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00:00Two years ago, I discovered my wife of 25 years was having an affair.
00:15Spent about a year trying to change her mind about it, and ultimately gave her the choice
00:23of the other woman or me.
00:25She chose the other woman.
00:29It's now been two years, and that was the catalyst for me to find your teachings, which
00:36in hindsight have now turned out to be a blessing.
00:41I had filed for divorce, and here we sit, two years later, and neither one of us are
00:48pushing the agenda, doing anything about it, just kind of going about living our lives.
00:57I have decided that I will not date while I'm still married.
01:01Well, that's, well, that's all right.
01:15The feedback I get from people is, well, Kathy, it doesn't matter, you know, she didn't do
01:20that, it's been two years, move on with your life, yadda, yadda, yadda.
01:25We all get all wrapped up in all kinds of rules and stuff that keep you from being the
01:30true happy beings that you are, don't you?
01:33The thing that is most evident about your marriage rules and marriage laws and marriage
01:39vows is that you see them as a means to control one another, which doesn't work anyway.
01:45And so the thing that you were using to control your partner didn't work, and now you're using
01:51the same thing that didn't work to control her to control yourself.
01:55Very interesting.
01:59Well, it's interesting, because when you talk about what's in your Vortex and your Vibration,
02:05what I discovered is, what was in my Vortex is what led her to leave my life.
02:13Because I wanted a wife who was monogamous, committed, intimate, and loving.
02:21And she wasn't.
02:24But it took me a really long time.
02:26What you wanted to understand is that what most relationships are doesn't work out that
02:33well for you, but what most relationships are is the condition that you use as your
02:41excuse to feel happy or not happy.
02:44Most of you base your happiness upon that significant relationship.
02:49So if you don't have one, you're not happy.
02:51If you do have one, it could go either way, depending upon how they behave.
02:55In other words, you're putting all of your power outside of yourself.
02:58It's all about somebody else and not about you.
03:01And so that's what this freedom that you're seeking, this freedom from bondage.
03:05Your partner didn't seek freedom from you.
03:09She was seeking freedom from bondage.
03:11And we want you to seek freedom from bondage.
03:13But bondage is always self-inflicted, you see.
03:16It's not what somebody else is doing or not doing that's got you bound up.
03:20It's your perspective about it.
03:23Even now, all this time later, you're still wanting to make what she did the justification
03:30for how you feel.
03:32And we want you to not need to use anything as the justification for how you feel other
03:37than your own ability to focus, other than your own ability to perceive.
03:43So why is it that I can't put closure to this and complete this divorce?
03:48Or do I don't, I don't want to, I don't understand that I struggle with that.
03:53It occurred to Esther the other day that what closure really is, she was in the middle of
03:59commenting on something unwanted and she hadn't gotten too far into it when a very powerful
04:06thought came into her mind and it was closure, closure, close your mouth.
04:15And she laughed right out loud.
04:17She's pretty sure it was Jerry.
04:22Because you can't keep talking about what went wrong or how you don't understand what
04:26went wrong and ever figure anything out.
04:30Yeah.
04:31My friends or my family is like, what's going on with the divorce?
04:34What's happening with this?
04:35It's like, just, I don't want to talk about it anymore.
04:38Well, we think you do.
04:39Why?
04:40Yeah.
04:41I'm talking about right now, right?
04:48So how do I get that out of my vibration?
04:51I don't think it's something else.
04:52Here's the most important thing that we want you to understand.
04:55Of course it feels logical to talk about it because feeling good is so important to you.
05:01And that stands as the biggest symbol in your entire life for something that kept you
05:05from feeling good.
05:07And so it feels like you got to work it out.
05:09You got to talk it out.
05:10You got to talk it into some sort of closure before you can walk away and let it feel good.
05:15That's why you're sort of putting off actually signing the papers and making it a done deal.
05:20Even though it was a done deal a long time before she even left.
05:23In other words.
05:24And so the actual condition or behavior or action is irrelevant.
05:28It's how you feel.
05:29That's the thing that matters most.
05:31Well, I don't want to lose my health insurance.
05:33I don't want to give her half of my business.
05:34I don't want to lose half of the furniture, you know, that kind of, I guess, conditional
05:39living.
05:40So this is a good opportunity for us to do a focus wheel.
05:43We're going to do it quickly and you're going to understand what to do when you're all balled
05:48up in a situation where it feels like your thoughts are thinking you.
05:53In other words, we know that you want to feel better.
05:54You just don't.
05:55We know that you don't want to harbor grudges.
05:57You just do.
05:58We know that you feel freer in many ways, but not in enough ways.
06:02And so here's what we would do.
06:04We would get a piece of paper big enough that you can draw several circles on it.
06:07We'd put a big circle in the middle and there's where you want to make these statement of
06:11how you want it to be the statement of how you want to feel the statement of doneness
06:17in a sense that you're reaching for, not necessarily how you do feel, but how you want to feel
06:22not necessarily how it is, but how you want it to be.
06:25So what we, if we were standing in your physical shoes, we would write.
06:29One of the best things that ever happened to me was this breakup, put it in whatever
06:36words you want.
06:37This breakup that's on my mind, this significant breakup is of enormous value to me.
06:43Now it doesn't feel that way right now, but I don't believe it yet, right?
06:46That's the premise that you started with.
06:48You said that to us.
06:49It's what we know is in your vortex.
06:51And so let's just go for it.
06:53So that's the statement that you want.
06:55Now this focus wheel is like the merry-go-round in the playground.
06:57If you take a thought that doesn't match it, if the merry-go-round is going really, really
07:00fast and you try to get on, it's just going to knock you off in the bushes.
07:04But if it slows down enough that you can get on, then you can speed it up.
07:07So that's the whole point of this focus wheel.
07:08We're going to slow it down enough that you can get on and then it'll just go faster and
07:12faster and faster until you do believe what's in the center.
07:15So the culmination of this relationship was a great advantage to me.
07:22So now I feel freer, true, yes.
07:38Did you believe that?
07:41No, you got knocked off in the bushes.
07:43It was too big of a thought, so it didn't get you there.
07:46So let's reach again.
07:47Um, can you think of anything that you believe that matches that?
07:53Anything at all?
07:56I have gained clarity from this experience.
08:01I've gained experience from this experience.
08:05I know it'll serve me.
08:06I know it'll eventually serve me.
08:08I'm a slow learner.
08:09I'm getting there.
08:13I've come to live life.
08:14We're getting really general.
08:15I came into this experience to live life.
08:18I came knowing my sexuality was different than the masses.
08:24I came knowing that I've been seeking freedom around that subject for almost as long as
08:31I can remember, I came being who I am because I know at some level I want to be who I really
08:39am.
08:40I didn't come needing to hook up with somebody else in order to be who I am.
08:45I came to be who I am knowing that hooking up with others would help me to know who I
08:49am.
08:50I love the co-creating with others to help me to identify who I am.
08:55I believe that it is important for me to sift through data in order to come to my conclusions
09:02about what I want.
09:04I believe that it's right for me to get to choose how I want to be in a relationship.
09:10I believe that there are a lot of other people around this planet who have come as I have
09:16with a sexuality that is different from maybe the masses who are a vibrational match to
09:22me.
09:23I believe that there are others who seek monogamy in relationships as I do.
09:29I believe that as long as my vibration is in line with what I want that the universe
09:34will deliver to me what I want.
09:37And I didn't know how much I wanted that until in my sloppy vibration.
09:41In my knowing what I didn't want and pushing very hard against that I actually activated
09:45a vibration of what I didn't want and so therefore got what I didn't want.
09:48And I like knowing that I'm not an exception to the law of attraction.
09:51I like knowing that I got sort of what was in my vibration.
09:54But I like now knowing that I got to clean that up.
09:56I can't just want that.
09:58I have to be a vibrational match to that.
10:00I can't push against not monogamy in order to get monogamy.
10:05I have to resonate with that.
10:08I like the idea of a partner who is a partner only with me.
10:13And I like it for this reason and this reason and this reason.
10:16I do believe that there are others who feel as I do and I do believe that law of attraction
10:21can bring us together.
10:22So did I have sloppy vibration in that I attracted her into my life 27 years ago?
10:26But all kinds of people do that.
10:28In other words this is the story of monogamy as compared to having many partners.
10:33So let's say that you want monogamy and someone else wants the freedom of experience with
10:40other people.
10:41So you meet this person and for lots of reasons, you find yourselves attracted to one another,
10:46but your vibration is not pure about what you want because you're worried about that.
10:51You think about it, you push against it.
10:53The other person may not be a vibrational match to what you want and may even be pushing
10:57against that.
10:58But the most important thing to know is if you're worried about something, it's in your
11:02vibration.
11:03So the very thing that you don't want to happen is active in your vibration.
11:06Are you suggesting that I was worried about non-monogamy in the relationship?
11:10Yeah.
11:11We're suggesting that almost everybody is.
11:13Almost everybody is worried about what the other person is going to do.
11:16And at the basis of that is belief that you don't have control of your own experience
11:20unless you're able to control another.
11:22That's why your marriage vows are so controlling.
11:24I couldn't control her.
11:25Until death do us part we will like each other no matter how bad we are to each other.
11:31Well, that's curious because my first relationship all through college, the same thing happened.
11:36She was non monogamous, had multiple affairs, and she ended up leaving me for another woman.
11:41And then I repeat the same pattern.
11:43So is that because you have the same vibration going in?
11:46And isn't it logical that you would have the same vibration the second time around?
11:51No, I'd want to change it because you were remembering the first and isn't it logical
11:54that you might still have it going on because of the second.
11:57And that's really the point of unconditional alignment and unconditional love that we're
12:01talking about.
12:02You got to find some way to resonate with what you really want apart from what happened.
12:06But when you experience the contrast, don't you want to change that?
12:09Well, of course you do.
12:11And that's step one already happened.
12:12You put all of that in your vortex, but you didn't stay true to your vortex.
12:16You worried more about what was going to happen.
12:19So now going forward, once I do end up getting divorced and start to date, how can I ensure
12:24that I'm going to find a partner who will be monogamous?
12:27You can't at this point.
12:28You can't at this point because it's still active in your vibration.
12:31And we think that that's why your reluctance to get on with this is because you haven't
12:35received closure yet, because you're still talking about it.
12:38You're still pushing against it.
12:39You're still trying to make how you feel somebody else's fault.
12:43You're still trying to make where you are.
12:46The fault of someone else.
12:47And until you accept that it was active in your vibration, and until you are certain
12:52that it's not active in your vibration, then you're right.
12:55You will repeat it again because you take yourself with you.
12:58People sometimes say, Abraham, this relationship isn't very good.
13:01Do you think I should leave?
13:02And sometimes we say, yes, maybe that is the path of least resistance, but remember, you'll
13:05be taking yourself with you.
13:07So now we think you better get out of town too, because there's stuff in town.
13:09You don't like, now you've got to get out of this state because there's stuff, but everywhere
13:13you go, you sort of take who you are.
13:15So what you're wanting to say, what we've romped around this focus will to say is I
13:20get to feel the way I want to feel, and I want to feel good about this.
13:24I get to make the choices that I want to make.
13:27It's not wrong for you to feel that way.
13:29And it's not wrong for her to feel that way.
13:30It's just that two people who didn't feel the same way, matched up with each other and
13:34tried to control each other.
13:35That's what doesn't go well.
13:37This is a great big place with all kinds of people who are a vibrational match to what
13:40you want.
13:41But right now you're not going to get what you want.
13:43You're going to get what you don't want, because what you don't want is more active in your
13:46vibration because what you've been living has your undivided attention or nearly so.
13:50This was a really good conversation.
13:53Really good.
13:54Good time for a segment of peeing.