Aired (February 24, 2024): Labis na nagpapasalamat si Ricky Mae Davao sa kanyang mga magulang na sina Jackie Lou Blanco at Ricky Davao dahil sa pagtanggap at suporta na nakuha niya nang aminin niya sa mga ito na parte siya ng LGBTQIA+ community.
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00:05 All right, in life, we experience a lot of things that we don't expect.
00:13 And along with that, of course, we learn a lot.
00:18 I like that.
00:19 We learn a lot that it will be more fun, especially with our loved ones.
00:26 Today, we will talk to Mina Mahal, of course, no one else but Jackie and Rikki May.
00:33 Yes, thank you.
00:34 And this is your first time.
00:35 Yes.
00:36 I mean, you're the one who will be interviewed when we talk about this topic.
00:39 Because when we talk off-camera, it's always you who's asked.
00:43 It's always me.
00:44 So, okay, let's ask Rikki May.
00:46 Because it was 2015 when you told your parents.
00:49 Yes, yes, 2015.
00:51 But when did you know?
00:52 When did you feel that, "Oh, this is me"?
00:54 So, grade 3, around 9 or 10, I already had a crush on my classmates.
00:59 But I don't understand, I still don't understand what is being gay, what is same-sex relationship.
01:06 It's just I know that I'm attracted to my classmates.
01:11 Because, of course, 9 years old, 10 years old, what do you know?
01:13 What do you know?
01:14 We don't know, "This girl, we don't know."
01:18 Because you were just attracted to?
01:20 To same-sex.
01:21 As I got older, and as we learned in class, and you know, external,
01:26 then I realized, "Okay, it's something that's not so accepted yet."
01:30 But I think me, as a person, and I'm grateful that my parents also instilled in me an attitude that, "It's just like that."
01:39 "Okay, whatever."
01:41 So, the role of people in your life is very important.
01:46 So, yeah, I think it was a unique experience, but it's not like scarring.
01:54 Thank God, because there are a lot of experiences, you know, bullying, etc.
01:59 So, what happened in 2015?
02:01 Why did you have the courage to tell your parents?
02:06 Because my girlfriend at that time wanted me to tell you.
02:11 That's the only reason why.
02:13 Okay, it's not because of you.
02:15 Shout out to you!
02:17 That's why we're here today.
02:20 No, she said, she would tell me, "Mama, I didn't think I needed to tell you because I know you already know."
02:26 That's it.
02:27 No, but go back to when I told you.
02:29 It took me so long to tell you.
02:31 Yeah, 15 minutes standing up.
02:32 About 30 minutes.
02:33 I was like, the two of them were standing up, I was like, "It's been a long time."
02:37 We were just looking at each other.
02:38 She's already a pet, right?
02:39 I said, "Ricky May, do you want me to tell you what I think you will tell Mama?"
02:45 She said, "No, Mama, I have to be the one to tell you."
02:48 It's just hard to say.
02:50 It's been a long time.
02:51 Why do you think it's hard to say?
02:55 But, because it's hard to say if you know that your parents or your family won't accept you.
03:03 I can understand that, but in your relationship with your parents.
03:07 I didn't realize that it would be hard.
03:10 That it took me 30 minutes to tell you and muster my courage.
03:13 Why?
03:14 Because I know that you and Dad love me, but I don't know how you'll react.
03:20 I don't know how you'll react.
03:22 I can only hope that it will bank on our love and our relationship.
03:26 But you never know.
03:27 I have friends that have been thrown out, sent to the convent.
03:31 I realized why it's so hard to say a part of who I am.
03:37 If I can't say it, am I ashamed?
03:40 I said, "No, I have to say it."
03:42 Because it means something for me to really put it out there.
03:46 What advice can you give to those who want to admit what they can and can't do?
03:54 It's difficult to give just one piece of advice because it depends on the circumstance.
03:59 I always say, if you're mustering up the courage to say it,
04:05 I always advise to go first, not to your parents, but to your friends,
04:10 and to maybe your cousins or someone that you feel comfortable with,
04:14 so that you feel that support.
04:15 The support is so important.
04:17 If you go first to the parents and then suddenly, "Engk!"
04:20 Then you might feel that you're not on the same page.
04:23 You might feel depressed because you don't have a friend.
04:26 But if you know that, "Okay, my parents are not accepting right now,
04:30 but I have a sister, a brother, and cousins."
04:33 So you're saying you need a support group.
04:35 You have other people to rely on.
04:37 Yes, a support group that you can trust.
04:41 Jackie, for the parents,
04:43 when we feel that, "Oh, this is how it is, but how can I..."
04:50 Because it's okay if they're accepting.
04:52 But if you're accepting, and you don't have a problem with it,
04:55 what about the mothers or fathers who are really having a hard time accepting?
05:01 I know it's easier said than done.
05:03 But I think if you focus on the fact that you love your child,
05:08 I think little by little, everything will just be okay.
05:12 Jackie and I will not be the only ones to talk about this.
05:17 We have a surprise for you.
05:19 Watch this.
05:21 I found out because she wrote me a letter.
05:26 I remember it was a yellow pad.
05:28 And then she told me in the letter, it's quite a long letter,
05:34 that she's different and that if it's okay to be what she wants.
05:44 And of course, I accepted it right away.
05:48 No hesitation, nothing.
05:51 I just told her where she's happy, she's happy there.
05:58 And I'm happy there.
06:00 So, from then on, everything was okay.
06:06 And I'm very, very happy for her.
06:08 I'm proud of her.
06:11 So, Ricky May, good luck to you.
06:14 And you know, Papa will always be Papa for you.
06:20 And I will always be here for you.
06:23 You know that.
06:25 And good luck to all your endeavors.
06:29 I love you.
06:33 You're not so cute.
06:34 Love you, Dad.
06:36 That's why Dorian closed yesterday.
06:38 He said, "I'll just do a video."
06:43 So, that's why.
06:44 Yes.
06:45 But my dad always, both of them, I can't say anything.
06:50 Maybe if they weren't the way they are, then I wouldn't be as comfortable with who I am.
06:57 So, love you, Dad.
06:59 See you at home.
07:00 Thank you so much, Jackie and Ricky May.
07:04 Thank you.
07:05 Okay, up next, I have Bubay and Tecla, who will sit on our hot seat.
07:12 That's why we'll just clap because Sarapiba will continue.
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