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00:00I am not my body, I am not my spirit, I am a being.
00:30This is it, Ben. Remember, you are the only one who makes these decisions. It's not me.
00:45It's not the bridge. It's you. It's you, Ben.
01:00It's you, Ben.
01:30It's you, Ben.
01:50It's you, Ben.
02:21Hi, you've reached the office of Dr. Sokol. Please leave a message and I will call you back. Thanks.
02:30Dr. Sokol, this is Ben Rubin. Dr. Martin gave me your number. He said that you're an expert on phobias.
02:40You might be able to help me with this. This is a germaphobia. I can't drag this any longer. I have to cross that bridge.
02:56We'll see, Mr. Rubin. We'll see.
02:59You know, my grandfather, he was a soldier like you. Not a pilot, though. He died, he was a Polish artillery officer and he died in Berlin, 9th of May, 1945.
03:21The last day of the war. And I could remember him only by this photo.
03:30You said that this started with your wife. How did you meet her?
03:34I met Annie on the bridge.
03:51I was waiting for the bus to go to a party at a friend's place downtown.
04:21We exchanged several looks.
04:52She walked in front of me.
05:04She must have thought I was following her.
05:22I didn't see her.
05:23I didn't see her.
05:24I didn't see her.
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05:48I didn't see her.
05:49I didn't see her.
05:54Turns out we were going to the same party.
06:13From the beginning, our conversation was so fluent, like I've known her all my days.
06:29There wasn't any single moment of that awkward silence.
06:41She didn't accent if she was a Serbian.
06:49She told me that she was originally from Belgrade, and that she moved here with her parents and
06:55her brother when she was seven.
07:01She said, with that big smile on her face, from that instant on, every moment in my life
07:09was about her.
07:17Took us only a few months to move in, together.
07:20After a year, we were married.
07:23She was three months pregnant.
07:39Then everything started to fall apart.
08:01I suppose destiny or something interfered like never before in my life.
08:08It was the Balkans, doctor, the Balkans.
08:14The situation became extremely intense, and it was only a matter of time before it all
08:18exploded.
08:21The bombing of Serbia was imminent.
08:24My squadron in Italy called me.
08:30Yeah, but what was her reaction?
08:35She begged me.
08:37She begged me not to go.
08:39She said I'd be dropping bombs on her brother and her family and her relatives.
08:45She begged me not to go, for the love of our baby.
08:51I told her that I'm doing my job.
08:53It was my duty.
08:56There's nothing I can do about it.
09:20I told her that, I love her, our baby, and I always will, and nothing will ever change
09:29that.
09:30So I went to the war.
11:50Missions took place mostly at night time.
11:58I felt better.
12:03I felt better knowing that no one would see me, and that I wouldn't be punished for what
12:09we were doing.
12:11We flew at high altitudes, undetected by their radars.
12:30We started to knock off the bridges one by one.
13:00We started to knock off the bridges one by one.
13:28Yes, Ben?
13:41One day we had a daytime mission.
13:43And?
13:44Disaster.
13:45We were to take up this railroad bridge.
13:52During the first raid, my weapons officer failed to.
13:59He failed to take out the bridge in the first run.
14:04And as we were turning around to make another hit, something terrible happened.
14:11I saw a train approaching it.
14:14I asked my weapons officer and myself, I said, we couldn't do this.
14:22I couldn't do it.
14:26The command came again, go for it, go for it.
14:36Before I could do anything.
14:37Before I could turn the plane up, the weapons officer took the bridge out.
14:44It happened to be a civilian train after all.
14:49Killing 50 people.
14:5050 people?
14:51Civilians.
15:22It happened to be a civilian train after all.
15:43It happened to be a civilian train after all.
15:50It happened to be a civilian train after all.
16:20It happened to be a civilian train after all.
16:47It happened to be a civilian train after all.
16:56That's not the end.
16:59We're heading back to base, and we're hit by anti-aircraft missiles.
17:06We're catapulted ourselves out of the cockpit, and that's when I saw the flash.
17:13It was a flash of anger.
17:18A little boy, maybe two or three years old, coming down the escalator.
17:28A little boy was running towards me.
17:48I was just about to lift him up.
18:16Next thing I remember, I'm in a military hospital.
18:25What happened then?
18:27Well, they never sent me back into action.
18:32Three or four weeks of hospitalization.
18:37I went back home.
18:39When I was home, I couldn't bear to watch a film, a magazine, the TV, anything about a bridge.
18:51Nothing.
18:57When I would see something, I'd start to sweat.
19:02Shake.
19:06Loss of breath.
19:09I was losing control.
19:12I feel like I've lost control.
19:17So you quit the Army?
19:19Yeah.
19:21And you came back home to Anya?
19:24I couldn't find her.
19:27I couldn't find her anywhere.
19:29I asked neighbors.
19:33Friends.
19:35I asked her parents.
19:38They chased me away.
19:43Dr. Sokal, I was going crazy.
19:47I was going crazy.
19:53I decided to go to Belgrade.
19:57I found neither Anya nor anything.
20:02But I saw something else.
20:20My stomach turned upside down.
20:29I don't know how I endured the view.
20:50I don't know how I endured the view.
21:00I don't know how I endured the view.
21:10I don't know how I endured the view.
21:15I don't know how I endured the view.
21:25I don't know how I endured the view.
21:35I don't know how I endured the view.
21:44That's all.
21:45That's all there is.
21:47My life is ruined.
21:50I can't cross a bridge.
21:55And worst of all, my Anya.
22:00I can't find her.
22:03Just my love.
22:06I made a terrible mistake, doctor.
22:10I should never have gone into that war.
22:15I should never have gone into that war.
22:26I should have listened to her.
22:33Dr. Sokal, I need your help.
22:39There are so many ways to help you better.
22:43But it will take some time.
22:47And in the meantime, we have to deal with other issues.
22:52I suggest that we do first hypnosis.
22:57And we will do visualization.
22:59And then we can actually cross the bridge.
23:02With the hypnosis, you don't actually have to do anything.
23:06You just have to relax and everything will work by itself.
23:10With instructions and the right information.
23:14I will guide you through that.
23:18No problem.
23:19I want you to visualize.
23:23To see in your mind, you crossing the bridge.
23:28You've been always forcing yourself to see the limitation of crossing the bridge.
23:34Not being able to cross the bridge.
23:36Now, I'm going to help you to introduce new vision to your mind.
23:44Then, you have to visualize stepping on the bridge.
23:48Smelling the bridge.
23:50Testing the bridge.
23:51Seeing clouds passing by.
23:53And walking.
23:54And the breeze.
23:55Breeze coming and gently touching you.
23:59And welcoming you on the bridge.
24:01There is no fear.
24:02There is excitement.
24:03There is a new beginning.
24:07So, yes.
24:09Physical exercise.
24:11Because you've been denying yourself for a long time.
24:17And then we are going to cross the bridge.
24:33I am not my mind.
24:35This is it, Bear.
24:37Remember.
24:39You are the only one who makes these decisions.
24:41It's not me.
24:43It's not the bridge.
24:45It's you.
24:47It's you, Bear.
24:49You are the only one who can do it, Bear.
24:53The bridge is here.
24:55Just one step.
24:57And I know that you can do it, Bear.
25:01I am sure about it.
25:28The bridge is here.
25:29Just one step.
25:31And I know that you can do it, Bear.
25:33The bridge is here.
25:35Just one step.
25:37And I know that you can do it, Bear.
25:39The bridge is here.
25:41Just one step.
25:43And I know that you can do it, Bear.
25:45The bridge is here.
25:47Just one step.
25:49And I know that you can do it, Bear.
25:51The bridge is here.
25:53Just one step.
25:55And I know that you can do it, Bear.
25:57The bridge is here.
25:59Just one step.
26:01And I know that you can do it, Bear.
26:03The bridge is here.
26:05Just one step.
26:07And I know that you can do it, Bear.
26:09The bridge is here.
26:11Just one step.
26:13And I know that you can do it, Bear.
26:15The bridge is here.
26:17Just one step.
26:19And I know that you can do it, Bear.
26:21The bridge is here.
26:23Just one step.
26:25And I know that you can do it, Bear.
26:27The bridge is here.
26:29Just one step.
26:31And I know that you can do it, Bear.
26:33The bridge is here.
26:35Just one step.
26:37And I know that you can do it, Bear.
26:39The bridge is here.
26:41Just one step.
26:43And I know that you can do it, Bear.
26:45The bridge is here.
26:47Just one step.
26:49And I know that you can do it, Bear.
26:51Yes!
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