90 Day Fiancé_ Faith CALLS OFF Engagement to Loren After Fearing For Her Safety(1)
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00:00You know, I'm scared of what you do.
00:04You're scared of what I do?
00:07Yeah.
00:08Actually, my first boyfriend talking to me like this, is it normal for you?
00:13Yes.
00:14And that's the problem.
00:15I am not comfortable, sorry.
00:17Faith calls off her engagement to Lauren.
00:20Oh, thank God.
00:21Due to his odd behavior.
00:24Sorry, I had to read that.
00:26Yeah.
00:28Now, it's not surprising behavior.
00:32We've seen this sort of thing since we met him.
00:35But this time, he had Faith fearing for her safety.
00:38I'm shaking actually.
00:40Plus, on a lighter note, Vanya almost had me in tears this episode.
00:45Who am I kidding?
00:46I actually shed a few.
00:47What's happening?
00:48This is crazy.
00:50Let's get into it.
00:51Hey, 90 Day Fans fam.
00:57It's Malicia.
00:58First things first, a big congratulations to 90 Day's Bilal and Shida,
01:03who recently welcomed their first child together, a baby boy.
01:08Also, happy holidays everyone.
01:11While this can be a cheerful time, I know it brings up some tough feelings for some.
01:19Just know you are not alone.
01:21And personally, I'm proud of you for continuing to push through.
01:25Life be lifin' y'all.
01:28I have so much respect for the elders at this point in my life.
01:32But I do believe that beautiful things can come out of painful situations.
01:38So, I hope that that reminder can serve as my gift to you this holiday season.
01:44Just can't imagine there was a guy in your history that didn't like to kiss too much.
01:49Right?
01:50Yeah.
01:51Speaking of beauty coming out of painful situations,
01:53quickly, after three dates, Vanya's new man Zosko,
01:58who was also a foster dad to a one-year-old,
02:01tells her she is the one for him.
02:05I mean, this is our third date and I already know that you're the one.
02:11You're the one for me and you're the one for him.
02:14What are you talking about?
02:16I'm dead serious.
02:18He said, I'm dead serious.
02:20Woo!
02:21She went from Bojo telling her he is not romantically attracted to her
02:26after she traveled thousands of miles to meet him,
02:30to laying in the arms of this hunk of a man who is seemingly gentle, thoughtful, and ready.
02:38I want you in my life.
02:40And I want you in his life.
02:44My God.
02:47How can you be so sure?
02:50I have a good feeling.
02:51My feeling has never betrayed me.
03:00Can you imagine what I feel like after six dates?
03:04Are we getting married then?
03:07When you know, you just know.
03:09Now, because I've watched this show for so long,
03:12I'm a little jaded when it comes to people using others for their own interest.
03:17But I'm hoping this is the real thing and Zosko has pure intentions
03:22and not just looking for a mom for his child.
03:26Just had to put that out there.
03:28I finally meet this guy that checks all the boxes
03:32It's a lot to take on,
03:34especially because this is not even something that I entertained for years.
03:39So, you know, you go years thinking, oh, I will never have kids.
03:43And then all of a sudden, there's this potential that I might become a stepmom.
03:48Seeing that he thinks so highly of me makes me even scared even more
03:53because what if I don't have kids?
03:57Isn't that what makes a great partner, though?
03:59Someone to help you see the potential that you might not even see in yourself.
04:04Now, if she comes to the conclusion that she just doesn't want to be a mom,
04:08that's another story.
04:09You know, I have my strong, independent woman lifestyle
04:13where I work four jobs.
04:15And, you know, I do so many things.
04:18I'm a mom.
04:19I'm a mom.
04:20I'm a mom.
04:21I'm a mom.
04:22I'm a mom.
04:24And, you know, I do so much stuff.
04:29What if I don't have enough to give?
04:38Yeah, just how much she cares
04:41and how she's considering the weight of becoming a part of this child's life
04:46makes me believe she'll do a great job.
04:48Will she be perfect?
04:50No, but I don't know a parent who is.
04:53What is it that we're doing?
04:55Is this, like, going to be, like, a long-distance relationship or what?
05:01I mean, for now, because we are long-distance.
05:05And I cannot move because of the legal terms surrounding my kid.
05:10So, I guess we'll figure it out in time.
05:16I think it's worth trying.
05:18So, are you my boyfriend?
05:22Yeah.
05:23Oh, my goodness.
05:25Y'all better soak in these good feelings.
05:28Before we get to Lauren and Faith,
05:30because their situation is a mess.
05:33If you are struggling with feelings of rejection from a romantic interest,
05:39a job, or an opportunity,
05:41or you're just not feeling valued or seen,
05:43whether it lasts between Vanya and Joshko or not,
05:48I see this as proof.
05:51If you don't give up,
05:52keep putting yourself in the right position,
05:55and stay true to who you are,
05:57meaning don't try to be somebody else,
06:00the right person or right opportunity will come.
06:05At least a person or an opportunity that feels better,
06:08one that feels more aligned.
06:11And it will remind you of why the pain and wait was worth it.
06:20I've never had a good experience with a long-distance relationship.
06:25But, I don't know, I have a very good feeling about us.
06:28She's an amazing woman.
06:30I'm pretty sure that she's the one.
06:32What's happening?
06:34This is crazy.
06:36Especially considering I came here for a different relationship,
06:39and that all blew up in flames.
06:41And I thought I was wasting my time here.
06:44I thought this was all for nothing.
06:46But no, it wasn't,
06:47because it was just a weird way for the universe to get me to meeting the love of my life.
06:53This is amazing.
06:54Wow.
06:55Yeah, I'm glad she's not falling into that.
06:58Is this too good to be true trap?
07:00It can be easy to go there.
07:02But what I tell myself is,
07:03girl, it's good right now,
07:05so let me let it be good.
07:07Before the night ends,
07:08things get good and spicy.
07:18Vanya is glowing.
07:21And we have seen Joshko's print a little too much since we met him a few episodes ago.
07:27My goodness.
07:28I'm gonna look past it though.
07:29Alright, Lauren and Faith.
07:31After these two got engaged,
07:35Okay, let me stop being petty.
07:36Lauren made it clear to the camera that he wanted to go see an immigration lawyer ASAP,
07:41because he does not want to return to Vegas where he is homeless.
07:45His plan is to marry Faith in another country where gay marriage is legal
07:50and then get a spousal visa so he can stay in the Philippines.
07:54But with one day left on his trip,
07:57the immigration lawyer tells Lauren his plan,
08:01it's not gonna work.
08:05Okay, I'm done for real.
08:07Under our laws, a marriage is between a man and a woman.
08:09So you in turn cannot get like spousal visa here
08:13or get a job here by virtue of your marriage to her.
08:18Right.
08:19It's kind of out of her hands.
08:21Okay.
08:22But as for the U.S. side, you guys will allow her.
08:27I know this isn't what Lauren wanted to hear,
08:31but I've always considered living in America.
08:34We'll have more opportunities there,
08:37which is great because I can help my family more.
08:41So this makes me, you know, excited.
08:44Well, with living in the Philippines off the table for Lauren,
08:48it's about to become real obvious why he proposed to Faith in the first place.
08:55Best advice, doc, fiance visa, K-1.
08:58It's the easiest now because you're already engaged.
09:01So to get a K-1 visa, though,
09:03don't I have to make a certain amount of money?
09:05Because it's a sponsorship kind of thing, right?
09:08Yeah.
09:09So I make like no money at all.
09:12Like I can't afford rent.
09:13Look at her face.
09:14It's understandable that people fall on hard times.
09:18But for me, when it comes to Lauren,
09:21it's just his priorities.
09:23He flew to another country to propose to somebody,
09:27and you can't afford rent?
09:29What do they say?
09:30Wherever you go, that's where you are.
09:32If you don't change your mindset or your habits, Lauren,
09:34it doesn't matter where you go in the world.
09:36You'll eventually find yourself in a similar predicament.
09:39So I guess if you guys are serious in bringing her to the U.S.,
09:44that's one of the things you have to get in order.
09:46Like your economic status will come into play.
09:50This is what I didn't want to hear,
09:52because the whole point was to never leave here.
09:54I don't want to go back to Vegas.
09:56I don't want to go back to my life.
09:57Is Lauren running from something?
09:59Is he in trouble and we don't know it?
10:01So the best option will be the fiancé visa, I think,
10:06that we can do.
10:08Okay.
10:09This plan I don't think is going to work.
10:11And I don't want to talk to you about Faith,
10:13because Faith is really happy.
10:15She wants to come to America,
10:16but I could never afford to sponsor Faith with a K-1 visa.
10:20It's not going to work.
10:21Nice meeting you.
10:22Nice meeting you, too.
10:24And now I'm going to board a plane tomorrow
10:26without the love of my life,
10:28and with no idea when we'll see each other again
10:31and no way to live here.
10:33I'm devastated.
10:35Well, lucky for Lauren,
10:37Faith ends up doing the hard work for him
10:39by ending the relationship.
10:42At the moment, she has no clue.
10:44He doesn't want or plan to bring her to the U.S.
10:48All that's on her mind is...
10:50Tonight, I feel ready to go to the next level with Lauren.
10:54Sexy time.
10:56But Lauren is in his head about having to leave the Philippines,
10:59so he ends up acting out in ways that disturb Faith.
11:10You can do that one.
11:12It's kind of weird.
11:19So what was your plan?
11:21What was the plan?
11:22You're leaving for tomorrow.
11:24I've got a couple of friends that are like,
11:26yeah, come live with me, but...
11:28I don't know which one I want to live with.
11:30Okay, so you have to treat Lauren like a kid at a restaurant?
11:33Baby, give me your knife.
11:36What is he doing?
11:38And let me just say this.
11:39I don't think that there's anything wrong with being odd or weird.
11:43Shoot, I'm weird at times.
11:45Of course, there are levels to it.
11:48But my issue with Lauren is not his weirdness or odd behavior.
11:53It's his deceitfulness that makes it hard for me to empathize with him.
11:59Nope, almost.
12:06Are you happy?
12:07Yeah.
12:09What? Get ready to go back to America?
12:12I don't know.
12:19What?
12:26Why not?
12:28It's not sharp.
12:31Sure.
12:35Yes.
12:37Faith tells Lauren his behavior is making her uncomfortable.
12:41And this moment really stood out to me
12:43because I hear stories about the dangers trans women face,
12:48including harm or even violence.
12:51And we see how perceptive Faith is,
12:53picking up on the subtleties that others might overlook or dismiss.
12:58On one hand, I admire how proactive and unapologetic she is
13:03about prioritizing her safety.
13:06On the other hand,
13:08it's heartbreaking to think about how prevalent that fear is in her mind.
13:13Even with cameras present, she's still concerned for her well-being.
13:18You know, I'm scared of what you do.
13:20You're scared of what I do?
13:22Yeah.
13:23Actually, my first boyfriend talking to me like this.
13:27Is it normal for you?
13:28Yes.
13:30Can we move this? I am not comfortable, sorry.
13:37Sorry, we're done.
13:39Yeah?
13:42Yeah.
13:43Is that all you're going to say?
13:45Faith leaves.
13:46Better safe than sorry.
13:48And tells the camera exactly what was going through her mind.
13:52I thought she was going to be happy today,
13:56but I'm scared.
14:00I'm not comfortable with this one.
14:03I'm not comfortable with this one, the knife.
14:06Yeah, it's a bread knife.
14:09It's a knife.
14:10And because we're at Jackson, we don't know who is the real one to accept us.
14:17You know, I'm shaking, actually.
14:20I'm not expecting this.
14:25I don't want to see it anymore.
14:27To see it.
14:29And it's over.
14:31Next week, it looks like Lauren's going to try to see Faith again
14:35before he heads back to Vegas.
14:37Also next week, finally,
14:40it looks like Matilda and Niles' wedding will kick off.
14:46Now that I'm here at Matilda and Niles' wedding,
14:49I think I'm in over my head.
14:50You think?
14:57Without my parents standing by me,
14:59I'm feeling like I'm alone.
15:01So I just hope that I'm doing the right thing.
15:09Ooh, look at Matilda.
15:11Okay, purple.
15:13Due to the holiday, there might not be a recap next week.
15:16I know.
15:17After I said all of that, I'm saying this.
15:19But if resources allow,
15:21I'm going to whip up something short and sweet for you.
15:24Either way, I'll be back the following week
15:26with everything you need to know.
15:28I'm hoping they'll drag the wedding out for at least two episodes
15:31since they had us waiting for so long.
15:33All right, 90 Day Fans fam,
15:35happy holidays again.
15:37Thanks for hanging with me.
15:38I will see you next time.