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00:00Yo, yo, yo, Stephen Molyneux from Free Domain.
00:04Great questions from freedomain.locals.com and also Facebook.
00:08So here we go.
00:09Hi, Steph.
00:10Wondering if you could give me some insight on raising my sons.
00:13I have two sons, 12 and 13.
00:15The 13-year-old is autistic.
00:17When the boys were much younger and if I was out with them at the zoo or park or something,
00:24my 13-year-old would at times be overstimulated from the environment because it was the three
00:29of us and their mother was not around, we often would have to suspend the activity because
00:33my 13-year-old would be having meltdowns and so on.
00:37So his younger brother often times would have to defer to his brother.
00:40I noticed this trend and made an effort to make sure that my youngest son would not always
00:44have to defer and make sacrifices.
00:47I have noticed lately that my youngest son does care for his brother but definitely wants
00:50to have his own space and be his own person and does not want to be responsible for his
00:54brother, which is understandable.
00:56My question is, I know that I am the parent and it is my responsibility to take care and
01:01raise my sons, but is there any responsibility for siblings to take care of siblings?
01:07One day the parents will be gone, how much responsibility will they have for each other?
01:10And what kind of influence and emphasis should I place on that, if any, should they be, sorry,
01:17should I place on that, if any, should they be now as my sons are growing up?
01:22Sorry, let me just make, one day the parents will be gone, how much responsibility will
01:25they have for each other?
01:26And what sort of influence and emphasis should I place on that, if any, should they be now
01:32as my sons are growing up?
01:33Sorry, it kind of went off the rails at the end there.
01:37So the first thing that I do with regards to family matters, this is not, of course,
01:41the only thing, but the first thing that I do with regards to family matters is I look
01:44at the question of the genetics of the situation.
01:47So moral bonds are one thing, you know, my wife is virtuous, my friends are virtuous,
01:54I am fairly virtuous, so there's the bonds sort of based on virtue.
01:58Now family bonds are not primarily based on virtue, right, because, boy, I mean, I feel
02:08like that's almost like a controversial statement, but let me sort of see if I can tell you what
02:12I'm thinking and why.
02:15So family bonds are based on genetic proximity and reproduction, right, so the pair bonding,
02:21why you care about your own children more than a stranger's children is because of that
02:26sort of pair bonding and the genetic preference that you would have for your own offspring.
02:32Now, of course, this is not to say that family relations do not exist based upon virtue,
02:40they certainly can, but the primary relationship is based upon genetic preference and proximity.
02:48So ducklings follow their mother, the mother bear cares for her own offspring, and so on,
02:58right?
02:59So there is sort of genetic preference and genetic proximity, and that's the essence
03:03and the basis of family bonds.
03:05And again, we obviously want to add as much virtue as humanly possible to that to make
03:09it a truly virtuous relationship, but it's based upon genetic proximity and genetic similarity
03:15preference, right, if that makes sense.
03:18Now, with regards to siblings, so why do siblings, well, I mean, of course, I'm not saying this
03:24is true for your family, but half of sibling relationships are categorized as abusive even
03:28by the fairly loosey-goosey standards of the present.
03:31So the reason why brothers have, or siblings have, a sort of unique bond is because there
03:41is a genetic proximity and a genetic proximity preference for the siblings and their children,
03:49right?
03:50Because you have a relationship to your brother or sister's children that is not just moral
03:53or virtuous, but it's genetic, and that genetic proximity preference is the foundation of
03:59that bond, right?
04:00Which is to say, the genes that favored the closest genes are the ones that survived the
04:08best, the most, and the longest, right?
04:10Genes that had no in-built preference for their own genetic similarity, did not reproduce
04:15like with like, did not choose their own, like, if you have a parent who has, for whatever
04:21reason, no preference for his or her own children versus a stranger's children, then that would
04:26reduce the survivability of his or her own children, and therefore there is a survivability
04:36metric that is very positive with regards to genetic similarity preference, right?
04:43So siblings have a bond with each other in terms of evolution, because your brother's
04:51children have more in common with you genetically than some stranger or some second cousin's
04:55children or whatever it is, right?
04:58So that basis for sibling in-group preference is based upon reproduction.
05:09Now, I think the big question is going to be, is your older child, the autistic child,
05:18is that child going to reproduce?
05:20Is that child going to reproduce?
05:21If your child does not reproduce, your oldest child, for reasons that I'm certainly no expert
05:28on autism, of course, or anything like that, but if your oldest child is not going to reproduce,
05:33then there will not be as strong a desire to take care of the older sibling from the
05:41younger sibling, because it will not be aiding in reproduction.
05:46Now, please understand, I'm not saying that this is the only factor, I'm talking about
05:50the elemental root of why these in-group family preferences exist at all, right?
05:54And they exist at an emotional, biochemical level, but dopamine, oxytocin and so on, right?
05:59So they exist at a sort of in-group genetic level.
06:03And so that's not all there is, but that's where I sort of would start with this sort
06:06of stuff.
06:07The other question is, we want to favor, built-in biologically, we want to favor genetic proximity.
06:17So you have to look at it, I think, again, it's not the only thing, but where you would
06:22start looking at it, it's far from the only thing, but where you'd start looking at it
06:25is you would say, with regards to your youngest son, will caring for his older brother increase
06:35his chances of reproduction?
06:42The genes are the genes.
06:44It's not the only factor and sometimes, of course, we act against them, but it is the
06:47foundation of why we have the preferences and emotions and passions that we have with
06:53regards to this kind of stuff.
06:55So if you look at your youngest son, the 12 year old, and you'd say, okay, so let's say
07:00that he works full-time to take care of his older brother, right?
07:05The older brother that he did not choose to have, that he did not choose to grow up with,
07:12that's a choice that you and your wife made, not the choice that your youngest child make,
07:19right?
07:20So you would look at it and say, does caring for his older brother as he goes through the
07:27course of his life increase or decrease his chances of marital success, of parenting success,
07:35of reproductive success?
07:37And it's a challenging question.
07:38I don't know the answer to that because I don't know you guys as an individual family.
07:43So on the one hand, if he were to say, I don't want to have anything to do with my brother.
07:48It's too much work.
07:49I'm not a specialist.
07:50I'm not an expert.
07:51I've got my own life to live.
07:52I can't go around burdened by this and so on, right?
07:55Well, then, of course, it would be up to you and your wife to find some, as you aged, right,
08:02decades and decades from now, as you aged, you would have to find some place that would
08:06take care of the autistic child if, you know, when he grew up, he was not self-sufficient
08:11in some way or another, right?
08:13Now, if he was dating your youngest, he was dating and some woman said, oh, do you have
08:18any siblings, right?
08:19And he said, yes, I have an autistic sibling.
08:22And she were to say, oh, do you spend a lot of time taking care of him, right, as he gets
08:28older, right, and you guys are out of the picture for some reason.
08:31And if he says, no, I don't have anything to do with him, I don't take care of him at
08:36all, some women might be a little, you know, nonplussed by that and have some questions
08:41and they would be important questions, right?
08:43On the other hand, if he were to say, yes, you know, three quarters of my salary and
08:4890% of my free time goes towards taking care of my autistic brother, I mean, we might admire
08:56that at an abstract level, but a woman would say, there's not enough resources left over
09:05for you to provide for your family, right?
09:06So if there's no help, no caring, I mean, I guess he could hide his brother's existence
09:11completely, but that might be a little odd.
09:13But if there's no caring, no investment, then she might be like, he's kind of cold, right?
09:19Something goes wrong and I'm going to be tossed out like last week's newsletter, right?
09:24So there's going to probably be some happy medium.
09:29But primarily and fundamentally, it is not your youngest child's responsibility to take
09:35care of the child that you and your wife chose to have.
09:38That is your responsibility.
09:40And if for whatever reason, and of course, and I hope this is not the case and with great
09:43sympathy to everyone in the family, if it is the case that your eldest child cannot
09:50live independently, hoping, you know, crossing your fingers that the youngest child would
09:56give up his own family to a large degree, his own reproductive success, the kind of
10:02quality of woman that he might be able to get if he wasn't spending a lot of time, energy,
10:07money, and resources taking care of his elder sibling, then that is a blood lineage dead end.
10:14And blood lineage dead ends, again, you can make all of these choices.
10:18I'm just talking about like how we work really, really deep down in our DNA and in our gut.
10:23So if your youngest son can't get married and have kids because he's taking care of his
10:33older brother who can't get married and have kids because he's autistic, and again, I don't
10:38know how autistic he is, but it sounds fairly bad if he's having these kinds of, or fairly
10:42strong if he's having these meltdowns at the zoo.
10:45So that's the end of your line, right?
10:47That's the end of your blood lineage.
10:49Four billion years of evolution ends with you because your younger brother gives up
10:55having a family to take care of his older brother who can't have a family and that's it.
10:59That's it.
11:00So it's hard to say.
11:01I mean, if I were in your shoes, I say this with all humility and obviously this is very
11:06much outside of my area of expertise, but I would be like, no, no, you to the youngest,
11:12right?
11:13You did not choose to have a child.
11:18That's your mother and I's choice.
11:19It's our responsibility.
11:20Now, of course, whatever you want to do, obviously they're going to stop you and it is our
11:24hope that there will be something of value in that for you, but you cannot give up your
11:28own life to take care of the child that you did not choose to have.
11:31That your focus in life is to find a great woman to marry, to be a great father yourself,
11:36and maybe that involves having some involvement with your brother.
11:38Maybe it doesn't, I don't know.
11:39We'll have to see how this plays out.
11:41But your fundamental responsibility is to yourself, your wife, and your future children.
11:46It is not to the child that you never chose to have in your life, which your mother and
11:51I chose to have and keep.
11:52So I would focus on that.
11:55All right.
11:56Oh, where can I find and access all your truth about videos and why don't you make more?
12:00The world needs you in that capacity.
12:02No, the world doesn't.
12:03I'm sorry.
12:04The world does not at all need me in that capacity.
12:06You may prefer me in that capacity, but the world does not need me in that capacity.
12:11I refer you back to a time a little over four years ago when I was de-platformed and
12:17approximately 95 to 97% of my audience did not follow me to the new platforms.
12:25Right?
12:26Immensely liberating.
12:27I don't mind it at all.
12:29I'm actually thankful that they didn't because that was kind of a edgy game that I was playing
12:33there, poking all of the taboo hornet's nests on the planet.
12:37So no, the world does not need me in that capacity.
12:40If the world needed me in that capacity, it would have gone one website over.
12:45Right?
12:46Oh no, he's gone from YouTube because I see this all the time.
12:49Yesterday, for the first time ever, I did a search for my name on Twitter and saw what
12:56people are saying and that's nice to see.
12:58I'm still relevant and so on.
13:00But, you know, a significant amount of the comments were, hey, what ever happened to
13:08that guy?
13:08Is he gone?
13:10Is he, did he, did he go roosh?
13:12Like, where did he go?
13:13What did, you know, they don't bother to search.
13:15They don't bother.
13:15Right?
13:16So the world did not at all need me in that capacity.
13:19I was entertaining and I guess informative and instructive while I was right there in
13:23front of people.
13:24But then when I moved one website over and it was approximately 5 to 10 seconds to type
13:30in a new website, maybe 30 seconds to create an account and be notified of every time I
13:35posted a new video.
13:37And I say this because, you know, I mean, if I did a video with less than a hundred
13:41thousand views on YouTube, that was considered a significant failure.
13:45And I get a couple of thou on the new platforms.
13:49And so, yeah, 95, 97% of my audience did not want to go one website over.
13:54So I'm absolutely not needed in that category.
13:58Right?
13:59Does that make sense?
14:01Does that make sense?
14:02Like if there's a restaurant and you love the restaurant, right?
14:05And you love the restaurant, right?
14:06And then the restaurant moves one building over and then like 95, 97% of the audience
14:11won't go one building over.
14:12And everyone's like, man, I love your food.
14:15I'd do anything.
14:15Get your food.
14:16What's the greatest?
14:16What's the best?
14:17Like, you know, I, instead of 997 Main Street, I'm now 999 Main Street.
14:23I'm literally one building over.
14:25And people are like, oh, well, that's like, what is that?
14:31That's like an extra 20 steps.
14:33Oh, man.
14:33I mean, let's be reasonable here.
14:35I mean, your food was good.
14:37I loved your food.
14:38It's the greatest food around, but.
14:42But 20 more steps.
14:43And you understand that's why, that's why de-platforming works.
14:48De-platforming works because people won't go one website over.
14:51Right?
14:51And the people who did the de-platforming understood that a lot better.
14:55Right?
14:55So I was like, we're in a battle against evil and we're promoting virtue and we're
14:58a team and hey, where'd everyone go?
15:01What?
15:01What?
15:03Right?
15:03So the people who de-platform very much understand out of sight, out of mind.
15:08Right?
15:09This is the greatest toy ever.
15:10This is the greatest thing.
15:15And then it's gone and people are like, oh yeah, I used to love that toy.
15:19Right?
15:19So this is out of sight, out of mind.
15:22De-platforming works because people don't pair bond.
15:25Right?
15:26People, they don't pair bond.
15:27This is the daycare generation.
15:28This is the social media generation.
15:30They don't eye contact and pair bond with people.
15:33And so out of sight, out of mind is what is it.
15:36So, all right.
15:38A while ago, you had this fantastic video on YouTube that was called Death by Heroism.
15:42It's no longer available.
15:43I've not been able to find it since.
15:44Is there any way I can access to see and share this video?
15:46I will look into that.
15:47What are your thoughts on meditation?
15:49Do you, or have you ever practiced it?
15:51Any thoughts on Buddhism in general?
15:53Well, for my thoughts on Buddhism, donate at freedemand.com slash donate or join the
15:56community at freedemand.locals.com or subscribestar.com slash freedemand.
16:01You get a whole show, whole lengthy show on Buddha and Buddhism.
16:05Yeah, I like meditation.
16:06I did it for a while and then I didn't need to do it anymore because
16:12meditation in terms of the deep connection with the self happens in my call-in shows,
16:16happens in conversations with my wife, happens through parenting and happens through these
16:20kinds of conversations, answering these kinds of questions.
16:23So I don't do it anymore.
16:25Do you think that Ayn Rand's lack of knowledge about evolution had any bearing on her rejection
16:29of Nietzsche's allusions to psychological determinism?
16:36If you can tell me how answering that question is going to benefit the world,
16:40I would be very happy to answer it.
16:42But I don't really see what the purpose of that question is or what that would matter.
16:46Plus, you're asking me to mind-read the single-lunged smoky Russian goddess's
16:53thoughts from decades ago and she's been dead for 40 years or whatever, right?
16:59I can't mind-read or imagine what her thoughts were regarding all of this.
17:04Somebody says, I am a car dealership in Anchorage, Alaska.
17:08I think that means I work there, right?
17:10Most people don't qualify for prime lending and end up paying over 22 to 25 percent.
17:14Customers will not have a vehicle for work and family otherwise.
17:16Is this immoral for banks to charge and dealerships to sell at this APR?
17:21I have my opinion.
17:21I just wanted to hear from the Stefan Molyneux.
17:24Well, this is all nonsense, right?
17:27So risk analysis was the foundation of capitalism, right?
17:36So once math and statistical analysis was invented, then people could figure out risks.
17:41So one of the reasons why there were these transatlantic voyages and all of this exploration
17:46was because people wanted insurance and people figured out how much they needed to charge
17:51based upon the risk of failure or wreckage of these ships.
17:56So civilization works on being able to have rational discrimination, right?
18:01So life insurance is cheaper for women in many cases.
18:08It's cheaper for non-smokers, of course.
18:10It's cheaper for people who don't have extreme sports because they want to make rational
18:17determinations of who's higher or lower risk.
18:20And so one of the reasons why this is so high is that banks aren't allowed to look at general
18:28patterns of borrowing money and paying it back and make their decisions based upon that
18:32for reasons that we all know about.
18:34And I talked about years ago with regards to the 07-08 financial crash and what's going
18:39on right now.
18:41So banks have to charge what makes them money.
18:44And because they're not allowed to say low to many high-risk customers, they then have
18:48to spread that risk to everyone.
18:49And it's just another subsidy.
18:52Are you ever coming to Eastern Europe, Steph?
18:53I want to buy you a beer.
18:54Grateful for all the great content, especially before the censorship started.
19:02I guess he's saying that I was better years ago.
19:05Well, I mean, I personally like the work that I'm doing right now, but I'm not you.
19:09So it's funny.
19:11I don't know if people know how it lands.
19:13I mean, I'm not insulted or even offended.
19:15I'm just doing the work that works for me.
19:18And I have a dance with my unconscious.
19:20I have a dance with the sort of deep brain and the instincts and all of that.
19:24I can't force my philosophy brain to do anything.
19:27I really can't.
19:28And so I have to sort of follow the inspiration that's going on.
19:31If you prefer the work that I did before I was deplatformed, I understand that.
19:36I have to do a dance.
19:37I have to do a dance with my unconscious to make sure that the creativity and fertility
19:42of my mind still works.
19:43And it doesn't work when I will it.
19:45I have to kind of do a dance.
19:46I can guide it a little, but it guides me as well.
19:48It's like riding a crazy unruly horse.
19:51Only sometimes does it go roughly in the direction you want it to go.
19:54And sometimes you just have to hang on as a whole.
19:56So, but yeah, I'd love to come to Eastern Europe.
19:58Uh, will there be any more truth about videos?
20:01Yeah, probably.
20:02Are you back on Twitter?
20:03Uh, no.
20:04Well, I am back on Twitter.
20:06And just so you understand, if, um, uh, let's say that you, you love your wife, you put
20:13years and years and years into making your wife happy and, uh, you, you, you, you give
20:17your heart to her and, and you pour everything you have into her.
20:22And then you wake up one morning and, uh, she has, um, uh, set fire to your car, uh,
20:30punched out all the windows in your house and, uh, left you a, a, a threat of some kind
20:37and then spends years dragging you through a court, uh, because, uh, she claims that
20:42you did something terrible that you never did.
20:44Right.
20:44She claims that you did something illegal or terrible or bad that you never did.
20:47Right.
20:48And, uh, you know, you, you find a way to live with all of that.
20:51You get through it and so on.
20:52You get your life sorted out.
20:54And then afterwards, you hear through the grapevine that she'll take you back.
21:02Right.
21:04Would you go back?
21:05Would you be like, that sounds great.
21:08Let me get involved in this again.
21:10It's like, no, no, no.
21:11She found Jesus.
21:12And she just, you know, you just, she doesn't actually phone you and apologize or anything.
21:15She doesn't say, you know, boy, I, I'd love to pay you back some of that money.
21:19Uh, I I've got to do what I can to clean up your reputation because the things I accused
21:23you off were just terrible and they were false.
21:24And right.
21:25She's just like, yeah, you know, you can tell him I'll take him back.
21:30Would you be like, I can't wait?
21:33No, well, that's me.
21:33But, uh, with social media platforms, right.
21:36I mean, I was banned.
21:37I was, uh, things that were said about me that were not true.
21:41I'm not talking about any social media platform in particular, but just my general experience
21:45of it.
21:46And so, yeah, um, I would require some apologies and restitution before even thinking about it.
21:55I'd like to find your video, the truth about the native American genocide.
21:58Yes.
21:59I just reposted that.
22:00But FDR podcasts is where you want to go.
22:02Go to FDR podcasts.
22:03Do your search down below.
22:04If there's videos, it will be there.
22:06All right.
22:08And I just released, I remastered it and put a transcript to it and it's out there for
22:12for donors.
22:13Hi, Steph.
22:13I have a question about something you discussed on a recent podcast that very much relates
22:17to a problem I'm currently going through.
22:19You recently said that it's perfectly fine to hide your past sexual history from your
22:22partner.
22:26Oh my gosh, what people hear.
22:31No, if it's relevant, if it matters, if it has an impact on your pair bonding, obviously
22:35you have an STD or some indications of infertility, or if you have some massive trauma or like
22:40then, then you absolutely need to talk about it.
22:42But what I'm saying is you don't have to go into every detail about everything in your
22:46past with your new partner.
22:50Right?
22:52It's okay to have some privacy.
22:53It's okay to have some things that you keep to yourself, right?
22:57You wouldn't want to go through all of your previous girlfriends and with some woman you
23:02were dating, right?
23:03Let's just go first date.
23:04And you have a list of all your previous girlfriends and you say, well, this girlfriend was into
23:08this wild kink and this girlfriend really loved this and this girlfriend would not let
23:11me do this.
23:12On your first date, it's like, hey man, I'm just being honest.
23:14It's like, but nobody will date you, right?
23:19Somebody says, I'm 26 single, no kids and have slept with at least 50 men that I can
23:25remember, possibly a lot more as many were drunk hookups that I don't remember and also
23:29have done only fans type material.
23:32I wonder if it's really morally right to not disclose this to a man who might be my future
23:36husband.
23:37Although I put this life behind me, I feel that many good men would be repulsed by this
23:41behavior and would never date me and would not want me to raise his kids if not for this
23:45live omission.
23:46Is it really okay to hide this from a man if he asks about my past?
23:50Recently, I've had dates with guys who've asked me about how many people I've been with.
23:53Intellectually, I understand the argument you make about not revealing this, but is
23:57it really right?
23:58I mean, I'm sure that the average quality guy out there wouldn't expect my kind of past
24:02and by not talking about it, it feels like I'm lying, right?
24:05I'm really, really sorry for the childhood trauma that you went through that had you
24:08take on this kind of life.
24:09I really do apologize for humanity as a whole for all of that and seriously, call in at
24:15freedomman.com.
24:16We'd probably have a good conversation about this.
24:19So I never said it was perfectly fine to hide your past sexual history from your partner.
24:24I never said that.
24:24I never said any of that.
24:27But so if a man asks how many men you've been with, well, that's different.
24:35If you're asked directly, right?
24:37I'm talking about volunteering things of detail where it doesn't have any particular relevance
24:44on the present, right?
24:47It's the old thing about the sort of meme.
24:49If you go on a date with a girlfriend and she complains about her ex-boyfriend for an
24:53hour, it's like, well, all of that's true.
24:56But it's a turnoff because she's clearly still wrapped into this, right?
24:59So with regards to you being 26, you've slept with, you know, 50 plus men, right?
25:10Drunk hookups, you don't remember.
25:12Okay, so that's going to give you some emotional damage, which obviously results from emotional
25:17damage that you had as a child.
25:19And you also have pornographic or semi-pornographic material through OnlyFans out on the internet.
25:26You say, I put this life behind me, but you can't because it's part of what's happened
25:31to you with regards to pair bonding.
25:33It is going to have an effect.
25:35Statistically, it's going to have an effect on your current or future partner.
25:41The man needs to know this because you're going to have a reputation.
25:45There are going to be many men who know about this history and your sexually explicit material
25:51is going to be out there forever.
25:52And so he needs to make that decision, right?
25:55He needs to make that decision before he chooses to marry and have kids with you because
25:59he's choosing for his future kids, right?
26:03So, no, if a man asks, you tell the truth.
26:06Now, I'm not sure if you go, I mean, I don't know what the etiquette is these days, but
26:11yeah, if he says, how many people have you been with?
26:14Then you can tell him 50 plus, or you can say, it's been a lot.
26:20I had a promiscuous past, but here's what I've done to deal with it.
26:24I've gone to therapy.
26:24I do meditation.
26:25I've confronted my family.
26:27I've got the bad people out of my life.
26:28I don't drink anymore.
26:29Like all of these things, right?
26:31Now, with regards to the OnlyFans material, yeah, I mean, that's going to be a deal breaker
26:36for most men.
26:37Again, I'm sorry to be so blunt, but that is because the idea that there's sexually explicit
26:43material of the mother of his children out there floating in the digital realm, you know,
26:47especially we men, we tend to think a lot down the future.
26:50You say, oh, well, but I've closed the account and it's like, it's somewhere.
26:54It's somewhere.
26:55And it could be uploaded at any time.
26:57You say, oh, but it was a long time ago.
26:59And it's like, yes, but who knows what technology is going to be down the road.
27:02Like it could be that there's a photo, even if you've gained weight and aged, that it's
27:06going to find some way to figure out your bone structure and then go and look everywhere
27:10on the internet.
27:10And there's going to be reverse image lookups and so on.
27:12And this stuff is going to be found.
27:15So that is material to a man committing to you.
27:23So that is not something that you can withhold and be moral.
27:26So I mean, to take an extreme example, right, if you were convicted of some terrible crime,
27:34then you'd need to talk about that, right?
27:35Because there would be an impact on present and future life, right?
27:41So yeah, and again, I'm very sorry about the past that led you to that.
27:49And I'm sorry about the drinking and the addiction and so on.
27:53But if you've been with a lot of men, it's not just like this sort of miles of penis
28:00that men think about, but it's also just that you would have a particular kind of reputation
28:06that is going to lower his status with regards to what he's going to be doing in the future,
28:12right?
28:12So let's say he's at a law firm and he goes for partner and the partners find out
28:18that you had this wild, promiscuous past, then he may not get the promotion, right?
28:23Because that's also leverage, right?
28:26If there's a very salacious past or a very promiscuous past, and in particular with videos
28:31and photos and so on, right, then the man is also going to be concerned that if he becomes
28:37very successful, which is probably the kind of person that you want to date, if he's going to
28:41become very successful, then the problem of blackmail exists, right?
28:45That somebody is going to find this and his whole life is going to be thrown into chaos
28:48and he's going to lose a lot of money and stress and all of that.
28:52So yeah, it is relevant to the man's decision.
28:57And yeah, I mean, you have to, I think you have to say that.
29:01All right.
29:02The truth about Donald Trump, it was actually called The Untruths About Donald Trump,
29:05is what got me into watching your stuff.
29:07And I really enjoyed that kind of video.
29:08I never really thought about things philosophically until watching your show.
29:12I really enjoyed the political aspect of your show and kind of wish you'd go back to doing
29:15more of that, but that's your call.
29:17Obviously, have you tried going back onto YouTube or did they burn that bridge with you?
29:20No, I don't think I'm going back on YouTube.
29:23Well, I mean, that's the funny thing, you know, and this is just part of leadership.
29:26This is sort of what I'm trying to teach people, right?
29:30So if you want me to go back into doing that kind of stuff, writing to me and telling me
29:36you'd like me to is not taking any kind of leadership role.
29:40And I really want you guys to take leadership roles in your world, like in your society,
29:44in your life, right?
29:46So if you wanted to get me back into doing that kind of work, Truth About, or whatever
29:52it is, then what you would do, of course, is you get a donation drive going, or you
29:57would get some kind of a petition going, and you would get a whole bunch of commitments
30:02from people to say, I will stop watching you if you do, like all of this kind of stuff,
30:05as opposed to just, sorry, whining is not planning, right?
30:10And I get all of these messages all the time of like, man, I really miss that you used
30:14to do this kind of stuff, and you don't do it anymore, and why don't you do it?
30:17It's like, then make it happen, right?
30:20Whining to me and complaining to me that I don't do the kind of work that you want me
30:23to do is not taking any kind of, and it's not about me, it's about your life as a whole.
30:28Just take the leadership position in your life as a whole, that if you want something,
30:33find a way to make it happen.
30:35And just appealing to me, or complaining to me, or whining to me, or wanting me to do
30:38something, it's like, the deplatforming, I mean, I dropped politics partly because it's
30:46just boring and all of that.
30:47And also, I mean, there was certain risk involved, and the cost benefit became different, right?
30:52So it's one thing to come up with edgy, risky stuff for like, I don't know, 10 million downloads
30:58a month.
30:59It's quite another thing for a couple of thousand views.
31:02So it changes the cost benefit calculation, obviously, right?
31:05So, I mean, great risk, great reward is fine.
31:10But if the reward goes down, generally, the risk is going to go down, right?
31:14This is risky versus conservative investments, you know, IBM versus penny stocks, you know,
31:19I don't need to explain this stuff to you, I'm sure.
31:21So if you want me to change my approach, you need to change the calibration of risks and
31:27benefits.
31:28So just, I don't know, it's just weird to me to just write.
31:32Like, you understand, the leadership thing would be to say, you know, okay, Steph, if
31:36I can get 100,000 people to sign a petition saying they'll watch your videos, will you
31:40consider doing truth about videos again?
31:41It's like, okay, that would be interesting.
31:44Or say, rather than saying, you know, I want you to, and then just being kind of passive
31:49and Napoleon Dynamite, and it's like, I just really want you to do this, you don't do that,
31:52I want you to go back on Twitter, I want you to make it happen.
31:55Convince me, convince me, don't just complain.
31:57Anyway, thank you for introducing me to Dr. Gabor Mate years ago, changed my life 100%.
32:03Yes, I am half and half about that guy, but he's done some great work.
32:07Do you believe a truly free society is even possible at this point?
32:10The vast majority so far, leaning towards collective ideology feels like individualism
32:14is all but dead.
32:16I don't know what you mean by at this point.
32:18Certainly not in my lifetime, I doubt in my daughter's lifetime, but in a couple of
32:21generations, if we focus on peaceful parenting, it is certainly possible.
32:24How many children do you have?
32:26You mean directly, that I know of?
32:30Well, I have one child, and I guess like goodbye Mr. Chips, I have countless children, because
32:37of the people I've encouraged to have children, explicitly or implicitly.
32:40Are you banned on Twitter?
32:41I am not banned on Twitter.
32:43Is real estate or our mutual funds a better investment for the future?
32:46Don't answer financial questions.
32:48Why aren't you Catholics, Stefan Molyneux?
32:50Listen to my recent show on my relationship to atheism.
32:56I've lived in nine different countries.
32:57Why do different cultures treat dogs so differently, more than any other animal?
33:01Dogs are either reviled and eaten or treated like progeny.
33:05Well, dogs were domesticated from wolves, which is actually pretty simple to do.
33:09You just get a bunch of wolves in an enclosure, and you don't allow those wolves to reproduce
33:15who are aggressive, and you only allow those wolves to reproduce who are peaceful, and
33:19then within a couple of generations, you get dogs.
33:22So, if dogs are necessary for your survival, which tends to be a sort of herding Northern
33:27European kind of thing, then you will revere dogs.
33:31If dogs are not essential to your survival, then you will despise dogs, because the problem
33:36with dogs and cats is that if they're not necessary to your survival, they lower your
33:41birth rate, because of, well, for cats, sometimes the toxoplasmosis lowers, in particular, women's
33:47ability to sense danger, but also because pets can be such a substitute for children
33:53that women who are unable to pair bond with humans end up pair bonding with animals, the
33:58birth rate collapses.
34:00Future of AI and government jobs.
34:03I mean, clerical jobs are going to go by the wayside, right?
34:08I mean, I get these emails from people who are like, hey, I was listening to your show
34:12X, Y, and Z, where you talked about this, that, and the other, and based upon this,
34:17you should do an interview with this author or this thinker or this guy or whatever, right?
34:20And I mean, I know they're just AI, they're just AI, AI is listening to my podcast and
34:27AI is generating these queries, and it seems very nice and personal, but you can get this
34:31generic NPC AI talk.
34:34And so, yeah, the clerical stuff is definitely going to be replaced by AI, but not so much
34:41in government, right?
34:42Because in government, it's very hard to fire people.
34:44And so, the government does not have the same incentive to get rid of people who are
34:52very expensive, right?
34:53In fact, in government, it's to your advantage to keep and expand your payroll.
34:57Because governments, I mean, I've worked in government once or twice, and with governments,
35:02if you come in under budget, your budget is cut for next year.
35:04If you go over budget, your budget is increased.
35:06There's the exact opposite metric of the free market, which is why it's always a slide of
35:11resources from free market to government.
35:13In the government, you are paid more for doing things worse.
35:17And in the private sector, of course, it's quite the opposite, which is why whenever
35:20the private sector becomes more productive, resources just slide towards the government,
35:25right?
35:26It's a minority of people in Canada who are supporting everyone on government paychecks
35:30and welfare.
35:30So, the AI is not going to do that much.
35:34And there will be companies that say, oh, you know, if you want to apply for a visa,
35:39we've got this AI interface that will do a lot of the paper.
35:41On the back end, there's no particular incentive for efficiency in a government.
35:47In fact, it's quite the opposite, which is why it tends to be metastasized and eats up
35:52the private sector.
35:54Although I guess Trump and Elon Musk would like to change that in America in a couple
35:57of months.
35:58All right.
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