How to Make the World a Better Place? || Acharya Prashant (2022)

Acharya Prashant

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00:00So, if we have young girls in our life who we can influence or talk to, what do you suggest

00:17we share with them?

00:18It's a very, it's a position of tremendous responsibility.

00:32Men corrupt women and then suffer as a consequence.

00:43Women remain womanly and suffer.

01:00I think if there is a girl, a little girl or a teenage girl in your life you can influence,

01:10the best thing would be to not influence her.

01:20And if you have to influence her, then the influence has to be remedial.

01:27Influence her only if there is a great need to rectify something that's obviously bad,

01:39obviously evil, only then you should interfere in her life.

01:50Introduce her to greatness, just give her glimpses and options as to what all is possible

02:00in the human life.

02:06Let her take decisions of her own, enable her to take decisions of her own.

02:19If we suffer in our relationships with women, I repeat, we are just paying for the sins

02:29of history and one way to rightly pay for those sins is by at least not corrupting the

02:41young girls anymore.

02:49So my position on this is nuanced, Shivankar.

02:54On one hand I definitely do agree that as things stand today, men do suffer in their

03:04relationships with women, obviously women too do, I agree that men suffer a lot, but

03:19I also know that the suffering does not come from particular relationship or a particular

03:24person, it comes from the centuries of ignorant conditioning mankind has lived through.

03:41It comes from spiritual deficiency, so we cannot avoid that suffering, we have to pass

03:48through it, and if we have to pass through it, we better do that with some decency, some

03:54dignity, and one exhibition of that dignity would be our relationship with the young girl

04:06you are referring to.

04:11Do not raise her in the image of mankind as we have known it, again that would be possible

04:22only if firstly you have enough self-knowledge to know that all selves are false, only then

04:33would you not want to impose a particular self upon her.

04:40Firstly you need to have that spiritual orientation, first of all you need to have that self-knowledge

04:51in your own inward domain, only then you can deal with her rightly, there are just too

04:58many toxic sources of influence and they can act very surreptitiously, so keep an eye on

05:09these things, it's a huge responsibility, do not get into the missionary work of liberating

05:30women without first of all having enough self-knowledge, especially as a young man, you must be very

05:39skeptical of yourself, there are just too many young men who begin by trying to liberate

05:57young women of their own age and end up just fathering their kids, so be very cautious

06:07of your intentions, it's extremely likely, who am I, I am a father figure to her, my

06:16intention is to just help her and raise her, support her and all the while my balls are

06:29itching, so have at least that much of awareness about your own intentions, else it's such

06:48a cool alibi, I am just trying to spiritually liberate her, I am trying to peel off the

06:59layers of her conditioning and all this while you are just peeling off her clothes, that's

07:07all that you manage to peel off, right sir?

07:17Too many liberators around here, a lot of, I mean I started off annoying and frustrated

07:26in women for not, for making it so hard for me to understand them and as you explained,

07:34I guess what's staying with me is that it takes a really fearful and scared mind to

07:41want to communicate in that way and that's, it makes me much less frustrated.

07:52I don't know whether you have lived in the small town India of the 90s of the last century

08:09or something, I mean, think of the girl who has to be all the time alert that her bra

08:26strap doesn't show up, what kind of attention can she give to her books, even as she is

08:36occupying her seat in the classroom, in the college, all her attention is on her dupatta,

08:49on the vulture's eyes, so she will be fearful and when you are fearful, you are violent,

09:02when you are fearful, you are mad, so on one hand I do admit she is often mad, but I also

09:11know that madness is not our fundamental nature, madness comes from a lot of fear and other

09:20toxic things, has to be a nuanced position, we cannot just admit the ways of the women

09:41folk today as seen or normal or healthy, but even as we point fingers, we must know

09:58what lies behind the madness, when we must also know that madness can never be partial

10:09or partisan, if there is madness on that side, there would necessarily be madness on this

10:18side as well, disclaimer, this does not mean that there are no evil women, obviously there

10:27are, this does not mean that there are no women who are not fearful, but actually scheming,

10:39cunning, while they definitely are, but if such women exist, so do such men, there are

10:54gold diggers, there are women who actively conspire to lead lives as free riders, eating

11:06upon somebody else's fortunes, somebody else's labor, there do exist women of this kind,

11:14but whenever you come across such specimens, it's pertinent to ask one, where did they

11:20come from, who raised them, what influenced them, secondly, if they are so vile, so decadent

11:31don't we have their corresponding numbers on the other side as well.

11:37We have almost come to the conclusion, but my question is, as if the first question which

11:46would have been asked is regarding the current culture that you see on the Instagram and also

11:55the popular actresses who get the audacity to say it on the stage that God measures my bra size,

12:05and the Instagrammers who clearly know that the depth of my period is proportionate to my likes,

12:12and they clearly use it, they are not ignorant, they are very very clever and then using it on all the…

12:21Someone spoke, I would rather educate the men to not press the like button,

12:32as long as there is somebody to keep pressing the like button, there would be somebody to

12:50keep unbuttoning the cleavage.

12:52It has to be shared responsibility, in fact, in a different context,

13:04I remember you had also mentioned that, for a similar question, you had mentioned that,

13:10the woman, doesn't the woman also have her own sense and consciousness, that even if,

13:17see that goes without saying, had this been a gathering of women, I would have asked them,

13:26what do you really get by doing all these things, but because I am talking to you,

13:32so I will say, why do you press the like button, to the woman I will ask, why do you post such pics,

13:38and what fun do you really get in doing all this, and where would it take you,

13:43see these two things are going together, don't you see, she is posting that, you are pressing

13:53the button, also today I educate her, and next she poses as a veritable goddess,

14:07totally clad in a saree, would you encourage her by gifting her with twice the number of likes,

14:19would you, the day she poses all covered up, her likes will dwindle to what, 1 by 10,

14:28what message are you sending her, little deeper, what message are you sending her,

14:40and she is no goddess really, she is vulnerable, she is weak, like any one of us, you keep

14:49sending her all the wrong messages, she will fall for it, and who does not want to act

14:56lazy in life, if I can earn both my bread and my respect by just flouting my body, it's

15:06a cool deal, is it not, why should I slog for long hours and do this and do that, I

15:13would rather just keep the body fit, presentable, sexy and eat out of it.

15:19I think I have had a little ascension with this talk, little more open towards the other gender in that sense.

15:28I hope that openness does not result in, but all I want you to appreciate is that you cannot

15:40have corruption on just one side, I am not asking you to discount the corruption on that

15:47side, no, the corruption that you are talking of definitely does exist, right, so if you

15:54have seen really wild women in your life, I fully admit the possibility that they were

16:01actually quite wild, that's alright, what I want us to see is that if there is ignorance

16:12and stupidity and all those things on that side, they are bound to be present in equal

16:18measure on this side as well.

16:20Exactly, exactly.

16:26And thanks for making it so clear Acharyaji, because if, it seems like a trade of toxicity

16:32and falsity, if women are posting stuff because men are liking them, men are falling into

16:38trap of EMIs, buying cars because women are showing so much intensity, so both are…

16:46The culprit is Maya, the culprit is Maya, if you have to name a person as the culprit,

16:54the person who said that man does not need spirituality is the culprit, there was one

17:01particular passage in Hindi, it's there in a video as well, when I said the man and the

17:07woman are walking together, and they both find their money is stolen, and they both

17:20had their wallets and monies in their back pockets, and they are walking next to each

17:28other, and the woman puts her hand in the pocket and finds that the money is gone, and

17:36the man puts his hand in the pocket and finds the money is gone, and the both of them are

17:43suspecting that the other did it, because these are the two walking hand in hand and

17:50next to each other, the woman thinks that the man did it, and the man thinks the woman

17:56did it, both think that the other exploited them, whereas the fact is that there is a

18:03third person in the scene, invisible to both of them, who is the real pickpocket, who has

18:10robbed both of them, he has first of all robbed, being the third one, first thing, it's a third

18:17party, not either of the two, secondly, he has robbed not one, but both of them, and

18:23thirdly, since neither of them know this, so they are busy pulling each other's hair,

18:35it's a third one, it's a third one, the invisible one behind our back.

18:43One more learning that I have got from this is that rather than, because now when the

18:48game is actually in front, so rather than dealing with the topic of women as a thing,

18:55it is better that to put your energies into your own ascension, because what you are wanting…

19:00Instead of blaming the woman, put your energy in your own betterment, then that will make

19:06you more appreciative and more compassionate, and you will be able to do better things with

19:12yourself and also with the women.

19:15Blaming the woman makes it easier for me to not look at myself.

19:20Blaming the woman makes it easier for me to remain the man I am, and that's no good.

19:25And that's the man that…

19:26And that's the man that caused the woman to be that way.

19:29So blaming or discussing and everything, as in that perspective, from a man's perspective,

19:38is only deepening the wound and not really healing it.

19:40Healing the wound and reinforcing the two poles, the two respective positions.

19:45She will become more of what she has been, I will become more of what I have been, and

19:50this way the two egos will both nourish and prosper, and life will be ruined.

19:57The third one is enjoying this.

19:58The third one is enjoying the game all the while.

20:02A feminist journalist in America asked Vivekananda ji, I mean, what, you have come from India,

20:11what is your, I mean, how do you, what is, what project have you undertaken to really

20:16help the women out in their, back there in your country?

20:20So he said, if you are asking a man, you are not getting any answers from me.

20:24That's what.

20:25I am not a man, and only then can I teach the woman that she is not a woman.

20:32If I am a man, then she is a woman, and if she is a woman, then there is no hope.

20:36The woman's hope lies in not identifying herself with her woman-ness, therefore if I am a man,

20:44how do I tell her she is not a woman?

20:48On a very different scale, individual scale, just something that as a man, I have always

20:57found the challenging part is that women, women seems to be an existential choice in

21:07a way, that it is totally different, it is very, not in the context of what we are talking,

21:16but in the sense that they occupy a very central position in a man's life.

21:23In that sense that.

21:24Vice versa.

21:25Yeah.

21:27I am talking about my own, so, ascension, because on one hand, just putting the whole

21:40thing across, I have not, it has just come right now, so it is taking time, the whole

21:47thing is that, on one hand, when the third trait has been shown so clearly, then there

21:58is a desire to ascend as soon as possible, because surely the suffering is a lot here.

22:06But on the other hand, what counter-question is coming, is that if I ascend, then I might

22:14just totally lose my ability to, my want to be with a woman.

22:24No, right now, given your position, you want to be with the kind of woman that your position

22:37portrays and sketches, your position paints a particular woman of your dreams and desires,

22:49and you want her, when you ascend, then your position will bring you to another kind of

22:58woman.

23:00Sir, you told in the Rishis, there was apt environment, where the Rishis could arise,

23:09so what are the dangers that environment can get destroyed, or what are the external, something

23:15from external thing happened, or something within happened, so this goes away, this fades

23:22away.

23:23What are the dangers to that environment and that state?

23:29The wrong forces in power, you have a king who decides to just clear the forests of the

23:43Rishis cottages, burn them down, hack them down, destroy the libraries, destroy the institutions,

23:54the systems, you can require worldly patronage as well, you require the right worldly forces

24:06to wield power, could we be having this discussion in an environment that legally forbids talking

24:23sense, talking freedom, and talking freedom post midnight, so even for the internal growth

24:37or liberation, you do require a favorable conducive external climate, so who holds the

24:51reins of power becomes quite relevant, the society must learn to value the right forces,

25:00the right people, and the ones with authority must really be seers and sages, if the ones

25:18wielding authority are very ignorant and mediocre individuals with very ordinary desires

25:31and intentions, then the entire society will suffer, they must know what to patronize,

25:48what to suppress, and tender things always require delicate hands to protect and nourish them.

26:00Not everything can be left to coincidence or the market, certain things have to be nourished

26:09very deliberately, purposefully, the market or random accidents will not create a work

26:23of art or something very extraordinary, if you want something extraordinary like liberation

26:34to happen in the society, then you have to take extraordinary care as a society, as they

26:41say you leave enough monkeys with enough tea pads, and within an hour one of them will

26:58compose all the works of Shakespeare, all you need is enough monkeys, enough, then just

27:09as a matter of probability, one of them will equal Shakespeare, but do you want to leave

27:21things to probability, no, if you really want to produce Shakespeare's, then you need good institutions,

27:31you need authorities who have that vision, who know what to bring up, in what way, who

27:39know whom to accord respect to, whom to assign power to, you need that kind of a society

27:47that chooses the right kinds of rulers, brings up the right kind of institutions, otherwise

27:54you are depending just too much on chance.

27:57Meaning those who will have the economics in their hands will determine the culture.

28:04Yes, to a great extent, to a great extent, see it's no coincidence that the rulers themselves

28:13were educated by the sages, so that was the quality and the pedigree of the rulers, now

28:29if you are being sired by a sage, what do you do when you ascend to the throne, you

28:37respect the sages, you accord them power, you give them the resources that they need,

28:44and you would value what they value, there would be a resonance in values, you will create

28:51an ecosystem where more such, where more such sages can prosper, yes.

28:57So you said the economics drives the values, but isn't a lot of desire for economics or

29:08desire for wealth rooted in bad values, so I guess my question is how can we expect people

29:17who use any possible mean to get wealth, to suddenly change and propagate different

29:27values and what got them to wealth.

29:31See, there can be obviously no formula, but remember that those in positions of authority

29:40do depend on the society to some extent at least to catapult them to authority, so the

29:51society has to determine what kind of rulers it would have, and if the society is sane,

30:04then it will bring the type of people to power who would economically and otherwise patronize

30:19the right institutions and the right people, so if your question is, but how would that

30:25happen, how to get the society to that, to get the society to do that you have to teach

30:30the society, but who teach the society if the conditions are adverse, the chicken or

30:36the egg thing, then in such a situation you require a miracle, because what we are talking

30:45of is a system, we are talking of is the sage as a product of the system, which will not

30:54always be, we are talking of a situation in which the system produces the sage or the

30:59system encourages the sage, and then the sage nourishes and cleanses the system, but

31:07that will not always be, then what do you require, then I said you require a miracle,

31:11then you require the kind of sage, who remains a sage irrespective of an adverse system,

31:24the system is adverse, the rulers are all stupid and vile, and still this person or

31:32group of persons exists and in face of adversity impacts the society strongly enough to change

31:45their choices, but again if you are asking for this, then you are asking for a de facto

31:54miracle and you cannot command miracles to happen, miracles may or may not happen, miracles

32:00do happen, it's a matter of grace, but you cannot depend on them.

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