Julián Elfenbein recordó la dolorosa pérdida de su primer amor.
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00:00I'm the hardest. In life, it's hard for me to cry.
00:03Do you know why?
00:05My mom told me this.
00:08I had a tumor that died in 1996.
00:11I was so bad and I cried so much that...
00:14There's a phrase that an old man told me before.
00:17I don't know how to say it.
00:19I cried so much that my tears came out.
00:31When my dad died, I couldn't cry.
00:34It's like you cry inside, but you don't cry physically.
00:37I may be wrong, but...
00:40I feel like you've lived exceptional stories.
00:43Incredible love stories.
00:45Those are stories that I would call...
00:48Movies.
00:49I want to start with you.
00:51We've never talked about this deeply.
00:54And you have to go with that love story.
00:57After the accident, you were dating Sole.
01:00You had a beautiful relationship.
01:04We're talking about the year...
01:0696.
01:0796, 97.
01:09How long did you date her when the accident happened?
01:12Like two years.
01:14But more than the amount of time it took...
01:18That's what Sole meant to me.
01:23It was like a fulminating love.
01:26I don't know.
01:29She was an angel.
01:31From a physical point of view.
01:35It was a very strange story at first.
01:41It's like a princess story that can't end well.
01:51Tell me, how did it start?
01:53I was in journalism school.
01:57In my third year, she came in like Mechona.
02:01And...
02:03Sole is a woman who comes in like...
02:06You, as a third year student, organizing Mechona's party.
02:09She comes in and everyone's eyes are on her.
02:17And you say,
02:18I want to marry her.
02:20And I say,
02:21I want to marry her.
02:29We started dating and...
02:32What was your relationship like?
02:34Very intense.
02:35Very beautiful.
02:39Sole was an incredible woman.
02:46We had a great time.
02:48And like you said,
02:49the stories that ended in a tragedy
02:54were very...
02:56Incredibly,
02:57looked at later,
02:59coincidental.
03:00Or as you say, impossible.
03:02What happened?
03:03Why?
03:04I crashed twice in my life.
03:07Twice.
03:09Twice on August 15th.
03:11Both with her.
03:13One, a year before the accident that was fatal.
03:16The first one,
03:17it was my fault,
03:18I don't know,
03:19it was a small accident,
03:20I lost my brakes on the way to Algarrobo,
03:21I don't remember.
03:22The second one,
03:25when she died.
03:27I came to La Blondie
03:28and I crashed with some guys
03:29who passed me in the red light,
03:30I turned around,
03:31I was cured.
03:32Anyway.
03:35And between one accident and the other,
03:37she...
03:39She went to Mexico,
03:40we had fought,
03:41it was before the accident.
03:42We fought,
03:43a stupid fight.
03:45She went to Mexico
03:46and she had to come back
03:48on August 17th
03:50and she missed me
03:51and came back on August 13th.
03:52Or the 2nd.
03:54And the kid died.
03:56And in between,
03:57she gave me a book
03:58of one of my favorite writers,
03:59his name is C.S. Lewis,
04:00an American writer.
04:01And it's called
04:03An Observed Pain.
04:05And in the book,
04:06Lewis writes
04:07when his partner dies
04:08of cancer,
04:09and he writes about his pain.
04:10And she gives it to me
04:11with an incredible dedication.
04:13For Julián,
04:16for this incredible love
04:17we have,
04:18and if one day I'm not there
04:19or one day you're not there,
04:20she gives it to me
04:21a little before the accident.
04:24Because it costs her life
04:25and she left me bad.
04:26Let's say,
04:27bad health first
04:28and then...
04:29So it was a very,
04:30very incredible story.
04:31It took me a long time
04:32to recover.
04:43I can't go to his funeral.
04:46They say you have to bury him
04:47when he dies.
04:48I've told you this before.
04:49You have to bury him when he dies.
04:50And when you physically bury him,
04:51you're in that moment,
04:53and you go after a month or two
04:54that you were able to leave the clinic,
04:56you go to Parque del Recuerdo
04:58and you see...
05:00The tombstone, of course.
05:01You say...
05:03Here.
05:04You see it in front of you.
05:05And you say,
05:06I can't go.
05:07And you say,
05:08I can't go.
05:09And you say,
05:10I can't go.
05:11I can't go.
05:12I saw it yesterday,
05:13it was next to me
05:14and now I see
05:15your name,
05:16María Soledad Issa Alonso.
05:18It took me a long time.
05:19I was out of my life
05:21completely.
05:22I wanted to ask,
05:23the accident happened
05:26when you lost consciousness?
05:27Yes,
05:29because unconsciously
05:31they hit me
05:32with poplars.
05:33And poplar is
05:34a very dangerous street,
05:35I have always had many accidents
05:36because it comes from a curve
05:37and there are people.
05:38And it is fashionable
05:39I remember playing the Russian roulette.
05:41The guys who were cured, I don't know,
05:44they passed red lights.
05:46It was like a challenge.
05:48And well, these guys who hit me,
05:50who came in a van,
05:51they passed a red light and they hit me.
05:53And they threw me against a...
05:55And I woke up, I came from La Blondie,
05:57with my girlfriend,
05:58in a club in La Alameda.
05:59And I woke up with a fireman,
06:02a lot of people,
06:04without understanding anything, let's say.
06:06And the girl next to me,
06:07she looked fine,
06:08and I opened the door,
06:09and there I...
06:10I say...
06:11I stop, and I fall.
06:13I fall, and there...
06:14I go to an ambulance,
06:16and I didn't see Sole anymore.
06:20In the ambulance,
06:21they took me to the Salvador hospital, I guess.
06:23I ask how my color is,
06:25how my color is,
06:26and the nurses tell me,
06:27well, well,
06:28they're going to operate on you,
06:29no problem.
06:30I mean, the lung.
06:32And I...
06:34I was more or less healthy,
06:36and I close my eyes,
06:37and I see you,
06:38as if half open,
06:39I see the nurse,
06:40who was at my feet,
06:41who does this to the one in the back,
06:42and she does this.
06:43And that's when...
06:44I realized that, deep down,
06:46what she was telling me was true.
06:48And the fireman died
06:50at two o'clock.
06:53And that was a moment like...
07:00How can I tell you?
07:01It's immeasurable pain.
07:02It's a matter of...
07:04I don't remember...
07:05Even my greatest happiness
07:07I feel my son.
07:09It's incomparable,
07:10in terms of intensity,
07:12with that scream of pain.
07:28It was very hard for me...
07:31Like wanting to live, you know?
07:33It was very hard for me.
07:35Did you lose all your senses?
07:37Did you lose all your senses?
07:38All my senses.
07:39All my senses.
07:40I was standing on a balcony,
07:42and I was looking at Sanchez Fontesilla,
07:45you know, there's a park there.
07:47And I was looking,
07:48and people were passing by,
07:50and I...
07:51I was standing outside.
07:53Like...
07:54I mean,
07:55all these people are alive,
07:57and I'm not.
07:58I don't know.
07:59My friends were taking care of me,
08:01my mother had a whole system
08:03because she was worried about me.
08:05So it was very hard for me.
08:07Besides, I was the first owner,
08:09or three,
08:10I went to the cemetery every day.
08:12Every day.
08:13Every day.
08:14Every day.
08:15Every day.
08:16Every day.
08:17Every day.
08:18Every day.
08:19Every day.
08:20I went,
08:21the radio,
08:22I sat down,
08:23I remember.
08:24And did you have psychological help
08:26during that period?
08:27Yes, yes, yes.
08:28During that period, yes.
08:29For me, it was very important,
08:31after a couple of years,
08:33the relationship I had with Daniela,
08:35who was my wife,
08:37and who helped me,
08:39and it was very important.
08:41I mean,
08:42it was what got me up again,
08:44a little...
08:45how to get hooked again.
08:55And when I'm sad,
08:56as it hasn't been easy for two years,
08:58you have to set up a house...
09:00You've probably gone through different experiences.
09:02Suddenly, I don't know,
09:03you have a date,
09:04that maybe before,
09:05you had the noise of everything,
09:06and...
09:07Now you're in silence,
09:08you're alone.
09:09In silence, let's say,
09:10and I'm organizing,
09:11I have the box,
09:12the photo upstairs,
09:13I mean,
09:14it's something that has always accompanied me.
09:15Do you have all the photographs,
09:16the letters, everything?
09:17Everything.
09:18Everything.
09:19Everything.
09:20And I imagine that after a while,
09:21you come back...
09:22Yes.
09:23When you're alone,
09:24for whatever reason,
09:25but...
09:26It's not anyone's competition.
09:28It's yours.
09:29It's yours.
09:30It's mine.
09:31It's like...
09:32It lives inside of you.
09:33Being alone is...
09:34It's like...
09:35It's like...
09:36It's like me.
09:38It's not...
09:39It's not for...
09:40Eventually,
09:41Daniela, who was my partner,
09:42or...
09:43or...
09:44or anyone who may come in the future,
09:45to become jealous of this.
09:48It's not that I'm still in love and stuck,
09:51because I talk about her.
09:52That's not like that.
09:53It's...
09:54It's...
09:55It's not like that.