Haroon Rafiq Say Jannen Faisla Karnay Ka Gur
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00:00Welcome back, viewers.
00:04Today, a lot of youngsters have come to our show.
00:07Yes.
00:08And a lot of youngsters, I mean students,
00:11and those who are not students anymore,
00:13who have come to the job pool,
00:15they ask a lot of questions
00:16that life is moving towards practical life now.
00:19So, we make emotional decisions
00:23and sometimes we make practical decisions.
00:25Sometimes, both of them clash.
00:27The heart wants something else,
00:29but the practical thing, the decision, is something else.
00:32For example, you want to pursue arts.
00:36But the job says that the cheque, the money that comes after a month,
00:40you should not go that way.
00:42If you don't get the money and you can't go further in arts,
00:46then what should you do?
00:47So, make emotional decisions.
00:50I mean, how to decide
00:51whether the decisions are emotional or practical?
00:55Okay, first of all, before I answer,
00:57because I get a lot of questions like this in my inbox.
01:00They are pretty much related to this.
01:02First, I will ask you what you think should be done.
01:05Because you and your spouse
01:09have seen a success in life.
01:11So, what do you say, what should be done?
01:13I think you have to find a balance.
01:16Okay.
01:16There are a lot of decisions in which you have to listen to your heart
01:20and there are a lot of decisions in which you have to think practically.
01:23How to differentiate whether to make a decision from the heart
01:27or a practical decision?
01:28Okay, I will share what I practice.
01:31Yes, share that.
01:32I take a paper pen and write pros and cons.
01:35Very good.
01:36I decide according to the weight of the paper.
01:39This is a very good method.
01:41It is a very good method.
01:43It is said that if you can write the problems of your life on paper,
01:48remember this.
01:49And try this in your life.
01:52If you can write the problems of your life on paper,
01:56then half of it is solved.
01:58Write it down and see.
02:00The paper, the pen, the writing will tell you what the solution is.
02:06Mr. Dhani, I would like to ask you.
02:08I just wanted to say that this was a very practical approach,
02:11not an emotional approach.
02:13So, what do you think? Should it be an emotional approach?
02:15No, I mean, it sounds good.
02:18But I think most people are not capable enough
02:21to make such decisions.
02:23So, what would you say?
02:24If I talk about myself, I am a little bit emotional.
02:27So, I often make decisions based on emotions.
02:30Sir, should you make decisions from your heart or from your mind?
02:33What I think is that...
02:35I mean, even I think that I make decisions from my heart.
02:39Most of the people like me, who are lazy,
02:42who try to avoid the thought process, say that they listen to their heart.
02:47Most of them are lazy.
02:49You should always make a decision after giving it a lot of thought.
02:51After that, you should make a decision from your heart.
02:54Even Iqbal has said that it is better to stay with your heart
02:57than to stay away from your mind.
02:59But sometimes, leave it alone.
03:01So, he has also said that sometimes...
03:03All the decisions in your life should be right.
03:05Decisions from my heart or generally?
03:07No, generally.
03:08Sir, I am very happy to say that I am making a claim
03:15that none of the decisions I made were right.
03:18None of the decisions you made were right?
03:20Maybe some decisions were not right, but most of the decisions were right.
03:24None of the decisions you made were right?
03:26Not at all.
03:28Mr. Agha, both of you are successful people.
03:30There must be people in your family
03:34who are not as successful as you are.
03:36They are not as fortunate as you are.
03:38They are not as fortunate as you are.
03:41You made the decisions after giving it a lot of thought.
03:43Mr. Salim, you go first.
03:44I had a headache. You go first.
03:47Mr. Agha, did you make all the decisions after giving it a lot of thought?
03:51Sir, there were two or three things that had an impact on my life.
03:57I would like you to listen to this.
03:59Since they are successful people, let's hear it.
04:02I took some decisions from my heart and some from my mind.
04:06I consulted some of my friends, especially my elder brother.
04:12He told me that I should not do it this way.
04:14It would be better this way.
04:16I mixed all the three things and came up with a plan.
04:22That was my decision.
04:23You should clap for this.
04:24Wow!
04:27Mr. Salim, when did you..
04:28Sometimes, everything is going right
04:31and there is no problem.
04:33Everything is going right, but there is a problem.
04:37It is good that a person..
04:39Mr. Salim, you should clap for whatever he said.
04:41Wow!
04:43I thought I was dumb.
04:44Maybe he thought I was dumb.
04:45No, it is like that.
04:47He said that if it seems too easy, you are doing it wrong.
04:51You are absolutely right.
04:52Oh, you said that.
04:54If everything is going right, something is definitely wrong.
04:57Okay, I have made you listen to everyone's stories
05:00and how they made their decisions.
05:04Now, let's mix it all together.
05:06Let's make a cocktail out of it.
05:10Let's make a cocktail out of it.
05:12Let's make a hodgepodge out of it.
05:15Now, you have to live a life with gaps.
05:20You have to make sure that all these things are included.
05:23All the people who are sitting here
05:26have not made 100% correct decisions.
05:29Not at all.
05:30You have to understand this.
05:32You can fail only if you believe in your heart.
05:35You can fail only if you are practical.
05:39So, what do you have to do?
05:40So, what do you have to do?
05:41So, what I have understood from all these conversations
05:45and I want you to understand as well,
05:46is that you have to accept that failure is a part of life.
05:51Today, you will start playing cricket.
05:53If you don't like to lose, don't start for God's sake.
05:56If you want to play any game and you don't like to lose,
05:58for God's sake, don't start.
06:00Play cricket to play.
06:01If you like to play,
06:03then if you want to live your life,
06:05then don't live it just for success.
06:07You have to remember that
06:08to stand up against failure is also a success.
06:14That is also a success in itself.
06:16So, don't always be practical.
06:18A person who is 100% practical
06:21should be immediately put in jail.
06:25Let me give you an example.
06:26For example, there is a doctor.
06:28He charges Rs 50,000 for a heart surgery.
06:31A patient has come.
06:33He has Rs 49,900.
06:35Rs 100 is less.
06:36He should have a practical approach
06:38that this is my household expenses.
06:40Rs 500 will be less.
06:42I won't save him.
06:43So, the patient died.
06:44You have made your approach very practical.
06:47That is a mechanical life.
06:49So, don't be too practical.
06:52And don't listen to your heart too much.
06:54If you want to succeed,
06:56then you have to find that fine balance.
06:59You and I both want
07:01that all the poor people in the world become rich.
07:03That everyone's problems end.
07:05That everyone has a bike.
07:06That everyone has a car.
07:07That everyone has a plane.
07:08It shouldn't be like that.
07:09Everyone has a heart.
07:10So, you have to see one thing.
07:12You have to create a balance.
07:14If I can change a person's life,
07:17then I will change that.
07:18That is enough for me.
07:19You have to find a fine balance
07:22between emotions and practicality.
07:24And as Mr. Agha Majid said,
07:28you have to consult people
07:31who have succeeded in that.
07:34You have to consult them.
07:36You have to keep your emotions together.
07:38It is not necessary that you have to make a decision.
07:41After making a decision, you have to trust Allah.
07:44And you have to trust that
07:46when you are sleeping in the plane,
07:47you are sleeping because
07:49you know that the pilot will be a great man.
07:52He will fly the plane well.
07:53So, who is greater than Allah?
07:55If he is flying your life,
07:57then make a decision and trust him.
07:59God willing, you will succeed.
08:01That's it.
08:05Viewers, this was a short break.
08:06We will meet again after the break.