NOVA is an adult entertainer and lives in Melbourne, Australia with her partner of five years, James. The pair met through a sugar daddy website and despite the age gap they fell in love. The biggest thing he has gifted her was her apartment as well as a new engine for her car and the usual things like jewellery and clothes. He invested almost $400,000 into Nova’s business to help her buy an apartment so that she had space to livestream and film content. In the beginning, their relationship was purely an arrangement. Eventually they fell in love. They then established they were in a relationship once Nova graduated. Nova’s family had concerns whether they were both in the relationship for the right reasons, considering the circumstances in which they met. They get the most judgement in public, people stare, gossip behind their hands and wonder whether she is his daughter or an escort when they go check into hotels. They are not bothered by it and like to have fun and play up to people’s assumptions. In this episode of Love Don't Judge, the pair chat with their friend Mia about what she thinks of their unconventional relationship.
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00:00 This is Nova. She fell in love with...
00:03 James.
00:04 I fell in love with his money, but then I fell in love with him.
00:08 It was really only a matter of weeks before we graduated from sugaring to boyfriend/girlfriend.
00:14 James has bought Nova a lot of expensive gifts.
00:18 And an apartment.
00:19 And the apartment.
00:20 $460,000.
00:22 We do receive judgment.
00:24 Disgusting. Find someone your own age.
00:26 Did the money buy happiness?
00:28 Yes, yes it did.
00:29 How's an old man gonna please a woman like this?
00:32 Today their friend is coming around to give her opinion on the unusual relationship.
00:37 What did you think when you first saw us?
00:40 Father and daughter.
00:41 And when we kissed on the lips?
00:42 Well, that was a little bit shocking.
00:44 I'm Nova and I'm 29.
00:49 And I'm James and I'm 63.
00:52 I am a spicy content creator and I do live streaming. Adult live streaming.
00:59 James and I met on a sugar daddy, sugar baby website a few years ago now.
01:06 I had a number of sugar babies before Nova and I met.
01:10 I just found it a more straightforward way of meeting people.
01:12 You've been on a few sugar dating websites and I've been on a couple.
01:17 You were the last person I was going to meet before I gave up.
01:19 I know.
01:20 Yeah, I know, I know.
01:21 Lucky me.
01:22 It's nearly five years that we've been together.
01:25 Best five years of my life.
01:28 Nova was pretty quickly a soulmate.
01:32 I liked him as a person, not just as a sugar daddy.
01:36 I am ready for some feta.
01:38 Great.
01:39 Ready?
01:39 Our arrangement changed when I'd been living with you for a few weeks
01:44 and I started to feel that there was something more than sugar going on between us.
01:49 I said I love you first, but I think you were never going to say it.
01:55 No, I was too scared to say such a thing.
01:58 We get a lot of misconceptions about our relationship
02:01 and I think the biggest one is that it's not a real relationship.
02:04 That we're still a sugar relationship, that James is providing me with finance
02:08 and I'm providing him with the sugar in return.
02:11 We've got a little bit of negative comments online when we post things about ourselves.
02:18 Disgusting.
02:19 Find someone your own age.
02:20 That's presumably directed at me.
02:22 She can't really be happy with it.
02:25 Did the money buy happiness?
02:26 Yes, yes it did.
02:27 Thanks for asking.
02:29 How's an old man going to please a woman like this?
02:32 It's a mystery.
02:34 No comment.
02:35 Most of the doubts have been about whether there was a genuine affection there
02:40 or whether it was just the money really.
02:43 Yeah, you're no longer my sugar daddy.
02:45 I'm earning my own money now.
02:46 It is a true, authentic, genuine, partnered relationship.
02:52 When we're out in public there's often people who stop and stare.
02:56 We've had photos taken.
02:57 People are always looking at us.
02:59 They turn towards us and look over their shoulder at us
03:03 or tap on their friend's shoulder to make sure that they've seen us as well.
03:08 I don't think we're anything special.
03:11 We're just existing and living our lives and doing what we normally do every day.
03:15 Sometimes I find it exciting when we're going out together
03:20 because I know people are going to look...
03:22 I'll make myself look extra nice or wear a really short skirt or a little dress.
03:27 So when people are looking they've got something to look at.
03:31 Today our friend Mia is going to come over and she's going to talk to us about
03:36 how she felt when she first learned about our relationship.
03:40 Hi, so nice to see you.
03:42 How's it going?
03:43 Hi.
03:44 Come on in, let's go have a drink.
03:47 Mia, what did you think about me and James when you first saw us?
03:51 What did you think about our dynamic?
03:54 Father and daughter, like you were obviously so close
03:58 and I think just the way that you were together
04:01 reminded me a lot of how I am with my dad.
04:03 And when we kissed on the lips?
04:05 Well that was a little bit shocking.
04:07 We were like, that's not our dad.
04:09 It can't be, it can't be.
04:12 And if it is, that's a whole other story.
04:16 James has bought me a few very expensive items.
04:18 Now I'm not quite sure how much they've really cost but this one is my favourite.
04:22 It is a blue topaz ring with some diamonds.
04:27 If you must know, three and a half thousand.
04:28 Blue sapphire earrings and how much did these ones cost?
04:32 Fifteen hundred.
04:33 And an apartment.
04:35 And the apartment.
04:37 Four hundred and sixty thousand.
04:38 I had to obviously get over that initial shock of, okay that's not her dad.
04:44 But I think we live in an area that's pretty liberal, not conservative.
04:49 When you found out that Nova was an online entertainer, what did you make of that?
04:54 I was like, tell me more.
04:56 Like it's fascinating right?
04:59 Because you don't expect like in any neighbourhood to have somebody
05:03 in the neighbourhood who makes spicy content.
05:06 Yeah.
05:07 And I think it's incredibly empowering.
05:09 I think Nova is amazing because she makes that content and absolutely genuinely.
05:14 And I think, well done.
05:16 And I say, go woman.
05:18 I do still buy Nova nice things I think.
05:26 People make assumptions that it's about money or depravity or some combination of the two.
05:33 Yeah, or that we're in it to get something from each other.
05:37 People react with a lot of judgment.
05:40 And what about friends?
05:41 Do you have any friends who are like, this is stupid, what are you doing?
05:45 Yeah.
05:46 That person's not right for you, the age gap is too much.
05:48 I had friends that really kind of questioned.
05:51 They were really into the sugaring relationship because they were also doing sugaring.
05:55 So they thought, wow, I've caught a good one.
05:58 Drag him through, like take everything, get in the well, you know, good on you.
06:02 But then when it evolved beyond that, they still had that mentality that I was here
06:06 for the long game, that I'm in it for money.
06:09 But it went beyond that.
06:11 Now that you've known us for a little while, what do you think of our relationship now?
06:14 I like the dynamics of your relationship.
06:19 You can tell you're genuinely happy, that you work well together, that you have fun,
06:23 that you understand each other, which I think is really important in a relationship.
06:29 And that, you know, you keep proving those who may judge you wrong.
06:33 That, you know, love is love.
06:36 Cheers.
06:36 Yeah, thank you.
06:37 Cheers.
06:38 To be honest, I thought it was going to be a lot more
06:42 hardcore in terms of inappropriate relationships, but she was really cool.
06:47 It was great.
06:47 James, the thing I love most about you is your ability to see good in many things.
06:58 You don't just talk the talk, you walk the walk.
07:01 You do what you believe in.
07:03 And I admire that so much about you.
07:06 Our relationship works because it's fundamentally honest.
07:11 We have always been absolutely transparent about where we are and what we want.
07:19 We live great together.
07:21 We have a good life together as well.
07:23 I'd like to say to the people who judge us,
07:26 they need to learn more about relationships and real love and
07:33 how it can be found in unusual places.
07:35 And it can even be found when you're not looking for it.
07:38 And the people that just want to comment nasty things about us need to get a hobby.
07:43 How boring must your life be?
07:45 I hope one day you're as happy as we are.
07:47 That's what I would like to say.
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