90 Day - The Last Resort S2 Episode 2 - The Last Straw
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00:00:00Previously on 90 Day, The Last Resort.
00:00:04Cheers everybody!
00:00:06No crying!
00:00:08Coming to this retreat,
00:00:10we are all here because we have serious issues.
00:00:15Let's try not to break up for at least the first few days.
00:00:20If we can get past these issues
00:00:22and she can understand where I'm coming from,
00:00:24I feel like, you know, she could be the one.
00:00:28Her man has been, like, messaging me on Instagram.
00:00:31What?
00:00:32Wait, wait, wait.
00:00:33He was, like, inviting me to, like, Vegas.
00:00:36This plan will fire.
00:00:38Because here we are.
00:00:41Look around at this ragtag bunch of failing marriages.
00:00:45I feel bad for the therapist.
00:00:47They got some work to do.
00:00:49I really want to have kids.
00:00:51Julia's telling me she no longer does.
00:00:53It's kind of, like, too much to talk about that.
00:00:56I don't think so, so...
00:00:59I feel like Florian's repeating patterns.
00:01:01One day I noticed he had makeup on his shirt.
00:01:04Wow.
00:01:05From a dog, you're making an elephant, you know?
00:01:09I'm not your little bitch.
00:01:10Listen, wife.
00:01:12I don't know, I'm, like, embarrassed.
00:01:14Embarrassed for what?
00:01:15Because I feel like my own husband...
00:01:19Jasmine will go out until, like, the next morning
00:01:23and say, oh, I spent the night at my friend's house.
00:01:28I don't think that's acceptable in a marriage.
00:01:40I love him a lot, but I do have trust issues.
00:01:44So I just really want us to at least give it one last try
00:01:47before we really decide whether we're gonna work or we're not.
00:01:50I've made some mistakes in the past, but I've apologized,
00:01:52and I've really done everything in my power to make it right.
00:01:55But recently I found out some information
00:01:57that just completely folded me.
00:02:00So if she's gonna hold me accountable for my lies,
00:02:03then she needs to reveal all of her secrets as well.
00:02:07He's gonna try to say that he hasn't been unfaithful,
00:02:11but I have all the evidence.
00:02:12Because you're a liar. You're a f***ing liar.
00:02:14Get the f*** out of this room.
00:02:17Oh, my God.
00:02:19I mean, the amount of disrespect that I get from him,
00:02:21it's unbearable.
00:02:23I had to leave my home with my son to get away from him.
00:02:52Oh, my God.
00:02:55Oh, my God.
00:03:21Oh, my God.
00:03:27Oh, my gosh.
00:03:34That was an interesting day.
00:03:36Yeah, it was.
00:03:39I feel like it could be less awkward if...
00:03:45One guy has been hitting on you for the last two months.
00:03:48Did you say he did speak to me at all?
00:03:50He didn't?
00:03:51No.
00:03:52Would you ever message Natalie and be like,
00:03:53you wanna come to Vegas with me?
00:03:55No.
00:03:56Yeah, no, that was weird.
00:03:58I'm f***ing bad, but I'm as bad as other people.
00:04:02No, we're not the worst here.
00:04:04So, is the one girl Stacy or is she Darcy?
00:04:08I don't know.
00:04:10You should probably look up who Florian's married to.
00:04:13Hold on, let me double check that.
00:04:16Because Florian could be married to Darcy or Stacy.
00:04:20I just don't know.
00:04:22Hold on, let me see.
00:04:25Okay.
00:04:26All right, so from now on, that's Stacy.
00:04:29Okay.
00:04:31I think she's really sweet.
00:04:33Sounds to me like he's been out here hooking up with females.
00:04:37Coming home with makeup on his shirt.
00:04:39Yeah, I don't like him.
00:04:40She should leave him.
00:04:47What do you wanna do?
00:04:49I'm hungry, maybe watch TV.
00:04:52What do you think about couples?
00:04:54What do I think about the couples?
00:04:56I think they're interesting, I think the stories are crazy.
00:05:03And I feel like they just have a lot going on.
00:05:09Tonight, at the first therapy session,
00:05:12I heard everybody else's major issues.
00:05:15Like, a lot of cheating, not having sex together.
00:05:18And, you know, Natalie and I, we're okay in that department.
00:05:22Our relationship, like, 70% it's sex, and 2% we fight.
00:05:29I feel it's actually 75% is fighting, and that kills everything.
00:05:37You're just too sensitive.
00:05:40I think we both have, you know, issues that we can probably work out
00:05:44and make us better.
00:05:46What do you think would make us better, like a couple?
00:05:49I don't know, like, that's what I'm trying to figure out.
00:05:52What do you mean?
00:05:54Well, like, you know, a lot of the times, you know, we'll get to a place
00:05:59and then I feel a lot of pressure from you for certain things
00:06:02that I just can't deliver.
00:06:04And then it makes me just, like, take steps back.
00:06:08I obviously want family.
00:06:12Like, I always wanted family and relationship and...
00:06:17We're rushing everything here.
00:06:21But, you know, I mean, that's why we're here, to talk these things out.
00:06:25You know, like, listen, this is three weeks,
00:06:28and in that three weeks, we're going to know,
00:06:30yeah, we're going to do this, or no, we're not going to do this.
00:06:33Yeah, we're going to do this, or no, we're not going to do this.
00:06:54How many socks did you pack for me?
00:06:58I have no idea. I'm telling you, pack your socks and panties.
00:07:01I'm not your mother, and I still take your...
00:07:04But you packed everything else.
00:07:06I packed everything. Why didn't you pack your socks?
00:07:09Can you please hurry up, and we will be waiting?
00:07:13OK, all right.
00:07:32You're working.
00:07:33I like when you're working.
00:07:36Last night, I out-controlled it.
00:07:38Honestly, I was...
00:07:39Well, I mean, we both were calling each other names.
00:07:41Yeah, but...
00:07:42I'm sorry for saying all the nasty things I said last night,
00:07:46because I didn't mean to say those things.
00:07:49I was upset and frustrated,
00:07:51because you were leaving the house
00:07:53and not telling me where you were going.
00:07:55We were arguing.
00:07:56I asked for your location. You didn't send me your location.
00:07:59By the second day, you told me you were with your friend.
00:08:02And that is a friend that we have in common.
00:08:04I told you, I am with Brandi.
00:08:07And that night, I was very mad,
00:08:09but I'm sorry that I made you worried.
00:08:13Let's be nice to each other, in front of other people at least.
00:08:18Please, if it is not too much to ask.
00:08:22When Jasmine left and went to sleep out,
00:08:26a friend of mine mentioned
00:08:28she was just hanging out with Brandi at her house.
00:08:33I wasn't 100% sure, you know,
00:08:36is she, you know, being honest with me?
00:08:39Because sometimes she wouldn't respond at all.
00:08:42But I've had the night to sleep on things,
00:08:45and, you know, I'm feeling a little bit better
00:08:49about the fact that I don't believe
00:08:51that Jasmine is sleeping at a guy's house.
00:08:57I'm not going to harp on yesterday. I'm in a good mood.
00:09:01I'll let it go.
00:09:03Just please be nice to me.
00:09:06Be nice.
00:09:08I know.
00:09:09Just...
00:09:10I excuse myself.
00:09:27Hi.
00:09:28Hi.
00:09:29How are you doing today?
00:09:30Good. Good morning.
00:09:31Good morning.
00:09:32I want to come in and check on you guys and see how you're doing.
00:09:36Yeah.
00:09:37Yeah?
00:09:38Yeah, you might want to do that.
00:09:39Okay, good.
00:09:40Vinny and I had our first group therapy session last night,
00:09:43and it did not go very well.
00:09:45The fact that we slept in separate rooms
00:09:47isn't exactly a great way to start a couple's retreat.
00:09:51Do you want to grab Vinny?
00:09:53Uh, he is not here.
00:09:55Okay, so is he able to come down here?
00:09:58Yeah, I can call him.
00:09:59Okay, let's do that.
00:10:03Our couples are illustrating a lot of difficulty
00:10:06in communicating right from the start.
00:10:08The first thing I want to do is check in on Ari and Vinny.
00:10:11Last night, you could tell that they're not in a good spot.
00:10:15Ari stated her concerns very concise,
00:10:18and Vinny responded with anger.
00:10:22So I'm a little concerned where they left off.
00:10:26Hey, Vinny.
00:10:27Yes?
00:10:28One of the therapists is here in our room.
00:10:30Would you be willing to come here now?
00:10:33Yeah, I'm coming.
00:10:34All right, thank you.
00:10:36No problem.
00:10:37Bye.
00:10:39I really wish that Vinny and I were in a better place
00:10:41where we could share a room.
00:10:43I mean, in a perfect world,
00:10:45Vinny could have come in and been like,
00:10:47you know, I'm sorry, I'm sorry I hurt you,
00:10:49the relationship at this point is broken,
00:10:51but, you know, broken things can be fixed.
00:10:55KNOCKING
00:11:09How are you?
00:11:11Hi, how are you?
00:11:12It's good.
00:11:14After last night, I feel like I'm very upset with Ari,
00:11:19but I'm hoping today we will be better,
00:11:23and then the therapy, she can help us communicate today,
00:11:28because every time we do a conversation,
00:11:31me and Ari, we're going to fight.
00:11:35So how are you doing today?
00:11:39Like, just yesterday, just I'm feeling like,
00:11:43just stress situation,
00:11:45but for now, just the main thing,
00:11:50just I need my eyes, like, open.
00:11:53I want my social media,
00:11:55that's the beginning for me, like, first step
00:11:58for next continuity.
00:12:02This is super frustrating,
00:12:03because once again, he insists that
00:12:05I give him back his social media passwords.
00:12:07I've been Benny's manager for his career as a performer,
00:12:12but then I found out that he was cheating on me,
00:12:14and I changed all his passwords.
00:12:16I was just angry with him,
00:12:17and it was, I was sort of getting back at him.
00:12:20Maybe it was a little vindictive,
00:12:21but I don't regret it,
00:12:22because I was so pissed off and so upset.
00:12:27I feel like I'm inside the glass in the box,
00:12:31like I can't do anything.
00:12:32I feel like she's blackmailing me.
00:12:35Benny, what do you mean by blackmail?
00:12:37Like, for me, blackmail, I don't know, maybe it's wrong.
00:12:40This is my second language.
00:12:41Blackmail means I have everything,
00:12:44your social media, everything,
00:12:46your email address, like, something,
00:12:48like, do whatever I say.
00:12:50Okay.
00:12:51You know, but for building trust,
00:12:54this is for me, like, in the trust,
00:12:56the beginning, she can give to me my trust back.
00:12:58I mean, how could I trust someone who cheats on me?
00:13:02So, with that being said,
00:13:03do you want this relationship to work?
00:13:07Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.
00:13:09Okay.
00:13:10I mentally, I can't take it anymore.
00:13:12The circles.
00:13:13What makes you not jump off that merry-go-round in general,
00:13:16not just here?
00:13:17I have.
00:13:18I left for four months just to get away from the,
00:13:20you know, I had to leave for my own sanity.
00:13:25Has it helped?
00:13:27It's helped a lot.
00:13:31Has it helped you as a couple?
00:13:39No, it has not helped us.
00:13:40It has not helped you guys?
00:13:44So, one thing is, is that if you both said last night,
00:13:48I want to be in this marriage,
00:13:50but your actions and the way you talk to each other
00:13:53doesn't say that.
00:13:54Exactly.
00:13:55So, the social media thing,
00:13:57I now understand why you want it back,
00:13:59but you have never once said,
00:14:01I want my wife back.
00:14:04What do you want in regards to this relationship?
00:14:07Do you want it at all?
00:14:19All right.
00:14:20So, if that's the case,
00:14:21you got to do the work,
00:14:23and you got to listen to each other.
00:14:25But we're not going to get through all of this
00:14:27right here in this session.
00:14:28We do have an activity,
00:14:30which I think this will lead us into that,
00:14:32where you guys can start to have some conversations
00:14:34about these issues,
00:14:35and to see if we can find any area
00:14:37where you guys can find a common ground
00:14:40so we can build off of that.
00:14:42But let's put the internet and computer and social media
00:14:45and all that aside from today,
00:14:47because this process can't get going
00:14:49if we are stuck on the social media.
00:14:52We got to get to trust.
00:14:55With Ari and Benny,
00:14:56they had a lot of problems in their communication styles,
00:14:58and I think they go to the fight routines.
00:15:01So today, this exercise should give them tools
00:15:04to help them better communicate with each other
00:15:06in a different way than they're used to.
00:15:09So let's get off campus and see what happens.
00:15:12I think you guys will really enjoy this activity.
00:15:27Ari is still my obvious mother.
00:15:29Still I love her.
00:15:30Maybe without fighting,
00:15:32maybe we can fix the situation.
00:15:36You're teammates, you're not enemies.
00:15:38So go through this process with an open heart, okay?
00:15:43Okay.
00:15:57Hey, guys.
00:15:59Hi.
00:16:02Excuse my butt.
00:16:04Thought I was a little thinner.
00:16:09Well, let's just all have a good day today, enjoy yourselves.
00:16:13We're doing this therapy to improve our relationships.
00:16:18Well, thanks for the positivity, Gino.
00:16:20Yeah, it's sunny outside, beautiful.
00:16:23It's...
00:16:25warm.
00:16:27We left the resort and we are driving,
00:16:30and now we're, like, in the middle of nowhere.
00:16:32We're, like, in the boonies.
00:16:34This is how horror movies start.
00:16:37We are, like, a very big, happy, dysfunctional family
00:16:42that is going on vacation nowhere in the wilderness
00:16:46to receive therapy.
00:16:48We get lost in the desert,
00:16:50and we have to survive, and we are cannibals.
00:16:53I will eat Benny, for sure.
00:16:55Because...
00:16:56You like the muscle.
00:16:57The muscle.
00:16:58Maybe, like, that's gonna, like, nourish my body.
00:17:01That would be my first victim.
00:17:06Okay, guys, be careful with scorpions and snakes,
00:17:09because Brent told... What kind of snake here?
00:17:12Well, rattlesnakes.
00:17:14I think the Mojave rattler.
00:17:15I carry anti-venom in my purse, so I should be fine.
00:17:18Yeah?
00:17:19Yeah?
00:17:32Okay, what is that?
00:17:35I see a pile of rocks.
00:17:39What are we doing?
00:17:41Be a little scared.
00:17:44You lied to me.
00:17:46When I was 14 years old.
00:17:48No, it's you lying about it.
00:17:50Do you not get the difference?
00:17:51What I did when I was 14 years old.
00:17:53You don't get the difference.
00:17:54I have confirmation on the phone clear as day.
00:17:57Sophie messaging Callum.
00:17:58Her ex.
00:17:59Don't tell Rob about us having sex.
00:18:02No, I'm not doing that with you.
00:18:05The only reason you brought me to this country, okay,
00:18:09with lies that you were gonna be an amazing husband,
00:18:13blah, blah, blah.
00:18:14Yeah, I have been amazing.
00:18:15You don't appreciate anything.
00:18:16No, you brought me here.
00:18:17That's the problem.
00:18:18You are the biggest scammer in the world.
00:18:20Right.
00:18:35Hi, guys.
00:18:36Welcome, everybody.
00:18:37Hello.
00:18:38How are you?
00:18:39Hello.
00:18:40A little scared.
00:18:41You're scared?
00:18:42Little.
00:18:43Well, there may be something to be scared of.
00:18:45What kind of therapy are you gonna take us in the middle of nowhere?
00:18:49Snake therapy?
00:18:51I don't know.
00:18:52There's a huge pile of rocks and I don't know.
00:18:55I don't know.
00:18:56I'm not gonna do it.
00:18:57I'm not gonna do it.
00:18:58I'm not gonna do it.
00:18:59I'm not gonna do it.
00:19:00I'm not gonna do it.
00:19:01I'm not gonna do it.
00:19:02I'm not gonna do it.
00:19:03There's a huge pile of rocks and I'm wondering, are we gonna throw these at each other?
00:19:07You just read my mind.
00:19:09Welcome back, everyone.
00:19:10I hope everybody had a good night, got some sleep, and ready for some exercise today.
00:19:16We're about to embark through the trails, through the mountains.
00:19:20This is called Compromise Canyon.
00:19:23So for the first part of this exercise, I want you guys to really think about an issue
00:19:29within the relationship that you want to work on.
00:19:32I'm gonna have you all go ahead and pick up a backpack, grab two rocks and a marker.
00:19:38You're gonna write your issue on both of your rocks.
00:19:43And then you're gonna give one of your rocks to your significant other.
00:19:47We will go ahead and put both of the rocks in your backpack.
00:19:51Let's head over, grab a backpack and a marker and two rocks each.
00:19:57Today, this exercise should help them better communicate with each other
00:20:02in a different way than they're used to.
00:20:04It's so hard. I'm so different.
00:20:07It's not like pizza.
00:20:09They each essentially are carrying each other's problems.
00:20:12And so this kind of gives them a feel of how it feels to carry all this weight that is unnecessary.
00:20:19Can I pick this one?
00:20:22I want a thin one.
00:20:24Right, I'm picking the smallest one.
00:20:26I'm a Libra. I can't make a decision.
00:20:29What are you writing?
00:20:31Compassion.
00:20:32What does that mean to you?
00:20:35Like just taking into account how the other person feels and not just like...
00:20:40I think both of us struggle with that.
00:20:42Like me, I need to think of how he might feel and who is about mine.
00:20:45I think a lot of times we don't.
00:20:48You guys already have yours?
00:20:49Yeah.
00:20:50What did you put? Access?
00:20:51Yeah.
00:20:53My problem is access to Josh's life because for now I'm kind of blinded.
00:21:00I don't understand because my boyfriend doesn't even invite me to his house.
00:21:06If he would take me to his house, he would show that he really cares for me
00:21:09and that he takes me really seriously.
00:21:14What are you guys going to put on your rocks?
00:21:17Transparency.
00:21:18Transparency?
00:21:20Because I don't know a lot about what the f*** Sophie's been doing.
00:21:23She's been living her life without me.
00:21:25Okay, that's a really good one.
00:21:28I know exactly what I'm going to put.
00:21:32You want me to write it?
00:21:33Yeah.
00:21:34For what?
00:21:35For respect.
00:21:37R.
00:21:40B.
00:21:43What's yours?
00:21:45Transparency.
00:21:49Tell me yours because I just told you mine.
00:21:54Look at my rock.
00:21:58Look at my rock.
00:21:59I just saw it.
00:22:00Yeah.
00:22:04You writing compassion feels like that's funny when I know you've been lying to me for so long.
00:22:10Like you'd f*** your ex, Calum, and you lied to me about that.
00:22:14And then you brought the guy to my face and you both stood there in the same room with me
00:22:18knowing that you'd had sex lying to me together.
00:22:23He thinks we're exes.
00:22:24We're not really even exes, right?
00:22:26It's barely anything.
00:22:27Yeah, I wouldn't even go as far as exes.
00:22:29You know, we were kids.
00:22:30We messed around as kids.
00:22:32So there is an attraction.
00:22:33You guys did like each other at some point.
00:22:35Call it what you want.
00:22:38If you knew what it was like, and I'm sure you've got it with friends
00:22:41where, you know, you kissed a couple times when you were kids.
00:22:44I appreciate your input.
00:22:45I'm going to finish talking to her.
00:22:51You lied to me.
00:22:52I'm not talking about a situation that happened when I was 14.
00:22:54I'm not.
00:22:55I'm sorry.
00:22:56But you lied to me, though.
00:22:57You lied to me.
00:22:59Before this retreat, I got confirmation, clear as day, text messages in Sophie's phone
00:23:05that her and Calum, the guy that she brought all the way from England to meet me,
00:23:08swore that they were just friends.
00:23:10That they'd had sex before.
00:23:14I just found out this about you that you've been lying to me this whole time.
00:23:17That's what you want to think?
00:23:18It doesn't matter.
00:23:21Everyone has two rocks.
00:23:23The name of the game here is to be able to compromise through some of these issues.
00:23:29You're going to come up to one checkpoint,
00:23:32and you're going to think about how you can work on this as a couple.
00:23:37If you compromise through some of these issues, you can leave your rocks there.
00:23:42If you can't find any compromise, those rocks are staying with you.
00:23:47Let's leave the rock.
00:23:49Let's release the burden and be able to free ourselves so we can move forward.
00:23:53All right.
00:23:54Let's break you guys up into groups.
00:23:55We'll start with Jasmine and Gino, Natalie and Josh.
00:24:01Gino and Jasmine are partners.
00:24:03I like Gino.
00:24:04I have good conversation with him.
00:24:06I'm not having much conversation with Jasmine.
00:24:09She doesn't let him even speak.
00:24:11She doesn't.
00:24:12It's like a radio.
00:24:13She's switching on nonstop.
00:24:15Yeah.
00:24:17Stacey and Florian.
00:24:20And Binnie and Ari.
00:24:24And another two, Rob and Sophie and Brandon and Julia.
00:24:29Ari and Binnie, they're experienced in hiking and stuff.
00:24:32So at least we'll be safe.
00:24:35Darci and I got lost in the wilderness once in high school.
00:24:40We were missing for like 12 hours.
00:24:41Our dad had to call the rescue, but we found our way out.
00:24:45There was like a horse trail that we followed the horse poop.
00:24:48You know, hopefully nothing like that happens.
00:24:50We don't get lost.
00:24:54This is a map of the trail.
00:24:56It's going to lead you there and back.
00:24:58Good luck with your journey.
00:24:59You guys got this.
00:25:00You guys got this.
00:25:01Woo!
00:25:03When I was 14 years old.
00:25:05And you lied.
00:25:06I was a child.
00:25:07Lying is lying.
00:25:08You didn't lie when you were 14.
00:25:09You lied when you were 12.
00:25:10I don't think anyone here would care what their partner did at 14 years old.
00:25:13No, it's you lying about it.
00:25:14Do you not get the difference?
00:25:16Well, I did when I was 14 years old.
00:25:17You don't get the difference.
00:25:19So therapist, I want to talk to you to make sure you guys are okay.
00:25:22Like, do you want to take a step back?
00:25:24Yeah, I actually don't want to be around him.
00:25:26And I'm like really annoyed.
00:25:30So, let's think about how we're going to get through this moment.
00:25:33Doing this hike.
00:25:35I can, but he's going to be horrible the whole time.
00:25:37Okay.
00:25:38Rob, come over here.
00:25:39It's funny that she writes compassion on her rock and has zero for me.
00:25:44She's been lying to me about at least one thing this entire time.
00:25:47He's upset that I had sex with someone when I was 14 years old.
00:25:50It's not about the fact that she hooked up with him.
00:25:52It's about the fact that she was lying to me the whole time.
00:25:56To my face, consistently.
00:26:00No, I'm not, I'm not doing that.
00:26:02I'm not doing it.
00:26:08We have no chance now.
00:26:09Because some **** when I was 14 years old.
00:26:15I'm just embarrassed because I chose this person to marry.
00:26:19I'm so sorry.
00:26:20You don't deserve that.
00:26:21You don't deserve that.
00:26:31If she wants something, she wants something by force.
00:26:35I can't pretend.
00:26:36I feel like I'm trapped.
00:26:461.4.
00:26:47Miles?
00:26:48Yeah.
00:26:49I just find it **** crazy how much she's held against me.
00:26:54How hard she's came at me about anything that I've done.
00:26:58And she's lying to me the whole time.
00:27:01Today, we're here at the therapy retreat on a mountain in the middle of the desert.
00:27:05And Sophie's got the audacity to write compassion on her rock.
00:27:08Meanwhile, she's lying to my face.
00:27:11I saw the messages.
00:27:12Clear as day.
00:27:13Sophie messaging Callum, her ex.
00:27:15Don't tell Rob about us having sex.
00:27:18It's lie after lie after lie.
00:27:20And then she deflects and gaslights me and says,
00:27:23Oh, well, that all happened when I was younger.
00:27:25No, you lying to me is now.
00:27:29What would you like her to say to you?
00:27:32Rob, I'm sorry.
00:27:34An apology.
00:27:35I just didn't want to talk about it.
00:27:37I didn't want to tell you that because I didn't want it to be a big deal.
00:27:40It didn't mean anything.
00:27:41Like any type of actual **** remorse.
00:27:43Okay.
00:27:44Instead of just acting like she just did nothing wrong.
00:27:48I need you to do some breathing and relaxing for a second.
00:27:51Just to kind of get yourself to this calm state to get through this.
00:27:54And I'll go talk to her.
00:27:55But exactly what you're asking for, we'll talk about that, okay?
00:27:58You got this.
00:27:59Let me go talk to her.
00:28:01I'm noticing the pattern here is Rob's getting really upset and worked up
00:28:05because he's not feeling understood.
00:28:07There's something that he needs to communicate.
00:28:09She then responds to how he's communicating in his tone and language.
00:28:14And she checks out.
00:28:17Can I talk with you?
00:28:18Yeah.
00:28:19You did your own hike.
00:28:21People react in different ways, and some of them are this concept of fleeing
00:28:25because they get so worried or anxious or scared.
00:28:28And we're seeing Sophie is fleeing these situations.
00:28:32She's taking off.
00:28:34Here we go.
00:28:35Good luck, guys.
00:28:36See you later.
00:28:37Bye.
00:28:38Bye, y'all.
00:28:39Good luck.
00:28:40Bye, bye, bye.
00:28:41Let's go.
00:28:42Try to be with your person.
00:28:43It sounds like it's about a mile.
00:28:48Oh, my God.
00:28:49My sneakers.
00:28:52Oh, well.
00:28:53I'll just buy new ones.
00:29:00You think we're going to see camels here?
00:29:03Camels?
00:29:04Yeah.
00:29:06No.
00:29:08What do you mean, no?
00:29:09We don't have them.
00:29:10They don't have them.
00:29:11It's a desert.
00:29:13What kind of desert is that?
00:29:15I noticed Rob and Sophie having a bit of a squabble, and the next she storms away.
00:29:19This is only second therapy, and they already blow up that, and that is not a good sign.
00:29:26We've got the rocks weighing us down, and then we've got Rob and Sophie weighing us down.
00:29:30If you're not going to attempt the challenge, your relationship's never going to get better,
00:29:34and you're never going to get anywhere.
00:29:36So don't drag us down with you.
00:29:38You know what I mean?
00:29:43I really need to pee.
00:29:44Me too.
00:29:45Pee.
00:29:46Guys.
00:29:47There's no toilets out here.
00:29:48I mean, there are bushes.
00:29:49I'm holding it, and she also needs to pee.
00:29:51I'm going to protect her from the snakes.
00:29:54There's no bushes over here.
00:29:55It's a human need.
00:29:56Are you going to air dry?
00:29:57Let's go.
00:29:58No.
00:29:59Go do it.
00:30:00Call the wild.
00:30:02I mean, if you have to go, you have to go.
00:30:05Oh, gosh.
00:30:06I need to pee, like, for real.
00:30:12Oh, it's raining.
00:30:13I'm such a gentleman.
00:30:14It's not raining.
00:30:15It's not raining.
00:30:16My hair.
00:30:17No, it's this.
00:30:18Wear this hoodie.
00:30:19Oh, God.
00:30:21Come on, guys.
00:30:22Rain is coming.
00:30:23Let's go.
00:30:24Come on, guys.
00:30:26Because I want to protect my eyelash extensions and my hair extensions, babe.
00:30:30You and your eyelashes can do this.
00:30:32Why don't you wear it, like, nice?
00:30:34I don't have time to go to the salon.
00:30:36I don't want to get wet.
00:30:42I know, Rob.
00:30:43He's going to literally be in a horrible mood with me this whole time.
00:30:46He doesn't let things go.
00:30:47I can let things go.
00:30:48He's going to—he already was starting to be rude.
00:30:50He was like, I'm the f***ing one.
00:30:51What I—what I—that's his history, right?
00:30:54His history makes him respond like that.
00:30:56And I think right now we diffuse this with, I'm sorry, this is a lot of information for both of us, and I'm sorry that you're hurt.
00:31:04And I'd like—if he's here with him, I want him to be able to say that to you right now.
00:31:08I think you both need that.
00:31:09I would like to do this and continue with what we're supposed to do.
00:31:11Let's walk back.
00:31:14I understand that I was wrong to not be honest with Rob about the extent of me and Callum's relationship.
00:31:19But at the same time, the way he's acting now is exactly why I didn't want to tell him.
00:31:24But I have come here to work on myself and try and be better.
00:31:27So I am going to go back to Rob and try and sort things out rather than just running away from it.
00:31:33I wrote about, like, suspense.
00:31:37What did you write?
00:31:38I wrote affection.
00:31:40Like, for example, you know, when I go to grab your hand, you know, like, sometimes you pull away.
00:31:46Or when you came to meet me, you just shook my hand.
00:31:49You didn't hug me, you know, but you hugged everybody else, and I'm your wife.
00:31:52So, like, if you could just do just small things to show me more affection,
00:31:57So, like, if you could just do just small things to show me more affection,
00:32:02that would make our relationship a lot better, you know?
00:32:15Yeah, that's why I'm telling you nicely.
00:32:17Just like how you asked.
00:32:19One, two, three.
00:32:21Hi.
00:32:23Oh, God.
00:32:25Oh, hey, baby, like that.
00:32:27Like, they're just playing and joking around.
00:32:29Will you do that for me?
00:32:31No, no, just I'm tired.
00:32:33Honey, see, like, for example, what they're doing, baby?
00:32:36That would mean a lot to me.
00:32:38Okay, you want to do this?
00:32:40Yeah, I want to do that.
00:32:49I weigh, like, 50 kilos.
00:32:51You can handle? I'm sideways.
00:32:54No, no, get down, get down.
00:32:59Okay, let's fix it.
00:33:02Okay, come on, let's try it again.
00:33:06No, I'll put the backpack on.
00:33:08It's fine, it's fine.
00:33:09No, I'm not going to continue.
00:33:10Give me the backpack.
00:33:11I don't want to do that, but I'm just tired, you know, just walking.
00:33:14No, this is what I'm talking about.
00:33:16This is ridiculous.
00:33:18I'm just tired.
00:33:19Okay, well, guess what?
00:33:20You're a baby.
00:33:22Look at this, I'm just tired.
00:33:25It's not comfortable.
00:33:26Yeah, but you chose to carry the biggest stones.
00:33:28You didn't need to do that.
00:33:30I really feel that you're just using this as an excuse to not be anywhere near me.
00:33:34It just adds insult to injury, really.
00:33:38So sorry, I feel like we started something.
00:33:40You didn't do anything.
00:33:41It's ridiculous.
00:33:43It's a form of affection.
00:33:45You think that this is my thing?
00:33:48I'm so sorry.
00:33:49You don't deserve that.
00:33:53It's been a very hard five years.
00:33:55Oh my God.
00:34:06And I'm just embarrassed because I chose this person to marry.
00:34:09That's the problem.
00:34:10She forced me, just if I don't want something.
00:34:12Just, you know, just...
00:34:13I don't know, like, how Ben is going to make it today, to be honest.
00:34:18Somebody going to run away, probably.
00:34:21We're good listeners.
00:34:22I feel like, you know...
00:34:24You know?
00:34:25We feel for other people.
00:34:27Kind of like...
00:34:28Instinctiveness.
00:34:29Like the mom and dad of the group.
00:34:32The f*** you up?
00:34:34Going to adopt Ben and Ari.
00:34:36Yeah.
00:34:37Yeah.
00:34:38Yeah.
00:34:39Yeah.
00:34:41Yeah.
00:34:42Sorry.
00:34:43Yeah.
00:34:45Our kids.
00:34:55You should do this therapy, you know?
00:34:56Listen to her, everything, and Ari's going to listen to love.
00:35:00This is like day two, you know?
00:35:01It's had, like, many days, you know?
00:35:03Like, I don't think so maybe you understand it.
00:35:06Like, whatever she...
00:35:07If she wants something, she wants something by force, you know?
00:35:10You know what I'm saying?
00:35:11You don't need to look what the bad things.
00:35:13You need to look like what you make you guys together, you know?
00:35:17To be you guys together.
00:35:18That you need to look.
00:35:19No, no, look like who is wrong, who is never wrong.
00:35:21That's why just we came here.
00:35:22We have a son.
00:35:23I believe we can...
00:35:24That is important.
00:35:25But for that, I need trust, you know?
00:35:29Like, I can tell you that.
00:35:30Like, I love somebody.
00:35:32I can take everything shut down when I promise you.
00:35:35I give a f*** for f*** email.
00:35:37I don't give a f*** for f*** social media.
00:35:39I don't give a f*** for my Instagram, you know?
00:35:41You should try for your son, to be honest with you.
00:35:44You should try.
00:35:46I try to communicate with her for fix it because of my son.
00:35:51But I can't move on from it because that's my freedom.
00:35:55I can't pretend.
00:35:56Like, I don't know.
00:35:57Just I can't pretend.
00:35:58Oh, everything is okay.
00:36:00Just okay, we can move on.
00:36:01I can't pretend it.
00:36:03I feel like I'm trapped.
00:36:06I don't know. Let's go.
00:36:15What do you want to do?
00:36:21You know, we've been dealing with trust issues since you've been in America.
00:36:24I need help.
00:36:25I need help to figure out how to trust you.
00:36:29Keep it in your hands.
00:36:30No, I don't want it anymore.
00:36:32I don't want it anymore.
00:36:34I don't want it anymore.
00:36:35You take it from me.
00:36:37Stay.
00:36:38I want to be free.
00:36:42Stay.
00:36:54What do you want to do?
00:36:55Evil son of a bitch.
00:36:56All right, let's go.
00:36:57You want to go with me?
00:36:58Yeah.
00:36:59Stick together.
00:37:00Definitely feel a connection with you.
00:37:03I'm a mom, too, and I get it.
00:37:08I feel really bad.
00:37:09I almost feel, like, guilty for, you know, the piggyback.
00:37:11Florian wanted to do that, and I felt like that was a form of affection for him.
00:37:15That was cute.
00:37:16There was nothing wrong with that.
00:37:17We've been fighting since we've been here, and I feel like, oh, he's making some effort, you know?
00:37:21And I know you really wanted that, and he couldn't make any effort.
00:37:27It's just, it's not right, and you don't deserve that.
00:37:33Hey.
00:37:37You guys come here to, like, to be together, correct?
00:37:40Forget what happened.
00:37:41Like, we're, like, in a problem.
00:37:44In order to work on a problem, you need to have a partner to work on it.
00:37:49If someone's not willing to work on it, nothing is getting solved.
00:37:53Before when I'm coming here, I tell you, a swear is not Avi's life.
00:37:56So many times.
00:37:57Even when we started.
00:37:58We sometimes swear in our son's life.
00:37:59Yes.
00:38:00Yeah, I swear.
00:38:01I swear on Avi's life.
00:38:02I'm not move on.
00:38:03If he not give it to me freedom.
00:38:04If he give it to me, give it to me.
00:38:05If he not give it to me, I don't know.
00:38:07OK.
00:38:08We agreed that social media, that was off.
00:38:11The therapist asked you not to talk about social media for one day.
00:38:14I don't want to talk about anything.
00:38:15I don't want to talk about this, anything.
00:38:17OK.
00:38:18So then continue.
00:38:19Let's go continue.
00:38:20Let's go.
00:38:21Let's go, guys.
00:38:22Sorry, guys.
00:38:23I know.
00:38:30I think it's this way.
00:38:37I mean, like, now we're on our way by ourselves.
00:38:40And we're waiting Sophie and Rob all this time.
00:38:45Yeah, but I mean, they're kind of their relationships having an implosion.
00:38:48So, I mean, if that was happening to us, we might be in the same boat.
00:38:51I don't know how focused you'd be on challenges.
00:38:53I will be still continuing.
00:38:55We have a team.
00:38:56And to be honest, I'm already so mad.
00:39:00I'm pissed.
00:39:02Because we wait you from all this time.
00:39:05And you not come to us and say, hey, don't wait me.
00:39:09Go alone.
00:39:10We wait him.
00:39:11And now we are missing our therapy because of another couples.
00:39:16I'm not here for you.
00:39:17I'm here for us.
00:39:19Did you have to pick such a big rock for my bag?
00:39:22Yes, I choose most heavy rock.
00:39:24Why would you do that?
00:39:25Why?
00:39:26I'm telling you why.
00:39:27Why?
00:39:28Because you want me to compromise, don't you?
00:39:30I feel like we are lost.
00:39:32I think it's this way.
00:39:34No, I feel we're lost.
00:39:42I see some flags.
00:39:48Let's see if we can compromise.
00:39:50Or if we can't compromise, we have to keep the rock.
00:39:54It's a heavy one.
00:39:56It's killing me, this rock.
00:39:59So I wrote on my rock, independence with a broken heart.
00:40:05I feel unappreciated.
00:40:07I feel on value and unhappy.
00:40:13And to make it better, I need to feel that you support me as my partner.
00:40:22I support you by paying the bills every month in our home.
00:40:26I've been supporting you since you were in Panama financially and with Emotional.
00:40:31Emotional?
00:40:32I've been supporting you since you've been in Michigan.
00:40:34That is total support, so don't say I don't support you.
00:40:37I have a problem with that.
00:40:39The way I pictured things in my mind was like,
00:40:41okay, I'm giving up on my independence that I used to have in Panama by coming here.
00:40:49And I thought that it was going to be temporarily, you know,
00:40:52until my green card was processed.
00:40:55But now that I got my green card, reality has hit me,
00:41:00and I still don't have any sort of independence.
00:41:03I'm still in the same situation.
00:41:07And the only difference is that, okay, now I have the green card.
00:41:11Even if I try to get a job on my own now that I'm able to,
00:41:16I don't even have a driver's license,
00:41:18and I don't have any sort of support coming from you.
00:41:23That's not true.
00:41:24I don't have independence.
00:41:25That's not true.
00:41:26Everything I rely on you.
00:41:29A lot of our arguments start because Juno doesn't want to drive me anywhere.
00:41:33So I don't have a car, I don't have a driver's license.
00:41:36I'm not asking for a lot of things like, hey, deposit like tons of money
00:41:41so I can have a car and use it as I want.
00:41:44I will be happy with any car.
00:41:47Crappy car, used car, you know, I don't care.
00:41:51To feel like I regain my independence, I need you to get me a car.
00:41:59I cannot live like this.
00:42:06I think this is the one.
00:42:10We got it.
00:42:12Here we go.
00:42:14Huh?
00:42:15We made it.
00:42:16Oh my God.
00:42:19I think you guys do everybody couple like separate and figure out.
00:42:24Okay, we'll give you guys some space and we'll be over there.
00:42:27Over here.
00:42:28Good luck.
00:42:29Figure out our problems.
00:42:36So I wrote on my, I wrote on my rock, affection.
00:42:43Affection means to give love.
00:42:45You can give affection many different ways.
00:42:47So before we talk about our rocks, we're going to hold each other's hands
00:42:51and we're going to look into each other's eyes.
00:42:53Okay.
00:42:54Okay?
00:42:55Do you want to do it?
00:42:56Okay, yeah.
00:42:57For how long?
00:42:58I don't know how long.
00:42:59Okay.
00:43:0030 seconds.
00:43:09Should I go first?
00:43:10Yeah, go for it.
00:43:11Yeah, go for it.
00:43:12All right.
00:43:14Trust.
00:43:15That's right.
00:43:16I chose trust.
00:43:19You know, we've been dealing with trust issues from since you've been in America.
00:43:23And since the cheating scandal, it was something that was very hard and still is very hard to forget.
00:43:31I don't want to have to worry about you.
00:43:36Girls and, you know, having side chicks and stuff.
00:43:39You know, I want to be able to trust you.
00:43:43I want to be able to grow old with you.
00:43:46I want us to reconnect and be back the way we used to be.
00:43:53I feel like we lost that.
00:43:54I want to get back to the way we used to be.
00:44:06I need help.
00:44:07I need help.
00:44:08I need help to figure out...
00:44:09Give it to me.
00:44:10...how to trust you.
00:44:11Huh?
00:44:12You want to take this off of me?
00:44:13Yeah.
00:44:14You want to take it off of me?
00:44:15Shh.
00:44:17You want to take it off of me?
00:44:19We want you to take it off.
00:44:20Just keep it in your hands and don't cry, please.
00:44:22No, I don't want it anymore.
00:44:23I don't want it anymore.
00:44:24You take it from me.
00:44:27What the hell?
00:44:28You take it from me.
00:44:30I want to be free.
00:44:32I want to be free.
00:44:34Free.
00:44:35Stay.
00:44:36What the hell is wrong with you?
00:44:39Stay.
00:44:43I put one word, access, being more part of your life.
00:44:47You know, I feel like I've been giving you a lot of access.
00:44:51Could it be possible we visit your house and just you make a tour for me?
00:44:56He doesn't want me to investigate his house.
00:44:59And I do want to investigate his house.
00:45:04Okay.
00:45:09I want to be free.
00:45:13I want to be free.
00:45:16What the hell is wrong with you?
00:45:19I'm releasing.
00:45:20I'm releasing.
00:45:21Let me just release.
00:45:24Stay.
00:45:26Stay.
00:45:27I want us to release together.
00:45:30You're a lust.
00:45:32Okay.
00:45:33Stay.
00:45:39I need a hug.
00:45:41I can give you a hug ten times.
00:45:45Stay.
00:45:50When you love somebody, it's hard to see somebody struggling.
00:45:53I don't cry a lot, but when I cry, it's a big deal, you know?
00:45:59I know her like how many times she's breathed in a day.
00:46:03I know her very well.
00:46:07The one thing about Florian, he is a very committed person.
00:46:10And he is committed to me.
00:46:12And this is what we need to make it through.
00:46:15Because I want to have a happy ending.
00:46:22How do you think you're going to trust me?
00:46:24How do you think I can work with this example?
00:46:26Like, to leave this rock here, basically?
00:46:29I just need to see more action and not talk.
00:46:47You promise?
00:46:50I can trust you for life.
00:46:59What do you want to do with this rock?
00:47:01I want to leave it here.
00:47:05Okay, leave it here.
00:47:07Let's talk from the other rock.
00:47:10Don't leave it here.
00:47:12Okay.
00:47:27Okay, where do we go now?
00:47:31Can I pet your dog?
00:47:33Hi, my baby.
00:47:35Oh my goodness.
00:47:36Hello.
00:47:38We love you.
00:47:39We absolutely love you.
00:47:41Okay.
00:47:42She's the happiest dog ever now.
00:47:45Have fun.
00:47:46Bye, Lucy.
00:47:47Have a great day.
00:47:49Hey, guys.
00:47:50Look who's here.
00:47:51How are y'all doing?
00:47:52Everything going okay?
00:47:54Yeah.
00:47:56I was able to convince Sophie and Rob to move forward on this hike.
00:48:00I offered to go on the hike with them because I could see there's stress between the two of them.
00:48:05Maybe I can guide them, offer some support, give a little mediation,
00:48:09just to keep facilitating it and moving it forward.
00:48:11But did you guys take a moment?
00:48:13I mean, look at this.
00:48:14Oh yeah, we did.
00:48:17Even though I'm still very upset about Sophie lying to me,
00:48:21her and James come up to me and we talk and I decided to continue to do the hike.
00:48:27We did not magically resolve the issue at all,
00:48:30but that's the whole reason we're here, is to work through this stuff.
00:48:35We made it.
00:48:37Look at that.
00:48:38Thank God.
00:48:39We have a flag.
00:48:41Good job, guys.
00:48:42That is good.
00:48:43So this is what I think we need to do.
00:48:45Let's open up our backpacks.
00:48:47Let's take out one of those rocks.
00:48:49Yes.
00:48:50And let's talk about it.
00:48:52Let's pick what he wrote for you.
00:48:54Okay.
00:48:55Make sure we're reading each other's, right?
00:48:57You should not have your own.
00:48:58What's on your rock?
00:49:00It says parents.
00:49:01Okay.
00:49:02What does that mean?
00:49:03What does that mean?
00:49:04I'm talking about my parents.
00:49:06What about your parents?
00:49:08Help me make them apply together for visa.
00:49:14So this is what I'm hearing.
00:49:15We don't know what control we have over your parents,
00:49:17but what I'm hearing from you, you want Brandon to support you more
00:49:21when it comes to dealing with our parents.
00:49:25It may not look like it on the surface,
00:49:27but Julie and I have a lot of issues and we're just not dealing with them head on.
00:49:33For example, Julia wants to bring her parents here to live in the U.S. permanently.
00:49:38But, you know, Julia's parents are divorced.
00:49:41They don't get along.
00:49:42It would just be chaos all around.
00:49:44With us being on such shaky ground right now,
00:49:46I think her bringing her parents here would be a disaster for us.
00:49:52Okay, that's perfect.
00:49:53We'll talk about that.
00:49:54I want to hear what he wrote for you.
00:49:56Julia, what do you have?
00:49:58Baby.
00:49:59Okay.
00:50:00What does that say to you?
00:50:01Do you know what that means?
00:50:02Yes.
00:50:03Okay.
00:50:04What he means is, like, human baby.
00:50:06Okay.
00:50:08I mean, how do we compromise on that?
00:50:10Because...
00:50:11If you want, and I don't want, like, what point we are together.
00:50:16I mean, at a time, you were...
00:50:18You said you, you know, were open to the idea of having kids.
00:50:21I'm open to talking about that.
00:50:24Are we beyond that?
00:50:25Are we beyond talking?
00:50:26Are you still open to talking about it?
00:50:28I'm open to talking about it, but...
00:50:31Do I want it?
00:50:32No.
00:50:36So we want to know where your brains are right now.
00:50:38Are we packing these rocks up?
00:50:40Do you feel like there's something around a compromise that can be had?
00:50:53In this moment, not at all.
00:50:56Okay.
00:50:57Let's pack it up.
00:50:59She's not going to make a compromise on the baby.
00:51:01I'm not going to make a compromise on parents.
00:51:05So we're going to pack this up?
00:51:07I guess I really don't want to, but yeah.
00:51:12But Brandon doesn't understand he doesn't have a choice on that.
00:51:16I'm getting my parents to U.S. even if he don't like.
00:51:20I've done research, and I don't need Brandon's help.
00:51:24And if Brandon tell me I have to choose between him and my parents,
00:51:29he doesn't going to like my answer.
00:51:48Okay.
00:51:49Okay.
00:51:55Okay.
00:52:06You know, I feel like I've been giving you a lot of access.
00:52:10Financially, emotionally, spiritually, I've given you a lot of access.
00:52:15Natalie is trying to portray that I don't do anything for her,
00:52:19but I help out a lot.
00:52:21I help out a lot with her living situation, with groceries, with medicines,
00:52:25with gas, with hair, and even for her career.
00:52:30I mean, the list goes on and on.
00:52:45I don't even have to stay there or anything.
00:52:47I just walk in and I see where you live to understand more about you.
00:52:58I've been on and off girlfriend of Josh for almost three years.
00:53:03And it's weird for me because I haven't seen his house yet.
00:53:08That's, like, so mysterious.
00:53:11He doesn't want me to investigate his house.
00:53:15And I do want to investigate his house.
00:53:24We make this through this, and you can have access, and you can come over.
00:53:28You make it...
00:53:29Ah! Let's throw it away. Yes, we can do this. Okay.
00:53:33I said it. You heard what I said, correct?
00:53:36It was enough. It's enough. I don't care.
00:53:38We make it through the three weeks, and you come over. That's the deal.
00:53:43Okay, let's get rid of stones. Thank you.
00:53:44Fine.
00:53:45Okay, let's do it magical way.
00:53:47Okay, by throwing these stones, we promise respect each other
00:53:52and give each other time, whatever it takes.
00:53:55One, two, three.
00:54:02Okay, let's go.
00:54:03Let's just get rid of stones.
00:54:04All right, yeah. We're a little bit lighter.
00:54:09We're going to hold each other's hands and look into each other's eyes.
00:54:13Okay, you ready?
00:54:15Okay.
00:54:30Okay.
00:54:33Okay, go ahead.
00:54:35I came here for fixed situation, and in general, I love hugging,
00:54:41carol, talking, kissing, just like that, because she knows my personality.
00:54:46That's what she wants. I can give it to her, that one.
00:54:50For me, it's very hard. Like, if my brain hurts, if he doesn't tell me, I can't.
00:54:56I don't pretend like fake.
00:54:59You say three seconds. Go ahead.
00:55:01Okay, then stop. Whenever you're ready to stop, you can stop.
00:55:05I'm a very good eye gazer. I could gaze all day.
00:55:07Okay, good.
00:55:09Okay.
00:55:10I was going to ask you if there's some way that you can show affection to me.
00:55:16But I'm not sure if you want to do that, because even with the eye,
00:55:19you don't want to hold my hands and even look in my eyes.
00:55:25When?
00:55:26Just now.
00:55:27Just we did it.
00:55:28Yeah, it's supposed to be, you know, an actual loving hold,
00:55:32and you look lovingly into each other's eyes,
00:55:34and you wanted as little time as possible.
00:55:36So we did. You want more?
00:55:39Well, the point of what I wrote on my rock is that I asked you to show more affection to me.
00:55:43I'm your wife. We've been together five years.
00:55:47So is there something you think you can do to show me affection today?
00:56:03I want to feel free again.
00:56:05I want to be with you, having the freedom to still be myself.
00:56:14I need you to get me a car and a driver's license so I am able to drive my car.
00:56:24It's not that I'm not buying you one. It's because I can't afford it.
00:56:27There's a difference.
00:56:28No, you can't anything.
00:56:29You're incapable of anything in life.
00:56:31And you don't appreciate anything anyway, but keep going.
00:56:34You're exhausting. I know that you... You know what? With a man...
00:56:37You don't appreciate anything, so let's put the rock in the bag. Let's keep going.
00:56:42With a f***ing man like you, I will never get independence, Mameo.
00:56:45Let's go.
00:56:46I want to get my independence, Mameo.
00:56:47The only reason you brought me to this country, okay, with lies, with empty promises,
00:56:54that you were going to be an amazing husband, a father to my children, blah, blah, blah.
00:57:00Yeah, I have been amazing.
00:57:01You brought me here.
00:57:02You don't appreciate anything.
00:57:03No, you brought me here.
00:57:04That's the problem.
00:57:05You are the biggest scammer in the world.
00:57:06Right.
00:57:08Keep your f***ing rock.
00:57:13Because you should have one visa and your green card.
00:57:16You never wanted f***ing independence. You never want... And you know what?
00:57:19F*** you, Gino. I'm going to do it all by myself.
00:57:24Keep your rock.
00:57:25All right, let's let him take a second. Let's take a second.
00:57:28You, you know, you're great. You made your point. That's it, you know, like, be confident.
00:57:34That was pretty intense.
00:57:35Yeah.
00:57:46Sophie, what's your rock say?
00:57:48Transparency. I mean, I don't know how to prove it now.
00:57:52I guess just saying that I really will be more transparent about how I feel.
00:57:56What's that like to hear her say that to you?
00:57:58I haven't been able to feel or hear that Sophie is willing to put any effort towards the relationship.
00:58:17Sophie, what's your rock say?
00:58:19Transparency.
00:58:22OK. And when you think about compromise with that, what do you think about?
00:58:30OK. Is there compromise for you?
00:58:44Rob, is there something she's saying she's willing to try and she's going to do her best to be transparent and compromise with this topic?
00:58:51What's that like to hear her say that to you?
00:58:55It's a big, it means a lot and it says a lot just because I honestly haven't been able to feel or hear that Sophie is willing to put any effort towards the relationship for a long time.
00:59:05It's kind of like I'm the only one.
00:59:07That's amazing. Let's stay with that. It means a lot. It means a lot to you that she would say that.
00:59:15You hear him?
00:59:16Yeah.
00:59:17I think we can put that rock down.
00:59:21Ta-da.
00:59:24Rob?
00:59:26My rock says compassion.
00:59:28OK.
00:59:29When I wrote it, I kind of just mean like I think a lot of the time, you know, it feels like he does just see like how he feels and he throws it at me and like the past at me a lot.
00:59:40And I think like seeing, I guess, feeling how I feel, maybe feeling like why is she so triggered? Why is she running away? Why is she like, you know, kind of just having some like compassion for me and just make me feel like I believe it, that he really...
00:59:52Understood.
00:59:53Understand.
00:59:54I want to be understood by him.
00:59:55Yeah.
00:59:57Can you help be empathetic when she's talking to you? Can you listen in a certain way that she needs?
01:00:03Yeah.
01:00:04I mean, honestly, honestly, I just want to figure out how to give her what she wants so that she...
01:00:10Can you tell her that?
01:00:11I've been trying to figure out how to give you what you want.
01:00:19That's a huge step.
01:00:20Sounds like we're leaving that rock, Rob.
01:00:23What do you think?
01:00:26I think it's a huge step.
01:00:27We're leaving that rock, Rob.
01:00:29What do you think?
01:00:35Go for it.
01:00:41It's unfortunate that she lied and that the can of worms that that opens up of what else is she lied to me about.
01:00:48But at the same time, you know, in the past, if I would have gotten into an argument with her, Sophie would just run away.
01:00:54She'd be gone for days, weeks.
01:00:57But today, you know, she did come back.
01:00:59She's here.
01:01:00I guess that's a sign that she's not so ready to walk away.
01:01:06Listen, guys, we did great work here.
01:01:08You guys all did an amazing job.
01:01:10The mere fact that we're able to have these conversations and start talking about them, that's a win to me, right?
01:01:15You're still carrying a rock, but it's a win that we're going to continue these conversations.
01:01:20Let's go.
01:01:34Is there something that you think you can do today to show me affection?
01:01:41Maybe you should.
01:01:43Sure. Okay.
01:01:45Okay.
01:01:50Oops.
01:01:52Okay.
01:02:01Okay, so you wrote respect on the rock.
01:02:03So tell me how I can do something today to give you some respect.
01:02:16Secondly, if I don't want something, you don't have to force me.
01:02:25Okay.
01:02:29So the last thing that we have to do is we have to decide if we're going to carry the rocks or if we're going to throw them away.
01:02:37And that is the decision is based off of, do you feel like I understood you and I gave you the respect by speaking respectfully to you?
01:02:45Do you feel that I did that?
01:02:48Yeah, it's better.
01:02:49I can leave the rock.
01:02:50Okay.
01:02:51It's fine with me.
01:02:52So you leave your rock then.
01:02:53Okay.
01:02:57Okay, so...
01:03:08So, in my case, I feel that I have to continue to carry the rock.
01:03:15Because I feel that you were not able to show me any kind of affection today.
01:03:21I don't know. I did what I did. If he doesn't feel it, you can carry it.
01:03:29I think emotional repair definitely goes along with physical repair.
01:03:33Like, one of my love languages is touch, sex.
01:03:36And so, both Vinny and I have to hold on to the affection rock because Vinny still won't show me any affection.
01:03:43And he's using it as a form of punishment to deprive me of affection.
01:03:46I give it to you, and then holding you.
01:03:50You looked at me for less than three seconds and you said, I'm done. It's not affection.
01:03:53None of what you did today is affection.
01:03:56I don't have hope in this moment.
01:04:04I love you.
01:04:09I literally walked all the way to, like, the driveway.
01:04:11Like, I was about to start hiking down the road and, like, leaving.
01:04:14Like, I wanted to go home.
01:04:15Oh, wow.
01:04:17I feel like you love her more than she loves you.
01:04:22Natalie, she doesn't even know me.
01:04:23So I'm like, I don't understand why out of nowhere she's just sending for me.
01:04:26I could just air out her whole business about her man messaging me.
01:04:30I said what I said, so...
01:04:46Listen time.
01:04:50You see, like, I put that in Iraq, listen, correct?
01:04:53Basically, like, listen, basically, like, I want to finish full my thoughts.
01:04:59You know, you need to, like, listen is about, like, respecting each other.
01:05:03To listen.
01:05:04To listen your thoughts.
01:05:05You listen my thoughts.
01:05:06Not to cut you over.
01:05:07You cut me over.
01:05:08You know my point?
01:05:11I ain't gonna lie.
01:05:12I do tend to talk over Florian.
01:05:14And I don't know if it's just me trying to help him.
01:05:18Because I kind of know what he's going to say.
01:05:19And I'm just trying to help him get it out.
01:05:22You know, get out the words.
01:05:24I don't like it.
01:05:25I don't like it.
01:05:26I don't like when people talk over me, so I get it.
01:05:28Obviously, it's a trigger for him.
01:05:30And it's something, I guess, I kind of always did.
01:05:33But now it's becoming an issue.
01:05:40This feels so heavy.
01:05:42And not physically, but also mentally.
01:05:46And I feel like I'm willing to do whatever it takes to make us work.
01:05:51Can you trust to give your words to me?
01:05:53I keep your words.
01:05:54I'm going to leave the rock here, basically.
01:05:56It's up to you.
01:05:59Yeah, I think to throw away the rocks, you can keep the trust.
01:06:02You want to throw them? Let's do it together.
01:06:03Yeah.
01:06:08All right.
01:06:09All right.
01:06:10You go first.
01:06:12Woo!
01:06:14Get out of here!
01:06:16Get out of here, the trust.
01:06:17Let's do this one together.
01:06:18This is a big one.
01:06:19Ready?
01:06:20We trust each other, right?
01:06:21Yeah.
01:06:23Woo!
01:06:25Wow, I just got chills.
01:06:27When we decided to throw our rocks, we had a moment.
01:06:30We had a beautiful moment.
01:06:32And I felt our relationship get growing closer together in that moment.
01:06:36Like, we were bonding again.
01:06:38And I'll never forget that moment.
01:06:42It was beautiful.
01:06:44It was really beautiful.
01:06:46You have the map, right?
01:06:47I'm not quite sure where we're supposed to go.
01:06:53Oh my goodness gracious.
01:06:54We made it!
01:07:04All right, guys, see you later.
01:07:05Bye.
01:07:06Bye.
01:07:07Bye.
01:07:09Oh my gosh, so many rocks.
01:07:12It's crazy.
01:07:20We have never had a moment like that together.
01:07:22And I feel like it was a blessing.
01:07:24That's amazing.
01:07:25It was a blessing after last night, you know.
01:07:30I felt like if we held on to the rocks, we really wouldn't be making any improvements.
01:07:34And it's just like, that's why we're here, you know, to take the baby steps to get there.
01:07:41I feel like baby step is better than nothing.
01:07:43Yeah.
01:07:46Did you get rid of any rocks, Rob?
01:07:50We got rid of both of them.
01:07:51Yeah, we got rid of both of ours.
01:07:52Oh my, really?
01:07:54That's awesome.
01:07:55We were fortunate to have the therapist with us the whole time.
01:07:59The whole time?
01:08:00Yeah, that's why maybe Oz is cheating a bit.
01:08:02Because he had to be there.
01:08:03Because I literally, I walked off.
01:08:05Like, I wanted to go home.
01:08:08I literally walked all the way to like the driveway.
01:08:10Like, I was about to start hiking down the road and like leaving.
01:08:13Why did you want to leave?
01:08:15Just because.
01:08:16That's how Sophie reacts.
01:08:18No, I just run away from stuff.
01:08:20Like, when I get upset, I don't like to cry or be sad.
01:08:22I'll just leave.
01:08:23Yeah, you're not confrontational.
01:08:24Yeah, no.
01:08:25So if I feel that's happening, I'm just going to dip.
01:08:28Because like Rob is the opposite.
01:08:30I'm like, I fight and he like fights.
01:08:32So like, he'll be like, we need to talk about this now.
01:08:34And I'll be like, no, I need to leave.
01:08:35Well, good job on getting past that.
01:08:37Yeah, thanks.
01:08:39I feel like you love him more than she loves you.
01:08:47I feel like you are the one who is pulling your couple.
01:08:52Natalie definitely has mean girl energy.
01:08:55And I've dealt with girls like her in school.
01:08:58I'm not going to let her disrespect me and like s**t on me.
01:09:00It makes sense if she was maybe feeling jealous because of the Josh thing.
01:09:03But I don't know.
01:09:04It makes sense if she was maybe feeling jealous because of the Josh thing.
01:09:08But I don't see how she could possibly know about that.
01:09:11And if Natalie did know that Josh was DMing me,
01:09:13then she should be putting that on Josh, not me.
01:09:19I feel like you deserve to have someone equal.
01:09:22The most cool love is like, both love each other.
01:09:30This is the issue.
01:09:31Because she is ready to give up any time and just leave.
01:09:33Just leave.
01:09:33And you keep going and going.
01:09:35Yeah, but I think we're both trying.
01:09:38You know, he's hurt me, and I'm a bit more easily
01:09:40more so ready.
01:09:43I mean, I am.
01:09:44I'm here.
01:09:48And I am.
01:09:49Yeah.
01:09:50Just like everyone else.
01:09:52OK.
01:09:56Natalie, she doesn't even know me.
01:09:57So I'm like, I don't understand why out of nowhere she's just
01:10:00sending for me when what is she even talking about?
01:10:03If I was a lesser person and stooped down
01:10:05to her very immature level, I could just air out
01:10:07her whole business about her man messaging me and trying
01:10:09to fly me out to Vegas.
01:10:11But I don't need to do that because I'm clearly
01:10:13more mature than her, even though she's three times
01:10:15my age.
01:10:29Right now, we have a sexless marriage.
01:10:32It's just I have to be in the right mood.
01:10:34You're never in the right mood.
01:10:36I have to have emotional connection with someone
01:10:38and not be fighting with someone every day
01:10:40in order to get to that point.
01:10:41You know what?
01:10:42You know, I'm getting the shit out of this resort.
01:10:46This is it.
01:10:48Yeah.
01:10:48See ya.
01:10:49Psycho.
01:10:52That's what she is, a psycho.
01:11:02Good morning.
01:11:03Morning.
01:11:33Come on.
01:11:34Let's do push-ups before we go.
01:11:38You want to do push-ups with me?
01:11:40No.
01:11:41I don't do push-ups.
01:11:50I'm done.
01:11:51I'm done with push-ups.
01:12:03No.
01:12:10Compromised Canyon took an emotional toll on us yesterday.
01:12:13And now Rob.
01:12:14He thinks he can't trust me even though he's literally the one
01:12:18that's cheated on me in the past.
01:12:20And then when Nasty stands for me on the bus
01:12:22and he doesn't stick up for me, that, like, hurt me.
01:12:25So, yeah.
01:12:26I'm just feeling totally unsupported
01:12:27by Rob this morning.
01:12:32So, I feel like after the first date, nobody really likes you.
01:12:42Tell me who's not like me.
01:12:43Uh, probably a lot of the girls.
01:12:44Julia, I don't think she likes you.
01:12:45Jasmine.
01:12:46I'm confused as for Gina and Jasmine, to be honest with you.
01:12:47Yeah.
01:12:48I don't know what's wrong with that girl.
01:12:49Cried too much.
01:12:50I don't know.
01:12:51Serious.
01:12:52Emotional.
01:12:53Emotional.
01:12:54It's no cemetery here.
01:12:55It's like to figure out things together to be happy, you know.
01:13:02But I see where Jasmine's coming from.
01:13:05It's married to the ghost.
01:13:06It's disappear.
01:13:07It's hard for me to pick and choose.
01:13:08It's still not embarrassing because I like these girls.
01:13:09and she's so embarrassed because I like these girls.
01:13:13♪♪♪
01:13:18♪♪♪
01:13:23♪♪♪
01:13:28Oh, good. You made up your bed.
01:13:31Yeah. Proud of me?
01:13:34Yeah.
01:13:36Jasmine and I had a tough day
01:13:38at Compromise Canyon,
01:13:40and that's very disappointing
01:13:42because I feel like we're not going anywhere.
01:13:44Like, the therapy sessions have not helped us yet,
01:13:48and, you know, I'm really worried
01:13:52about our relationship right now.
01:13:54It's rapidly going down the drain.
01:14:02Well, thank you very much for, you know,
01:14:06having this agreement and share the bed.
01:14:10I wish we could, like, both of us,
01:14:13like, enjoy it at the same time.
01:14:16Well, who knows? Maybe by the end of the retreat,
01:14:19we might be able to get to that point.
01:14:21Yeah, I want to rescue, like, a few positive things.
01:14:24But our intimacy is, like, going down the drain.
01:14:28Like, it's getting worse.
01:14:30Right now, like, we have a sexless marriage,
01:14:33and that's pretty awful.
01:14:35It's just strange, you know?
01:14:36It's like, we don't even kiss very much anymore,
01:14:39like, not like we used to, or hug each other,
01:14:41or be affectionate with each other.
01:14:45You know why I stopped kissing you and hugging you?
01:14:49Because of the rejection.
01:14:54I am scared of taking the initiative
01:14:57because every time I was approaching,
01:14:59like, getting close to kissing you,
01:15:01you will do this, you will push me away.
01:15:04It's just I have to be in the right mood.
01:15:06Yeah, but you are, you're never in the right mood.
01:15:10Well, what does that tell you?
01:15:13He doesn't want to be intimate with me.
01:15:16He rejects me.
01:15:18If I hug him, if I cuddle,
01:15:20if I try to snuggle,
01:15:22he pushes me away.
01:15:24It makes me feel like I have to beg for attention.
01:15:27I have to beg for love.
01:15:29Why? Why did you marry me?
01:15:34You can't go from not sleeping with each other
01:15:36to having sex.
01:15:38It has to be slowly getting to that point.
01:15:41I have to have emotional connection with someone
01:15:43and not be fighting with someone every day
01:15:45in order to get to that point.
01:15:47You're an emotional person
01:15:49and you're okay with watching pornography,
01:15:52you know that they are actors.
01:15:55Pornography has nothing to do with it.
01:15:58I'm not with a woman that's kind to me,
01:16:00and nice to me, and gentle with me.
01:16:03I don't have that kind of girl.
01:16:05Everyone here has a girl like that.
01:16:10Maybe we should not even stay in the same room.
01:16:14You know what?
01:16:16I'm getting the f*** out of this resort.
01:16:19I cannot deal with this anymore
01:16:21because you are a person
01:16:23that constantly insults me.
01:16:26You never make me feel special.
01:16:28And I'm tired.
01:16:29Yeah, I'm tired too.
01:16:32I deserve to be loved.
01:16:33I deserve happiness.
01:16:35This is it.
01:16:37Yeah, see ya.
01:16:48Psycho.
01:16:50That's what she is, a psycho.
01:16:53I can't do this anymore.
01:16:55How can I make it work
01:16:57if the person that I love, you know,
01:16:59just push me to my...
01:17:01push my buttons
01:17:03and get the worst out of me.
01:17:05Don't let him trigger you.
01:17:07I don't know what to do.
01:17:09Should I stay here?
01:17:11Should I just go back?
01:17:13Jasmine, you know,
01:17:15he doesn't realize that
01:17:17there is thousands of men
01:17:19that would jump on your back
01:17:21just to be with you.
01:17:24Right this way, your majesty.
01:17:26Let me pull the chair for you.
01:17:29You're welcome.
01:17:33Anything for you.
01:17:36This is after therapy, you nice...
01:17:41Yeah.
01:17:43I'm sorry.
01:17:45I'm sorry.
01:17:47I'm sorry.
01:17:49I'm sorry.
01:17:51I'm sorry.
01:17:53Yeah, I see somebody.
01:17:55Hey, guys.
01:17:57Oh, you're yellow, too.
01:17:59Look at that.
01:18:01May I sit?
01:18:03Absolutely.
01:18:05Where is your husband?
01:18:07I don't know.
01:18:11Hey, buddy.
01:18:13Morning.
01:18:15Do you team
01:18:17in the morning, coffee
01:18:19or what do you say?
01:18:22Hi.
01:18:24Good morning.
01:18:26Good morning.
01:18:28Hello.
01:18:30Yes.
01:18:32That's okay.
01:18:34You are so lucky, Brendan,
01:18:36that you have a beautiful
01:18:38girl near you.
01:18:40Yeah.
01:18:42Sophie and I really got into it yesterday.
01:18:44And, you know, today we're not in a good place.
01:18:46To see Sophie walk right past me, though,
01:18:48after her being outed as a liar
01:18:51and she's mad at me,
01:18:53it's just stupid.
01:18:55Sophie's also upset.
01:18:57Natalie did call Sophie out
01:18:59for not trying as hard as I am.
01:19:01She's right.
01:19:03Sophie isn't trying
01:19:05when it comes to our relationship.
01:19:09How's it going?
01:19:11Do you mind if I sit with you?
01:19:13Please do, so I don't look so depressed.
01:19:17Are you doing okay?
01:19:19Going down.
01:19:21Today? Same with me.
01:19:23Really?
01:19:25Today, everybody
01:19:27has a day off from therapy
01:19:29and we're glad we have a little break.
01:19:31Yeah, it looks like we're the only couple eating together today.
01:19:33I know there were a lot of issues
01:19:35brought up yesterday, but
01:19:37I didn't know there were so many in such a bad place
01:19:39they won't even eat together.
01:19:41Doesn't matter how much we fight,
01:19:43I'm never going to miss a meal.
01:19:45You could eat a burger every day.
01:19:48It's true, right?
01:19:50No, I mix just pizza sometimes.
01:20:00Hey, Benny. How are you?
01:20:04Hi, guys.
01:20:06How are you? Good morning.
01:20:08I wanted to dress up a little bit,
01:20:10feel good.
01:20:12You stole my husband. He wants to sit with you guys.
01:20:14I can feel it.
01:20:16Sit over there.
01:20:18How's Jasmine?
01:20:20We got in a big fight.
01:20:22That's why I came here by myself.
01:20:24I hope you guys stick it out to the end
01:20:26and work it through.
01:20:28It's not easy.
01:20:32Hi. How are you?
01:20:34Nice to see you.
01:20:36You're a queen. What are you having?
01:20:38I've never been a big breakfast person,
01:20:40but this looks good.
01:20:42Let's eat together.
01:20:45We need some girls.
01:20:57Jun and I had a very bad fight this morning.
01:20:59He said very hurtful things.
01:21:01He made me very mad.
01:21:03It makes me feel like
01:21:05I'm all by myself.
01:21:07I'm alone.
01:21:09I'm anxious and tense.
01:21:11I just need someone to listen to me
01:21:13honestly.
01:21:23I want to go home.
01:21:25I don't want to be here.
01:21:31I'm just going to try to calm down.
01:21:33I don't know why you're letting him bother you.
01:21:35He doesn't take accountability
01:21:37of his sexuality problems.
01:21:39The way he makes me feel,
01:21:42no one will ever love me.
01:21:52Who are you on the phone with?
01:21:54Matt is a friend.
01:21:56He's one of my best friends in Michigan.
01:21:58I met him at the gym.
01:22:02We started working out together.
01:22:04After spending some time,
01:22:06we became friends.
01:22:08Does Juno know about Matt?
01:22:12No, Juno doesn't know about Matt
01:22:14because I know he's going to think
01:22:16that it's more than a friendship.
01:22:18And I know it is not.
01:22:20I've never done anything with him, nothing.
01:22:22But at the same time, he's a person
01:22:24that in a short period of time
01:22:26has shown me that he cares
01:22:28about me and he wants me to be happy.
01:22:30And that's how I ended up being his friend.
01:22:35I love him. I want to be with him.
01:22:37But at the same time, how can I make it work
01:22:39if the person that I love
01:22:41just pushes my buttons
01:22:43and gets the worst out of me?
01:22:47I don't know what to do.
01:22:49Should I stay here?
01:22:51Should I just go back?
01:22:53I don't really know the answer,
01:22:55but I think you guys
01:22:57should do some therapies together.
01:22:59I think you should try to work
01:23:01these things out with him.
01:23:03You guys do have love for each other.
01:23:05But I don't know if love is enough, Matt.
01:23:07I don't know.
01:23:10You went out there to work on your marriage
01:23:12and I think
01:23:14you should give each other
01:23:16a chance, but
01:23:18you can't sit there and love kids forever.
01:23:20So eventually you're going to have to
01:23:22do what makes you happy.
01:23:24But,
01:23:26Jasmine, at the end of the day
01:23:28Keno doesn't realize that
01:23:30there is literally probably hundreds
01:23:32of thousands of men that would jump in
01:23:34three seconds to be with you.
01:23:40What's up, guys?
01:23:42Next time on
01:23:4490 Day The Last Resort.
01:23:46She told me you have a plastic eye.
01:23:48Why is she talking about my body?
01:23:52Let's go, guys!
01:23:56Get the party started?
01:23:58Hell yeah!
01:24:00Calm down, please, calm down.
01:24:04Dance is time!
01:24:06Do some dance!
01:24:08Too much.
01:24:14I mean, I have a phone.
01:24:16There's a million ways in the world to have fun.
01:24:18I can have fun without showing my penis
01:24:20to people, you know?
01:24:28Where's your husband?
01:24:30Oh, he won't talk to me.
01:24:32Oh, wow.
01:24:34It's embarrassing, like,
01:24:37you know, as a husband, like, you don't treat your wife like that.
01:24:39Now I have to worry about, like,
01:24:41oh, I'm at this bar with this person
01:24:43who I'm married to, won't even acknowledge that I exist.
01:24:45All right, now, can you say something
01:24:47so we know that you're okay?
01:24:51How's your night going?
01:24:53Good, how's yours?
01:24:55I think that Josh likes Sophie.
01:24:57He likes Sophie.
01:25:01He was inviting Sophie to dance with us.
01:25:03Yeah.
01:25:05I'm so glad.
01:25:07Oh.
01:25:09Oh!
01:25:11Bitch
01:25:13is out of control.
01:25:15You throw
01:25:17a glass on my feet and you're gonna apologize.
01:25:19You are gonna apologize.
01:25:21You are gonna apologize right now, Natalia.
01:25:23I apologize.
01:25:25You wanna meet with crazy?
01:25:27I'm crazier.