Shahid Kapoor spoke about his first heartbreak and how his opinion about love has evolved with age.
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00:00But I really liked this girl. We had only four girls in our class and so there's very limited
00:06options of who you can crush on. And yeah, so I like this girl and apparently half the class
00:11liked her and I was not really in her top five or six options even in her mind and she probably
00:17didn't even know much about me. And yeah, you know, now that I'm married and I have children,
00:23I can very, you know, confidently say that love is the strongest emotion and the most
00:29important emotion in life. I'm saying you're too hot to be a father to two kids.
00:33How many times have you heard that, especially with your looks that you've designed for Kabir Singh?
00:38I actually forgot that whole thing, you know, till you get married, you know, people can walk
00:42up to you and say things to you a lot more openly. So abhi toh meko koi bolta hi nahi hai. So I hope
00:46somebody comes up and gives such compliments to me because it's nice to hear these things.
00:50You're lying, right? Everybody's saying it on social media.
01:01But do you think with their additions in your life, something changed with the perspective
01:06towards life and choices in films? I mean, you know, we always end up saying,
01:10did your perspective towards films change? But that's a very small part of my life, right? I
01:14think as a human being, you change your, you know, priorities change, your head space changes
01:20every day, what you do, where you spend your time, what you focus on, what you think about,
01:24all that changes. And if all that is going to change, that's obviously going to reflect in
01:27the kind of work that you do or the choices that you make or, you know, understand life and how
01:32you represent it as an actor, because, you know, the job that we have making is a representation
01:35of life. But has Misha understood that her father is an actor? She's figuring it out. She's still
01:43sometimes gets very confused when somebody who we don't know, you know, comes running and asks
01:48for a picture or something. And she always wonders, why is that happening? You know,
01:52so I have to explain it to her slowly. It's not easy, but she understands that I go for shooting.
01:58And she used to keep asking me, why do you go for shooting? So then I explained to her that,
02:02you know, how you go to school, that's how Papa goes for shooting. So when I drew that
02:06parallel for her, she was like, okay, fair enough. I go there and you go there.
02:09So yeah, she's still very small. Do you remember your first heartbreak?
02:13How did you deal with it? It was very bad.
02:16When was it? School.
02:18What? Give details. I want details. Why?
02:20I don't know. Why? It's very personal.
02:22I'm not going to say. No, I'm not going to say.
02:24But yeah, it was in school. I was in my 9th standard. I really liked this girl.
02:28We had only four girls in our class. So there's very limited options of who you can crush on.
02:35And yeah, so I like this girl and apparently half the class liked her.
02:39And I was not really in her top five or six options even in her mind.
02:43And she probably didn't even know much about me. And yeah, you know.
02:48How has your opinion on love changed over the years?
02:51A lot. A lot. My opinion on love has changed a lot.
02:53You know, what you want and what you need are not always the same thing.
02:56And that's the first thing that we all need to understand.
02:59And it comes with time because you want a lot of things
03:01which you think are what will be good for you.
03:04But actually what's good for you is not always what you're running after.
03:08And it takes time to understand. Because what we're attracted to
03:11and what is actually good for us might not necessarily be the same thing.
03:15So most of the time that's a very complex kind of dynamic to deal with.
03:18Because you want something, you crave it, you run after it, you get it.
03:23Once you get it, then it starts getting complicated.
03:25It becomes difficult to handle. Then you wonder why you wanted it.
03:28Then you start questioning love, you know.
03:30So it becomes like a difficult kind of...
03:33So you have to not do that.
03:35You have to understand that mistakes that happen,
03:37which are mistakes made on the basis of our judgment
03:41and our understanding of ourselves, love shouldn't be blamed for that.
03:44Because then you end up becoming a very pessimistic, negative person
03:47who doesn't believe in the best thing about life, which is love.
03:50You know, now that I'm married and I have children,
03:52I can very confidently say that love is the strongest emotion
03:58and the most important emotion in life.
03:59So you cannot lose faith in that.