Married at First Sight UK 2024 - S09E22_ It's Love_Hate Week, and no top
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00:00We just have the best time previously I made love to my woman, okay
00:07While some we committed to the process. I want to spend the rest of my life with you
00:13Others felt the strain. I'm questioning if I'm able to sustain a relationship with someone of PMDD
00:20This is why I prepare myself for the worst
00:24For Casper, I need the emotional side first before the intimate side intimacy became a bone of contention
00:30It almost felt like sex was a sales pitch and when a secret was exposed
00:35Have they not been sneakily kissing?
00:37You are a stinking liar. It sealed the fate of two marriages. Why do I want me to speak to this girl late leave?
00:45At that moment. I knew I could not stand him
00:49Just get me out of here, please he definitely
00:52lacks any shred of integrity
00:55Leave but it was Alex's reactions snake
00:59Shit, man. I love that sparked conflict with Sasha
01:03I've watched you attack the women and it's off because I didn't like it Alex and trouble for her own marriage
01:08It doesn't feel like Ross has my back. My drama is your drama. I'm not gonna tolerate it
01:15Tonight
01:17I'm interested to see what you don't like about me. Honey. There's a lot more than what you think there is
01:21It's love hate week. Good luck. Good luck. You're gonna need it where honesty is crucial lack of intimacy
01:29You lack depth. What's that mean for some couples at these years? It draws them closer together
01:36Is it the most romantic thing someone's ever done for you? Yeah, I am feeling quite giddy. It's just
01:44I'm gonna give you
01:46But others can't even get the task off the ground. I'm really unhappy
01:51I'm going home today. Why?
01:54Get me out of there. I am NOT running after nobody
01:58Whilst Sasha and Ross and he went to see this throws it up the wall face their biggest challenge yet
02:04I am NOT comfortable with you being in this apartment. I am gonna struggle to recover from this
02:11It's my head
02:24Good morning
02:27I heard something hard last night. Oh
02:32That's not magical is it
02:34What
02:35Why does everything you say sound sexual? I don't know why I'm just trying to survive in this world
02:40It's morning at the apartments and the couples are reflecting on an eventful commitment ceremony
02:46That was the most
02:49emotionally intense
02:50Commitment ceremony that we've ever had. Yeah, I'm gonna miss awesome. I'm gonna miss Rochelle. I'm gonna miss Steve. I'm gonna miss Hannah
02:56I just couldn't believe how so many how many people got involved
02:59Foof the snog. Oh my god the snog. I thought I'll snog was big
03:05We had a good couch thing. We had a good couch. We're good
03:09What were your thoughts? No, we've been given stuff to work on. It's anything like last week would be making stride
03:17For like the whole ending for me
03:20It definitely it was all uncomfortable on it. Mm-hmm. No way Alex spoke to me was like not okay
03:25That actually really upset me yeah and percent it does make you think you know
03:33Is this how he's been speaking to Holly?
03:35Yeah, hopefully not
03:44I've spent the night away from Alex last night and this morning. I've woke up and I'm just physically drained
03:50After the commitment ceremony
03:53Alex really upset me. He'd been so disrespectful to all the girls
03:58It talked to him in a way, which is just not acceptable. That's just reminding me that we're not always good
04:07Me and Holly spent last night apart
04:09It does feel a bit weird not having Holly here since Holly left the apartment. We haven't spoken. So I don't know where her heads at
04:19I
04:23After the commitment ceremony, I was really annoyed with Alex. It's just bang out of order
04:30me and Ross we go into a bit of conflict because I'm really feeling like Ross didn't have my back and
04:36Then actually just spent the night in separate apartments
04:41Last night. I got a text from Alex then. Thanks for coming up for a shot
04:45We speak to status you not
04:48Out of respect for me. I shown her the text. She got annoyed. I mean statute argue. I got wound up right now
04:56fell shit
05:05You're good I
05:07Just want to pop in and check you're okay after the commitment ceremony. Are you just seeing yourself? I hear myself
05:14Yeah, are you okay? Yeah, so
05:17Take a seat. I hope you've got a while
05:21after the commitment ceremony Ross when I spoke to Alex and
05:26Had a man-to-man
05:27Said you shouldn't spoke to me that way should I spoke to the other girls that way when Ross got back?
05:32Alex sent a text saying I'm gonna speak to Sasha as soon as even though we still hasn't and
05:39I'm only
05:41Doing it out of respect for you
05:43No, no, that's not. Okay, and Ross had put back like, oh, thanks so much, bro
05:48Love are not really seen the slowness in that text because okay Ross is the best in everyone
05:54So I was trying to explain to him that in a nice text
05:57He's still kind of being a little bit of a bitch to you mrs. Yeah
06:02Right, so then Ross responds. We've oh, I can't be friends with anyone
06:07And then grabs his suitcase and I mean, oh this doesn't say a word to me. Shan
06:12Are you talking about his two suitcases starts putting all these trainers in great?
06:17And he went you see this throws it up the wall honest to God honest to God and I'm giving Ross
06:23What's going on? Talk to me. He's doing this
06:25Sorry, what so he does it so he can't read me. So he's doing what and I'm
06:31It was it was awful
06:35Do you want to sort things out like honestly do you want sort out?
06:40We'll just have to see what he's got to say I suppose but yeah, if he thinks he's just gonna drop it
06:44I'm sorry, and that's it and he's moving back. You know, no, no, no chance like he needs to grow
06:50Oh, yeah, like truly needs to grow well
06:57Don't a double tea bag just one please. They're very strong aren't they don't an extra sugar one would be nice. Thank you
07:04I try to be intimate with Christina last night
07:07But obviously with what's going on in my mind, I just wasn't there I don't know where my head space is that I
07:14Hope we can both turn this around and I know that starts by
07:18Being honest with Christina as as these thoughts are coming through my head. There's not enough nice words to describe Christina
07:24There's not and I'll never ever have a bad way to say about her ever
07:29Thanks
07:32The commitment ceremony was a lot was Annette in a lot of ways. Yeah
07:39There's stuff where we are very different. Okay, I understand that. I think that's why I'm struggling. Yeah, that's fine
07:46At the moment, it's just not it's just not there for you, which is okay
07:53Everyone wants a relationship work. We're gonna have really really well
07:56We're full of crack but things come up in relationships like through life you've got to work through the obstacles to get
08:04to get the good stuff
08:06thing is I really
08:09When I say I care about you, I mean I fucking care about you and I know you do care about you a lot
08:15There's definitely a spark between me and Karen. I know he cares for me and
08:21I'm not ready to let that spark die
08:24I
08:28Will be right where you go
08:40There's the door how do you want to do it?
08:45For any marriage to thrive it's important that couples accept both the things they love
08:50This is key to this reverse one and the things they're loveless about their partner
08:54Dear Adam and Pauline today marks the start of love hate week
08:58Love hate week gives our couples the opportunity to discuss both aspects with unflinching
09:04Honesty a successful marriage is all about balance
09:07Spot-on only by acknowledging all aspects of a partner both good and bad that marriages truly grow
09:14With a foundation of honesty and acceptance
09:16With a foundation of honesty and acceptance there's three things you dislike about your husband or wife
09:24You must share this list with each other and then try to think of ways that will help address these issues
09:30These three things you love about your husband or wife three things
09:34Three must share this list with each other to help to celebrate the things you must admire or like in your partner
09:41You're a struggle thing things you hear about me. This is gonna be a very hard task for me
09:46Hates a strong word for me
09:48You think it's gonna be hard to find three things you like or three? I need more. Can I do five?
09:56I've never quite fun. I'm interested to see what you don't like about me because I can't imagine there's many things
10:02Honey, there's a lot more than what you think there is
10:07Yeah, I'm gonna go get away and do mine, okay, good luck good luck you're gonna need it
10:13Today the couples will be starting with the hardest part of the task sharing the things they dislike about each other
10:21Sometimes I feel like you're a little bit dishonest with me. Oh
10:28You do sort of put on a little bit of the show feel like when you are doing that sometimes
10:33In front of people it's making a little bit of distance between us to didn't feel it
10:38You know, I think straight away in the group it took me back to that classroom vibes
10:43When I was young let's go like not cool enough not funny enough
10:46So I yeah, I put on my entertainer mask and like I can't see how you would look at me
10:51But this is not the same person that woke up next to me in bed
10:55I'm sorry, because I understand how that would make you feel
10:58Yeah
10:59and I just feel like I want us to be a team and I want us we can only be a team if we're truthful and
11:05Honest with each other. Yeah
11:08Okay
11:12So
11:15You've lacked depth you lack depth what's that mean sometimes
11:20When we're having a conversation and I feel like you're very robotic. Mm-hmm. It feels like you're not interested
11:28Thing is I do have ADHD. Yeah
11:31And I do have communication difficulties, but I don't know ever lean on it or blame it, you know
11:36I'm glad that you've said that
11:38In my head. I'm just like, oh, he's not verbally telling me, you know, how much he likes me or X Y & Z
11:44That's how I've been on my life. Yeah, this is all
11:47Yeah, all preparing us to get stronger and go strength to strength and help us when we do leave the experiment, you know
11:54Mm-hmm
11:56So I don't like it when sometimes you compare me to other guys
12:00Sometimes you've mentioned it like I would be nice if if that you were like that or you were this way
12:05And it does make me feel like quite sad like to hear that, you know, cuz like I'm not then
12:11When I compare is when they're like another couple was doing
12:16Romantic gestures and I just I want that from my man
12:20I definitely am romantic, but I think in certain areas I could have probably been more romantic maybe a bit more spontaneous
12:27Yeah
12:28John a cuddle
12:35Oh
12:41Shall I go fast hit me with it? Okay. You don't tell me I'm beautiful
12:50Because I feel like I hear it from everyone else and I don't think I've ever heard you
12:57Compliment me like on a more personal level like I get you look nice or that looks nice
13:03I never get
13:05Something deeper. I've never been very club
13:08Complimentary, but I know it's something that needs to be done because it's so easy to say things
13:15thus
13:16That's a good one
13:19My next one you're not very romantic I
13:24Don't do nothing. No, I feel like you're very thoughtful
13:29But I don't you need more romance. Yeah
13:33I'd like you to buy me flowers. Like I'd like you to do like more
13:38dinners or be like should we go and do this or like charming cuz I know you give me a lot of stuff but
13:43I just yeah, I don't
13:45Feel you're very romantic
13:47See for me. It's small. It's something that I've never done before. So here's something that I do need to work on it
13:53Yeah
13:55Are you ready for yours? I am. Yeah
13:58You
14:01Are opinionated
14:03This is something that I've never had before. I've never had someone be so yeah straight to the point and
14:09Honest about people where I'm literally like
14:12Yeah, no, I know like sometimes I could feel sorry for people that get in the way of you because you are so opinionated
14:19So I do have to maybe into in some situations
14:23Just think before I speak and think how it's gonna make you feel
14:26Yeah, I don't know if it's your voice or what?
14:29Just need to think about how I approach it instead of being so
14:34Yeah, you know, I mean in someone's face or just my tone of voice. I don't never said that to you before though
14:40Everyone. Oh, so it's not new to you. Everyone knows you're opinionated. Yeah
14:46That's cool them because you are very opinionated
14:56Oh
15:06God
15:07Right now, I don't know. What's that? She's failing this one to see I have a normal shot nice and calm
15:15Can we all smooth things over? I mean everybody having arguments though. This is the biggest one
15:20Hi
15:22Okay, not not really Ross no
15:26Not really
15:28I
15:29Think we could have a shot, you know
15:32Obviously we calm down though. I know you've decided you want to chat. No, you know you have so so you're not
15:38No, so you're not gonna do this now
15:40Do I actually get a conversation now? None of this because if you sat here now and I went
15:45I'm not listening. How would you feel? I would like it. Yeah, cuz that's what you've done to me last night
15:50Hey, I get that. Yeah, I just want to
15:55Buy I was wrong got me when I came in. I should have
16:00Spoken to you. Listen this all started because you said to me I can't be friends with anyone
16:07Yeah, I thought that yeah, you did
16:10Bullshit, and I kept saying to you Ross for the split second
16:15Ross
16:25I
16:26Currently I am not comfortable with you being in this apartment
16:31I only said in a way me and Ross gonna go from here because if you can never see how I was and have the
16:38Empathy to really understand my point of view. I don't know how I'm gonna go forward
16:45Do you fucked up and you made your decision? What do I go from that? It's not very comfortable
16:50No, no, don't know. I don't know trying to work it out
16:53I don't know at the minute Ross to be honest because that was really really messed up in my opinion
17:00I am gonna struggle to recover from this
17:05It's fucked up my head and made me wonder if I can see a future with someone like that
17:10Oh
17:38Give me yours
17:41It's love-hate week and the couples have started with the challenge of telling one another their dislikes
17:47You better not be that bad. I'm just glad you sat back and you're not gonna fall down
17:56Lifestyle differences. Yeah. Yeah
17:59Just because there'll be times where I'm going. Absolutely not. I'm knackered and you're going right
18:05I want to go for a drinks with the girls and then a bottomless branch in London and I'm going I
18:10Just want to sit at home take my dogs for a walk and have a relaxed day
18:13You'd be NFI twither drinks the girls
18:17But yes, I think there are big differences in how
18:21we live our lives and
18:23What we enjoy doing I realized that I live quite a vivacious life that I would never want you to just follow me around
18:31There are things that in my head. They're holding me back. Yeah. Yeah, and this is one of them
18:36Okay, right fast one, I don't think we'll come as a surprise
18:42Lack of intimacy
18:44fair enough
18:45You've openly said you struggle with intimacy. You still struggle with intimacy and I'm jealous of the other couples, you know
18:52I'm fully aware that any intimacy between us has to be initiated from me
18:56I haven't since that point done much and I'm fully aware that yeah, it's a fair critique
19:02completely fair comment
19:06I
19:08Something I hate is your music choice
19:12Right, that's fucking ridiculous my music this is way better than yours. Is it?
19:18Is it? Okay, mr. Pink pink Coldplay take a pollen miss singing's better as well
19:25Hey, I have said
19:29The distance
19:32Obviously we spoke about me moving to Manchester, but
19:37It's gonna be hard for me being away from my family. You know, I close I am with my sister
19:41I don't know why I'm getting emotional. I understand that
19:44It'd be hard for you cause you still got your mom and everything, but I will support you through that
19:50It'll be free rent for you
20:02I'm excited to go on a little date with you
20:05I've planned something out of the ordinary fun bit more hands-on
20:09Having already revealed their dislikes to one another Luke has arranged a special date with Amy to discuss their loves
20:16Definitely me and Amy will benefit from some one-to-one quality time
20:19I've chosen pottery on the basis of Amy telling me that she's to do it with her grandfather. I don't know how good I'm gonna be
20:25You're probably better than me. It's just a buff. Well, I like using my hands, don't I? Yes
20:32Luke arranging the pottery day for a date today is really thoughtful
20:36I have mentioned it to him in the past that my nana and granddad used to take me so
20:41Hello. Oh
20:43Look what's happened now. I
20:45Thought you were good with your hands. I'm looking forward to
20:49Building back some romance with Amy after having to go through the hates with her. So we did our hates last time
20:57And I'm thinking whilst we're spinning this looking into the void
21:01Did you come up with three things that you'd love about and your husband and your marriage? I think so. Yeah
21:09What are they I?
21:12Love that you're funny
21:14You always make me laugh
21:15Sometimes I feel like you laugh at me as opposed to with me, but I actually like that
21:19I like when you laugh not all the time, but most times. Yeah
21:24The thing I love about you is that you're very supportive. I feel like that's why we've been matched
21:29Maybe because we both caring and support. Yeah, you're really supportive as well. That's nice to hear. Yeah another thing. I really like about you is
21:39That you're like very classy in the streets and like fleek in the sheets I
21:44Like that and just be like a wild animal with you and you you take that
21:49Yeah
21:51Let's see. You're a black swan
21:53Okay, that's quite nice with a long neck
21:56Sorry, I distracted I destroyed my piece again my blood's boiling
22:02Until a bit next it's a bit hot in here, isn't it? Oh my god
22:08What are you doing? Have you tried to use that that one there that tool?
22:13Yeah, that one try and use that one
22:15Yeah, that one try and use that one
22:33I don't really feel like Luke is aware of my boundaries
22:37I
22:44Feel like he's very
22:46Open, I mean, I love that for him, but it's just not my vibe
22:50You can like sit on my chair, but if you want
22:54Don't I don't want to feel any objects on my back I
23:00Can sit on your chair all day
23:04Replace the world cheer
23:08You
23:13Say it like a serial killer
23:15I don't sound like that at all. This activity is making me my blood's boiling
23:19I mean, I can't I still like it's mine like a Cheshire cat, but it's very difficult. You know, it's very hard. Not just the clay. Oh
23:27my days
23:29I'm getting hot and sweaty feeling uncomfortable. I think Luke's getting hot and sweaty in here a different way
23:37This is definitely brought us closer. I think this is very special to me. Yeah, I've had a good day. Thank you. I have to
23:44What are you doing? I just like to take my time. Come here. I like to take my time
23:49Where would I rush? Come on?
23:53Just kiss me
23:55I
24:07Just really need to speak to my girl right now
24:09She knows that I've been quiet and I think it's about time. I tell her what's been going on
24:15So why are you at home with the apartment with him after the commitment ceremony?
24:19we had a major argument because I just don't like the way you were spoken to and
24:24What upset me the most was right after the commitment ceremony said to me what's wrong with you and I said
24:29I'm really missing my children. I look like I
24:32Need us wherever fuck this can't be asked for this and what's off?
24:37That's that's out of order what is him saying that yeah, but he knows that your kids are your life
24:42Yeah, and if he's with you he's with your kids. Yeah
24:50Yes, my g
24:53Not bad
24:57So, have you been what's been going on I've been okay. Yeah
25:03Me and Holly didn't spend the night together last night after the commitment ceremony
25:07I think the whole process is just overwhelming for her to be fair
25:11And she's missing the kids too. I think she's kind of dealt with it quite well up until now
25:16Sure, I mean because I think anyone who's in here with kids. It must be really really hard
25:21Yeah, so I think it's just hit her maybe all at once but you know for me I cannot
25:27Relate to what she's feeling right now. I don't have those fatherly instincts
25:33Because I'm not a dad yet
25:35So what does Alex thinks going on right now thinks I'm just feeling down about the kids and stuff
25:41But the reason I wanted to speak to you is yeah, I'm going home today
25:44I
25:59Understand obviously why they were doing it
26:03Don't be sorry
26:05So I'm gonna go home today and just have a little bit of a think and then I'll be coming back. Okay
26:12It's just got really bad now that he's like, I'm really unhappy I'm not myself
26:17Sometimes time is good, you know, they say times a great healer
26:21So maybe this time away just help you get bring more clarity. Yeah what you truly want
26:26I think I just need to go home and see my babies get my head clear of what I want exactly. I
26:35Can imagine it's kind of thrown you slightly so where's your head out now?
26:38I mean I have a message there or anything because I'm just thinking you're the one that's chosen to spend time away from me
26:44So when you're ready, you'll contact me. I am NOT running after nobody
26:48Okay
26:49But you should be the one to maybe reach out if I wanted space from somebody I take my space and when I'm ready to
26:54Talk to him. I'm gonna go talk to him. Hmm. I'm telling you what a woman would want in this position
26:58I shouldn't have to tell him that he needs to come and comfort me when I've said that I'm upset and I feel a bit
27:04Shit
27:05Do you miss having her there? Do you miss?
27:07Her doing things for you. Do you miss having a laugh like
27:11Do you feel like you miss her? I do care about her. Hmm, but it's do you care about her enough?
27:17Yeah, that's the question. I mean Holly a good, you know, everything's there but
27:23To get through this whole process. We need each other
27:26Me and Alex are just not getting on. I'm gonna go home. I need some space get me out of there
27:38Does a scorpion sting when fighting back
27:42They strike to kill and you know, I will you know, I will
27:47What do you sing on your drive home? Do you see my face in the neighbor's lawn?
27:54Does she smile or does she mouth fuck you forever?
28:00Every time you call me crazy, I get more crazy. What about that?
28:07And when you say I seem angry I get more angry and there's nothing like a mad
28:12Woman
28:36Now I breathe flames each time I talk my cannons all firing at your yard
28:43They say move on but you know
28:56This week the love-hate week Polly said that she don't think I'm very romantic
29:00So I've sent Polly out for a bit got a little cheeky surprise for her
29:04I had a little cute idea that I would do a little walkway of candles with petals on the floor and then cook her one
29:09of my favorite meals
29:13I
29:15Decided to do it for Polly just to show her that I can be romantic and I do care
29:21Shut
29:24Hello shut up little surprise
29:35Probably happy wife happy life usual chair. I've cooked you a beautiful meal
29:42Thank you. That's good. Don't know. It's also good. I think I did as well
29:48You said I'm not very romantic
29:51What I'd show you
29:53How romantic I can be. Yeah, this is very romantic. I feel like you don't get more romantic than this
29:59This is absolutely
30:01Incredible. I have never had anything like this from a partner before and the fact that is from Adam
30:07Just makes it so much more special
30:10Is it the most romantic thing someone's ever done for you? Yeah, really? Yeah, really. Yeah
30:16So do you take back that I'm not romantic?
30:21Yeah, I
30:23Think after this little romantic little meal thing. I planned if you don't fall in love with me after this
30:28There's no hope
30:31Definitely feel like this makes up a little bit for the lack of PDA
30:36Hmm, it's something that I will eventually get better
30:40I am feeling quite giddy. It's just
30:43It's really embarrassing actually. Yeah. No, I do feel like her. Yeah, I feel like a little girl with her first crush
30:52Well, I feel like it would be the perfect time to do the love to our love hate week
31:01Yeah, let's do it
31:04It's the first one I love
31:09Your eyes
31:11The first thing I noticed when you walked down the aisle was your eyes. Oh
31:16That's really sweet. Is that yeah, and you just made me smile and you instantly made me feel calm
31:22And I just won't forget them eyes
31:28The love part of this task is a lot easier than the hate part and that's because it's hard to think of things I hate
31:34About Polly, but there's quite a lot of things that I love about
31:40Never say never love could blossom. Who knows?
31:48You're becoming emotionally available
31:53Which is huge
31:55Compared to what you were like never speak about your emotions. It's nothing that you've ever done
32:01It's been a problem in the past, but I really do feel like over the last few weeks
32:06You have really really made a shift in how you've been in who you are and
32:12That says a lot to me about how you feel about me and how you feel when you're around me
32:22There is love in the air tonight just want to grab him and snog him I
32:26Feel like with love hate week. I've put a bit of
32:35I
32:53Was so glad that Charlene is here
32:56It's love hate week. One of my hates was there's no intimacy in Casper and mine relationship
33:01I'm hoping Charlene can bring some ideas bring some tasks for us to do to build that because at the moment there is nada
33:09Understand that intimacy has been an issue over the last few weeks
33:12Yeah, you kissed at the retreat, but then Casper you felt Emma moved too quickly after that
33:19She was way too forward
33:21Sectioned be a sales pitch
33:24You know people are turned on in different ways aren't they and they're turned off
33:30Yeah ways to and it's about understanding each other and working out what works for your partner
33:38Couples are struggling with intimacy. One of the activities I usually suggest them would be the melting hug
33:45So the melting hug works best when you're standing up and it gives you that opportunity to really hug your partner
33:52So if you stand up, yeah, of course
33:56Thanks
33:59We need to know about our intimacy, doesn't it?
34:02Oh, no, I go over the left shoulder and then normally it's one one arm and I'm gonna go around the top like that
34:07Oh, I I think we usually hug that. Oh, no, we don't
34:14Okay, I'd like you to stay in that emotional space that you're in
34:21This hug is really good first time I felt like Emma's lent on me and you know
34:27I've had to support her in some way. I mean, she's very strong and independent as a person and so for me
34:32Almost being forced by Charlene into that
34:37Helped me
34:39It's the longest hug I think I've ever had
34:47Tell me what that experience felt like for you. I mean for me
34:51It was the first time it felt like you lent on me in this process. Oh
34:55Oh
34:56You know and I actually quite liked it
34:58And I listened to what Casper said there around it feeling nice you leaning into him
35:04and I wonder if if that's maybe what Casper is asking of you to show that a
35:09Vulnerable side of you and to and to lean on him a little bit more
35:13How do you feel about?
35:16Feeling more vulnerable around me
35:18And
35:23At this point in time, I don't think I can do that with Casper like that's that's my challenge
35:31At the moment, I don't think I like you enough to be able to do that
35:39I'm really trying to be more emotionally vulnerable and relaxing and trying to show him that side of me
35:46But difficult to say that I can completely let go because
35:51Yeah, I don't I don't necessarily feel that vulnerable around him. I
35:57Hear you Emma
35:58I think that it could be difficult to be emotionally vulnerable if there have been other factors at play
36:04That haven't made you feel emotionally safe. Mm-hmm
36:07To find love you've got to let those guards down and have that person who you want to rely on
36:13And they told me clearly tonight that I'm not it
36:16For me, it's gonna make me pull away a little bit and it's very hard to connect with someone who?
36:21Isn't emotionally available. I think it's been one of our sticking points in our relationship
36:27Now
36:28Challenge over the next few days would be to keep practicing the intimacy task and to continue to have open
36:35Communication about what your boundaries are. I need to learn this
36:39Even even even if Emma and I don't make it work
36:44There are things I need to learn about how I can build intimacy and gain more comfort
36:49quicker
36:50So that whoever I might be dating doesn't think he's standing off
36:55He doesn't fancy me, but I need to learn how to do this for a future relationship
36:59Yeah, we don't want to talk about this because we're talking about the two of you. Yeah, okay
37:03It's
37:08Difficult to know where my feelings are at making comments like practicing intimacy for a future girlfriend
37:18The man is still wearing a wedding ring on his finger. It's not nice to it
37:34Hey, honey, I'm home
37:41Got your koala I
37:46Went to the zoo and I couldn't get one out of the zoo, so I
37:53Think sometimes she thinks that I don't think about a lot, but I do I don't want to ever think that I'm
37:59Not taking this seriously
38:04Cola cola cola the koala the koala. How are you feeling today?
38:10I'm all right. I know you've been feeling miserable unhappy
38:15I've got a surprise for you. What we're doing not telling you
38:20Kieran doesn't know what we're doing today
38:23When we go now come on. Oh, yeah, let's go get ready right now. You need to change your shoes
38:28I'm really really hoping that's gonna bring him back to life a little bit
38:45You're really sad about the way thing were left between me and Sasha
38:50So I'm gonna do everything I can to make it right
38:54We've got a date
38:56Which came up to and I'm hoping should be linked to it because it's her passion
39:03Get back on track. I'm actually missing a lot. I'm without very good together. I'm a strong dog
39:10Let's see
39:18Fine
39:21Wow, okay. Yeah you I'm thank you for coming
39:27He has pissed me off and it's gonna take a lot of work to come back from that. Yeah today appreciate
39:35Maybe cut it and Sean get back to me stuff. I'm still really
39:41Angry about yesterday. I think the way you handled it wasn't good at all. It was fucked
39:51It's probably gonna take a bit more than a boxing session
39:56But I see the effort you've made with this today
40:01And it's a good start
40:02So I'm just looking forward to doing what I love to be honest
40:06And that's why I've come just because I could do with a kickboxing session
40:10I really want to be angry at Ross for organizing this as shown that he's took an interest in what I love
40:17What I care about and a lot of thought has gone into this
40:20I
40:43Remember when I said, I'm not very good with the word and I need to
40:47Bank before we speak. Sorry instead of doing that. I want you a letter. Okay?
41:00To Sasha, I just want to apologize for the way I was behaving I
41:05was selfish
41:06My behavior was disgusting. I
41:09Feel sad after what happened. I will from now on control my big gob
41:14I will think twice before I say anything or I could even write I
41:19Promise to make this work and to make you happy. I
41:23Miss you need your cuddles and love you your boy Ross kiss kiss kiss
41:30This is cute
41:32You should write more
41:34This is what I'm gonna do from now on because what you did to me brother made working cuz my fucking god and shit
41:39No good. No yesterday when you can't say sorry
41:44To me it felt like you didn't mean II
41:47Look, you didn't say any of this that when we think that you didn't care
41:51Yeah, but I'm like a sad paper and pen helped me 100%
41:57Reading the letter is like a weight has been lifted off me. I'm like, thank God
42:01These are all the things that I needed to hear yesterday, but at least I'm hearing them today. I just want to die. I
42:09Love you a lot and I've got something for you
42:13Okay
42:24That's cute, okay, I want to show you feel like you're not I love you. Thank you. You'd have to put it on for me
42:31Thank you. Good job
42:35What do I get I love it, thank you
42:37Thank you
42:39So that me I'm coming back in now maybe
42:43I'll come into this needing Ross to show me that he's made the effort
42:48I'm feeling so relieved and happy. I
42:52Know Ross can move back in and we can get back on track
43:08Oh
43:15Having already shared their dislikes the rest of the couples decide to share their loves with one another
43:24Hey, how you doing
43:27Yeah, so basically I didn't want to be superficial and you're very good-looking. You're very beautiful
43:32So I don't want to be like are you beauty or small your eyes?
43:34I tried to be more in terms of your character, you know
43:37No, I'm I like that feel I would have been too easy. Yeah, so like your loyalty
43:44You've got a good girl code. I feel like you're quite low to me as well. Yeah. Oh, it's very nice of you to say that
43:50I love that
43:52So for this one
43:54You bring out the best version of me
43:58Yeah, I I've always struggled in previous relationships that I've always tried to be perfect and with you I'm completely my goofy
44:07Weird funny self and you still love me for me. Yeah, I feel like
44:13Cuz we're both so chill. It's quite easy. So yeah, that's good that you can be yourself from me
44:18It's nice to feel like you can as well. Yeah
44:21You
44:23Make me feel safe
44:25And I've never really had that before it like I feel like you're quite protective over me
44:29Like I feel like you're a safe space for me to come to it's okay. He's safer. Don't worry. No, I know even I'm crying
44:38Hey, tell me yours then
44:40I'm gonna get shy. I love that. You're never judgmental
44:44Trick I feel like you treat everyone the same don't matter about the background where they come from
44:50You just treat everyone equal. I noticed that in you're from day dot and
44:56I love it
45:03Oh, let's get going I'm bloody freezing
45:08That's y'all
45:14Oh
45:17That's cute
45:22Thank you, yeah lover
45:24I'm currently feeling really good about Ross. It's really important that we stay positive today and
45:31Just keep working on our relationship and making sure that it's only up from here. I
45:37Think it'll be really good for us to write down the things we love about each other after the week we've had
45:44so I don't want to just
45:46Spill it out on there. I think we should go away really think about it
45:49I'll write down what I love about you and you write down what you love about me
45:52Okay, but I want you to really think about it the best through course with probably about 10 paragraph down
45:59Good keep it like that
46:04You excited yeah, I don't know what it is still
46:09So you can tell us what we're doing I
46:11Really really hope that me and Kieran can build this life together
46:16God tell us you're gonna love it. That's all I wanted coming in here was to build a life with somebody
46:38I
46:52Came on the corner me eyes just lit up with tears super emotional
46:57obviously I haven't seen since the wedding day, so let me say Hugo is
47:01Beautiful, so shall we go in and have a little run?
47:08I
47:13Thought he was gonna jump that day
47:22Seeing Kieran smile
47:24Just seeing that meant the absolute world to me because that's the Kieran that I know and that's the Kieran that I married
47:35I
47:37Feel like we are one big happy family. Let's hope Kieran feels the same
47:53Right
47:57But yeah, I had a different
48:00I
48:02Love it. All right
48:05You're a gentleman
48:09You always give me princess treatment you hold
48:13Doors open for me. You're a provider. So you always spoil me. You always put me first
48:21so
48:22You're a gentleman
48:24Cute does this show why I love you. Yeah, so I've had me bracelet. I've had my balloons. I've had my flowers
48:30I think we can move forward. No, I think I forgive you
48:41Thank you very much, thank you cheers to Hugo cheers to Hugo little lad
48:51That was lush that I wasn't expecting that at all. I would say the last time we got the same as a wedding day
48:55I know
48:56Was it nice to like have that memory back? Oh, yeah, totally. Did it like make you feel better totally?
49:06Got another little surprise for you another one. Yeah
49:10So we can have a look through our wedding photos
49:15To help bring that smile back to your face
49:25Oh
49:28My god, look at your face you look beautiful
49:34You look awful, thank you. Thank you
49:43Everyone's just so happy for us. That's my favorite
49:49There wasn't a yawn in the room and there was no one upset in the room
49:52Like everyone was just having an absolute blast and you could just tell there was this totally rooting for
50:02You're like a mermaid literally a mermaid
50:13It's not funny happy tears
50:16Things are different with me and Kieran now, but I'm just hoping that seeing those pictures has helped him
50:22Remember how good we are. I
50:27Really hoped that it just helped bring that light spot back a bit and like remember the wedding and like
50:34yeah, like
50:36How good we can in a house today has brought back a bit of a spark
50:46It's not always sunshine and rainbows or is it
50:49Me and Christina do have that there is something there and we do have a very very very good connection
50:54But even after a day like we had space is still pretty much the same as it was yesterday
51:00And that's a really hard thing to say, but it's the truth and I've got to be myself in this experiment
51:05This is what it's all about
51:09Next time
51:12The couple's head off on separate days out
51:16But bad blood within the group Alex is already ruining my spa day game on
51:21I'm ready free is unleashed in a revealing question who amongst all the couples is lying about their feelings
51:28I'm gonna say you at the end of the day. You're the one who said that you would switch husbands
51:32So you need to pipe down to pipe down. How bad would it have got if Ross wasn't there?
51:38Don't want to hear nothing from your mouth fuck you and a photograph
51:42Let's make him jealous. Oh my god. Let me see
51:47Put Sasha's trust to the test