Okay, here is my attempt at my own lived wisdom to give back to this Community.
Do not believe, absolutely ever, in the lie that weed isn't a drug! It will absolutely destroy families like it did mine!
My mom was a weed addict (still is from what i understand).
Its painful to bring up all the examples and I've already went over it across Therapy back when therapy was kind of competently accessible to more people.
Briefly,
Things like
Lying and not paying rent
Stealing my stuff i have fun with with friends just to get the next high
Being overly negative and critical moodiness for like 3-5 day periods and parents fighting/arguing when/where i would t smell weed coming from their bedroom
Complete denialism of being addicted
The adoption of pretending as if the drug is later needed for pain management (they were already addicted and didn't care)
The mindset that everyone will use their addiction against them and they have to play it off
How everything centers around them getting high but you have to make pretend everything's normal
Don't believe those fucking drug-addicted homeless people, or ‘high’-functioning, ill call them compromised, functionalists. I have tons of stories about all these fights my mom would have with me over stealing money out of my drawer when i had a job and a friend slept over to go to the mall with, if wake up to her tip-toeing over us, into my drawer to steal the money and then shed send my dad after me when i stood up for myself! And my dad tried to pretend it was only her when he would smoke pot with the door to his room open. My step sister (elder) later smoked pot with both my parents while i was still a kid.
Id rather die than be a pothead, its so painful to me, to see it and be around it. If i had the money, id pay 10x to live somewhere where there's absolutely no drugs allowed, especially weed!
So yea, kinda like how Stef can't be tricked with single momdom.. i can't be tricked into thinking weed is ‘just cool way to past time’
Phluck off bigly.
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Do not believe, absolutely ever, in the lie that weed isn't a drug! It will absolutely destroy families like it did mine!
My mom was a weed addict (still is from what i understand).
Its painful to bring up all the examples and I've already went over it across Therapy back when therapy was kind of competently accessible to more people.
Briefly,
Things like
Lying and not paying rent
Stealing my stuff i have fun with with friends just to get the next high
Being overly negative and critical moodiness for like 3-5 day periods and parents fighting/arguing when/where i would t smell weed coming from their bedroom
Complete denialism of being addicted
The adoption of pretending as if the drug is later needed for pain management (they were already addicted and didn't care)
The mindset that everyone will use their addiction against them and they have to play it off
How everything centers around them getting high but you have to make pretend everything's normal
Don't believe those fucking drug-addicted homeless people, or ‘high’-functioning, ill call them compromised, functionalists. I have tons of stories about all these fights my mom would have with me over stealing money out of my drawer when i had a job and a friend slept over to go to the mall with, if wake up to her tip-toeing over us, into my drawer to steal the money and then shed send my dad after me when i stood up for myself! And my dad tried to pretend it was only her when he would smoke pot with the door to his room open. My step sister (elder) later smoked pot with both my parents while i was still a kid.
Id rather die than be a pothead, its so painful to me, to see it and be around it. If i had the money, id pay 10x to live somewhere where there's absolutely no drugs allowed, especially weed!
So yea, kinda like how Stef can't be tricked with single momdom.. i can't be tricked into thinking weed is ‘just cool way to past time’
Phluck off bigly.
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Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material, as well as targeted AIs for Real-Time Relationships, BitCoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-Ins. Don't miss the private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!
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00:00Good morning everybody, hope you're doing well.
00:02Just a note from a listener, a very sort of sad note and something which I
00:09I think like most people have sixes and sevens about.
00:11So he wrote, okay, here's my attempt at my own lived wisdom to give back to this community.
00:15Do not believe absolutely ever in the lie that weed isn't a drug.
00:19It will absolutely destroy families like it did mine.
00:22My mom was a weed addict, still is from what I understand.
00:25It's painful to bring up all the examples and I've already went
00:28over it across therapy back when therapy was kind of competently accessible to more people.
00:33Briefly, things like lying and not paying rent, stealing my stuff,
00:38I have fun with friends just to get the next high,
00:42being overly negative and critical, moodiness for like three to five day periods and parents
00:46fighting, arguing when where I wouldn't smell weed coming from their bedrooms,
00:49complete denialism of being addicted, the adoption of pretending as if the
00:53drug is later needed for pain management, they were already addicted and they didn't
00:57care, the mindset that everyone will use their addiction against them and they have to
01:01play it off how everything centers around them getting high, but you have to make
01:05pretend everything's normal. Don't believe these effing drug-addicted homeless people
01:09or high-functioning alcohol and compromised functionalists.
01:12I have tons of stories about all these fights my mom would have with me
01:16over stealing money out of my drawer when I had a job
01:19and a friend slept over to go to the mall with. If I wake up to her tiptoeing over
01:23us into my drawer to steal the money and then
01:25she'd send my dad after me when I stood up for myself and my dad tried to pretend it was
01:29only her when he would smoke pot with the door to his room open. My step-sister,
01:33elder lady, smoked pot with both my parents while I was still a kid.
01:36I'd rather die than be a pothead. It's so painful to me to see it be around,
01:41to see it and be around it. If I had the money I'd pay ten times to live
01:44somewhere where there's absolutely no drugs allowed, especially weed.
01:47So yeah, kind of like how Steph can't be tricked by single momdom, I can't be tricked into
01:51thinking weed is just a cool way
01:52to pass the time F off bigly.
01:56Now that's tough man, I really sympathize hugely
01:59and you know, I mean I've never
02:04wanted to do weed because I mean obviously I heard the
02:08negative or scary stories about it, the bad trips and so on
02:11but it's just one of these things that just never seemed
02:15like a plus and my basic reasoning, as you know,
02:19goes like this. Well, I'm fairly happy to begin with, my happiness levels
02:24are around seven to eight out of ten.
02:27That's my sort of default position, is sort of that level
02:31of happiness. Of course it goes up, sometimes it goes down.
02:34I really can't think of the last time that it went to a negative
02:38but you know, to me seven to eight, that's pretty good. If you aim for higher
02:42you end up going lower. It's sort of like working out, you want to work
02:46out hard but not too hard so you injure yourself.
02:49I don't want to aim for like 10 happiness, I think that would just be too
02:52too stressful and you know, frankly kind of unsustainable.
02:56So for me it was like okay, well my happiness in general is seven to eight
03:00and if I go, if weed gets me higher so to speak on the happiness
03:07scale right, so if weed ends up getting me to a nine or a ten
03:13then the problem is seven or eight now feels
03:17less happy and of course when you go to a nine or ten happiness artificially
03:21then you'll crash down to a four or five or maybe even a negative right.
03:25So it's just that calculation didn't seem to make any sense to me.
03:29Plus you know, of course when I was a teen it was illegal
03:32and expensive and risky right, because you know you'd be around some pretty
03:36sketchy people and there was not exactly a quality control
03:41in how it was manufactured. So I'm like okay,
03:44so if it makes me happier then that's a problem because now I'm addicted to that
03:48level of happiness and I've got to commit crimes and I got
03:52to pay a lot of money and I got to take a lot of risks.
03:55So all of that has the potential to make me far less happy
03:59in the long run. Plus I could have a bad trip or something like that.
04:02So if I like it, it's bad. If I don't like it, what's the point?
04:06Like there just is no rational case for that kind of stuff.
04:11Now of course I'm not talking about pain management or managing the effects of
04:14chemo and nausea and so on. That's sort of a different matter because then it's
04:17a medicine right. But then you're not trying to achieve a
04:20high, you're just trying to avoid a low right. So right that's like if you
04:25if you have an operation then you should take some opioids if
04:30it helps with the pain right. That's not you trying to get high, that's you just
04:32trying to not be in pain and so on right. And I assume
04:37that helps the healing process to not be overly stressed.
04:40So I don't want to make this about me but the challenge is of course that the
04:45people who, and this is sort of the Gabor Maté view which is more than a view, I
04:48fully accept it, that the people who use drugs
04:53recreationally are not chasing a high, they're avoiding a low right. So you
04:59have trauma as a child, you're unhappy, stressed, depressed,
05:02anxious or whatever and you find that doing the drug helps with with that
05:08right, helps sort of alleviate the symptoms.
05:11But the problem is it then changes your personality
05:15because when you say I have no way to deal with my trauma
05:18except through drugs then the problem is it changes your relationship with
05:24yourself. You then say I can't fix myself, the
05:28trauma is so big, the trauma is so deep, I can't
05:31fix myself, therefore I need these drugs and it
05:35changes your relationship with yourself as a whole. And
05:41in House MD, the show, the house has a permanent limp and is in permanent pain
05:47and doesn't take any drugs to deal with it
05:51and that's just kind of cantankerous and cranky in the sort of one episode where
05:55he shaves and is more pleasant and that's how people know he's taking
05:58drugs again to manage his pain. So of course there are times when taking
06:05drugs to manage pain is perfectly sensible right if you have
06:09an operation then what you need to do is you need to be knocked out right if you
06:15have some big painful operation you know whether it's that icy stuff in
06:18the veins or whether it's full anesthesia you need
06:22to be out right because you can't manage that kind of pain
06:25and in fact that kind of pain is dangerous right
06:29because if you move or jerk because of the pain then
06:32the operation can go very badly. So yeah there are times when the pain
06:38is something that you should not manage yourself
06:41but if you make that about your past and your emotional pain
06:44you're saying that the trauma and the pain is bigger
06:47than yourself it's bigger than your consciousness
06:52right because emotional pain is different of course I mean sorry this
06:55is like a blindly obvious thing emotional pain is different from
06:57physical pain because emotional pain is open to reason. Physical pain is there
07:03to protect you from injury and to give you negative
07:06stimuli so that you avoid unnecessarily risky or
07:09dangerous things. Emotional pain is there for what?
07:13Emotional pain is there to protect you and the way that you at least I think
07:19the way that you deal with emotional pain is you
07:21let it protect you right I mean if your hand is in the fire
07:25then you take your hand out of the fire that's what the
07:28pain of the fire is there for and in fact it's instinctual
07:31like the pain will hit your spine and your spine will jerk away
07:35your hand before you even are conscious of the pain right because it's that
07:39dangerous. So the purpose of emotional pain is to
07:42protect you right I mean I remember once as a kid
07:47I ate a banana that had a weird rotten part at the end
07:51and I like didn't eat a banana for like a year or two
07:55so it's there to protect you right I mean if you look at the negative I'm
08:00sure everyone's had this where you drink some milk that's sour
08:03or you eat some bread that's got that dusty moldy taste to it and of course
08:07you you spit it out right it's a negative experience designed to
08:10keep foreign bacteria out of your out of your
08:14system right so the purpose of emotional pain is to
08:19protect you to have you leave situations or avoid
08:23situations or prevent situations wherein you're going to be harmed
08:30and there's this huge battle between people's instincts to avoid
08:33abusive people and abusive people's desire to keep
08:37their victims around and this is one of the really really fundamental battles
08:41that goes on in the world is you want to get away from abusive
08:47people right but abusive people don't want you to get
08:52away right so how much of culture is about you getting away from abusive
08:57people and how much of culture is run by
09:01abusive people convincing you to stick around and
09:03continue to be abused and exploited now of course everybody knows where this
09:07show has landed on that and there's been a
09:10fair amount of blowback of course over the years
09:13which is i'm aiming to help people avoid
09:16situations of abuse destruction and exploitation
09:20but the people who abuse and exploit and destroy
09:24don't want people to leave so this is why you know family is everything and
09:28anyone who tells you that you don't have to spend time
09:31with family is a cult leader and so on right it's just like well no they
09:36well and not only do they not they just want to keep their victims around
09:41but everyone abandoned this over the last couple of
09:45years or most people abandoned this in the mainstream media
09:48around this for the last couple of years on the
09:51twin and interlocked mountains of covid and leftist politics right
09:59so now it's acceptable to ostracize family for many people based on covid
10:04and based on political differences right
10:08so they never believed it really at all they just wanted to keep the weapon for
10:11themselves right so i get that there's all of this
10:17emotional pain and it sounds like that the the writer here the emotional pain
10:21has done its job in that you don't want to spend time around
10:25people who are addicted to drugs obviously
10:29and you want to stay away from entire environments and societies
10:33where there are drugs addicts around so of course i sympathize
10:37massively with the core pain that causes or is a it it paves the way though you
10:44don't have to take the journey it paves the way towards
10:49taking drugs but every time you take the drugs you say
10:53i can't manage this pain on my own this pain is bigger than me this pain dwarfs
10:58me and i am helpless in the face of this
11:01pain now of course there are times where you
11:05are helpless in the face of pain again
11:09anesthesia and local anesthetic or you got to get your teeth drilled or
11:13something you want that sweet sweet novocaine right because it's
11:17kind of dangerous if you uh jerk around when they're drilling
11:20your your teeth or can be i think so if you say
11:25not my physical pain is bigger than me and i need to take some
11:29something to take care of it like if you got a headache or whatever you can
11:32take an aspirin or something but if you say my emotional pain is
11:35bigger than me and i need to diminish it then what
11:38you're doing is you're saying my emotional pain
11:43i cannot act upon it to keep me safe right my emotional pain i cannot act
11:48upon it to keep me safe like if you have to live
11:52among you know dangerous predators then you
11:56might as well drug yourself because your pain is useless you can't
12:00escape you can't get out let's say you're you've i don't know
12:03locked in with some dangerous predators as part of some
12:06punishment or or some you know psycho group does that to you
12:10well then you might as well drug yourself because your pain
12:14cannot right and of course if you submit to surgery
12:18then your pain can't save you because you have to go through the surgery
12:23for whatever reason right to make you healthier in some way
12:26and so your pain is supposed to help you avoid getting injured but if the
12:30voluntary injury quote injury called surgery is there
12:33then your pain can't can't help you right so you might as well get rid of
12:38the pain because your pain is actually harming you right it's like
12:42the people who have you know desperate fears of needles and
12:46maybe they need to take a needle for something important
12:49then that pain is not helping them right so you might as well
12:52find some way to reject or overcome your
12:55sorry reject your pain or your fear so if you're saying emotionally
13:03based upon prior abuse that your pain is overwhelming you're saying
13:07your pain can't do its job which is to get you out of a dangerous situation and
13:12keep you safe and if your pain can't do anything then
13:16your pain is kind of your enemy in the same way that your
13:19fear of needles might be your energy might sorry might be your enemy
13:23if you need to take a needle for some reason right like if you need to have
13:27your blood tested for something right so you're saying that your pain is your
13:31enemy and needs to be drugged and moved away in other words
13:35you're not letting your pain do its job to keep you safe your pain
13:40is in fact putting you in danger but that means that you can't ever escape
13:43the predation or the predators of your childhood
13:47and so the abusers win the abusers win and if your abusers win
13:54you continue to live in misery and if you continue to live in misery
13:58you're going to continually need these drugs so you can't escape
14:03you can't win the abusers are going to rule you forever and
14:07that is really really tragic when it comes to
14:10people's lives and how they perceive their possibilities right
14:14so i really do you know again i sympathize with
14:18the pain and trauma that causes people to consider drugs
14:23but my solution has been that you get away from the abusive
14:29situation you get away from the abusers if you i mean you talk to them and see
14:33if you can reform them and so on but nobody has to put up with
14:37being in a situation of perpetual abuse denigration threats of ostracism
14:43or even just you're unimportant to people right because that's harmful to
14:46your sense of self right to be viewed as
14:49unimportant by people so you are perfectly free to get out
14:55of abusive situations and environments and if you do that then the negative
15:01stimuli called emotional pain or trauma or upset
15:04or fear anxiety then that pain and trauma has achieved its goal
15:10you got your hand out of the fire now you can begin the process of healing
15:13without additional trauma right i mean your body won't really heal if
15:18you keep traumatizing it right if you've got
15:20some bad bruise and you keep whacking it with a ball peen hammer and your body's
15:23not going to heal right the pain's just going to be
15:25continuous and then you might say well this pain is continuous
15:28so i need drugs right but if you get away from the negative stimuli
15:32you know again conversations are important to see if people can reform
15:36if you can do that safely but if they won't reform if then in other words if
15:40they're just committed to treating you badly for
15:43never and ever amen then the only way to reduce your trauma if
15:47people are committed to re-traumatizing you for the
15:50foreseeable or imaginable future well the only way is to
15:57get away and that way you're saying thank you trauma thank you anxiety thank
16:01you fear you have done your job and i'm safe
16:06and then your emotions are smaller than you you've made a decision based upon
16:10your emotions to get to a place of safety and security
16:14and that's the purpose and then you won't need drugs
16:18for the most part at least that's my general theory i hope this helps and i
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