VALENTINO and Emily met in New York when he was on tour performing with Magic Mike. While Emily’s best friend received a lap dance from Valentino she made sure she was next in line. Once it was her turn, there was an instant attraction between the two of them. Valentino told Truly: "I'm a sucker for teeth and a smile. Her body was everything. I took my time with her, I did three, four tricks." After the show, she gave her number to Valentino, and they began texting every day. "It's been smooth sailing from there," Valentino said. Four years later the couple are now happily married. Emily supports her husband's career as a performer by meal prepping for the upcoming week each Sunday and washing his outfits. He is also a PT, who works out five times a week to stay in shape because, "As a male entertainer, your body is your money-maker." However, the union had a somewhat unconventional agreement from the beginning. "He sleeps with other women," Emily said. "People don't understand why I trust him." From the start of their relationship, Valentino was on tour, so Emily explained that he had "free reign to do whatever, just make sure [he tells her] about it. We see each other one weekend a month if we are lucky. I don't expect [him] not to have sex with anybody." For Emily, the arrangement works because of the strong communication they have in their partnership, "There are no secrets, so nobody will ever be able to come to me and say anything about him that I don't already know." The couple go to swinging events to meet other women and couples. Valentino explained: "I was trying to bring guys in for her. Make sure she is taken care of. She's like, 'I'm good, stop asking, I know what I have and know what I had in the past'." They both have a social media presence where they have shared the truth behind their relationship. This has opened up criticism about their way of life, "the majority of the judgement that we receive in our relationship is about swinging. They don't understand how we could share our partner with somebody else," Emily said. They receive comments saying they are "disgusting" and claiming he "controls" her. But the couple don't let the haters get to them, with Valentino even clapping back at them, "I have fun with the comments," he said. "I'll go back and forth with them and let them end up blocking me because I can do this all day. I got time." While Emily said that online, "we get an equal judgement and then also people who definitely support us. Everybody in our life who matters to us is really supportive."
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00:00 This is Emily.
00:02 She fell in love with Valentino.
00:05 They have an unconventional agreement in their marriage.
00:08 He sleeps with other women.
00:10 And I love it.
00:11 People online question Valentino's loyalty to Emily.
00:14 We're discussing.
00:15 They think he controls me.
00:17 I control her.
00:18 Swingin' is just a nice way of you sayin' our relationship isn't workin'.
00:21 They are finally going to reveal what their relationship is really like to Valentino's brother.
00:26 So, I haven't told you everything, like, how we are relationship-wise.
00:31 Hold on, hold on.
00:33 Where you at?
00:34 I usually eat six meals a day.
00:36 It's prepped out and frozen.
00:38 She does all the cookin'.
00:41 He'll go dance on the weekends, and I'll be here doing meal prep and laundry.
00:45 I am a male entertainer.
00:47 And personal trainer.
00:50 And I do medical coding and billing.
00:52 Match made in heaven.
00:55 I fell in love with a stripper.
00:58 My best friend took me to a male review show.
01:04 So, I'm watching him give my best friend a laugh dance, and I was like, "Okay, I'm next."
01:09 I'm a sucker for teeth and smile.
01:14 Body was everything.
01:16 I took my time with her.
01:17 I did, like, three or four tricks.
01:19 I got all seven minutes.
01:20 Yeah.
01:21 After the show, she wrote her name on a piece of paper and said, "Hit me up."
01:26 A lot of girls, it's about hooking up that same night, and you leave, and you don't hear from her again.
01:30 She was different.
01:31 We stay in contact, talk every day for about two weeks.
01:35 I was in Buffalo.
01:36 I said, "Hey, I'm in New York."
01:38 She drove seven hours after meeting me once to come see me again.
01:43 It just been smooth sailing from there.
01:46 And four years later, now we are married.
01:48 Sam, what are we doing at the gym today?
01:51 A little full body workout, because, again, you know, do a little touch-up before going out.
01:57 Let's get it.
01:58 I'm ready.
01:59 We say we became an official couple the night we met.
02:03 We are swingers as well.
02:07 There's no exclusivity here.
02:10 Towards the beginning of our relationship, we were just like, "Oh, we're just friends."
02:17 We were just friends in our relationship.
02:19 Since he was on tour, obviously, you know, it's free reign to do whatever you want.
02:24 Just make sure you tell me about it.
02:26 We see each other one week in a month if we're lucky.
02:28 I don't expect you to not have sex with anybody, you know?
02:32 Like, that's--come on.
02:34 So I remember I get a phone call one day, and he said, "You know, there's this girl I know coming to one of the shows tonight.
02:44 I'm probably going to hang out with her after.
02:46 I just wanted to give you the heads up."
02:48 Of course, yeah, you know, I don't care.
02:50 The next day, the message I got was, "She brought a friend.
02:58 It was a f---some.
03:01 I don't know how that makes you feel.
03:03 Like, do you want to run?"
03:05 I'm like, "Listen, I'm not going anywhere.
03:07 Cool.
03:08 Did you have fun?
03:09 Was it good, at least?"
03:11 I don't know.
03:12 I was kind of proud of him.
03:14 There's no secrets, so nobody will ever be able to come to me and say anything about him that I don't already know.
03:21 Yeah.
03:22 A lot of girls be like, "Okay, you sure she okay with this?"
03:25 I tell them all the time.
03:26 Message her.
03:27 Message her.
03:28 A lot of the lifestyle focuses around the woman and the relationship.
03:31 Exactly.
03:32 I focus around him.
03:33 I was trying to bring guys in for her, make sure that she's taken care of, you know what I'm saying?
03:39 Say, "Yo, I'm good."
03:40 It's not that bad.
03:41 Stop asking.
03:42 I know what I have, and I know what I had in the past.
03:45 You are more than enough.
03:46 I am very satisfied.
03:48 You are more than enough.
03:49 I'm like, "Okay, all right, all right."
03:50 I work out five times a week.
03:53 As a male entertainer, your body is your moneymaker.
03:56 So, I got plenty of time in the gym.
03:59 We get a lot of judgmental remarks on social media regarding being swingers.
04:08 100%.
04:09 It's just a stigma.
04:10 That we're disgusting for doing that.
04:13 Or, "How you let your man do anything he wants and you don't?"
04:17 Oh, yeah, they think he controls me.
04:19 I control her.
04:20 Oh, okay.
04:22 Video's going viral, but these comments are interesting.
04:26 Of course he's black.
04:28 My response?
04:29 What?
04:30 I'm glad you're not colorblind.
04:31 I guess swing is a black thing.
04:34 Oh.
04:35 You guys will have a divorce in the next decade.
04:38 A decade is a pretty long time, first off.
04:42 I think that's a win.
04:43 Swinging is just a nice way of you saying our relationship isn't working.
04:47 We are too deep to break up, so let's just cheat on each other.
04:50 Learn the definition of cheating.
04:53 Then you get these good ones.
04:55 It actually saved my marriage.
04:57 Three years now, loving the lifestyle.
04:59 Thank you.
05:01 I think we get an equal amount.
05:02 We get an equal amount.
05:03 Of the judgment and then also people who definitely support.
05:07 Everybody in our life who matters to us is really supportive.
05:14 I mean, I will say our family doesn't know that we're swingers.
05:19 Brandon's my little brother.
05:22 He's deaf and vanilla.
05:23 Do you think it's about time to tell him?
05:26 I don't know.
05:29 I'm not sure how his reaction's going to be.
05:31 So, yeah.
05:33 Let's go now.
05:34 Yeah, it's going to be interesting.
05:36 What's good, big bro?
05:38 What up, what up, man?
05:39 How you been?
05:40 So, I haven't told you everything, like, how we are relationship-wise.
05:45 What do you mean?
05:48 So, me and him, I mean, we are swingers.
05:55 Hold on, hold on.
05:57 Where you at?
05:58 Okay, so I knew about the open.
06:00 I knew about, you know, the open relationship.
06:02 What's the difference?
06:04 I do enjoy bringing another woman into the bedroom.
06:09 I got you, I got you.
06:10 As long as you guys know what fits you, you know, why you guys, you know, fell in love with each other, you guys have a closer bond.
06:18 I know it's been married 30-plus years.
06:20 If that's something that works for you, you know what I'm saying, who am I to judge?
06:24 Wow, that was pretty -- I wasn't sure how you was going to take it.
06:27 You were a little nervous.
06:29 I love you guys, it don't change.
06:30 Love you.
06:31 Love you, too, bro.
06:33 Well, that went well.
06:35 When I go to a show, I like to sit back in a corner.
06:38 I don't want women to ever feel uncomfortable, like, "Oh, that's his girl, I probably shouldn't touch him."
06:42 Exactly.
06:44 Have your fun, shoot your shot, girl.
06:48 So, I just washed your clothes for the show.
06:51 We got your high socks, show underwear, and of course, the tear-away pants.
06:57 Thank you, wifey.
07:01 [♪♪]
07:04 There are zero rules in our relationship regarding his performances.
07:09 He can do whatever he wants up there.
07:11 If he wanted to whip it out and do helicopters, I mean, feel free.
07:17 And that would never happen.
07:19 You got to pay extra for that.
07:21 For people who want to judge us, I think I would have to say...
07:28 F--- you. No, I'm kidding.
07:31 Look at yourself.
07:33 Are you so perfect?
07:36 I think what I love most about my husband is the way he makes me feel.
07:45 You make me feel like I am your whole world.
07:48 I feel like just to be seen and heard, how she made me feel as a man, like, it's everything.
07:55 [♪♪]
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