Sister Wives S19 Episode 3 Am I My Brother's Keeper
Sister Wives S19 Episode 3 Am I My Brother's Keeper
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00:00Previously on Sister Wives.
00:04I love this property.
00:05It goes clear back.
00:07If Janelle were to move, it would devastate me.
00:12So Tony and I are pregnant, with twins.
00:14With twins.
00:15Oh my gosh, that is so much work.
00:19Mary told me that she was going to go to meet
00:22with our church leaders and basically request a divorce.
00:26It's called a release in our church.
00:29I've been living in limbo,
00:30just not going to keep doing that.
00:33It's been done and over for years.
00:39He's not talking to me.
00:41I think I'm going to have to lawyer up.
00:43I am going to move forward and find happiness and joy
00:47outside of my club,
00:49because it was my club and I got kicked out of it.
00:59We're going to go to a wedding
01:24and they don't want to have anything to do
01:26with the fact that we're public.
01:27So we're just going to have a good time there.
01:29The bride and groom, last time I talked to the bride,
01:33they'd been told that Cody wasn't going to go.
01:35Same thing with Robin.
01:36I don't know if she's even going to go.
01:38I think the goal is to just be friendly,
01:41not friends, but friendly.
01:44I'm a little nervous.
01:45I am.
01:46I'm a little nervous just to have us all together.
01:53I spoke with the bride and groom at one point and said,
01:57I think maybe I better not come.
02:04The reason I suggested I shouldn't go
02:06is just all the hate that I'm getting from family members.
02:14Mostly just all the talk from Christine and Janelle.
02:19We're all culpable in this.
02:22I'm out of coyote passes and re-measuring things.
02:25I'm just trying to figure out
02:26what's the best configuration.
02:28I don't know the answer.
02:29I don't think Janelle and Mary are going to end up there.
02:33And to be honest with you, it's a source
02:36of a lot of heartbreak for me.
02:41The person who's getting married specifically
02:44asked Cody and I to come.
02:46It's a little tense.
02:48I am a bit concerned about Solonar
02:53getting sort of caught up in that.
02:55I don't want them to get hurt.
02:58I don't want to be there with people looking at me
03:02but not talking to me.
03:04I'm still terribly hurt by everything that has happened.
03:08And so I'm not in the place where I'm like,
03:11oh, I'm just forgiving you guys, so it's all good now.
03:14I'm just not there yet.
03:16The last wedding we went to, gosh.
03:21It would have been Aspen's and Mitch's was the last wedding.
03:24What a difference, right?
03:26Aspen and Mitch got married over four years ago.
03:33And gosh, a lot's happened in four years.
03:37Yeah, Aspen and Mitch's wedding, we were like,
03:40we were a team still.
03:44I love you and I'm so excited to have you
03:45by my side for the smiley.
03:47Oh my gosh, the whole day was great.
03:55Cody and I were great.
03:57At that point, I never thought that I'd be leaving.
04:00He's officially part of the family.
04:02I know, congratulations.
04:05It's just so painful to think of where we were at back then,
04:08at least where I thought we were at.
04:10I don't know, I don't even know anymore what's real anymore.
04:13Aspen got married a month and a half,
04:16six weeks before we moved to Flagstaff.
04:18And that was really our last hurrah.
04:25If I really am honest about how everything
04:27was at Aspen's wedding, it was wonderful,
04:29even for Christine and I.
04:31We're not the same family that went to Aspen and Mitch's
04:48wedding or McKelty's wedding or Maddie's wedding.
04:50We're not the same.
04:52This is a very different family.
04:56Sadly enough, McKelty and Tony and Avalon can't come.
04:59The doctor put her on extreme bed rest
05:01because she's pregnant with twins
05:02and she's due in a couple of weeks.
05:04So the doctor's like, no, you're not going,
05:07which is crazy because she's like such a good mediator.
05:11We're all adults and we got this.
05:15I think we'll be OK.
05:26I am nervous about the initial interaction.
05:29And then after that, I don't care because I can
05:31ignore everybody after that.
05:33Yeah, between me and Christine, it's just hostile.
05:40So you can hear the, all the hubbub.
05:43I don't know why I have, I'm nervous.
05:45I have butterflies.
05:46I don't know why I have butterflies.
05:48I don't know why I have butterflies.
05:50I don't know why I have butterflies.
05:52I don't know why I have butterflies.
05:55Yeah, I mean, my kids are upset with their dad,
05:57but they're not going to make a scene or do something stupid.
05:59This is just going to be ignore each other
06:01and pretend like you don't exist, basically, I think.
06:04The kids don't need to be involved in the issues
06:08with their parents.
06:11Oh, I wish that things weren't like this.
06:16The last time all four of the adults were together,
06:21Isabelle's graduation party, I mean,
06:23that's the last time a lot of us were together,
06:25was Isabelle's graduation party.
06:27That was like over a year and a half ago.
06:30This is the deal.
06:31We say a lot of things behind each other's backs.
06:34We just do.
06:35And it's pretty terrible to hear what everybody says
06:38about everybody behind their backs.
06:40I can't stand knowing what everybody thinks about me.
06:44I would hope that we can all behave.
06:53So I'm home from the event,
06:55and it was a little bit bittersweet
06:58because we didn't really talk to each other.
07:05Cody, Robin, I nodded at Mary.
07:09Christy and I sat together with the kids.
07:12Cody and Robin sat elsewhere.
07:17You know, I waved at Mary.
07:19We talked to Mary.
07:22We didn't really talk, but I saw her.
07:25It's just so weird.
07:27Being at the wedding was a little bit awkward
07:29just because there are some people in the family
07:33that don't really want to interact with me.
07:37I'm kind of in the middle of this breakup.
07:42You know, it's just kind of weird, you know what I mean?
07:47But then at the same time,
07:50there's definitely people who are okay
07:54with me being in their presence,
07:56and those are the people that I hang out with.
07:59You know what I mean?
08:01Cody did kind of at least say hi to me
08:05a couple times in passing.
08:07And it's just so weird.
08:09I'm not quite sure.
08:11Look, I'm happy.
08:13It's obviously over.
08:16It's just so weird after 30 years or whatever.
08:19And we both have said mean things about each other,
08:23or whatever, trying to prove, justify our case,
08:27but justify the case for why we feel the way we do.
08:33Robin and I were put over kind of in a corner,
08:36probably for our safety.
08:38You know, we were kept just in the back.
08:41And Robin's saying,
08:43this is just not right that this family isn't together,
08:46that we're not one family.
08:48Some of the family came up and gave me a hug,
08:51and I just embraced them back.
08:53And I got an I love you from Gabe,
08:57and I told him I loved him back.
09:00I saw Janelle, and I didn't want to talk to her.
09:04It was hard.
09:06It was hard.
09:08I was, whether I'm right or wrong,
09:12it just still feels just deep,
09:14deep wounds of betrayal for me.
09:17There were so many family members
09:20that it was just like, hi, I love you,
09:23and let's get away from each other.
09:26I just inserted myself as best as I could into the fun.
09:31It was awkward enough.
09:35It's just weird.
09:37It was so weird to be at this event
09:41where it looked like we didn't even know each other
09:43or were acquaintances.
09:45I saw Christine there as well, but I didn't talk to her.
09:48I did feel like some people were trying to look like
09:51they were having more fun than me.
09:53I mean, this is how childish this whole divorce has been.
09:57Such a teenage drama.
10:00I don't like you any more than you like me.
10:03You know, it's civil war, total civil war.
10:08I felt like there could have been
10:11more positive interactions there that weren't there.
10:15It's over. It's bittersweet.
10:18It kind of hurts, kind of bugs me.
10:21But I wouldn't...
10:25I wouldn't change the trajectory of where I'm going, I guess.
10:29It's just...
10:31It's going to take me a couple days, I think, to process it.
10:36I'm glad that these events won't be all the time.
10:42Overall, the whole wedding was just sad for me.
10:45We used to go places as a family,
10:48and now it's like those who were my partners
10:51are now almost like enemies.
10:53It's awkward.
10:57I don't know what the solution is.
10:59Separations are harder than I thought.
11:01Divorces are harder than I thought.
11:06When Christine moved my stuff out of the house
11:09and she said, I don't want you to stay here anymore,
11:11it felt like a betrayal,
11:13but I wasn't sure that she was being serious.
11:15And I'm looking back now
11:17and feeling how stupid that was of me.
11:19For Christine and I,
11:21I think that if we would have just broken up as friends,
11:24it would have been better for the whole family.
11:26Like, make it so we can get back together another time
11:30instead of polarizing everybody.
11:36I'm dealing with some of my own just situational depression.
11:43And I miss family members.
11:46♪♪
11:54♪♪
12:00♪♪
12:04Mary and I have officially broken up, I think.
12:07♪♪
12:12If I were single and Mary was single,
12:16would I date her? No, I wouldn't.
12:18She is upset that I dragged this out so long.
12:21I don't blame her.
12:25I'm looking in this triple breakup,
12:28like Christine's, then Janelle, and now Mary.
12:31I don't want Mary to be in this place
12:34where she's taken this toll, this direction
12:37that both Christine and Janelle have taken.
12:40Oh, yeah, I need one more enemy right now.
12:44So I'm trying to be in this place with Mary
12:46where it's like, hey, can we just be friends and move on?
12:58Janelle and I don't really communicate very much.
13:01To be really honest with you,
13:03I don't understand why we can't reconcile.
13:06When I moved to Flagstaff,
13:08Cody found it a lot easier to be away.
13:12I reminded him that he needed to come to my house,
13:15like he, in the very beginning.
13:17He's like, well, I'm really tired.
13:19I'm like, well, you can rest at my house
13:21just as much as you can rest at Robin's house.
13:23It just started to become more separate
13:25and more reasons to just be separate.
13:27♪♪
13:34They never do?
13:36No, there's three.
13:38Oh, so that's not stairs.
13:41Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
13:42Uh-oh.
13:43Here's some apples.
13:44What's so exciting here?
13:45Caramel apples.
13:46Okay, remember that we're...
13:47Oh, no, no, we do it upside down the other way, don't we?
13:50There are more relationships that are struggling now.
13:53I've tried several times to reach out to family members
13:56to want to talk and, you know, to the kids and stuff like that,
14:00and they're just not ready, I guess,
14:02because I just don't hear back.
14:04If I, can I, can I go from the middle or can I use...
14:07You can go from the middle and the sides,
14:09All right, so you go first because you're the youngest.
14:11When I talk to Janelle about our relationship,
14:14she's like, I'm just enjoying my time away from you.
14:18Oh, Mom, I didn't even leave you a chance, did I?
14:21I'm so mad at us for doing what we did to our family and,
14:24you know, that we, that we collectively
14:27messed with something that was working.
14:30Dad, no way.
14:31Ah!
14:32That didn't, we didn't even get anywhere with that.
14:35That game's lame.
14:36We?
14:37All right.
14:39Well, we, as a family, as a group, the rest,
14:42oh, all of you got to pick one, and that was it.
14:46My day-to-day is I've got this family in my house
14:49with my wife, Robin, and we have a day-to-day,
14:52we have an experience.
14:53Every summer we're playing, you know,
14:55the girls are doing music all summer long.
14:57We do stuff like this game right here,
15:00only it's usually with guitars and music.
15:02Yeah, that was, that was one and done.
15:04That's what, how that went.
15:07Oh, shoot.
15:09We have this nice family experience,
15:12almost perpetually.
15:14And if you get through this one,
15:16I won't have any more carameled apples.
15:20Why?
15:21Because I don't, I'm betting,
15:23I don't think she can get through this one.
15:25Oh!
15:26Oh!
15:27She said yes!
15:28That was stuff!
15:30Well.
15:31Be careful.
15:32Why'd you bet that?
15:33Because I didn't think she was going to last.
15:36Solomon and Ariella don't really,
15:39they're not really tracking
15:41what's happening in the family.
15:43We had to go through COVID,
15:45and it sort of prepped them for
15:47this separation that's happening.
15:49No, you don't!
15:51I'm really struggling with the idea of
15:54whether or not I remind them about their siblings
15:58and talk about them and show them the pictures
16:01and stuff like that,
16:03and create the question of
16:05where are my siblings?
16:07Why aren't they seeing me?
16:12Why didn't they send me a birthday card
16:14or something like that?
16:16Why aren't they here for my party?
16:18Where are they?
16:19And why aren't they here?
16:24Every once in a while they ask,
16:26is our whole family coming?
16:28And I'm just like, no, not this time.
16:30With Robin, there was always
16:33this very separateness.
16:35My children were scolded
16:37if they would open up Robin's fridge.
16:39When Robin came in the family,
16:41there was a lot of
16:43tension and conflict,
16:45just because whenever
16:47somebody new comes in the family,
16:49it just is.
16:51It's what happens.
16:53Mary across the board was
16:55very accepting of my kids and I.
16:57But the rest of the family
16:59really struggled to accept
17:02that all we wanted to do
17:04was be a part of this family.
17:06My kids didn't like going over there
17:08because they saw that Robin
17:10and their dad were a couple
17:12and he wasn't in our home.
17:14So they were frustrated
17:16at different things.
17:18Christine and I were
17:20always romantic at her house.
17:22And I think we've forgotten that.
17:24My memory about Robin
17:26coming in the family
17:28doesn't come with nearly as much
17:31that we had 30 years ago.
17:33My marriage with Mary,
17:35Janelle coming in the family,
17:37Christine coming in the family,
17:39the experience of that coming together
17:41for years was just difficult.
17:53I remember Ari just making
17:55a little statement one time,
17:57I don't like Christine.
18:00You don't know her at this point
18:02well enough to like her or not.
18:04Well, she left dad and I don't like her.
18:06Well, that showed some loyalty
18:08and here's the dumb thing is
18:10I understand it.
18:12I tried to correct it.
18:14But that same kind of loyalty
18:16is happening amongst others
18:18in the family.
18:20Ari's the youngest.
18:22Of course she should act like a child.
18:24One experience I had
18:26was I was trying to leave the house.
18:28It's getting interesting.
18:30Ari, Ella was melting down.
18:32She grabs my leg and won't let me leave.
18:34And I'm like,
18:36Robin, I need you to drag her off of me.
18:38And she says, she's expressing herself.
18:40You're going to have to take five minutes
18:42and let her do it.
18:44But I had to explain to her,
18:46there's another wife that needs me,
18:48another mommy.
18:50I got other kids that need to see me.
18:52She's just dragging along on my leg
18:54screaming, don't leave me daddy,
18:57My kids were always like,
18:59from the very beginning,
19:01they knew that their dad
19:03was not going to always be there.
19:05I always felt like
19:07that Cody and Robin
19:09mismanaged the situation
19:11with her children.
19:13He couldn't be away for more than
19:15three or four days
19:17because Ari just gets so sad or whatever.
19:19I feel like that was poor parenting.
19:21Through all history of the family,
19:23the other kids did it.
19:26And they're fine, they're well-adjusted adults.
19:28I think they're fine.
19:30She loves her dad.
19:32She wants to be around her dad.
19:34Yes.
19:36But did it ever stop Cody
19:38from going to another mom's home?
19:40No, it didn't.
19:42I wouldn't have allowed it.
19:44I'm sorry.
19:46I didn't believe in you.
19:48It wasn't you.
19:50It was the stack.
19:52I'm going through a lot of mourning,
19:55dealing with some of my own
19:57situational depression from it.
19:59It's just so sad.
20:01And I miss family members.
20:03What I'm thinking is
20:05with time going on
20:07and just a phone call once in a while,
20:09that these relationships will come back
20:11and then I'll be in full fellowship
20:13with my children again.
20:18It's not normal to see Cody smiling lately
20:20because of everything that's been going on
20:22with the family and stuff.
20:24She's struggling.
20:28It's just completely devastating
20:30what has happened to us.
20:32Devastating.
20:34Just over the top.
20:43You are set up for an induction.
20:45I'm going to turn it to a C-section.
20:47Are you okay with that?
20:49Losing the chance
20:51to be able to hold my child
20:54first thing, right on my chest,
20:56in my arms is something that
20:58I'm just having a hard time with.
21:11Ready for this?
21:13Come in.
21:16Hi, Dr. Bain.
21:18Getting excited?
21:20Yes, getting ready.
21:23Dr. Bain was my doctor
21:25when I had Truly,
21:27and we've been friends ever since.
21:29He was the second person
21:31I told we were moving to Vegas
21:33back when we were moving forever ago.
21:35Anyway, I love the guy.
21:37I'm also getting excited.
21:39Oh God, let me move down here.
21:41There you go, easy part.
21:43Where you just get to enjoy the view.
21:45Yeah, so true.
21:47Alright, I think you are pregnant.
21:49I was kind of hoping I'd hide it.
21:52You want to know how many?
21:5453, 53.
21:56You're pretty close, 52.
21:58You're measuring 52 weeks,
22:00you're only how many weeks?
22:0237.
22:0452 weeks is just the size of her.
22:06What we're really looking for,
22:08and what the real concern is,
22:10is how big are the babies getting
22:12for them to be born naturally,
22:14because she wants a natural birth.
22:16Alright, we're going to take a,
22:18tell you what, I'm going to look
22:21Oh, we can see him!
22:23Can we see them?
22:25Yeah, that's the cranium.
22:27Oh my gosh.
22:29So they're both feet down, breech.
22:31Oh, they're feet down, that's what breech means.
22:33Unfortunately, I can't turn this baby.
22:35So we just got to see what happens, okay?
22:37So next week,
22:39you are set up for an induction.
22:41I'm going to turn it to a C-section,
22:43but
22:45if this baby's head
22:47goes down
22:49in the next six days,
22:51is there anything that she can do
22:53to help the baby's head go down?
22:55When you just have a singleton,
22:57there are some things that can be done,
22:59and there are some things we can do.
23:01With twins, it's just,
23:03there's just not enough room.
23:05I know McKelvey's trying very hard
23:07to have these vaginally,
23:09and I'm all for that,
23:11because I've had a C-section,
23:13and the recovery is very hard from it.
23:15The vaginal birth is better
23:18at home or without painkillers.
23:20I know it sounds hard,
23:22but the recovery is ten times easier.
23:24When you have C-sections,
23:26I mean, they basically cut open your abdomen.
23:28So they've cut all those muscles.
23:30So think about any time you turn in bed,
23:32or you try to sit up,
23:34or any kind of movement,
23:36it's really miserable.
23:38So, are you okay with that?
23:40I'll get over it.
23:42Better a scar than a scarred kid.
23:44Yeah, that's a good way to raise it.
23:47A chance to be able to hold my child,
23:49first thing, right on my chest,
23:51in my arms, is something that
23:53I'm just having a hard time with.
23:55I don't know if it's a cultural thing,
23:57I don't know if it's a plaguemist thing,
23:59I don't really know,
24:01but I was always raised that natural home births
24:03were the best way to go.
24:05I loved the recovery of the home birth.
24:07It was wonderful.
24:09Also, an epidural, though, kicks butt.
24:11So, you know, it's a tough call.
24:13McKelvey likes as natural as possible,
24:16We can't change reality,
24:18but we can change what our expectations are.
24:20I'll take the safer option.
24:22Okay, sounds good.
24:24It is what it is, and I'd rather my kids
24:26be safe and healthy, and me be safe and healthy,
24:28versus the possibility of
24:30something wrong happening.
24:32I prefer home births
24:34to hospital births.
24:36Most births are just natural.
24:38It's a very natural experience.
24:40Birthing is very natural.
24:42So, we can't be in there if it's a C-section.
24:44So, we'll be, like, in the waiting room, right?
24:46Yeah.
24:48Every extra person that's in the O.R.,
24:50it's an infection risk.
24:52And so, that's why they don't
24:54let, you know,
24:56your favorite mother.
24:58That's interesting.
25:00Awkward.
25:02But not that it wasn't awkward
25:04during your delivery when questions were being asked
25:06about, uh...
25:08Oh, yeah, that was funny. Yeah.
25:10When I was in labor with Truly,
25:13Cody and Dr. Bean were talking about
25:15Mary's infertility issues.
25:17So, who would you recommend for a fertility doctor?
25:19What do you mean?
25:21Um, if we wanted to do in vitro fertilization.
25:23Why's that?
25:25Um, because I've got a wife who only has one.
25:27Dr. Bean knew we were a polygamous family already.
25:29We'd been up front.
25:31We'd been open with him.
25:33He knew everything.
25:35While I'm here, like, in labor, it's kind of classic.
25:37Yeah, that's kind of weird.
25:39Talking about the other wife's fertility.
25:42Mary and Christine have always had
25:44a really close relationship.
25:46He just thought it was really funny, too,
25:48that here I am in labor
25:50talking about Mary's infertility stuff.
25:52But, I mean,
25:54whenever you're gonna get an opportunity
25:56to talk to somebody, you know?
25:58So, it was fine. It was great.
26:00Hopefully we see you in six days.
26:02Hopefully not sooner.
26:04Six days.
26:06Me too.
26:11Everything goes right. Everything's good.
26:13I don't need to see Dr. Bean until then
26:15because that means that everything's going right
26:17if I don't have to see my doctor.
26:19The next time you see me,
26:21I won't be pregnant.
26:23Weird.
26:25Those doors are so hard to see
26:27because you know your child is on the other side.
26:29And there's nothing you can do
26:31to help them.
26:41Today is the day
26:43before the twins are gonna be born.
26:45They're gonna be born tomorrow.
26:47Isn't it so weird you can schedule
26:49a day for a birth?
26:51I'm excited for these little babies to come.
26:53Really excited.
26:55This is a really big deal to me
26:57and I'm excited to be there
26:59and be grandma
27:01and just support them through this.
27:03How you feeling there?
27:05I'm good.
27:07I'm excited. I'm ready.
27:10I think Christine's cool and easy about this too.
27:12I don't want any drama.
27:14I don't want any stress.
27:16I mean, I care about Christine.
27:18I want her to be happy
27:20and I respect
27:22and honor her position
27:24as McKelty's mother.
27:26I'm ready to be done.
27:28Forever.
27:30This is the last time we're gonna see you pregnant.
27:32Yes, this is the last time I will ever, hopefully,
27:34knock on wood, this is the last time I will ever
27:36be pregnant again.
27:38I'm having more kids but they will not come out of my body.
27:40Pregnancy is miserable.
27:42It is literally awful.
27:44I've come to terms with it.
27:46I'm gonna get over the fact that I can't have them vaginally
27:48but I'm not too happy
27:50about it.
27:52But you'll be able to see it too, we were saying.
27:54Except the cloth here though, right?
27:56I'll have a
27:58curtain
28:00over in front of my face
28:02so I won't be able to see them actually do the procedure
28:04but Dr. Bean did say
28:07that he would put a mirror down there
28:09so if I wanted to, I could.
28:11Why?
28:13Sign me up for that too.
28:15So cool.
28:17I want to see it because if I can't feel it
28:19I want to at least know what's going on.
28:21They have to cut layers by layers too
28:23because they've got to cut the muscle
28:25and the skin and then they've got to cut the uterine wall
28:27and it just sounds so cool.
28:29A little gruesome.
28:31I wonder how
28:33Avalon's gonna react.
28:36She's gonna have siblings. Plural.
28:38It'll be great.
28:40And no one's ever left out with three kids.
28:42No one's ever left out.
28:44She'll be left out a lot, they're twins.
28:48I'm really excited about tomorrow.
28:50The next time you see me
28:52I won't be pregnant.
28:54Weird.
29:00McKelty has her C-section scheduled.
29:02I loaded up my car
29:05and I drove there and on the way
29:07I picked up Maria,
29:09Tony's mom,
29:11in St. George.
29:13Tony McKelty
29:15kind of at the beginning
29:17of finding out that they were pregnant
29:19said, we want you at this birth.
29:21As far as Christine is concerned
29:23I just
29:25made a decision very early on
29:27that I was going to put aside any of my hurt
29:29my sadness or my feelings of betrayal
29:31and just that's
29:33between Christine and I.
29:37I am gonna say something here
29:39because McKelty's getting really beat up for this
29:41but, you know, McKelty
29:43has a good relationship with Robin.
29:45Robin came at a very important time for McKelty
29:47and was very valuable
29:49for McKelty as a teenage girl
29:51and I don't think any of the kids
29:53should be denied
29:55or looked down on
29:57for having a relationship with Cody and Robin.
30:03McKelty and Robin
30:05had a really, really special experience together
30:07and what that did
30:09is that special experience
30:11between McKelty and Robin
30:13actually improved
30:15the relationship that Christine
30:17and I had with McKelty.
30:19Hey there!
30:21When Robin
30:23first joined the family, I was trying to figure out
30:25who I was and she
30:27made me feel special
30:29and she made me feel seen.
30:32Robin was there for me
30:34when I needed somebody.
30:36She was there for me when I needed somebody
30:38to hear me, to love me.
30:40Robin gave me a
30:42chance to be heard.
30:48I don't think I remember when McKelty
30:50told me that Robin would be there.
30:52I just always knew Robin would be there.
30:54I don't know what there will be
30:56for us to do
30:58except to wait in the waiting room together.
31:01There's a lot of pain there.
31:03I can't predict somebody else's
31:05choices or actions, but for me
31:07my plan is to
31:09play nice.
31:15I'm ready to give birth.
31:17I'm feeling good.
31:19I feel like I didn't sleep at all last night.
31:21Anticipation the next day
31:23is just, sleep's not going to happen.
31:26They came in.
31:28They kind of prepped McKelty
31:31talked to her and then they put Tony
31:33in this like,
31:35looked like a beekeeper suit
31:37from like head to toe.
31:39Tony's nervous.
31:41He's really nervous. They put him in a
31:43suit.
31:47You know, we gave McKelty our hugs
31:49and kisses and
31:51told her we loved her
31:53and she was well away.
31:57It's hard. It's really hard
32:00to have your kids have any kind of
32:02procedure like that. It was really difficult.
32:08The entire pregnancy my heart
32:10rate never spiked. I never had
32:12issues with blood pressure at all
32:14but as soon as I was in there
32:16getting the numbing
32:18for the epidural and then getting
32:20the epidural my heart rate started spiking and my blood
32:22pressure started going up and I started
32:24to go into a panic.
32:30Those doors are so hard to see
32:32because you know your child is on the other side
32:34and there's nothing
32:36you can do
32:38to help them.
32:40I am extremely
32:42upset that I can't have
32:44Tony in the operating
32:46room with me while I get the epidural.
32:48The doctors and the nurses
32:50in the room were like,
32:52I don't know what to do.
32:54I don't know what to do.
32:56I don't know what to do.
32:58The doctors and the nurses in the room were like
33:00something's going on. What's wrong?
33:02My body was shaking just because
33:04I was just anxiety.
33:06The only solution
33:08is get me my husband.
33:14As soon as Tony entered the room though he was finally
33:16able to come in and immediately I started
33:18to calm down. I started to feel better because I had him there.
33:20You just trust
33:22these doctors so much that
33:24everything's going to be okay.
33:27My husband was there and Robin was there in the room too
33:29so the three of us just sat and waited
33:31for
33:33it to be done.
33:39It's just surprising
33:41a little scary what it takes
33:43to get those babies out of her.
33:45I was really happy I could be there during the operation
33:47because I know
33:49it means the world to her and I want to be there.
33:51Seeing everything
33:53really cool. Being there for my wife
33:56super, super important.
33:58Having kids come back, best part.
34:04When I have Archer in my arms
34:06I just instantly start
34:08calm me down and everything's fine
34:10and then Ace comes out
34:12they wrap him up a little bit and then they bring him over
34:14in my other arm and I'm able to hold him
34:16and at that point I'm like this is great
34:18I'm happy, this is awesome, yes!
34:22You'd hear the voices of
34:25my moms and Aspen in the other room
34:27it was just like this incredible
34:29experience. I had my boys
34:31they were safe, they were here
34:33they were healthy and
34:35it was just this
34:37over joyous experience
34:39of
34:41everything's fine.
34:46Robin and Christine are together
34:48I don't know how much they're interacting
34:50I don't know what the experience will be like.
34:52They're not here for each other, they're not here for anybody else
34:54they're here for me, so it's very honoring
34:56humbling and super special
34:58because this is one of the most
35:00incredible and memorable
35:02moments of my life
35:04and to be able to share it with my moms
35:06I think is really important to me.
35:08I was handed Archer first
35:10and it was just love at first sight
35:12the same time
35:14Christine was holding Ace
35:16and so it was kind of like we were
35:18holding
35:24We were just holding our grandbabies together
35:28I just wish it was under different circumstances
35:30as far as Christine and I are concerned
35:34and it was kind of
35:36sweet because
35:42for a moment
35:44I could just forget all that
35:48I was just
35:50holding her grandbabies together
35:53and it was just
35:55love at first sight
36:05Tony McKelty want me there
36:07and they want Christine there
36:09and Tony's mother
36:11is really close too
36:13she's at home watching Avalon
36:15she'll be coming in
36:17later too
36:19What Tony McKelty want is what's important
36:22My mom spent last night with us in the hospital
36:24to help me with the twins through the night
36:26so now she's going to go home
36:28and hang out and be at home
36:30and Robin's going to spend the night with us at home
36:32to help us with the twins again through the night
36:34Avalon's there, Tony's mom Maria is there
36:36and then that's it
36:38we're just going to keep kind of a small house
36:40as we go and introduce the boys
36:42to their sister
36:48Avalon, do you want to meet your brothers?
36:51Do you want to meet your brothers?
36:57Look at the baby
36:59So soft
37:01So soft
37:03So soft
37:05Went straight for his eye
37:07She's a tough kid
37:09She roughhouses a lot
37:11and so these are very fragile babies
37:13I was absolutely nervous
37:15about her hurting one of them
37:17There's a little baby
37:20Here
37:22Avalon
37:24looks stressed out
37:26Do you need his hat off?
37:28Good job
37:30Good job
37:32She finally realized
37:34these aren't just babies
37:36and they're not toys
37:38they're actual humans
37:40and they belong to mommy and daddy
37:42I think it was honestly heartbreaking
37:44You got him?
37:46You got him?
37:48Okay, okay
37:50You're not ready
37:52You're not ready
37:54I mean I guess having a plural family
37:56and we at that time all lived together
37:58it was very different
38:00than having two parents and one child
38:02I had three wives
38:04before I had any children
38:06We sort of did
38:08all pitch in with the baby
38:12It's a big change
38:14I don't personally
38:17recall any of my children
38:19being specifically
38:21weirded out by
38:23a new baby
38:25Come cuddle
38:27This is when she's understanding
38:29Okay, okay
38:31She just left
38:33I don't know
38:35if our kids really
38:37had time to like
38:39grow up to be a toddler
38:41to be like wait a second
38:43who is this other child
38:46There was some weird stuff that happened
38:48I mean like I had my first child
38:50and there was a mother that was jealous
38:52Come here Logan
38:54It was Christine who got jealous
38:56when Logan was born
38:58Logan was absolutely lovely
39:00What I was going through was the first
39:02year of being in plural marriage
39:04It was so hard
39:06I felt like I lost my identity completely
39:08Sparky
39:10Having all those kids that young
39:12we were all involved
39:15This
39:17extremely benevolent experience
39:19And now that it's all come apart
39:21for me, I'm just going
39:23Was it? Was it just
39:25suppressed jealousy?
39:27Was it sometimes
39:29suppressed rage?
39:31I don't know
39:33Alright Tony, let's go upstairs
39:35Will you take him?
39:37This is Archer
39:45They look nothing alike
39:47at all. They're fraternal twins
39:49which means they're not identical
39:51They don't look alike at all
39:53and they look nothing like Avalon
39:55Oh stop
39:57Let go. God, don't do that
39:59Robin's going to stay with us for the next couple days
40:01Help us through the night
40:03She's just going to be here kind of 24-7
40:05Well
40:07This was really nice because Robin
40:09was able to get this bonding with the grandkids
40:11So when Robin goes back home
40:14Mom will be able to have her bonding
40:16as well with her grandkids
40:18Then Maria being able to come up and have her bonding
40:20as well. It's just really nice
40:22Is this the same bed you gave birth to Avalon in?
40:24Yeah
40:26Yeah, this is the bed I gave birth to Avalon in
40:28All of Robin's kids
40:30love McKelty
40:32She puts a lot on herself
40:34She puts a lot of all of this on herself
40:36about bringing the family together
40:38and having it be her role
40:40because she gets along great with Robin
40:42and she gets along great with me
40:44Cody and Robin are grandparents to Avalon
40:46and they'll be grandparents for the twins
40:48Well, no
40:50I technically gave birth to Avalon on the floor
40:52Yep, that's true
40:54It's crazy because people think when they
40:56get, when they split
40:58when they divorce or whatever
41:00that they won't have to see each other and that's not true
41:05You'll always be in each other's lives
41:07somehow or another
41:09I'm going to be the one kind of helping the most
41:12and then I'm sure Christine will kind of
41:14step in after I leave and I'll hand the baton
41:16off to her kind of a thing
41:21Having Robin there to me just showed that
41:25I don't know how long it's going to take
41:27for all of us to get back together again
41:29and be okay in each other's presence
41:32It was awkward
41:34and it's going to be awkward for a while
41:36and I don't know
41:38what the future looks like
41:41and we'll do it for our kids
41:43but it's not going to happen anything
41:45that I want to have happen soon
41:51Next time on Sister Wives
41:53You want some dark...
41:55This is the first Thanksgiving
41:57that Robin and I are having with just our children
41:59I've heard Cody say how awkward it is
42:01because he can't show the affection
42:03to Robin and I'm not going to inhibit that
42:05Robin slept in the closet
42:07Seriously
42:10When they would wake up and be hungry
42:12I'd feed one of the boys and she'd go back to bed
42:14I said I'll take the closet
42:16You stay in the bed with her
42:18and she wouldn't do it
42:20I was putting pressure on Cody
42:22to work on his relationships with his kids
42:24I'm tired of being angry
42:26I'm having a hard time
42:28not losing respect for you a little bit
42:30I think that Cody should be camping out
42:32on their doorsteps
42:34Your kids need you