Title: Should You Marry or Follow Your Dreams? || Acharya Prashant (2025)
Video Information: 18.02.25, Vedanta: Basics to Classics, Greater Noida
Description:
Acharya Ji addresses the dilemma between following one’s heart and pursuing what society deems meaningful. Desires often stem from underlying fears and external conditioning, meaning that what one thinks they want may merely mask deep-seated insecurities. Acting on impulsive urges can lead to unfulfilling outcomes, while true fulfillment arises from inner clarity and self-empowerment.
The conversation critiques societal and familial pressures—especially on young women regarding marriage and career choices—and argues that education and self-reliance are crucial for personal power and authentic living. Ultimately, the message calls for overcoming internal fears and making decisions based on genuine insight rather than conforming to conventional expectations.
🎧 Listen to Acharya Prashant on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2QmVEAAnsNE7Xs0MW0Li8Y?si=09fbcbc7c99c469b
Music Credits: Milind Date
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Video Information: 18.02.25, Vedanta: Basics to Classics, Greater Noida
Description:
Acharya Ji addresses the dilemma between following one’s heart and pursuing what society deems meaningful. Desires often stem from underlying fears and external conditioning, meaning that what one thinks they want may merely mask deep-seated insecurities. Acting on impulsive urges can lead to unfulfilling outcomes, while true fulfillment arises from inner clarity and self-empowerment.
The conversation critiques societal and familial pressures—especially on young women regarding marriage and career choices—and argues that education and self-reliance are crucial for personal power and authentic living. Ultimately, the message calls for overcoming internal fears and making decisions based on genuine insight rather than conforming to conventional expectations.
🎧 Listen to Acharya Prashant on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2QmVEAAnsNE7Xs0MW0Li8Y?si=09fbcbc7c99c469b
Music Credits: Milind Date
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00:00My degree is just six months and they're like just finish off your degree and then
00:05we will find someone for you. Before I start answering your particular question
00:09what if all these roses, garments and ornaments just a cover-up for fear?
00:16There is something happening culturally in this country, something very very
00:21vicious. They say you know there is great dignity in household work. Yes I
00:25understand this is great. Let the men do it. Why do the men want to be deprived of
00:31dignity? Listen lady, this this ugly world, this world understands only the
00:37language of power. Women die a very early death internally. A lot of women hate me
00:45from their guts. If they find me they'll slash my throat, extremely visceral
00:50hatred. You know why they hate me? The fact is every 15 year old needs to
00:55listen to this.
01:00Namaste Acharya ji. It's my first interactive session with you online and
01:05I'm really very excited but also nervous. So my question is you said in one of
01:13your videos that close your eyes and identify if you had no fear then what
01:19would you be doing currently in your life? And then just do that. However in
01:23another video you also mentioned that do not do what you want because whatever
01:29you want comes from external influences. And so whatever we want may be useless
01:35and not really meaningful. So what to follow? What our heart says or something
01:41which we are not interested in but it's meaningful? Sir, because I'm in my CL
01:46final level and like I'm also interested in many extracurriculars
01:50like dancing and performing arts but I've never tried it. Like I'm good in
01:56dance and I also spend one hour a day to go to dance sessions but I'm currently
02:02living in Bhatinda in Punjab. So I did do jobs in Delhi and Gurgaon and in
02:08finance and accounts department and then I also worked for a startup in IB
02:12investment banking. After a point I've switched many jobs and put a gap in
02:17between and have tried multiple things. But now my parents have said that just
02:23finish your college, finish off your degree and then you can do anything you
02:28want. Now as time is passing and I'm seeing that they're like they're saying
02:33that it's now your age to marry but my degree is just six months. I mean I'll
02:39get my final degree in six months and they're like just finish off your degree
02:43and then we will find someone for you. So like there are many things which I
02:47want to explore for myself but I'm very very confused what to do.
02:58This is before I start answering your particular question. See this is what
03:04this this country does to women you know.
03:12The woman counts her days. She says let me do whatever can be done of life
03:20before marriage because after marriage all this exploration and discovery and
03:28adventure will anyway come to an end.
03:35Makes me sad also makes me angry depends on the mood.
03:44Men don't feel that way. Once they get married they won't be able to go out and
03:51seek things or explore or find doors closed.
03:59Okay. So you said the first thing I said was close your eyes
04:06without fear. Do what comes to you right. That was the first statement
04:19that spoke of being without fear.
04:25And the second one that you quoted talked of being without your desires.
04:34You said do not do what you want. Do not do. Do not just go with your
04:43random desires. The first one is talking of being without fear and the second one
04:53is talking of being without the usual kind of desires.
05:01And if these two sentences are to agree with each other what would that need?
05:11Just just equate these two sentences each other assuming that the speaker has
05:16some integrity. He won't be talking of two different things at two points.
05:23If these two sentences are coming from the same center then these two will
05:29agree with each other know and if you equate these two with each other what do
05:34you get? So fear equals desire. That's the key to understand.
05:44Typically your desires are deeply related to your fears.
05:53First comes the fear and then comes the desire and the desire is always a cover
05:59up job on the fear and that too a bad cover-up job.
06:08The fear remains and a lot of time and energy is spent on the desire and yet
06:16even the fulfillment of the desire fails to cover up for the fear. The fear still
06:23remains.
06:27Fear still remains. That's what we are probably missing on. We take fear as a
06:34negative thing. You should not have fear in life beta.
06:39Equally we take desire as something to be pursued.
06:44Go chase your desires.
06:50Go get what you want.
06:54This is ignorance. You look at any desire that you have
07:01that has arisen just as a blind reaction to an inner ignorance. I feel I lack in
07:12something and that's that's related to fear. When you lack in something then oh
07:18my god am I missing out on life? I lack in something. Fear. We feel we lack in
07:24something and then to make up for that lack we want an object.
07:34Today this object and tomorrow that one. That's desire.
07:38One does not desire for nothing. If you were totally alright with yourself, if
07:44you were very fulfilled within, would you still have these same desires that you
07:50currently have? No. So all desires arise from a feeling of incompleteness and
07:57there is a great insecurity. What if I live all my life
08:05remaining incomplete? What if I die unfulfilled?
08:10In fact you would have heard these these statements often.
08:19In fact these are some of the same statements that scare mongers use to
08:24target women especially.
08:27Akeli re jayegi, budhape mein akeli meregi.
08:35No. The more you hear such warnings, the more you covet a darling husband.
08:47Even though you know what that fellow is probably going to bring to your life.
08:58Wanting per se is neither good nor bad.
09:06But when you want from a point of ignorance, when you have never bothered
09:12to see that even if your want is fulfilled, it would still leave you
09:20unfulfilled, then wanting is a problem. Nothing is always a problem and
09:27everything is a problem from the wrong center. Wanting from the wrong center is
09:33a problem.
09:35You can also want from the right center.
09:40You can have targets from the right center.
09:45You can run huge projects and international missions from the right
09:51center. Forget small desires. You can have mammoth desires from the right center and
09:57they would still be great. We are told you should not desire too much. You can
10:03desire too much and that would still be alright if the desire is from the right
10:08center. And even the feeblest desire from the center of ignorance
10:17would not be right, not be right for you. We are not talking in the moral sense
10:23here. We are talking in the utilitarian sense here, in the practical sense here.
10:34Getting it?
10:39There has been lately this controversy.
10:47Some internet chaps and comics and stand-up artists and they have said a
10:55few things and there is a general outrage and everybody is outraging
11:02massive.
11:06So it's all over the place. I was crawling through my reels and it
11:13appeared there as well. There is this girl
11:21who is a part of the controversy. There was a small clip that appeared on my
11:26screen. She was being interviewed by someone.
11:32She was actually being interviewed by someone who has interviewed me as well.
11:35So maybe that's the reason it appeared on my feed.
11:41So he asks her and this girl, I do not know her but from her get-up and
11:48mannerisms, she looks like the typical representative of Gen Z, outspoken,
12:03unafraid, outgoing, all those things.
12:10So this fellow asks her,
12:15what do you expect from your husband?
12:20A small like 60 second thing and she says after a bit of a silence, what's your
12:27ideal man?
12:28Yaar, maare waare na.
12:33Bas yaar, maare waare na.
12:38You know, typically I just scrawl away.
12:47But this, this wasn't a made-up thing.
12:52Or at least that's the way it appeared to me.
12:57And this wasn't coming from a small town girl,
13:05coming from the interiors, Jharkhand or Chhattisgarh or Eastern UP.
13:13This is coming from someone who probably has a significant network
13:20of friends.
13:27A passport carries stamps of at least 10-20 countries she has travelled to.
13:37And yet there is this fear that I would be beaten up in the marriage.
13:45I don't think she was joking at that point.
13:50It was half a second of authenticity.
14:01I started to think, what if all these roses and garments and ornaments
14:10just a cover-up for fear.
14:16It's the wedding season, right?
14:20The sky is pink.
14:24And still, another moment, another place, another day,
14:31the same person or somebody else like her,
14:37would be so desirous of getting into a relationship
14:44without ever bothering to enquire why, what is it within me.
14:50That impels me in such a direction.
15:09Are your desires really your friends?
15:12Have you seen where your desires come from?
15:25And those who have stakes in your desires,
15:29will they ever want you to turn inwards?
15:32Will they ever want you to turn inwards?
15:45There is just fear within.
15:48Especially as a woman, if you will look into your heart,
15:51that's what you will find.
15:52Not love. The heart for a woman is hardly a symbol of love.
15:56That's why I feel so sad for this potentially great country.
16:06Half its population has nothing but fear in its heart.
16:14That's not to say that the other half is fearless.
16:18And from that fear, you can keep taking all kinds of decisions.
16:22To get into a relationship, to not to get into a relationship.
16:25To take up a job, to quit from a job.
16:29To have a baby, to not have a baby.
16:34To shift to that place, to not to shift to that place.
16:41To cover up your body, to reveal your body.
16:44To cover up your body, to reveal your body.
16:47You can take all kinds of very distinct decisions
16:52from that same center, the center of fear.
16:56How does it matter?
16:57How does it matter if everything is coming from fear?
17:07Somebody is scared, I would be beaten up.
17:10He decides not to marry.
17:12Somebody is scared, I would be left alone.
17:14She decides to marry.
17:17How does it matter?
17:18How is it any different?
17:24And what would be the quality of relationship?
17:26I beg to ask.
17:29You are a man.
17:32A woman marries you because she is afraid of being lonely.
17:42As a man, should you accept that relationship?
17:51Instead, you catch the opportunities with both hands.
17:57You want to make her feel even more lonely
18:00so that she runs to you even faster.
18:12We used to have these scenes
18:19in the dark decade of Bollywood cinema, 90s.
18:26The hero wants to impress the heroine.
18:33So he lets loose a few goons upon her
18:36just to impress upon her that she is weak and vulnerable.
18:45These goons are obviously buddies of the hero himself.
18:51And just when they are about to overpower her,
18:56he jumps from some goddamn branch of a tree
19:00and takes four of them down.
19:02And then the lady is all wooed and impressed.
19:08Find that cute?
19:12You are coercing someone
19:14to come to you by inducing fear in that person.
19:20That is continuously happening even today.
19:22Maybe in not as gross a form.
19:25It is still happening.
19:27There may be external goons were needed
19:33to forcefully make her admit that she is weak.
19:36Today you have internal goons.
19:39But there is just so much around to make her feel weak.
19:43And from that weakness, all kinds of decisions are being taken.
19:49And no decision, I repeat, is necessary.
19:52And no decision, I repeat, is necessarily right or wrong.
19:56You obviously can take the decision to be married
19:58and the decision can be wonderful
20:00provided it is coming from the right centre.
20:04But is the right centre active at all in the first place?
20:08It cannot be selectively activated for the purpose of marriage.
20:12Or can it be?
20:14Everything about your life is coming from the wrong centre.
20:17And just for one purpose you say,
20:19And just for one purpose you say,
20:21you know, this is the love of my heart.
20:24How come nothing else is coming from your heart in your life?
20:28Only this man happens to come from there.
20:33Consciousness itself shrivels.
20:37Have you seen how you behave when you are afraid?
20:42Feel a turtle when it is afraid?
20:44What does it do?
20:46It shrinks into itself.
20:49It covers itself up
20:57with its armour.
21:03Not a pretty sight, is it?
21:06Turtles can be cute.
21:09But all that you get to see, if it is an armour,
21:12how cute is that?
21:14In the name of a turtle, if you see
21:16just the inverted plate,
21:20the armour.
21:22Is it cute? No.
21:26That's how one half of the population of my country looks.
21:32Only armoured.
21:37Because they operate from here.
21:40And then I am saying there is a shrinking.
21:42There is a shrinking.
21:44Whereas the nature of consciousness is to expand.
21:49That's where fulfilment of life lies.
21:52In expansion.
21:55Therefore, the scriptures,
21:58the philosophies often equate
22:02the true state of consciousness to the sky
22:06in the sense of expansion and freedom and limitlessness.
22:12Where is expansion? Where is freedom?
22:15There is only the desperate urge for security.
22:19And one can understand that urge.
22:22If you are always behind someone
22:25right from her childhood,
22:29chasing her, indoctrinating her, conditioning her, terrifying her,
22:35nobody is a superwoman.
22:37People do get terrified.
22:40And when you are afraid,
22:43you can get wicked.
22:48When you know what the world is doing to you,
22:51you want to give it back in the same way.
22:56And then men come up and play the victim.
23:00You know, she exploited me.
23:02What the hell have you trained her for all her life?
23:06You have trained her to get exploited.
23:09You said, you know,
23:12I have one fleeting chance here.
23:15Let me just pay them back in their currency.
23:20Isn't it tragic?
23:22You know, men come up on that same screen
23:25and ask questions about their life.
23:27You know, men come up on that same screen
23:31and ask questions about all things in life.
23:35And when women come up,
23:3670% questions pertain just to
23:44you have left her with just this.
23:53She will not talk about the Middle East.
23:57She will not talk of
23:59the reciprocal tariffs that Trump and Musk are bringing in.
24:05She will not talk of Harley Davidson sales
24:07and what the tariff system will do to that.
24:12She will talk of
24:16that's 50% of the population.
24:18We are talking of 50% of our species.
24:27And I'm saying, you starve the woman
24:30and you have starved the man as well.
24:33Because man does require the woman as company.
24:38And if you have a person,
24:41you have yourself weakened
24:44and sickened
24:45and terrified
24:47and reduced.
24:50What will the company of that person do to you?
24:53Please tell me.
24:54What will that person do to you?
24:56Please tell me.
25:02I inject a certain virus into you
25:06and then I keep you for my company.
25:09What am I doing to myself?
25:13I'm injecting that virus into myself.
25:16To you.
25:18That's what man has done to women.
25:24You reduce the woman
25:26and through the woman
25:28you will be reduced.
25:35I'm sure this was not the direction you wanted my response to take.
25:39So you are free to
25:42take it towards the place you wanted to take it to.
25:46Tell me.
25:48Sir, actually currently I want to finish off my few papers left
25:51and then I want to explore other things.
25:54But
25:55in my house the environment that is being created is like
25:58they'll randomly start talking
26:00about like my mother has already told her sister to look for somebody
26:04and she regularly updates me about
26:07this boy
26:08and I have never seen the picture of this boy.
26:11Also like I'm not even interested in it.
26:14But the thing is that
26:15now the environment which is being created
26:17it's very distracting.
26:19Whenever I say that I want to like after completing this exam
26:23I want to look for other opportunities
26:25they say that don't, no, no, don't, please don't leave
26:28otherwise
26:29we'll get sick if you leave
26:32like we won't feel like going home.
26:35But on the other side
26:36they're ready to send me to some stranger's house.
26:40I don't understand the irony.
26:42So this is going on.
26:43So I'm not understanding that
26:45I have to finish my degree within six months
26:47or should I like change my environment
26:49and look for some other opportunities outside.
26:52I don't want to be distracted in these things.
26:54I want to focus on other important things right now.
26:57The foundation does not want to be sued by your parents.
27:05But still I'll drop you hints
27:13Sir, whatever you want to say you can say
27:15I'm not, I'm not.
27:17It is well known that I speak in a very measured way.
27:22Express myself very modestly.
27:32You would be in your 20s, right?
27:34Yes, I recently turned 24.
27:4024 is
27:45voting right, driving license.
27:47Driving license.
27:51You can be a lawmaker.
27:55You can sit in the legislative assembly next year.
27:59You're 24, right?
28:01You can sit in the parliament.
28:08At the age of 20 or 21
28:12you could be the administrator of an entire district
28:15if you clear the UPSC exam.
28:17How is it that at 24
28:22you are not mature enough to decide
28:26for yourself in your most intimate matters?
28:34You can be a pilot
28:36responsible for the lives of hundreds of people
28:40every flight.
28:42If you can be trusted with the lives of hundreds of people
28:46every hour
28:48how can you not be trusted with your own life?
28:55See, I'm trying to be diplomatic.
28:58I'm working really hard at it.
29:03It's not like that.
29:05Like in some sense they are open-minded.
29:08Also like they, they have been very open-minded
29:11and they have been very supportive of my career as well.
29:14Like in initial days
29:16when I was like at the age of 20 I started working
29:20I shifted to another city and they were very supportive.
29:23But then when I changed few jobs
29:26and I was like not, not knowing
29:28in which field I have to work for a very long time
29:31so they thought that now my age is 24
29:34and they think that she might not really be
29:36very very serious about anything.
29:38They think that marriage is the only way.
29:41It's not like that.
29:43It's just I'm just exploring
29:46and finding what I have to do.
29:48Like they want everything to go perfect
29:51or at the right age.
29:53So they have some deadline set.
29:55I don't understand that.
29:57I don't understand is it a problem within me
30:00that I'm not able to achieve those things
30:02in a very early age
30:04or age something else.
30:11Parents want things to go perfect
30:14for their daughters.
30:17Right.
30:19Just as they always knew what was perfect for them.
30:24For you to know what is perfect for the other
30:28you should have known at least what is semi-perfect for you.
30:34I'm not talking about your parents in particular.
30:37Parents.
30:39Look at the lives of parents.
30:41How close are they to perfection?
30:46How many of you are results of perfect alliances?
30:55Do we know what perfection means?
31:00Do we know what it means
31:03to live a fulfilled life?
31:05And if we do not know these things for ourselves,
31:07is it love
31:09to impose these things
31:13on our sons and daughters?
31:17In my own life I have very clearly seen
31:20I do not know anything.
31:23The fact is that I'm a goddamn fool.
31:26And yet I want
31:29my offsprings
31:31to live as per my decisions and desires.
31:34Is that love?
31:35But I was trying to be diplomatic.
31:43You guys will get in trouble very soon.
31:54Answer sir.
31:55You are 24 right?
31:56Today you are asking me the same question.
31:59You are 24 right?
32:00Answer sir.
32:01It's not like that.
32:02You are 24 right?
32:03Today you are asking me these questions.
32:06Tomorrow you decide to
32:08go by your parents' wishes.
32:12Next year you are a momma.
32:13That's possible.
32:15That happens in this country.
32:18Will you be a perfect mom?
32:25Tonight, this hour
32:26we are mired in confusion.
32:29We do not know.
32:33Out of this confusion
32:35some random decision gets taken.
32:40Very coincidentally, very ignorantly
32:43very randomly
32:45from that decision
32:47you get a baby.
32:50And then you want all the perfect things for your baby.
32:52Is that realistic?
32:56Have we first of all
32:58bothered
32:59to shape
33:00our own lives
33:01in any way
33:02that resembles perfection?
33:05Then how will we
33:06be perfect
33:07as parents?
33:11And why must
33:12the wishes of parents
33:13be taken
33:14with such seriousness?
33:17Why must
33:18the wishes
33:19of parents
33:20be taken
33:21with such seriousness?
33:27I mean
33:31I am old enough
33:32to be the parent
33:33of a youngster.
33:37And had I been a parent
33:38I wouldn't have wanted
33:40the girl
33:41or boy
33:42to obey
33:43my wishes.
33:47Mostly because
33:48I know
33:49I can act
33:51a huge idiot
33:52at times
33:53many times
33:54alright
33:55most times.
33:59So why would I
34:00throw myself
34:02at someone
34:03who is 20 or 25
34:04and ask them
34:05to
34:06to my line?
34:11Let's have
34:12some honesty
34:13at least.
34:15We are not talking
34:16to someone
34:17who is 5 years old.
34:18We are talking
34:19to a 25 year old.
34:20And the parent
34:21is 45 or 50
34:22or 55.
34:25In terms of
34:26consciousness
34:27both are equals.
34:30Right?
34:32How does one of them
34:33then get the right
34:36to dominate
34:37the other's mind?
34:42And also
34:44again
34:45at the risk of being
34:47portrayed
34:48a
34:50a dreaded
34:52family breaker
34:53or somebody
34:57all these excuses
34:58that daughters
34:59come up with
35:01in defense of their parents
35:02no no
35:03my parents are not
35:04totally evil
35:05they gave me
35:06a decent education.
35:10This is nonsense.
35:12Decent education
35:13so that
35:14you can be married off?
35:17Or is that
35:18very different
35:19from keeping
35:20somebody
35:21uneducated
35:22so that
35:23she can be married off?
35:24The purpose
35:25is the same?
35:33Of what use
35:34is education
35:36when the
35:37FLPR
35:38in the country
35:39is continuously
35:40declining?
35:41And women
35:42are more educated
35:43today than
35:44they ever were?
35:47More educated
35:48and yet
35:49dropping out of jobs?
35:54Why?
35:55Because the first priority
35:57is the wedding
35:58and the man
36:00and the baby
36:04That's how
36:05the parents have
36:06indoctrinated them.
36:09What is the point
36:10of education?
36:12Just so that
36:13the CV looks good?
36:18You don't
36:19educate
36:20someone
36:23so that
36:24she is
36:25more efficient
36:26in the kitchen
36:27or more
36:28productive
36:29on the bed?
36:30Is that
36:31what education
36:32is for?
36:37If the
36:38if all
36:39these years
36:40of education
36:41are going
36:42to be
36:43ultimately
36:44eaten up
36:45by household
36:46chores
36:47what have
36:48parents
36:49educated
36:50their daughter
36:51for?
37:04Go out
37:05and check
37:06on this
37:07particular
37:08metric
37:09FLPR
37:10Female
37:11Labour
37:12Participation
37:13Rate
37:14There is
37:15something
37:16happening
37:17culturally
37:18in this
37:19country
37:20something
37:21very very
37:22vicious
37:29Proportionally
37:30more women
37:31were part
37:32of the
37:33workforce
37:3420-30
37:35years back
37:38The
37:39cultural
37:40environment
37:41is degrading
37:42in a
37:43way that
37:44it's
37:45discouraging
37:46probably
37:47even
37:48forbidding
37:49or threatening
37:50women
37:51away from
37:52the
37:53workforce
37:54the
37:55workplace
37:56And
37:57you say
37:58you know
37:59I'm a
38:00DU
38:01English Honours
38:02What's
38:03the
38:04point?
38:05What's
38:06the
38:07point?
38:08And I
38:09respect
38:10the
38:11household
38:12jobs
38:13No
38:14Had
38:15the
38:16household
38:17jobs
38:18been
38:19of
38:20paramount
38:21importance
38:22the
38:23men
38:24would
38:25have
38:26taken
38:27them
38:28And
38:29it
38:30does
38:31not
38:32take a
38:33genius
38:34to
38:35figure
38:36out
38:37the
38:38total
38:39financial
38:40value
38:41of
38:42the
38:43household
38:44jobs
38:45And
38:46they
38:47say
38:48you know
38:49there is
38:50great
38:51dignity
38:52in
38:53household
38:54work
38:55Yes
38:56I
38:57understand
38:58Let
38:59the
39:00men do
39:01it
39:02Why
39:03do the
39:04men want
39:05to be
39:06deprived
39:07of
39:08dignity
39:09Then
39:10will
39:11the
39:12men
39:13give
39:14birth
39:15and
39:16breast
39:17feed
39:18This
39:19is what
39:20the
39:21argument
39:22ultimately
39:23comes to
39:24I'm
39:25just
39:26trying to
39:27be
39:28diplomatic
39:29Holding
39:30myself
39:31back
39:32Sir
39:33like I
39:34also love
39:35traveling a
39:36lot
39:37So
39:38recently
39:39I
39:40was
39:41on a
39:42solo
39:43trip
39:44and
39:45I
39:46was
39:47very
39:48angry
39:49on that
39:50I
39:51also
39:52discovered
39:53like
39:54what
39:55Tao
39:56Ji
39:57has to
39:58do
39:59with
40:00this
40:01If
40:02I
40:03have to
40:04go on
40:05a
40:06solo
40:07trip
40:08I
40:09can't
40:10do
40:11it
40:12I
40:13don't
40:14want
40:15to
40:16go on
40:17a
40:18solo
40:19trip
40:20I
40:21can
40:22't
40:23go
40:24on
40:25a
40:26solo
40:27trip
40:28I
40:29can't
40:30do
40:31it
40:32I
40:33have
40:34to
40:35go on
40:36a
40:37I'm just not thinking about it currently.
40:40Listen lady, this ugly world, this world understands only the language of power.
40:49Your Tauji, he might be 60 or whatever, but if there is a 25 year old with enough financial
41:07heft, your Tauji will bow down.
41:18You could be in some industry at the age of 22, 24, earning a fat package and then people
41:26are less likely to get into your business.
41:32They will stay away and respect their limits.
41:48You could be an IAS at 21 and you can have 50 year olds reporting to you and all those
41:5950 year olds will be somebody's Tauji's and Pupaji's and Mamaji's and Papaji's.
42:10Gather power for yourself in whatever way you can.
42:17If you remain feeble and dependent, this ugly world will simply eat you up.
42:26They will throw you away somewhere and that would be the end of their role and they will
42:34not come to inquire, investigate or help.
42:45Keep everything else off your mind.
42:50Build yourself up and gather strength.
42:55This is a very loveless world.
42:59It knows only the language of power.
43:13Tauji will sanction your travels and it's quite likely that Tauji's boss is a 30 year
43:22old and he sanctions Tauji's leaves.
43:31Be that boss.
43:37Attain a similar position.
43:41Then they forget all their gender based prejudices.
43:48They also forget caste hierarchies.
43:52Everything is forgotten in front of power and money and authority.
43:56That's the only language they understand.
44:07Forget that you are a Baniya or anything.
44:10A woman has no caste.
44:12She only has a body.
44:18That's the world we live in.
44:26To the world you are a womb.
44:31What they want you to get married so that you can play little cute games with the man?
44:37What else is marriage?
44:39Go procreate.
44:42What are the few toys to play with in the name of furthering the clan?
44:51If you are well educated, use your education for your empowerment and that power will give
45:02you the leverage to live life on your own terms else anybody, everybody will ride rough
45:17shod over you and you will internalize it.
45:27One resists only to the point, there is a point in resisting.
45:33And after that point what do you do?
45:35You succumb, you surrender.
45:40You give in to the situation.
45:43You start pretending as if you are in the situation by choice.
45:50In fact, you start siding with your hunters.
45:58You start acting as if your oppressors are your well-wishers.
46:02Because you know very well, there is no point resisting anymore.
46:07You flip sides.
46:13Let that not happen to you.
46:17Men die a very early death internally.
46:23After that they are just machines of flesh, eating, reproducing, entertaining and getting
46:32entertained, talking gibberish and spewing venom on anyone who dares to show them the
46:44mirror.
46:47At 24, you are talking to me and you are ready to at least lend an ear to what I am saying.
46:54It's possible at 34 you hate me.
46:59It's possible at 34 you say, you know, this man is evil, avoid him at all cost.
47:07Because at 34 it is very possible that you will be very very deeply invested in this
47:13same traditional system.
47:14You will be so deeply invested, you will know there is no way out.
47:21So you will want to pretend as if you have willingly chosen to be in that system.
47:32And you will pretend so deeply, you will believe in it.
47:36And you will believe in the hatred you will have for me.
47:39A lot of women hate me from their guts.
47:47If they find me, they will slash my throat, extremely visceral hatred.
47:56You know why they hate me?
47:58They hate me because I didn't come to them when it was time.
48:03They hate me for coming too late to them.
48:09They will not accept this.
48:12When I say this, they will scoff at it instead of acknowledging.
48:20The fact is every 15 year old needs to listen to this or else it will be too late.
48:33I was supposed to be diplomatic.
48:39You will get me in jail sooner than later.
48:44Yeah, that's all.
48:47Thank you so much, sir.