Married at First Sight UK S9 Episode 22
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00:00We just have the best time previously I made love to my woman, okay
00:07While some recommitted to the process I want to spend the rest of my life with you
00:13Others felt the strain. I'm questioning if I'm able to sustain a relationship with someone of PMDD
00:20This is why I prepare myself for the worst
00:24For Casper, I need the emotional side first before the intimate side intimacy became a bone of contention
00:30It almost felt like sex was a sales pitch and when a secret was exposed
00:35Have they not been sneakily kissing?
00:38You are a stinking liar. It sealed the fate of two marriages. Why do I want him to speak to this girl?
00:44leave
00:45At that moment. I knew I could not stand him
00:50Just get me out of here, please. He definitely lacks any shred of integrity
00:55Leave but it was Alex's reactions snake
01:00Talking shit, man. I like that sparked conflict with Sasha
01:03I've watched you attack the women and it's because I didn't like it Alex and trouble for her own marriage
01:09It doesn't feel like Ross has my back. My drama is your drama. I'm not gonna tolerate it
01:15Tonight
01:18I'm interested to see what you don't like about me. Honey. There's a lot more than what you think there is
01:22It's love hate week. Good luck. Good luck. You're gonna need it where honesty is crucial lack of intimacy
01:30You lack depth. Does that mean for some couples at museums? It draws them closer together
01:36Is it the most romantic thing someone's ever done for you? Yeah, I am feeling quite giddy. It's just
01:44I'm gonna give you
01:46But others can't even get the task off the ground. I'm really unhappy
01:51Going home today. Why?
01:54Get me out of there. I am NOT running after my buddy
01:58Whilst Sasha and Ross and he went to see this throws it up the wall face their biggest challenge yet
02:04I am NOT comfortable with you being in this apartment. I am gonna struggle to recover from this
02:11It's my head
02:15Oh
02:25Good morning
02:28I felt something hard last night. Oh
02:32That's not magical is it
02:36Why does everything you say sound sexual I don't know why I'm just saying so
02:40This way it's morning at the apartments and the couples are reflecting on an eventful commitment ceremony
02:47That was the most
02:49emotionally intense
02:51Commitment ceremony that we've ever had. Yeah, I'm gonna miss Austin. I'm gonna miss Rochelle. I'm gonna Stephen's in this Hannah
02:56I just couldn't believe how so many how many people got involved. It's oof the snog. Oh my god the snog
03:02I thought I'll snog was big
03:06We had a good couch thing we had a good couch we're good
03:09What were your thoughts? No, we've been doing stuff to work on. It's anything like last week would be making strides
03:17For like the whole ending for me
03:20It definitely it was all uncomfortable on it. Mm-hmm. No way Alex spoke to me was like not okay
03:26That actually really upset me. Yeah, I'm percent
03:29It does make you think
03:31You know
03:33Is this how he's been speaking to Holly?
03:36Yeah, hopefully not
03:39I
03:44Spent the night away from Alex last night and this morning I woke up and I'm just physically drained
03:51After the commitment ceremony
03:53Alex really upset me. He'd been so disrespectful to all the girls
03:58It talked to him in a way, which is just not acceptable. That's just reminding me that we're not always good
04:05Me and Holly spent last night apart
04:08It does feel a bit weird not having Holly here
04:11Since Holly left the apartment. We haven't spoken. So I don't know where her heads at
04:22After the commitment ceremony, I was really annoyed with Alex. It's just bang out of order
04:27Me and Ross we go into a bit of conflict because I'm really feeling like Ross didn't have my back and
04:33Then actually just spent the night in separate apartments
04:37Last night. I got a text from Alec then. Thanks for coming up for a shot, but we speak to status to you and I'd
04:45Out of respect for me. I shown her the text to got annoyed. I mean statues argue. I got wild up right now
04:53I
05:07Just want to pop in and check you're okay after the commitment ceremony
05:12Are you just saying yourself? I hear myself. Yeah. Yeah, are you you okay? Yeah, so
05:18Take a seat. I hope you've got a wall
05:21After the commitment ceremony Ross when I spoke to Alex and
05:26Had a man-to-man
05:28Said you shouldn't spoke to me that way she spoke to the other girls that way when Ross got back
05:33I like sent a text saying I'm gonna speak to Sasha as soon as even though we still hasn't and
05:39I'm only
05:41Doing it out of respect for you
05:44No
05:45No, that's not okay and Ross had put back like oh, thanks so much bro
05:49Love are not really seen the slowness in that text cuz okay Ross is the best in everyone
05:55So I was trying to explain to him that in a nice text
05:58He's still kind of been a little bit of a bitch to you missus. Yeah
06:02Right, so then Ross responds. We've oh, I can't be friends with anyone
06:07And then grabs his suitcase and I mean, oh this doesn't say a word to me. Shan
06:13Are you talking about his two suitcases shots putting all these trainers in great?
06:17And he went you see this throws it up the wall honest to God honest to God and I'm giving Ross
06:23What's going on? Talk to me. He's doing this
06:26Sorry, what so he just so he can't read me. So he's doing what and I'm
06:31It was it was awful
06:36Do you want to sort things out like honestly do you want sort out?
06:40We'll just have to see what he's got to say I suppose but yeah, if he thinks he's just gonna drop it
06:45I'm sorry, and that's it. He's moving back. You know, no, no, no chance like he needs to grow up
06:51Oh, yeah, like truly needs to grow up. Oh
06:57Don't a double tea bag just one, please. They're very strong aren't they got an extra sugar one would be nice. Thank you
07:04I try to be intimate with Christina last night
07:07But obviously with what's going on in my mind, I just wasn't there I don't know where my head space is that I
07:14Hope we can both turn this around and I know that starts by
07:18Being honest with Christina as as these thoughts are coming through my head. There's not enough nice words to describe Christina
07:24There's not and I'll never ever have a bad way to say about her ever
07:29Thanks
07:32The commitment ceremony was a lot was Annette in a lot of ways. Yeah
07:39There's stuff where we are very different. Okay, I understand that. I think that's why I'm struggling. Yeah, that's fine
07:46At the moment. It's just not it's just not there for you, which is okay
07:53Everyone wants a relationship work. We're gonna really really well
07:56We're full of crack but things come up in relationships like through life
08:00You've got to work through the obstacles to get
08:04to get the good stuff
08:07thing is I really
08:09When I say I care about you, I mean I fucking care about you and I know you do care about you a lot
08:16There's definitely a spark between me and Karen. I know he cares for me and
08:21I'm not ready to let that spark die
08:26I
08:29Will be right rainbow
08:41That's the door how do you want to do it?
08:45For any marriage to thrive it's important that couples accept both the things they love
08:50This is key to this our first one and the things they're loveless about their partner
08:55Yeah, Adam and Pauline today marks the start of love-hate week
08:59Love-hate week gives our couples the opportunity to discuss both aspects with unflinching
09:05Honesty a successful marriage is all about balance
09:08Spot-on only by acknowledging all aspects of a partner both good and bad that marriages truly grow with a foundation of honesty and acceptance
09:17With a foundation of honesty and acceptance there's three things you dislike about your husband or wife
09:25You must share this list with each other and then try to think of ways that will help address these issues
09:30There's three things you love about your husband or wife three things
09:34Three you must share this list with each other to help to celebrate the things you must admire or like in your partner
09:41You're gonna struggle thinking things you hate about me. This is gonna be a very hard task for me hates a strong word for me
09:48You think it's gonna be hard to find three things you like or three. I need more can I do five?
09:56I've never quite fun. I'm interested to see what you don't like about me because I can't imagine as many things
10:02Honey, there's a lot more than what you think there is
10:05Yeah, I'm gonna go get away and do mine, okay, good luck. Good luck. You're gonna need it
10:11Today the couple's will be starting with the hardest part of the task sharing the things they dislike about each other
10:18Sometimes I feel like you're a little bit dishonest with me. Oh
10:25You do sort of put on a little bit of the show feel like when you are doing that sometimes
10:29In front of people it's making a little bit of distance between those two didn't feel
10:34You know, I do straight away in the group. It took me back to that classroom vibes
10:39I was young let's go like not cool enough. Not funny enough. So I
10:43Yeah, I put on my entertainer mask and like I can see how you would look at me
10:47But this is not the same person that woke up next to me in bed
10:51I'm sorry, I understand how that would make you feel. Yeah, I
10:56Just feel like I want us to be a team and I want us
10:59We can only be a team if we're truthful and honest with each other. Yeah
11:08Okay, so
11:12You've lacked depth you lack depth what's that mean sometimes
11:17When we're having a conversation and I feel like you're very robust
11:21Thing is I do have ADHD. Yeah
11:24And I do have communication difficulties, but I don't know ever lean on it or blame it. You know, I'm glad that you've said that
11:31In my head. I'm just like, oh, he's not verbally
11:34Telling me, you know how much he likes me or x y & z. That's how I've been on my life
11:39Yeah, this is all yeah all preparing us to get stronger and go from strength to strength and help us
11:45So I don't like it when sometimes you compare me to other guys
11:49Sometimes you've mentioned it like I would be nice if if like you were like that or you were this way and
11:54It does make me feel like quite sad like to hear that, you know, because like I'm
11:59Not them
12:00When I compare is when they're
12:03I'm not the same person
12:05I'm not the same person. I'm not the same person. I'm not the same person
12:10I
12:12Definitely am romantic, but I think in certain areas I could have probably been more romantic. Maybe a bit more spontaneous. Yeah
12:19Do you want a cuddle?
12:21No, no, no
12:24Oh
12:26Shall I go first hit me with it? Okay. You don't tell me i'm beautiful
12:34Because I feel like I hear it from everyone else
12:38And I don't think I'm beautiful
12:40I don't think I'm beautiful
12:43I don't think I'm beautiful
12:45I don't think I'm beautiful
12:48I don't think I'm beautiful
12:50I don't think I'm beautiful
12:52From everyone else
12:55And I don't think i've ever heard you
12:58Compliment me like on a more personal level like I get you look nice or that looks nice
13:04I never get
13:05Something deeper i've never been very
13:09Complimentary
13:10But I know it's something that needs to be done because
13:13It's so easy to say things
13:15that's
13:17That's a good one
13:20My next one you're not very romantic
13:24I don't know
13:27I feel like you're very thoughtful
13:30But I don't you need more romance. Yeah
13:33I'd like you to buy me flowers like i'd like you to do like more
13:38Dinners or be like shall we go and do this or like do you know what I mean?
13:41Because I know you give me a lot of stuff, but I just yeah, I don't
13:45Feel you're very romantic
13:48See for me it's more it's something that i've never done before so it is something that I do need to work on
13:54Yeah
13:55You ready? Are you ready for yours? I am. Yeah, go on
14:01You are opinionated
14:04This is something that i've never had before i've never had someone be so
14:07Yeah straight to the point and honest about people where i'm literally literally like
14:11Yeah, no, I know like sometimes I could feel sorry for people that get in the way of you because you are so opinionated. Yeah
14:18So I do have to maybe into in some situations
14:22Just think before I speak and think of how it's going to make you feel. Yeah, I don't know whether it's your voice or what
14:28Just need to think about how I approach it instead of being so
14:33Yeah
14:34You know what I mean in someone's face or just my tone of voice. Has anyone ever said that to you before though?
14:38Has anyone ever said that to you before though?
14:40Everyone. Oh, so it's not new to you. Everyone knows you're opinionated. Yeah
14:46That's cool then because you are very opinionated
15:02Hello
15:06Oh god
15:08Right now I don't know. What's that you're feeling? I just want to see you have a normal chat nice and calm
15:15Can we all smooth things over? I mean everyone's having arguments though. This is the biggest one
15:21Hi
15:23Okay, not not really ross. No. Oh not really
15:29Um
15:30I think we could have a chat, you know
15:32Obviously we calm down though and now you've decided you want to chat
15:37No, you know you have so so you're not gonna so you're not gonna do this now
15:40No, do I actually get a conversation now? None of this because if you sat here now and I went
15:46I'm not listening. How would you feel? I would like it. Yeah, because that's what you've done to me last night. Yeah
15:51I get that. Yeah, um, I just want to
15:55Yeah
15:57I was wrong got me when I came in I should have
16:01Spoken to you
16:02Listen this all started because you said to me I can't be friends with anyone
16:08Yeah, I said that. Yeah, you did. I did bullshit
16:12And I kept saying to you ross for the split second. You was looking at me ross
16:16If you want to leave that is okay, but you at least owe me a conversation before you leave. No, no
16:23Wedding ring fall across
16:26I currently I am not comfortable with you being in this apartment
16:32I honestly don't know where me and ross are gonna go if i'm here because if you can never see
16:36How hurt I was and have the empathy to
16:40Really understand my point of view. I don't know how i'm gonna go forward
16:45Do you fucked up and you made your decision what do I go from that? It's not very comfortable
16:51I don't know. Don't know. Sorry. I had no chance of working out
16:54I don't know at the minute ross to be honest because that was really
16:58Really messed up in my opinion
17:01I am gonna struggle to recover from this
17:05It's fucked up my head and made me wonder if I can see a future with someone like that
17:14I'm sorry
17:39Give me yours
17:42It's love hate week and the couples have started with the challenge of telling one another their dislikes
17:48You better don't be that bad. I'm just glad you sat back and you're not gonna fall down
17:57Lifestyle differences. Yeah. Yeah
18:00just because
18:02There'll be times where i'm going absolutely not i'm knacking and you're going right I want to go for a
18:07drink with the girls and then a bottomless branch in london and i'm going
18:10I just want to sit at home take my dogs for a walk and have a relaxed day
18:14You'd be nfi'd with drinks with the girls
18:17No, i'm joking. But yes, I think there are big differences in how
18:22we live our lives and uh
18:24What we enjoy doing I realized that I live quite a vivacious life that I would never want you to just follow me around
18:32There are things that in my head. They're holding me back. Yeah. Yeah, and this is one of them
18:37Okay, right first one I don't think will come as a surprise
18:43Lack of intimacy
18:45fair enough
18:46You've openly said you struggle with intimacy
18:48You still struggle with intimacy and i'm jealous of the other couples, you know
18:53I'm fully aware that any intimacy between us has to be initiated from me and I haven't since that point
18:59Done much and i'm fully aware that yeah
19:01It's a fair critique
19:03completely fair comment
19:06So
19:08Something I hate is your music choice
19:13Right
19:14That's fucking ridiculous. My music taste is way better than yours. Is it?
19:19Is it okay? Mr. Pink pink Coldplay take that appalling me singing's better as well
19:26Right. I have said
19:31The distance
19:33Obviously we spoke about me moving to manchester
19:36but
19:38It's gonna be hard for me being away from my family. You know how close I am with my sister
19:41I don't know why i'm getting emotional
19:43I understand that
19:45It'd be hard for you because you still got your mom and everything but I will support you through that
19:51It'll be free rent for you
19:53Come here
20:04I'm excited to go on a little date with you. I've planned something
20:07Out of the ordinary a bit fun a bit more hands-on
20:10Having already revealed their dislikes to one another luke has arranged a special date with amy to discuss their loves
20:17Definitely me and amy will benefit from some one-to-one quality time
20:20I've chosen pottery on the basis of amy telling me that she used to do it with her grandfather. I don't know how good i'm gonna be
20:27You're probably better than me. It's just a bit of well, I like using my hands, don't I? Yes
20:33Luke arranging the pottery day for a date today is really thoughtful
20:37I have mentioned it to him in the past that my nana and granddad used to take me
20:41so
20:42Hello
20:43Oh, look what's happened now
20:46I thought you were good with your hands. I'm looking forward to
20:50Building back some romance with amy after having to go through the hates with her. So we did our hates last time
20:58And i'm thinking whilst we're spinning this looking into the void
21:02Could you come up with um three things that you love about um your husband and your marriage
21:09I think so. Yeah, what are they?
21:12I love that you're funny
21:15You always make me laugh
21:16Sometimes I feel like you laugh at me as opposed to with me, but I actually like that
21:20I like when you laugh not all the time, but most times. Yeah
21:25The thing I love about you
21:27Is that you're very supportive. I feel like that's why we've been matched
21:30Maybe because we're both caring and supportive. Yeah, you're really supportive as well
21:34That's nice to hear. Yeah. Another thing I really like about you
21:39is
21:40That you're like very classy in the streets and like a freak in the streets
21:44I like that can just be like a wild animal with you and you you you'll take that and
21:50Yeah
21:52Let's say you're a black swan
21:54Okay, that's quite nice with a long neck
21:57Sorry, I got distracted. I destroyed my piece again. My blood's boiling
22:03I'm still a bit next it's a bit hot in here, isn't it? Oh my god
22:09Just what are you doing? I'm just gonna have you tried to use that that one there that tool
22:14Yeah that one try and use that one
22:21Hello
22:23Hello
22:34I don't really feel like luke is aware of my boundaries
22:45I feel like he's very open. I mean, I love that for him, but it's just not my vibe
22:51You can like sit on my chair, but if you want
22:54I like that
22:56I don't want to feel any objects on my back
23:01I can sit on your chair all day
23:04Replace the word chair
23:13You say it like a serial killer
23:16I don't sound like that at all. This activity is making me my blood's boiling
23:20I mean, I can't I still like smelling like a cheshire cat, but it's very difficult. You know, it's very hard not just the clay
23:27Oh my days
23:30I'm getting hot and sweaty feeling uncomfortable
23:34I think luke's getting hot and sweaty in here a different way
23:38This is definitely brought us closer. I think this is very special to me. Yeah. I've had a good day. Thank you. I have to
23:45What are you doing? I just like to take my time. Come here. I like to take my time
23:50Where would I rush? Come on
23:54Just kiss me
24:04Hello
24:04I've got your text. What's wrong? Oh, I just need a chat
24:08I just really need to speak to my girl right now. She knows that i've been quiet
24:13And I think it's about time I tell her what's been going on
24:16So why are you at home with the apartment with him after the commitment ceremony?
24:20we had a major argument because I just don't like the way you were spoken to and
24:25What upset me the most was like after the commitment ceremony said to me what's wrong with you?
24:29and I said i'm really missing my children that looks like
24:33And he just went fuck this can't be asked for this and walked off
24:38That's that's out of order what is him saying that yeah, but he knows that your kids are your life
24:43Yeah, and if he's with you he's with your kids
24:45Yeah
24:51Yes
24:58So, how have you been what's been going on
25:01I've been okay. Yeah
25:04Me and holly didn't spend the night together last night after the commitment ceremony
25:08I think the whole process is just overwhelming for her to be fair
25:13And she's missing the kids, too
25:14I think she's kind of dealt with it quite well up until now
25:17Do you know what I mean? Because I think anyone who's in here with kids, it must be really really hard
25:22Yeah, so I think it's just hit her maybe all at once but you know for me I cannot
25:28Relate to what she's feeling right now. I don't have those fatherly instincts
25:34Because i'm not a dad yet
25:36So, what does um alex thinks going on right now
25:39I think i'm just feeling down about the kids and stuff, but the reason I wanted to speak to you is yeah
25:44I'm going home today
25:47You're actually yeah don't
25:51Why
25:55Listen to me I need to have some time to think
26:00I understand obviously why they were doing it. I'm sorry. Don't be sorry
26:06So i'm gonna go home today
26:08And just have a little bit of a think
26:10And then i'll be coming back. Okay
26:13It's just got really bad now. It's like i'm really unhappy. I'm not myself
26:18Sometimes time is good. You know, they say time's a great healer
26:22So maybe this time away just help you get bring more clarity what you truly want
26:28I think I just need to go home and see my babies
26:30Get my head clear of what I want exactly
26:36I can imagine it's kind of thrown you slightly. So where's your head at now?
26:39I mean, I haven't messaged her or anything because i'm just thinking you're the one that's chosen to spend time away from me
26:45So when you're ready, you'll contact me. I am not
26:48Running after nobody. Okay, but you should be the one to maybe reach out if I wanted space from somebody
26:53I take my space and when i'm ready to talk to him i'm gonna go talk to him
26:57I'm telling you what a woman would want in this position
27:00I shouldn't have to tell him that he needs to come and comfort me when i've said that i'm upset and I feel a bit
27:05shit
27:06Do you miss having her there? Do you miss?
27:08Her doing things for you. Do you miss having a laugh like
27:12Do you feel like you miss her? I do care about her. Yeah
27:16But it's do you care about her enough?
27:18Yeah, that's the question
27:21me and holly are good, you know, everything's there but
27:24To get through this whole process. We need each other
27:28Me and alex are just not getting on i'm gonna go home. I need some space
27:33Get me out of here
27:36So
27:50This week's I love hate week polly said that she don't think i'm very romantic
27:54So i've sent polly out for a bit got a little cheeky surprise for her
27:58I had a little cute idea that I would do a little walkway of candles with petals on the floor
28:02And then cook her one of my favorite meals
28:06I
28:08Decided to do it for polly just to show her that I can be romantic and that I do care
28:15Shut the fuck up
28:18Hello
28:20Shut up
28:22little surprise
28:24Oh
28:25Do you like it?
28:29Proud wife happy wife happy life lovely usual chair
28:34I've cooked you a beautiful meal
28:36Thank you
28:38All right, that's good. It does look good. I want to get the garlic bread as well
28:42You said that i'm not very romantic
28:45I thought i'd show you
28:46How romantic I can be. Yeah, this is very romantic. I feel like you don't get more romantic than this
28:53This is absolutely
28:55Incredible. I have never
28:57Had anything like this from a partner before and the fact that it's from adam
29:01Just makes it so much more special
29:04Is it the most romantic thing someone's ever done for you? Yeah, really? Yeah, really? Yeah
29:10So do you take back that i'm not romantic?
29:14Um
29:15Yeah
29:17I think after this little romantic little meal thing i've planned if you don't fall in love with me after this
29:22There's no hope
29:24Definitely feel like this makes up a little bit
29:28for the lack of pda
29:30It's something that I will eventually get better
29:34I am feeling quite giddy. It's just
29:37It's really embarrassing actually. Uh, yeah. No, I do feel like a yeah, I feel like a little girl with her first crash
29:46Well, I feel like
29:47It would be the perfect time to do
29:50the love
29:51to our love hate week
29:54What do you think? Yeah, let's do it
29:56So
29:58So the first one I love
30:03Your eyes
30:05The first thing I noticed when you walked down the aisle was your eyes. Oh, that's really sweet. Is that yeah?
30:12And you just made me smile and you instantly made me feel calm and I just won't forget them eyes
30:18That's actually really cute
30:21Yeah
30:22The love part of this task is a lot easier than the hate part
30:25And that's because it's hard to think of things. I hate about polly, but there's quite a lot of things that I love about her
30:31Oh, so you love her? I don't love her now
30:35Never say never love could blossom who knows
30:42You're becoming emotionally available
30:46A little bit which is huge compared to what you were like
30:51Never speak about your emotions. It's nothing that you've ever done
30:55It's been a problem in the past, but I really do feel like over the last few weeks
31:00You have really really made a shift in how you've been in who you are
31:06And that says a lot to me about how you feel about me and how you feel when you're around me
31:12So it's just really nice
31:16There is love in the air tonight just want to grab him and snog him
31:20I feel like with love hate week. I've put a bit of love in the air. Oh, careful. Oops
31:35Who's that
31:37Evening hello. Oh, yeah. How are you? Come on in good. So lovely to see you. Hello. Hello. How are you?
31:45You're looking incredible
31:47I'm, so glad that charlene is here
31:50It's love hate week. One of my hates was there's no intimacy in casper and mine relationship
31:55I'm hoping charlene can bring some ideas bring some tasks for us to do to build that because at the moment there is nada
32:03I understand that intimacy has been an issue over the last few weeks. Yeah, you kissed at the retreat, but then casper
32:10You felt emma moved too quickly after that
32:13She was way too forward sex shouldn't be a sales pitch
32:18You know people are turned on in different ways aren't they and they're turned off
32:24Yeah ways too and it's about understanding each other and working out what works for your partner
32:31Couples that are struggling with intimacy one of the activities I usually suggest to them would be the melting hug
32:37hug
32:39So the melting hug works best when you're standing up and it gives you that opportunity to really hug your partner
32:46So if you stand up, yeah, of course
32:50How would you like to hug
32:52That's actually everything we need to know about our intimacy, doesn't it?
32:56Oh, no, I go over the left shoulder and then normally it's one one arm
32:59And oh, do you want to go around the top like that? And oh, I I think we usually hug. Oh, no, we don't
33:04We usually hug like that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, we do do that
33:08Okay
33:09I'd like you to stay in that emotional space that you're in
33:15This hug is really good. It's the first time I felt like
33:19Emma's lent on me and you know
33:21I've had to support her in some way. I mean, she's very strong and independent as a person and so for me
33:26Almost being forced by charlene into that. Um
33:31Helped me
33:33That is the longest hug I think i've ever had yeah, it's gotta be somewhere near the top for me
33:39Okay, take a seat
33:41Tell me what that experience felt like for you. I mean for me
33:45It was the first time it felt like you lent on me in this process
33:49Oh
33:50You know and I I actually quite liked it
33:53Emma listen to what casper said there around it feeling nice you leaning into him
33:58And I wonder if if that's maybe what casper is asking of you to show
34:03That vulnerable side of you and to and to lean on him a little bit more
34:07How do you feel about?
34:10Feeling more vulnerable around me
34:12um
34:17At this point in time, I don't think I can do that with casper like that's that's my challenge
34:24And at the moment I don't think I like you enough to be able to do that
34:33I'm really trying to be more emotionally vulnerable and relaxing and
34:38trying to show him that side of me, but difficult to say that I can completely let go because
34:45Yeah, I don't I don't necessarily
34:48Feel that vulnerable around him
34:51I hear you emma
34:52I think that it could be difficult to be emotionally vulnerable if there have been other factors at play
34:58That haven't made you feel emotionally safe
35:01To find love you've got to let those guards down and have that person who you want to rely on
35:07Emma told me clearly tonight that i'm not it
35:10For me, it's going to make me pull away a little bit and it's very hard to connect with someone who
35:15Isn't emotionally available and I think it's been one of our sticking points in our relationship
35:21Now
35:22Challenge over the next few days would be to keep practicing the intimacy task and to continue to have open communication
35:29About what your boundaries are. I need to learn this
35:33Even even if emma and I don't make it work
35:38There are things I need to learn about how I can build intimacy and gain more comfort
35:43quicker
35:44So that whoever I might be dating doesn't think he's standing off
35:48He doesn't fancy me, but I need to learn how to do this for a future relationship
35:53Yeah, we don't want to talk about this because we're talking about the two of you, okay
36:02It's difficult to know where my feelings are at making comments like practicing intimacy for a future girlfriend
36:12The man is still wearing a wedding ring on his finger. It's not nice to hear
36:19You
36:28Hey, honey, i'm home. Hello boy. How are you?
36:33How are you?
36:35Got your koala
36:40I went to the zoo and I couldn't get one out of the zoo. So
36:43I
36:47Think sometimes she thinks that I don't think about a lot but
36:50I do. I don't want to ever think that i'm not taking this seriously
36:55Is this instead of you now? You need to give them a name
36:58Cola cola cola the koala koala the koala. How are you feeling today?
37:04I'm, all right. I know you've been feeling miserable unhappy
37:08Um, I got a surprise for you what we're doing not telling you
37:14Kieran doesn't know what we're doing today
37:17When we're going now, can we go now? Yeah, let's go get ready right now. You need to change your shoes
37:22Oh
37:24I'm, really really hoping that gonna bring him back to life a little bit
37:39I feel really sad about the way things were left between me and stasha
37:44So i'm going to do everything I can to make it right
37:47So we've got a date
37:50Which is kickboxing and i'm hoping she'll be into it because it's her passion
37:57Get back on track because i'm absolutely missing her, you know, and we are very good together and we are strong star
38:04Let's see
38:08Oh
38:16Okay, yeah you um, thank you for coming
38:21He has pissed me off and it's going to take a lot of work to come back from that yesterday was pretty shit
38:29Maybe cut it and show them kickboxing stuff
38:32i'm still really
38:35Angry about yesterday. I think the way you handled it wasn't good at all. It was fucked
38:45It's probably going to take a bit more
38:48than a boxing session
38:50But i'll see the effort you've made
38:52with this today
38:55And it's a good start
38:56So i'm just looking forward to doing what I love to be honest
39:00And that's why i've come just because I could do with a kickboxing session
39:04I really want to be angry at ross for organizing this as shown that he's took an interest in what I love
39:11What I care about and a lot of thought has gone into this
39:24That's for throwing your wedding ring that's for telling me you call me friends if anyone
39:29Is
39:37Remember when I said i'm not very good with the word and I need to um
39:41Think before we speak. So instead of doing that. I wrote you a letter
39:46Okay
39:54To sasha, I just want to apologize for the way I was behaving
39:58I was selfish
40:00My behavior was disgusting
40:03I feel sad after what happened
40:05I will from now on control my big gob. I will think twice before I say anything or I could even write
40:12I promise to make this work and to make you happy
40:16I miss you need your cuddles and love you your boy ross kiss kiss kiss
40:24This is cute
40:26You should write more
40:27Uh, this is what i'm gonna do from now on because it's much easier to me as well
40:31For me it's working because my fucking god and shit's no good. No yesterday when you came to say, sorry
40:37To me
40:38It felt like you didn't mean it
40:41Like you didn't say any of this that made me think that you didn't care
40:45Yeah, but um, like I said paper and pen helped me 100 percent
40:50Reading the letter is like a weight has been lifted off me. I'm like, oh, thank god
40:55These are all the things that I needed to hear yesterday, but at least i'm hearing them today. I just want to say
41:02I love you a lot and I've got something for you. Okay
41:18That's cute like it I want to show you if you like it or not, I love you. Thank you
41:23You'll have to put it on for me
41:25Thank you. Good job
41:29How do you like it, I love it. Thank you
41:33So back me on from the back in now
41:35maybe
41:37I'll come into this needing ross to show me that he's made the effort
41:42I'm feeling so relieved and happy
41:46And now ross can move back in and we can get back on track
41:55So
42:04Come on
42:09Having already shared their dislikes the rest of the couples decide to share their loves with one another
42:18Hello, how you doing doing good
42:21So, yeah, so basically I didn't want to be superficial and you're very good looking you're very beautiful
42:26So I didn't want to just be like, oh your beauty your smile your eyes
42:28I tried to be more in terms of your character, you know, no, um, I like that. I feel like that would have been too easy
42:34Yeah, so
42:36like your loyalty
42:38You've got a good girl code. I feel like you're quite loyal to me as well. Yeah
42:42Oh, that's really nice of you to say that. I love that
42:46So for this one
42:48You bring out the best version of me
42:52yeah, I
42:53Have always struggled in previous relationships that i've always tried to be perfect and with you i'm completely my goofy
43:01weird
43:02Funny self and you still love me for me. Yeah, I feel like um
43:07Because we're both so chill
43:09It's quite easy. So yeah, it's good that you can be yourself around me. It's nice to feel like you can as well. Yeah
43:15You make me feel safe
43:17And i've never really had that before like I feel like you're quite protective over me
43:21Like I feel like you're a safe space for me to come to it's okay. He's safer. Don't worry. No, I know even when i'm crying
43:29Right. Tell me yours then
43:32I'm gonna get shy
43:34I love that you're never judgmental
43:36I love that you're never judgmental
43:38True. I feel like you treat everyone the same don't matter about the background where they come from
43:44You just treat everyone equal. I noticed that in you from day dot
43:49And I love it
43:51Do you love it?
43:57Oh, so let's get going i'm bloody freezing
44:06Oh
44:11That's cute
44:16Yeah, I love her
44:18I'm currently feeling really good about ross. It's really important that we stay positive today
44:24And just keep working on our relationship and making sure that it's only up from here
44:31I think it would be really good for us
44:33To write down the things we love about each other
44:36after the week we've had so I don't want to just
44:39Spill it out on there. I think we should go away really think about it
44:43I'll write down what I love about you and you write down what you love about me
44:46Okay, but I want you to really think about it the best three could be about ten paragraphs then
44:53Good keep it like that
44:58You excited yeah, I don't know what it is still
45:02So you're gonna tell us what we're doing
45:05I really really hope that me and kieran can build this life together
45:10Go on. Tell us you're gonna love it. That's all I wanted coming in here was to build a life with somebody
45:19Surprise
45:24Who is it?
45:29Is it your daddy
45:32Hello, son. I can't even speak
45:41You've made daddy so happy
45:45Hugo came around the corner. My eyes just lit up with tiaz super emotional
45:51obviously, I haven't seen him since the wedding day, so but to see hugo
45:54is
45:55beautiful
45:56So shall we go in and have a little run around?
45:59Come on, this is gonna be fun, isn't it?
46:06Hugo come on. Oh, I thought he was gonna jump that then come on
46:12What are you doing?
46:16Seeing kieran smile
46:18Just seeing that meant the absolute world to me because that's the kieran that I know and that's the kieran that I married
46:26Well done
46:28boy
46:30I feel like we are one big happy family. Let's hope kieran feels the same
46:47Right
46:51But yeah, you had a different
46:56I love it. All right
46:59You're a gentleman
47:03You always give me princess treatment you hold
47:07Doors open for me
47:09You're a provider. So you always spoil me you always put me first
47:15so
47:16Yeah, you're a gentleman
47:18Does this show why I love you?
47:20Yeah, so i've had my bracelet. I've had my balloons. I've had my flowers, but I think we can move forward now
47:26I think I'll forgive you. Thank you
47:35Thank you very much, thank you cheers to hugo cheers to hugo little lad
47:45That was lush that I wasn't expecting that at all. I would say the last time we got the same as a wedding day. I know
47:50Was it nice to like have that memory back? Oh, yeah, totally did it like make you feel better totally
48:00Got another little surprise for you another one. Yeah
48:04So we can have a look through our wedding photos
48:09To help bring that smile back to your face
48:16Oh
48:19Oh my god, look at your face, you look beautiful
48:28You look awful, don't you?
48:36Everyone's just so happy for us. That's my favorite
48:43There wasn't a yawn in the room and there was no one upset in the room like everyone was just having an absolute blast
48:48And you could just tell that they're totally rooting for her
48:51You guys
48:56You look like a mermaid literally a mermaid
49:07It's not funny happy tears
49:12Things are different with me and kieran now
49:15But i'm just hoping that seeing those pictures has helped him remember how good we are
49:23I really hoped that
49:25it just helped bring that like spark back a bit and like remember the wedding and like yeah, like
49:32How good we can and it has has today has brought back a bit of a spark
49:40It's not always sunshine and rainbows or is it
49:43Me and christina do have that there is something there and we do have a very very very good connection
49:48but
49:49Even after a day like we had space is still
49:52Pretty much the same as it was yesterday
49:54And that's a really hard thing to say, but it's the truth and i've got to be myself in this experiment
49:58This is what it's all about
50:03Next time oh look
50:06The couples head off on separate days out
50:09But bad blood within the group alex is already ruining my spa day game on i'm ready free is unleashed in a revealing question
50:18Who amongst all the couples is lying about their feelings?
50:22I'm gonna say you at the end of the day
50:24You're the one who said that you would switch husbands. So you need to pipe down
50:28It's a pipe down. How bad would it have got if ross wasn't there? I don't want to hear nothing from your mouth. Fuck
50:34You and a photograph
50:36Let's make him jealous
50:38Oh my god, let me see
50:41Put sasha's trust to the test
51:08You