Married at First Sight (AU) Season 12 Episode 31
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00:00The homestays has been beautiful.
00:04It's been a really great time having Paul here with my family.
00:08Like I just embraced it and I just let everything come my way.
00:12And I can't wait for when we're outside of this experiment and when we're back in Perth
00:16and doing things together.
00:18My heart's radiating really positive energy.
00:21I'm feeling really good.
00:24The homestays have always been an essential part of the Married at Forsyth experiment.
00:28Here we are!
00:29Oh my god.
00:30As our couples get a taste for their partner's natural environment, questions will arise.
00:36This is their chance to get those answers before they head to final vows.
00:42While some homestays are well underway, others are just getting started.
00:46It feels like we've been home.
00:47Arriving in Melbourne, Rhi and Jeff are hoping to take their relationship to the next level.
00:52Any of this look familiar?
00:54Again.
00:55Back to where it all began.
00:56Are you going back?
00:57Are you going back?
00:58It's too heavy.
00:59This isn't the first time I've been here.
01:02I stayed at Jeff's when we dated last year.
01:05On the wedding day when I walked down the aisle and saw Jeff.
01:07Oh my god.
01:09Hi Rhi.
01:10Hi Jeff.
01:11I remember thinking to myself, this isn't going to work because we've dated in the past
01:17and it did fizzle out.
01:18But the more we are together, the more potential I see in us.
01:23The experiment has progressed our relationship so much because we had to really open up.
01:27That's good.
01:28I came here to find my forever person and I wholeheartedly hope that it's Jeff.
01:33Hey.
01:34Welcome.
01:36Again.
01:37Again.
01:38It feels like I was here yesterday.
01:39I actually think I've never been in here in daylight.
01:46Ever.
01:47Oh, too funny.
01:48Homestays is an important week for us.
01:52It'll give us a real insight into what life is going to be like post experiment.
01:56We're in a great spot in our relationship, so I'm excited for it.
02:00Hopefully she has a good time and we have some fun.
02:03When you walked out that last time, imagine thinking that you were going to be here married
02:05to me one year later.
02:06I would never have imagined it.
02:08I know.
02:09It is crazy.
02:10Yeah, definitely.
02:11Being back at Jeff's house, it is very weird, very surreal.
02:15But look, it feels really, really good.
02:17I feel very grateful to see how far we've come.
02:20It's meant to be, Jeffy.
02:21It's meant to be.
02:22So nice having you here.
02:28On the other side of Melbourne, Dave is alone in his apartment getting ready for a serious
02:33talk with Jamie.
02:35Homestays has proved challenging for the couple after the last commitment ceremony left their
02:40relationship at a crossroads.
02:42When Jamie told me she loved me, I freaked out a little bit.
02:45I'm not there yet and it's scary for me.
02:47Since arriving in Melbourne, the pair have been living in separate apartments.
02:54I wish I could just go back to the start.
02:56Like, you know, like it was just like, we just had the best time, like we really did.
03:02And a testy lunch with Jamie's sister yesterday only fuelled Jamie's doubts about the strength
03:07of Dave's feelings towards her.
03:09Because he's literally shown up like 20% and you're like, love, I don't think I can handle
03:13watching you in another relationship where you're struggling like that.
03:16I can't watch that again.
03:17As their relationship hangs in the balance.
03:19See you, buddy.
03:20I'll see you soon.
03:21In your bed.
03:22In your bed.
03:23Jamie has asked Dave to meet her at a local pub to discuss where they stand.
03:28I do have real feelings for Dave.
03:31But my sister gave me some home truths.
03:33And now I'm just like, maybe this isn't going to work.
03:35Do I, you know, remove myself before I get hurt more?
03:39So today I'm looking for like any kind of reassurance from Dave, like I need him to
03:43like not put more doubts into my head.
03:45How's your day?
03:47I feel like I've just been like all over the place for like this whole like experiment.
03:54Throwing me through a bit of a loop.
03:58You know, I don't really want to experience more hurt or sadness.
04:05And so I think it's a bit like almost unsafe to have feelings right now.
04:12I definitely don't want to hurt you.
04:15I definitely want to work on these things.
04:17You've definitely trying to put effort in.
04:19But like that, that desire and that want to be with me.
04:24I just don't necessarily know if that's there.
04:30You know, I do care about you and you are an amazing person.
04:33And it does hurt, hurt my heart.
04:35So like, what do you need me to do?
04:39I just want to see like some sort of fight.
04:43You know, you are potentially losing me.
04:49And I don't feel like you care too much.
04:54The feelings are there and I've dropped the ball and I'm sorry for that.
04:58That won't happen again.
05:01I've seen you on the couch last week and I've seen how hurt you were.
05:05That's not how I want this to go.
05:07I don't want to hurt you at all.
05:09Because I care about you.
05:12It took me a while to realise those emotions.
05:14And I know I'm going to have to put the effort in.
05:16I want to work on expressing the emotional, romantic side.
05:19When I do have concerns and when I do think there's no way forward,
05:22like, I wish in those moments, you know, you'd be my rock in that situation.
05:26I am willing to do all that and I'm willing to try.
05:29I think I need to be more open and get back to showing you that I do care.
05:35Like, that's why I'm here. I want to be a better person.
05:37I want to be a better partner.
05:39Do you reckon you can do that, then?
05:42You're worth doing that for.
05:45Are you still going to romance me?
05:47Yeah.
05:48Do nice surprises?
05:50Yeah.
05:55The conversation Dave and I had has reassured me.
05:58Like, he's really trying to show you that he's here to stay.
06:01And you've got to be honest about how you're feeling.
06:03Yeah.
06:04I don't want to have to ask or harass you for you to tell me.
06:07I'm feeling a lot brighter again.
06:09OK.
06:10I feel better after that conversation.
06:12Same.
06:13I know I have let Jamie down, but I have feelings for her.
06:16And, you know, this is not the spot to give up.
06:18The hardest decision is to fight and that's what we want to do.
06:20And I want to move forward.
06:26You always go for the arse.
06:28You have a great arse, that's why.
06:31In Sydney, Jackie and Ryan are embarking on the one-and-a-half-hour drive
06:36from Jackie's place in the seaside sanctuary of Manly
06:40to Ryan's house in the suburbs of south-west Sydney.
06:43Turn right here?
06:44Um, yes.
06:46I'm a little bit concerned about the whole juxtaposition
06:49of Manly versus south-west.
06:51See you later, Manly.
06:52Being at Jackie's place only seemed to intensify
06:55the couple's differences.
06:57Your beard isn't very Manly.
06:59My beard?
07:00It's not very Manly.
07:01See?
07:02And tonight, I'm going to shave it off.
07:04If you do, then just be prepared for an immediate divorce.
07:07What's wrong with clean-shaven?
07:09There's nothing wrong with it.
07:10But you threatening to shave a man's beard is dangerous ground.
07:13I can't have a conversation with you about anything
07:15because your brain is so small.
07:16My brain is small?
07:17Yeah.
07:18Oh, my Lord.
07:19It's so condescending and pretentious and judgmental.
07:22And now it's time for Ryan to decide
07:25And now it's time for Ryan to take charge of the homestay
07:28in his suburban slice of paradise.
07:31I want to make sure that Jackie sees me
07:33in my most natural environment.
07:35I'm going to show her the best of what I've made for myself.
07:38You have to go straight, it says.
07:39Yeah, it says A4.
07:41I did work very hard to get this place,
07:42and it's not absolutely massive,
07:43but as a solo homeowner in Sydney, like, I'm really proud of it.
07:46Jackie can be a little bit judgmental.
07:48She's got very high standards.
07:50If she's not accepting of it, this relationship can't progress.
07:53This is the ultimate test for me.
07:55Whoa!
07:56Oh, man.
07:57I'm expecting to get to know Ryan a bit more,
07:59like the real Ryan in his home environment.
08:01I'm definitely excited to see some of Ryan's stuff.
08:03Like, I want to appreciate him more as a person.
08:05This is your place?
08:06This is mine here.
08:09Someone is greeting us.
08:10Raya!
08:11Oh, my God!
08:13Oh.
08:14I brought someone new.
08:16I've never had anyone live at this place with me,
08:18and now I'm bringing a wife here.
08:19It's a massive deal, inviting Jackie into my world.
08:22I want to see what she really feels about this little place
08:24that I built for myself, because I absolutely love it.
08:26All right.
08:27Welcome.
08:28Welcome.
08:29And home.
08:30Home.
08:31Welcome home.
08:32I like it.
08:33It's funny.
08:34I think she's going to be great here.
08:35OK.
08:36Come in, come in.
08:37I'm going to put these lights on.
08:38Wow.
08:39So this is the lounge room.
08:41No flowers yet.
08:45Come on through.
08:46This is the main area.
08:49That's a 250-year-old Edo period katana.
08:53As you can tell, I'm pretty passionate about this type of stuff.
08:56Got the vision board over there.
09:01So, yeah, so this room, this is basically Ryan's room.
09:11So, for example, if you look over here,
09:13that's when I did the massive tour.
09:15It's got a symbol from every country.
09:17So that's Stein is from Germany.
09:20It was eye-opening to see his home.
09:22There's an Eiffel Tower, a sword from the Tower of London.
09:25I just think he's been alone here for seven years.
09:28And maybe he isn't even aware of how lonely he is.
09:31It really reminds me of the elderly,
09:33because a lot of elderly live in homes
09:35where they're alone for seven, 10, 15 years.
09:38This is a 70-year-old kimono.
09:41It was so sweet of him to be so confident
09:43and so happy to bring me in.
09:45It's not quite hoarding.
09:46It's just, like, memories.
09:49I just feel better. I feel right.
09:58Up, up and down. Oh!
10:00You just don't have to carry it by the head.
10:02Yeah, not the easiest.
10:03Beth and TJ are returning to their home city of Brisbane,
10:06and the weather hasn't dampened Beth's buoyant mood
10:09as she brings her first-ever partner to her family home.
10:12Muscle mummy. There you go.
10:14It feels so weird being back in Brisbane.
10:18This is a really big deal for me,
10:20to be taking a guy to my home, meeting my family,
10:22cos, like, my family and my friends have never seen me in a relationship.
10:25Is that a sign?
10:28I'm home! Oh, my goodness!
10:30Who's that?
10:31Hello!
10:33Hello!
10:34How are you?
10:35Hi.
10:36How are you?
10:37Good, thank you. My pleasure.
10:39It's weird. I feel like it's been so long back then.
10:41I feel like it was yesterday that I saw you at the wedding.
10:43I know.
10:44How's that be, though, living, like, so closely?
10:46Yeah, I mean, you met at the wedding and then...
10:47Best first time out of home.
10:48Yeah, well...
10:49Yeah, it's been very light and easy.
10:50Shall we get settled?
10:51Yeah, show me around.
10:52Show you around?
10:53What's going on?
10:54As Beth and TJ settle into Beth's room...
10:56This?
10:57Little room.
10:58..their comfort levels together are at an all-time high.
11:01You put your stuff away first and then I'll see what's left.
11:03OK.
11:04A stark contrast to the last commitment ceremony,
11:06where the couple's lack of intimacy came into focus.
11:09Why would you say, TJ,
11:10that sexual intimacy and, like, physical intimacy
11:12hasn't progressed for you two?
11:13I genuinely believe it's an emotional connection thing.
11:15I want to focus on building that connection.
11:17I really want to have, like, ourselves in the 20s
11:19before moving back into the intimate side of things.
11:23But since then,
11:24the pair have made a significant step forward
11:26in their relationship.
11:27We went on a date and then that night we were intimate again,
11:30which was awesome.
11:31I don't really quite know why I've got so much stuff,
11:33to be honest.
11:34He initiated it.
11:35He said this whole time he needs more of a connection
11:37to sleep with me,
11:38and I hope that means that he does have an emotional connection to me,
11:40because otherwise I guess it wouldn't make sense
11:42for him to initiate that.
11:43Yeah, it felt good.
11:44The commitment ceremony, it made me realise
11:46that I was disregarding Beth's requirements
11:48or what she wants from an intimate relationship,
11:50so we went out, had a beautiful day, had a few drinks,
11:52came back and it felt like the right time to do it.
11:55But that's not something that will be happening
11:57in the family household right now.
11:59No.
12:00We are going to be like sardines tonight in that bed.
12:02It's not very big, is it?
12:04Mm.
12:07In Melbourne,
12:09after promising to show more effort in their relationship,
12:12Dave is seeking to connect with his wife
12:14and is joining Jamie in the familiar surrounds of her own home.
12:18I feel like homestays have been a bit of an eye-opener.
12:20You know, the hard conversations we're good at having them,
12:22I just want to sort of step up and show exactly how I feel
12:24and just be a partner who can express and build your partner up
12:27in the areas that they need.
12:28Hey, I'm here. Let me in.
12:30Jamie always talks about her apartment and where she lives.
12:33It makes her super happy,
12:34so I thought it would make her a bit more comfortable
12:36if I was to move in here.
12:37I just want to be able to get back to where we were.
12:40We've had such a good run for such a long time.
12:42Oh! Yes!
12:46It's important that we get back on track.
12:48And they say we're like the strong couple.
12:50Come on. Let's go.
12:51I know how much I care about her and I don't want to lose her.
12:53And with the help of his wingman...
12:55It's going to be OK, Wolfie. It's going to be OK.
12:58..Dave is hoping his stay at Jamie's
13:00will take them back to the glory days of their relationship.
13:03KNOCK AT DOOR
13:06Hey! Hello.
13:07Hey, you sexy mix. I brought you a present.
13:10His name's Wolfie and he can be Rara's brother.
13:12And this is an emotional support puppy for me while I'm here.
13:15I brought you dogs too.
13:16With the dogs out? Here you go.
13:19Oh, that's sweet.
13:21This is nice.
13:23Come, this is going to be very fun.
13:25Just cool people.
13:26Whoa, how good's that view?
13:28Very nice.
13:29You've got a mate.
13:30I need to show Jamie that I care
13:32and show Jamie that she does matter
13:34and I want to make her feel wanted and needed.
13:36So, yeah, it's a clear as day. I know what I need to do.
13:38Knuckle down and make her feel the way she deserves.
13:41Let me see the size of this bed. Am I going to fit on it?
13:43Oh!
13:45Yeah, you're fine.
13:47You've got about this much room.
13:48That's where my pillow goes.
13:49You're exceptionally large.
13:50We'll be all right.
13:51That's not possible.
13:52Oh!
13:58I feel like Dave's really trying to give it a fair go
14:00and he's, like, really trying to show off, you know,
14:02there was a lot of cuddling and embraces
14:04and I think, yeah, he does really care for me
14:06and we just like being in each other's space like that.
14:10I know, it's weird, my worlds are colliding right now.
14:12Dogs, me, and the bed at once.
14:14I love these pants.
14:20In south-west Sydney,
14:21Jackie is getting acquainted with her surrounds at Ryan's place.
14:25And while Ryan is out shopping, she has taken it upon herself
14:28to correct his organisational strategy with fresh energy.
14:32I thought that Ryan could do with some things done around the house.
14:37For my standard of living,
14:38I just like the place to be a little bit cleaner and tidier.
14:41Ryan hasn't even done his laundry for two and a half months
14:43and I'm just thinking this is, like, not good.
14:45I think Ryan could do with moving his flat screen back into the office
14:48so that he can work in the office.
14:51And he could also move his sword.
14:53He should have it on display,
14:54but it doesn't need to be on the dining room table.
14:56It's like the Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe,
14:58the sword table, it's literally a sword table.
15:02Daddy's home.
15:04I knew that wouldn't stay blank for a while.
15:07Can we open the window thing?
15:08Alright, yeah, let's open the blinds for sure.
15:11Ooh, that's another thing I'm going to have to replace.
15:13Add it to the list.
15:16By the way, Ryan,
15:17you should probably have the blinds open in this place while you're away.
15:21I usually keep them closed just in case anyone pokes around the backyard
15:23and sees, like, the sword, the TV.
15:26Maybe that's a good reason to put the sword away in the office.
15:31There's no room in there at the moment.
15:35Alright, to-do list.
15:36Clean, wash fabrics and sheets.
15:38Yep, standard.
15:39Move office back into office.
15:41I don't think you understand what's involved with that, hey?
15:44No, read the next one, I do.
15:46Pack stuff away into box.
15:48Genius.
15:49Genius stuff there.
15:50Pat Frey and let her inside during day.
15:52She's sad out there.
15:53You're basically isolating someone for the whole day.
15:56Jackie, Jackie.
15:57She knows the routine.
15:58She gets walked, she gets to cuddle at night,
16:00she gets bones from the butcher.
16:01Don't, don't feel bad for her.
16:04And mow lawns.
16:05Obviously haven't been around to do that,
16:07so, yeah, might even show you how to start the old mower.
16:10Mow your lawns.
16:11Hey, if you wanted me to consider moving to Manly,
16:13you've got to consider this lifestyle as well.
16:15Have an open mind, you know?
16:17I have a very open mind, clearly.
16:19No, that's an instructional mind.
16:21No, it's open to how to improve, how to make it work.
16:26You know what, at this point,
16:27I don't feel like Jackie's 100% accepting of me,
16:30my lifestyle and the home I've decided to build in my own way.
16:34I would never walk into your house and try and change anything, hey?
16:37We've been butting heads back and forth, and that does drain you.
16:40I'm still here, I'm still keeping open and optimistic,
16:43but if she's going to keep trying to change who I am,
16:45it's really hard to see that future.
16:48Coming up...
16:49Where's the big man?
16:50..a heartwarming visit for Jamie and Dave...
16:52That's finally me.
16:53You can call him Howie or Howard.
16:54..brings life-changing news.
16:56I didn't even expect to hear anything like that.
16:58No, no.
16:59But for Beth, homestays may spell heartbreak.
17:02If you were to tell me after I decide yes or no right now
17:05that it has to be a no because I'm not completely comfortable with it.
17:12As homestays continue...
17:14You're basically part of the family now.
17:16..our couples are becoming more intimate with each other...
17:19This is a good view from here.
17:20You're welcome.
17:21..and each other's loved ones.
17:24Is he going to, like, sniff me? Yeah, he'll sniff you.
17:26But, like, can we have it more controlled than that?
17:29Yeah.
17:30Ha!
17:35In Perth...
17:37..Athena and Adrian are setting up for a beachside picnic.
17:43Which one? Is it double-sided or what?
17:45No, it's this side. Oh.
17:46What are you doing? What are you...
17:48Earlier in the week, Adrian clashed with Athena's twin sister, Cleo.
17:54Me and Phi look at life as a book we both read.
17:56I'm looking at you as a chapter in her life.
17:58I just don't see you as the ending.
18:01Yeah, I mean, it's obviously frustrating.
18:03I still think she should give me an apology, but at the same time,
18:06I'm a twin as well, so I can't blame Cleo for protecting her.
18:11But whatever, we can move on.
18:13I'm adamant I didn't know what to expect in Perth,
18:16but it's amazing, honestly. I like it.
18:18The beach is amazing, the sun has been shining the whole time.
18:21You know, I've had a great time.
18:23I'm glad that I got to spend time with your mum.
18:25Not so much your sister.
18:28No, I'm actually glad we got to see Cleo before the end anyway.
18:31My mum really likes you. Of course she does.
18:33Yes, she does. She does.
18:37It does feel somewhat sad, like, knowing that we're coming up
18:39to the end of this experiment.
18:41But just because the experiment comes to an end,
18:43it doesn't mean we come to an end.
18:46Like, let's see how we are outside this and go from there.
18:49And do long distance for a time.
18:51You just keep going from here, you know what I'm saying?
18:55The longer Adrian and I spend together, we do get closer.
18:58Tell me.
18:59We do have massive hurdles.
19:01It's because Perth is my home, it's my soil.
19:03Mine, my son's life is here.
19:06And then Adrian's, you know, Sydney's his home.
19:09But within this experiment,
19:11we're definitely in the strongest place we've been.
19:13So I'm hopeful.
19:15Yeah, of course, I enjoyed my time here. I've had a great experience.
19:17I wouldn't take it back. I wouldn't have done it with anyone else.
19:19And, yeah, a blessing that you walked down that aisle.
19:24I do see her in my future.
19:27There's no point in worrying about all the negatives
19:29and all the things that could go wrong and live in different states.
19:31You know, if it's meant to be, it will truly be.
19:32And that's just how I see it.
19:34Should have worried swimmers.
19:35Wouldn't have mind seeing you naked again.
19:37Skinny dip.
19:46In Brisbane, Beth's best friend Darcy...
19:50..is joining Beth and TJ for an English roast dinner with her family.
19:54This is the longest we've been apart in 11 years.
19:56I just really want to see her, like, super happy.
19:59Speaking to her and stuff, TJ does make her really happy
20:02and she can be herself around him, super goofy.
20:04It all sounds like they're such a good match.
20:07Cheers, guys. Thanks for having us over.
20:09Good to see you all again.
20:11We love it.
20:12Bringing TJ into my space, he's just meshed so well with my family.
20:16It's beautiful, guys. You've got to smell this.
20:18He just feels so normal and so relaxed.
20:21It's like he's been around us all for years.
20:23Because we came into the experiment so late,
20:25we were kind of put through this, like, fast-tracking environment.
20:27But obviously the challenges that we did were so deep and so heavy
20:30that I think, until we finished them,
20:32we kind of did just want to switch it off
20:34because it was so emotional and triggering.
20:36Do you feel pressure from other couples
20:37to be at the level where they are now?
20:39I definitely felt it. 100%.
20:40It's emotionally overwhelming.
20:42But we do have such a great time together.
20:44We're just always laughing,
20:45we're always taking the piss out of each other.
20:47Can I ask what you like about Beth?
20:49Yeah. Um...
20:51I like how she makes me feel.
20:53When I'm around Beth, I feel like smiling, I feel like laughing,
20:55I feel like I'm having a good time.
20:57All the moments that we are spending together are so light-hearted.
21:00Can I just ask...
21:01Obviously, we know Beth's in it for the right reasons.
21:03I just want to find out whether you're in it for the right reasons.
21:06I think I've been pretty transparent with how I feel about Beth
21:09throughout this entire experiment.
21:12We did share with each other, like,
21:13I've always felt very used by men before.
21:15Like, once they've got what they wanted,
21:17they just kind of up and leave.
21:18From the start, I wanted to make a point that
21:20I really want something deeper than just that, of course.
21:22And I just really wanted to make sure
21:23that we could try and build something outside that before.
21:25Yeah.
21:26I don't know TJ,
21:27but listening to some of the stuff that he's set up,
21:30I'm like, wow, this seems really rehearsed.
21:33And, like, very scripted.
21:34I love how she interacts with you.
21:36The fact that you guys, like,
21:37end every phone call saying, I love you.
21:39Like, it's hard to say whether or not
21:40he's just saying the right things.
21:43The friendship side of things between Beth and I is
21:45the friendship that we've built too.
21:46Like, I see Beth's friendship
21:47and the connection that we have is super, super strong.
21:49Um, friendship?
21:51You're using the word friendship quite a lot.
21:54Like, I would say relationship, not, like, friendship.
21:57I'm not going to lie,
21:58that word's been used a lot to describe your marriage.
22:00Yeah.
22:01But at what point do you stop being friends?
22:03Yeah, correct.
22:06It's hard because we do get along so well,
22:08but I also want that to transition
22:09and translate to, like, a romantic relationship.
22:11Like, a romantic relationship as well, too.
22:13You're running out of time now,
22:14so are you both committed to focusing on that
22:16in the time you have left?
22:18Yeah, of course, I am.
22:23Can I just ask if it all ended abruptly tomorrow,
22:25is my daughter going to get heartbroken?
22:27Um...
22:30It's just, we don't know what's on the horizon.
22:32Like, I care so much about her.
22:34I care about my dog.
22:42I can say, like, yeah, I care about this person,
22:44I care about, like, I know straight away
22:46whether or not, like, I want to
22:47initiate something a little bit further.
22:49Absolutely, I think I've been pretty transparent
22:51with how I feel about your experience,
22:53and I think that what I really want you to focused on
22:55is her, and not trying to get allficially engaged,
22:58and, you know, how we feel about each other,
23:01or how we feel about going out and going out and going out
23:03and going and getting drunk together.
23:05like I want to initiate something a little bit further.
23:08Absolutely, I think I've been pretty transparent
23:10with how I feel about Beth throughout this entire experiment
23:12and there's, I don't think there's anything
23:13that either one of us can say right now
23:14that'd be a blind side to how we're both feeling.
23:17I see Beth in my life for a long time
23:19in what aspect that is, is what we're navigating through
23:22I guess at the moment as well too.
23:24Yeah, I guess from that perspective, yeah.
23:26I don't know, it's just, it's hard to sort of say right now.
23:28Yeah.
23:31On that note, Ange, do you wanna go for a little chat?
23:33Sure, love.
23:37I'm not gonna lie, listening to his responses,
23:40it just feels very rehearsed.
23:42Like, put on a brave face,
23:43say what they're thinking, they wanna hear.
23:46To be honest, that's the vibe that I'm getting.
23:49It is worrying me that we're not on the same page.
23:52So I think it's just something that I've just let slide
23:54because I don't wanna believe it.
23:56But yeah, I don't know,
23:57it's starting to all really sink in now, I think, so.
24:00At the last commitment ceremony,
24:02Beth revealed painful doubts about the relationship.
24:06I think I told myself from the get-go
24:09that maybe I wouldn't be good enough for TJ.
24:13And then because the intimacy is lacking,
24:15I instantly blame myself and think,
24:17maybe it's because I'm not attractive enough
24:19that he doesn't wanna do those things.
24:23It's hard because it's like, he says one thing,
24:25but then he makes me feel a different way.
24:27Like, before we left, TJ initiated sex with me again,
24:30and that hadn't happened since honeymoon.
24:32He says, you know, I wouldn't be touching you,
24:34I wouldn't wanna be kissing you
24:34and cuddling you if I wasn't attracted to you,
24:36but it's like,
24:38oh, you're attracted to me now.
24:48In Southwest Sydney,
24:49Jackie and Ryan are out walking Ryan's dog, Freya.
24:53This is a new spot for her.
24:55One of the things I said in my vows
24:55was I cannot wait to take my wife on a walk in the sun
24:58with Freya, my dog,
24:59and just asking the simplicity of it.
25:01I love these forest spots, and so does she.
25:03I rescued, adopted, and like sheltered Freya
25:06and brought her personality out
25:07into the loving dog that you see here.
25:10At one point, she was scared,
25:11didn't trust the outside world and whatnot.
25:13Can I take her?
25:15Gonna pull pretty hard
25:16because there's so many smells here.
25:16That's okay.
25:17Sit, sit.
25:18Good girl, good girl.
25:20All right, so go through that lip with your hand.
25:23I'll be fine like that.
25:24No, it's too much lead.
25:25Why?
25:26Because she might want to wander off into the-
25:27I'll be okay.
25:29Make sure she's not walking you.
25:30It's okay.
25:31Don't pull, don't pull.
25:33She's gonna know that you're the boss.
25:34If she knows I'm the boss.
25:35No, she doesn't.
25:36But this is her walk time.
25:37She's allowed to enjoy it.
25:38She's the other girl in my life,
25:40and she's in control right now.
25:43See, she's happy.
25:43Look, her tail's wagging now.
25:45There's nothing wrong with letting the dog
25:46take the lead for us.
25:47No.
25:49Jackie, this is my dog, all right?
25:51And you're gonna listen to me
25:51because I know her back to front.
25:53I know her nature.
25:54I know what she tries to get away with, all right?
25:55So if you could just respect that, that'd be great.
25:58This is not what I wanted for our first walk.
26:01Telling me how to manage my pet is just, it's a no-no.
26:05Again, it's just an example of her
26:07not accepting something about me
26:08or something about my life.
26:09And yeah, I'm just fed up with it.
26:12I'm serious as well.
26:13Like, when you came into my house,
26:14I knew you appreciated certain aspects of it,
26:16but it always feels like the critical side of you
26:18comes out when you're addressing me,
26:20talking about me.
26:21Constructive.
26:21The constructive side.
26:22I thought that because you've been alone for seven years,
26:25you might appreciate some tips.
26:27All right, I'll take my baby back now.
26:29Whoa.
26:31She can't help herself.
26:34Like, this is my life.
26:36I wanna see if you're here to fit into it,
26:38not here to change it to suit your ideas.
26:49In Brisbane, Beth and TJ are meeting two
26:51of TJ's closest friends for lunch.
26:54Stunning.
26:55Isn't it?
26:56Yeah.
26:57But after dinner with family and friends last night,
27:00Beth is left questioning how truthful her husband
27:02is being in their relationship.
27:04How you feeling?
27:05Yeah, good.
27:06I'm feeling lots of different things right now.
27:07Last night, I've got my best friend telling me
27:09that he thinks everything that TJ's saying
27:11is bullshit, basically.
27:16Hi.
27:17How are you?
27:17Good to see you.
27:18Good to see you.
27:19Hello.
27:20How are you?
27:21Good to see you.
27:22I do wanna get to the bottom of it.
27:22I'm all ears today,
27:23so obviously we heard it from my family yesterday.
27:26Today, it's TJ's friend's turn to,
27:27yeah, give me a bit of insight.
27:28You saw your parents?
27:29Yeah, we've been with best friends
27:30for the past couple of nights.
27:31Last night?
27:32Yeah.
27:33How was that?
27:33It was nice.
27:34It was nice.
27:35My parents were amazing.
27:36They made me feel really comfortable, so it was fun.
27:37He did get a bit of a roasting.
27:38Oh, yeah?
27:38What happened?
27:39Just from my best friend.
27:40He had some questions.
27:41But other than that, he was good.
27:42That's from your best friend?
27:43Did you think that we all did?
27:43Yeah, I was gonna...
27:44Really?
27:45I thought you were just asking.
27:46They all had questions, I guess,
27:47about what our relationship looks like
27:49and what we've done to strengthen it
27:51or what we haven't done to strengthen it as well, too.
27:54Thank you, mate.
27:56So when you say you're strengthening,
27:57where were the weaknesses that affected you guys?
27:58Give me an example.
27:59What's an example?
28:00Points within our relationship,
28:01we definitely have that connection,
28:02that emotional connection,
28:03that romantic stimulation.
28:04But for me, it's inconsistent.
28:05Right.
28:06Yeah, I feel like sometimes there's
28:07this weird distance between us,
28:09and then some days, it's great.
28:11For me, I wouldn't be sat here
28:12if I didn't want to try and make it work.
28:14And because we are kind of
28:15running out of time in the experiment,
28:16it is a bit of a worry that we might not get there.
28:18Right.
28:19I think what we're trying to work out at the moment
28:21is that is our connection going to flourish
28:23into a relationship?
28:24Right.
28:25So there's obviously something that's lacking between us
28:26for me to say, yes,
28:27I want to have a relationship with this person.
28:33That was really hard to hear.
28:35I'm in the situation that I dreaded the most.
28:38That I have feelings for my partner,
28:40and he possibly doesn't have them for me.
28:42I mean, I'll be back soon.
28:43Okay.
28:44No problemo.
28:48So what would you have to do
28:48between now and the end of the experiment
28:50for you to be...
28:51For you to feel different.
28:52Yeah.
28:53It's hard.
28:54You can't write down on the list,
28:55if you do these things right now,
28:56we're going to be perfect.
28:57I can't see how it would just snap in two weeks
28:59and change completely.
29:01And, you know, her parents wanted an answer last night.
29:03If that experiment ends tomorrow,
29:04is my daughter going to have a heartbroken?
29:07So as it stands, how do you feel?
29:12If you were to tell me I have to decide yes or no right now,
29:14then it has to be a no
29:15because I'm not completely comfortable in here.
29:17Yeah.
29:21In Melbourne, Rhi and Jeff are enjoying
29:23their final day of homestays together.
29:26But before they leave,
29:27Jeff has one last surprise for Rhi,
29:29one that might just unlock a new door for both of them.
29:33Homestays for me has given me
29:34more reassurance about our relationship.
29:36And I think we've got a great future together.
29:38I love every minute of every day with Rhi.
29:40And once we come out of the experiment,
29:42I don't want that to stop.
29:42I want to spend as much time with Rhi as possible.
29:45I feel like with homestays,
29:46I've gotten everything out of it
29:47that I wanted to get out of it.
29:48For me, it feels like life outside of the experiment
29:49is just going to get better.
29:50Yeah, I totally agree.
29:52And I'm proud of us that we got this far
29:54and considering our circumstances, like, what the hell?
29:57It's a pretty cool story.
29:58Well, it's an amazing story.
30:00I'm looking forward to coming back here
30:01and like starting the next chapter of our life.
30:04Me too.
30:06In saying that,
30:07Ooh.
30:09here is a key to my apartment.
30:11Oh, that's so cute.
30:12So come over whenever.
30:15You're welcome.
30:16Come over whenever.
30:18That's so cute.
30:19The fact that Jeff gave me a key
30:20does make me feel really good.
30:22After our wedding day,
30:23I really wasn't sure what was going to happen,
30:25but look where we are.
30:27I'm very happy with how it's all turned out.
30:29I'm happy too.
30:31If things keep going how they're going,
30:32I'm definitely falling for Rhi.
30:34Yeah, I feel really good about her and our relationship
30:36and I do hope she is the one for me.
30:39Mm-hmm.
30:44In the outer suburbs of Melbourne,
30:46Jamie and Dave are at Dave's stepsister's house.
30:49Are these your sister's house?
30:50Yeah.
30:50Oh, sweet.
30:51Dave finally understands the need
30:52to demonstrate his commitment to Jamie.
30:55And now he is about to introduce her
30:57to the most important person in his life.
30:59Yeah, I'm excited.
31:00About to see my dad for the first time in a while.
31:04Yeah.
31:06This is weeks in the making
31:07of coming to this point
31:08where I can introduce Jamie to someone special to me.
31:11Like, I wished my dad was well enough
31:13to come to the wedding.
31:15He just started chemo for the fourth time.
31:17How you going?
31:19Yeah?
31:19It's got no forms.
31:23Well, I wish you could be here.
31:24I love you both very much.
31:25Love you.
31:29It's hard when you see your parents like that.
31:31Yeah.
31:35Seeing dad over the last four years,
31:37it sort of does take a lot out of me.
31:40Because you take it all on board.
31:42So this visit, hopefully, is a bit different.
31:45Yeah, I got some news about him yesterday,
31:47but I haven't spoken to him yet.
31:48So it'll be good to see him.
31:50And introducing him to Jamie,
31:51that's a massive thing for me.
31:53It's really nice that we have this opportunity.
31:55I'm grateful for it.
31:59Hello.
32:00Hello.
32:02Hi.
32:02Do you remember Jamie?
32:03It's so good to see you again.
32:04Greeting them is Dave's stepsister, Cara.
32:07Where's the big man?
32:08Followed by step-mum, Karen.
32:09Hey, man.
32:10Hi.
32:11She's a little wobbler, too, like you.
32:13And dad, Howard.
32:14How are you?
32:15Good to see you, Dad.
32:16Finally, mate.
32:17You're looking beautiful now.
32:18How are you, Howard?
32:18Hey, mate.
32:19Hey, brother.
32:20How you going?
32:21I'm going well, mate.
32:22How was it seeing Dave after he's been away?
32:23Oh, I was very excited this morning.
32:24Yeah, I've missed him.
32:26Yeah.
32:27Well, what have you been up to?
32:29How have you been?
32:30Just being buried.
32:31Just being buried.
32:32And I know he's been a bit upset
32:34being so far away from home.
32:37That's why you really don't say a lot,
32:39because you know it's going to affect other people.
32:40So you thought I'd just keep it to yourself, but yeah.
32:46So tell me, obviously, like I've been saying to Jamie,
32:48it's been so negative over four years.
32:50Yeah, yeah.
32:50And then now we get this news.
32:52Yeah.
32:53Like, what does that mean, though?
32:54There was three tumours.
32:57Two tumours have shrunk.
32:58Significantly shrunk.
32:59And the third tumour's gone.
33:00F***.
33:04Another four days and she'd hopefully cleaned it up.
33:06Yep.
33:08And something's finally...
33:09Working.
33:10Happened, yeah.
33:11I didn't even expect to hear anything like that.
33:13No.
33:13Me either.
33:15Finally good news after all this time.
33:18I'm so glad that my dad's turned the corner.
33:20You know, he's been on my mind since day one.
33:23Like, I have been in two places at once.
33:24It's been difficult.
33:26Seeing him with a bit more pep in his step, I guess.
33:29Yeah, I'm super, super happy.
33:31Bit emotional, but I'm happy.
33:34But Jamie's made it easy as well.
33:35Like, she understands that she doesn't
33:37put pressure on those areas at all.
33:38It was super important to meet you, for me.
33:41When we've shared such a unique experience,
33:42it's been a really good one, too.
33:44That's good.
33:44Yeah.
33:46You know, she's absolutely amazing.
33:47I'm gonna strangle someone for you, son.
33:48That's what I'm thinking.
33:49I've been like a bulldog.
33:51And you're so little.
33:52I'm about to have the youngest
33:53and I think I'm the shortest, but I'm the scariest.
33:56I was wrapped up with Jamie and she's wonderful.
33:58He's very happy, you can tell.
34:02Yeah, makes you feel good.
34:04You've got a very nice lady there.
34:05Yes, I know.
34:06Very nice.
34:09It was really good to meet the rest of Dave's family.
34:12The fact that Dave introduced me to his dad,
34:14it just really shows he is trying to turn it around.
34:17She looks after me.
34:19I'm actually ready to go back to Sydney now.
34:21I feel optimistic and hopeful about the future with Dave.
34:26Thanks for taking the time as well to do this,
34:28because I know it's not easy.
34:29No, it's easy.
34:30Is it?
34:31I've spent a lot.
34:32Don't make him cry.
34:33He misses you.
34:34Yeah, I miss him too.
34:36They really, really like Jamie.
34:38And it's nice to reflect on the bond that we have built
34:41and to share that with my parents and my sister.
34:43It's really sweet.
34:44Bye-bye, gorgeous.
34:45Thank you very much.
34:46I love you.
34:46They can see I'm happy, so I think, yeah,
34:48it plays a big part.
34:50Hey, mate.
34:50I love you.
34:51Love you too.
34:52Take it easy.
34:53Lovely to meet you, Jamie.
34:55Coming up.
34:55Two sets of paperwork saying he's a thug.
34:57He said, no.
34:58You're trying to talk over me.
34:58You're trying to shut me up.
34:59I'm going to tell you exactly how I feel.
35:00I don't appreciate your tone.
35:01With support in Ryan's corner.
35:03I think he's been absolutely gypped
35:03by this experiment I've been put with you.
35:05Will his marriage finally reach breaking point?
35:15Having now moved into TJ's house
35:17on the other side of Brisbane,
35:19Beth has been left questioning his true feelings.
35:22With the week coming to an end
35:23and uncertainty surrounding their relationship,
35:26Beth wants some direct answers from TJ.
35:29At the end of the day,
35:30I don't want to walk away from this experiment
35:31and not put my heart on the line.
35:34Hello.
35:38How are you feeling?
35:41I'm not great.
35:44How did you, um, how do you think the odds were?
35:47The guys, they said,
35:48do you see this progressing through your head?
35:50The other guys, they said,
35:51do you see this progressing on the outside?
35:52Is that something that you'd be interested in?
35:54Something along those lines,
35:55but I just feel like you couldn't really say yes or no.
35:58So I think that's taken me back a little bit.
36:00Yeah.
36:02Yeah, I don't know.
36:03I think I've been pretty transparent with how I'm feeling.
36:08I'm liking the emotional romantic thing.
36:10And in order for me to have a relationship,
36:11that's what I want.
36:12Even when we were having connection issues,
36:13I was the first one to say that we're having,
36:14I'm not getting that connection that I want.
36:18To be honest,
36:19what's confused me is you said that you needed
36:21a more of an emotional connection to be intimate.
36:24We wrote for stay at the last commitment ceremony.
36:26A few days later, you then sleep with me again,
36:28which then makes me think maybe he's connecting more.
36:31And then a few days after that,
36:32we're now here and you're telling me
36:33that you don't see this progressing outside.
36:35And that's really, really confused me.
36:38But you wanted to sleep together.
36:40So I'm trying to look out for your needs too.
36:41Of course I can,
36:42but can you understand where that comes from
36:43from my point of view?
36:44It's like, we both said stay.
36:45You've been saying this whole time
36:47that you needed more of a connection to sleep with me.
36:48And then you sleep with me.
36:49Of course I'm going to think, okay, great.
36:50He feels more connected to me.
36:52And then we come to homestays
36:53and this is now where we're at.
36:54Of course I'm feeling confused and hurt.
36:58Yeah, I mean, I thought, you know,
36:59let's just give it a go.
37:00Let's try and just get past that.
37:02And hopefully we can develop something from there.
37:04But I'm just not feeling that connection.
37:05Like we mentioned, I'm just not feeling that connection.
37:10If I had known he didn't see a future with me,
37:12I would never have brought him to my home.
37:15And I think what's sad is,
37:17we've got almost two months in.
37:19You've done the homestays, we've got this far.
37:21And there's not enough of you that thinks,
37:25I don't want to cut ties with Beth.
37:26I think that's what hurts.
37:27I don't want to cut ties with you.
37:28I've never once said that I want to cut ties with you.
37:30Yeah, but you don't seem to be progressing.
37:32Like after this, it's like-
37:33Why am I unsure?
37:34I've been honest with that.
37:37It's like he's just flipped a switch and it's game over.
37:40It's such a shit feeling.
37:41It's, yeah, it surprised me a little bit.
37:45You know, it always hurts to hear that
37:47the person you like doesn't feel the same.
37:54I just genuinely didn't think we'd be, yeah,
37:58this far in during the homestays.
38:02Yeah, I seem to not feel anything.
38:04In South West Sydney,
38:05Jackie and Ryan are arriving at a local pub
38:08to meet some friends.
38:11After a tense exchange walking Ryan's dog,
38:14Jackie is ready for a reset.
38:17I mean, for me, I'd like today to be
38:18as like enjoyable as possible.
38:20Yeah.
38:21Mm-hmm.
38:22Yeah.
38:23Hello!
38:24Hi.
38:25Hi guys.
38:25Hi.
38:26How are you?
38:27Good.
38:28Good to see you.
38:29Good to see you.
38:30Good to see you.
38:30Good to see you.
38:31Good to see you.
38:32Hi.
38:33Hi guys.
38:34Hi.
38:35First to arrive is Jackie's friend, Jet.
38:37I think we had like 10 seconds at the wedding, I think.
38:38Yeah, I can barely remember it.
38:39It was a bit chaotic.
38:42How have you been?
38:43Thanks for coming all the way.
38:44I'm good.
38:45Yeah, where'd you come from today?
38:46Oh, Manly.
38:47I have to say, I have no idea where I am.
38:49I don't know the name of the bar.
38:52Is this your local?
38:53Oh, it's one of them.
38:54Yeah.
38:55That's a great spot.
38:56Hey!
38:57Hello!
38:58Next to arrive are Ryan's friends, Adam and Carla.
39:01All right, where's everybody sitting?
39:02I'm here.
39:03I don't bite, so.
39:04Who Jackie met previously during family and friends week.
39:09Speaking of fall over,
39:09how was your concussion after the wedding?
39:12It would have been bad if you just kind of left it at that.
39:14No, the reason why I was-
39:15Don't interrupt her, don't interrupt her.
39:17Agree to disagree.
39:18No, this is gaslighting.
39:22They just want the best for me
39:23and they're not afraid to say what's on their mind.
39:25Today, I'm looking for clarity.
39:26I'm hoping for something to come out of this
39:28which either relieves my fears or even like confirms them.
39:31I don't know, like I'm staying open at this point.
39:33How is everyone?
39:34Yeah, we're good.
39:35Yeah, you look happy today, which is good.
39:37So did you go to your place?
39:39Yeah.
39:39So I went and saw Manly?
39:40Yeah, how was that?
39:41I had oysters and whatnot
39:42and tried to keep my face straight.
39:44But like, those conversations had to like,
39:45in terms of could I see myself living in Manly?
39:48She asked me that repeatedly
39:49and I still, I don't have like the ultimate answer for it,
39:51you know?
39:51What was your perspective on seeing Ryan's lifestyle?
39:54Does he like where he lives, the location, expectations?
39:57Well, she had to Google Maps for that.
39:59I looked it to see how long it would take him
40:01to get from my house to Ryan's house.
40:03Two hours.
40:04If I was to go there on the weekend,
40:05it would be four hours.
40:06What did you find being in his home
40:08and seeing how, you know, his lifestyle was?
40:10You think that's something that you can see for your future?
40:12I think for me it's hard,
40:13because I really like the ocean.
40:16I think honestly, if his house was located in Manly,
40:19I could totally see myself moving in
40:21and like living together.
40:22Well, what stops you from where his house is?
40:24It reminds me of like New Zealand,
40:26which is kind of what I moved away from.
40:28It's like too many sacrifices to give up in my mind.
40:30The things that make me happy are like the ocean
40:32and running and like getting the ferry to work
40:35and my friends and going out.
40:36And so there's just so many things I have to give up.
40:38And I'm like, what would I replace it with?
40:40But the question's got to go two ways.
40:41Yeah, of course.
40:42From what I've gathered from Jackie,
40:44she's not willing to compromise about anything
40:46in the relationship.
40:47Honestly, I didn't really hear anything positive
40:49from her about Ryan.
40:51So Ryan told us that he's had,
40:53if I'm correct, like a reflections week
40:54with some letter that had to be written
40:56between the both of you.
40:56How did that go?
40:58Um.
40:59Don't get stressed.
41:00He hasn't told us details.
41:01He's just told us little things.
41:02Obviously we need to be filled in here,
41:03but there were some things that were quite appalling
41:05to me that I heard,
41:06so I'd like some kind of context
41:07in terms of how that came across.
41:08Yeah, I think it was quite a long time ago,
41:10so I can't remember exactly what I said,
41:12but I'd love to hear what you were appalled about
41:14and then I can try and address it.
41:24So Ryan told us that he's had like a reflections week
41:26with some letter that had to be written
41:27between the both of you.
41:28How did that go?
41:30Um.
41:31Don't get stressed.
41:32He hasn't told us details.
41:33He's just told us little things.
41:34Obviously we need to be filled in here,
41:35but there were some things that were quite appalling
41:37to me that I heard,
41:37so I'd like some kind of context
41:39in terms of how that came across.
41:40Yeah, I think it was quite a long time ago,
41:42so I can't remember exactly what I said.
41:43I'm concerned you've built your sense of self
41:45on top of outdated beliefs about power and masculinity.
41:48Your extreme sense of masculine pride and fragile ego
41:50are difficult to deal with and come at my expense.
41:52I'm concerned that you financially contribute
41:54less than I will,
41:55because I'm not convinced
41:56that you have enough financial skills.
41:58But I'd love to hear what you were appalled about,
42:01and then I can try and address it.
42:02Just like subtle attacks to his character
42:04and his financial capabilities and stuff like that.
42:08What was the point of his writing the letter?
42:09How did you interpret that?
42:10Yeah, so the letter task was to write a letter
42:13to your partner about the concerns you have
42:15about building a long lasting future with them
42:17and like how you'd go about
42:18basically living together forever.
42:20And one of the concerns I had was
42:22Ryan's career path is unstable financially.
42:25And I was like, well, is this kind of like
42:27I would be leant on as the primary like,
42:31you know, consistent financial source
42:32of Ryan's potentially going in and out?
42:36The whole point of being in a relationship
42:37is that you need to compromise
42:38and you need to bring out the best in each other.
42:39And there are gonna be points in your,
42:40don't look away from me when I'm talking to you.
42:42All right?
42:43There are points in your relationship
42:43where one needs to lean on the other
42:45in order for you both to bring out the best in each other.
42:46So for that to be a concern
42:48is also like a red flag here on my end.
42:50Because-
42:51I just think it's great that Jackie was open about it.
42:52You're talking about open communication.
42:54I'm not dismissing that at all.
42:55It raised concerns for me because I work extremely hard.
42:58No one's questioning that.
42:59What I want to reflect on here is that
43:00I did work my absolute ass off to get that property.
43:02And that was through having a stable and predictable career.
43:04So I think you took that like a little bit too far.
43:07I felt like the letter was mostly focusing on what he lacks.
43:10I think the way I felt you responded to that
43:12was just in a very sensitive way
43:14as if like a nerve was hit.
43:15And it triggered you to kind of overreact a little bit.
43:18Pointing the finger at Ryan, Ryan, Ryan, Ryan
43:20more than dealing with what is really important
43:22for a relationship to actually work.
43:24I did feel like it was uncalled for to say that
43:26I don't work as hard as you.
43:28It sounds very much like
43:29not really acknowledging the hard work he has put in.
43:31Because you can't buy a house without being stable.
43:33And he's worked for himself.
43:34I'm not saying what I want.
43:35No, no, I'm not dismissing that.
43:36You're absolutely absolutely-
43:37So I'm saying what I want-
43:38Whatever you want is it feels like
43:39you're trying to diminish him as to like-
43:40I think that's your projection.
43:42No, that's what I'm receiving from you.
43:43I didn't say that.
43:44That's what I'm receiving from you.
43:45Well, I don't know where you're getting that from.
43:46No, because I did tell him that that point about the career
43:48was I did feel quite demeaned by that.
43:50I wanted just for her to give something
43:55why that she would write like a scathing letter,
43:56why she would view my character in all these terrible ways.
44:00Let's talk about some good stuff for a little bit.
44:01Everyone's getting a little bit heated.
44:03Yeah, let's get a drink.
44:05All right, see you soon.
44:06Okay.
44:08That was a lot.
44:10Circus.
44:12Biggest question on the table.
44:13Are you happy?
44:13Are you okay?
44:15Happiness is why I came to this, right?
44:16I'm not gonna lie, being here, I'm not happy.
44:17Bro, like I've put so much work into this
44:19and taken accountability, taking ownership and whatnot.
44:21And like the letter was just like a stark example of like,
44:23she's got a distorted view of me.
44:25It's like the criticisms of me as a person,
44:27it's the judgment, it's the, you know,
44:28trying to change who I am and like how I raise my dog
44:31and all that kind of stuff.
44:32It's not even a distorted view of you.
44:34It's just a distorted view, full stop.
44:35Any man she's gonna be with,
44:36she's gonna treat exactly the same.
44:38I'm trying to be nice and respectful and that,
44:40but she's rolling her eyes.
44:41She's like dismissing ya.
44:42She wants to dismiss her.
44:44She's not being super nice.
44:45I don't like it.
44:48Here you go.
44:49Oh, thank you so much.
44:50There you go.
44:51Cheers, big yes.
44:52Saying goes, big no's.
44:53Yeah.
44:56And thanks Jeff for coming all this way too.
44:57That's all an assassin over there, eh?
45:00How well you know Jackie from the past?
45:02How have you seen her last relationship play out?
45:05Because I do hear a lot about how they used to have,
45:08never had a disagreement.
45:09So I had really healthy relationships
45:11where we don't disagree and fight.
45:12And like, honestly, this drama and the fighting
45:14and the arguing is not what I like.
45:15Like I want to be in a peaceful environment.
45:16No one likes it.
45:17If you're not arguing,
45:18then you don't have a healthy relationship.
45:19That's not true.
45:20You may, you know, argue sometimes.
45:22I don't think you need to have arguments.
45:23You can communicate.
45:24So why do you and Ryan have that issue then?
45:26It's Ryan getting defensive all the time.
45:28Don't point him, Jackie.
45:29I saw you do it.
45:31You're quick to point the finger at him,
45:32but you're not willing to take a candidate
45:33for the relationship.
45:34Last time, you were having a great time ripping on him.
45:36I didn't come here to be lectured
45:38and have my character, like,
45:39and my identity torn apart in a letter and whatnot.
45:41And it still does stick with me, Jackie.
45:43Honestly, it does.
45:43Because I've never had anyone see me in that way before
45:46in my entire life.
45:47Maybe no one's communicated it to you.
45:48That's not true, Jackie.
45:49Because we've been in his life for a very long time.
45:52Everything that you tell us
45:53goes completely against the character we know as Ryan.
45:55I think you're overreacting
45:57because you can't say everything I tell you
45:58is against the character.
45:59Because you're talking about everything.
46:01Jackie, if it's today,
46:02today, your answer is not valid.
46:05You've done that to me last time, man.
46:06How does it feel?
46:14We've been in his life for a very long time.
46:17Everything that you tell us
46:17goes completely against the character we know as Ryan.
46:20I think you're overreacting
46:21because you can't say everything I tell you
46:23is against the character we know as Ryan.
46:24Because you're talking about everything.
46:25Jackie, if it's today, today,
46:27when I ask you about whether,
46:28you're talking over me, Carla.
46:30You've done that to me last time, man.
46:31How does it feel?
46:33What do you want from me?
46:34I guess the point-
46:35A solution, a compensation to help you get better.
46:38I need to feel like, in a relationship-
46:39You want me to be silent, I know.
46:40No, no, no, I need to feel like someone's-
46:41You do, you do.
46:42You don't want me to voice my concerns.
46:43That's what you want.
46:43No, no, no, no, because-
46:44You take issue in me voicing my concerns.
46:46Do you not do that to him?
46:48You do express yourself in very, very strong ways.
46:51And if I don't agree with you almost immediately,
46:53I am defensive, I'm deflecting,
46:55I'm like, I can't win in the conversation.
46:57I saw it last time we were sitting with these at the table.
46:59It's because he's telling lies.
46:59And then you called him a gas lighter.
47:01Because he's lying.
47:03He's not a liar.
47:04The one that's looking around for help from friends
47:06and that seems to be a liar.
47:07And rolling your eyes at the table.
47:08You were.
47:09Last time at the lunch was,
47:10it was pretty horrible.
47:11And I've addressed this with you before.
47:12You were rolling your eyes and laughing
47:13every time he spoke to me.
47:14Because he's lying.
47:15No, I don't know why.
47:18Honestly, that to me is gas light.
47:20You're 29.
47:20You should not be rolling your eyes and laughing
47:22while he's speaking.
47:22Yeah, well, this man should not be yelling at me.
47:23Sorry, Jackie, but regardless of the issues you have,
47:25you should still respect your partner in front of a speaker.
47:27No, actually yelling at only takes one person
47:28to yell at the other.
47:29By talking to someone like shit and pulling them down
47:31takes one person too.
47:32So you're just like throwing dirt on me,
47:34but you're not even listening to anything I'm saying.
47:35Like, if you wanted to have-
47:36All you've done is throw dirt on him.
47:38Two sets of paperwork saying he's a dad.
47:39You said no.
47:40You're trying to talk over me.
47:41You're trying to shut me up.
47:42I don't appreciate your tone.
47:43You're being really rude.
47:44Based on how much of a dad he is,
47:45which is an absolute joke of a human being.
47:46You're being really rude now.
47:48You've been rude to him the whole time.
47:50He's been rich of this experiment.
47:50Jackie, he sat there
47:51and watched your behavior last time.
47:52He's been absolutely rich of this experiment.
47:53You were so rude and so dismissive.
47:56Well, then why did you come and visit us?
47:57Because I don't even want to stand up
47:59for him and your behavior.
48:00It's not okay.
48:02We spoke about how the,
48:04some Tesla you had that week-
48:04I really didn't come here to homestays to be yelled at.
48:10You've been absolutely gypped on this experiment,
48:11don't worry.
48:13That's really rude to say.
48:16I'll say it again.
48:17I think he's been absolutely gypped on this experiment
48:18by being put with you.
48:31I didn't sign up for this experiment to be yelled at
48:33when I'm like visiting my partner's hometown.
48:37You should leave.
48:40That will be really awful.
48:45It's not the kind of behavior
48:47that should be tolerated at all.
48:59Tomorrow night.
49:00It's a storm outside
49:01and there's about to be a storm inside.
49:04It's the second last dinner party of the experiment.
49:07TJ, what on earth do you have to say to that, then?
49:10And TJ is at the centre of the storm.
49:13I feel like you've really switched.
49:14I can't answer that right now.
49:15Has he been entirely honest with Beth?
49:17You'll be able to say,
49:19yes, I want to continue on the outside and get to know you,
49:21and you couldn't answer it.
49:23You're going for Newhouse King, which is a bit cute.
49:24That's awesome.
49:25Some will celebrate their deeper bonds.
49:27It's actually quite lovely to watch, isn't it?
49:28All reflecting on how well things are going.
49:30It's beautiful.
49:32But for Ryan...
49:33I'm sick of it, Jackie. I'm just sick of it.
49:34I've had enough of it, mate. Wow.
49:36..he's reached his breaking point.
49:38This is my house. No, there's no way.
49:40I got yelled at.
49:41God, I'm not going to sugar-coat things.
49:42I'm not going to tolerate it anymore.
49:43As he declares...