When to Drop "Friendships"
"Why do some people go through life without significant and meaningful goals? I have a friend who is 41 in a few months and she has no savings and no real dreams. I know she wants a domestic life and wanted a family at one point, but things didn’t work out with the guy she was in love with and now she’s living very casually, like a young adult. I’m 34 and I’ve been trying to get my life together. I’ve got some savings and I’m being persistent about my goals. My friend recently returned from travelling and I lent her $ because she was completely without a dollar to her name. I noticed that since then she has been a bit resentful towards me, she in some way feels entitled to help from me but I can’t help her anymore. She tells herself that the reason she isn’t well is that people won’t help her, but they do and she never has enough resources to help anyone else. I’ve reflected on it and I’ve realized that her problem is she doesn’t really want anything for herself or others with passion. There isn’t anything meaningful that drives her forward in life, she is aimless. I worry that as time goes by it will be more difficult for her to avoid her own lack of motivation by relying on the sympathy of others. She is very intelligent and creative. Great language skills and very quick to learn new skills. It appears the only thing holding her back is a mental construct. How can she find passion for a goal that will incentivize her to accumulate resources and an independent sense of security? What will happen if she doesn’t?"
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00:00:00 Alright, there's my big intro.
00:00:05 Alright, questions from freedomain.locals.com.
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00:00:10 Alright, why do some people go through life without significant and meaningful goals?
00:00:16 I have a friend who's 41 in a few months and she has no savings and no real dreams.
00:00:22 I know she wants a domestic life and wanted a family at one point but things didn't work
00:00:25 out with the guy she was in love with and now she's living very casually like a young
00:00:30 adult.
00:00:31 I'm 34 and I've been trying to get my life together.
00:00:32 I've got some savings and I'm being persistent about my goals.
00:00:36 My friend recently returned from traveling, sorry I shouldn't laugh, and I lent her dollars
00:00:40 because she was completely without a dollar to her name.
00:00:43 I noticed that since then she's been a bit resentful towards me.
00:00:46 She, in some way, feels entitled to help from me but I can't help her anymore.
00:00:52 She tells herself that the reason she isn't well is that people won't help her but they
00:00:56 do and she never has enough resources to help anyone else.
00:00:59 I've reflected on it and I've realized that her problem is she doesn't really want anything
00:01:04 for herself or others with passion.
00:01:06 There isn't anything meaningful that drives her forward in life.
00:01:08 She's aimless.
00:01:09 I worry that as time goes by it will be more difficult for her to avoid her own lack of
00:01:13 motivation by relying on the sympathy of others.
00:01:16 She's very intelligent and creative, great language skills and very quick to learn new
00:01:20 skills.
00:01:21 It appears the only thing holding her back is a mental construct.
00:01:25 How can she find passion for a goal that will incentivize her to accumulate resources and
00:01:31 an independent self with security?
00:01:33 What will happen if she doesn't?
00:01:35 Well well well, what a big deep and great question.
00:01:38 And I've lived that kind of do the next thing and trundle on week by week and I've done
00:01:45 that kind of stuff and I understand that sort of perspective and this mindset.
00:01:51 So you know I mean there are forces in society, you know big and powerful forces that want
00:01:57 to destroy the way that the West is.
00:02:01 Now the way, the best way to destroy a country, a culture, a mindset, a way of life is to
00:02:11 tell people to delay and to bribe them with rewards if they delay, if they postpone.
00:02:20 To never have them grow up and to do that you need to keep a great sense of mortality
00:02:25 from them.
00:02:27 Now if you can keep a great sense of mortality particularly from women, time passing, you
00:02:33 know the sort of famous wall that hits women past reproductive age, if you can just tell
00:02:39 them you know have fun and travel and be empowered, like whatever nonsense you have to tell women
00:02:45 in particular.
00:02:46 And the reason they target women is because women have a shorter reproductive lifespan
00:02:49 than men, right?
00:02:50 Men can have kids into their 70s or 80s.
00:02:53 I mean it's not massively recommended for a variety of reasons but it's sort of physically
00:02:57 possible.
00:02:58 So the reason that women would be targeted is because if you can tell women, well what
00:03:05 do you tell women to do?
00:03:06 You tell women to go get educated, you tell women to sleep around, you tell women to travel,
00:03:12 you tell women to have careers, you tell women to girlboss, you have all of this stuff and
00:03:19 what you do is you just tell them to enjoy themselves until they can't have kids anymore.
00:03:28 I mean 41, no relationship, she's not going to have any kids.
00:03:32 She's 41, she's broke, she's no relationship, she's not going to have it now.
00:03:37 I mean I guess she could probably get one past the goalie by accident but you know it's
00:03:42 extremely unlikely and if she did she'd almost certainly be a single mother.
00:03:46 Because any man who wants kids isn't going to, no matter how pretty she is, any man who
00:03:50 wants kids isn't going to date a broke 41 year old woman.
00:03:57 Because I mean you got a date, you could hopefully get married and get used to all of that and
00:04:02 then you know she's going to be in her mid 40s.
00:04:04 It's just not going to happen.
00:04:06 Maybe, I don't know, and of course the risks of disorders and genetic issues at that age
00:04:11 are, well, they're higher if I understand the data correctly.
00:04:16 Obviously look it up for yourself.
00:04:18 So you tell women don't worry about the passage of time, don't think about the passage of
00:04:23 time and having fun and being empowered and what you do is you just get ageist women.
00:04:32 There was this picture of Demi Moore who's now 61 and yeah she looks fantastic.
00:04:37 I mean she looks 40, right?
00:04:40 So you tell women that what matters is how you look, is the outside.
00:04:47 If you're still pretty then you're still of value.
00:04:51 But of course pretty is a proxy for fertile.
00:04:55 Pretty is a proxy for fertile and no matter how pretty you look on the outside you're
00:05:02 still aging on the inside.
00:05:04 There's no makeup for eggs as I've mentioned many times before.
00:05:07 If you have a car that's not running, right, it won't start and the car won't start, it's
00:05:14 not working, doesn't run.
00:05:15 If you have a car that's not running would you say, well, the thing to do you see, well
00:05:20 what we need to do with this car is give it a new paint job and you see that way it looks
00:05:25 like a new car.
00:05:27 Now if you try and sell this, you know, hey look at this car, it looks brand new and then
00:05:33 someone gets in and tries to start it and it won't start, will they buy the car?
00:05:37 This is makeup and eggs, right?
00:05:39 It's true that a new car will run and a new car has a fresh paint job but putting a fresh
00:05:46 paint job on an old car doesn't make it a new car and putting makeup on and dyeing your
00:05:50 hair and working out or whatever you want to do doesn't make your eggs any younger.
00:05:54 It doesn't change what's under the hood.
00:05:56 It's just the externals.
00:05:59 It's just the externals.
00:06:02 If you have some rotten old house where the air conditioning and the heating doesn't work
00:06:05 and the electricity sparks every time you plug something in, then painting the outside
00:06:11 of the house doesn't fix any of the problems inside, right?
00:06:16 And so what you do is you try to convince women that what's important is to be attractive,
00:06:22 not to be loved.
00:06:24 What's important is to be attractive, not to be loved.
00:06:28 So you come up with this wild technology and Ellen DeGeneres and Sandra Bullock were talking
00:06:33 about this how they use face creams or I think Sandra Bullock uses a face cream that's made
00:06:38 from genitally mutilated Asian little boys, baby boys.
00:06:44 I mean if that's not a straight up Aztec ritual smearing the medical detritus from genital
00:06:51 mutilation on your face to look a little younger, I mean if that's just not about as monstrous
00:06:56 and evil a thing as I can imagine, I don't know what is.
00:06:59 So the important thing is not to be loved but to be attractive and Sex in the City which
00:07:05 was a 90s show I think on HBO was very big on this.
00:07:11 I was quite curious about this.
00:07:12 I remember being out at some place and there was a Sex in the City themed party for young
00:07:19 women and I went in just out of curiosity and chatted with a couple of the young women
00:07:24 and more lost souls I have rarely seen.
00:07:31 And that show was I think it ran for six seasons and the women went from the age of 30 to the
00:07:37 age of obviously 36 and there was not one successful relationship among them and it
00:07:44 was really sad.
00:07:45 It was a really, really just a sad show.
00:07:49 Just a very sad show.
00:07:50 Now of course the amount of bribery is there in the show, right?
00:07:55 We haven't had any genuine art in over a century in the West.
00:08:00 It's all been manipulation and subversion.
00:08:04 And so there's this character Samantha who is very affected in her speech and very fake
00:08:11 and fabulous.
00:08:15 People with highly affected speech I just I find kind of skin crawling.
00:08:18 I find myself the false self advertisement is just so intense.
00:08:22 But she's I mean I don't think they ever go through her age but she's afraid of being
00:08:26 a menopause.
00:08:27 I think she's in like 47 or 48 or something like that.
00:08:30 And the actress Kim Cattrall she is a great figure.
00:08:32 She's pretty.
00:08:33 It's like one in 10,000 women can look that way in their late 40s.
00:08:41 And you know all they do is they have these kind of nothing burger jobs and they go to
00:08:48 lunches and brunches and they go to Pilates and they go for dinners and they go to night
00:08:54 clubs and they I mean it's I mean for women in their mid-30s it's a really sad life.
00:09:00 But this character Samantha I don't know if she has a last name but she's in her late
00:09:05 40s and she gets to sleep with incredibly gorgeous male models.
00:09:11 I mean that's just straight up bribery.
00:09:13 I mean I hate to say it.
00:09:16 That's just straight up.
00:09:17 I mean not only are they the male models incredibly like unbelievably gorgeous but they're also
00:09:24 not insane.
00:09:25 Right.
00:09:26 Like like like what 23 year old incredible hunk is going to sleep with a woman in her
00:09:32 late 40s unless he's got seriously disturbed mommy issues.
00:09:34 Right.
00:09:35 I mean he would be really crazy and disturbed and probably a drug addict or like it would
00:09:39 just be really really but no he's like cool and fun and healthy.
00:09:43 Right.
00:09:44 And they roll around in bed and she has a great time.
00:09:46 So saying to women well you can you can you can be in your late 40s and you can sleep
00:09:52 with male supermodels.
00:09:54 Oh my gosh.
00:09:57 I mean it is straight up bribery.
00:09:59 And so if the women don't be appearing to age then if you get women to focus on how
00:10:04 attractive they are rather than how loved they are then they will fail to note the passage
00:10:12 of time.
00:10:13 Now they'll have this anxiety about the passage of time because deep down we all know that
00:10:16 it's happening but they will be lulled into it.
00:10:20 So I mean there are all of these psyops out there to get women to miss having kids to
00:10:25 not have kids.
00:10:26 Right.
00:10:27 I mean this is not not accidental.
00:10:28 It's it's really it's a terrible assault on demographics and continuity and culture and
00:10:33 happiness but of course telling women to sleep around destroys their capacity to pair bond.
00:10:41 Sorry not just telling women but if women believe it and and sleep around.
00:10:45 You know hookup culture.
00:10:46 Right.
00:10:47 So telling women to sleep around destroys their capacity to pair bond.
00:10:51 Now the mechanics for this are not particularly certain other than you get mistrustful and
00:10:56 your heart gets scarred and and and so on.
00:10:58 Right.
00:10:59 I mean if you keep breaking and re-breaking your arm you're going to lose mobility and
00:11:03 strength I think over time.
00:11:05 But I think one of the things that happens that is not discussed which I wanted to touch
00:11:08 on briefly here.
00:11:09 So it's pretty important for women.
00:11:11 So I've talked about this before in the sort of one to ten scale of attractiveness a woman
00:11:15 can jump up three or four points just by sleeping with a man.
00:11:20 In other words a five can get a nine if she'll sleep with him because the nine you know if
00:11:24 there's no other girl around and he can sleep with the five he'll you know the male he'll
00:11:28 often take that because well we're men and that's just how we've how we've how we've
00:11:34 evolved and how women have chosen us to be right now in the sexual market place.
00:11:39 So one of the reasons why sleeping around destroys a woman's capacity to pair bond is
00:11:45 it raises her expectations of who will commit to her because she's subsidizing her attractiveness
00:11:51 with sexual access.
00:11:53 So the woman who is a six who sleeps with a nine thinks that she deserves a nine because
00:11:59 he will sleep with her and then she can't pair bond with a six because a six is now
00:12:04 below her.
00:12:05 Right.
00:12:06 She can't pair bond.
00:12:07 So this is not just looks it's just a variety of things right.
00:12:11 And of course they call them alpha widows right this is not a particular I mean I think
00:12:14 talking about it regarding pair bonding is fairly original but the alpha widow the woman
00:12:19 who sleeps with a bunch of top tier men but can't get them to commit to her.
00:12:24 So it's an alpha widow.
00:12:26 So she can't pair bond because she is under the illusion that she can she deserves a nine
00:12:35 when she's only a six.
00:12:36 Now I mean the analogy for men would be your daddy out of college your daddy makes you
00:12:42 vice president of his company right.
00:12:44 He owns a company and nepotism 101 he makes you vice president of his company and you
00:12:50 think you deserve being a vice president right.
00:12:54 But then your father's business goes out of business it goes bankrupt and then you start
00:13:01 applying for jobs.
00:13:02 Your dad's out of business he's retired or whatever his business goes bankrupt and you
00:13:06 start applying for jobs and you say well I was a vice president right.
00:13:12 And any sensible employer will look at your resume right and they will say oh so you got
00:13:18 out of college at 21 or 22 and you were immediately a vice president how did that happen.
00:13:24 Say oh it was my father's business.
00:13:26 So then any decent or reasonable and then what happened you find well my father's business
00:13:30 went out of business right.
00:13:32 So that's a huge red flag for any employer right because you were given a position of
00:13:36 significant responsibility by your father and then the company went out of business
00:13:40 which means you weren't prepared you weren't ready you weren't mentored you weren't coached
00:13:43 you weren't competent you weren't able you weren't successful in fact you were the exact
00:13:47 opposite of successful in that you were vice president in your father's company when it
00:13:52 orgered in as an old business partner of mine used to say when it when it created when it
00:13:56 crashed.
00:13:58 So nobody's going to hire you for a vice president position because daddy gave it to you and
00:14:01 you destroyed the company or at least were pretty key and high up when you so no one's
00:14:06 going to give you that vice president position.
00:14:09 But the problem is that you think that you deserve a vice president position.
00:14:15 So the idea that you would get some entry-level position that you would downgrade from vice
00:14:21 president to some entry-level position well that's going to be appalling to you right.
00:14:27 You're going to be enraged horrified upset and it's going to be brutal on your ego and
00:14:32 the other thing too is that no one's going to hire you for an entry-level position which
00:14:37 is kind of what you deserve nobody's going to hire you for an entry-level position if
00:14:41 you think you should be a vice president because you're going to be dissatisfied and you're
00:14:46 also going to annoy the living hell out of your co-workers because you can say well I
00:14:49 was a vice president and blah blah blah blah blah right.
00:14:52 So it's just going to be terrible and you're toast right because you can't get vice president
00:14:59 and no one's going to hire you for anything less because it's too much of a downgrade.
00:15:03 So you're and this is a woman who right uses sexual availability to get a higher quality
00:15:11 male than she would get just through her personality and so she can't be satisfied with who she
00:15:18 deserves who she's earned right to convince women to sleep around.
00:15:23 You also of course tell them about freezing your eggs and then you highly publicize these
00:15:28 these celebrities who have children in their 40s using god knows what biomechanical magic
00:15:34 voodoo from hell to have babies or in their 50s and what that does oh well I can still
00:15:39 have women I can still have kids in my 40s I can still have kids and maybe even in my
00:15:42 50s and you know of course it all turns out to be egg frozen surrogacy stuff but nonetheless
00:15:48 you just convince women to waste time.
00:15:56 The passage of time doesn't matter you're functionally immortal and because you can
00:16:01 remain attractive you don't have to worry about fertility because you can really like
00:16:08 you don't need to maintain the car because the only thing that matters is the paint job.
00:16:15 And then of course what happens is the car becomes a total wreck which is the psyche
00:16:19 of women who sleep around and travel and waste time and have a whole series of tragic short-term
00:16:25 relationships quote relationships so the engine gets wrecked and they say well just slap a
00:16:30 fresh coat of paint on it and all that maybe put it put a sound system in that makes it
00:16:35 sound like the engine is revving or you know whatever it is right and then you put out
00:16:39 psyops as well which is that boy did you know that that women in their 40s have a massively
00:16:44 high sex drive right so then like the cougar thing so then what happens is men will sleep
00:16:53 with the older women because men will young men will sleep with just about anything and
00:16:58 so you put out the psyop that older women have this massive sex drive and then maybe
00:17:03 some younger men will sleep with them and you stuff up the growing holes of their concern
00:17:08 so to speak with man meat.
00:17:11 So you do all of this stuff to women it's important to get your career going it's important
00:17:17 to be educated you sow them full of distrust against men and then because their lust will
00:17:23 have them sleep with men and then the men will betray them because they're sleeping
00:17:26 too high they're aiming too high they get more and more bitter and entitled and we are
00:17:31 women are wonderful you tell women that they're wonderful just for breathing just for existing
00:17:34 in that way they don't work at moral improvement right so if you tell someone that they're
00:17:39 perfect you are hypnotizing them into decaying right if you tell if you if you tell women
00:17:46 that they're wonderful then you are hypnotizing them into moral decay right and I saw this
00:17:54 video the other day and I've seen a couple of variations on this but the video was a
00:17:59 woman me crying because I don't have children and she was like it was really unbelievable
00:18:03 right to me it's frankly unbelievable but it was a woman who was lying in bed pretending
00:18:08 to cry and wiping her tears with expensive handbags right so this is the thing right
00:18:15 materialism right materialism and materialism is you don't have children but you have handbags
00:18:23 which honestly is like literally the most depressing thing I've seen in a while like
00:18:27 it's just it's beyond depressing it's beyond appalling it's beyond horrifying to me you
00:18:32 know as a father myself like the idea that you don't have children who love you but you
00:18:43 have handbags I don't I don't know what to say it's almost beyond belief it all it almost
00:18:50 is beyond belief and of course you know the promotion of materialism is is pretty important
00:18:55 so you have to look good you don't have to be good that's a fundamental satanic offer
00:18:59 look good I'll bribe you with sense pleasures I'll bribe you with sex and hot guys who use
00:19:04 you for sex and move on I mean the woman the main woman Carrie Bradshaw is her name played
00:19:11 by Sarah Jessica Parker who is I mean completely a bizarre character in my mind because she
00:19:16 just she has the oh it did just drive me they drove me crazy when I dipped into the show
00:19:21 like just this these giggles and you know this is constant little girly stuff and it's
00:19:25 like lady you're in your mid-30s what are you giggling like a 14 year old for but she
00:19:32 is a good guy a good guy proposes to her wants to marry her and she's like 35 and you know
00:19:40 he's tall he's good-looking he's got a great job or a good job he's a good guy he's not
00:19:45 mean he's you know they I guess have sexual chemistry together and what does she say I'm
00:19:51 not ready it's like lady you're in your mid-30s what do you mean you're not ready I'm not
00:19:56 ready not ready well I mean so so what does she choose later on in the show she has bad
00:20:04 sex with a guy and ends up with her neck half shattered and has to walk around in constant
00:20:10 pain that's what she gave up marriage for she's not ready I've got to go and have my
00:20:16 neck half broken by a guy who's hammering at me like he's drilling for oil it's vile
00:20:25 it's vile right so what you do is I mean what the culture does is it focuses on young women
00:20:31 and it tells them to girl boss to delay it also tells them the lie that what men are
00:20:37 looking for is male characteristics right you got to be tough you got to be strong you
00:20:43 got to kick ass you got to be a girl boss you got to and all that right I saw a text
00:20:50 message exchange on social media the other day like it just a screenshot and it was a
00:20:56 guy who had some pickup line and it was a fairly young attractive guy he had a pickup
00:21:03 line and the woman said really that's the best that's the best you got and he said wow
00:21:07 you're 30 and you're choosing to come off all aggressive again it's kind of incomprehensible
00:21:14 to men like men like to have authority over the things that men care about right and women
00:21:20 like to have authority over the things that women care about it's great and we've designed
00:21:24 to fit together like jigsaw puzzle pieces and a woman who won't cede authority on anything
00:21:31 emasculates a man and men spoiler men don't like to feel emasculated men don't like to
00:21:38 feel emasculated and if women don't give us our sphere of authority just as we give women
00:21:42 their sphere of authority we don't we don't like it you know what man wants to spend especially
00:21:49 when you are right about things like what man wants to spend his life fighting with
00:21:53 a woman over things he knows better I mean so I mean you can see this men are pointing
00:22:00 out particular threats in society and women won't listen there's danger there's this there's
00:22:05 this that threat there's other threat there's danger there's danger there's danger and women
00:22:09 won't listen so in the area where men do have expertise and that area of course is physical
00:22:15 threats to the family to the society to the tribe to the group to the whatever right men
00:22:20 are very good at understanding physical threats and women just poo-poo them you can see this
00:22:24 happening in voting all the time and the criminals get let out of prison and then women complain
00:22:29 that they can't walk the streets at night and blame men as a whole when it's their own
00:22:33 weird manipulated maternal sympathy for rapists and thieves and murderers so men are good
00:22:42 very good at assessing threats that's kind of what we do men are constantly assessing
00:22:48 threats right men are constantly assessing threats no matter where you go it's just a
00:22:51 fact I mean we don't women don't understand this but men I mean even in a mall right men
00:22:55 are constantly you know where's the exit oh there's this guy looks a little shifty I mean
00:22:58 it's just it's an unconscious thing it's just a terminating state resident program it's
00:23:02 just something that's always always checking along in the background we're very good at
00:23:05 evaluating threats and of course we've been trying to tell women for decades about dangerous
00:23:10 threats right and women won't won't listen and they won't listen I you for more on this
00:23:18 you can see my interviews in my documentary Sunset in the Golden State freedomain.com/documentaries
00:23:24 women don't recognize particular threats and men do and look listen there are threats that
00:23:30 women recognize that men don't women are better at recognizing threats to children and men
00:23:35 are better at recognizing threats to their society as a whole so this is not a better
00:23:40 or worse superior inferior it's just you know you have to the division of labor begins with
00:23:46 the sexes with men and women so women women won't listen women won't listen no matter
00:23:53 how much data accumulates no matter how many facts accumulate women won't listen and that's
00:23:57 a shame I mean it's more than a shame it's one of the greatest disasters in history but
00:24:03 women are programmed I mean they're programmed to display the masculine virtue of courage
00:24:11 but the masculine virtue of courage has to do with the prevention of danger not surviving
00:24:16 it right I mean there's this sort of famous story about the man the man post and he said
00:24:23 look my my girlfriend wanted to go to a party in a very bad section of town right I wasn't
00:24:30 gonna go to the party because I'm not an idiot and I don't want to get beaten up or risk
00:24:34 it so she wanted to go to a party in a very bad section of town and I said to her a) I'm
00:24:41 not going and b) don't go and she says you can't control me right you can't control me
00:24:48 don't be a bully don't try and control you're too controlling right like taking good advice
00:24:53 apparently is being being controlling like my my dentist tells me to floss and it's like
00:24:57 you can't control you're controlling it's like I'm actually trying to help you I'm actually
00:25:01 trying to keep you safe doctor tells you to lose weight you're such a control freak whatever
00:25:05 right I mean it's it's embarrassing it's it's just I don't even know what to say about this
00:25:09 kind of stuff not taking good advice well it's just a way of cutting women off from
00:25:14 the wisdom of men right so anyway this this guy says so yeah I told her and she says I
00:25:20 still want to go and I said hey I'm not controlling you you're free to go but if you go I'm not
00:25:24 gonna be a boyfriend anymore like if you don't listen to me about things I know and I if
00:25:28 you won't allow me to keep you safe then I'm not gonna be a boyfriend anymore because you
00:25:32 know be painful for me to watch you put yourself in situations of danger and not listen to
00:25:35 me and it's an insult to the knowledge that I have and and all of that right so she said
00:25:41 okay fine I won't go fine fine fine right anyway so it turns out she went and then she
00:25:46 got sexually assaulted at the party and she then you know called him at 3 in the morning
00:25:52 and she said I got assaulted she's she's crying and so on and he's like yeah go to the hospital
00:25:57 go to the police and so on and she's like well I need you to come with me and he's like
00:26:01 well no she's like well what do you mean no and he's like well I'm not your boyfriend
00:26:05 anymore because that's what I said I said if you go to this party against my good advice
00:26:09 and against my knowledge of what dangers are of what dangers are in the world then I'm
00:26:14 not going to be a boyfriend anymore she's like how dare you break up with me when I've
00:26:17 been assaulted and I need you and this that and the other right and you know he he held
00:26:22 firm and it is you know it's with great sadness and regret I mean we don't we don't take pleasure
00:26:27 when people don't take our good advice there's no I mean I know some people got that gotcha
00:26:31 you serve you right you'll it's like no people you don't take any pleasure I mean if you've
00:26:35 got a loved uncle and he keeps smoking and you tell him to stop smoking and he keeps
00:26:39 smoking and he keeps smoking and then he gets lung cancer you don't take pleasure in that
00:26:43 it's it's really sad it's really sad and people if you don't take good advice like this is
00:26:49 just a general life principle that I would really put out to you with with great emphasis
00:26:53 and this is both to those who give good advice and those who take good advice no who those
00:26:58 who are given good advice and those who have the option to take good advice if and this
00:27:03 is my life as a whole I will give people good advice and by good advice I don't just mean
00:27:08 it's my opinion like I'll give them sort of the reasoning behind it and the evidence and
00:27:11 the data and so on right so I will give people good advice and this hasn't happened for a
00:27:17 while because mostly we did these people out but I give people good advice and they're
00:27:21 free to choose to reject my good advice yeah absolutely they're totally free to reject
00:27:27 my good advice and then I won't help them when my good advice turns out to have been
00:27:34 accurate and bad things happen right I mean I told a guy I don't think it was good for
00:27:39 him to marry this girl I didn't even think it was good for her to date this girl he dated
00:27:43 this girl they ended up in a big mess it was a legal problem and I'm like yeah man you
00:27:49 got to help me it's like no I tried I'm not helping you with the effects if you didn't
00:27:55 listen to the advice so because if you're just gonna go and help people even if they
00:27:58 don't listen to your good advice you're just training them to not listen to your good advice
00:28:02 right I don't know it's kind of weird to me it's kind of weird to me like I always said
00:28:07 to my friends save your money save your money you don't have much free will if you're living
00:28:12 paycheck to paycheck right you can't quit your job and become an entrepreneur you can't
00:28:18 you don't have you're constantly nervous about sudden bills like save your money save your
00:28:21 money save your money put your money aside so that you have choices so I saved my money
00:28:27 like when I got my first professional job as a programmer I was making 40k a year and
00:28:34 I was living in a room in a house with five other people paying $270 a month and I saved
00:28:40 my money and I saved my money and then when the opportunity came to quit and be an entrepreneur
00:28:47 I was able to do that because I didn't have to live paycheck I'd saved I mean I was living
00:28:53 so cheap I had no car right I had no car I didn't even have a bus pass I biked to work
00:28:59 in downtown Toronto so I mean I was living dirt cheap and I had six month savings within
00:29:05 a year and because I had those six month savings I was able to quit my job as a COBOL programmer
00:29:13 and co-found a software company that then did pretty well because I'd saved my money
00:29:18 I'd saved my money save your money I always say to people save your money because it gives
00:29:22 you choice stop spending money right and it turns out that saving my money and deferring
00:29:28 spending and of course you know when you've lived as a student for a while you start to
00:29:31 get some your money there's a temptation to go and spend your money I understand that
00:29:34 there's a temptation to go and spend your money you know I've been living lean I mean
00:29:38 I grew up dirt poor I've been living dirt poor as a student and and all of that so there's
00:29:43 a real temptation oh I got my first regular job I'm doing well I'm making my first regular
00:29:47 paycheck with some good money and I don't have to save for school because I'm done school
00:29:52 or like it's there's a temptation to go and just spend a bunch of money I mean I remember
00:29:57 when a friend of mine's mother died in our teens and I begged him don't spend the money
00:30:02 because he got it was really sad I mean she got cancer and she died but then he got a
00:30:07 lot from not and then not but but and then he got I don't know like a hundred grand which
00:30:11 is a lot of money no matter what but you know back in the 80s it was a lot of money and
00:30:17 I was like save the money invest the money save the money this is your life if you want
00:30:22 it and it's like no we went and bought a Jeep and he went and bought a very expensive computer
00:30:25 and of course the Jeep is done decades ago the computer is obsolete decades ago but he
00:30:30 could have um he could like I don't know sorry it's just these old annoyances so then if
00:30:39 I say to people save your money and then they don't save their money and then they want
00:30:43 to borrow my money nope no like I told you to save your money well yeah but I had this
00:30:48 sure thing and this then the other is like no no and that's that's see people give good
00:30:55 advice like it's just wind in the trees just blows through the leaves people like when
00:30:59 you give good advice you're on the hook for the plus and the other person is on the hook
00:31:03 for the minus right so if you give good advice you think it's good advice it turns out to
00:31:08 be bad advice right like oh I think you should date this girl she's perfect for you and she
00:31:12 turns out to be a raging psycho then you're on the hook for helping him out because you
00:31:15 gave him advice now you're not controlling him but you you have to be responsible for
00:31:19 the advice that you give that's why I don't tell people what to do because they're responsible
00:31:23 for what they do I give them principles or perspectives but I don't tell people what
00:31:26 to do so in friendships if I say to a guy I don't date this girl and then he doesn't
00:31:36 date her okay good he's listened to some advice and if he does if I say don't date the girl
00:31:41 he dates the girl and it turns into a giant mess good luck I'm not responsible for helping
00:31:46 you with this because I told you to not do it right so people give advice consequence
00:31:52 free which is kind of a weird thing to me you know a friend of mine was having trouble
00:31:58 getting his romantic life started and I said you know you should go to therapy and and
00:32:02 and talk about this kind of stuff I think I know what it might be talk to him about
00:32:05 it a little bit here and there but instead of going to a therapist and working out his
00:32:09 issues he just hardened and became kind of blackpilled regarding women right and it's
00:32:15 like okay well if you're not going to listen to my good advice and I'd already been to
00:32:19 therapy at this point I knew what I was talking about so if you're not going to listen to
00:32:22 my good advice that's fine it's a free it's a free world such as this left you're totally
00:32:27 free to not listen to my good advice but then I don't like I can't care if you're lonely
00:32:32 and you say I'm lonely oh you should go to therapy and you should try this and you should
00:32:36 try that nope instead I'm just going to talk about how women just don't like short guys
00:32:41 okay so then I'm no longer I'm no longer responsible on the hook or fundamentally interested in
00:32:48 your love life or lack thereof right you know if I tell someone to save money and then they
00:32:53 say I'm broke because they spent the money but but you enjoyed the spending right and
00:32:59 you like if you didn't want to listen to me when I could have prevented the problem why
00:33:04 would I want to help you when the problem arrives if you wouldn't sacrifice your ego
00:33:09 to listen to me who knows what the hell he's talking about if you wouldn't sacrifice your
00:33:13 ego to listen to me why would I sacrifice my money to quote help you if I give people
00:33:19 good advice and they don't listen it simply means that they've chosen to learn through
00:33:23 consequences and the only chance of them learning is negative consequences so if I even remotely
00:33:29 still care about my friend and he's chosen to learn through negative consequences why
00:33:34 would I then shield him from negative consequences like he's not learning through reason and
00:33:37 evidence he's not taking good advice so clearly he has chosen to learn through bitter experience
00:33:45 so then why would I want to shield him from the bitter experiences which is only chance
00:33:49 of knowing now if I hate him too if I hate him then I'll shield him from negative consequences
00:33:54 right if I hate him then I'll shield him from negative if he doesn't take good advice and
00:33:59 I hate him then I'll shield him from negative consequences which is going to cut him adrift
00:34:02 to an endless life of error so this woman your friend right let's I know we've wandered
00:34:10 far afield but I'm only semi in control of my brain obviously so it's a dance it's a
00:34:17 dance we can dance if we want to all right I have a friend who's 41 in a few months
00:34:22 she's no savings in her real dreams I know she wants a domestic life and wanted a family
00:34:26 at one point but things didn't work out with the guy she was in love with and now she's
00:34:29 living very casually like a young adult right so I really really you know we just drifted
00:34:35 apart things didn't work out we we just ended up wanting different things that's all nonsense
00:34:40 that's all nonsense relationships don't work out I mean I'm just going to give you self-ownership
00:34:48 graduate degree right self-ownership graduate degree things didn't work out with your boyfriend
00:34:54 because you didn't provide enough value that's all that's all that's all it is you didn't
00:35:01 provide enough value I got fired from my job okay so if you are producing five times your
00:35:08 salary for an employer you're not going to get fired unless the entire company goes tits
00:35:14 up right you're not going to get fired because you're so ridiculously profitable that they're
00:35:19 not going to do it right they won't fire you because you're providing so much value I mean
00:35:25 so those of you who are listening you know thank you thank you thank you but I also know
00:35:30 that you're listening because I provide ridiculous amounts of value in a relatively short period
00:35:34 of time in a relatively entertaining and engaging fashion right that's just what I do I know
00:35:40 that I know that and so some people disagree I don't care I know that I know that so why
00:35:48 did things not work out with the guy she loved because she did not provide him enough value
00:35:54 now you could say ah yes but he didn't provide her enough value this that and the other it's
00:35:58 like oh well then she chose a guy who didn't return value for value if I'm generous and
00:36:03 other people are generous back then they're good to have in my life if I'm generous and
00:36:07 other people exploit me then they're bad to have in my life but the fact that people exploit
00:36:11 you shouldn't stop you from being generous right the fact that people exploit you that's
00:36:16 like saying well I went fishing one time and I never caught anything so I'm never going
00:36:20 to go fishing again right no yes when you're generous sometimes people will exploit you
00:36:25 but if you then stop being generous then other generous people won't be in your life and
00:36:30 that's too high a price to pay then the guy who exploited you is then keeping generous
00:36:34 people away from you forever because if you're stingy and won't be generous generous people
00:36:37 don't want to be around you so you then are locked into either isolation or being exploited
00:36:41 for the rest of your life because you surrendered your values to exploiters it's just it's terrible
00:36:47 it's terrible yeah most people don't donate to this show if you want to change that freedomain.com/donate
00:36:51 thank you thank you thank you but I'm not going to let the fact that most people who
00:36:55 listen and get great value don't donate I'm not going to let that stop me from being generous
00:37:01 with my time effort and energy I mean I did a show not too long ago with someone who had
00:37:08 to become very wealthy I didn't charge them I didn't ask for a donation I didn't ask for
00:37:13 any of their wealth just being generous he can do what he wants right so things didn't
00:37:19 work out no she just was too lazy or selfish to provide value right if you're an employee
00:37:26 who costs more than you provide to your employer any sensible employer will fire you after
00:37:32 a certain amount of you know try and fix it right I mean if you get paid $50,000 a year
00:37:39 but you only produce $25,000 worth of value you're going to get fired or the company's
00:37:45 going to go out of business as a whole if that's a general pattern right so job security
00:37:51 is providing value pair bonding is providing value pair bonding is providing value my wife
00:37:58 provides what is to me infinite value I provide to her what I check with her infinite value
00:38:07 how am I doing is there anything you do better are you happy right make sure so pair bonding
00:38:11 is just being able to trust that the person is going to provide great value and if it's
00:38:16 mutual that's love so things didn't work out no if a man is getting massive value from
00:38:25 his girlfriend he's not going to break up with her if she's difficult if she's distant
00:38:31 if she's asexual if she's bored if she's uninteresting if she's under stimulating if she's combative
00:38:39 like if she's just a net neutral or negative in his life like if you're a good business
00:38:44 manager you'll fire employees who are just covering costs like you pay them $50,000 they
00:38:49 generate $50,000 so it's completely pointless because it's also takes your time to manage
00:38:54 them and all right so you'll fire that person because you want someone who's going to produce
00:38:58 at least twice their salary take care of overhead and taxes and all that kind of stuff right
00:39:03 so if the if the relationship is a net negative unless the guy's a masochist it's going to
00:39:10 end relationships aren't that complicated if you just provide value people will want
00:39:16 to keep you around whether it's in friendship or work business love right I mean why do
00:39:22 you go to a restaurant because they give you what you want at a price that you perceive
00:39:29 as fair if the restaurant charges you $300 for a slice of toast you're not going back
00:39:36 to the restaurant right in fact you won't even do it right when you visit now so she's
00:39:41 broke and traveling so she's fallen prey to the idea that time does not pass and time
00:39:48 passed a double for women and well more than double really so look at a man's fertility
00:39:54 window let's just do the math right real easy 20 to 80 right they've got 60 years a woman's
00:40:01 fertility window is 20 to 40 so got 60 years 20 to 80 versus 20 years so a woman ages three
00:40:09 times faster than a man and that's important so women generally have a stronger sense of
00:40:16 time but telling women to be like men is to tell them to defer to delay to live like this
00:40:23 right love me like there's no tomorrow right as if time isn't passing now civilization
00:40:29 survives and flourishes and lasts civilization is only possible if women are sensitive to
00:40:37 the passage of time and so of course all propaganda aimed at undermining a civilization is aimed
00:40:43 at undermining women's sense of the passage of time so she's broken she's traveling so
00:40:48 how is she traveling if she's broke well every man and I'm just telling you this ladies every
00:40:54 man with half a brain every man when a woman says I'm broke and traveling it means you're
00:41:02 sleeping your way around the globe you're banging random guys so that they'll pay your
00:41:08 way to travel you are a mobile prostitute because you are exchanging sex for money and of course
00:41:19 you know lots of people can think of well you know she she she was working and this
00:41:23 then the I was like oh come on no yeah maybe one in a hundred women does that and you know
00:41:29 we men we learn to play the odds right so if a woman says yeah I've done a lot of travel
00:41:34 in my life oh wow how have you been able to afford that oh you know I've just you know
00:41:38 I'm you know I'd work for a little bit I'd save up some money I'd go travel this that
00:41:42 and the other and maybe that's true maybe that's true but probably not I mean and I
00:41:48 know personally women who have traveled without sleeping around so I'm not saying this but
00:41:54 if the woman generally seems irresponsible right and this is always fascinating to me
00:41:58 right so I grew up with very you know I got my first job when I was 10 and you know it's
00:42:03 like it's funny all these people who are like I can't handle working 40 hours a week it's
00:42:08 like I was so grateful to get a job because you know I went through a couple of recessions
00:42:11 too right so I was so grateful to get a job I did show up peppy early happy positive thrilled
00:42:16 excited great and I was always happy to get get the job you know when I was a temp and
00:42:21 I got a job working spreadsheets or something I'd be like thrilled and happy and excited
00:42:25 and positive and good so you know if people if a woman says I've done a lot of travel
00:42:31 like well are you a student if you have done a lot of travel meet the question is okay
00:42:34 well it's expensive and don't you have to work like when I first started getting professional
00:42:40 jobs I would get maybe two weeks vacation a year so a lot of travel means prostitute
00:42:47 in motion I'm just talking for me emotionally and I think this is true for most men right
00:42:51 and then you can see these memes right when one of them says she's traveled extensively
00:42:54 and there's that meme of the woman getting a bunch of hot dogs thrown at her face it's
00:42:57 like yeah that's just so a woman who says she's traveled a lot in general translates
00:43:02 into she has she has exchanged sex for accommodation and that's gross that's gross because you
00:43:11 know if you if you want to exchange sex for accommodation get married have children right
00:43:16 and so she's all about the experiences and now of course it's become really addictive
00:43:20 because you can get all the likes on Instagram and Instagram seems to be the place with all
00:43:24 the travel stuff right so she says she's traveling and I lent her dollars because she was she
00:43:29 lent her dollars because she was completely without a dollar to her name okay what the
00:43:35 ever loving hell are you talking about you lent her money because she was broke that's
00:43:39 not causal what's wrong with what's wrong with being broke being broke can spur fantastic
00:43:45 changes positive changes in your life being broke can be one of the greatest things that's
00:43:49 ever happened to you I certainly know that for myself being broke was just wonderful
00:43:54 being broke really got my life started because I was kind of able to fudge my finances for
00:43:58 quite some time in quite many ways but being broke was one of the greatest things that
00:44:03 ever happened to me I just was thrilled in hindsight so you are preventing her from hitting
00:44:13 the kind of rock bottom that would change things right but okay so and here's the thing
00:44:19 too I also I also try to stay away from people whose lives depress the shit out of me honestly
00:44:25 again I'm not telling you what to do obviously I'm just telling you my I can't handle being
00:44:29 around people and of course now that I'm in my late 50s yeah it's even more of a strong
00:44:35 because you know that I like office like the life arc is done for most of the people that
00:44:40 I grew up with and I just I can't be around people who are depressing so this woman is
00:44:46 41 no boyfriend no family no career no prospects no money how are you not recoiling from in
00:44:57 a sense horror and depression from this kind of life like where does the life go from here
00:45:01 where does a broke 41 year old woman I assume she slept around if she's traveled without
00:45:06 money I could be wrong but where does a broke no career no fertility no family prospects
00:45:15 no child prospects what do you think what do you I'm just out of curiosity where do
00:45:19 you think her life goes from here but wait like come on man do you have to wait to jump
00:45:25 off the Titanic until it's 20 200 feet underwater I hope not where's her life gonna go it's
00:45:33 gonna get worse and worse and worse from here for another 40 to 50 years right it's gonna
00:45:40 get worse and worse and worse from here for another 40 to 50 years you know someone in
00:45:46 a bad marriage where there's contempt and they'll say okay where does this go well they
00:45:50 can probably drag it out for another couple of years and then there's gonna be an ugly
00:45:53 divorce like why would you want to be around people who are just gonna do nothing but drag
00:45:59 you down say well I care about her well stop I care about her well if she doesn't like
00:46:07 this is how you lose out in life this is how you lose in life is you care about people
00:46:11 more than they care about themselves I won't do it I won't fucking do it I have an iron
00:46:17 will with regards to this if you don't care about yourself I'm not gonna care about you
00:46:22 I don't have any friends in my life I'm telling you this I don't have any friends in my life
00:46:28 who don't exercise and take care of themselves right because they're gonna get sick and they're
00:46:34 gonna be unhappy and they're gonna be miserable and they're gonna have joint pain and they're
00:46:37 gonna have all these problems I don't want that now of course if a friend of mine gets
00:46:42 sick out of nowhere yeah yeah sympathy right not his fault right I got sick out of nowhere
00:46:46 so yeah sympathy blah blah blah but you got to figure out people's life arc and whether
00:46:52 you want to go along what is going to happen to this woman over the next half century how's
00:46:58 her life gonna be it's gonna be cursed godforsaken horrible sorry like this just the way things
00:47:06 are it's just the way things are she's gonna have progressively worse relationships she's
00:47:11 gonna be continually broke she's gonna be continually escaping to travel and she's gonna
00:47:16 be avoiding her own unhappiness and responsibility see there's a thing right if you have made
00:47:22 the terrible mistakes and we all have right this you've made terrible mistakes but you
00:47:25 can fix them then your sadness has a purpose your anxiety your sadness your upset has a
00:47:30 purpose if this woman wanted a family and she's single at 41 and broke not gonna have
00:47:35 a family she can't fix it she can't go back in time so I'm telling you this mmm gotta
00:47:41 get this gotta get this hundred percent hundred percent people who've screwed up their lives
00:47:47 beyond repair go insane and try and take you with them it's this automatic process because
00:47:53 they resist reality they can't fix their problems so they can't admit fault they can't admit
00:47:57 self-ownership so they blame others they spiral they get involved in weird beliefs mysticism
00:48:03 no culty shit they just they just they go crazy because they can't fix what they broke
00:48:08 and so rationality no longer has utility for them self-ownership what's the point of saying
00:48:14 I'm responsible for the disaster of my life when you can't recover from the disaster of
00:48:18 your life what's the point that's just that would just be self-torture but it's still
00:48:22 blindingly true and obvious so what happens people who screwed up their life beyond repair
00:48:28 will go crazy and try and take you with them so what are you doing what are you I mean
00:48:34 seriously what are you doing how is this person a net positive and maybe you feel superior
00:48:40 like you want to help them out and be captain save a lady whatever it is right I mean maybe
00:48:46 you've got all that shit going on but that's terrible instead of being around people that
00:48:51 you pretend you can rescue why just not be around people who are functional and healthy
00:48:55 she says I've he says I've reflected on it and I've realized that her problem is she
00:48:59 doesn't really want anything for herself or others with passion that's her problem so
00:49:04 you've known this woman I assume for a long time because you wouldn't just meet this woman
00:49:07 and say hey let's be best buds right so I assume you've known this woman for a long
00:49:10 time and you you still have to make up what her problems are she hasn't told you you haven't
00:49:14 talked about them you should know if she's got problems you should know what they are
00:49:19 just making things up right there isn't anything meaningful that drives her forward in life
00:49:23 she's aimless right so she has no particular identity doesn't process the passage of time
00:49:27 no goals no ambition because she's like goals ambition achieving anything in life is functionally
00:49:37 powerfully deeply intertwined with the knowledge of the passage of time you are gonna die I
00:49:46 am gonna die every day is one step closer to death right it's like song right ticking
00:49:54 away the hours that make up a dull day further and waste the hours in an offhand way the
00:49:58 Sun is the same in a relative way but you're older one a shorter breath and one day closer
00:50:01 to death you run and you run to catch up with the Sun but it's sinking racing around to
00:50:06 come up behind you again you're gonna die now why do the Pink Floyd guys why did they
00:50:12 create such great music well in part I'm talent obviously hard work ambition but in
00:50:17 part because they're gonna die and you know that old thing about hiking take nothing but
00:50:22 photos leave nothing but footprints that's life and people wander through life like ghosts
00:50:29 leaving nothing behind they get this great and precious gift that their ancestors sacrifice
00:50:33 unbelievable hardships trials and tribulations for buried half their children fought off
00:50:38 invaders and feral beasts of every kind survived plagues famines wars and they give you this
00:50:45 great gift of life and you're like I'm going to Bali and have sex Jesus talk about pissing
00:50:52 away the greatest inheritance in the universe so she has no sense of the passage of time
00:50:58 and ambition is the passage of time right I mean as I said before I wrote this whole
00:51:02 novel just poor based upon my horror of the possibility that I was going to go through
00:51:06 life without ever recording my thoughts and keeping them for the world now I know that
00:51:14 the quality of my thoughts is great and it's important to have them in the world and it's
00:51:20 funny because I think it was the year 2000 that I wrote in 2001 I wrote a novel about
00:51:24 a guy who uses a camera and the internet to record his thoughts for the world and they're
00:51:29 spectacular and this was long before this became it's like I don't know half a decade
00:51:33 before YouTube right but you can see these things kind of coming right and of course
00:51:37 the moment that I was able to get my thoughts onto the internet I did like I raced at it
00:51:42 I worked like crazy I learned everything I needed to learn back then there was no tutorial
00:51:46 videos I learned the XML the feeds I learned you know negotiated with companies when bandwidth
00:51:50 was super expensive like I just worked as soon as I could feverishly because I'm like
00:51:55 okay here's a chance for me to do more than take photos and leave footprints here's a
00:51:59 chance for me to carve my thoughts into the atomic structure of the universe in perpetuity
00:52:04 yes so she has no sense of she's intelligent but she has no sense of the passage of time
00:52:09 which means she's been hypnotized by propaganda into thinking all that matters is appearance
00:52:14 not fertility she say she's very intelligent creative the only thing holding her back is
00:52:20 a mental construct I don't even know what that means but just making up shit you don't
00:52:24 know how can she find passion for a goal that will incentivize her to accumulate resources
00:52:28 and an independent sense of security what will happen if she doesn't well you know and
00:52:31 she won't right it's too late it's too late it's too late it's a chilling thought it's
00:52:38 one of the most terrifying scenes this scene scared the shit out of me this scene scared
00:52:44 the shit out of me when I was a teenager I'll give you the scenario not much of a spoiler
00:52:52 in the novel the fountainhead by Ayn Rand there are two characters central characters
00:52:58 Peter Keating and Howard Rourke Howard Rourke has great integrity Peter Keating is raised
00:53:02 by a single mother and is as broken as most boys raised by single mothers and Peter Keating
00:53:10 wants to be an artist but his mother convinces him to be an architect now long story short
00:53:19 decades later maybe I don't know 15 years later decade or decade and a half later Peter
00:53:24 Keating is kind of washed up as an architect and then goes back to trying to be an artist
00:53:30 but he's corrupted himself sold his soul in a way so Peter Keating in the middle of his
00:53:36 life tries to return to his dream of being an artist and he has great respect for Howard
00:53:41 Rourke who obviously is a shining paragon of integrity and he shows the drawings that
00:53:47 he's been doing in his mid late 30s he shows the drawings he's been doing to Howard Rourke
00:53:55 and Howard Rourke looks through the drawings and Peter Keating is like can I can I still
00:54:00 do it can I still be an artist can I do it and Howard Rourke with great sorrow great
00:54:04 sorrow says it's too late it's too late you missed the boat you missed the bus you can't
00:54:12 rewind you can't recover you can't fix she's a broke woman loveless past the wall no ability
00:54:21 to offer kids she's lazy because she won't put her skills to use she won't put her a
00:54:28 great brain to use like intelligence is a gift gifted yeah you're gifted you're gifted
00:54:33 by nature I didn't earn my brain I didn't earn my brain with great abilities come great
00:54:39 responsibilities particularly with regards to intelligence you should use your intelligence
00:54:46 not to serve your ego but to help people for a man to use his intelligence just for his
00:54:52 own ego gratification or just to make money for himself or to seem smarter or to baffle
00:54:58 gab midwits and feel superior is the equivalent of a woman using her sexual attractiveness
00:55:05 for travel rather than founding a family and a pair bond it's an exploitation of that which
00:55:11 you did not earn for the sake of selfishness and all that shit will turn to absolute ash
00:55:16 in your hands why do I do shows every day people are like oh you produce so much material
00:55:21 it's like you think this is all for you or me it's not all for you you know I can I'm
00:55:27 spending an hour here getting these thoughts out because the thoughts are always scrolling
00:55:32 past my brain and if I die they die with me and if I record them they're out in the world
00:55:37 and this is not about ego I mean the one thing that people can absolutely say about what
00:55:41 I've done as a public intellectual is it does not have anything to do with ego at all it
00:55:47 is to do with helping so people are like hey man you put out more material than I can consume
00:55:51 yep it's not about you I mean I'm glad you're here I'm glad you're listening but it's about
00:55:56 the future and I do pity the scholars given my output and what they'll have to do but
00:56:01 you know Hegel wrote a bunch of letters too so whatever so she's producing nothing contributing
00:56:06 nothing existing on a state in a state of economic neutrality she's not producing any
00:56:11 kids she's not producing any art she's not producing any value for an employer otherwise
00:56:15 she wouldn't be broke she is about as present in the world as a jellyfish in the ocean a
00:56:23 clear one mind you I guess you only notice when it stings you and this is very sad it's
00:56:29 very sad it's very sad and you have a choice with the resources in your life she in my
00:56:36 opinion I don't know her could be wrong don't think so she's going to go slowly mad and
00:56:42 we can see of course this particularly white women you've seen the antidepressant consumption
00:56:47 numbers for women post fertility white women they're they're going crazy well they've been
00:56:56 I mean women as a whole been prey to this heavy sigh up of time doesn't pass and it
00:57:00 only matters how you look and go have fun and you can maybe have kids later delay delay
00:57:04 delay right I mean this is Gandalf strategy is it in the Hobbit when the Hobbits are captured
00:57:12 by the golems no not the golems not the ogres the ogres I can't remember what they are but
00:57:17 the ones that turn to stone if they hit sunlight the trolls is it trolls no I can't remember
00:57:23 what it is some some beast and he delays he doesn't fight them directly he just delays
00:57:27 gets them arguing amongst each other gets them to waste time until the Sun hits them
00:57:30 and they turn to stone and they think they show up in Lord of the Rings later and statues
00:57:35 no delay argue fight don't care just don't have kids just don't have kids and of course
00:57:43 she's a political person now too right because if she stays single she's going to vote for
00:57:48 big government so all the people who want to increase the size of the government have
00:57:52 every incentive to hypnotize women into not having children and when you have children
00:57:56 you notice more the passage of time I mean I'm fairly fit I guess and I don't notice
00:58:03 any particularly big differences from me now and honestly I know this sounds crazy right
00:58:10 I don't notice any particularly big differences from me now to me when I was 17 I can still
00:58:16 play an hour of racquet sports I can still do 40 minutes on a stationary bicycle at the
00:58:24 highest level I still have the same workout routine I still do the same weights that I
00:58:30 did when I was 17 who tells you you're gonna die right who reminds you that you're gonna
00:58:39 die so that you get shit done I mean if you were immortal you could waste time right even
00:58:45 that Billy Joel song take the phone off the hook and disappear for a while it's alright
00:58:49 you can afford to lose a day or two this is from the one of the hardest working people
00:58:53 in showbiz although it's been 17 years I think he just released a new song since he wrote
00:58:57 an original song but he's new to us and all that right now he's reminding himself to slow
00:59:01 down because he was very ambitious right worked very hard writing recording touring I guess
00:59:08 dieting recently well he's in some ways part of the psyop in my view but so where's this
00:59:15 woman gonna go and listen it's very painful it's very painful to look at people and say
00:59:20 I can't I can't let you take me down like I can't you know my one of my friends from
00:59:25 my early teens worked together lived together couldn't get his life going and it people
00:59:32 don't stay the same over time they either get saner or they get crazier and getting
00:59:37 saner it's work right our natural tendency absent intervention is decay is entropy it
00:59:45 mean that's all of nature and certainly biological nature right our natural state with inactivity
00:59:52 is death and our natural state without philosophy is madness delusion unless we have the standards
00:59:59 that tell ourself to tell the truth we lie to ourselves to others continually because
01:00:03 lying is easier unless we have a standard which says I need to exercise we tend to decay
01:00:09 unless I have a standard which says I need to not eat too much we tend to overeat we
01:00:13 tend to decay absent significant intervention so if you don't have people in your life who
01:00:18 have standards and are striving to achieve them and you know nobody does it perfectly
01:00:22 but you know you aim at it right if you have people in your life who aren't working at
01:00:28 getting and staying sane they are decaying into madness and will take you with them you
01:00:35 with philosophy you're not like someone else but fixed you're someone else entirely like
01:00:43 philosophy for me didn't return me to a state of normalcy like normal NPC-ness right I mean
01:00:49 the purpose of physical therapy break your arm is to return your arm to normal functionality
01:00:53 right but the purpose of philosophy if you get broken and you repair yourself you're
01:00:59 in a sense a kind of different you have a very different mind than the people who don't
01:01:03 even know that they're broken so you know I mean obviously do whatever you want but
01:01:08 every resource you're applying to this person you're not applying to a functional person
01:01:12 who you can actually help and what can you do you can't rewind her life you can't give
01:01:16 her job skills or integrity or you can't regrow her eggs you can't make her a family person
01:01:21 like you it's too late it's too late it's all too late it's too late so anyway I hope
01:01:32 this helps again it's a very very sad thing but follow people into the bog of madness
01:01:37 on the rollerblades of sorrow is a bad trip man it's a bad trip and it doesn't help you
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01:01:57 thank you everybody so much for the great privilege of these conversations and please
01:02:01 let me know if there's anything else I can do better lots of them take care bye