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00:00I'm just as important as my mom, actually. I just want her blessing.
00:03Because her blessing is the most important thing for me.
00:05Oh, you're going to convert to Islam? No, never.
00:08It's more of like, okay, if you think this is the right thing,
00:12and you're going to embrace Islam,
00:17okay, I support this whole thing.
00:21Exclusive with Nara Mahzan and FBI.
00:24Good morning, Zayan.
00:25Today, we're welcoming Nara Mahzan's husband,
00:27Muhammad Rakeem Bryan, with us.
00:30Because there's bloodshed there.
00:33China and India, mashallah.
00:35And today is Chinese New Year, right?
00:37After this, it's easy, because we want to wait for Eid,
00:39so we came to pick him up.
00:40Alang-alang, wait for the interview.
00:42So fun.
00:44Okay, but earlier, the first song that Bryan chose,
00:48we played this watch.
00:49The first song, Nuh Saleh, Rasa Tuhan.
00:51The second song, Bunga.
00:52This is a rapper who wears hijab.
00:55He wears hijab.
00:56Hijabi rapper.
00:57It's okay, Malaysia.
00:58Great.
00:59Under the label?
01:00Warner Music, with Bryan.
01:02That's why he chose this song.
01:04But this song is here.
01:05But this song is suitable.
01:06Suitable.
01:07This song is really my soul.
01:09Yes.
01:10This is for Bryan.
01:11Only for this, Nanak, of course.
01:13Love story, right?
01:14No way.
01:15If he says no, who else?
01:17I don't have anyone.
01:18I don't want to start a conflict here.
01:21But I'm like, okay, Bryan.
01:23To give more confidence to me that Bryan has Chinese blood.
01:29Can you speak a little Chinese?
01:30Sure.
01:41Not yet.
01:43He understands.
01:44He understands.
01:47But this is Hokkien Chinese.
01:49That's right, Hokkien.
01:50I'm from Penang.
01:51Really?
01:52I understand.
01:53If Hokkien...
01:54A little bit.
01:55No pressure.
01:56No pressure.
01:58How do you say kuih tiau?
01:59Kuih tiau?
02:02Hokkien Chinese people ask what time it is.
02:05Kuih tiau.
02:06Kuih tiau.
02:07Nanak knows kuih tiau.
02:08Kuih tiau is you.
02:11Okay.
02:12How did you decide to make Nana Mahzan...
02:18...as your wife?
02:24Actually, I brought Nana to see my mother.
02:29My mother was in the hospital.
02:31She had an operation.
02:33It was the first time they met.
02:35I became a spectator.
02:37I was like, okay, how is this?
02:39Is this relationship okay?
02:42I was like, okay.
02:43My mother was friendly with her.
02:44She was kind.
02:46Praise be to God.
02:48She was open.
02:49I was like, okay.
02:51My mother was like, okay.
02:55But then my mother asked me...
02:57...if I was serious about her.
03:00I said, yes, I was serious.
03:02Everything.
03:03What about your family?
03:04When you think about getting married...
03:06...what do you think about religion?
03:08What do you think?
03:10In terms of my family?
03:12Yes, your family.
03:14I'm okay with it.
03:15My mother...
03:16I'm only interested in my mother.
03:17I just want her blessing.
03:19Because she's the most important to me.
03:22My family got divorced when I was young.
03:25My mother took care of me when I was young.
03:27So, when she was okay...
03:29...and she never...
03:31...acted like...
03:33...I was going to convert to Islam.
03:35Never.
03:36It's more of like...
03:38...if you think she's right...
03:40...and...
03:42...you're going to embrace Islam...
03:45...then, okay.
03:46I support it.
03:49It's easy for her.
03:50It's easy, praise be to God.
03:53I was worried at first.
03:55At the end of the day...
03:56...I think a mother wants her child to be happy.
04:00Yes.
04:01What about your family?
04:03My mother and father are very supportive.
04:06They're okay with it.
04:07I've met Brian and his mother.
04:09They like people who are...
04:11...stable in their work.
04:13They're good in their language.
04:14They don't talk much.
04:15Because they're quiet.
04:18That's the most important thing.
04:19It's a contrast.
04:20It's different.
04:21They look at the place and the people.
04:23We have to balance it.
04:24That's right.
04:26It's a responsibility.
04:27It's a big responsibility to be a husband.
04:30Yes, it's a big responsibility to be a husband.
04:32But it's your responsibility...
04:33...to bring a mu'allah into our religion.
04:36What about you, Arif?
04:37To be honest, Abang,...
04:41...I've never thought that...
04:45...there's a responsibility.
04:47I wasn't very smart at the time.
04:48Because I thought, okay,...
04:50...Allah has decided.
04:52My parents have blessed me.
04:54I'm going to get married.
04:55But how am I going to educate my children...
04:57...or bring a mu'allah is a big responsibility.
04:59At the time, I didn't think much about it.
05:02But, praise be to Allah, Allah made it easy for me...
05:04...because Brian himself wanted to learn.
05:06He was the one who asked.
05:07It's like we don't have to force him.
05:09How do we pray?
05:11What do we want to read?
05:12How do we pray?
05:13He wanted to learn.
05:14So, we didn't feel like we had to force him.
05:18I didn't feel like I had to teach him.
05:21He didn't want to.
05:22He didn't.
05:23So, Allah made it easy for me...
05:24...because he was interested.
05:26It was his own wish.
05:27Praise be to Allah.
05:28When Allah opened his heart,...
05:29...maybe it was because he had friends...
05:31...who were Muslims back in school.
05:33So, he was used to seeing them...
05:36...playing football, going to prayer.
05:38So, he knew a little bit about it.
05:40So, it wasn't hard for him.
05:41With the intention of doing silat earlier.
05:43Yes.
05:45But why didn't you continue your intention...
05:47...of joining your friends in doing silat...
05:48...after converting to Islam?
05:50Maybe it was because I was very busy at the time.
05:53I was always playing football at school.
05:57So, I didn't have much time.
05:59They were there every week.
06:01I had time to train.
06:02We trained football for the state.
06:04We were all busy.
06:07So, you didn't want to do silat...
06:08...after you got a job?
06:10Maybe it was too late.
06:11It was too late.
06:12Come on.
06:13I was only 51 years old.
06:1650?
06:1750 years old.
06:18We were almost the same age.
06:20Really?
06:21We were almost the same age.
06:22How old were you?
06:23I was...
06:2436 years old?
06:25No.
06:26I was a year younger than you.
06:27Really?
06:28But you looked younger than the others.
06:30What's the secret?
06:32His wife.
06:33His real wife.
06:34Yes.
06:35Isn't my wife real?
06:41No.
06:42Okay, Brian.
06:43I want to hear a story from you.
06:45Nana, please be quiet.
06:46Why?
06:47In the first moment...
06:48...when you were welcoming the Chinese New Year...
06:51...at the beginning of your marriage...
06:52...was there anything that you shouldn't have done?
06:55Something that I shouldn't have done?
06:57I don't think so.
06:58Because...
06:59I think one thing.
07:00Because in Malaysia...
07:02...we are different from all other nations.
07:04Am I right?
07:05Yes.
07:06It doesn't matter if it's India, China, Malay...
07:08...Iban, Dayak, Kadazan.
07:10We have different cultures in Malaysia.
07:12So...
07:13We've seen all of this.
07:15If there's any change that I think...
07:18...is the most important...
07:19...is more of my family's side.
07:21Because we were invited...
07:24It's not us.
07:25It's them.
07:26Our family already has...
07:31...a new member who is a Muslim.
07:34Including myself.
07:36So, they have to adjust for us.
07:39Actually.
07:40In terms of food.
07:43In terms of food supplies.
07:46The cooking utensils.
07:48A lot of things have to be changed.
07:50So...
07:51That's what I think...
07:53...my family has changed for us.
07:55Did Nana feel scared?
07:57Did she ask you a lot of questions...
07:59...about the Chinese culture?
08:00She asked me a lot of questions.
08:02That's not good.
08:03Okay.
08:04First, we know...
08:05...Nana is rich.
08:07No.
08:08But one thing I remember...
08:09...when it was the Chinese New Year...
08:11...we were a family.
08:13Me, Brian, and the kids.
08:14We were all dressed up.
08:17Because we saw...
08:19...Brian's family wasn't dressed up.
08:22They were wearing new clothes.
08:24But they weren't wearing chongsam.
08:25Because we wore jukurung for Eid.
08:27So, we were excited.
08:28It was the first Chinese New Year.
08:29We wanted to wear Eid clothes.
08:33So, we wore chongsam.
08:34When we went to celebrate Eid...
08:35...nobody wore chongsam.
08:37They wore Eid clothes.
08:38We were more...
08:40...Chinese New Year.
08:42That's what I remember.
08:43Okay.
08:44In terms of food...
08:45...or anything unique...
08:47...in Chinese New Year...
08:49...what is Nana's favourite?
08:53In Chinese New Year...
08:54...we usually see...
08:55...Mum cooking...
08:57...Chinese dishes.
08:59Like...
09:01Duck.
09:02Is it duck?
09:03Itik, right?
09:04Itik.
09:05Chinese fried rice.
09:07It's like a dish.
09:08But we usually eat it with rice.
09:10They eat it with fried rice.
09:12Vegetables.
09:13Is Chinese fried rice...
09:14...originated from China?
09:15I don't know.
09:16Why would Mum make fried rice?
09:18I don't know either.
09:21To be fair...
09:23...our creativity...
09:25...in cooking...
09:26...even if it's US fried rice...
09:28...US people don't know how to make it.
09:31It's just a name.
09:33But if it's like...
09:35...fried rice...
09:36...it's just like fried rice.
09:38It's not like Ketupat Rendang, right?
09:40It's just that we have kuih.
09:41Is there a tradition...
09:43...for celebrating Eid...
09:44...with kuih bulan or kuih jina?
09:46No, because...
09:47It's kuih bakul.
09:49No, because...
09:51...my mother...
09:54...is more open.
09:56She can cook Indian food...
09:58...or Malay food.
10:00Does she make ketupat?
10:02That's all she does.
10:04But she can make rendang.
10:08Mum is a bit adventurous.
10:10Yes, that's right.
10:11Does rendang have a Malay touch...
10:13...or a Chinese touch?
10:14It has a Malay touch.
10:16But it still has a Malay touch.
10:19Indian food is...
10:21...powerful.
10:22Which one is it?
10:23I like Indian food.
10:24Her roti canai is...
10:26I always tell my children...
10:28...that my roti canai is the best.
10:30It's world-class.
10:32It's thick.
10:34It's crispy on the outside.
10:36It's soft on the inside.
10:38It's sweet.
10:41Okay.
10:42You know why I ask so many questions.
10:45Of course I do.
10:47I don't want to celebrate Eid alone.
10:49Sure.
10:50Let's go.
10:51We'll go by car.
10:53Yay!
10:54I see.
10:55My wife is far away.
10:57How am I going to invite her?
10:59She'll be there.
11:01In the new year...
11:03...I have to get to know my mother-in-law.
11:06My goodness.
11:09Let's wrap up.
11:11It's been a long time...
11:13...since I listened to Gadisku by Surge.
11:18You really like that song, don't you?
11:20I do.
11:21It's my favourite song when I was young.
11:23We're still young.
11:25Yes, we are.
11:26We can do more...
11:28...if we want to earn more.
11:30God willing.
11:31God willing.
11:32It's okay to earn more.
11:34Don't try to teach...
11:36Add more stamina.
11:38Add more positive things for ourselves.
11:41What's on your mind?
11:43Nothing.
11:45Kak Lina is my mistress.
11:47I'm just kidding.
11:49Are you jealous?
11:52Yes.
11:53Very much.
11:54Really?
11:55When did you become jealous?
11:57She said, she's okay...
11:59...if you want someone else.
12:02She said, she's okay.
12:04Really?
12:05Yes.
12:07Look at her eyes.
12:10I'm shocked.
12:12She must have the right reason.
12:15Did she say that to me?
12:16Yes.
12:18I'm serious.
12:19But she never said that to me.
12:21If she asked me, I would say yes.
12:23Because you've never crossed your mind.
12:25Look at her.
12:26You look like you have a mentor.
12:29Because I met you.
12:34Okay, when we talk about...
12:36...Bahtera Perkahwinan.
12:38For 16 years...
12:40...you and Nana Mahzan have been together.
12:43I'm sure you've faced challenges.
12:47Now that you're married...
12:49...you've faced challenges.
12:51You've been together for a year or two.
12:53How have you managed to overcome those challenges?
12:58To be honest...
13:00...I haven't faced any challenges for the past 16 years.
13:03I feel like it's only for a short time.
13:06We've been together for 16 years.
13:08That's what I want to know.
13:09How come you haven't faced any challenges for the past 16 years?
13:12I think it's because...
13:14...Nana is like...
13:17...I think of her as my best friend.
13:21So, when we meet...
13:23...it's like we're hanging out.
13:26I've seen certain people...
13:28...get stressed when they get home.
13:31When I talk to my wife...
13:33...there are many things I can't share with her...
13:35...but I share everything with her.
13:37Everything.
13:39You don't hide anything from her.
13:41You let her check your phone.
13:43She knows my passcode.
13:46Does she ask for your phone?
13:48No, I just do it in front of her.
13:50She checks it whenever she wants.
13:52But I don't think she ever checks it.
13:54Even if we do, it's only when we're on the phone.
13:58Have you ever doubted him?
14:00No, because I put my trust in him.
14:02When he said I was jealous, I didn't know what to do.
14:05I'm not jealous of him because I believe...
14:07...in this marriage...
14:09...to make it work...
14:11...we need to have trust.
14:14Respect.
14:16And for us...
14:18...to have a harmonious and happy marriage...
14:21...we need to feel love...
14:24...during the marriage.
14:28When a wife gives all her trust to her husband...
14:33...there are many husbands who can't keep their trust.
14:37Really?
14:38You have a look.
14:41You have a high position.
14:44So, how do you keep the trust your wife gives you?
14:52I don't know.
14:54There's no reason to look for another.
14:57See? You've got the best one.
15:03You've got the best one.
15:06I think so too.
15:09There are many jobs out there...
15:12...in this industry.
15:16But I've never thought about it.
15:19It's interesting.
15:21Have you tried it?
15:23Of course.
15:25Yes, I have.
15:27He's looking at me.
15:29Of course, he has.
15:30But he told me.
15:31He's a gentleman.
15:32Is he handsome?
15:34Is he handsome?
15:35Is he okay?
15:36All right.
15:37Is that all?
15:38No, babe.
15:39I'll look for a better one.
15:41Is there a way for the two of you...
15:43...to build a bond?
15:47We....
15:48I always try.
15:50He always tries too.
15:51We try to find time to go on a date.
15:54Just the two of you?
15:55Just the two of us.
15:56That's important for both of you?
15:57It's very important.
16:00But we also enjoy doing activities with our kids.
16:07It doesn't matter if it's jogging.
16:09As long as we're together.
16:11Because we...
16:13It's fun.
16:15We're close friends.
16:17We go out with our friends.
16:18It's fun.
16:19Not just as a husband and wife.
16:23Not just as a husband and wife.
16:25He doesn't feel responsible.
16:27Yes.
16:28He just enjoys it.
16:30If you're his wife, you can't be like that.
16:32No.
16:33You have to be mutual.
16:35Yes, that's right.
16:36That's great.
16:37It's a secret for 16 years.
16:39That's right.
16:42The last greeting is from...
16:44...Datuk Sudirman.
16:45Is there a story behind it?
16:47Or is it just a hobby?
16:49It's just a hobby.
16:51I've been listening to it since I was young.
16:52When we were kids...
16:54...Datuk Sudirman was a big man.
16:57He was the best.
16:59Not just in Malaysia, but in Asia.
17:02I want to tell you a secret.
17:04When Datuk Sudirman passed away...
17:06...I was the one who cried.
17:08Yes.
17:09I felt very close to him.
17:10Of course.
17:11Even though we've never met.
17:12But his character and songs...
17:15...were very close to our culture.
17:17That's right.
17:19That's it.
17:20Brian, as your stalker...
17:25...I saw a caption...
17:29...on your Instagram.
17:31It said,
17:32When I grow up, I want to be a time traveller.
17:35That's right.
17:36Why do you want to be a time traveller?
17:38Do you watch Back to the Future a lot?
17:41It's just a caption.
17:43But...
17:46...if I'm given a chance...
17:48...if I can do it...
17:50...I want to do it.
17:52What I want to change is...
17:56...to gain more knowledge...
17:58...in terms of religion.
17:59God willing.
18:00To be honest.
18:01Because...
18:02...right now...
18:04...we're learning, but...
18:06...it's a shame we didn't get this earlier.
18:09If we had gotten this earlier...
18:11...we could've helped others.
18:14We could've improved ourselves.
18:16But...
18:17...it's okay.
18:18Maybe this is my...
18:20...destiny.
18:22Your journey.
18:23My journey.
18:24It's okay if I study late.
18:26But there are struggles.
18:28But it's okay.
18:30Let's just take it...
18:31...and look at the positive...
18:32...and move forward.
18:34Do you know...
18:35...one of the feelings you have...
18:37...is a blessing.
18:38Really?
18:39A blessing from Allah SWT...
18:41...because not everyone gets it.
18:43Because we...
18:44...like me...
18:45...as a Muslim...
18:46...also feel that we're late.
18:48Really?
18:49Yes, because we feel like...
18:51...we're comfortable.
18:53But when Allah gives us that blessing...
18:56...we feel like...
18:57...there's a lot more I don't know.
18:59But when it comes...
19:01...it's like...
19:02...wow.
19:03Yes.
19:04It's true.
19:05And...
19:06...it's a shame...
19:07...we didn't get this earlier.
19:09Yes.
19:10Have you attended...
19:12...religious classes?
19:14Not yet.
19:15But I read a lot.
19:17I read a lot.
19:18I read the Quran.
19:19I bought the Quran...
19:20...which has...
19:21...an English translation.
19:23With...
19:24...Rumi in it.
19:26Step by step.
19:27We tried.
19:28I tried.
19:29But when I went to...
19:31...the first Umrah...
19:32...I opened my eyes a lot...
19:35...and prayed.
19:36Everything.
19:37Barin also has a friend...
19:39...who's a Ustaz.
19:40So, if he doesn't understand anything...
19:41...he'll ask the Ustaz directly.
19:42That's important.
19:43Like I said...
19:44...if you want to learn...
19:45...you can't just read.
19:46Right?
19:47You need a teacher.
19:48Mentor.
19:49Mentor is important.
19:50It doesn't matter...
19:51...whether it's business or not.
19:52Mentor is important.
19:53That's right.
19:54I also have...
19:55...a class...
19:56...every Thursday night.
19:58You can invite him.
19:59Anas Zahir.
20:00Ustaz Nizam Nazri.
20:01Together...
20:02...with our boss...
20:04...Abu Azharul.
20:05Join us.
20:06If Allah wills it...
20:07...I'll join you one day.
20:08Okay.
20:09Yuran is...
20:10...sincere.
20:13Can I go?
20:14I can't?
20:15You can't.
20:16You have to...
20:17I'll try my best.
20:18If there's a woman...
20:19...you'll get in the way.
20:20Really?
20:21Even Ustaz will get in the way.
20:25Okay.
20:26That's the answer from Brian...
20:27...regarding...
20:28...his time...
20:29...traveller.
20:31His work.
20:32Yes.
20:33Maybe there's something...
20:34...you want to say...
20:35...as a wife...
20:36...to your husband.
20:38We want to hear it today.
20:39There's no need.
20:40There's no need.
20:41It's nothing.
20:42I'm very...
20:43I always say...
20:44...I'm very grateful...
20:45...to have the best husband...
20:46...who's light-hearted...
20:47...who always helps.
20:48I think...
20:49...I'm very...
20:50...lucky...
20:51...lucky...
20:52...and...
20:53...everyday in my prayer...
20:54...I'm grateful...
20:55...because Allah has given me...
20:56...a perfect husband...
20:57...like Muhammad Rakeem Ryan.
20:58MashaAllah.
20:59I think he's...
21:00...your heaven.
21:01Indeed.
21:02If you get...
21:03...a perfect husband...
21:04...with him...
21:05...in a religious environment...
21:06MashaAllah.
21:07Wherever I am now...
21:08...it's because of...
21:09...the blessings...
21:10...from you.
21:11It's a blessing.
21:12Yes.
21:13The time that has passed...
21:14...by...
21:15...is actually...
21:16...a reward...
21:17...for you.
21:18MashaAllah.
21:19May both of you...
21:20...meet in heaven.
21:21Ameen.
21:22Don't forget to look for me.
21:23MashaAllah.
21:24I have a lot of rewards...
21:25...with me.
21:26Ameen.
21:27And a message...
21:28...from Rakeem Ryan himself...
21:29...maybe for...
21:30...Nana Mahzan...
21:31...because...
21:32...well...
21:33...if you want to say...
21:34...to your husband...
21:35...you can say it here...
21:36...but especially for...
21:37...Zaian's listeners today...
21:38...and also we want to end...
21:39...with a message...
21:40...from...
21:41...Ryan...
21:42...for everyone...
21:43...in Chinese.
21:44Oh, for everyone?
21:45For everyone...
21:46For my wife first.
21:47For my wife first.
21:48For my wife...
21:49...stay the way you are.
21:50You are amazing.
21:51You know...
21:52...love you very much.
21:53Okay, that's all.
21:54Later...
21:55...I won't be embarrassed.
21:56Later on.
21:58To all...
21:59...Zaian's listeners...
22:00...especially...
22:01...for those...
22:02...who love...
22:03...like me...
22:04...who welcome...
22:05...Chinese people...
22:06...thank you very much.
22:07Happy New Year.
22:09That's all.
22:10It's short.
22:11Yes.
22:12Okay.
22:13Mohd Rakeem Ryan...
22:14...thank you...
22:15...for being with us.
22:17Thank you for having us.
22:18Peace be upon you.