Rio Locsin, Alice Dixson, Amy Austria, and Raven Villanueva talk about how different street smarts and book smarts are, and how intelligent people can make dumb mistakes!
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00:00We walk hand in hand, we dream together. We giggle and laugh like kids forever.
00:12We're two different people, but we're having fun. We talk about anything under the sun.
00:19We are sisters, we are friends. We've got magic that never ends.
00:27I got you sis, you got me. Your best of friends we'll always, always be.
00:39We always have fun, being together. You know me the best, we're friends forever.
00:46Through good times and bad, I'm here for you sis, right by your side.
00:52Hit or miss, we are sisters, we are friends. We've got magic that never ends.
01:01I got you sis, you got me. Your best of friends, the best of friends.
01:09The best of friends we'll always, always be. We are sisters, we are sisters.
01:18Good morning. Good morning. Good morning to all of you.
01:23What is it Janice? Yes.
01:26Let's talk about it first because today we'll be talking about choices.
01:30Choices that you make in life. Choices that we make.
01:32But this is not simple because do smart people make wrong decisions?
01:38Do smart women make wrong decisions in their lives?
01:43Do they make foolish choices? Do you, Jelly? Are you smart or intelligent?
01:51Oh.
01:54Do you have choices that you make?
01:57I have choices that I make especially in my youth.
02:01Tell us.
02:02Right after coming out of a serious relationship, I went into another one just so I could get over the last one.
02:13Oh.
02:14Rebounded.
02:16Rebounded.
02:17Rebounded.
02:18It's not a win.
02:19It's just that I don't get hurt.
02:22I'll hurt the other one because as Haji said, it's just a pain in the ass.
02:28Right?
02:29It's not like that.
02:30Okay.
02:31But I thought, okay, this is a win, this is how it is, I love this.
02:38I just thought that.
02:40It's not like that.
02:41It's not like that.
02:42Because I just wanted to get over the last one, so I went into another one.
02:46So that's a wrong choice.
02:47It's just that I don't get hurt.
02:48I'll hurt the other one.
02:50Right?
02:51What about you?
02:52Why?
02:53They said, they said, they said that Angel made a lot of not so very smart decisions.
03:02Yes, but.
03:04But?
03:05But I feel like she learned.
03:07Yes, that's what's important.
03:09Okay.
03:10So, how are we going to get to the point where we learned?
03:15Okay?
03:16How are you going to learn?
03:17Exactly.
03:18That's what we're going to find out today in the return of Sis.
03:22Always be.
03:23We are sisters.
03:24We are sisters.
03:25Always be.
03:26We are sisters.
03:27We are sisters.
03:28Do you believe who's smart?
03:29They're the ones who are usually stupid when it comes to love.
03:30We'll find out if that's true with our guests for today.
03:31Our guests for today are the celebrities we mentioned.
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04:20We'll listen to their story.
04:21I would consider myself as intelligent kasi since childhood I've always been a consistent
04:28achiever.
04:29Like when I was in elementary I was the class mathematician and aside from that I was always
04:35involved in other activities.
04:38Like I was part of drama guild etcetera.
04:43And then after elementary when I moved to high school I was able to maintain that.
04:48that I went to UPIS. I was, again, an all-around achiever. Academically, I would
04:56always be doing good in the maths and sciences, and on the other hand,
05:00I would still be very active in extracurricular activities like theater,
05:06choir, etc. And then moving on to college, I went to UT first. I was vice chairman
05:15of the Engineering Student Council. I was always an officer of a sorority, which I
05:19joined at Pisigma Delta. And after graduation from college, actually ako yung
05:27experience ko, I never had to look for a job. Ako yung hinahanap nung trabaho parang
05:34gano'n. So until I reached yung level that I was able to achieve now. Yes, I would
05:42guess I am successful right now. Kasi sa akin ang measure of success, hindi lang
05:48naman financial. Although financially, it's okay because I am an assistant
05:51vice president of the company. But at the same time, I've already made a name for
05:55myself as far as the industry is concerned. I'm in the pre-meet industry,
06:00and I am one of the more in-demand trainers, events organizer, etc.
06:06Sila Arnie is a typical achiever, successful sa academics. Nung nag-aarad pa
06:11siya hanggang sa career, do you agree na isa siyang intelligent and smart woman?
06:15Okay, define natin. Kasi usually ang intelligent, academical talaga.
06:21Academically speaking yan. Bukit smart din yan. When you say smart and wise, it's
06:26usually practical living. Yung gano'n. Common sense. Yung gano'n. So sa tingin
06:32niyo, sila Arnie ba is an intelligent, smart, and wise woman?
06:37Intelligent siya siguro kasi, sabi niya, talaga hinahabol na siya ng mga
06:41kumpanya. Hindi na niya kailangang maghanap ng trabaho. Depends rin e, kasi sometimes
06:47you can be academically intelligent, but then you can be really dumb in other
06:53aspects of your life. So, depende rin.
06:56Balagin niyo ba, ano what makes a matalino na babae?
07:00O ano bang qualities?
07:03Maraming ano yan, diba? Yung pagiging matalino. Siya, napakatalino niya talaga.
07:07Obvious naman, ano, the way she speaks palag, diba?
07:09Napaka-intelligente dahil kasi yung talagang pinili niya tapo si pag-aaral niya, lahat pinagbuti niya.
07:15And, pero for me, yung talagang intelligente, smart, yun yung tao na alam mo kung anong ginagawa mo.
07:23Alam mo kung anong gusto mo. Kung mali, yung mga choices mo, kung misal alam mong mali,
07:28hindi tama, pero gusto mo yung...
07:30Ginagawa mo pa rin?
07:31Pag ginawa mo man, alam mo dapat labasan din, na hindi naman mo sisirain yung sarili mo.
07:36At kung masaktan ka, preparado ka dun sa mga consequences na alam mong pwedeng dumating sa'yo.
07:43Kasi meron mga smart na hindi masyadong intelligente. Meron din naman intelligente na hindi rin masyadong smart.
07:50Depende siguro talaga.
07:52School smart siya, pero hindi naman street smart.
07:57Balitin sa buhay, medyo buwawala siya ng konti.
08:02Pero alam niya lahat ng ano.
08:04Talongin na ka-knowledge of it.
08:06MC squared. Tama ba yun?
08:09I think that intelligent and smart women, they have a time na dumb sila in their lifetime.
08:18There will always be a time na they're not smart or palpak or whatever.
08:23You cannot know everything.
08:25Hindi naman pwede, alam mo lahat.
08:28Matalino o magaling, mataas ang expectation.
08:32Kayo ba, did you think mataas ang expectation sa inyo ng mga magulang niya?
08:38Sa akin, hindi siguro. Normal lang.
08:41Kasi hindi naman ako nakatapos ng college. Hanggang high school lang ako.
08:44Kasi I started working after high school.
08:47Pero sa tingin ko, kahit hindi ako ganun ka-intelligent, medyo may pagka-smart ako pagdating sa world.
08:54Uy, ikaw naman!
08:55Kasi wala naman akong grades na pwede mo, o consistent na honor student ka. Iba kasi yun eh.
09:02Pero kung discarte o yung mga gawa siguro sa buhay, pwede ko sabihin na yung mga choices mo.
09:09Buting yung mahihintang college. Ako high school lang talaga, second year.
09:13Sa akin yung expectation, siguro kasi favorite ako ng pamilya.
09:16Sa akin sila yung parang naging hope nila.
09:19Tapos ako yung naging breadwinner na yung parang magkataas ng standard of living.
09:27Alice, you finished college, diba?
09:29So do you think that the expectation ng parents mo sayo mataas din?
09:33Kasi nakatapos ka ng college in spite of working.
09:36Yes, because I was the youngest in the family.
09:42And lahat ng hindi nagawa ng mom ko or ng parents ko when they were younger, they made sure na meron ako.
09:50Like, my parents weren't able to finish college. So they made sure na makatapos ako.
09:58So they really had high expectations for me.
10:01Because when I was in grade school pa lang, I was always at the top of my class, grade school.
10:09Noong high school na lang ako pumalabas.
10:15Kala dito na ako when I was in high school.
10:19Kaya iba.
10:20Iba. Iba ang environment.
10:22Ibang iba talaga.
10:24Ako naman, noong high school, medyo hindi ako nakaconcentrate masyado.
10:28Kumagamagal yung isip ko, iniisip ko, oh nako, league club or whatever activities para lang makaiwas sa class.
10:34Pero noong college naman, dahil ako na nagbabayad, talagang kiniigihan ko naman.
10:39Pero hindi ko natapos yun.
10:42Kasi nag-artista ka na lang, di ba?
10:45Talagang sagabal minsan ng pag...
10:48Ako rin.
10:50Grabe.
10:51Oh, hindi kaya sya magaling ang isang tao, ay hindi na sya nagkakamali.
10:54Nadadapa pa rin sila, lalo na pagdating sa pag-ibig.
10:58Bakit kaya at anong dahilan?
10:59Yan po ang pag-uusapan natin sa pagbabalik ng sis.
11:05We are sisters.
11:07We are sisters.
11:11Always be.
11:12We are sisters.
11:14We are sisters.
11:17Kanina nakilala natin sila, Arnie.
11:19Nalaman natin ang kanyang mga accomplishments noon sa school at ngayon sa kanyang career.
11:24But despite her image as being a smart and successful woman, syempre,
11:29nagkakamali sya ng mga foolish decisions, di ba?
11:32Lalo na pagdating sa love, lahat naman tayo.
11:35Tuloy natin ang kwento nila, Arnie.
11:38Yung first kasi, I met him in a rally.
11:42At the time, I was a student leader.
11:44He was a community youth leader.
11:47So, noong panahong yon kasi, I was an activist.
11:50Ibang tingin ko sa mga community youth leaders.
11:53Parang idol ko yan kasi full-timer sila.
11:55They gave up a lot of things.
11:57Na ako hindi ko kayang i-give up.
11:59So, parang ibang tingin ko, parang icon yung tingin ko sa kanya.
12:04And when he fell for me, parang head over heels ako talaga na,
12:08wow, parang in love siya sa akin.
12:11Not knowing, natao rin siya eh.
12:14Parang wala yung gano'ng pagtingin.
12:18Ang idea ko was, in love siya sa akin, in love ako sa kanya, everything will turn out fine.
12:23Kaya lang, when we started living together, doon na lumabas yung differences.
12:27Like, syempre iba yung kinalakihan niya, iba yung kinalakihan ko.
12:31Iba yung upbringing.
12:33Dan siguro isang turning point din was the fact na hindi kami magka-anak.
12:38We were together for five years.
12:40Hindi kami talaga, we tried everything.
12:42We even went to a doctor, parang ganun.
12:44So, ang naging ending noon was, meron siyang na-impregnate na other woman.
12:50Na ang gusto niyang mangyari at the time, kunin niya yung bata, kami parin.
12:55E yung upbringing ko will not allow that.
12:57I decided to give up on the relationship.
13:01Kayo na lang because parang she needs you more than I do.
13:04It finally ended, on the wrong note, after five years.
13:09But my foolish choices did not end there.
13:13After that, there was another foolish choice.
13:16But that foolish choice wasn't as foolish as the first one kasi may achievement ako doon.
13:22I have a child who is nine years old, si Aya, born out of that second mistake.
13:30Si Laarne is an example of an intelligent and smart woman.
13:33Pero pa sa love department, nanda pa siya at sabi nga niya,
13:35di lang isa na sundan pa ito, pumangalawa pa.
13:38In what way kayo nakaka-relate sa kanya?
13:45Love is blind.
13:48Sa school kasi hindi naman natuturo yung love, diba?
13:50Atsaka, mali mo ba kung kanino ka mai-in-love, diba?
13:52Parang feeling ko, nagkataon lang talaga na hindi kayo...
13:56Tsaka when you're young, you really don't know what you're doing most of the time.
14:00I mean, you think you do at the time, but later on you find out,
14:04shh, bakit ko nagawa yun?
14:06I mean, later on you realize...
14:08Papapatanod ka talaga.
14:09Parang, bakit?
14:10Twelve years ago, you were involved with somebody na naging bad influencer.
14:14Oo.
14:17Really bad.
14:18BI ba siya, BI?
14:19Yes, very bad influence.
14:20And although my friends and my family were saying,
14:23wag nga siya, get away from him, he's bad influence on you,
14:28matigas pa rin ang ulo ko, ginusto ko pa rin yung gusto ko.
14:31Syempre.
14:33In love.
14:34Tanga.
14:35Because when you look at it, diba?
14:37Sabi mo nga, yung foolish choices, medyo hazy siya ng konti.
14:41Kasi diba, hindi nga natin alam kung kanino tayo mai-in-love.
14:44We fall in love with a person na akala natin at the time,
14:47mas okay, maganda naman ang pinakita sa atin.
14:49Because in the long run,
14:50at the end, marirealize mo, parang, ay, mali.
14:54Diba?
14:56Yung ba, would you consider that foolish choice?
14:58O mas foolish choice yung, alam mo nang ang hindi...
15:02Nakikita mo na eh, klaro na sa'yo yung picture na, teka,
15:05masama ugali nito, or may diferensya ito, bad influence ito,
15:09pero pumasok ka pa rin.
15:10Yun ang mas ano, diba? Parang mas foolish yun.
15:13Alam mo kasi ako, kasi sa face ko,
15:15ang aga kong nag-isawa eh.
15:16Ang aga kong nag-isawa, yung first marriage ko ang aga.
15:19Pero parang kahit, kumbaga, may nangyaring gano'n,
15:24dun sa experience, parang may ginawang kabutihan naman.
15:27Merong results na maganda rin siya.
15:29You will not be the person you are now, if not.
15:31Oo, kung bata, kasi impulsive ka eh.
15:34Hindi ka nakikinib talaga sa mga magula mo.
15:36Pero maganda talaga ngayon, kasi mga anak ko, teenagers eh,
15:39parating from experience, ganito, ganito.
15:42Marami kong masasabi.
15:44Kaya hindi mo naman sasabi sigurong foolish choice yung nangyari na yun.
15:49Kasi kung hindi ko dinaanan yun, hindi ko maipapa-advise sa mga anak ko yun ngayon.
15:56Laging from experience ang pagkausap ko eh.
15:59Wala na sila ibang pwedeng pakinggan.
16:01Kundi ako kasi dinaanan ko.
16:03Parang makinig tayo kay mami, alam niya yan.
16:06Oo, talaga, to the letter, lahat ng dinaanan ko.
16:09Alam nila.
16:10Anguy ko pa lang, teka, alam ko na yan.
16:12Kaya medyo, medyo cautious sila.
16:15Kasi alam nilang malalaman at malalaman ko.
16:17Si Miss Ami, sabi kanina ni Alice na when you're younger,
16:21syempre make foolish choices, syempre mapusok,
16:24hindi nakikinig, nag-aalam-alaman, diba?
16:29Would you say na at your age now, eh, nakakahiyanang magkamali ka pa?
16:35Oo naman.
16:36If you make the same mistake.
16:37Oo.
16:38Parang yung pagka inulit-ulit mo, kasi, Diyos ko, kurenta ka na eh.
16:43Ako, 40 na ako.
16:44Tapos, pag di mo pa alam kung ano yung ginagawa mo.
16:47Nung araw, okay lang.
16:49Kasi nung bata ako, teenager talaga.
16:51Naku, parang hindi kami swak nito,
16:53or parang hindi kami compatible nitong guy na to.
16:56Pero dahil sa katigasan ng ulo mo,
16:58at naglalaba.
16:59Alam naman ang utak mo na hindi dapat eh,
17:01pero yung puso mo, pagdigyan mo.
17:03Pagdigyan natin.
17:04Mag-aaway, mag-aaway ang dalong yan.
17:06Pagdigyan muna.
17:07Sige na, subukan mo lang muna.
17:08O pagka six months, gano'n talaga.
17:10O di, umayaw ka, at least sinubukan mo.
17:12First one is six months.
17:13Oto siya, kawasapin mo yung sarili mo.
17:14O, kitam na, sabi sa'yo, mali eh.
17:16Sa salamin na ganyan.
17:17Dumaan na ang three years.
17:19Ay, hindi naman akong dumano.
17:20Ay, hindi naman.
17:21Oo, hindi.
17:22Pagka mali, six months, tama na.
17:24Six months lang, tops.
17:25Kasi nakakabawa ko talaga, after six months.
17:27Yes.
17:28Hindi tama, as in talaga, nakaka-ayaw ka agad.
17:31Mas numingibabaw pa rin yung isip ko.
17:33Hindi ko, hindi, yun naman.
17:35Dahil naman ako nagpapakadunod dun sa...
17:37Huwag naman ganyan, diba?
17:38At the process na pinagbibigyan mo, sinubukan mo,
17:41at the same time, pinag-aaralan mo pa rin yung papano ka aalis.
17:44Pinapatibay mo na yung sarili mo.
17:46Pag umalis ka, ready ka na.
17:47Ready ka na.
17:48Ready mo na.
17:49Pini-prepare mo na yun.
17:50E si Raven.
17:51Ano ba'ng iniisip mo nung pinili mo si Diego over your career?
17:56Since yung time na yun, talagang you're just starting.
18:01Oh.
18:03Mahirap kasi.
18:04How old were you then?
18:05I was, when I was going out with him, I was 18.
18:08And then I got pregnant, 19 na.
18:13Ang hirap kasi, syempre, guys have the tendency of telling you what to do pa.
18:17Parang, don't do this, don't do that.
18:19Bakit ka pa magagalito?
18:20Syempre, paalipin naman tayo.
18:21Why are you wearing that?
18:22Bakit ganoon yung makeup mo?
18:24Ikaw naman, in love ka.
18:25He's a tanga.
18:26Oh, sige, sunod-sunod naman.
18:27Pero, datating yung point na parang sandali lang, hindi ko nata kaya to.
18:31Parang, inamaduhan ako nito.
18:33Bakit may buhay na rin man ako?
18:35Parang ganoon.
18:36Nagising ako.
18:37Kaya nagdabating yung puntong yun.
18:38Nung may bata na, parang sabi ko, hindi naman to magbabago.
18:42Parang ganoon, hindi talaga kami compatible.
18:44Kailangan, exit na ako.
18:46Ganoon.
18:47Pero I've learned from my mistakes.
18:49Kaya maganda nga nangyari din yun.
18:50Kasi siguro kung hindi nangyari yun, pag nagka-boyfriend pa ako ulit,
18:54eto na naman si Gaga, otu-utunan naman.
18:56Yung ganoon.
18:57Oo.
18:59Kailangan talaga matuto ka, kasi kundi, you'll really make the mistake again.
19:02Pero dapat talagang matuto.
19:04Kasi kung ganoon na nga nangyari, tapos wala ka rin natutunan,
19:07saan ka na naman?
19:09Yung mga babaeng tulad ko nung bata ako,
19:11baka naman hindi, baka this time ito, iba na ito.
19:13Ay, Diyos ko!
19:14Diba?
19:15May ganoon talaga.
19:16Hindi, I don't think so.
19:17Pare-pareho ko.
19:18Always keeping to myself.
19:20Kaya diba?
19:21Kailangan muna, pero talagang hinaan mo pa yung sarili mo,
19:24baka pwede.
19:26Sabi mo nga diba dati, palagay ko mapasok sa relasyon,
19:29kahit alam mo hindi naman panalo.
19:32Just to get out of yung situation na lonely ka, ganyan.
19:37So, para ba nga nasa utak ko kasi noon,
19:39yung magamot yung loneliness na yun is to find another love.
19:44Ganyan.
19:45Palitaan ng bago.
19:46So, para you can get over the last run,
19:49kailangan panakit-butas ng love.
19:52So, magagalit ng isip na panakit-butas yun.
19:54Like, ikaw mismo gusto mo sana totoo na.
19:57Pero hindi mo alam na hindi ko pa palang ready or hindi pa dapat.
20:00Wrong assumptions also lead to foolish choices.
20:03Oo, ganoon.
20:04Diba?
20:05Or para lang matakasan natin.
20:07Sometimes kasi, diba?
20:08Meron tayong mga bagay na ayaw nating harapin.
20:10Like, for example, being alone.
20:12Loneliness.
20:13O yung sa pag-aakalang, hindi natin kakayanin.
20:15Ayoko nang umiyak.
20:16Oo, yun ganoon.
20:17Wala akong love, wala akong glow.
20:19Sa pag-aakal natin.
20:21Uy, eto na si Hope.
20:23Eto na si Love again.
20:24Lagi na si Hope, si Love.
20:27Saan saan ka napupunta.
20:28Mga disco, mga ganyan.
20:30Para maka-out mo.
20:31Sexy.
20:32Mga wala namang direction mga buhay ng mga tao pinupuntahan.
20:35Pero pag-uwi mo, malungkot pa din.
20:37Ganoon din.
20:38O siya, kailan nila na-realize na mali pala sila?
20:41Pag-uusapan natin yan sa pagbabalik ng stage.
20:48We are sisters.
20:53Always be.
20:54We are sisters.
20:56We are sisters.
21:00Si La Army, it took five years bago niya tuluyang tinapos ang kanyang relationship.
21:04At three years naman yung kanyang pangalawang relationship.
21:07Bakit basta palagay niya umabot pa sa ganoon kahaba yung relationship
21:10bago niya na-realize na hindi naman pala siya panalo.
21:15Mahihirapan lang pala siya.
21:16Parang sa inyo, parang kailangan tumagal-tagal pa bago natin na-realize na mali pala yung ginagawa natin.
21:23Kailangan maghirap muna tayo.
21:25Hindi lang tayong madapa.
21:26Kailangan yung sad-sad ka na.
21:28Balik ulit tayo sa benefit of the doubt.
21:30Ayun.
21:31Binibigyan niya ng chance.
21:32Binibigyan niya ng chance yung relationship.
21:34Bigyan ang pagdata.
21:35Siguro.
21:36Masabi sa rin niya.
21:37At least nasubukan ko.
21:38Kaysa hindi ko binigyan, hindi ko tinry.
21:40Pwede mo walit ka.
21:42What if, what if.
21:43Wala akong pwede pagkisihan.
21:45Do you think, kunyari, sila Arnie, in those five years, do you think na on the second year pa lang, hindi pa niya alam kung ano nangyayari?
21:52Nagbubulag-bulagan lang siguro siya?
21:54Or she just was hoping na magbabagong takot?
21:56Alam.
21:57Depende siguro rin sa personality ng tao.
21:59Kasi kagaya ko, kung hanggat kayang matiis, titiisin ko.
22:03Depende sa personality siguro.
22:05Kaya yung iba nagtatayo.
22:07Kaya nga ako nangingiti eh.
22:11Depende sa personality.
22:12Kung kakayanin pa, siguro kung talagang kinaya ko ba, baka mas matagal pa.
22:17Pero yun, nasa character talaga ng tao din.
22:21Pero kung pinatagal pa yung ganun, do you think magbabago pa ang choice mo?
22:24Siguro kung alam mong worry naman na pagpatagalin, yung lalaki na nabigyan ng chance,
22:31kung gano'n baka lalim yung pagmamahal mo talaga sa kanya.
22:34Diba?
22:35Kasi may mga babae ko minsan, titiisin ko na lang ba ito?
22:39O mas malungkot ako kapag wala siya.
22:41Anong sa dalawa?
22:42Darating talaga sa mundo na parang ayok na.
22:45Darating talaga sa mundo.
22:46Makukulok ka rin.
22:47Oo naman.
22:48Diba masarap isipin na after all the mistakes na nagawaan natin sa buhay natin.
22:52Sabi nga na yung ate Ogie, mas masarap mangaral sa mga anak natin.
22:56Because nangaling ka dun eh.
22:58Alam mo yung kung gano'n kasakit, kung gano'n kahirap, alam mo kung ano yung mali.
23:02But what if all your guidance, lahat ng pagpangaral mo, lahat ng pag-explain mo,
23:06pagpakita mo nung nangyari sa'yo, if they commit the mistake that you committed,
23:11ganyan, diyan ka na talaga iiyak.
23:14At saka talaga, it's not in your hands, it's in God's hands.
23:17Yung talaga, kaya bata pa lang, pangaral, pangaral, pangaral talaga.
23:21God's word, God's input.
23:23Kasi sa totoo talaga may sarili silang buhay eh.
23:27Hindi mo hawak ang buhay nila.
23:29Pati decision, kahit ano talaga sabihin mo.
23:32Pero, kailangan mo pa rin silang i-guide.
23:35Kung talagang magkakaroon sila ng wrong choices in life, it's between them and the Lord.
23:40Decision na nila yun eh.
23:42Depende rin sa pangaral ng mga magulang yun eh.
23:45Because there are parents who enforce what they want on their children, instead of guiding them.
23:52Minsan nakakausap, kalustuhan mo mapabuting anak mo.
23:55When it's enforced, nagiging rebellious ang mga anak.
23:58And they still do it, even if it's wrong.
24:00But if it's paalala lang, even if they make the mistake or not, at least it was because na-guidance sila.
24:08I guess for us, kung natutuman tayo, we were allowed to make those choices, make those mistakes para matuto tayo.
24:15Baka in the long run, for them, it's the same thing eh.
24:18Kailangan magkaroon sila ng choices na gano'n para makabangon sila at matuto.
24:22May warning, hindi yan nagagawa overnight.
24:25Dapat talaga bata pa lang, sanay na sila na nakikinig sa'yo.
24:29Kasi kung pag medyo mga teenagers na, mga 13 years, may na makikinig yan.
24:35Kaya dapat medyo bata pa lang, medyo ayan na.
24:38And the parents have to set a good example for the children to follow.
24:41Alex, when did you realize that you really had to end your relationship with your boyfriend?
24:45Yung that time, yung si Bad Influence.
24:48When I saw that it was going nowhere talaga.
24:52But when did you realize that it was going nowhere?
24:55It took me four years.
24:56And then, even on the fourth year, I was still hoping na baka magbago to.
25:01Baka...
25:02Because the more that we want to change the other person, the more hindi mangyayari yun.
25:07So, it took me six, the sixth year, I said, this is not gonna work talaga.
25:12And I left.
25:13I left.
25:14And then, yun.
25:15Nawala ako.
25:16Kasi nawala ako.
25:17In the Philippines, I had to be away for a while.
25:21And then everybody was asking, nasa na si Alice?
25:23Nasa na si Alice?
25:24Nasa na si Alice.
25:25And I had to hibernate for about a year before I could come back and resume my life again.
25:31You had to recharge yourself.
25:33Ano yun naman Raven?
25:35Ako naman.
25:36Ano?
25:37Anong ginawa mo?
25:38Recharge.
25:39Umalis.
25:40Hindi ah.
25:41Isipin ko mabuti.
25:42After we broke up, I tried to make a little mai sarili.
25:45Labas ako.
25:46Date, date, date.
25:47Para makalimutan ko na nangyari.
25:49Na parang, I don't wanna think about it.
25:52Ganyan.
25:53Tapos, I left.
25:54I went to Guam.
25:55And I worked a normal job.
25:57And I went to school.
25:58And then, I missed show business and I went back here.
26:01Sa Pilipinas.
26:02Ah, so you went to Guam.
26:03Gaano kakatagal mo?
26:04I was there for two years.
26:06Ang tagal na pala, no?
26:07Parang kailan lang?
26:08Two years ka pala doon?
26:09Oo, two years ako doon eh.
26:11At yun.
26:12Anong nagwork mo naman ba?
26:14Nagwork naman, na-forget mo naman siya.
26:16Na-forget ko naman siya.
26:18And, paka move on ako.
26:20Makalimutan ko na siya.
26:21Parang ngayon, pag binabagit siya sa akin, wala.
26:24Okay na.
26:25Hindi ka affected.
26:26Hindi ko affected sa kanya.
26:27Normally, di ba, parang to move on, to get up,
26:30automatic yun parang,
26:32let's work, let's do something productive.
26:35Di ba, parang kailangan ibawiin natin.
26:37Bawiin natin.
26:38Bawiin natin.
26:39Mayon.
26:40Is that your reason for working and going back to school?
26:43Yeah, kasi ayoko naman wala akong ginagawa.
26:45Siyempre mas lalo kang malulungkot na parang,
26:47wala ka ng kahag, wala ka ng ganon-ganon.
26:50Wala ka ng kasweety-sweety.
26:52So, parang inaaliw ko na yung sarili ko.
26:55Gusto ko maging busy ako.
26:56Parang, hindi ko na iniisip yung mga love-love na yan.
26:59To yan, kasi pag idol ka,
27:01dami-dami pumapasok.
27:02Oo, dami pumapasok yung loneliness.
27:06Ganon ba yung heart?
27:08Ganon ba yung genesis?
27:12Sabi nila Arnie,
27:13hindi lang isang beses siya nagkamali.
27:15Ulit-ulit, iba naman ang experience.
27:17Pero, basically,
27:19Pareho ang ending.
27:20Pareho ang ending.
27:21Bakit ba nakakaulit-ulit pa yan?
27:23Bakit ba kailangan mangyari para mangyari?
27:26Bottom line, hindi niya kayang mag-isa.
27:28Kailangan niya talaga to seek God's counsel.
27:31Bottom line talaga yan.
27:33Ako, ganon yung nangyari sa'kin.
27:34Paulit-ulit.
27:35Sige, patingin.
27:36Try nang patry.
27:38Until you die.
27:41Pero until, nagbago lang ako.
27:43Sabihin, nung malaman ko kung ano yung,
27:45nung nagbible-study ako,
27:46nung tinanggap ko panginoon,
27:47nung may plano pala ang Diyos sa'kin,
27:49na hindi pala akong ganon tipo,
27:51na dapat lang makikipag-live-in.
27:53Ako pala yung tipong pinapakasalan,
27:54at yun ang gusto niya para sa'kin.
27:56Nung tumaas yung tingin ko sa sarili ko,
27:59na hindi pala ako,
28:00dapat kung ang Diyos binibigyan ako ng importansya,
28:02sino naman ako para baliwalain ito,
28:04o yung mga lalaking yan para hindi ako pahalagahan.
28:07So, you think also the bad choices,
28:09nangyayari din yan,
28:11inaalaw yun ni God,
28:12is for us to also find our spirituality.
28:14Because we go through an awkward stage
28:16na hindi natin alam kung ano yung mga ginagawa natin.
28:18Basta gawa lang tayo ng gawa,
28:20impulsiveness,
28:21that we lose all sense of balance.
28:23Meaning our spirituality,
28:24our self-esteem,
28:25our self-respect,
28:27our individuality.
28:29So, pag nangyayari yun,
28:31kapag ka bumagsaka,
28:32damagdama mo ata dito.
28:36Ano yun yung sinasabing yung dalawa ni Bob,
28:39yun yung pag nagriwala ka,
28:40pag nagreklamo nga.
28:43Siba, parang ganun.
28:44It helps us in finding ourselves.
28:46Toto, yun.
28:47Oh yes, yun ang talaga yung paraan for me.
28:49Kasi yung nagre-relike ka sa sarili mong understanding,
28:53talagang ano eh,
28:54hindi sigurado yun.
28:56Hindi enough.
28:57Iba yung alam mo kung ano yung plano ng Diyos sa'yo,
29:00sigurado, hindi ka magkakamali.
29:02Ati, hindi mo talaga kaya on your own.
29:04Kahit anong gawin mo,
29:06101%,
29:07mali talaga.
29:08Mali talaga, hindi mo kakayanin on your own.
29:10Tsaka feeling ko parang diba dapat,
29:11pag tagka ulit-ulit,
29:13feeling ko parang,
29:14eh kasi hindi ka natututo ng leksyon.
29:17Parang may sinasabi sa'yo ng Diyos na,
29:21eto dapat ganito ka,
29:23o dapat ma-realize mo ito.
29:24Hindi mo na-realize,
29:25oh pwes,
29:26meron ka pang darating na trial.
29:27Hindi mo parin kuha,
29:29isa pang trial.
29:30Hanggang sa makuha mo,
29:31pag nakuha mo na yun,
29:32mas kaganda na buhay mo.
29:33So maganda sana yung ma-realize mo yan,
29:36wala ka pa sa bagsak na bagsak.
29:39Sana naman,
29:40point no return.
29:41Kasi mas masakit.
29:42Mas masakit syon.
29:43Mas malaki daw.
29:44Sana medyo,
29:45yung kalabit pa lang,
29:47o kurot pa lang,
29:48nakaka-sensitive ka na sa gusto ng Lord.
29:51Okay, eto na,
29:52natuto ko na ng leksyon mo,
29:54or so you thought,
29:55natuto ka na.
29:56Pero syempre,
29:57human pa rin tayo,
29:59nakakaramdam pa rin tayo,
30:00yung pagkahanap ng pagmamahal.
30:02Pero eto na naman,
30:03ito marating na naman,
30:04yan naman si Love at sya kasi Hope.
30:07So,
30:08ano naman ang process na pagdadaanan mo
30:11to move on and get into another relationship
30:15with the thought na sana this time,
30:17talagang natuto na ako.
30:18Pero syempre,
30:19bago nasagutin yan,
30:20paingin muna tayo.
30:21Magbabalik na po ang seats.
30:37We're back!
30:38Okay,
30:39balik tayo sa question ko rin na.
30:40So, ano nga ba ang mga prosesong pinagdadaanan
30:43before you move on into again another relationship
30:47na pwedeng ibalik kayo sa dating gawe?
30:51Anong dating gawe?
30:52Dating gawe,
30:53yung babobobohan,
30:54tanga-tangaan,
30:55yung gano'n.
30:56Anong pwede gawin?
30:57Anong parang bumalik doon?
30:58So, ano,
30:59papano yun?
31:00Next relationship,
31:01after akala mo natuto ka na.
31:04Ha?
31:05Nung matuto kasi,
31:06kung wala namang,
31:07may dumating,
31:08pero,
31:09ang maganda doon,
31:10may mga kaibigan ako si Tunet,
31:12ano,
31:13macho,
31:14na,
31:15please,
31:16papray mo kasi tun dumating na to.
31:17Kumagad,
31:18kasi before,
31:19lagi ako lonely,
31:20pagka walang love.
31:21Tapos nun,
31:22nakilala ko yung Panginoon.
31:23Aba,
31:24pwede na akong walang boyfriend,
31:25pwede na akong walang love.
31:26Bah, matagal na.
31:27Diba?
31:28Yung para sa akin,
31:29talagang antagal-tagal nang wala.
31:30Kumagad,
31:31grace ng Panginoon yun.
31:32Maski walang love,
31:33o ganyan.
31:34Pero,
31:35mayroon isang pinadala minsan,
31:36na super gwapo.
31:37Hii!
31:38Anong gagawin ko dito?
31:39Ang gwapo niya.
31:40Tsaka,
31:41parang,
31:42di ba lahat ng babae,
31:43naghahabul dyan.
31:44Parang,
31:45sino ba ito?
31:46Parang,
31:47nakuta ka muna,
31:48bakaan mo siya yung pinapadala?
31:49Ay,
31:50ayan ka na naman.
31:51Pero,
31:52ang pinakamaganda doon,
31:53please pray for me.
31:54Sabi ko doon sa mga kaibigan ko,
31:55ito ba talaga?
31:56Masarap doon,
31:57may mga kaibigan ako,
31:58mga Christian na talaga,
32:00pagkakamali.
32:01Or,
32:02sa yung hindi dapat.
32:03Tama ba,
32:04tama ba umali
32:05ang sumunod ka
32:06sa nararamdaman mo?
32:08Yung,
32:09eto, may dumating.
32:10At,
32:11medyo fabulous.
32:14Tama ba na,
32:15sige nga try ko?
32:17Kasi parang,
32:18pag hindi mo naman tinry,
32:19how will you know?
32:21Malay mo naman,
32:22baka naman mamaya eh.
32:23Siya na nga.
32:24Siya pala.
32:25Siya pala yung match mo.
32:26At hindi mo napansin.
32:27Hindi nga lang siya yung perfect
32:28na ini-expect mo.
32:30Pero,
32:31okay na rin.
32:32Yung gano'n,
32:33di ba parang,
32:34isipin mo parang,
32:35if you'd never try,
32:36parang you'll never know.
32:38Diba?
32:39Kung ako tatanungin talaga,
32:40I would seek God's counsel first.
32:42Priority na talaga.
32:44Kasi,
32:45after my first marriage,
32:46may mga sumunod na relationship,
32:48hindi rin talaga nag-work out.
32:49Kasi,
32:50wala pa ako sa Panginoon eh.
32:51Discarte ko lang talaga yun.
32:53Tapos,
32:54nung nakilala ko yung asawa ko,
32:56pareho kaming ano,
32:57pareho kaming may past lives,
32:59marami kaming mga baggages na dala-dala.
33:02Pero,
33:03pareho kami nakilala sa Panginoon.
33:05Alam mo,
33:06parang,
33:07mula nung,
33:08hindi ko sinasabing walang problema,
33:10pero,
33:11yun yung naging turning point
33:12ng buhay namin pareho.
33:13Kasi,
33:14may anchor kami.
33:15May nakagitna sa relasyon namin.
33:17Kaya,
33:18sabi ko nga pag tinatanong,
33:19anong sikreto na isang,
33:21siguro yung sinasabi na successful marriage.
33:24Kasi,
33:25kung walang sikreto,
33:26bottom line lang talaga,
33:27kailangan God-fearing yung pareho.
33:29Pareho kayo yung dalawa.
33:30So, in other words,
33:31palang solve na kayo.
33:32Ipagdadasan mo ang iyong next love.
33:34Oo naman.
33:35Oo naman.
33:36Ayun,
33:37talaga,
33:38yung binibigay talaga ng Panginoon.
33:39Kasi,
33:40talagang meron isa pa.
33:41Yan nga sabi ni God.
33:45Ako naman,
33:46ang tendency ko,
33:48what I went for in my first boyfriend,
33:51the second naman,
33:52hindi ko,
33:53kumbaga meron,
33:54kung meron siyang ugaling gano'n,
33:55kagaya nung first,
33:57hindi ko kumukuha.
33:58Maayaw ka na kaagad.
33:59Oo,
34:00maayaw ko.
34:01Parang,
34:02sindali,
34:03parang pareho sila.
34:04Parang gano'n.
34:05Napapasok ka na kaagad.
34:06Oo,
34:07parang napaparanoid na ako,
34:08na lumalayo na ako.
34:09Yung gano'n.
34:10Tsaka,
34:11kung anong ginawa ko sa first boyfriend ko,
34:12sa second,
34:13hindi na gano'n.
34:14Kumbaga,
34:15kung first ko,
34:16regala ko ng regalo,
34:17sa second,
34:18hindi na ako naregaluhan mo.
34:20Alice,
34:21how do you,
34:22did you think,
34:23were you pretty sure?
34:24Paano mo nalaman na si Ronnie na ngayon?
34:26I didn't know.
34:28When I first met him,
34:29actually,
34:30magkaaway pa kami.
34:32I didn't like him
34:34and he didn't like me.
34:35Kasi ano,
34:36I think naiabangan kami sa isa't-isa.
34:38We didn't hit it off
34:39on the right foot,
34:41right away.
34:42And I never thought that
34:44dumating sa point na magiging,
34:46talagang close kami as in friends
34:48hanggang sa hinahanap-hanap ko na
34:51yung friendship niya.
34:53I mean,
34:54when he stopped calling,
34:55I was like,
34:56hey,
34:57how come hindi na niya ako tinatawagan?
34:58Not as dahil nanliligaw siya,
35:00but dahil naging close kami
35:02as in real friends first
35:04before anything else.
35:05And I think,
35:06the more na hinahanap mo
35:08ang mate mo,
35:10lalong hindi darating,
35:11it has,
35:12darating na lang yun,
35:13huwag mo na siyang hanapin.
35:15If,
35:16whatever God's plan is for you,
35:18yun na yun,
35:19just keep accepting
35:20what He brings for you.
35:22And pray about it too,
35:23like what Riel said,
35:24kung siya talaga para sa'yo.
35:26Parang pag nahanap mo siya,
35:28hindi siya mahanap.
35:29Kung sino-sino,
35:30tuloy,
35:31ah,
35:32ito na yun!
35:33Ito na siya na!
35:34Mas mahirap talaga
35:35kung meron ka ng
35:36ibang relasyon.
35:37Iko gaya sa akin,
35:38may first marriage ako.
35:39Mas mahirap
35:40kasi may kapackage deal ka
35:41ng dalawang bata.
35:42Medyo mag-iisip ka
35:44kung talagang gusto mo
35:45talaga na.
35:46Mas maraming to-lose.
35:47Oo, may baggages ka ndala,
35:48diba?
35:49Parang sino pang
35:50magpapakasal sa akin,
35:51sino pang mag-
35:52mag-
35:53mag-titiwala,
35:54o ito na.
35:55Pero,
35:56Diyos talaga,
35:57God's grace talaga yan,
35:58God's love.
35:59Marami pong kababaihan
36:00antulad nila Arnie
36:01na matalino at successful
36:02sa karir,
36:03pero,
36:04nadada pa sa kanilang
36:05mga relasyon.
36:06Pakinggan po natin
36:07ang opinion
36:08ni Dr. Lilian Wadjong.
36:09Kasi sa kultura natin,
36:11pag sinabing smart,
36:13ang iniisip natin
36:14yung mga smart,
36:15yung magaling sa math,
36:16yung magaling sa words,
36:18yung mga honor students,
36:20pero,
36:22iba-ibang klase ang smart.
36:24Mayroong smart na
36:26sa emotion.
36:28Ang tawag nila yung
36:29marunong siyang tumansya
36:30kung sino yung,
36:31kung ano yung,
36:32yung maiinlaba siya
36:34o hindi.
36:35Marunong siyang tumansya
36:36kung hindi mag-work up
36:38yung relationship
36:39o hindi.
36:40Ito yung mga tinatawag
36:41na emotionally smart.
36:43Ngayon,
36:44yung maraming mga babaeng
36:45sinasabing na smart
36:46tap na,
36:47bakit ganun?
36:48Smart tapos hindi naman
36:49naka-work out ng relationship.
36:52Hindi sila yung sinasabing
36:53smart emotionally.
36:55Sila yung smart intellectually
36:57as far as the cognitive
36:58is concerned.
37:00Yan po,
37:01tinatawag natin EQ
37:02and IQ.
37:03Sabi nga ni Alice,
37:04emotional quotient.
37:06So, sumasang-ayon ba kayo
37:07kay Dr. Wadjong?
37:09Hindi ko masyadong narinig
37:10lahat na sinabi niya.
37:13Naka-relate ako sa isang
37:14sinabi niya eh.
37:15Yun nga,
37:16yung sinasabi niya ngayon,
37:17may mga babaeng,
37:18may mga tao,
37:19hindi lang babae,
37:20may mga tao na really smart
37:21pagdating sa edukasyon,
37:23sa studies nila.
37:25Takas ng grade,
37:26kanya.
37:27Pero pagdating sa mga
37:28discartes sa buhay
37:29o pag na-in love
37:30or decision,
37:31hindi naman nakakasurvive.
37:33Hindi nasa hindi nakakasurvive,
37:34yung make the wrong choices
37:36talaga.
37:37Hindi nagagamit siya
37:38pagiging matalino nila.
37:39Correct.
37:40Meron naman talagang
37:42katulad si Amie,
37:43alam na niya,
37:44na mali,
37:45pero join pa rin niya.
37:46Hindi ba sa mali?
37:47Yung hindi dapat?
37:48O, na hindi dapat.
37:49Pero pagbibigyan pa rin?
37:51Sige pa rin, try.
37:52Pero sandali lang,
37:53may time limit yun.
37:54At least six months.
37:55Hindi ba kayo nababagal?
37:56Kasi minsan,
37:57di ba pag kaganyan,
37:58syempre lahat ng tao
37:59may opinion
38:00sa lahat ng bagay,
38:01di ba?
38:02And most of the time,
38:03hindi talaga maganda opinion nila.
38:04Para,
38:05ano ka pa?
38:06Ang tali-talino mo,
38:08pero tatanga-tanga
38:09pagdating sa ganyan.
38:10Ikaw, ano feeling mo
38:11kapag sinasabi sa'yo yun?
38:13Kasi pagka-laugh naman,
38:15wala namang matalino
38:16o hindi matalining e.
38:18Kasi you go with your emotions.
38:20Nobody can ever tell you
38:22na mali yan.
38:24Ikaw ang didiscoverin yun,
38:25ikaw ang makakaalam yun.
38:27Ikaw ang kailangan umamin
38:28na mali ito.
38:29Exactly,
38:30kasi kahit na,
38:31di ba, lalo mo nga sabihin na,
38:32akong tatanga-tanga ka,
38:33hindi mo naman nakikita,
38:34eh kasi ganito yan.
38:35Syempre lalo,
38:36nagtutumigas yung loob mo,
38:37na parang hindi.
38:38Hindi,
38:39na panindigan ko ito,
38:40pagagandahin ko ito.
38:41Oo, ganun ka.
38:42Oo, yan nga.
38:44May sinasabi ko sa'yo yun e,
38:45sabi ko sa'yo e.
38:46Oo, okay.
38:47Hindi nga ako nakikinig sa'yo.
38:48Bada-bada ka kasi.
38:51Anong tatayimig ka?
38:52Natuto.
38:53Natuto ka?
38:54Kailangan, tatayimig pala ako.
38:55Oo, quiet lang.
38:56Eeee,
38:57ang hirap.
38:58Kasi kayong ba nakikinig ko yun
38:59sa mga na,
39:00katulad kami ni Janice,
39:01sinasabi ko,
39:02Janice ganito,
39:03niyo ba nakikita?
39:04Kasi syempre I can see
39:05because I'm outside.
39:07I'm not in that situation.
39:08Syempre ako,
39:09frustrated ako,
39:10siya malayban niya.
39:12Pero maganda kasi sa kanya,
39:13hindi niya naisolate ang sarili niya.
39:15Yes.
39:16Kasi,
39:17ako ang umsak.
39:18Kasi,
39:19the few times na nag-usap kami,
39:21sa'yo lang,
39:22sa'yo lang,
39:23sa'yo lang,
39:24sa'yo lang,
39:25sa'yo open siya.
39:27Mas maganda,
39:28kasi maganda yung gano'na,
39:29na may nakakausap siya,
39:30na magbibigay sa kanya
39:31ng magandang advice.
39:32Oo.
39:33Kasi kung isolated ka,
39:34marami kang isipin talaga e.
39:36Marami kang disgusto.
39:37Atsaka, parang masirip mag-survive.
39:38May hirap.
39:39Wala naman,
39:40hindi naman siguro,
39:41I don't think na malay yung ginawa niya.
39:43Hindi nga.
39:44Pinaglaban niya yung pagmamahal niya.
39:47Siguro kung,
39:48tapos,
39:49kahit anuman mangyari,
39:50hindi mo pwedeng sabi,
39:51walang may susumbot yung lalaki sa'yo.
39:52You tried everything.
39:53Oo, talagang pinaglaban mo.
39:54Lalo na,
39:55para isave yung pamilya ninyo,
39:57di ba?
39:58Para siya na pinagusap.
39:59Para sa'yo.
40:00Para sa'yo.
40:01Para sa'yo.
40:02Para sa'yo.
40:06May narinig yan,
40:07yung kay Jay before,
40:08na yung,
40:09yung alam niya,
40:10sayang yung pag-a-artista.
40:11Hindi naman yung mali,
40:12yung love.
40:13Ba't niya iniwanan yung career niya,
40:14o ano?
40:15For me,
40:16ano bang malay niyo,
40:17kung ano yung,
40:18gusto ko.
40:19Yung happiness na nabibigay.
40:20Sayang.
40:21Ganun.
40:22Ba't niyo sinasabing,
40:23sayang.
40:24Sayang,
40:25hindi niyo alam kung ano yung nararamdaman ko,
40:26this time.
40:27Tapos,
40:28mas lalo pala,
40:29mas masakit,
40:30kinumanan na niyo.
40:31Kung di ko pala nagbigay,
40:32so wala akong pagsisisi sa part ko.
40:34And ay,
40:35siguro sa kanya rin,
40:36wala siyang pagsisisi,
40:37pin-dry niya talaga.
40:38Actually,
40:39yung time,
40:40ang nakaka-offend lang,
40:41is when people,
40:42syempre,
40:43may apat naman akong anak,
40:44limang akong anak,
40:45yung masaya naman ako sa mga anak,
40:46masaya ako sa ginagawa ko sa kanila.
40:47Nakaka-bother talaga yung sasabing ng mga tao,
40:48alam mo,
40:49sayang yung career mo,
40:50bakit wag yung give up?
40:51So,
40:52ang ibig nyo sabihin,
40:53i-give up ko na lang yung mga anak ko,
40:54para mag-career ako,
40:55ganun ba yun?
40:57Eh,
40:58diba,
40:59parang yung pinig ko...
41:04Gusto ko sa'yo.
41:05Actually,
41:06totoo yan,
41:07sila Arnie po,
41:08in the end,
41:09na-realize niya na nagkamali siya.
41:10Kaya,
41:11siya mismo pa,
41:12ang nag-end ng relationship niya.
41:13Sa palagay nyo,
41:14tama ba yung decision niya?
41:15Raven.
41:16Tama.
41:17Tama yun na.
41:18Tama.
41:19Bakit?
41:20Kasi,
41:21ah,
41:22kung pag,
41:23papatuloy niyong ginagawa niya,
41:24na alam niya na,
41:25wala nangyayari,
41:26lahat sila,
41:27kung baga,
41:28nag-aaway lang kayo.
41:29What for,
41:30diba?
41:31Kaya ka pumapasok sa isang relationship,
41:32para you can love each other,
41:33and be friends also,
41:35and lovers.
41:36Hindi yung parang,
41:37away kinang away.
41:38Puputi lang yung buhok mo,
41:39wag na.
41:40Diba?
41:41Masang,
41:42ano,
41:43gulo-gulo nyo.
41:44Hanggang sa tumatanda na kayo,
41:45hindi parin kayo talaga namang okay.
41:46Sayang naman yun,
41:47the only one life.
41:48Okay,
41:49so bottom line is,
41:50foolish choices,
41:51or not exactly foolish choices,
41:53but,
41:54you make choices like that,
41:56kasi bata ka,
41:57impulsive ka,
41:58feeling mo parang,
41:59okay lahat ng mga bagay,
42:00parang,
42:01lalo kang sinasabihan ng hindi,
42:03mas lalong gusto.
42:04Rebelliousness.
42:06So bottom line is,
42:08I think after you've learned your lessons,
42:10you have to think,
42:11you have to pray for the things that will come after,
42:14and hope that,
42:16the next choice you make,
42:18will be the best one.
42:20Diba?
42:21Importante,
42:22natuto tayo,
42:23pangon tayo,
42:24at okay tayo.
42:25Correct?
42:30Kasi tanong mo,
42:31alamin mo kung sinong tanong ng Diyos,
42:32alamin mo kung sino yung choice niya para sa'yo,
42:34at kung ano yung desire niya para sa'yo.
42:36Humihingi ka diba,
42:37nang okay,
42:38I'm praying,
42:39makinig ka naman sana sa sagot niya,
42:40pag sinabi mo,
42:41hindi yan,
42:42makinig ka rin.
42:44Kasi pray ka eh.
42:46Smart choice.
42:47Smart choice ka.
42:48Ikaw rin Janice,
42:49you made the smart choice already.
42:52Thank you for joining us today.
42:54Thank you for joining us today.
42:55Case study number one,
42:56number two.
42:57Salamat.
42:58Salamat sa inyong sharing,
43:00at magbabalik ako ng sis.
43:17Kumusta naman yung araw?
43:19Diba?
43:20Ano masasabi mo?
43:22Okay,
43:23most of the time kasi,
43:24pag sinabi nating intelligent women,
43:26or smart women,
43:27parati nating iniisip na sila ay perfect,
43:29they will not make any wrong decision,
43:32or foolish choices,
43:34parang dapat lahat tama,
43:35dapat perfect.
43:37Actually parang high nga expectation,
43:39hindi naman perfect,
43:40pero kailangan,
43:41dapat alam mo na yan eh,
43:42eh kung yung equation,
43:44alam mo,
43:45pero yan hindi mo alam,
43:46grabe ka.
43:47Hindi,
43:48pero kasi ganito yan,
43:49I think women are smartened
43:52by the wrong choices that they make.
43:55It's not,
43:56it's not gender based,
43:57I think it goes the same for,
43:58para sa lalaki,
43:59para sa babae,
44:00parang yan,
44:01basic yan na,
44:02meron tayong basic intelligence,
44:04and I think that is survival,
44:06and the ability to get up from our own troubles,
44:09yun yung basic intelligence natin.
44:11Feeling ko hindi basic yun,
44:13kasi some people,
44:14will not survive?
44:15Yeah,
44:16some people won't be able to eh,
44:19feeling ko nasa foundation yan eh,
44:22ng pagpapalaki sa'yo eh,
44:24paano ka makakapagbigay ng mga bagay,
44:28let's say,
44:29paano mo manalaman kung paano magsurvive,
44:31kung hindi naman itinuro sa'yo yun,
44:33or you can see things going on,
44:36pero hindi ka naman observant,
44:38o hindi mo naman,
44:39hindi mo naman pinapasok sa isip mo na,
44:41ganito dapat ang gawin ko sa ganitong sitwasyon,
44:43kasi hindi ka equipped,
44:45you also have to be equipped,
44:47because it's,
44:48you won't survive if you're not equipped with it,
44:50and you don't have to,
44:51you can't read that in the books,
44:53yung hindi mo manalaman yan,
44:54tinutulungan sa eskwela,
44:55kasi ano yan eh,
44:57that's something you will learn from your home,
44:59from your parents,
45:00I think ah.
45:01So dapat pala,
45:02pag matalino ka,
45:03pag matalino ka rin kasi,
45:04two-thirds of the time,
45:05masyado mataas ang expectation ng tao sa'yo,
45:07na ang feeling nila,
45:08hindi ka dapat magkamalihan,
45:09wala kang key,
45:10diba?
45:11So, minsan,
45:12nagsasuffer ang,
45:13nagsuffer ang buhay mo,
45:14nagsuffer ang character mo,
45:15naguguluhan ka eh,
45:16naguguluhan ka,
45:17confused,
45:18sobra.
45:19In the end,
45:20hindi mo alam kung anong gusto mo.
45:21Kaya,
45:22pupun natin sabihin,
45:23foolish choices are bad decisions,
45:25let's just say,
45:26those experiences,
45:27learning experiences,
45:28learning experiences,
45:29hopefully build your character,
45:31and make you a better person.
45:33And let's just hope that,
45:34whatever experience comes your way,
45:36whether it may be a mistake,
45:38or a foolish choice,
45:40the only way your life will ever get better,
45:44is for you to accept that,
45:45you made that mistake,
45:46and you have to learn from it.
45:48Kailang bumas.
45:49Kasi kapag hindi po tayo natutusagin,
45:50nangyari sa atin,
45:51again,
45:52and again,
45:53and again.
45:54Wow, wow.
45:55Okay, thank you for joining us today.
45:56Masyado po kami nagmamarunong,
45:57ano,
45:58hindi naman masyado,
45:59dislike lang po.
46:02Salamat po.
46:03Pagkita-kita po tayo dito,
46:04ulit sa,
46:05Sis!
46:08Sis would like to thank,
46:09Bambi Fuentes,
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46:12F&H,
46:13Chloe for our eyewear,
46:15Optical Works,
46:17Adidas,
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46:20Wade Shoes,
46:21Bayo,
46:22Under the Sea Pet Shop,
46:24Salon de Manila,
46:25La Germania,
46:27680 Home Appliances,
46:29Durastar,
46:30Mano Mano,
46:32Play and Display,
46:33JBL Home Furniture Enterprise,
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46:39Our Home,
46:40Wayless Center and Spa,
46:43Balloon Creations,
46:45Color My Hair,
46:46and Union Square.
46:48Lahat ng hindi nagawa ng mom ko
46:51or ng parents ko when they were younger,
46:53they made sure na meron ako.
46:55Hindi mo naman sasabi sigurong
46:57foolish choice yung nangyari na yun.
46:59Kasi kung hindi ko dinaanan yun,
47:02hindi ko maipapa-advise sa mga anak ko yun ngayon.
47:05Hindi naman sa mali,
47:06yung hindi dapat,
47:07ganyan,
47:08pero pagbibigyan pa rin.
47:10Sige pa rin.
47:11Pero sundali lang may time limit yun.
47:13Kasi kung papatuloy niyo yung ginagawa niya,
47:17na alam niya na wala nangyayari,
47:19lahat sila,
47:20kumbaga nag-aaway lang kayo,
47:22what for, diba?
47:23Kaya ka pumapasok sa isang relationship
47:25para you can love each other,
47:27and be friends also,
47:28and lovers.
47:29Hindi yung parang away kinang away,
47:31puputi lang yung buhok mo,
47:32huwag na.