ALWAYS Say NO to These 9 Type of People Marcus Aurelius STOICISM
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00:00Have you ever tried to help someone, only to find your efforts fall flat because they weren't ready to help themselves?
00:07Even as a kind and compassionate person who wants to make a positive difference in the world,
00:13sometimes your good intentions may not be enough to help those who are stuck in their own problems.
00:19But why is that?
00:20As you tune into this, we will uncover the nine types of people you are trying to help.
00:26But due to different reasons, do not want to be helped.
00:30These are people who, for various reasons, are stubborn, defensive, or ungrateful when you try to intervene.
00:38The knowledge in this video can save you from wasting your energy on those who aren't ready to change.
00:44Do make sure to stay with us until the end, because the last type is not just hard to spot,
00:50but might leave you questioning your whole approach to helping others.
00:54Get ready for some eye-opening insights.
00:571. Self-Centered People
00:59It's tough when someone constantly makes things about themselves.
01:03Say you're excited about a weekend trip you've planned, only to be interrupted by complaints about never traveling.
01:10It dims your enthusiasm, right?
01:12And when the spotlight should be on you, they swing the beam back to themselves,
01:17sharing how they feel, ignoring your news or feelings.
01:21Their self-focus can be draining.
01:24Would you stand by someone who's wrapped up in their own world?
01:28It's important to believe in your ability to inspire change, to encourage them to look beyond themselves.
01:35Yet, remember the wise words, you cannot change a person who doesn't see an issue in their actions.
01:41Sometimes, for your growth, stepping back from negativity is the way forward,
01:47so that we can listen wise as much as we speak.
01:50When you're surrounded by people who only listen to their own voice,
01:54your words and feelings might seem to vanish in the air.
01:58It's a bold move to distance yourself from self-absorbed individuals,
02:03and often it's necessary to find a space where your voice can truly be heard.
02:082. The Opportunist Empathy is a Gift, a Slice of Beauty in Human Connection
02:15The Stoics saw the world through a lens of shared feelings.
02:19Embracing others' experiences without passing judgment.
02:23But it's a harsh truth that some see this gift as an open door to take advantage.
02:29They disguise themselves as friends, only to lean on you for favors they could easily manage alone.
02:36Their strategy? Guilt-tripping.
02:38Initially, they praise your friendship, seeking your assistance for trivial matters.
02:44True friends seek support in dire straits, but these individuals,
02:49they have a knack for making you feel in the wrong for any hesitation to jump at their requests.
02:55Kindness is more than deeds. It is an attitude, an expression, a look, a touch.
03:02It is anything that lifts another person.
03:05Remember this when you discern between genuine need and manipulation.
03:10Watch for patterns. Does someone always have a minor emergency?
03:14A broken bike they could fix, but somehow it's your problem now?
03:19It's fine to help, but not at the cost of being taken for granted.
03:23Choose self-respect over misplaced guilt.
03:26Yield to yourself to honor your time and energy.
03:30Listen, observe, and let your actions align with true compassion, not exploitation.
03:36Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself and others is to say number three.
03:42People who create their own illusions.
03:45Some folks live in their own little stories.
03:48They make up tales about who they are and how things are,
03:52and they believe these tales so much that they can see what's really going on.
03:57The Stoics, old thinkers who were big on being tough and smart about life,
04:02would shake their heads at this.
04:04They said you've got to look at yourself straight, see the good and bad, and learn from it.
04:10Don't hide behind false tales, they'd say,
04:13because that's like ignoring a hole in your roof and then wondering why it's raining on your couch.
04:19Imagine someone who always thinks they win every game.
04:23They say, I'm the best, even when they lose.
04:26They're not trying to be mean or anything.
04:29They just can't admit they lost.
04:31It's like when kids cover their eyes and think you can't see them.
04:35They're not bad.
04:36They just can't see beyond their own make-believe.
04:39Helping someone like that isn't easy.
04:42They've got walls in their minds taller than a castle's.
04:45You could tell them something as clear as water is wet, and they'd argue it isn't.
04:50They've got to see the mistake in their thinking themselves, and that's stuff.
04:55Sometimes they need someone who knows about minds to help them.
04:59But the old Stoics give us a tip.
05:02We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.
05:06That means we make our own troubles in our heads a lot of the time.
05:10We've got to see things as they are, not just how we feel about them.
05:15Four, people who never admit their mistakes, there's a saying that goes,
05:19A man who never admits his mistakes is like a captain steering a ship without a compass.
05:25This rings especially true for those who won't acknowledge their own faults.
05:30These individuals tend to blame everything but themselves,
05:34not realizing the ripple effect of their actions.
05:37In the wise words of the Stoics, without reflection and humility,
05:41personal growth is an uphill battle.
05:44Picture someone always finding excuses.
05:47A missed job interview isn't due to poor time management.
05:51It's the bus being late.
05:53They rarely pause to consider the impact of their choices.
05:57It's always someone else's problem, not theirs.
06:00Attempting to enlighten such people is often a thankless task.
06:04It's like teaching a cat to swim, against its nature and, frankly, probably a waste of time.
06:11They live in a world where accountability does not apply to them.
06:15When something goes wrong, it's not because they've made a poor decision.
06:20It's because fate has conspired against them.
06:23The harsh reality is that you may need to step away from people who drown in self-justification.
06:29As the Stoics believe, we can only control our own actions and reactions.
06:35It's sad but sometimes true that the more you try to help someone who refuses to see the truth,
06:41the more likely you are to get caught in their storm.
06:44It's healthier to pull back and not let their negativity drag you down.
06:495. Those who don't prepare for the future.
06:53Watching someone close to you underuse their talents is like seeing a book stay in open.
06:58It's stories untold.
07:00They've got the chapters of potential written in them, yet they seem to sit on the shelf.
07:05Life is ticking away, and they're not bothered by the hours slipping through their fingers.
07:11It's a dance of today versus tomorrow.
07:14Cheer, we all need to savor the moment.
07:17But tomorrow's dreams are shaped by today's actions.
07:20The future depends on what we do in the present, said a wise man.
07:25And it's true.
07:26We glow with joy when we harness what we're naturally good at,
07:31when we steer our skills toward a brighter horizon.
07:34It's not that they don't have the tools.
07:37Their toolbox is full.
07:39They just don't seem to map out the steps to build their future.
07:43It's like someone with a green thumb who doesn't plant a garden.
07:47They know the soil, the seeds, but they don't plot the land.
07:51They wait for someone to dig the holes for them.
07:54Encouraging them to get their hands dirty, to take the first step, is often all they need.
08:00The Stoics had it right.
08:02Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be.
08:06Be one, as Marcus Aurelius stated.
08:09Without direction, anxiety creeps in, stealing the joy of now and the promise of later.
08:16To inspire them is to challenge them to move, to act,
08:20for their stagnation holds back the tide of progress they could ride.
08:25Six, people who focus on life's negatives continually facing life's challenges with a frown.
08:31Some individuals can't seem to break free from the shadow of constant discontent.
08:36Their conversations are often a litany of woes, money woes, family strife, work frustration.
08:43Every solution offered seems to meet with a new problem,
08:47as if they hold on to troubles like a familiar blanket.
08:51You may feel compelled to help, but it's like pouring water into a sieve.
08:56There's wisdom in the Stoic saying,
08:58he who laughs at the human race deserves better of it than he who mourns for it.
09:03For the former leaves it better than he finds it,
09:06while the latter makes it of no better worth than he found it.
09:10It serves as a reminder that dwelling on the dark can blind us to the light.
09:15It's much like when you're listening to a song that's out of tune.
09:19It can throw off your rhythm.
09:21Trying to tune someone else's instrument while neglecting your own harmony can be futile.
09:27They may not be seeking change, just an audience.
09:31The more you complain, the less you obtain, goes a simple saying.
09:35Its truth rings clear.
09:37Direct your efforts toward those who see your support as a gift,
09:42not those who view life's glass as perpetually half-empty.
09:46Time might just show them how to celebrate what's in their cup,
09:50rather than lamenting what's not.
09:537. People who always blame others for their problems
09:56helping someone who always blames others for their problems is tough.
10:01They never admit their own slips, thinking they're doing everything right.
10:05It's like they wear blinders,
10:07missing the simple truth that we shape our lives by how we respond,
10:12not just what happens to us.
10:14If we don't control our reactions, we're like a ship without a rudder,
10:19lost in a sea of confusion.
10:21The only thing we control is our response to what happens to us.
10:26A wise Stoic once said,
10:28Remember, no one's perfect, but to grow, we need to see our own flaws.
10:34Imagine a player who blames the wind for every missed shot and never practices to get better.
10:40They won't score until they stop pointing at the breeze and start improving their game.
10:46The truth is, self-improvement starts with self-reflection.
10:50The best lesson life offers is often the one we learn the hard way.
10:55For those who never look inward, life becomes the teacher.
10:59They may miss friends and blame the world for being cold or lose jobs
11:04and accuse the boss of favoritism,
11:06but the day they start to question themselves is the day they begin to change their destiny.
11:128. Self-entitled people
11:15Some people walk through life with the belief that it owes them favors just for their presence.
11:20They've adopted the idea that their mere existence warrants special treatment.
11:25Yet, life does not bend to our whims.
11:29As the Stoic philosophy suggests,
11:31we should not spoil what we have by desiring what we have not.
11:35True balance is found in mutual respect
11:38and the understanding that accolades should be the fruits of our labor,
11:42not expected gifts.
11:44It's challenging for those with generous hearts
11:47to guide such individuals towards a more grounded perspective.
11:51Their well-intentioned advice is often met with resistance or perceived as a threat.
11:57Imagine someone who believes their charm should open doors for them.
12:01When faced with generosity, they might take without giving back,
12:06leaving their benefactors feeling used.
12:09The lesson often goes unlearned until they encounter someone reflecting their own behavior.
12:15Life setbacks can hit hard,
12:17and it's then that some expect the spotlight of sympathy.
12:21They play the victim,
12:23sometimes trusting the narrative to their benefit,
12:26even with those who have previously lent a hand.
12:29Fortune falls heavy on those who expect everything.
12:33A twist on a Stoic wisdom rings true.
12:36It's often not until they stand alone facing the echo of their actions
12:41that the realization dawns.
12:43Respect and empathy are earned, not owed.
12:50Change can be a tough road for some.
12:53Take Tom, for instance.
12:55He's the guy at the office who's stuck in his ways,
12:58using the same old methods even when new tools could cut his workload in half.
13:03Every time someone suggests a different approach,
13:06Tom's got his heels dug in saying,
13:08this is how I've always done it.
13:10It's like trying to teach a cat to swim.
13:13You can throw all the advice you want,
13:16but some folks just don't want to get wet.
13:19It's a bit like what the Stoics believed when they said,
13:22he who is content with what has been done is an obstacle in the path of progress.
13:27It's a simple reminder that sometimes,
13:30progress means stepping out of the comfort zone
13:33and admitting there's room to grow.
13:35So if you know someone like Tom,
13:37remember, you can't force a seed to sprout by shouting at the soil.
13:42Change is a personal journey,
13:44and for those resisting, it often has to come from within.
13:48Sometimes, all we can do is plant the seed
13:51and wait for nature to do its thing.
13:54And in the meantime, we keep growing ourselves,
13:57setting an example they might one day follow.
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14:12The universe, or as Marcus Aurelius said,
14:15the Logos, has a plan for us,
14:18and we can learn how to follow it by studying the wisdom of the Stoics.
14:23They were smart people who knew how to live well and deal with challenges.
14:27Want to be like them?
14:29Watch the video on the screen to learn how to sharpen your mind.
14:33Next time, we'll unveil more Stoic wisdom,
14:37a revealing Stoic knowledge that can change the way you face life's ups and downs.
14:42Stay curious. Stay Stoic.