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Video Information: 25.03.23, Vedant Mahotsav, Rishikesh

Context:
¬ How to raise standards and upgrade your life?
¬ What are the 3 ways to raise standards?
¬ How can one raise their standards to increase success?
¬ How can we set personal standards and stick to them?
¬ How do the women consider their own development instead of observing others?


Music Credits: Milind Date
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Category

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Learning
Transcript
00:00Pranam Acharya ji. Related exactly to what you just said about women. I am the father
00:11of a high school daughter and I have just one daughter and probably I have tried to
00:19raise her exactly on the lines that you have always told me. She is very good at studies.
00:27She is a fantastic dancer. She completed her Arrangetram and graduated in Bharatanatyam
00:33already. She is in her high school basketball team. She knows how to play musical instruments.
00:44She wins poem competitions every year in her school and amongst all the regional school
00:49districts and she was recently selected into one of the top high schools by clearing an
00:59entrance exam and you won't believe the pressure she has because in the school that she was
01:05selected there are more girls than boys actually. So the ratio is a little squid and the pressure
01:15that she feels is that some of the other girls are more better in, I am unable to come
01:24up with the word, that the other girls have boyfriends in there but she is more focused
01:32in all of that thing and how do I convince my daughter, I would say, how do I raise my
01:39daughter so that she doesn't feel that pressure even though she is doing better in all the
01:45life and second thing is just related exactly to that is how women are unable to do is, think
01:52about it, at the same time when the soccer World Cup was happening last year, everybody was glued
01:59only to the men's Argentine cricket team and how Messi was playing which is great, I am not
02:05against Messi here, but at the same time the Indian women's cricket team was also doing really
02:12well and nobody was discussing that at all and I feel sometimes it is not, I feel that women
02:21themselves do not watch whether it is women's cricket or women's basketball or any of the
02:26women's sports. The day when women will start watching women's sports and support women's
02:33sports activities, they themselves will do well. So there are two questions, one at the
02:41generic level and one at a personal example level, that's what my question is. You see the
02:47standards have to be set very high. It's like when you exercise with 15 kg weights, after that
03:06the 5 kg ones just stop mattering. The standards have been raised. Similarly, she has to be
03:18introduced to women who really are worthy of being remembered and then her internal standards will
03:31rise to a point where she'll stop caring for the stylos and the hipsters. Otherwise if she
03:40feels that these are the only ones available in her world to compare herself against, obviously
03:51she'll feel left behind or disadvantaged. The standards have to be very very high and why
04:01must you allow your environment to dictate your standards. Let those standards come from books
04:08and documentaries and videos and other places, books primarily. If she for example spends an
04:19entire week reading the life story of Marie Curie, how after that will she afford to give respect to
04:30let's say Pari. Pari in her class, who is a dimwit from here but is fantastically regarded
04:43because of her body and her style and her dressing and her boyfriends. After you have
04:51been with Curie, how will you respect Pari? That's the thing. That's why education is the
05:01real thing. Give her real solid role models and then she will become not just disregardful but
05:14disdainful of all these typical teenagers. So that's what, if I do not know what kind of
05:31highness is possible, then any kind of lowness will become the gold standard for me. That's
05:40why reading is so important. Otherwise anybody in your environment will come and influence you
05:47and boss you from within and it happens a lot in school and in college. Some local kind of stud
05:59just becomes the dominant hero and who is he? Worthless chap but he can take away a very large
06:10chunk of your mind and life. We all know of these people from our college days, don't we? Some random
06:20worthless fellow but he dominates the scene in the school, in the college, in the university and he
06:26dominates it so much that he can influence a lot of his batch mates to take wrong kinds of decisions.
06:40Inductive effect, no? One wrong role model, one very wrong kind of, very mediocre but powerful.
06:48Mediocre but powerful and attractive and glitzy and this fellow becomes the impression creator,
06:59the goal setter and he induces a lot of batch mates into the wrong kind of attitudes, lifestyle and
07:10ultimately wrong life decisions and that can be taken care of very easily. Just give your daughter
07:19the right role models. Give her great books. See what her preferred mode of assimilation is.
07:28If it's visual, take her to the right documentaries, the right movies. See how she likes to absorb
07:35information and give that to her and there are just so so many names, so many names. We have
07:42talked of them frequently even on AP circle. Women worth respecting, women worth even worshipping
07:53and they exist, they have existed in history. Why must we not take note of them? Why must we not
07:59introduce those glorious women to our daughters? But that's not being done. Mainstream education is
08:06not doing that. Alright, let fathers and mothers do that. Otherwise the danger is very real.
08:16Some Pari will become her idol. I want to be like Pari and then she will drop her dancing,
08:24her sports, her recitation, her poems, her elocution, her passion, everything she will drop
08:29and she will just start chasing boyfriends so that she can stand up to somebody like Pari.
08:39I call these nodes of evil. They are not too many but they are highly influential.
08:58They set the bar.
09:03They have to be fought against and they can be very young.
09:07Typically we don't want to associate the word evil with a teenager.
09:13But the reality is, yes, even teenagers can be evil. A 15 year old can be evil.
09:21That does not mean that the 15 year old has to be killed. That means that he has to be corrected.
09:38Maybe as parents, you and her mother, you need to sit together and first of all figure out
09:45who are the names you must introduce your daughter to.
09:51Is she reading something from Sarojini Naidu? If she is interested in Hindi, has she been brought
10:02to Mahashweta Devi or Mahadevi Verma? The names are comparatively fewer when it comes to women.
10:16Fewer but they still exist, don't they? For 10 male poets, you will have 4 female poets as well
10:24and 4 is sufficient. You introduce her to these 4. You have freedom fighters, you have scientists,
10:32you have politicians, you have sports persons. In all walks of human activity, you do have
10:40women role models and young girls must be introduced to them.
10:45Otherwise they will simply chase boyfriends just as boys chase girlfriends and they will dress up
10:51and try to act adult and get into all kinds of nonsense.
11:21you

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