"Looks fade—but this quality lasts forever. Mufti Menk reveals the Islamic standard for choosing a spouse!"
💡 Key Points Covered:
✅ The Prophet’s ﷺ criteria for marriage (Beauty vs. Deen – what matters MORE?)
✅ Danger of overvaluing looks (Real-life consequences of shallow marriages)
✅ How to balance attraction + piety (Practical advice for singles)
✅ Mufti Menk’s personal advice on finding "true beauty"
⚠️ WARNING: "If you prioritize the wrong thing, you’ll regret it in 10 years!"
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💡 Key Points Covered:
✅ The Prophet’s ﷺ criteria for marriage (Beauty vs. Deen – what matters MORE?)
✅ Danger of overvaluing looks (Real-life consequences of shallow marriages)
✅ How to balance attraction + piety (Practical advice for singles)
✅ Mufti Menk’s personal advice on finding "true beauty"
⚠️ WARNING: "If you prioritize the wrong thing, you’ll regret it in 10 years!"
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00:00Many of us out here, we're looking for spouses.
00:05But sometimes when we look for spouses, we don't know what to look at.
00:08People say, this is a very wealthy family, I'm going to marry in them.
00:12Do they have deen? Do they have some form of connection with Allah?
00:16When you're looking for someone, we are taught,
00:19فَضْفَرْ بِذَاتِ الدِّينَ تَرِبَتْ يَدَكَ
00:21You need to become victorious by choosing and selecting someone who has a connection with Allah.
00:27That is when you will be truly victorious.
00:29So I had a young man come to me and say,
00:31Does that mean we must marry an ugly woman if she is religious?
00:35My brother, when I heard that question, I was smirking and smiling
00:38because I told myself you haven't understood.
00:41So I thought of explaining to the young lad,
00:43when someone has deen and character as taught by the Prophet ﷺ,
00:48when someone comes to propose for your daughter and they have good religion
00:51and they have good character, give that daughter of yours in marriage to that person
00:56if the daughter is willing.
00:57If the daughter is not willing, you are not allowed to give.
01:00For as long as there is deen and akhlaaq in that brother,
01:02there will be barakah.
01:03That's the hadith.
01:04So if someone has deen and akhlaaq, give them a one.
01:08One point.
01:08They have one point.
01:09Write down one.
01:10If they are good looking, give them a zero.
01:13What does it make it?
01:14Ten.
01:14Okay.
01:15If they have a lot of wealth, give them another zero.
01:17What does that make it?
01:18A hundred.
01:19If they come from a good family, give them another zero.
01:21What does it make it?
01:22A thousand.
01:23If they have a lot of other things, give them another zero.
01:26How much would that make it?
01:27Ten thousand.
01:28And so on.
01:28Keep on giving them zeros for every other thing.
01:31But for deen and akhlaaq, what did you give them?
01:33A one.
01:33If they don't have deen and akhlaaq, remove the one.
01:36What are they remaining with?
01:38Zero.
01:38They have nothing.
01:39That is how we as Muslims should look at it.
01:41So the more, the merrier.
01:43It is better.
01:44If you have someone who's really good looking, mashallah.
01:46They come from a good family, alhamdulillah.
01:48They might be wealthy, alhamdulillah.
01:50They have something more, alhamdulillah.
01:51But if they don't have deen and akhlaaq, you remove the one.
01:56You are left with nothing.
01:57You are wasting your time, my brother, my sister.
01:59You will be depressed in that relationship.
02:01La ilaha illallah.
02:06Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.