Change Your Life by Journalling - 10 Powerful Questions

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Change Your Life by Journalling - 10 Powerful Questions

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00:00So if there is one single habit that has most changed my life, that habit is journaling.
00:04I've been journaling pretty consistently since like 2014 and so many of the good things that
00:08have happened in my life have happened directly as a result of journaling consistently.
00:12But one thing that is really, really helpful when it comes to journaling
00:14is having the right prompts or questions.
00:16And so in this video, I want to share 10 of my favorite questions,
00:2010 powerful journaling prompts that I found enormous value in
00:23that I hope you will find value in as well.
00:25All right, question number one is, what would you do if money were no object?
00:30Now, this question is so incredibly powerful.
00:33And I ask myself it like every three months,
00:36because it's one of those things that like,
00:38there's so much stuff that we do for the sake of money.
00:40There's so much stuff that we do chasing like,
00:42I need more money, I need more financial security,
00:44I need more financial safety, all this scarcity, all of this stuff.
00:46And it's really useful to ask the question,
00:48what would I do?
00:49What would I genuinely do if money were no object?
00:52Now, if you're a noob at this, your answer will be,
00:54oh, I would just like sip cocktails on a beach in Thailand and just chill.
00:58But if you've tried to do that, I've tried to do that.
01:00And I've realized it's not particularly enjoyable.
01:03And everyone I've ever spoken to who has made loads and loads of money,
01:05who has then just retired, has been absolutely miserable,
01:08because actually work is profoundly meaningful
01:11if you're doing something that you enjoy.
01:13So there's a sort of follow up to this question,
01:14which is a question one B, which is,
01:16if I had all the time and money in the world,
01:20how would I use my talents to serve other people?
01:24And this is also a really, really, really good follow up question,
01:26because it takes care of the money thing.
01:28It takes care of I don't have time thing.
01:30And it specifically asks about talents and about service.
01:33And a big part of what makes life feel meaningful
01:35is when we are doing things that we are good at,
01:37when we're using our strengths,
01:39and when we are doing something to serve other people.
01:41So if you had all the time and money in the world,
01:43how would you use your talents to serve others?
01:45These days, I have a lot of like lunches and dinners and stuff
01:47with entrepreneurs and creators and sometimes students as well.
01:50People seem to look at me as some sort of life coach or something.
01:52It's like, hey Ali, what should I do with my life?
01:54And often this is the first question.
01:55I'd be like, hmm, what would you do if money were no object?
01:58And if they need a little bit of prompting, I will ask,
02:00if you had all the time and money in the world,
02:02how would you use your talents to serve others?
02:04For me personally, asking the question,
02:05what would I do if money were no object,
02:06has led to a lot of decisions that I've made
02:08for my YouTube channel and for my business.
02:10If money were no object, I would still continue to write books.
02:12By the way, you should check out my book
02:13if you haven't yet, link down below.
02:14And if you have, I would really love an Amazon review,
02:16feel good productivity.
02:17It's about how to do more of what matters to you
02:18in a way that actually feels good.
02:20But if I had all the money in the world,
02:21honestly, I would write more books
02:22because writing books is cool.
02:23I would continue making YouTube videos.
02:25I wouldn't do it on a schedule.
02:26I wouldn't have sponsored videos,
02:27but I would do it on my own terms.
02:29I would still do YouTube videos.
02:30I would love to be able to do workshops and seminars
02:32and stuff where I teach other people about productivity
02:34and like aligning your actions with the life you want
02:37and how to reach financial freedom.
02:39And so really for me, I realised
02:40after doing a lot of these journaling prompts,
02:43the main thing I wanted to do with my life
02:44was to be a teacher.
02:45And that is what ultimately led to me
02:46deciding to quit medicine
02:47because I realised the thing that I would do
02:49to serve others is not practise medicine,
02:51it's to teach.
02:52And so that one question has single-handedly
02:54changed the trajectory of my life.
02:56Question number two is,
02:57what would you like people to say at your funeral?
03:00And here you can think of family,
03:02you can think of friends,
03:02you can think of co-workers
03:04and you can think of people
03:06whose life has been impacted by your work.
03:08Now, generally family and friends
03:10and co-workers even are gonna comment
03:11on like the personality traits
03:13and like how much of a nice person you were
03:14and all that kind of stuff.
03:16But someone whose life has been impacted by your work
03:18is gonna comment on the,
03:19unsurprisingly, the impact that your work had on their life.
03:22So if I think about it for myself,
03:23I'd want my family, friends and co-workers
03:24to say I was broadly a nice guy,
03:26very, you know, I was humble,
03:27I was always there for them,
03:28I was present,
03:28I didn't let success and stuff get to my head,
03:31all that kind of personal stuff.
03:33But I would want someone,
03:35let's say you're watching this
03:36and you might be one of the people
03:36who's followed my YouTube channel for a while
03:38or read my book or listened to my podcast.
03:39And if you were to come to my funeral
03:41and your life is genuinely impacted by my work,
03:44what I'd love for you to say is something like,
03:46Ali's content really inspired me
03:48and educated me and changed the way that I feel
03:50and that I think about
03:52what to do with my life and my career.
03:54Because of Ali's content,
03:55I realised I was following a path
03:57that had been chosen for me,
03:59not a path that I'd chosen for myself.
04:00And his content gave me the courage, confidence
04:02and motivation and inspiration and stuff
04:04that I needed to change the trajectory of my life.
04:07To me, that would be absolutely freaking sick
04:09if that's what people said at my funeral,
04:11people whose work,
04:13people whose lives have been impacted by my work.
04:15And so, doing that journaling prompt
04:17and knowing that that's what I'm going for
04:18gives me a very clear North Star.
04:20It gives me a sense of like,
04:21okay, this is the point.
04:22This is the point of sitting down here
04:23and setting up the cameras and the lights and shit
04:25and like talking to a camera.
04:26When you can have that level of clarity
04:28about the reason why you're doing your work,
04:30it makes everything feel much more fun.
04:32It makes everything feel much more meaningful
04:34and purposeful.
04:35And it helps sustain you through the moments
04:37of kind of where you don't feel like it
04:40or where you're like tired
04:41and you know you wanna do the thing.
04:43Connecting to that spirit of service
04:44really helps.
04:45The personal side is also quite important.
04:46I sort of brushed over that,
04:46but like the personal side is really important.
04:50What sort of spouse do you wanna be?
04:52What sort of parent do you want to be?
04:53What sort of child do you wanna be?
04:54What sort of colleague do you wanna be?
04:56The things that these people who love us
04:58and who work with us will comment on
04:59is not like,
05:00hey, he drove 8% returns for our hedge fund.
05:02Like no one cares.
05:03No one cares about your performance.
05:04They care about how you made them feel.
05:06They care about how you showed up.
05:08And so, often I'll think like,
05:10what would I want my family to say at my funeral?
05:12What would I want my friends to say at my funeral?
05:14And then I will ask myself the follow-up question,
05:16to what extent am I actually living
05:18in alignment with that?
05:20And usually when I ask that question,
05:21I realize,
05:22ooh, actually,
05:23I have been overemphasizing work
05:26at the expense of relationships.
05:28Uh-oh, let me arrange a holiday
05:30or a hangout or a dinner
05:31or whatever with some friends.
05:33Let me arrange to see my family a little bit more.
05:35Like usually for me,
05:37the inertia is kind of in work
05:38because it's fun and it's meaningful.
05:39It's like all that stuff.
05:41And I know that like,
05:41okay, I actually haven't been showing up
05:43as the sort of family member
05:44or as the friend that I would like to be showing up as.
05:46Therefore, I can make a change.
05:48And really the whole point of journaling prompts
05:49is not that it's like sort of navel gazing
05:51that you just do for the sake of it.
05:53The whole point of like these sort of questions
05:54and these sort of prompts
05:55is that they encourage you to take action
05:57and to tweak your course in some way or another.
06:00Maybe you do the,
06:01what would I do if money were no object?
06:02And you realize,
06:03crap, I'm in the wrong career.
06:04Let me make a change.
06:05That's very useful.
06:06Maybe you do the,
06:07what would I want people to say at my funeral?
06:08And you're like,
06:09crap, I haven't been a great friend recently.
06:11Let me make a change
06:11and nudge myself in that direction.
06:13Okay, so one of the biggest tangible benefits
06:15that all of this journaling has had in my life
06:16is that it has allowed me to make lots and lots of money
06:19running this business.
06:20And a lot of the decisions that I've made
06:21to grow my business
06:22have directly come as a result of journaling.
06:24But let's say you were to decide
06:25to start or grow a business
06:26based on your journaling practices.
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07:19Okay, the next question,
07:20it comes from my friend Dickie Bush.
07:21And the question is something to the effect of,
07:24if I were to repeat the things I've done this week
07:26for the next 10 years, where will I end up?
07:30And is this where I want to end up?
07:32And I think this is incredibly powerful.
07:33You can do this at the level of day.
07:34You can do that if I were to repeat my actions today
07:36for the next 10 years, where would I end up?
07:38I personally like to do it in a week
07:39because like today it kind of varies
07:40depending on if I happen to have Zoom meetings all day today
07:43it's like that might not be representative of a week.
07:45But I think a one week long period
07:46is like a pretty good sense of like,
07:48that is like the formula that you're following for your life.
07:51So last week, what did I do?
07:52Well, I went to the gym four times.
07:53Yeah, that's pretty good.
07:55I probably spent too much time in meetings last week.
07:57Okay, that would result in me spending
07:58loads and loads of times in meetings 10 years from now.
08:01That would compound in a negative way
08:02and that's not what I want with my life.
08:04Maybe I spent a little bit too long
08:05playing Baldur's Gate all of last Saturday.
08:07Okay, I probably don't want to repeat that
08:09every single week for the next 10 years.
08:11You know, I did two date nights.
08:12Yep, that's a good amount.
08:12I saw my friends twice or my family once.
08:14Yeah, that seems pretty reasonable.
08:16And it's like, you can really take an audit of your life
08:18if you were to imagine the last seven days
08:20repeated every single week for the next 10 years
08:22because everything in life comes as a result of compounding.
08:24You're either compounding positively
08:26or you're compounding negatively.
08:27I've decided that it's actually really helpful for me
08:30if I go to the gym at eight o'clock every single morning.
08:31Great, that's gonna compound in a positive direction
08:33in terms of my health.
08:35Whereas in the past, when I went to the gym
08:36maybe like once a week or like never
08:38and asking this question of like,
08:40will these actions compound me positively or negatively?
08:43Yeah, it helped me realize, oh crap,
08:44health is not on track, let's make a change.
08:46Again, this is all about deciding
08:48what changes you want to make to your life.
08:49And if you can figure out this sort of ideal week
08:51for yourself, what does the week look like?
08:54The seven day period where if you were to just repeat that
08:56every day for the next 10 years,
08:57you would end up in a pretty good place.
08:59Again, it's not to say you can be wedded to that.
09:01That's not to say that it's completely set in stone
09:03but it's a helpful way of thinking
09:05because it helps us realize
09:06that we're playing long-term games here.
09:07And it's so easy to make short-term decisions
09:09at the expense of the long-term game.
09:10It's so easy to say, oh, you know what?
09:13Just for this week, work is super busy
09:14and therefore I'm gonna skip all these workouts
09:16or work is super busy,
09:17therefore I'm gonna skip my date nights
09:18or I'm not gonna see my friends
09:19or I'm not gonna sleep enough.
09:20But all of these decisions compound over the long-term.
09:22So I really love this idea of copy and paste this week,
09:25extend it out for the next 10 years, see what happens.
09:28Is it good? Is it bad?
09:29Whatever you decide, whatever you learn from this,
09:31you can decide what changes you wanna make.
09:33All right, question number four.
09:34I also have a list of like hundreds
09:35and hundreds of journaling prompts
09:36which are linked down below completely for free.
09:37I've got a journaling hub where it's like a notion page
09:39that I keep updated with my favorite journaling prompts.
09:41But what have I done in the last two weeks
09:43that has energized me?
09:44And what have I done in the last two weeks
09:46that has drained my energy?
09:47This is the energy audit
09:49and you don't even need to write it out.
09:50What you can do is you can look on your calendar
09:52because hopefully you're living life by your calendar.
09:53So you can flip for the last two weeks
09:55and you can see, you can kind of color code
09:56your calendar events
09:58or you can even rename your calendar events
09:59with a plus or a plus plus if it gave you energy
10:02or a minus and a minus minus if it drained your energy
10:04and sort of a plus minus if it was kind of neutral.
10:06This is something I got from Professor Grace Lorden's book,
10:09Think Big, Take Small Steps.
10:10Really good book.
10:11And we've also got an interview with her on my podcast,
10:12Deep Dive linked up there and somewhere.
10:14But this is great.
10:15This is the energy audit
10:16because again, how we spend our time,
10:18how we spend our weeks is how we spend our lives.
10:20And if we can figure out
10:22what are the things we're doing
10:23that are draining our energy
10:24and what are the things we're doing to energize us,
10:26A, we can figure out
10:27how do I do more of the things that energize me
10:29and less of the things that drain me?
10:30But B, we all obviously have to do things
10:32that we don't wanna do.
10:33And sometimes those things are gonna drain our energy.
10:35And so we can follow the principles
10:36of field of productivity, for example,
10:38the three Ps, play, power, and people.
10:39And you can try and find ways
10:41to make the things that you are doing
10:42that are currently draining,
10:44you can find ways to turn those into a source of energy
10:46rather than a drain in energy.
10:47It would be so sick if everything on your calendar
10:49was a net gain in energy
10:51rather than a net loss of energy.
10:53And again, it just encourages us to see
10:54what are the changes we might wanna make to our lives.
10:56All right, question number five is the wheel of life.
10:59This is something I've talked about a fair bit.
11:01So if you're already familiar with this,
11:02feel free to skip ahead in the video,
11:03but it might be worth doing.
11:05Basically, the idea is that we split up life
11:07into three different components,
11:08work, health, and relationships.
11:11Now, within health, we've got physical,
11:13mental, and spiritual, or body, mind, and soul,
11:15whatever that means for you.
11:16Within relationships, we've got romance,
11:18family, and friends.
11:19And within work, we've got mission, money, and growth.
11:22I'd like to have a 10th category called joy.
11:25And the idea for this question is
11:27in each of these different categories,
11:29how aligned are my current actions
11:31with the future that I want?
11:32How aligned is my current actions in physical health
11:34with the future that I want?
11:35How aligned are my current actions in joy
11:36or in romantic relationships with the future that I want?
11:39If you do this exercise enough times,
11:40you can draw it as a little circle,
11:41you can turn it into a graph,
11:42you can track the changes in your wheel of life over time.
11:46I've got a bunch of friends and team members
11:47who are super into this stuff.
11:48And so for example,
11:49I was hanging out with Tintin earlier today,
11:50one of my team members,
11:51hadn't seen him in a while.
11:54And instead of being like, how's it going?
11:55I was like, how's the wheel of life?
11:57And he gets it because he's been doing the wheel of life
11:59every Sunday for the last like several years.
12:01And he was like, huh,
12:02actually the wheel of life is pretty good.
12:03I've realized, you know,
12:04I'm actually maybe a little bit negative in this area,
12:06but actually broadly things are good.
12:07It's a nice holistic kind of life assessment.
12:10And again, the point of asking yourself this question
12:12is that you can identify areas for improvement.
12:15Like right now,
12:16if I were to run the wheel of life on myself,
12:17I would say my joy category is probably a six out of 10.
12:21And so I'd like to make more time for joy,
12:22which is why I'm considering buying a PS5
12:24for whatever that's worth.
12:26And I would say my spiritual health,
12:28my soul category is also probably like a four out of 10
12:32because I haven't really done any meditation.
12:34I haven't really been particularly mindful recently.
12:35It's like by just asking myself the questions,
12:38I'm already able to come up with some action points,
12:40which again to reiterate is the whole point
12:42of these different journaling prompts.
12:43Question number six is the odyssey plan.
12:46This is three sets of questions.
12:47The first one is your current path.
12:50The question is,
12:51what does my life look like five years from now
12:54if I continue down my current path?
12:56Next question is the alternative path.
12:58What would my life look like five years from now
13:01if I took a completely different path?
13:04And then option three is the radical path.
13:07What would my life look like five years from now
13:09if I took a completely different path
13:11where I didn't care about money
13:13and I didn't care about what people thought?
13:15I've talked about this a bunch of times
13:16on the channel before.
13:16This is probably the journaling prompt
13:18that's most single-handedly changed my life.
13:20I first did this in late 2019
13:23and doing this odyssey plan made me realise,
13:26oh crap, five years from now,
13:28the medical career that I'm in
13:29is not actually the career I want to be in.
13:31That was super interesting,
13:32caused me to make immediate changes to my life
13:34and caused me to end up here making YouTube videos
13:36and writing books for a living
13:37rather than being a doctor.
13:38So I think it's incredibly, incredibly powerful.
13:40It does take some time to do,
13:41it takes some time to think about,
13:42but it gives a lot of clarity on like,
13:45what are the options?
13:46And sometimes you might even realise that like,
13:47oh, I just, I've got a bit of a failure of imagination.
13:50Like I'm sort of imagining
13:51that I have to go down this particular path
13:54but now that I've written out my alternative path
13:55and my radical path,
13:56my alternative path might be to become a music composer
13:58and single songwriter.
14:00And my radical path might be to,
14:02I don't know, van life around the world
14:03for the next 10 years
14:04and be a photographer or something like that.
14:05There is this really cool image from Tim Urban's blog.
14:09It basically shows that like,
14:10our life could have taken a bunch of different paths
14:12but we took one path to end up here.
14:14But where we are now,
14:15our life can still take an absolute multitude
14:17of other paths,
14:18but it's so easy to think
14:20and be blinkered by the fact that like,
14:21oh, well, I guess I did a degree in economics,
14:23I guess I have to become a banker
14:25or I guess I did a degree in medicine,
14:26I have to become a doctor.
14:27And to confine ourselves to a path
14:29that is not actually the path
14:31we necessarily need to be on.
14:32And so the point of the odyssey plan
14:34and these other sorts of journaling prompts
14:36is that they help us realise
14:37that actually you've got way more control
14:40and you have way more options available to you
14:41than you might think.
14:42And so to me, every few years,
14:44I will actually every year when I do my annual review,
14:46I will just redo my odyssey plan
14:48just to make sure that I'm thinking big
14:49and I'm not allowing the inertia of my existing path
14:53to keep me on the road of content creator
14:55or whatever the thing might be.
14:57All right, question number seven is incredibly powerful.
14:59What is the goal and what is the bottleneck?
15:02I find myself asking myself this question a lot.
15:04I also ask it a lot to people
15:05when I do these sort of pseudo life coaching
15:06and business coaching sessions
15:07with other creators and entrepreneurs and stuff.
15:09What's the goal and what's the bottleneck?
15:11The first half of that question is incredibly valuable.
15:14What's the goal?
15:16If you are struggling with absolutely anything,
15:17if you feel like you're torn in multiple directions
15:19and stuff,
15:20you feel like you might be in a transition period
15:22of your life right now, I suspect.
15:24If you're watching this channel,
15:25ask yourself, what's the goal?
15:28What am I really optimising for?
15:30And so often we get embroiled in our problems
15:32and we don't remember to ask ourselves,
15:34what is the goal?
15:36Because the goal changes everything.
15:37I was at a writer's retreat the other day.
15:40We had this little like hot seat session
15:41where the idea is that you get,
15:42you're in the hot seat for 45 minutes
15:44and you discuss your problems or your challenges
15:46and then everyone gives you advice and ask you questions.
15:48And one thing we realised is that
15:50basically all of us go in the hot seat
15:52and we were describing like a problem
15:53that we were having
15:54and someone in the group would ask,
15:56what's the goal?
15:58And then the person in the hot seat was like,
16:00hmm, I guess the goal is I want to
16:02get my business to $10 million.
16:03Okay, cool.
16:04What's the bottleneck?
16:06I.e. what is the one thing that's most
16:08stopping you from getting there?
16:10We don't have enough products to sell.
16:11Cool, we can solve the bottleneck.
16:12I guess the goal is to really enjoy my work life.
16:15Okay, what's the bottleneck?
16:16What's stopping you from doing that right now?
16:18Well, I guess I've actually been spending
16:20a lot of my time chasing money
16:21rather than chasing passion.
16:23Huh, that's interesting.
16:24What's the goal and what's the bottleneck
16:25is often like a question that cuts to the heart
16:28of anything that we're struggling with.
16:29And so it's a question I ask myself a lot
16:30when I'm doing my own journaling.
16:31And it's a question I love to ask other people
16:33because it just encourages us to think
16:34in a way that we might not otherwise.
16:36All right, question number eight
16:37is actually a journaling prompt
16:39that I got from Brian Tracy.
16:41Brian Tracy is like this old dude
16:43who's written a bunch of really good books
16:44about goal setting and productivity.
16:46And there was a good YouTube short
16:49from a clip of his that I came across
16:51a few months ago.
16:52Take a clean sheet of paper
16:53and write down goals and today's date.
16:56And then write down 10 goals
16:57that you would like to accomplish
16:58in the next 12 months
16:59and write them in the present tense.
17:01I earn, I achieve, I weigh,
17:03I drive such and such a car, I own.
17:06And then you take this list of 10
17:07and you say, if I had a magic wand
17:09and I could wave this magic wand
17:12and I could have any one goal on my list
17:14within 24 hours,
17:16which one goal would have
17:17the greatest positive impact on my life?
17:20And usually this will jump out at you.
17:22Put a circle around that goal.
17:25And that's a goal you transfer
17:26to a clean sheet of paper
17:27and then you follow the seven steps.
17:29Write it down, set a deadline,
17:31make a list of everything
17:32you have to do to accomplish it,
17:33organize the list into a checklist,
17:35take action and then do something every day.
17:37If you'll just do this,
17:38nothing can stop you but yourself.
17:39So for me at the start of the year,
17:40when I led like an annual planning session
17:42for like 12,000 people in my audience,
17:45if you joined it, then welcome back.
17:47This was the sort of idea
17:49that I used to land on my own goals for the year.
17:52For me, I've got like three main goals,
17:54work, health and relationships.
17:55My work goal is to get our business
17:56from 5 million to $10 million in revenue
17:59for whatever that's worth.
18:00My health goal is to get into
18:01the best shape of my life.
18:02And actually over the last two months,
18:03three months, I have gotten
18:04into the best shape of my life.
18:05Like I'm in better shape than I've ever been
18:07in terms of muscle mass
18:08and in terms of general activity levels.
18:09And so I've got another nine months
18:11to bulk a bit more,
18:12then do some cutting,
18:13then think about flexibility and mobility.
18:14But all of this is for the goal
18:16of getting to the best shape of my life,
18:17which I realized was a really important thing
18:19for me on the health front.
18:20And then on the relationships front,
18:22got a couple of goals.
18:22One of them is secret,
18:23but the other one is to host
18:24six mini adventures for friends and family.
18:27And that's something that I'm working on this year
18:29because I think it would be cool.
18:30All right, question number nine.
18:31This applies to entrepreneurs.
18:33And the question is,
18:34do you work for your business
18:36or does your business work for you?
18:38I first came across this question
18:39about a year ago at a entrepreneur's retreat
18:41that I was in in California of all places.
18:43And that question just sort of hit me
18:47like a baseball bat to the face.
18:50Do you work for your business
18:51or does your business work for you?
18:53I said at the time, oh crap,
18:54my business doesn't work for me.
18:55I work for it.
18:56Like I'm an employee of my business.
18:57Like my business is the prison
18:59that I've created for myself
19:00and I'm a slave to that prison.
19:02Okay, cool.
19:02Now that I know that,
19:03let's change things up.
19:04I want my business to work for me
19:06rather than for me to work for my business.
19:08I want to make videos on my own terms.
19:09I want to do stuff that I want to do.
19:10I want to sort of,
19:11I want it to feel purposeful
19:12and spirit of service
19:13and all that kind of stuff.
19:14But that question caused me
19:15to make a lot of changes in my business
19:16and therefore by extension, my life.
19:18And now I'm in a way less stressful place
19:20than I was this time last year.
19:21I'm way more chill.
19:23I enjoy the business a lot more.
19:24I feel much more confident
19:25about our future as a business
19:26and finances and stuff.
19:28And I feel much more aligned
19:30with the stuff that I'm creating
19:31and the content I'm making.
19:32This is a pretty fun video for me to make.
19:33I freaking love these journaling prompts.
19:34I love these questions.
19:35But a year ago I would have been like,
19:36no, but like the titles are not click-baity enough.
19:38And like, oh, I'm not sure
19:39anyone cares about journaling.
19:40And like, oh, we don't have any products
19:41about journaling.
19:42So why would I make the videos?
19:44But now I'm just like,
19:44I just want to make videos
19:45that I think would be just useful
19:46to people watching them.
19:47Because the North Star is,
19:50if you visit me at my funeral,
19:52I want you to, I would love for you to say
19:54that something about my content,
19:56my books, my YouTube videos,
19:57my podcast, whatever it might be,
19:58something about that content
19:59helped change the trajectory of your life.
20:02And so if even one of these journaling prompts
20:04that I've given you out of the 10 in this video
20:07helps you make an action
20:09or make a decision
20:10that causes you to take action
20:10that causes you to change your life,
20:13that's pretty cool.
20:13That's what I'm here for.
20:14And then finally, question number 10.
20:16If I knew I was going to die two years from now,
20:20how would I spend my time?
20:21Now this is sort of a variation of like,
20:23if you knew you were gonna die tomorrow,
20:24how would you spend your time?
20:25But generally, if you knew
20:26you were gonna die tomorrow,
20:27you'd probably do very destructive things.
20:29But if I knew I was gonna die two years from now,
20:32what would I do?
20:33I wouldn't just stop working
20:35because I really enjoy my work
20:36and find it meaningful.
20:37I'd probably play more video games.
20:39I should probably get that PS5
20:40and plug it into that TV.
20:41I would probably see my grandma more.
20:43She's in Pakistan at the moment.
20:44So I'd probably fly to Pakistan
20:45and just chill with my grandma a bit.
20:46I would probably host more dinners with friends.
20:50One of the things I would do
20:51if I knew I was gonna die two years from now,
20:53and then why am I not just doing those things now?
20:55Obviously, that's what the question is implying.
20:57I do like to change the timeline sometimes.
20:59Sometimes I think, okay,
21:00if I knew I was gonna die 10 years from now,
21:02what would I be doing?
21:03If I knew I was gonna die two years from now,
21:05I probably wouldn't write another book
21:06because it took three and a half years
21:07to write this freaking thing.
21:08But if I knew I was gonna die 10 years from now,
21:10I might actually think, you know what?
21:12I think it would be really nice to work on two books
21:14during that time, for the next 10 years.
21:16So really the time horizon
21:17does sort of dictate what projects you wanna work on.
21:20But again, the point of this stuff
21:21is not that you become wedded to
21:23the thing that you said in the journaling prompt.
21:24It just gives you ideas.
21:25So yeah, if I knew I was gonna die two years from now
21:27or five years from now, 10 years from now,
21:28whatever the thing might be,
21:29how would I spend my time?
21:31And what of those things can I just do now?
21:33So that brings us to the end of these 10 powerful questions
21:36that have personally had a massive impact on my life.
21:38If you're interested in a more in-depth guide
21:40to exactly how to journal with like expressive writing
21:42and morning pages and different journaling techniques,
21:43check out this video over here
21:44that I've done a few months ago
21:46about how to journal to change your life.
21:48Otherwise, thank you so much for watching.
21:49I hope you took something from this video
21:50and I would love it if you could leave a comment down below
21:52which of these is your favourite question
21:53or if you're a journaler yourself,
21:55what is your favourite journaling prompt?
21:57I would love for you to leave that down below
21:58and we can compile them
21:59and put it out as a community post or something.
22:01But anyway, check out this video over here
22:02for the ultimate guide to journaling.
22:03Thank you so much for watching
22:04and I will see you in the next video.
22:05Bye-bye.