from Turkey.
01:11:15We have 90 days
01:11:17to get married.
01:11:19Or else he can't stay in the U.S.
01:11:21So we're just
01:11:23trying to figure out
01:11:25a lot of things in that time.
01:11:27Like if he can adapt.
01:11:29If he's going to like it here.
01:11:31If he's going to like it there.
01:11:33If he's going to like it here.
01:11:35If he's going to like it there.
01:11:37If he's going to like it here.
01:11:39If he's going to adapt.
01:11:41If he's going to like it here.
01:11:43And the biggest thing for me
01:11:45is finding out if you like Sarper.
01:11:47Yeah.
01:11:49I mean, I feel like
01:11:51I've just been kind of reluctant
01:11:53towards meeting him because
01:11:55I wanted to be sure
01:11:57that you were sure
01:11:59within the relationship with him.
01:12:01And I also think it's kind of strange
01:12:03that you guys are already engaged
01:12:05and I haven't met him.
01:12:07That's why
01:12:09it's so important for
01:12:11me to have you meet him
01:12:13sooner than later.
01:12:15Well, I mean,
01:12:17obviously I love that you're happy.
01:12:19And I love that he's making you happy.
01:12:21So I take that in.
01:12:23And paired with your own personal impression
01:12:25of him when you do meet him,
01:12:27I think will
01:12:29give you a clear understanding of how you feel.
01:12:31That's going to tie everything together for me.
01:12:33So, I mean, we'll see.
01:12:37So wait, does this mean you'll meet him?
01:12:43He's a big part of your life, and obviously
01:12:45I'm a big part of your life.
01:12:47So...
01:12:49Yeah. I'm open to it.
01:12:51I'm open to it.
01:12:53The two most important people in my life.
01:12:55I want you guys to have a relationship too.
01:13:01My mom's past relationships
01:13:03have definitely influenced
01:13:05my perspective of, like,
01:13:07where she is with Sarper.
01:13:09Because her past relationships
01:13:11definitely haven't worked out, and
01:13:13the guys that
01:13:15she's chosen
01:13:17haven't been the best.
01:13:19The fact that I was also
01:13:21very involved in those relationships when I was
01:13:23really young, and I had to, like, kind of
01:13:25go through that with her,
01:13:27I didn't want that to happen again
01:13:29with this relationship with Sarper.
01:13:31Well, I am excited to meet him,
01:13:33but I'm also not going to tell you that, like,
01:13:35everything is going to be, you know, perfect
01:13:37off the bat. You know?
01:13:39Yeah, I understand that, you know,
01:13:41it may take time, but
01:13:43don't feel like you have to censor
01:13:45yourself. If you have concerns,
01:13:47tell him, or questions you have about,
01:13:49you know, our future, or how he treats me.
01:13:51How would that play out if
01:13:53me and him didn't necessarily get along,
01:13:55like, and you guys are engaged?
01:13:57If you didn't get along, well, if...
01:13:59if something happened
01:14:01that really changed the way that
01:14:03I see him, like, if some
01:14:05interaction with you changes how I feel
01:14:07about him, or
01:14:09is impactful enough,
01:14:11you know, I wouldn't
01:14:13marry him. You wouldn't?
01:14:15I would definitely
01:14:17choose my daughter over love, and
01:14:19I wish that I would have done that more
01:14:21in the past. You know, a lot of times
01:14:23I was thinking more about the relationship that I was
01:14:25in than how that relationship
01:14:27was affecting her, and I
01:14:29really regret that.
01:14:31So, if Sophie doesn't approve,
01:14:33or give her blessing, then I wouldn't marry
01:14:35him.
01:14:41Hi, sweetie.
01:14:43I know you two had some words.
01:14:45Yeah. I mean, I
01:14:47hope that you don't actually think that I'm a
01:14:49snake.
01:14:51I don't know what you meant by that,
01:14:53but I think it would mean a lot to me if
01:14:55I got an apology for it.
01:14:57Is Jordan invited to
01:14:59the wedding?
01:15:05Can I ask you
01:15:07one question?
01:15:09Do you want to talk with Jordan?
01:15:11Yes.
01:15:13For me, it's important.
01:15:15Do you want to go get Jordan?
01:15:17Yeah, I'll go get her.
01:15:27Jordan? Yeah?
01:15:29Can you talk with them a little bit?
01:15:31With Nina and Nana?
01:15:33Yeah, Nana has a really
01:15:35good angle on it, better than me.
01:15:37I don't even want to talk anymore.
01:15:39You know what we've talked about.
01:15:41No, I feel like I should talk to her anyways.
01:15:43I feel like we're all just a little upset.
01:15:49I don't want you to be sad.
01:15:51I'm just stressed now.
01:15:53We're going to be okay.
01:15:57Okay.
01:16:01Hi, sweetie.
01:16:03I know you two had
01:16:05some words.
01:16:07I would like us to talk about
01:16:09those words. Whatever you guys
01:16:11said was just stuff that
01:16:13was said in the moment.
01:16:17I hope that you don't actually
01:16:19think that I'm a snake.
01:16:21That's hurtful to hear.
01:16:23I'm sorry for this.
01:16:25The translator in French.
01:16:27I don't know what you meant
01:16:29by that, but I think it would mean a lot
01:16:31to me if I got an apology for it.
01:16:37Yeah, I'm sorry to say that.
01:16:39Okay, thank you for apologizing.
01:16:43Is Jordan invited to the wedding?
01:16:51Yes, of course.
01:16:53Okay.
01:16:57Okay.
01:16:59So you're sorry you said that?
01:17:01Yeah.
01:17:03And I'm sorry if I upset you
01:17:05or offended you in any way, too.
01:17:07I just want to make sure
01:17:09that my dad's happy
01:17:11and to protect him, that's all.
01:17:13If you are marrying my dad,
01:17:15then we're going to be in each other's lives
01:17:17for a long time.
01:17:43Hey.
01:17:57Hey, my girls.
01:17:59Wow, the sisters together.
01:18:01I like it.
01:18:03So, did you guys talk?
01:18:05Yeah, we did.
01:18:07I think it was good.
01:18:09I think we're in a good place.
01:18:11We want to get to know each other,
01:18:13and we want things to be okay between us.
01:18:15Good. And we're good.
01:18:17Yeah, we're good.
01:18:19Thank you. I love you so much.
01:18:21I love you, too.
01:18:23I feel great that they made up.
01:18:25Now I feel like we can have some fun and relax.
01:18:27Mina seems happier.
01:18:29Jordan seems happier.
01:18:31It kind of came to an understanding,
01:18:33and I'm happy for that.
01:18:35Thank God that that worked out.
01:18:37Hey, you guys.
01:18:39We're going to get going on the ferry.
01:18:41I'm excited to marry Mina
01:18:43and have all my family be there.
01:18:45Hey, love you guys.
01:18:47See you at the wedding, all right?
01:18:49All right, love you guys.
01:18:51Thank you so much.
01:18:53Enjoy.
01:18:59It's getting cool now.
01:19:01It's nice because it cools off.
01:19:03It's not so hot.
01:19:05You have a good time?
01:19:07I had a better time once you guys talked
01:19:09and everything was good.
01:19:11That was a great time, man.
01:19:15The sunset is amazing.
01:19:17Oh, my God, do you see here?
01:19:19We take the ferry back to...
01:19:21You tired me, too, a little bit.
01:19:23But it was fun. It was a fun day.
01:19:25We get this bag.
01:19:27You get Maria.
01:19:37Cool. Let's get a spot.
01:20:07Is it good for me?
01:20:09Is it good for my children?
01:20:11Is it good for just them
01:20:13and me in the story?
01:20:15Am I a loser after?
01:20:23It was fun, though. We had a good day.
01:20:25You had a good day, too, Maria?
01:20:27Yeah.
01:20:29It was fun.
01:20:31Everybody's excited to come to the wedding now.
01:20:33Yeah.
01:20:35Yeah.
01:20:51The prenup?
01:20:53Yeah.
01:20:55Yeah.
01:20:57I thought we had that resolved.
01:21:05I...
01:21:07I feel like I can never make everyone happy.
01:21:11If Mina doesn't sign the prenup,
01:21:13I mean, hell's gonna break loose
01:21:15and Jordan's not gonna be happy
01:21:17and I don't know where that'll leave me
01:21:19and Mina and everything.
01:21:21I thought we were on a better path,
01:21:23but it turns out
01:21:25we're right back where we started again.
01:21:27Next time on 90 Day Fiancé...
01:21:29So, I gotta do this more often.
01:21:31Ooh, okay.
01:21:35I mean, I do have some good news.
01:21:37I have an interview.
01:21:39Hope you don't screw this up.
01:21:41Why would you say that?
01:21:43Never before have I felt that she doesn't believe in me
01:21:45and trust in me.
01:21:47It's just putting a lot of pressure on me.
01:21:49If you don't get that job, I'm done.
01:21:51I'm done.
01:21:53I'm done.
01:21:55If you don't get that job, I'm done.
01:21:59Any details you guys want to give me about the wedding?
01:22:01If I had my dream scenario of things,
01:22:03it would be that we could just live together
01:22:05and not have to do the gay one at all.
01:22:07Well, then why are you doing it?
01:22:11I want Aaliyah to get the love that she deserves
01:22:13and I'm not sure that this is that.
01:22:21I'm fixing to propose to Stevie.
01:22:23Stevie said that you might be having second thoughts
01:22:25about being here.
01:22:27If he's not fully committed to this relationship,
01:22:29then I won't sleep down loud.
01:22:31I'm not trying to threaten anybody or anything.
01:22:33Let's just bet that I don't get mad.
01:22:37I don't want to be nobody's secret,
01:22:39especially if I've put my whole life on the line for you.
01:22:41I don't think she realizes
01:22:43how hard this is on us,
01:22:45specifically me.
01:22:47Baby, you need to understand.
01:22:49If you don't get this job,
01:22:51you need to understand.
01:22:53If you don't have relax,
01:22:55you're thinking we can't stay together?
01:22:57No, you need to calm down.
01:23:01I'm so glad we finally met.
01:23:03But I'm shocked that you're here.
01:23:05Why?
01:23:07I don't know if you know this, but when you guys were talking,
01:23:09he was still trying to be with his ex-girlfriend, Jade.
01:23:13I'm very confused and mad.
01:23:15Where are you going?
01:23:17I'm going with Jade.
01:23:19I need to make sure
01:23:21the wedding is not game.
01:23:23It's coming or not.