Love is Blind UK S01 E07 (2024)
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00:00So look at me now, I'm sleeping with the lights still on.
00:05Trying to scare every ghost you leave.
00:07Holding me, I can't sleep.
00:10When you go to the toilet, what do you do?
00:12Oh, what's that?
00:15I do.
00:16I do this.
00:17No, you don't.
00:18I do it all the time.
00:19No, you do not.
00:20It's not necessary.
00:21I do it all the time.
00:22You don't.
00:23You blue jacket.
00:25You ready for pancakes?
00:27You've been really bigging these pancakes up.
00:29You are going to want to marry me straight away,
00:31as soon as you're after this.
00:32OK.
00:34Wow.
00:35Did he just do that?
00:37I get sexier every day, eh?
00:39You're an idiot.
00:41Hey!
00:43This is cool.
00:45Amazing.
00:46Trying to scare every ghost you leave.
00:48Holding me, I can't sleep.
00:52Since the retreat, things between me and Kat,
00:55it's obviously been very tense.
00:57Is there anything you want more Kat in particular?
00:59I don't know.
01:00I'm just going to browse.
01:01I want to spend time together with her,
01:03to prove to her there's nothing to worry about.
01:05I'll have a good mug.
01:07Is that big enough for your coffee?
01:09No, I don't have a...
01:10That's not a coffee cup.
01:11That's more like a tea cup.
01:12You could still put coffee in there.
01:14Yeah, but that would be ridiculously big.
01:16Depends how much you like coffee.
01:19Oh, they're nice.
01:21Have you got them in an 11?
01:26That's nice.
01:28I like mushrooms.
01:30You look nice in that.
01:32Stop it.
01:34What about this?
01:35If I go to a cowboy-themed party?
01:38Stop.
01:40You're being sarcastic and you're winding me up
01:42and you know you are.
01:44I'm not holding on to anything from the retreat,
01:46but, I don't know, there's just tension for some reason.
01:49And?
01:51I am getting irritated easily, yeah.
01:53He's always joking and, you know,
01:55taking the mick and winding me up.
01:58I need him just to be serious
02:00because it's making me feel like his friend,
02:02not his fiancée.
02:04When we go shopping,
02:06is it something you would want to do with me
02:08or would you just let me do me?
02:10I'd come with you, love.
02:12I'd just sit down on the sofa or whatever and just...
02:16But I'd feel like I'd be just dragging you around.
02:18I feel like...
02:20Yeah, you wouldn't be doing...
02:23But that's what happens, like, if you go to shopping centres,
02:25it's always men sat down, isn't it?
02:27And, like, the women are running around doing all the thing
02:29and the men are just chilling. That's what I'd do.
02:31I'm not a shopaholic, but, like, you're my partner.
02:34I want to be able to go to the shops with you.
02:36OK. It's fine. I won't mention it again.
02:38I'm not a duck. Please stop stroking me like a duck.
02:41I'm not a duck. OK.
02:44I do feel a bit misunderstood by Catherine sometimes.
02:47I think she feels like I'm constantly joking and stuff.
02:51I don't feel like I am. It's just who...
02:53I don't know. It's just who I am. That's just the way I am.
02:56Right, am I trying this dress on? Yeah, try it on.
03:00I think that maybe I'm just a bit too much for her.
03:02Maybe I need to just tone it down a bit.
03:04Like, it's hard. It's hard.
03:09It's going to be beautiful sunlight
03:13For a beautiful morning
03:16What are you making? Mexican.
03:18Yeah. What are you in charge of doing?
03:20Guacamole. No!
03:22Nachos. Vegan nachos.
03:24And a guacamole. Yeah, but that's going to go with the...
03:27It's going to go with everything. Yeah.
03:29Tonight, we're going to be cooking dinner for my friends.
03:32It is a big deal. They are like extended family to me.
03:35What's the bananas for? For me, innit?
03:37No, can we just focus on what we're getting from the meal?
03:40With Oli, I've noticed that he finds it hard to, like, organise himself.
03:44Ooh! No, Oli, what are you looking for?
03:46I think what's best, yeah, is you just look around
03:48and I go and get the bits that we... No, I'm not a child, I can do this.
03:51He's just, like, a little bit chaotic.
03:53Look at the state of this lemon!
03:55Honestly, I don't know what we're doing.
03:57I should have stayed at home, shouldn't I? You should have.
04:08Did you wash your hands before? Mm-hm. Yeah?
04:11I'm really interested to see how vegan nachos turn out.
04:14No, stop putting pressure on me. You've hyped it up.
04:17I'm nervous for now. Are you nervous for that?
04:19The stakes are high here. I'm good with people, I'm not good with food.
04:22Shall we just order in instead? No, we're not ordering in.
04:24They're not going to know. I want to be like, look what I've done.
04:27We'll just put it in the pan and they'll never know.
04:29I'm meeting Demi's friends. That's daunting.
04:31There's nothing worse than when you're either dating someone
04:33or, in our case, you're engaged to someone and then you meet their friends
04:35or their family and it's like, oh, they clearly don't like me for whatever reason.
04:38And, yeah, that can put a real spanner in the works.
04:40James owns a bar, so no pressure for the cocktail.
04:44Might have a swig of this now.
04:46Calm my nerves.
04:48It's really, really important to me that they understand
04:51that I have got Demi's best interests at heart.
04:56Did you...? Oh, flip, you've had a blunder!
04:59There's bad avocado all over the gaff.
05:01You need to turn this around, cos if my friends see you like this right now,
05:04it's...it's not going to be good.
05:07I mean, the pressure is on.
05:09If they give me the approval that I need,
05:11or, like, the reassurance that I need,
05:13then I know I'll be ready for the next step of introducing Olly to my family.
05:16So, the salad is done.
05:18The guac... Is done.
05:20Put it in the fridge. Get ready.
05:22Sounds good.
05:29This is our first takeaway together, babe. Mmm.
05:32Delicious. Garlic naan, as you said. Mmm, my favourite.
05:36This is my favourite Indian spot. Is it?
05:38So I hope you like it. The pressure's on.
05:40It smells good. Mm-hm. You know, let's see.
05:43I think living with you has been really easy.
05:46Obviously, it's early days.
05:48Just really trying to make sure that I'm not spending all day on my phone
05:51like I probably was in the past.
05:53Um...
05:54But, you know, since the first time I met you,
05:57like, I have felt a little insecurity there.
06:00I've had relationships before where, you know,
06:03the guy couldn't be trusted on social media,
06:05and that made me feel really insecure.
06:07It has brought those feelings back. Mmm.
06:10Social media has been such an insecurity for me,
06:13especially from my past experiences,
06:16following girls, liking pictures.
06:19I trust Bobby, but if he has any, like, skeletons in the closet,
06:24firecracker Jasmine's going to come out.
06:27And that's it.
06:29So I've got to bring something up.
06:32Um...
06:34I mean, obviously, I searched your name on YouTube.
06:39Um...
06:42And I did see your music video.
06:46So you found it? Yeah.
06:48Yeah, but I don't think you were always going to see it eventually.
06:52Obviously, you know the video. This is you.
06:55MUSIC PLAYS
06:57MUSIC CONTINUES
07:03Where is it? Mmm.
07:07You know, and of course, it's not something that I've just done,
07:10like, yesterday.
07:12It was, like, a couple of years ago. Mm-hm.
07:14You know, you're an artist.
07:16These things are going to happen.
07:18We didn't know each other before then anyway.
07:20But obviously, seeing that, I'm just like, oh...
07:23MUSIC CONTINUES
07:26I feel like getting the phones back, being in the real world,
07:29like, it just brings back a lot of, like, past relationships
07:33where the trust has just been completely broken.
07:39I used to be that girl that used to check,
07:41who are you following, whose picture did you like?
07:43I don't want to be that girl anymore.
07:45I want to feel secure in who I am and my relationship.
07:48I don't want to go through these things anymore.
07:50I would like that reassurance, that you would respect me to my face.
07:53I would want respect behind my back as well.
07:55I get that. And I think part of that also is, like, in my hands.
07:59Just trying to make sure that you are feeling secure,
08:02you are feeling confident and you are reassured.
08:04And I'm glad that you brought it up,
08:06because I'd rather we just be open about this sort of stuff.
08:09So I would never want to lie to somebody, hurt somebody,
08:12treat somebody the wrong kind of way.
08:14For me, that's just not the way that I've been raised.
08:17You've been through quite a lot,
08:19and it sounds like you've been with some of the wrong ones.
08:24You're not in that position anymore.
08:28I think you know me enough by now
08:30that you know I'm not interested in any other girls.
08:33I'm really proud to call you my fiancée and hopefully my wife soon.
08:39And it's up to me to kind of reassure you
08:41and make sure that you feel comfortable, and you know that.
08:48HE CHUCKLES
08:56Love you. Love you too.
09:01KNOCK AT DOOR
09:03Oh, Lord.
09:05SHE SCREAMS
09:09Oh, my God!
09:11Oh, my favourite.
09:13Come on in, Oli.
09:15Meet Jasmine and James.
09:17What's happening? Come on in.
09:19Nice to meet you, bro.
09:21Oli, nice to meet you, man. Heard a lot about you.
09:23How you doing? Nice to meet you.
09:25I'm good, I'm good. And they come bearing gifts, you know.
09:27OK. Ready to celebrate.
09:29Wow. Thank you. We appreciate that.
09:31All right, give them the drinks first.
09:33We've got mojitos for you. Thank you very much.
09:35Demi's been working hard. I've been working hard.
09:37This is how hard I've been working.
09:39This is a vegan dish right here. You're not vegan.
09:42You're not vegan. Ask Oli.
09:44Oh, yeah, I'm vegan. Oh, you're vegan? Wow.
09:46I'm so fake right now, cos me and James, when we go out,
09:48we just don't stop eating meat.
09:50So, you know, James is going to be surprised,
09:52but I'm changing. It's growth.
09:54Yeah, self-growth.
09:56This is Oli's vegan nachos.
09:58Oh, they don't look too...
10:00What makes them vegan? The cheese?
10:02Yeah, and he's done the guac himself.
10:04No, it looks good, man. Let's dive in.
10:06Yeah, let's just dive in.
10:08I guess eat first, innit?
10:10So, where we at now, guys?
10:12What's the plans going forward?
10:14We're not putting no pressure on each other.
10:16This is going to be the real tell-tale phase.
10:18This part? Living together? Yeah.
10:20How many other couples are there?
10:22There's five other couples. Five other couples, yeah.
10:24And how are you with the girls, then? Yeah.
10:26Living with 14 girls for three weeks, how was that?
10:28I really went into a shell, and I was like,
10:30rather than discussing who I liked and stuff,
10:32I was just like, nah, I don't want to do it.
10:34I was trying to stay out of conversations.
10:36Was there any clashing with girls on who they liked?
10:38Did anyone like the same guy?
10:44There's one girl that liked Oli.
10:46OK.
10:48And she was my good friend at the start.
10:50But I also trust that
10:52my connection was a lot stronger.
10:54And it was.
10:56Yeah, yeah, it was. Yeah.
10:58I was happy. Yeah, we were both happy.
11:00That was chemistry for real. I was very happy.
11:02So, yeah, it just made sense from early on.
11:04Have you spoke of a future,
11:06or you're just happy just seeing day by day,
11:08or you spoke about anything you want
11:10long-term from each other?
11:12We have spoken about a few things, though, haven't we?
11:14We have. Cos we even spoke about, like,
11:16kids and whatnot, and how that would look.
11:18You want kids? Yeah.
11:20Do you know what it is? Do you know what?
11:22I actually think, can I be honest with you,
11:24in terms of our connection, the one thing
11:26that made me feel very comfortable
11:28was that I answered the question,
11:30would you want children, and you said,
11:32yeah, I would.
11:34One of my biggest insecurities has been my endo.
11:36Yeah, yeah, yeah. You lot know that.
11:38My mum's actually adopted, so for me,
11:40I'm open to, like, adopting, fostering,
11:42having our own kids. Oh, that's so cute.
11:44Or just not having kids, like it's, like...
11:46Yeah, yeah, yeah.
11:48I'm just so grateful for you.
11:50I'm grateful for you too.
11:52That's a few thirds.
11:54I know. We can be cute, and it's actually
11:56a bit sickening sometimes.
11:58And then we have to shake off and be like,
12:00get off me! We're back, we're back.
12:02Yeah.
12:04Yeah, just take your time, man,
12:06get to know each other more. Yeah, there's no rush.
12:08And there's no pressure.
12:10We just want you to be happy, and still have
12:12fun and banter, that is nice. It's a big part of it.
12:14Yeah. And she feels safe as well, so...
12:16Yes, you can tell that, right?
12:18100%. That's a big thing.
12:20I'm falling down now,
12:22why don't you come to me?
12:24I like him. Yeah, I like him.
12:26Good. I like you lot too.
12:28I'm not going to learn enough in the time we've been here,
12:30but from what I see so far...
12:32I'm happy. Thank you very much.
12:34You got my approval. Yeah.
12:36It's been amazing meeting you both, for real.
12:38Thank you. Likewise, man.
12:40It was really nice to meet them, and they're both lovely people,
12:42so I can see myself in their lives, and vice versa.
12:44Wherever you are,
12:46it'll always be true.
12:48I feel so much closer
12:50to Demi as a result, and I'm excited
12:52about what's to come.
12:54We did all right.
12:56Cheers.
12:58And congrats again, man. Congratulations.
13:00Thank you very much.
13:02To see my friends, and to see
13:04how happy they are for me,
13:06and to see that they like Olly,
13:08just to get that validation makes me feel like,
13:10OK, let's keep going with this.
13:12LAUGHTER
13:14MUSIC PLAYS
13:16MUSIC CONTINUES
13:18MUSIC CONTINUES
13:20MUSIC CONTINUES
13:22MUSIC CONTINUES
13:24Are you excited to see my house?
13:26I am. You're just tired after a long day, aren't you?
13:28Ready for bed?
13:30I've taken Kat to see my home.
13:32I believe I've met somebody amazing.
13:34Obviously, I want it to work,
13:36so I'm going to try my hardest to achieve that.
13:38I want to make her feel loved
13:40and prove to her that I'm all for her,
13:42and she's got nothing to worry about.
13:44So this is my house.
13:46LAUGHTER
13:48It smells nice.
13:50It smells nice?
13:52It smells nice.
13:54Yeah? Yeah.
13:56I'm just surprised.
13:58Is that the door?
14:00No, that's one of the doors.
14:02That's one of the doors, yeah.
14:04I've not had that done yet, but...
14:06I'm working on that, I'm working on that.
14:08By the time you move in, it'll be addressed.
14:10It's nice. It's nice?
14:12Yeah, it's really homey.
14:14This is the kitchen.
14:16Yeah. Oh, my God!
14:18Oh, my God, look at that spider.
14:20Oh, it's fine, yeah, just forget that.
14:22Dun-dun-dun!
14:24Oh, your fridge needs a clean.
14:26OK, well, that's your job, then.
14:28That's the one.
14:30Shall we just take a look at the bedroom?
14:32Yeah. Yeah? Let's go.
14:34Spiders are freaking me out.
14:36This is how I entered the bedroom.
14:38LAUGHTER
14:42Are you sure a female does not live here?
14:44No.
14:46Like, look at that mirror.
14:48It's so glittery. Why?
14:50Why? Cos it goes with the decor.
14:52I just can't get over this wall up.
14:54For a funeral director, like, this is, like, bougie.
14:58I'm actually surprised.
15:00Everything he's done with the place, it's really, like, homely.
15:03There is definitely a different side to Freddie.
15:05It makes me respect him, because that's a lot for someone
15:08who's 32 years old.
15:10I now see more into Freddie's world, and I like it.
15:14Does it weird me being in your room?
15:16No. Not at all. Not weird?
15:18No, not at all. It feels normal.
15:20Like, you should be really proud of your house.
15:22Like, it is nice. No, thank you.
15:24It might be our house soon.
15:26Yeah, I know. How does that make you feel?
15:28Yeah, well, weird, but, yeah, it feels right.
15:31You know, going to our relationship, if I'm snapping,
15:34I don't know, I just want to say, like, maybe,
15:36like, I'm sorry for, like, being...
15:38You don't have to be sorry for anything.
15:40Yeah, but I've been really, like...
15:42No, it's... Honestly, I really appreciate what you said.
15:45It means a lot, honestly.
15:47It's difficult, like, it's, you know, stressful.
15:50We're living together, you know, it's been so intense.
15:54It's only natural that, you know,
15:56we're going to sort of have little disagreements and things.
16:00OK. I'm sorry for, you know, pushing your buttons and...
16:04At least you know. Yeah.
16:08But I know we're, like, we're a team
16:10and we're getting through it together. Yeah.
16:12And I'm proud of us.
16:14It's nice to have you by my side.
16:22Shall we get ready for bed? Yeah.
16:27Just pull that dart here, would you?
16:31I've got it. You need to put more hip into it.
16:34It's ridiculous.
16:36MUSIC PLAYS
16:41Are we OK? Yeah, I'm OK. Are you OK?
16:47So, yesterday, we sort of butted heads about my job and what I do,
16:50and Tom can be quite judgmental
16:52and I don't think he thought he was like that.
16:54I'm not, like, holding it against him.
16:56Like, I'm good with where we are.
16:58But it was the one time I was, like,
17:00I'm annoyed that that's a little bit of how you are.
17:03We'll be fine and we'll figure it out.
17:06Yeah, exactly.
17:10So, we're good.
17:12Are we? Yeah, of course.
17:14Hi. Hi.
17:16Oh, OK, yeah, nice.
17:22How are you feeling about me meeting your family?
17:25I'm excited for that. Very excited for that.
17:27Yeah. I don't think you have anything to worry about.
17:30I more care about, like, my family.
17:33I don't have anything to worry about.
17:35I more care about, like I said, how you treat me,
17:38rather than who you are and where you're from.
17:41It sounds like your sister and I have got very similar views.
17:44Yeah, when I told her, yeah, he's very emotionally available
17:47and he's very good at communicating
17:49and we talk through things really well.
17:51Yeah. She was very happy.
17:55It's just about being respectful.
17:58To me, my culture, my religion, I'm very proud of where I come from
18:02and I'm very proud to be Muslim.
18:04So, the whole PDA thing, that's not the norm for me
18:09or where I'm from or our culture.
18:12You just don't do that. Yeah.
18:14My mum would feel incredibly uncomfortable
18:16for you to be full-on in front of her.
18:18She would not like that. Yeah. That would be, like, shameful.
18:21I just want to show people, like, how much I love you, you know?
18:24No, I know, but it's not seen like that.
18:27Yeah. In our culture.
18:30If they don't love you, then see you later.
18:33To you, not them.
18:35Just to clarify.
18:37Just in case.
18:42Do you think that your culture, your religion
18:45has had an impact on your dating life?
18:48Yeah, for sure. I made you a bit more, like, reserved?
18:51Yeah, because in my eyes, I was like, we're not allowed to do that
18:54or my dad won't be happy with that, so I think I just didn't date.
18:57Well, I was going to ask you, what do you think you would have made of this?
19:02Not yet.
19:09Do you want to swear with that one? No, I'm fine.
19:11It's just...
19:13..sometimes caught off guard.
19:15I know.
19:24He would have loved you. I know my dad would have loved you.
19:26I wouldn't have gone for anyone he wouldn't have loved.
19:28I would have quite liked to have seen you two together, to be honest, but...
19:31It's funny, because everything that you tell me about him, like...
19:34Sam's not the kind of guy that I would have really liked to have said.
19:38He was a good guy, he was funny, he was a funny man.
19:41Yeah. I think he would have scared me.
19:43He would have scared you so much.
19:46You're lucky it's not him you have to meet,
19:48cos, oh, my God, I don't know if he would have survived it.
19:51When my dad passed, that was my biggest thing,
19:54is he's never going to meet the man that I am going to marry.
19:58So it is very bittersweet, but his biggest thing was making sure
20:01that I was looked after and I was OK.
20:03So I know for a fact he would have been very happy with who Tom is.
20:07To our first date in London. To our first date in London. Lovely.
20:11Lovely.
20:33Who needs a funeral?
20:35Yes, this is what I'd wear on a ceremony.
20:39Do you think I'll look smart?
20:41You are a sexy funeral director. A sexy funeral director.
20:44I will give you that. You are one sexy funeral director.
20:48THEY LAUGH
21:02Honestly, the sound of you pouring my glass of water...
21:07Thank you. You're welcome.
21:09Cool. Holding back on the water, are we?
21:12You don't need a full cup. You've been drinking all day.
21:15You're lovely, you are. I enjoy spending time with you.
21:18Same.
21:20Who's better at communicating? Me.
21:23You're better at opening up about stuff that are bothering you,
21:26or just generally, like, your inner most feelings. Yeah.
21:29I do feel like, um... What?
21:32Some of, like, the behaviours that I've seen from you.
21:35Like, your pacing, like, your impatience of, like,
21:39yeah, I want to do this, the impulsiveness.
21:42I don't think it's mad, the kind of things you notice about me.
21:46Like, I really struggle, I get really stressed out
21:49about little things that, like, don't bother you.
21:52I never normally admit it to people.
21:56Yeah, but, yeah, I do have ADHD. Really? Yeah.
22:00You're probably one of, like, I kid you not,
22:03three people outside of my family that know. Really?
22:06In fact, my last relationship, I never told her until, like,
22:09like, a year in. Yeah. And I hadn't told her.
22:12And I told her eventually, and, like, I felt bad,
22:14cos when she found out, she felt like I'd been
22:16shutting her out all that time. Do you know what I mean?
22:21ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder,
22:26and it can manifest itself in different ways.
22:29But it's complicated, and for some people,
22:31it's more severe than others, and in my case,
22:33unfortunately, it's really, really severe,
22:35so it's something I've struggled with all my life.
22:37But, yeah, no, I'm really surprised you notice,
22:39cos no-one really notices, cos I find it really, really difficult.
22:42Is it? Mm. Mine affects me every single day.
22:44Like, I really struggle with it.
22:46Like, little tasks that you would just get done in five minutes
22:49and not think anything of would take me, like, half a day to even...
22:53Like, it sounds weird, but I pluck up the courage to attempt,
22:56and then I will try and do it, and it'll take me two hours
22:59when it'll take you two minutes. Yeah.
23:01I've never finished a book in my life. Yeah.
23:03Because I can't. That's fine.
23:05And it's just like... But look at the way you articulate yourself.
23:08Like, you're beautiful with words.
23:10My proposal was... Your proposal was beautiful.
23:13And, like, you come up with something so beautiful,
23:16it might have taken you a bit longer than someone else,
23:19but it was still amazing.
23:21And I love that about you.
23:23Don't ever be ashamed of that.
23:26I'm just glad that you're opening up to me about that,
23:29because I think that's very important.
23:31Thank you for understanding me. Always.
23:34And being patient with me. Always.
23:41It's lovely when we're laughing and stuff,
23:43but actually when he's opening up, it's...
23:46It's beautiful.
23:47And it's probably the moments that make me realise, like,
23:50yeah, I love this guy.
23:52If it continues going like this, then obviously...
23:56..I could see Ollie being my husband.
24:00I'm proud of you.
24:04I wouldn't change you for the world, don't worry.
24:07Oh, I love you.
24:22Hello. He's saging.
24:25I was saging. He's learning.
24:27I'm learning, and you're a morning person. I know.
24:30You were up before me this morning at the gym, going for a run,
24:34and I got up later and decided to save the place.
24:39Approaching Birmingham City Centre.
24:42There you go, mate.
24:43My old school mates.
24:45Hello, brother.
24:47Happy? Happy.
24:53Woo!
24:56Nerves are starting to hit now.
24:58Are you scared? I am scared.
25:00Oh, don't be nervous.
25:01Do you reckon they're going to like me? Yeah, they will.
25:04Oh, my God. I'm going to be sick.
25:07Hello! Hello!
25:09You OK? You all right?
25:11I don't know what to do!
25:13You OK? I'm really hot and sweaty.
25:15Oh, my God, you've got me silly.
25:17Yes, how are you? Yeah, nervous.
25:19SHE LAUGHS
25:22Oh, my God, it's been so long!
25:24You all right? Yeah, yeah.
25:26This is Kat. Welcome, welcome.
25:28Yeah? So beautiful!
25:30Hello!
25:31He's going to go in and have a drink and stuff.
25:34Hello.
25:36Oh, my God. Hello.
25:39Kat. I'll give you a hug.
25:41Lovely to meet you. I'm Terrence.
25:43My mum.
25:44My mum.
25:46Hello, darling.
25:47Oh, you're OK!
25:48Gorgeous. Beautiful lady.
25:50Oh, thank you.
25:51Jack. You OK?
25:53Come on, Jack. This is Katherine.
25:55Aw, lovely to meet you.
25:57You all right, mate? You OK?
25:59He just wants to see you.
26:01Aw. Is his hair all right?
26:03Yeah, his hair's lovely.
26:04Isn't it? Yeah.
26:06My family mean everything to me,
26:08so their opinion means more than anybody's,
26:12but I feel good with Kat.
26:13Like, I really want to work with her.
26:15I know that the concerns and feelings that I do have at the minute,
26:18maybe they'll be squashed once my family's there.
26:20She's a great girl, so I'm feeling good about it.
26:24Let me just look at my beautiful son for a minute.
26:27Let me look into your lovely eyes, boy.
26:29While he's been away, we've said,
26:31what's Freddie doing today?
26:32I've said to you, where's Freddie?
26:34Show me where Freddie's been. On an aeroplane.
26:36Yeah, literally, every day, on an aeroplane.
26:38Is that what I've been doing?
26:40So, have you got siblings and things?
26:43Who do you live with?
26:45I live with my mum and dad, yeah, in Jersey.
26:47I lived in London for a bit when I was at ballet school
26:50and then travelled a bit and then just back at home.
26:53What do you do for a living?
26:55I'm a dental nurse.
26:56Oh! Yeah, yeah.
26:57We've been sitting here thinking, like, you know,
26:59different scenarios and what you look like
27:01and what was going on and things.
27:03It was mind-boggling for us. Yeah.
27:05So we can't obviously put ourselves in your position.
27:08How did you feel when, you know, you'd been speaking for so long
27:11and you finally met up with Freddie?
27:13How did... What was it like?
27:15You forget that there's actually a human there
27:17and then when that door's open and I saw your son,
27:20I literally was like, oh, my God, I just cried the whole way.
27:23We were both like, oh, my God.
27:25It was crazy, wasn't it?
27:27How do you feel about the idea of myself and Kat getting married?
27:31Well, to be honest, I didn't know that was going to happen.
27:34It's probably the biggest thing you're going to do, isn't it,
27:37in life, get married, and hopefully it's forever.
27:40Yeah. And I hope it is forever.
27:42We've wanted Freddie to find someone.
27:44Oh, gosh, yeah. We've wanted Freddie to be happy and settle down.
27:47That's all we've ever wanted. Yeah.
27:49The thing about Freddie, it's always extremely faithful and dedicated,
27:52isn't it? People look at him and they think,
27:54oh, they've, you know, got loads of girlfriends or whatever.
27:57But he could have, but he hasn't.
27:59All the old ladies come down to the houses
28:01when Freddie comes to my house down the street.
28:03They all come to have a look.
28:05It's like Freddie here all night. Yes, you know.
28:07You've got some competition, Kat, with the old ladies on Wendy's street.
28:10I'm about to step up my game!
28:12I feel so good meeting Freddie's family.
28:15Like, he's literally loved so much, and it is melting my heart.
28:19Like, genuinely, I just feel like I fit into that family.
28:22Oh, it's beautiful!
28:24Oh, that's beautiful. I love it.
28:27Are you coming to the wedding, Jack?
28:29Are you going to the wedding?
28:31It's all happened quite fast, he's thinking.
28:35There is a question that I'd like to ask Jack.
28:38Would you like to be my best man?
28:40No!
28:42Is that all right, mate? Yeah, it is.
28:44He doesn't understand now, but he will on the day.
28:46You know I'll be there for you
28:49You know I will care for you
28:54Asking Jack to be my best man means absolutely everything to me.
29:00I look after him, you know, I've cared for him.
29:03But he's made me the person that I am today.
29:07He's everything. Everything.
29:12He always steals the limelight, doesn't he, Jack?
29:29I'm more nervous about this than probably anything in my life.
29:33Ever.
29:34You'll be fine.
29:37I mean, obviously I've met parents before,
29:39but I've never met the parents of my fiancée.
29:42This is true.
29:44So I'll just put these spoons in, really, innit?
29:46We don't need forks and knives, do we?
29:48Just spoons, probably.
29:50Like, different cultures and stuff.
29:52You'll be fine, I think you're overthinking it,
29:55and I think once you get in there you'll realise that
29:57they're not aliens.
29:59Oh, I know they're not aliens.
30:01I just want to make sure that they like me.
30:04The door.
30:05I wonder who that could be.
30:12Hello, Tom.
30:13Hi. You must be Sam.
30:15Oh, lovely to meet you.
30:17Oh, so nice to meet you.
30:18Oh, my goodness.
30:19How you doing?
30:20Good, good.
30:24Oh, my God.
30:25This is Tom.
30:26Hello.
30:27Hello.
30:28How you doing?
30:29Hello, nice to meet you.
30:30Thank you so much, nice to meet you too.
30:33Lovely to meet you.
30:34Nice to meet you.
30:36My future son.
30:39Hello.
30:40Nice to meet you.
30:41How you doing?
30:42Good to meet you too.
30:43Come and sit down.
30:45Ava, do you want to give a hug?
30:46Hug us.
30:47Hi, Ava.
30:48Hi.
30:49Do you want to give me a high five?
30:50Yeah.
30:51Tom, everyone, so round to the girls.
30:53Hello, welcome.
30:54It's a lot for you as well, innit?
30:56Yeah, it is.
30:57Yeah, it is.
30:58How you been, anyway?
30:59Maria, sorry, I'm asking Maria the main way.
31:01I've been good, Mama.
31:02You sure?
31:03Allah, good.
31:04Happy?
31:05Yeah, I am.
31:06Oh, good.
31:07Just getting used to living with each other.
31:08And how is it?
31:09It's been, like, absolutely fine so far, hasn't it?
31:11Yeah, it's been fine at all.
31:12And with you two, how come you connected so quickly?
31:15I think it was our humour originally.
31:17Yeah, it was.
31:18Oh, gosh, really?
31:19She told me before this, she said,
31:22be yourself, but, like, don't be yourself.
31:24Yeah, literally, I was like,
31:25don't make some of the jokes you make.
31:27Did you find it easy to talk to each other?
31:30Yeah, definitely.
31:31It's never been difficult.
31:32That's nice.
31:33That's good.
31:34That's important.
31:35You've been worried?
31:36Too much.
31:37Oh, Mama.
31:38I've been fine, I promise you, Mama.
31:40I mean, it is very overwhelming.
31:42It's that thing that it happens so quickly
31:45that your heart and your mind don't have quite time to catch up.
31:48I totally get that.
31:49We're all supportive and we love Maria to death
31:51and whatever she wants, we're happy for.
31:53But it's still a hard pill to swallow.
31:57I'm going to suck right now.
32:02Go on, go give Mama a hug.
32:04No.
32:27I love when you wear this colour,
32:29it brings out the blue in your eyes, Liz.
32:31That's nice to say.
32:32I know what I'm doing.
32:34How are you feeling?
32:35Meeting the two bezies, my old-school bezies,
32:37and my youngest bro.
32:39I'm excited, I am really excited, but I'm just nervous.
32:42You'll be fine, you'll smash it.
32:43OK.
32:44They'll like you for all the reasons I like you.
32:46Charmer.
32:49I'm as happy as I've ever been.
32:51I found my life partner, which I didn't think was possible.
32:54I'm super excited.
32:56Oi, oi!
32:57Hello.
32:58Hello.
33:00The biggie is that my friends and family
33:02don't know anything about this experiment.
33:04Sabrina, take a seat and I'll introduce you all.
33:07They don't know that I've met anybody,
33:09they don't know that I'm engaged, so I'm excited to tell them.
33:12This is Damer, Jamie.
33:14Nice to meet you.
33:16I've got Jim, my youngest brother.
33:18Nice to meet you, Jim.
33:19Where are you from?
33:20Ireland.
33:21Where about in Ireland?
33:23Belfast.
33:24So, why do you think you're here?
33:26You tell us, mate.
33:27You need to spill the beans.
33:29So, we've been on a bit of an experiment, haven't we?
33:32We have. OK.
33:34You date multiple people and you date blind,
33:37you don't see each other.
33:38If you've got a connection, you propose?
33:43LAUGHTER
33:45Jesus Christ.
33:47You said yes.
33:49Are you surprised?
33:50Yeah. Very much so.
33:52I think it's crazy and very silly.
33:54I don't think I'd do what you guys have done.
33:56I'm probably coming from a completely different angle,
33:59looking into this.
34:00It took me five years to propose to my wife
34:02and then two years to actually get married,
34:04so that's seven years I've been with my wife.
34:06I am kind of intrigued to...
34:08To see how it pans out.
34:10I can't get my head around that.
34:12You proposed before you'd even seen her.
34:14Yeah, exactly.
34:15How does the distance work, then?
34:17So, obviously, you live in Belfast, you live in London.
34:20We're not in a rush to be like,
34:21we need to live with each other ASAP.
34:23I'm going to stay where I am in London at the moment.
34:25You're going to keep your place in Belfast.
34:27If the wedding was tomorrow,
34:29would you be walking down the aisle?
34:32We'll just see how it goes.
34:35We've each had our own little apprehensions,
34:38but I put myself in this experiment
34:40not thinking anything was going to happen for me,
34:43but we've got a connection
34:45that's deeper than any other relationship that I've had.
34:49This process really makes you focus in on,
34:51OK, what actually is going to be important
34:52in 20, 30, 40 years' time?
34:54And it really changes your whole thought process
34:56and what you want in life.
34:58I wanted someone who added value to my life,
35:00not becomes my life.
35:01I think it's really important and healthy.
35:03And I think he's probably exactly the same.
35:04And he's exactly the same.
35:05Exactly the same. Well, I've said that, didn't I?
35:07We're both really passionate and driven about what we do.
35:09I quit my job, I want to set up my own agency.
35:11What is it you'd done for work before you...?
35:13I was director of marketing for, like, a sports and hospitality company.
35:17Oh, right.
35:18And then I'm probably going to go into consultancy
35:20and then that'll allow me to work between London and Northern Ireland.
35:25I don't just introduce anyone to you.
35:27No, you don't.
35:28I've got my head screwed on and I wouldn't be doing this
35:30if I didn't think this was real, putting myself in this position,
35:33putting you guys here and putting you in this position
35:36if I didn't think that this was real.
35:38In my opinion, it's not something I thought you would do,
35:41personally, if I'd known you.
35:43But it's obviously clearly working.
35:46Got a lovely girl.
35:48Works on your face, huh?
35:50I think it's a little bit bonkers,
35:52but if you found each other through this process and it works for you,
35:56then who's to say it shouldn't work?
35:58One thing that I will say, that it will always give you 100%.
36:01That's lovely. It means a lot. It really does.
36:04And that was the approval.
36:06Initially, I thought it was stupid, very silly.
36:08It seems quite genuine. Yeah.
36:10You can see, like, a glimmer in his eye. Yeah.
36:12Like, I ain't seen that for years.
36:14Is it bonkers? Yes. 100%.
36:17Let's see how it goes.
36:20Congratulations.
36:22Congratulations. Cheers. Cheers, guys.
36:32Oh, Freddie was gorgeous when he was a baby.
36:34He was absolutely delicious.
36:36He was so fat, he looked like a sumo wrestler.
36:39Didn't he, Betsy?
36:41When he was only a ten, talk to me.
36:46Fred, what's it like in London?
36:48I like it here. Yeah, you like it, don't you?
36:50We're in Camden. Oh, cool. Camden, yeah.
36:53Living with somebody after only meeting them
36:55for such a short period of time.
36:57Do you know what? It feels, even from day one,
36:59like, it just feels normal.
37:01We do clash with certain things, but I think that's just lovely.
37:04I suppose you're just, you're like a good joke.
37:06You're very good at winding people up.
37:09Yeah, just a little bit.
37:11Do you want to, like, nip outside and just have a quick chat?
37:14Yeah, yeah. OK. Is that all he's got?
37:16Is that OK? Can I take him away from you for five minutes?
37:19You can have him. Be my guest.
37:22It does feel amazing to have Freddie home.
37:24It feels like it's been a long time, but I can tell
37:28he seems a little bit more reserved.
37:30I don't know whether that's the pressure and things.
37:32So, how are you? Good, yeah. Good, good.
37:35Yeah, it's always been a crazy experience.
37:38Yeah, I can imagine how intense everything's been.
37:41Yeah. Do we seem compatible? Yeah.
37:43We're like a little Instagram couple.
37:48She seems really nice. Yeah. Really lovely, really genuine.
37:51I do see myself marrying her. Mm-hm.
37:53I do, like, 100%, but it's part of the experiment now
37:56where we're living with each other.
37:58It's coming with its challenges, I think. Like what?
38:00I just think that maybe we're a little bit different.
38:02I'm quite an easy-going person and, you know, jokey at times,
38:06and that might grate on her a little bit sometimes.
38:08And also our lifestyle, I think that she's sort of quite outgoing
38:12and I'm a bit more sort of, you know,
38:15just I'll stay in and watch a film. Yeah.
38:18It's a lot of give and take sometimes,
38:20especially if you're not knowing each other for that long. Yeah.
38:23Just don't put too much pressure on yourself,
38:25cos I know what you're like.
38:26On the exterior, you are this funny guy,
38:29but deep down, you know, you are softer.
38:31Like, you've still got to be your own person.
38:34If she's not making you feel like you are good enough...
38:39It's not even... It's not that.
38:41It's more that I don't feel as if I'm good enough for her, maybe.
38:45But, yeah.
38:47Maybe the question is...
38:49..is she good enough for you?
38:52Let the fire burn so low
38:59I thought it would last for all time
39:02To do us part
39:04And every promise that we made
39:07From my heart
39:09Have you had traditional couscous before?
39:11Do you know what? I don't think I have.
39:13Oh, OK. You're in for a treat, then.
39:16What's that? Can I have some of that?
39:18Yes, that's sultanas. Yum.
39:22How do you feel about getting married?
39:25We feel fine, cos we've both agreed we're not doing anything
39:28that we're not comfortable with. Yeah.
39:30And we both know there's a lot more we have to learn about each other.
39:33Yeah. I don't want all of you to think that we've come here
39:35and that's it, 100% they're getting married,
39:37cos that's not the case. Yeah.
39:39Has it been different in the sense that Maria is Muslim?
39:43What I know about your faith,
39:45like, those values are really similar to what my values are, you know?
39:49For us, it's about you being a good person. Yeah.
39:52Life isn't about what you do, what money you have, what you have.
39:55It's about the people that are in your life. Exactly.
39:58You know? Oh, what's that look?
40:01She was calling me snobby and judgmental a couple of days ago.
40:04He was. He was.
40:06Are you snobby and judgmental? Yeah, he is.
40:08He's better now, cos, admittedly, he really was.
40:11And this is the... For me, I've learnt a lot about myself.
40:14Yeah, that's the compromise, innit? You know?
40:16It's love, respect, consideration.
40:20It's more important than anything else.
40:22Tom is doing really well.
40:24I know it's very nerve-wracking.
40:26Walking into meeting someone's mum, sister,
40:28brother-in-law, brother, like, all of it.
40:30Especially, as you know, it's a different culture,
40:32so it's a different environment to walk into.
40:34Do you want a handpet and some of this away? Yes, please. That'd be lovely.
40:37You can come back next week.
40:39My family are the most important people to me.
40:42My sister especially.
40:44It is very important that my sister likes Tom,
40:47cos if she didn't, honestly, it would really put a spanner in the works.
40:50In terms of how you are in the relationship,
40:54you are in the relationship with my sister. Yeah.
40:58Is there anything that you feel that you've still got to work on?
41:02Um, I'd be lying to you if I said that I was a perfect person.
41:06No, it's no such thing as a perfect person. Yeah.
41:08I'd like to think that, you know, now I am, like, a really empathic person.
41:13And I hope that, like, her perception of me,
41:16it's because of, you know, like she sort of said,
41:19that I made her feel quite safe and secure and listened to, you know?
41:23Yeah. I don't know how much she's spoken to you about her father and stuff
41:27and his not being here.
41:29Lots. Yeah.
41:31I feel like it's a really big responsibility for me, like, to be able to...
41:35Yeah. Like, I really hope that, you know, if he was still around,
41:38I'd kind of have his approval. Mm.
41:41Mm.
41:52I bet that was really hard.
41:55Yeah, it is hard, you know?
42:00Unfortunately, it's just part of life, you know? Yeah.
42:02You lose your loved ones.
42:04It's nice that she feels open enough that she can talk to you about it.
42:10It's always difficult to tell, like, on first impressions,
42:12what people think of you.
42:14But sister's not the kind of person that's going to get impressed
42:18by, like, job titles or the fact that, you know, her own main play.
42:21She's very non-judgmental, you know? Family comes first for her.
42:25I genuinely feel like I'm a different person
42:27to the person that came into this experiment
42:29and could see myself, yeah, hopefully one day being a part of this family.
42:34Go on, then. Go on, then.
42:36Oh, God!
42:39You had a good day? It's been lovely. Yes.
42:41It's been really nice meeting you guys. It was lovely, isn't it?
42:44I was really scared. We were all apprehensive.
42:46None of us were... Were you? Yeah.
42:48Did you have an expectation of, like, the kind of man that she would go for?
42:52Not really. No? No, I didn't know what to expect, no.
42:56Well, thank you, like... You're very welcome.
42:58You've made me feel so welcome. Oh, it's all right, thank you.
43:01It's been amazing. You're welcome. You're always welcome.
43:03Thank you. If we were to, like, say yes to it,
43:06like, I just want to make sure that we have your blessing.
43:09Like, it's not a normal situation, you know? No.
43:12And it's really important for me that you feel, like, comfortable.
43:17I am a bit apprehensive. Yeah, I can understand that.
43:20Because you haven't got to know each other really well. I know.
43:25You know, she's my baby daughter.
43:28Oh, wow!
43:30But you have my 100,000th blessing.
43:33Oh, thank you. That means a lot. Honestly, it really does.
43:36I hope you succeed. Thank you.
43:39You're very welcome, and thank you for being so nice.
43:41It's been so nice to meet you all today.
43:43Thank you, and please be good to each other.
43:46I'm sure we will be. I'm sure of it.
43:48And I hope everything will be sorted in the end.
43:51Yeah, me too. Come then, let's go.
43:56Can I have your hand, please? Yeah, of course you can.
44:04How are you feeling? At the minute, I feel OK.
44:06It's a big deal, though, no? Mm.
44:08My general approach was to, like, give your dad a handshake
44:11and hug your mum. Is that OK for your mum?
44:13Yeah. I was thinking, hug them both.
44:15Like, just go in, like, hey!
44:17You said your dad's very, like, traditional and very, like...
44:20Yeah, but, like, I think you could say,
44:22do that to start off with, and then that.
44:24And then hug straight away? I think so.
44:26You know, even some men do this.
44:28I can't do that to your dad, because I can't meet your dad.
44:32Oh, I'm excited, nervous, and now I don't know, it's the unknown.
44:36Because I've been married before,
44:38one of my biggest concerns would be that my parents
44:41have lost faith in, sort of, my decision-making.
44:44KNOCK AT DOOR
44:46Hi! Hello!
44:48How are you?
44:50You look lovely! How are you?
44:52Nice to meet you. How are you? Thank you. How are you?
44:55How are you doing? Nice to meet you.
44:57Oh, they're beautiful. Thank you so much.
44:59How are you doing? Nice to meet you. How are you doing?
45:01Pleasure, pleasure.
45:03But I feel so proud to show Benaiah to my mum and my dad,
45:06because I'm confident in him.
45:08Shall we take a seat? Yeah.
45:10I've told my dad a bit about Benaiah,
45:12but I didn't tell them that we're going to get married.
45:15So, let's see. Let's see.
45:17Nico, you've done well, eh?
45:19You've got all the Lebanese visitors here.
45:21I'm proudest of this one, actually.
45:23It's from the... Good mixture.
45:25..the Lebanese shop.
45:27In Marble Arch.
45:29All the way to Marble Arch.
45:31She was really serious about this thing.
45:33Yeah, so, Benaiah, where do you live?
45:36In the north of England. OK.
45:39I do a lot of, like, structural landscaping,
45:41like log cabins and decking.
45:43You're joking! Yeah, yeah, yeah.
45:45Nice. Mixture of things, yeah. Amazing, amazing.
45:48Might be a case of, after this,
45:50I'll have to go back and forth a little bit, you know.
45:53Would you like some tabbouleh?
45:55Yes, please, my dear. Yeah.
45:57And how do you get roped into this?
46:01So, for me, like, the dating world,
46:03the first thing you look at is, are they physically attractive?
46:06Exactly. What I loved about this experiment
46:08was you don't see them at all.
46:10I fell in love with who she is.
46:12I mean, it's nice that she's very beautiful as well.
46:15It's a plus. It's a plus, yeah.
46:18Part of the experiment is to use this living situation
46:23to really see how compatible we are, if love is really enough.
46:27And then, at the end, there's, like, a decision,
46:31and we're going to have a wedding day.
46:35On that wedding day, we'll decide whether or not
46:38we are going to be legally married,
46:41or we walk away forever.
46:46You know what you're doing.
46:48But, of course, marriages don't work.
46:50She's been married before,
46:52and we don't all have what it takes
46:54to make a relationship work sometimes.
46:56Take one day at a time, one foot in front of each other,
46:59one step at a time.
47:02As long as we can respect each other's differences
47:06and have fun on the way, like, I'm fine.
47:09We take this very seriously. Yeah.
47:11You know, marriage very seriously, so...
47:13I think it's a matter of patience.
47:15Love grows. Love grows!
47:18Yeah.
47:19Cos our journey hasn't been straightforward, has it? No.
47:22And we've navigated through that. Sure.
47:24So I'm sitting here today probably the most confident about us,
47:27as I have been for the whole way through.
47:29Yeah, for sure!
47:32And I wish you guys all the best.
47:34This is so great!
47:36You know what, I was saying to Ben, it could go two ways.
47:39This could either be, like, Nick, you're mad,
47:42or it's, like, you know, your support.
47:44So I really appreciate it.
47:46I'm happy you found each other, it looks like.
47:48It's good, baby. Yeah.
47:50It's probably too soon for me.
47:52LAUGHTER
47:58I don't think that could have gone any better.
48:01I was obviously a bit concerned about meeting a dad,
48:04because I thought I'd probably get a hard time from him.
48:08But he was brilliant, you know?
48:10I think you're a very decent man. Thank you.
48:12And I think... I hope the best for the two of you.
48:16It does feel like I've been accepted as part of their family,
48:19which is massive for me.
48:21I think they can see, Nicole and I, what we have is very real.
48:24Thank you so much. Oh, you're welcome.
48:26And if that's a sign of things to come, then, yeah, I'm happy, man.
48:29Bye. See you. Bye-bye.
48:31I love them to pieces. I love them to pieces!
48:34I'm glad he loves them, and I'm glad they love him.
48:37They see what I see in him.
48:39What I'm feeling right now tells me that we're going to get married.
48:44Like, I would be devastated if it didn't work out.
48:48But I have every faith that it's going to be us two.
48:51Two, two, two, two.
48:56Oh, wait!
48:59Be cool. Be cool. Be cool.
49:02It is all going off tonight.
49:04There was someone in there that I had a really good connection with.
49:07Tash. Who's that?
49:09Hi, Tom, I'm Pa.
49:11I really can't help it.
49:13For me, it's not something that can, like, just stop it.
49:18Did you love me? Yeah.
49:20It was real.
49:21Part of me feels like you're quite misunderstood.
49:26We had an amazing connection in the pods.
49:28You're aware when she stayed at mine that she wanted to sleep with me
49:31and I said no, yeah?