“It took me a lot of time to gain that confidence.” Dharna Durga talked about dealing with criticism early in her career and the lessons she learned.
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00:00You are an ordinary girl and suddenly you have started growing, you are doing it.
00:04So many people also find it easy money.
00:06I used to see that mentality that women will not be able to think that much.
00:11Because I live in a lot of self-doubt.
00:18What makes Dharna a rule breaker?
00:21Basically, when Covid happened, we were 7 people in the family.
00:27My grandparents, my parents, me and my three sisters.
00:32And when Covid happened, our first lockdown was not normal at all.
00:37And then Covid came to our family too.
00:41And first of all, it hit my father.
00:44And while spreading from him, he had gone to the whole family.
00:47So when it happened to everyone, everyone gradually recovered, but they did not recover.
00:51And in that journey, we lost him.
00:54So when this happened, the main source of income in my house was my father's.
00:58There we were scared that what will happen now, how will it happen.
01:01You have broken emotionally and you have broken financially too.
01:06So there my mother was just like what will we do.
01:08So there I joined my family business with my mother.
01:12Then I started making videos, but it makes a difference.
01:15When he is not there, he feels that now women have come.
01:20Will you be able to handle it or not?
01:23And I think where he sees that there is a lady, then people start fooling him very easily.
01:28We felt this in some situations.
01:31But in many situations, it was understood that they would not be able to use their brains.
01:36I used to see that mentality that there are women, they will not be able to think that much.
01:42They will do that much, they will do that much.
01:44So even the driver used to see this.
01:47Because the driver is with you all the time.
01:50He is listening to what you are saying.
01:52He knows what the conversation is about.
01:54And at that time, the situation was such that there were talks going on every hour.
01:58There was a discussion going on.
01:59So the driver also started understanding that he is in an emotional state now.
02:03And I can fulfill my demands, because he has a need now.
02:08But how did you snap out of it?
02:10This is a situation where you really don't have any option.
02:13You go to anyone, tell anyone that this has happened to me.
02:16He will mostly say that give me some time, it will be fine.
02:20It's been a month, it will be fine in some time.
02:23You do this, you do that.
02:25You use your brain here, you do this, you do that.
02:27But this is such a thing that only the person who has experienced it can understand what it is.
02:31I mean, I feel that even when a girl starts earning,
02:34people still don't understand what she will be able to do.
02:39You know, what will she do now?
02:40And she also understands what she has to do.
02:43You are an ordinary girl and suddenly you have started growing, you are doing it.
02:47So a lot of people also find this easy money.
02:50Just because you are doing it, that yes, she is doing it, she is making videos.
02:54But what is behind it, what is not, that will not be understood.
02:57How do you react to that situation?
02:59Earlier it used to feel like that, because I live in a lot of self-doubt.
03:04And because it took me a lot of time to gain this confidence, honestly.
03:07Because suddenly when you are at a stage where you are good for nothing.
03:12Because you are being told that no, what will you do by doing this?
03:15And suddenly you do good in life.
03:17So half the time you start removing a little self-doubt.
03:19My mother and I think that neither take too much goodness on your head, nor too much evil.
03:25Because I feel that the field is a bit like this, where you are doing well now.
03:29But it is not that it can change.