Brut’s masterclass on dealing with hate comments, and bullies on social media. Jio MAMI Mumbai Film Festival
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00:00I'm alone here to watch my story and a 500 people call me
00:03He's ready to make a song of R2
00:04Sorry, that's just my dad, like, posting WhatsApp messages
00:07But sometimes when they say something which is the truth
00:11It really hurts my heart
00:13How many comments do you, like, get in a day, like
00:16Comments or DMs, like
00:18On an average, you have, like, a big following on Instagram
00:22And how much do you read? 5%? 10%? Like, how much?
00:25So, after putting a video, its frequency increases suddenly
00:28Many people are commenting
00:29And the first 5 are always, like, call me, I'm alone
00:32Those kind of stories
00:34Some spam accounts, I don't know who's commenting it
00:36So, you read those?
00:38Yeah
00:40Those are the ones we wait for
00:42Because those are so
00:44They do it so fast, as soon as they leave
00:46There are 10 comments, like, I'm alone here to watch my story
00:48And a 500 people call me
00:50So, are those positive comments or negative comments?
00:52Very positive
00:54Extremely positive comments
00:57I'm like, water emoji, water emoji
00:59And I'm like, what do you want?
01:01Leave me alone
01:03Run quicker
01:05I start, like, as soon as I upload
01:07I'm like, I know they're gonna come
01:09I'm ready to, like, block and report them
01:11So, I'm on that shit, like, bam bam bam
01:13One today
01:15Some comments are just irrelevant
01:17Anything can happen
01:19Good afternoon everybody
01:21And they'll make a
01:23For example, if I put a video with Virat
01:25They'll make a fizz of Virat and put it
01:27I'm like, what do I do with this?
01:29And it's so big
01:31Sorry, it's just my dad, like, posting WhatsApp messages
01:33I haven't got my question
01:35The comment that started
01:37I haven't got the answer
01:39Is there a way to control that comment section?
01:41Because there are artists who are having nightmares
01:43There is, you know
01:45You mentioned this, I was sitting with somebody
01:47Who is
01:49Who works with Google
01:51And they were saying that when they were
01:53Posting social media, that there was the option
01:55That you could write something
01:57In a comment
01:59But it wouldn't be posted until 24 hours
02:01So, you would
02:03Say something, which is
02:05He'll get scared and only then he'll come
02:07Call me, or, you know, I'm waiting for you
02:09And you would say that
02:11But it would only appear
02:13The next day
02:15And you had the option to decide once again
02:17Should I say this?
02:19That was
02:21If you call me, it would say, okay, fine
02:23In 24 hours it will be posted
02:25And then at the 23rd hour, it'll ask you
02:27Are you sure you want to say this?
02:29And it would say yes
02:31And they didn't go ahead with this option?
02:33Because it would never create any traction
02:35Because no one would, you know
02:37But Bulani sir, reading those comments
02:39I mean, sometimes I get shivers through my bones
02:41That something like this has been written
02:43That it is really disturbing
02:45How do you control that?
02:47You can moderate your comment section
02:49There is a setting where you can put those words
02:51In that list
02:53I'm not talking about myself
02:55But then I thought, they find a way
02:57They find a way to make a spelling mistake
02:59But you should be smarter
03:01You should know, you should do all variations
03:03What can be the spelling of this?
03:05Vyash bhai, I'm not talking about myself
03:07I haven't been trolled yet
03:09That's an achievement in itself
03:11I'll troll you
03:13But having said that
03:15The comments I'm talking about
03:18I'm sure you've seen that
03:20I'm majorly talking about female actors
03:22About their performance
03:24Or something not appropriate
03:26That's what I'm talking about
03:28Internet is like water
03:30One day they're on your side
03:32The other day they're not
03:34So if they're not right now, it's a good thing
03:36Because they'll come around
03:38It's fine
03:40The actresses will just wipe their tears
03:42With all the money they're making
03:44No, no, no
03:46Of course, dude
03:48But you need to know, opinions and facts are two different things
03:50And that's why they chose to be a public figure
03:52So you have to realise
03:54That everybody's opinion
03:56You can't take everybody's opinion seriously
03:58For me, it happened initially
04:00So what I was saying is
04:02People keep saying such things
04:04If someone says something about your appearance
04:06You can ignore it
04:08But sometimes when they say something
04:10Which is the truth
04:12It hurts a lot
04:14Which you know
04:16As an artist, you know
04:18He caught it
04:20He's like, don't say it
04:22I'll DM him and tell him
04:24I'm working on it, don't comment
04:26So there are music critics
04:28Who'll say, I missed it
04:30Your sound is like this
04:32The internal process
04:34That you have in your mind
04:36He catches it
04:38He's like, don't say it
04:40I DMed that person
04:42He's like, don't say it
04:44I'm working on it
04:46I'll be fine in 2 years
04:48I think one good way
04:50Is to honestly ignore
04:52Not ignore, but not see it
04:54You really have to detach yourself
04:56Therapy really helps
04:58And sometimes, if I'm in that mood
05:00Then I also reply back
05:02I also messaged somebody by the way
05:04I didn't get a comment
05:06It was from a friend
05:08I messaged that person
05:10I'm so sorry for having so much time
05:12But I can take a bullet in the chest
05:14In the middle of the night for a friend
05:16And it is wrong
05:18This language is incorrect
05:20And your facts are also incorrect
05:22It'll be fair if you don't
05:24Put these things out in public
05:26And that person deleted it
05:28Sorry for having so much time
05:30I've sobbed and all
05:32And the comment would just be like
05:34Cringe
05:36And I'm crying
05:39That's so real
05:41I feel that outbursts are so natural to all of us
05:43But you've been doing this
05:45For many years now
05:47But for young content creators
05:49With a small following
05:51How do you find the zeal
05:53To do it again and again everyday
05:55And not focus on the comment
05:57I think you slowly find the strength
05:59I started when I was 16
06:01So I think in my formative years
06:03It really affected me
06:05And I had insane mental health issues
06:07And I was like this is not for me
06:09I can't put myself through this
06:11And I took a break
06:13And when the pandemic hit
06:15I just had more time
06:17To be able to do something like this again
06:19And I gave it a shot
06:21And I think I was in a better
06:23Mindset
06:25And headspace
06:27Because I grew up also
06:29So if somebody is starting out
06:31It's okay
06:33At least you were brave enough
06:35So keep doing you
06:37And it's okay if people are saying things
06:39That means you're getting attention
06:41And that's all you need on the internet
06:43But just make sure
06:45You're doing your best
06:47If people don't align with you
06:49You're just not their cup of tea
06:51And you can't be everybody's cup of tea
06:53And it's okay if everybody doesn't like you
06:55Because I'm sure you also don't like everybody
06:57So it's fine