What’s Wrong with a Woman Choosing to Stay at Home? || Acharya Prashant, with AIIMS Nagpur (2022)

Acharya Prashant

Video Information: 08.03.2022, All India Institute of Medical Sciences, Nagpur (2022)  Title : What’s Wrong with a Woman Choosing to Stay at Home? || Acharya Prashant, with AIIMS Nagpur (2022)  📋 Video Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 0:22 - The Dilemma of Staying at Home, Bad or Good? 0:24 - The Logic Behind Household Chores 3:32 - Balancing Household Chores and Higher Goals 5:51 - Truth behind , The Irony of Parenting  9:39 - The Cricket Analogy: Commitment vs. Ambition 11:03 - Outro  Description, This video from the session at AIIMS Nagpur on 08.03.2022 discusses women’s self-reliance, the balance between home responsibilities and personal growth, and the importance of education for homemakers. It challenges societal norms that limit women to household chores and emphasizes the need for women to prioritize their own development and higher purpose. The video also explores the role of mothers in shaping their children’s future and how their own enlightenment and awareness are crucial for good parenting. Through practical examples, the speaker encourages women to break free from dependency, aim for extraordinary goals, and contribute meaningfully to society  Context: ~ How can dependent women become independent? ~ How can women become self-reliant? ~ Between self-reliance and household responsibilities, what should women prioritize? ~ What is a man’s true responsibility towards women? ~ How important is education and learning for a homemaker?  🎧 Listen to Acharya Prashant on Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/2QmVEAAnsNE7Xs0MW0Li8Y?si=09fbcbc7c99c469b   Music Credits: Milind Date  ~~~

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00:00Duryodhana's endeavour to acquire the throne with deceit is absolutely not acceptable.

00:05And that's the reason you must fight Arjuna.

00:07Further, Lord Krishna adds that they will not die.

00:11Rather, they died at the very moment when they decided that they would fight against

00:15me.

00:16Why do you feel sorry for killing them?

00:22If we stay at home, it's not a bad thing, right?

00:24Dear, it's not about what is good and bad.

00:27Here the point is, what is the purpose?

00:29If you can complete that task at your home, you can be at home.

00:34But sir, the way...

00:36You are here to attend the class.

00:38It's not a bad thing to be at home.

00:39Go home.

00:40Why are you here?

00:43It's not about what is good or bad.

00:45The point is, why do you exist?

00:47The task at hand right now is to become a doctor.

00:50Then why should you sit at home?

00:52Exactly in the same way that you have a purpose to be here at this organisation, there is

00:57a purpose for you to be alive on this particular planet.

01:01It is very clearly understood by all that since you are at the campus, you are here

01:05for some purpose.

01:07But we have never been taught about the fact that since you are on this particular planet

01:11over here, you have to fulfil certain duties.

01:15Then we ask ourselves, what's wrong in sitting at home?

01:17You can still go home and relax.

01:19Nothing's wrong.

01:21Then what are we here for?

01:24Now if at home, if you are doing something which will make your life beautiful or grant

01:30your salvation, then you must sit at home.

01:32It's not about sitting at home or not.

01:35But you have a better idea of what you do sitting at your home than me.

01:40I mean those who sit at home and I am not talking about exceptions.

01:43There will always be 5 exceptions out of 1000.

01:45But those 995 people out of 1000 who are sitting at home, what are they doing?

01:50Tell me what are they doing?

01:51Can't you see that by making them sit at home, what have you done to the consciousness of

01:54women?

01:57Just watch those advertisements on the television which are made by targeting the women only.

02:04Those advertisements are created on the assumptions that the people whom we are catering to don't

02:08have an IQ more than 40.

02:12By making the women sit at home, we have made them useless and redundant.

02:17We told them that your job is to make parathas and many of them don't even cook parathas

02:23these days because with the evolving economy across the world, even that job is done by

02:27somebody else.

02:30So what are you doing at home exactly?

02:33I will extend my full support to you if you are doing something extraordinary sitting

02:37at home.

02:39But you people only tell me very honestly.

02:41I don't want to force you into saying something but what do most people do sitting at home?

02:45Please let me know.

02:47I am with you if you are preparing for entrance exam sitting at your home.

02:51But please tell me what exactly you are doing throughout the day at your home.

02:56Then someone will have to sweep the floor.

03:01Someone will need to clean the house.

03:04Why do you want to become a doctor?

03:06Someone has to be a ward boy too.

03:08For sure.

03:09Then become a ward boy.

03:10Why are you here?

03:12Please understand your target should be to accomplish the most extraordinary task in

03:16your life.

03:17The one at the bottom should also aim for the highest one.

03:21It is illogical to say that being at home means washing clothes, you have a washing

03:25machine for that.

03:26Why don't you leave it?

03:27Wash them manually.

03:29All the technologies are available because you can allot your time to all those things

03:35which are much more important so that you are able to complete the task of the highest

03:41order.

03:42That's why you are here and that's why the technology is here.

03:46What's the logic behind staying at home only to cook?

03:49Who would talk with you if I was also cooking at home at this particular moment?

03:55Sandwiches and samosas were placed before me a while ago.

03:58I am able to talk to you because somebody else made them.

04:01If I get involved in making those snacks, then you would assume that I am in the kitchen

04:05cooking snacks.

04:07Then who would have been here to talk to you?

04:09What would be my logic then?

04:11Somebody must prepare snacks.

04:12Hence, I took up that task.

04:14I fully agree that somebody has to take up that task but at least you must put a full

04:19fleshed effort to do the task of the highest order.

04:22What kind of a logic is this?

04:24That the only thing I need to do in life is to cook and sweep floor.

04:28I keep everything clean and tidy at home.

04:30That's my purpose.

04:31What is being done?

04:32A dusty table is being cleaned with a cloth.

04:34The bathroom is being cleaned.

04:37If you really think that these are the tasks of the highest order, then you can please

04:40continue to do so.

04:41I don't want to say anything.

04:43Then I have absolutely nothing to say.

04:47You talked about the way children have been brought up.

04:49Now tell me something.

04:51When you admit your child in a particular school, what is the exact thought behind it?

04:59Even if you are admitting him to a play school, he is very young.

05:02He is not even three years old.

05:03So which are the things that you keep in your mind?

05:07You will not randomly admit them anywhere, will you?

05:09You take care of a lot of things, don't you?

05:11You want to be absolutely sure of the quality of that particular teacher, the one who is

05:15going to teach your child.

05:17This is what you check, right?

05:19You have come over here because even you want to come up in a particular way.

05:23And you are here at AIIMS, whereas there are many other medical colleges.

05:27But you have come at AIIMS because the one who is going to teach you is one level better

05:31than you.

05:32That's why you have chosen this place, right?

05:35If a mother wants to bring up her child, what is the first thing that she should consider?

05:41That the mother herself should be a cut above.

05:42And the mother here is unaware about the worldly matters.

05:45She is following the old tradition, as someone said right now, that her job is just to cook.

05:48Then how will she bring up her child in a better way?

05:52Every mother thinks that she is giving the best upbringing to her child, yet every child

05:55turns out the same.

05:57This is really funny that every parent feels that they are giving their best to their child.

06:01And ironically, every parent feels that the current generation is spoiled.

06:05If your upbringing is so good, then why should be the current generation so bad?

06:08Can't you see that you are the reason behind it?

06:15And the reason behind this generation getting spoiled is, the parents who call themselves

06:20as the first gurus, their own assumptions, they are actually pretty ordinary.

06:29Mothers have a great impact on their children.

06:32If the mother's personality is defective, if the mother herself is not enlightened,

06:38then she cannot give a good upbringing to her child.

06:40A child doesn't need to be with his mother 24 hours a day for a better upbringing.

06:44They normally say, who will look after the child if the mother is away?

06:46What do you mean by looking after?

06:48The child is happier when the mom is away from home.

06:50The child doesn't want to be looked after.

06:53The child has a problem and that is your overcautious approach.

06:56When you are looking after the child, what exactly are you doing?

06:59When you are with your child, you are forcing all your prejudices on your child.

07:05You are forcing all your scrambled, useless and illogical thoughts on your child.

07:09Is this really going to be good for your child?

07:14If you want to know more, let me know.

07:16Now you tell me, if the parents are giving the best upbringing to their children,

07:19why is our society in a state as it is right now?

07:22But the parents are very proud about their upbringing.

07:24They find absolutely no fault in themselves.

07:26We just want to bring up our children.

07:29How can you give a good upbringing to your children without rectifying yourself?

07:32But there will be a dent in their ego if they accept that they have a problem within themselves.

07:36So we maintain that we are alright.

07:38The child needs to be rectified.

07:40Now that's the problem.

07:41You being alright is a problem and how did this happen?

07:45If you would have been right, why would this problem arise?

07:48No, the problem was with the neighbour and he spoiled him.

07:55A very mature mother, only she can take her children to some really great heights.

08:10And the funny thing is that when a person really becomes mature, he realises that the

08:14motive of life is not only to give birth to children.

08:18And the most unfortunate thing is that the more the people are confused, the more they

08:23think that they are here to expand their family.

08:28Things become worse over there.

08:40See, I have nothing against household chores, alright?

08:44In fact, I myself do a lot of chores, especially during the lockdown.

08:50We have a big boat stall and no outsider used to come over there.

08:55I was equally helping my other teammates in the chores.

08:58I've done everything.

09:01But I am aware as to which task in life is important and how much.

09:07And even you are aware about it.

09:09But I can't help it if you don't want to believe it.

09:14If all the tasks were of equal importance, then what would you call progress?

09:20Tell me.

09:24Now it's a different thing that you do a particular task with full commitment when assigned to you.

09:30That's absolutely fine with me.

09:31But that doesn't mean that every task is of the same order.

09:40Suppose you are the 12th man on the cricket ground.

09:44The only thing left to you is to take drinks on the ground and stay committed to it.

09:50Or if the batsman who is playing on the ground has asked you to replace his bat and you carry

09:57that bat for him, or a situation may arise where a player gets out, assume that he is

10:06out on zero, but he becomes a runner.

10:10You know what's a runner, right?

10:12When a batsman is injured, runners used to be common in the earlier days, but nowadays

10:15there are a lot of restrictions.

10:19But did you learn to play cricket just to become a runner?

10:25This is just a coincidence that at this moment I have to carry the drinks and that's what

10:30I'll do with commitment.

10:32If I have to become a runner at this moment, I will do that job with commitment.

10:35But you also need to consider one thing, that your job is to bat in the middle.

10:40You're not in the team for being a runner.

10:42And if you're just a runner, your mind should be conscious about that fact, that you don't

10:46need to be stagnant.

10:47You have to move on.

10:48I have to go in the middle and bat.

10:50How long will I serve drinks and tea to the players?

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