Beauty Influencer Aaliyah Jay Reveals If She’s Dating, What She Learned From Past Relationships
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00:00 outside of your business and social media.
00:03 You know, fans always wanna know
00:04 what's going on in Aaliyah J's love life.
00:06 I feel like you've been so good at balancing
00:09 between social media and your personal life,
00:11 and you mentioned that you want parts of your life
00:13 to be more private, but do you still have any updates?
00:15 You do look so happy, I must say.
00:17 (Aaliyah laughs)
00:19 - Oh my gosh, now we getting put on the spot.
00:22 (both laugh)
00:23 I love it.
00:23 Well, updates, let me see.
00:28 Okay, an update is that I'm very happy.
00:31 I really am happy.
00:33 I am dating someone exclusively,
00:37 and this is like the happiest I've really ever been.
00:40 Like, I don't have any drama, any problems.
00:43 Like, I'm happy.
00:45 - That's so great, I love that.
00:47 And was there anything that you learned
00:49 from your previous relationship
00:50 that made you do things different this time?
00:53 - Absolutely.
00:55 You know, it's easy to like blame the other person
00:59 and like say like, yeah, like I learned not to do this
01:03 and trust these people, but honestly, like the big,
01:07 like when it came down to it, I had to think,
01:12 I kept questioning myself, like what was all of that for?
01:15 You know, like this many years, why was I even there?
01:19 And the only answer that I can come up with
01:22 was to learn myself, because there was so many things
01:26 that I did not know about myself.
01:28 I learned so much about myself.
01:31 That moment was probably the moment I learned more
01:34 about myself than any other moment in my life ever.
01:36 And so I learned good and bad things.
01:41 I had to accept a lot of bad things about myself,
01:43 a lot of ugly things, but I also learned that, you know,
01:48 I can be a really trusting person
01:50 and I'm a really giving person.
01:51 And, you know, I love love.
01:53 And sometimes when I'm that, I'm being that person,
01:57 I kind of let my guard down a little too much
02:00 and that's my bad, you know, like that's really my problem.
02:04 And I have to learn to have boundaries
02:07 and I have to learn that there's just certain things
02:10 that I just won't accept in the future,
02:13 or, you know, there's just certain things that I want.
02:16 And so I really learned about myself
02:19 and it was the biggest lesson that I did not ask God for,
02:24 but he knew I needed it.
02:26 And so I'm really appreciative of that journey.
02:28 - I love that.
02:29 Yeah, like you did a lot of self-reflecting
02:32 and you grew and now here you are.
02:33 - Yes.
02:34 - That's amazing.
02:35 - Yeah.
02:36 - And you know, when you are like in the dating process,
02:38 'cause you're exclusive with someone now,
02:39 do you usually go on dating apps or it's more organically?
02:43 - Oh my gosh, it is so weird because being that I'm like
02:47 this huge popular person on social media,
02:50 it never works out that way.
02:52 Like dating on social media does not work out for me
02:56 because men have an idea of me already.
03:00 Like they think I'm like this super bougie person,
03:03 like you have to be spending this much money
03:06 to even talk to me.
03:08 And it's like, I understand the vibe that you're getting,
03:11 but like I'm a human
03:13 and I just want to be treated with kindness, you know?
03:15 Like what are you even talking about?
03:17 Like, so it never works out.
03:20 How I met my person was actually in person.
03:23 Like, yeah, it's so funny.
03:25 I actually spoke to him first and he caught my eye
03:29 and ever since then we just kind of just hit it off.
03:34 But other than that, I don't do dating apps.
03:37 I tried it and it just didn't work out.
03:40 Yeah, it didn't work out.
03:41 Social media, it's mostly in person for me.
03:46 - Oh, that's good, that's good.
03:48 You know, everyone has to do what works for them,
03:49 what they're comfortable with.
03:50 And what would you say like dating in your twenties
03:53 has been like overall?
03:54 Like...
03:55 (laughing)
03:56 - It was, I mean, I'm 29, so I'm at the end,
04:00 but dating in my twenties, oh my gosh.
04:02 Like, oh my God, that was crazy.
04:06 Like I done, I think I've met every type of guy
04:10 there has ever been.
04:11 And I think that's the part, like, you know,
04:15 where I learned the lesson is that I've already been
04:18 through this journey and now it's time for me
04:20 to take the stuff that I learned and apply it to my life
04:22 so that I don't have to go through this in my thirties.
04:25 It was really hard, you know, like when you're young
04:28 and you're in your twenties, like,
04:30 you don't even know what you want.
04:31 You don't even know yourself.
04:33 Like everyone thinks that they're gonna know their self
04:35 and they're gonna be married by 25,
04:37 I mean, some people are.
04:38 - Yeah.
04:39 - But it's not always realistic, you know?
04:43 - Right.
04:44 - So it was hard.
04:45 (laughing)
04:46 - And well, you're here now and you're very happy, so hey.
04:49 (laughing)
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