Women's bondage and liberation || Acharya Prashant (2018)

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00:00So, talking about women since we are talking about their you know area of pain in this

00:11case mostly.

00:13You know coming to workforce when it comes to women I have seen that again taking a very

00:20close example I do have few women leaders in my family and of course, your friend circles

00:26you do have them.

00:28I have seen women constantly negating their own.

00:32Situation.

00:34Sense of leadership in the sense that you know I mean like I was just telling him as

00:41well that you know in Lenin the book that was written by Sheryl Sandberg the CEO of

00:46Facebook.

00:47So, she had given this very beautiful example of you know when a man is to be promoted versus

00:54a woman in the workforce the man would be looked at for his potential while the woman

00:59would be looked at for her past experience how you know does she basically fare.

01:07And what happens is women would as far as raising the hands in the class you would see

01:11more of men they are intelligent great that is a great company to have, but sometimes

01:17they are not even that amazing, but they always have this air of you know you will see in

01:22classes while women even if they might know the right answer they would refrain from raising

01:27the hands they would be absolutely plagued with self-doubt.

01:32So, I have seen this across I know again we are you know if we talk about the macro sense

01:39it is really you transcend gender right there is no man, woman, nothing like that, but the

01:45whole point is that if you are talking like you know if we are talking the level of when

01:52I see everyday women around me.

01:54So, I see across whether they are young women, middle aged women, whether they are elderly

01:58women they would keep denying their own sense of ownership at the same time you know they

02:05have this fear of being called tagged as you know bossy if they are able to maybe express

02:11themselves forthrightly or in a very you know I mean outright fashion.

02:15So, again I do understand the source you would come back to is I thought I just.

02:22There are two aspects to it you must address both of them one aspect is she is not allowed

02:35to the other aspect is she thinks she does not need to raise her hand and both these

02:49are within her mind and both these have entered her mind from somewhere not allowed to is

02:58obvious.

03:00The second one is subtle and we probably may begin with this and find deeper inside.

03:12The way we train our girls and even before we train our girls the way prakriti physical

03:25nature mother nature not spiritual nature physical nature the way our bodies are constituted

03:33configured the way our hormones are there are so many species in which the female is

03:46not the provider even in human beings if you see it's a bare fact we must accept it.

03:57It may or may not confirm to the popular ideologies currently invoked but facts are facts.

04:13So, the way the female is configured biologically she is supposed to be alright with spending

04:34a lot of time in the nest supposed to supposed to be biologically not by way of consciousness

04:44but by way of the body this indicates a movement out of the nest do you see this the girl is

04:56comfortably sitting in the classroom and the body is the nest what does this indicate?

05:02I want to break out of the nest.

05:03I want to break out of the nest the teacher ask something I am saying I know or I want

05:08to ask I want to inquiry I want to inquire now both knowledge and inquiry are not things

05:15of the body they are things of the consciousness body wants neither knowledge and the body

05:25does not want to inquire even if the body seeks knowledge all it wants knowledge of

05:31is things that are related to physical sustenance right the body for example will have very

05:40little interest in stuff like history or science yes if somebody says I have two slices of

05:49pizza who wants it then the body will raise its hand but if somebody is dealing with something

05:56else in the body is not interested now the girl is born and that's the way her body is

06:04already configured and then how do we raise her and what do we teach her are we teaching

06:10her the way of consciousness or are we teaching her the way of the body and you are teaching

06:17her the way of the body now how is it surprising that she does not want to participate much

06:23in the process of knowledge or inquiry I have this little one at home and happened

06:36to visit the shopping mall with him and clothes were being bought so I noticed that even at

06:47that age girls apparels little clothes very this size hmm they were probably twice or thrice as

06:57expensive oh yes as that of little boys yeah that what is the philosophy behind that the philosophy

07:07behind that is that you are a girl oh and you must spend more of your resources towards your body

07:15money is a resource right yes yes yes so the boy can save the money for the books the boy can save

07:24the money for the books but you you listen you girl if you have got two thousand bucks all of

07:32that two thousand must go towards the dress now the boy can happily have the dress in 600 bucks

07:39and with the remaining 1400 he can buy books or toys or something else maybe a ticket to the museum

07:47maybe a ticket to the adventure show or to the library the girl is supposed to invest herself

07:54fully in her looks and her body and her cosmetics and all those things now that's the way the entire

08:03dispensation is raising her right and the same girl who was in that merchandise shop the previous

08:13evening goes to school the next morning and there she does not raise her hand how do we find it

08:18surprising that's the instance you know it has to be taken in the new spirit yes if you want to

08:27counter it it's very easy to counter it I expect some empathy when you know these examples are

08:34being rolled out because one would make sense of them only if there is a certain listening so these

08:43things are happening you know even right now you know nothing personal here but I am wearing

08:51something close to black you are wearing pink that's true I can't help it that pink is a color

08:59that attracts me I am very attracted like I really appreciate darker colors but for serene moments I

09:09do choose lighter colors but then again yeah where does why not purple right? Colors are just colors I mean they are

09:16wavelengths right yeah but the fact is that firstly yeah pink is the color of the nest pink is the

09:24color of the newborn baby yeah right so Prakriti is already pushing you towards pink and then what

09:33is the entire commercial dispensation doing it's bombarding you with pink you want to buy clothes

09:41half of the choices are just in pink the other half in red then the remaining ones in maybe white

09:47then remaining 10% if you are very particular about diversity you will get in other colors so

09:54that's what is happening with the girls all the time and you have to remember in all this that

10:00boys and girls are not born alike we are born differently and it is the responsibility of our

10:11parents and educators to rid us of our body identification the girl should be raised to be

10:21less of a girl the boy has to be raised to be less of a boy but instead of that happening

10:29the girl is raised to become more of a girl and the boy becomes more of a boy and in this we must

10:36firstly acknowledge that equality is a very puerile myth girls and boys are different but that difference

10:50that inborn that innate difference has to be very wisely very creatively sublimated

11:03dissolved not amplified we amplify that we amplify that so what does the woman become

11:13the woman becomes a hyper woman the man becomes a hyper man profound and then both of these exploit

11:21each other so in some sense then the girl says I do not need to raise my hand because what will I

11:29do with knowledge my role is to be the one in the nest my role is to make the bed and lay the eggs

11:42and bring up the kids what will I do with Newton's laws and they're so guilty when they are in the

11:49workforce they are so torn they are so guilty when they are giving their 5000% here and they

11:55have a baby probably just you know vying for attention and they have that you know I mean

12:00completely overpowering their entire work ethic you know a scary part here even that baby came

12:08out of a conditional obligation when I say conditional I mean something arising out of

12:16your conditioning yes absolutely you are conditioned to have a baby conditioned by the two forces

12:24physical the body cries out for the baby and much more than physical social voices around you are

12:33constantly reminding you reminding is a soft word pushing you oh yes pushing you to have a

12:41baby like I came back to my hometown after I don't know how many years because have always been away

12:48and no matter where I go Tauji's place Mausaji's place everywhere beta shadi kap karoge beta and

12:57it was the hottest topic

13:02when you have no right purpose in your life all that you have in your life is sex if you are 65

13:11now and you cannot physically ingratiate yourself with sex then you want to intrude into the sexual

13:20lives of others younger ones so what do you do you keep poking your nose in the matters of others

13:28you keep asking others about their private matters and sexual lives otherwise what does

13:35one mature adult have to do with these very very personal decisions of another mature adult even

13:44asking for certain things seeking certain information is trespassing it is absolutely

13:51it is simply a violation it's an infringement and it's not civil at all it's not civil if we are if

14:00we are if we are cultured people there are certain questions we would never ask but we are not

14:08cultured we are driven by conditioning that's the difference between conditioning and culture

14:13by the way you know culture is the force that reduces the stranglehold of conditioning on the

14:21person but we are not cultured we are just conditioned even in the name of culture what

14:28we get is conditioning that's what people are doing all the time and that's and it's so weird

14:36because I tell them you don't even know who I am in the sense like who I am at my core you don't

14:42know me like who are you yeah they do not know their own core how will they know your core and

14:47also again just to complete the story the way we have narrated it so far it appears that only the

14:56women are victims the story is a bit different now you are indoctrinating the girl into that

15:06kind of a role you you stay in the nest and you look pretty and you raise the kids and all those

15:13things she suffers right because no person male or female is born to do that she suffers and then

15:24she would take the suffering out on the nearest person possible and that person would either be

15:32the kids or the spouse so it's not as if a man exploiting a woman would be in a happy space not

15:41at all the woman is as much of a person as a man is and this person would avenge herself in ways

15:53direct or indirect and that's going to happen one of the ways of avenging herself is now that you

16:00didn't allow me to be properly educated you fetch me the money oh yes and I'll burn the money you

16:13were the one who restricted me to the house the revenge life so fine I'll stay in the house but

16:21I'll burn the money so you bring me the money and my job will be to shop it hits home Acharya ji

16:27I've literally you're literally so this binge shopping if you visit shopping malls during the

16:36weekdays you you'll hardly find any men the men are all busy working 80% of the crowd there is

16:44female now that is revenge shopping hmm he's at the job she's at the shop absolutely yes why

16:55didn't you allow me to be at the job weekend shopping is revenge shopping weekday shopping

17:00weekend the men are also pulled by the scruff into the mall oh yeah you come along with me

17:07and carry the bags yes yes yes yes but weekdays the men are all you know I know I am terribly

17:14generalizing but I hope something is coming out of it I very well know that there are couples in

17:22the the woman is working and the man is sitting at home true all those things are there I know

17:27but this generalization is very deliberate and it is to make a point so excuse me this generalization

17:38but it makes some sense so that is what is happening you know you exploit someone you cannot

17:45remain at peace after the exploitation or during the exploitation man exploits woman the woman too

17:53is bound to exploit the man it's not possible that one just plays the victim the victim is because

18:01the victim has her own points of power she's at the home she controls the home she has the kids

18:09the kids are more affiliated to her so there are several ways in which she can you know turn a few

18:16handles it's not good for either of them not good for either of them and what's the root cause the

18:24root cause is not man the root cause is all pervasive spiritual ignorance which is turning

18:31the man into a man and a woman into a woman which is not allowing either of them to realize their

18:38conscious nature the woman is not supposed to be a woman you have decked her up turned her into a

18:47doll and and now one can't even talk to her as a person you have to talk to her as a woman and if

18:54you talk to her as a person the terrible thing is the woman herself gets offended she'll say you

19:03don't know how to talk to a woman but I'm talking to a person yeah oh my god yeah I'm talking to a

19:08person and she says you don't know how to talk to a woman now what is this if you are so steeped

19:14in your identity as a woman how will you ever transcend yourself same with men obviously you

19:21you you console a man after a while the man starts feeling awkward men are not supposed to be

19:27consoled you know so he'll say okay okay fine fine I'm fine I'm fine he's not fine obviously but he

19:33doesn't want to be seen as a weakling I'm fine so women should not proclaim you know chivalry is

19:39dead expecting the man to open the I mean why would you just see you're just contradicting

19:45yourself basically the more women demand privileges for themselves the more they are confining

19:54themselves to their womanhood and if they are they are they are reinforcing their womanhood so much

19:59then they are reinforcing their own prison so all these things you know reservation in buses or in

20:06trains I mean come on we are we are grown-ups right exactly you you look at the the the numbers

20:16in athletics or something I mean let's look at the 100 meter sprint right men do it in what what's

20:24the Olympic record world record 9.87 seconds or something how far behind are the women not very

20:30far behind so are modern well-fed well-bred mature women really so physically weak that they require

20:41reserved seats in buses that should not happen and I'm not saying that as a man I'm saying that as

20:47a as a well-wisher of all human beings because if you're doing that that's bad for the woman and

20:52that's bad for the man that's bad for everybody right I understand the the situations in public

21:00buses I know how people behave and all those things we must have separate mechanisms to deal

21:07with cases of misbehavior or physical trespassing we must have separate ways but these things you

21:16know how does it honor a woman to say this seat is for for the elderly the handicapped and women

21:27how do women enjoy being bracketed with the elderly and the handicapped and I'm talking of

21:36sturdy strong women I'm talking of of the of the modern girl why should she partake in this

21:46nonsense at the same time how do you then Acharya ji know that okay if I'm not expecting my man you

21:55don't need to open the door for me or you don't need to you know I mean take up the seat for me

22:00then how do I know that we are treating each other right like you know who are you before you

22:05know whether you are being treated rightly you should know who you are who are you are you a

22:12woman then you would try to be treated rightly in a womanly way in a womanly way but if you are that

22:22suffering old consciousness we have been talking of then you would want a man who elevates your

22:28consciousness absolutely and the man would then seek a woman or a man or anybody even as a friend

22:35or as a teacher or as a companion or whatever a barter system of who helps raise and purify define

22:42his consciousness you know even if you are seeking a sexual partner you would have some idea of or

22:52you'd give some weightage to the fact that what is this person going to do to my mind to my

22:59consciousness that value system that your consciousness is far more valuable than the

23:11fact of your body or biology that's not been driven into us and that will not come naturally

23:17that has to come through education education provided by either the family or the institution

23:25but they both are doing a dismal job of it but they both are doing pathetic job no doubt so so we are

23:32just you know hitting each other killing each other running amok we are all being violent towards each

23:40other it's not that the woman is being exploited only by the man the woman is being exploited also

23:46by the woman and the and the man is exploiting the child the woman is exploiting the child in

23:51some other way it's an entire network an entire ecosystem in which all are exploiters because all

23:57are ignorant and the root cause again is the absence of real education so does pay parity

24:07this this debate that really you know gain this traction pay parity between you know gender

24:14inequality I am not even talking of pay parity in my organization there are women who get paid

24:22much more than men men at similar positions men of similar age and there are times when they don't

24:30get paid as much as the men now that you're saying it has never even occurred to me that I should

24:36look at gender before deciding on their paycheck it depends on how well you have done it depends

24:43on whether you have been true to your potential it depends on so many things one thing it doesn't

24:49depend on is your gender so see there are certain things obviously you have to take care of if if a

24:58girl is working till late in the night obviously given the social conditions we'll want to get her

25:06drop back to her place so that much the organization will ensure maybe if it's a it's a male we won't

25:13be that careful we will say fine pick up your vehicle and go on your own and that's all right

25:16even if you have to travel up to the next city 40 kilometers you will manage so in that sense

25:22obviously we too are partisan we are biased towards the women when it comes to providing

25:31physical security and all I think that's quite fair but when it comes to assessment on how they

25:38are doing gender is very irrelevant and gender should be irrelevant the scary part here is even

25:47the women want the gender to be relevant now that's that's not not they're not out rightly

25:53saying it but they're acting in a way or representing themselves in a way that shrieks

25:59from the rooftops that you are I'm a woman so I deserve special consideration you won't get it

26:08you

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