Every week, celebrity couple Kryz Uy and Slater Young charm audiences with their fun and light answers to their podcast. They give off that vibe that they're just like us--a couple figuring out family life as we go along.
In this episode of Usap Tayo, they spill the secrets to their laid-back parenting style and share insights that all parents need to hear.
In this episode of Usap Tayo, they spill the secrets to their laid-back parenting style and share insights that all parents need to hear.
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00:00 [music]
00:12 Every day we're still kind of struggling to find the balance.
00:15 We don't know what we're doing until now.
00:17 So we're in the "fake it till you make it" stage of parenting.
00:20 We try our best.
00:22 But I think it's common that parents are always confused.
00:27 Yeah. I mean, you can read all of these articles online, right?
00:30 Like, okay, the kid has to be like this.
00:32 Or as a parent, they have to be like this or like that.
00:34 But at the end of the day, everything goes out the window
00:36 when your kids are there or when situations arise, stuff like that.
00:39 So we just kind of have to...
00:40 Well, our learning is really to have more grace for ourselves.
00:43 [music]
00:46 Chris is very, very caring, very eloquent when it comes to...
00:51 I think that...
00:51 I just said eloquent because that's why I think Scott
00:56 is good at speaking.
00:58 Because I like to have a little baby sit because I like it.
01:02 And fast because every night she goes to tell story books,
01:06 tell stories to Scott every single night.
01:09 It's like their habit, their routine.
01:12 Before Scott goes to sleep, story books.
01:15 And then she has a lot of patience.
01:18 I walk out.
01:19 I thought she has a lot of things to say.
01:21 If I have temper tantrums, I get angry, I walk out.
01:26 She'll be the one to rein me back in.
01:27 I'm like, "Hey, just relax."
01:30 And I think a lot of Scottie's habits come from her.
01:33 - I know. - Her clinginess.
01:35 He's me.
01:36 He's me.
01:37 He's a little me that looks like a little slater.
01:40 But his personality is so me.
01:41 So that's why I think we'll see Scott, especially Scott,
01:45 who's so gentle to Chris.
01:48 And then when it comes to me, the game is like rock housing
01:51 because she can see the caring side of Chris.
01:54 Yeah.
01:55 That's true, love.
01:56 Because when Scott needs attention and he needs a hug
02:00 and he needs to be put to bed, he'll go to me.
02:02 But when he does want to play,
02:04 when he does want to go all out and be wild and have fun,
02:07 he runs to you, of course.
02:08 So that's, I feel like, the kind of parent you are to him.
02:11 You're the fun parent.
02:12 - Fun parent. - Yeah, you're the fun parent.
02:15 And I also see that because he sees you working all the time
02:18 and accomplishing all of these things,
02:20 he really looks up to you, which is really good.
02:22 Like, for example, he just broke his dump truck toy
02:26 and it's been broken for a few days now.
02:28 And then yesterday, you fixed it.
02:30 And this morning, he went up to me and he said,
02:32 "Dad can fix it because he's an engineer.
02:34 He can fix anything.
02:36 He's an engineer."
02:37 And he's so proud of you,
02:39 which is something that I also like to see.
02:41 That he's not looking at his dad
02:43 bumming around and not doing anything.
02:44 It's actually inspiring him to be a better person
02:46 or to work on his dreams and stuff like that.
02:52 Smart parenting for me is to be a little bit more open,
02:55 to let the kid explore the boundaries
02:58 of what it really takes to...
03:00 Like, for example, just by running around
03:02 and Scottie falls down a lot.
03:04 Like, we always encourage him to try it out
03:07 and we make light of a situation
03:10 where he makes a mistake.
03:12 It's okay to make mistakes.
03:14 It's up to him to decide
03:17 on where he wants to explore,
03:20 what he wants to learn about.
03:23 And we'll just drive him.
03:25 I think that's one of the core
03:27 communiqués namin, na pag-usapan namin,
03:29 that we want Scottie to go towards
03:32 what he really wants to do.
03:34 Yeah, I think a lot of the times
03:35 when it comes to parenting today,
03:37 there are so many books and handbooks
03:39 telling you to do A, B, and C.
03:41 And we kind of suffocate our kids a little bit
03:43 without realizing it
03:44 because we impose all of these rules
03:45 and structures in their lives.
03:47 But what Slater and I want to do
03:49 is kind of to let him experience
03:50 and live life on his own terms.
03:52 Hey, you dressed like that!
03:54 See? And then we allow him to express himself.
03:56 If he wants to be dressed like Blippi,
03:58 he can.
03:59 So just a little bit more free,
04:01 just a little bit more open
04:03 to expressing himself in any way that he wants.
04:05 If he wants to run around barefoot
04:07 and he's going to get ants biting him on his feet,
04:09 it's okay.
04:10 Papa, experience namin sa kanya yun.
04:11 Parang malaman niya on his own.
04:14 Baby, you're so funny.
04:17 Say hi to everybody.
04:19 You're so funny, babe.
04:21 Sa akin, I think it's more of
04:26 relax lang talaga.
04:28 Everything you're doing is okay.
04:30 You're a good parent.
04:32 A lot of the times we feel like,
04:33 "Oh, I'm not doing enough."
04:34 We feel like the mom guilt, the dad guilt.
04:36 Parang nagigilty tayo pag pupunta tayo sa trabaho,
04:39 nagigilty tayo pag umiiyak pa lagi yung bata,
04:42 or andami.
04:43 But at the end of the day,
04:44 everybody has their own struggles.
04:46 It's hard to be a parent.
04:48 You just have to learn to love yourself
04:50 and know that it's okay.
04:53 And just like someone saying that
04:55 whatever you're doing, it's okay.
04:57 It's okay that the kid cries.
04:58 It's okay that nagigilty ka.
05:01 Just by hearing that, okay na siya.
05:03 That's so true, love.
05:04 Because a lot of the times,
05:05 we do question everything that we do.
05:07 Am I giving him too much sugar by giving him chocolate?
05:10 Or, "Oh my God, kawawa naman siya.
05:12 All of his friends are eating chocolate.
05:13 Siya wala.
05:14 Lahat na lang kina-question mo, 'di ba?
05:15 Is he sleeping too long?
05:16 Is he sleeping not enough?
05:17 Everything is a question mark.
05:18 Mom, can you give me M&M's 'cause you're old.
05:23 Okay, I'll give you M&M's later.
05:24 See? So, it's kind of every day's a battle,
05:26 every day's a challenge.
05:27 But Slater's right.
05:29 And he's the one who's constantly telling me that.
05:31 To relax, chill out.
05:32 You're doing a good job.
05:33 Don't beat yourself up on things that,
05:35 you know, we can't control
05:36 or we don't know the results of.
05:37 So, as long as we give a little bit more grace
05:39 to our children and ourselves,
05:41 you know, we're doing a good job.
05:42 (upbeat music)
05:45 Hi, Smart Parenting!
05:59 I'm Slater.
05:59 And I'm Chris.
06:00 Thank you for tuning in.
06:01 Sorry, may nga siya-sigaw.
06:03 Happy anniversary, Smart Parenting!
06:05 Happy 20th anniversary.
06:07 Bye!
06:07 Bye.
06:08 (upbeat music)
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