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00:00Every rebellious child is not necessarily the result of God's displeasure because we know the Bible Adam and Eve had the best father possible
00:07Can anyone get better than Father God but they rebelled the prodigal son? How many of you know that story?
00:13Yeah, he had an incredibly loving and patient father
00:16But he still went left the best practical advice I could give you when your child goes sideways
00:22it's simply most rebellion the sign of a child fighting to be seen and
00:27Kids don't always know how to communicate and they don't know how to say it and and some kids they act out in order
00:33To be seen and a lot of times we try to reprimand the behavior
00:37But we're not really looking at the fruit of the issue
00:39And they just want to be seen they want to be acknowledged. They they want to be recognized for who they are
00:44You understand what I'm saying? So so make sure you're seeing
00:49Not just controlling but seeing
00:52your children
00:58You
01:04We're going to be in 2nd Samuel 2nd Samuel chapter 12 and we're going to begin a series
01:10I don't know how long this series will go. It could go two weeks could go five ten weeks. I'm not quite sure
01:17But we're going to start today
01:20in 2nd Samuel chapter 12 verse 9
01:23and
01:24It begins with Nathan the prophet
01:28Asking a question
01:32It starts with why
01:37David had just sinned with Bathsheba, but he had gone on with life like nothing happened and
01:46You know how many of you have done it yeah
01:49And
01:50God had left him to conscience for over nine months because she already had the baby and actually the baby died
01:58but all that time he ignored his own heart and
02:02Ignore your own conscience at your own peril
02:06So God then at that point had to send a prophet named Nathan to the king to announce
02:14Judgment a
02:17Writer said this he said the reason we're still alive is not because God is giving us more time to party
02:24But because he's giving us more space to repent
02:30So Nathan said
02:33Why have you despised?
02:36to make light or minor
02:41the commandment of the Lord
02:44David got into this mess
02:47Because although he was a leader of God's people God had promoted him from a shepherd to a king
02:54But over time he he started to you know
02:57Listen to the scriptures and and and maybe you know they didn't really have church back then
03:03But let's just say he kind of attended church
03:05He kind of listened to some of the things that were said but over time he began to take the scriptures
03:10He began to take God's Word
03:12Lightly it all started with ignoring a little bit here and a little bit there
03:21Started thinking, you know all the other kings are doing whatever they feel like doing and they seem to be getting away with it
03:28How about me? Why can't I?
03:33But no one ever makes a difference being like everyone else
03:37When God's Word becomes minor in our lives
03:43Major pain always follows
03:45So all of us will have this temptation
03:47At first God's Word is exciting
03:49I mean just like you know
03:51Bishop Tutu
03:53He was telling a parable and I was watching the DC young man listening to him preach
03:55And he said you know
03:57You know
03:59You know
04:01You know
04:03You know
04:05And he said you know
04:07Those stained glass windows are always wrong
04:10You always see this young little lamb in the arms of Jesus
04:14He said no it's not the young lambs
04:16That stray, the young lambs want mother's milk
04:18They're not wondering off
04:20They're hungry, and they want the milk
04:22It's the old sheep
04:27That stray
04:29And David had become an older sheep, and was like, well yeah, you know, I used to be serious
04:38about this stuff.
04:39I used to, you know, pay attention, but you know what, I've got a little bit more sophisticated
04:44in my age, and you know what, I think God's going to cover me.
04:51So the prophet Nathan asked David a question that God is going to ask each of us one day.
04:59Why have you despised the commandment of the Lord to do evil in His sight?
05:11You see, God's word is not intended to be a burden.
05:14Jesus said my yoke is easy, my burden is light.
05:17And with everything God asks us to do, He gives us the grace to get it done.
05:23So the word of God is really intended to be the guardrails in our lives to keep us from
05:27harm.
05:29And ignoring them is like getting on a roller coaster ride and not waiting for the safety
05:34restraint bars to go click.
05:36And he said to David, now all of this happened not because David was instinctively a killer
05:43or just a man worse than others.
05:48It all happened because he stopped taking God's word seriously.
05:53And listen, I'm watching a lot of, yeah, yeah, I know what the Bible says, but.
06:02I know what Bishop's been teaching, but.
06:10He said, David, the problem started with you not taking the word of God seriously.
06:19And here's the result, and I don't care what my title is, I don't care how long I've been
06:25with the Lord.
06:27If I stop paying attention to God's word, I'm going to be just as backwards, just as
06:32messed up as any other man.
06:36He said, you have killed Uriah the Hittite with the sword.
06:42This may surprise you, but the chief charge against David was not adultery, it was murder.
06:50Then it says you have taken his wife to be your wife.
06:53The second charge was adultery.
06:56And we tend to focus on the salacious, but miss sometimes the equally important.
07:02And have killed him with the sword of the people of Amnon.
07:05Now many of us know the story.
07:07The third charge was really about the abuse of power.
07:12David did not kill Uriah personally, he just withdrew military support.
07:17We're not only responsible for what we commit, we're also responsible for what we permit.
07:26You were here with me this morning, I feel somebody pulling some good stuff out of me.
07:31Now therefore, God has spoken.
07:33Now listen, he left him to conscience.
07:34He wouldn't listen to conscience.
07:36Every day and night, you know, God was working on his heart.
07:39The Holy Spirit was working on his heart, but he wouldn't listen.
07:42So finally the prophet had to come with judgment.
07:46Now therefore, the sword shall never depart from your house.
07:52You see, God is poetic in that David was willing to destroy Uriah's family, and that act would
07:59actually bring ruin to his own family.
08:03Life is an echo.
08:05What we send out comes back.
08:07Stop being so surprised.
08:11What we give, we get, and what we sow, we reap.
08:18The sword shall never in your lifetime depart from your house, why?
08:25Because you despised me.
08:29You made my word little in your life.
08:32You started listening to the psychologists, the motivational speakers, and you stopped
08:36paying attention to my word.
08:42There are good psychologists and good motivational speakers.
08:46I'm just talking about half of them.
08:53You have taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your wife.
09:00When God shrinks in your living, your giving, your loving, your serving, it's just a matter
09:07of time before you do something even dumber than letting God shrink.
09:13I used to think that obedience was mainly a faith test, but with more life and more
09:21experience and more years, I see really obedience is just God's way of getting me the best.
09:29It's not just about a test, it's about God's best.
09:33God's best is whatever God tells me to do, because He's a good God, the only wise God.
09:39He's a faithful God, a kind God, a loving God.
09:43And obedience to Him is really the beginning of wisdom.
09:48Verse 11, thus says the Lord, so Nathan put his bony finger in the king's face, behold
09:56I will raise up adversity.
09:59One translation says rebellion.
10:03So here we see David rebelled against God so he would receive or experience rebellion
10:10with his own children in his own house.
10:13So how you treat Father God you will see show up at home.
10:19It's already getting tough, but please don't mishear me.
10:24Every rebellious child is not necessarily the result of God's displeasure, because we
10:28know the Bible.
10:30Adam and Eve had the best father possible.
10:33Can anyone get better than Father God?
10:36But they rebelled.
10:38The prodigal son, how many of you know that story?
10:41Yeah.
10:42He had an incredibly loving and patient father, but he still went left.
10:47The best practical advice I could give you when your child goes sideways is simply most
10:54rebellion is a sign of a child fighting to be seen.
11:01And kids don't always know how to communicate, and they don't know how to say it.
11:05Some kids, they act out in order to be seen.
11:10And a lot of times we try to reprimand the behavior, but we're not really looking at
11:13the fruit of the issue.
11:15And they just want to be seen.
11:16They want to be acknowledged.
11:18They want to be recognized for who they are.
11:20You understand what I'm saying?
11:22So make sure you're seeing, not just controlling, but seeing your children.
11:32God says the Lord, behold I will raise adversity against you, watch this, from your own house.
11:42When God's chastisement shows up in your own home, it is the most painful and the closest
11:51to your heart.
11:54And by this time with David, his household was actually a small army.
12:00He had more children than Nick Cannon.
12:07He did.
12:19David had eight known wives, not counting the unknown number of wives, and unnamed concubines
12:32as well.
12:34The Bible records at least 21 children from his known wives.
12:40So imagine what was going on with the concubines and the unknown wives.
12:47David was not just playing the harp all the time.
12:55Second Samuel, 13 verse 1.
13:02So in the next chapter after the tryst, it says after this Absalom the son of David,
13:11his third son from another wife Mekah, who was the princess of Geshur, he would- Solomon
13:21actually learned this from him.
13:23He would make allegiances with countries through marrying the princess of that land.
13:29So Absalom the son of David had a lovely sister whose name was Tamar, who was actually Amnon's
13:37half-sister.
13:38And Amnon the son of David, watch this, loved her.
13:42So Amnon, just so we get the narrative clear here, is David's firstborn son.
13:51But Amnon is actually from yet another wife, Ahinium, the Jezreelite.
13:56So obviously David stayed really, really busy here.
13:59But stories like these are why I believe the Bible, because if the writers of the Bible
14:05were not under inspiration to tell the truth, how many of y'all know I would have left stuff
14:08like this out?
14:09Yeah, you just leave this stuff out.
14:13But truth is often stranger than fiction.
14:16Amnon, watch this, was so distressed over his sister Tamar that he became sick.
14:28My generations would call this the Love Jones.
14:32For she was a virgin, so the fact that she was marriable and he could not marry her made
14:43him sick to even think about it.
14:48But watch, just like his daddy with Bathsheba, Amnon had a problem telling himself no.
15:00And it was improper for Amnon to do anything to her, so this made him sick.
15:06And you better believe it should have made him sick.
15:12But this will soon be okay in our culture if we keep going in the direction we're going
15:18in.
15:22But Amnon had a friend whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimea, David's brother, in other
15:30words his cousin.
15:32Some of the most poisonous people can come disguised as family and friends.
15:41It's impossible to live a right life listening to the wrong friends, the wrong people.
15:49Now Jonadab was a crafty man, but the problem was these guys weren't children anymore.
15:54It called him a man.
15:57These were highly intelligent and capable men about to play a very, very, very, very
16:03dangerous game.
16:06They were about to learn that people are not toys.
16:09You can't just put them back in the box when you're done.
16:14And he said to him, that's why you need good friends, that can speak the truth to you in
16:20love.
16:21He said, what's wrong with you man?
16:22What are you doing?
16:24But instead his cousin said this, why are you the king's son becoming thinner day after
16:32day?
16:34Will you not tell me?
16:35And then Amnon told him a secret.
16:39Really was it so secret people could tell by the look in his eye?
16:41I love Tamar.
16:46The difference between love and lust is lust is just about the physical.
16:54Love includes the emotional and the spiritual.
16:58Lust blinds us to reality, but love deepens our reality.
17:08Love without integrity is lust.
17:14Love without me caring for your integrity is lust.
17:20Love that only cares about what I get and what feels good to me is lust.
17:29So he's in lust, calling it love, with his sister, and you're going to have to read some
17:35of this story after me, because he ends up kicking her out of the bed.
17:39It's a whole ugly thing that he does.
17:40He says, I love Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister.
17:45So Jonadab said to Amnon, lie down on your bed and pretend to be ill.
17:50This is why you need good friends.
17:52You see, Jonadab knew his dad David had a blind spot, and he knew that David could not
18:01say no to his children.
18:04Just because you're anointed or good in one area of your life doesn't necessarily mean
18:07you're good in every area of your life.
18:11Somebody once said this.
18:12If you raise your children, you can spoil your grandchildren.
18:17But if you spoil your children, you're going to end up raising your grandchildren.
18:22How many of you are learning from David?
18:29Let's learn from David.
18:32All right, I'll say it again.
18:42If you raise your children, you'll be able to spoil your grandchildren.
18:51But if you spoil your children, you'll end up raising your grandchildren.
18:58And when your father comes to see you, say to him, please let my sister Tamar come and
19:05give me food, watch this, and prepare food in my sight that I may see and eat it from
19:13her hand.
19:16Now David knew that his son was both spoiled and lusty.
19:21He also knew that his daughter Tamar was particularly beautiful.
19:28But when it came to his son, he thought his son could do no wrong.
19:34And you hurt your children when you don't honestly look at them.
19:40The first thing we learn about parenting from David, now we learn things we should do and
19:45things we should not do from our mentors.
19:49So the first thing we learn about being a good parent from David is be honest with yourself
19:56about your child's strengths and your child's weaknesses.
20:03You will never, ever help a child overcome their weaknesses by pretending they're not
20:09there.
20:13Then Amnon laid down and pretended to be ill.
20:17And when the king came to see him, Amnon makes the appeal to his father, you know, based
20:24on what Pukey and Ray-Ray told him to do.
20:32He said, dad, please let Tamar, my sister, come and make a couple of cakes for me in
20:38my sight that I may eat from her hand.
20:42He did not say let Tamar come because she's a great cook, she's the best cook in the family.
20:48And you know that dad, that's not what he said.
20:52He said, I want her to cook so I can watch in my sight.
21:00And I want to be personally fed from her pretty hand.
21:05Am I the only one that would be just a little bit suspicious if my lusty, crazy son said
21:15this about his beautiful sister?
21:20You see, David was a great king, a great singer, a great warrior, but a terrible father.
21:28You see, every father must live with the fact that one day his sons will only follow his
21:33example, not necessarily his advice.
21:36And this was the case with David.
21:39And David, blinded by his affection for his son, sent home to Tamar.
21:46The second thing we learn from David is a good parent knows their child's not always
21:52telling the truth.
21:55We lied as children.
21:57Okay, y'all quiet.
22:01How many of you listening by live stream or in this room never lied to your parents as
22:06a child?
22:07Lift your hand.
22:15We all lied as children.
22:18I can't even count how many times I lied as a child.
22:24If I was Pinocchio, man, my nose would be dragging on the ground beneath me.
22:31We all lied as children.
22:32Why do you expect your child to be any different?
22:35He wasn't born in a manger.
22:44So, David sent home to Tamar saying, now go to your brother- this is going to cost David-
22:51Amnon's house for him and prepare him food.
22:55The third thing David's teaching us about being a good parent is you can't always tell
22:59your child yes.
23:02No can be a powerful and an anointed word.
23:08Parent, it's okay to tell your child every now and then no.
23:13Not always no, but every now and then a well-placed no will help them.
23:19They won't die.
23:21True story.
23:22They might even grow.
23:24A well-placed no can help your child succeed.
23:32So Tamar innocently went to her brother Amnon's house because David was not honest enough
23:42with himself about his son to check his son.
23:48Neither was he invested enough in his daughter to teach her about the ways of the world so
23:55she could better protect herself.
23:57Dad, it's our responsibility to teach her.
24:00Everything is not dandelion.
24:02Everybody don't love you.
24:04Everybody's not for you.
24:05We live in a dangerous world.
24:08Everyone's not always good.
24:10Make sure your children know God, but also make sure they can handle themselves in the
24:16world.
24:26So Tamar comes in, and he was lying down.
24:31Don't say the type of music he was playing, because it's not there, but...
24:42She might have been a little suspicious, but maybe not yet.
24:45Then she took flour, and she kneaded it, and you know, she's doing all this stuff, and
24:51he's watching.
24:52Yeah, I know.
24:55And made cakes in his sight.
24:58She could feel his eyes on the back of her neck, and she baked the cakes.
25:06But she's trying to be a good daughter.
25:09She's trying to be a good sister, but she's a little bit naive.
25:15Give but know when you're being used.
25:24Love but know when you're being abused.
25:30Listen but don't lose your own voice.
25:33Trust but please, please, young ladies, pay attention.
25:44And she took the pan and placed them out before him.
25:48Watch this.
25:51He refused to eat, because it really wasn't food he was hungry for.
26:00And you can guess the rest of the story.
26:04Parents, we will all make mistakes like David.
26:13God had to judge him, and He said, listen, for all your days, basically what you did
26:19to Uriah's house is going to come back in your own house.
26:23What's important here is if we learn the lessons, when it's over, God can turn it into blessings.
26:32I want you to watch what God says in Joel 2 and 25.
26:37This was the promise that God made to Israel after they went into 70 years of judgment.
26:44So even though David was dealing with the discipline of God, and even though some of
26:49us may be dealing with God's discipline in some area of our lives, I want you to still
26:56see God's heart in the midst of all of it.
26:59By the way, I kind of cut my message short on this, because it just got too ugly, the
27:03narrative.
27:04I just had to pull back.
27:05It was just too hard.
27:06But let's go to Joel 2 and 25.
27:09Watch God.
27:13So I will restore.
27:16Some translations say repay.
27:19Others say pay back, compensate, give back, or make up to.
27:24You the years.
27:27How many of you have some years?
27:29Not just some hours, or a month, but years you'd like to get back?
27:37How many of you have some losses, some mistakes you just wish you could get back?
27:43Yeah.
27:44But what I want to show you here is the same God who judged His rebellious people with
27:5470 years of Babylonian captivity.
28:00Afterward came with a promise.
28:02It was almost like He's not apologizing because God was right.
28:06I want you to see the tenderness of God.
28:09We sung earlier about God's reckless love.
28:11We're not saying God is reckless.
28:13God can't make a mistake.
28:15But to be reckless is not to consider yourself.
28:17It's not to consider the damage or the danger that you could bring on yourself.
28:22God loved us so recklessly, it caused Him to be willing to hang Himself on a cross.
28:27You hear what I'm saying?
28:28To die a terrible sinner's criminal death.
28:33It was reckless.
28:35No regard for self or His own safety.
28:39God loves us recklessly.
28:42So here God judges them, but then He promises them almost as if to apologize, but He can't
28:53apologize because He was right.
28:55They had what was coming.
28:56It's like spanking a child and saying, I'm sorry I had to do that.
29:01This was the Spirit of God here.
29:03So I restore, I will restore you the years, everything God's judgment caused them to lose,
29:16He wanted to restore, repay, give back, and make up for.
29:24And if He was that way under an inferior covenant, how much more after the blood of
29:31Jesus?
29:33Even if you deserve everything that happened in your life and family, this promise is for
29:40us.
29:41Actually, if you're properly looking at the scriptures and exegeting properly, you'll
29:48find later in this chapter, he was referring to the New Testament church.
29:53This whole promise is really to us.
29:58He says, so I will restore, and actually the apostles quote it, I'll restore to you the
30:02years the swarming locusts has eaten.
30:09Now if you read your Bible, actually the Bible says in verse 10, God sent the locusts on
30:14the people.
30:16They were God's army.
30:18You see, locusts were not dangerous individually, but only when they swarmed.
30:23You see, when they swarmed, they showed up by the billions and the trillions.
30:27They could darken the sky for miles.
30:31They could eat everything a farmer had worked all year to develop and to raise, including
30:39future seeds.
30:40See, that's what's so horrible about locusts.
30:44Because a drought, at least you can get seed from the plant that was dying on the vine.
30:53That when the rains come back, you can plant again.
30:56But with the locusts, they not only eat the vegetation that's there, they eat it down
31:01to the seed.
31:04And Satan doesn't want to just impact you, he wants to impact your seed.
31:09He wants to eat you down to your seed.
31:18But here's God's promise.
31:21Even when your seed has been swallowed up, this is God's promise.
31:26I will restore to you the years the swarming locusts has eaten down to your seed.
31:35Not only your life, but your seed's life.
31:50He said, I will restore you the year.
31:54How do you get time back?
31:58Only God knows how to do that.
32:02But God is saying He can get you back stolen time, lost time.
32:09God is that good.
32:11I mean, we're straining God.
32:13It's like, you know, Lord if you pay my light bill, it's like all the lights in Heaven are
32:17going to dim because God has used so much energy to pay your light bill, your water
32:21bill.
32:23We ask so small.
32:26We have not because we ask not.
32:29God's a big God.
32:30A loving God, a gracious God, the Almighty God.
32:37Start praying big prayers.
32:40God restore to me everything the kangaroo worm, the palmer worm, the gnawing worm has
32:45stolen from my life and my family.
32:49How many of you have some, not only a couple weeks, but years the devil has stolen from
32:53your house, from your family, from your marriage, from your life?
33:00But God's promise is bigger than your mess, bigger than your mistakes.
33:05He said, I myself, I'm not sending an angel.
33:12The great I Am who parted the Red Sea.
33:17The I Am that was with Daniel in the lion's den.
33:24The I Am that caused the sun not to set for Joshua.
33:28The I Am who caused Jesus to raise up from the dead.
33:34I, even I, will restore for you, for you, for you.
33:43Thank God for what He did for somebody else.
33:46I'll restore you the years that the swarming locust has eaten.
33:58And what he was saying is he was saying, because you submitted to the process, you submitted
34:02to my discipline, you went through what you needed to go through, I'm going to reward
34:08you.
34:09I mean God is so good, He'll spank you, then reward you for taking the spanking.
34:15He's a good God, a good God.
34:23He said, I will, and listen, don't just let this be me preaching here.
34:26Take this promise and apply it to your house.
34:30God, you said that you'll restore the years that the swarming locust has eaten.
34:39You see, individually a little locust is not dangerous, but when he gets together with
34:43all his pals, and in life sometimes, you know, it's not just one problem, there's a
34:48swarm of issues.
34:51There's a swarm of mistakes, a swarm of stuff that has occurred, it's just eaten our lives
34:58up.
35:01But God promises, He looks at our lives and sees everything eaten.
35:06And with full awareness, studying every single thing down to the toenail of it, I will restore
35:17you, you, you, you, you, you, you, the years the swarm, has anybody been in a swarm?
35:29The swarming locust has eaten.
35:34Even things that feel like God's harshest discipline are rigged in our favor.
35:42Maybe you didn't parent right.
35:45Maybe you deserve every bad thing that's happened to you in your life, but if you give it to
35:51Him, if you give it to Him, if you give it to Him, every wrong choice, every self-inflicted
36:01loss, every regret, Jesus can repay, restore, compensate, give back, make up for.
36:18But you're going to have to believe the promise.
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