Sameera Reddy and her mother-in-law, Manjri Varde, spoke to Brut about their "new-age relationship".
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00:00I have to admit that though there is this perception of mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws not getting along
00:05I have a lot of friends who have good relationships with their in-laws
00:10Is it as cool as the one I have? I don't think so
00:13I think over the years we've kind of come to terms with who each one of us is
00:19What's our best point? What's not? What is the trigger point? What are the pressure points?
00:25So we try to avoid those
00:30I would like to say it's dhamakedar, it's very mirchi
00:59It's fun and then there are also moments of oh my god my daughter-in-law is crazy
01:04My relationship with Sassy Sasu, it has truly evolved
01:10We have a great relationship, everybody sees that
01:12There are many things that we disagree on but I always say we agree to disagree
01:17It's a constant work in progress
01:20I think that everyday responsibilities, everyday choices
01:24And because we are two women and strong women living in the same house
01:27We have to constantly walk the line and come in the middle path
01:40Everyone had their space, their own way of living
01:43And we did not infringe on anyone, we did not impose on anyone
01:49So I think we started off as equals and that was just fabulous
01:55No dependence on anybody
01:57I remember like within a month of me looking at it as a very unconventional situation
02:03She turned out to be somebody who was really like there with it
02:08You know she started giving me great advice
02:10Slowly I began to understand that she's very new age
02:13You know her concept and her mind was just pretty cool
02:15Like she was really different
02:18I am breaking age-old stereotypes because there's really no need
02:26We're not controlling anybody anymore
02:28It's not like it's a large, huge, joint family
02:31And the matriarch says, oh this is how it must be
02:34But no, why? Why should it be?
02:36We have to be open to our children
02:38And sometimes the children and the younger people are very wise
02:42They know more about the world than we do
02:45So no, no age-old stereotypes in our house
02:50We started off completely on just one silly video which went crazy viral
02:57And then I think after a week I was like, you want to put this rotla
03:01You know this food that we're making up
03:03And she's like, oh, I'm going to make rotla
03:05And I was like, oh, I'm going to make rotla
03:07And she's like, oh, I'm going to make rotla
03:09And I was like, oh, I'm going to make rotla
03:11And she's like, oh, I'm going to make rotla
03:14And she was like, okay
03:16And you know it was so natural. It was so organic
03:18And that's how the content started
03:21And that's what content for me is
03:23It has to be capturing moments
03:25And not creating all these moments that everybody's trying to create
03:33The second wave is teamwork to an another level
03:37Because we're working on it emotionally
03:38And we're working on it physically
03:40And there's so many different layers that we need to go at.
03:44So yeah, I mean, you need to work together.
03:46That's the best I can tell you.
03:48And that's really what works.
03:49It was a true test.
03:55And my mom-in-law and me, what's worked for us
03:58is that we're like a tag team.
04:01So she knows that I need some space
04:03because I go to tell her, I'm like, listen, I'm going to crack.
04:06And then she takes over the kids.
04:07And I say, can you just handle the food for lunch or something?
04:10And then there are times that she says, listen, I need to go down and paint
04:13because I'm just feeling really like, you know, this is getting to me.
04:16You know, the news gets to you.
04:17I mean, everything is so morbid right now.
04:20You need to be there for each other.
04:22And that can only come if you go beyond yourself.
04:30Please just try to be a little more understanding,
04:35a little more compassionate.
04:37And it's very easy for me to sit here and give this advice.
04:41But if you really and truly love someone,
04:43you have to take the time off to understand
04:47what it is that they are going through.
04:50Put yourself in the other person's shoe,
04:53slippers, sandals, boots, chappals,
04:57and then see where it goes.