They are stars on TikTok and OnlyFans. They are polyamorous ... and she's nine months pregnant.
For Brut, filmmaker Léo Hamelin goes behind the scenes with a polyamorous couple who is expecting.
For Brut, filmmaker Léo Hamelin goes behind the scenes with a polyamorous couple who is expecting.
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00:00She's definitely my girlfriend, too.
00:02My husband's girlfriend.
00:07Now wait a damn minute.
00:08They get their heart strings pulled when you say my husband's girlfriend.
00:11And they're like, wait, what?
00:13There's 8,000 bad comments right now.
00:17Says I could be jealous.
00:18But instead, I'll make an entire career out of making videos telling people how I'm not jealous.
00:24But a girlfriend.
00:25Oh, because we're the ones in the back and you're the one at the front.
00:29So they're all like, okay, he's totally in love with her.
00:32But they don't know it's a trouble thing.
00:34It's not just me and him.
00:36No, we mean family, family, family.
00:38Nope.
00:40Yep.
00:56Let's see, I guess we met in 2009.
00:58I had just turned 20.
01:00And that's our very first picture together.
01:02We were babies.
01:04She said it was one of the worst first dates ever.
01:07My family wasn't very accepting of our lifestyle, stuff like that.
01:11They were very old school, old school beliefs.
01:14So as soon as I could be a grown up, I guess, my own person, I got out of that town as fast as I could.
01:23When I showed up, I'm in this small town.
01:25I didn't realize there was going to be Amish people.
01:27There was really nothing to do.
01:29And I was like, what are we going to do?
01:31What did you like about me?
01:33I came from that awful ass family with awful values and morals and thought process.
01:38I wasn't even that cute.
01:40You were cute.
01:42Just always positive.
01:44You're always smiling.
01:46You're always energetic.
01:48Always had energy.
01:50You could keep up.
01:52You wake up early in the morning.
01:54You're ready to go.
01:56Yeah, it was probably about a year and a half, two years in that I really broke it down for him.
01:58I was like, look, I kind of dated a couple girls.
02:00I really miss them.
02:02It was a whole poly conversation.
02:04It went straight from a straight hetero relationship to, hey, I'm gay.
02:08Let's open up the relationship.
02:10Yes, that was our very first girlfriend.
02:12We posted it on Facebook and the family went crazy.
02:14Everybody was mad.
02:16That was the first time we had really told everyone about our girlfriends and stuff like that.
02:22That it wasn't a bedroom thing.
02:24We put it online to let people know that we were openly dating her.
02:26I think there were some tears.
02:28There were some conversations.
02:30This is one of our girlfriends from Colorado.
02:32This is one of our other girlfriends.
02:34But a lot of people think it's fake or we're just doing this for social media to get paid.
02:40And we just started it and came up with this idea.
02:42We've been doing this.
02:44There's another one of our girlfriends.
02:46That's so cute.
02:48That's our first time with Jessa.
02:54Pretty much every day we're on camera.
02:56Or she's on camera all day long.
02:58I'm usually behind the camera.
03:00But all day it's like camera stuff.
03:04It's a whole lifestyle now to put out this content.
03:06To make other people.
03:08Just like a relatable thing.
03:10There's not many poly throuples that are on social media.
03:14Because we were really private at the time.
03:16We had no social media.
03:18COVID happened.
03:20TikTok happened.
03:22It was a great platform.
03:24We hopped on it and like I said it's a success.
03:26We're on every platform.
03:28And we were getting tons of messages like do you have OnlyFans?
03:30Do you have OnlyFans?
03:32We didn't know what OnlyFans was at the time.
03:34At first we were like hell no.
03:36We ain't never doing that.
03:38Y'all crazy.
03:40And then money was coming in.
03:42It was like what?
03:44I ain't going back to work.
03:46A little video.
03:48OnlyFans.
03:52That's pretty PG right?
03:54Alright that's enough.
03:56PG is over.
04:00Our OnlyFans were between
04:0230 and 60k a month.
04:04Yeah most of the money
04:06comes from that so how could you get away from it?
04:08It could be considered devil's work
04:10that it's
04:12something bad or
04:14pornographic or crazy
04:16or what not but
04:18when I think about how it's changed my life
04:20I'm not sleeping in my car anymore.
04:22We've been on food stamps
04:24as a couple before.
04:26We are not struggling in any way.
04:28She slept in her car for like
04:30months. Like a couple months before in her life.
04:32It changed my life
04:34and I don't feel any shame
04:36in what I'm doing so I don't mind
04:38sharing it with other people and then
04:40we see so many people online that connect with it.
04:42We wouldn't be making such great money if people didn't
04:44like what we were putting out.
04:46But definitely when I come out and I see
04:48that on the TV I'm like
04:50whoa. Hey there.
04:52We're the same way. We hate watching
04:54ourselves. And then we really found
04:56out that there was a niche and a market for
04:58pregnancy content and stuff like that.
05:00Our pictures, our videos where you see
05:02the belly gets way more likes
05:04and love from women and men included.
05:06Not even just OnlyFans just people in general
05:08just love her now. It's definitely still
05:10our work but it's still a shock factor.
05:12I come out and I'm like oh whoa we're there.
05:14Okay cool. Whatever.
05:16Show them what they want.
05:20There you go mamas.
05:22Love it.
05:24But they're there.
05:30At first
05:32I guess it's kind of like
05:34nerve-wracking trying to
05:36be in somebody
05:38else's relationship but like
05:40you get used to it
05:42and you get used to it.
05:44But it's definitely
05:46a shock factor.
05:48You get used
05:50to it and it's not
05:52like I think of them as like
05:54two separate
05:56couples I guess. I think of
05:58them as just kind of like my
06:00one. I don't think of it as anything
06:02special. Wait when we first met
06:04you though five years ago. Not in a bad
06:06way. I totally know what you mean
06:08but I love how people flip things
06:10and be like did you hear how she said it's not totally special
06:12meanwhile one guy's got no
06:14girlfriend and you've got two
06:16lovers. You're like it's not special at all.
06:18It's really not. We're just a regular
06:20couple. We're
06:22just regular relationship just like anyone
06:24else is. It was like my first time
06:26experimenting about like my relationships
06:28with different kinds of
06:30relationships. So
06:32you guys were like in the start
06:34start of me trying all that
06:36out and it just worked
06:38out perfectly when I wanted it.
06:46I was
06:52actually brand new about
06:54my sexuality being
06:56bi and open to be with other
06:58people who are like an actual
07:00couple that I was like asking them
07:02out first. I was like what are your rules? Can I kiss
07:04your man before anything?
07:06Let's see what are some of our
07:08rules. We don't really have many.
07:10I guess definitely
07:12on the sexual side.
07:14Protection always with new partners
07:16things like that so we're all super committed
07:18and safety
07:20first and then
07:22I guess as long
07:24as everybody likes each other
07:26and we're on the same page with that it's kind of
07:28just like wherever
07:30your relationship takes you so if
07:32they wanted to go kiss and make
07:34out and that's what their relationship
07:36called for then that's what it is. I'm not like
07:38the wife that's like no
07:40kissing, no touching. It's none
07:42of that. So it's like as long
07:44as everybody's on the same page we all feel like
07:46this relationship's working. Everybody likes
07:48everybody. It's kind of just like whatever you guys want
07:50to do. And five years later we're still
07:52here so.
07:54Oh nice they
07:56got lots of this. We'll do her belly
07:58and my belly. I love it.
08:00I love it. If you think that this is
08:02like an easy type of relationship
08:04it is definitely not.
08:06You have to put in more work, more conversation,
08:08more thoughtful things that
08:10making sure everybody's emotions
08:12are fed. That you were thinking about everybody
08:14at the time not just you. We always go out
08:16together and if someone doesn't feel good we stay home
08:18together. That's okay that's why you stand
08:20it right? Yeah.
08:22You guys never did like paper mache
08:24in school? No.
08:26You guys' public school sucked.
08:28I was in a private school actually.
08:30Oh even worse.
08:32What are we spending all our money on?
08:34Home ec where we were taught to be wives.
08:36Yeah.
08:38Yes.
08:40Support.
08:42Go baby go!
08:44Jealousy isn't necessarily
08:46always a bad thing it just is
08:48an awareness.
08:50I don't want to move too much. Sometimes I think
08:52like they're snuggling and I'm like
08:54I wish somebody would snuggle me
08:56and then as soon as they throw like an arm
08:58over me for 15 seconds and it weighs
09:00like two pounds I'm like alright
09:02enough of this. So you always
09:04have to check yourself and be like why am I
09:06feeling this way? Is it because of me or is it
09:08because they're doing something?
09:10I'm so glad you were here.
09:12Steven would not have made that.
09:14He would have quit that way. Like yeah I'm
09:16tired. See? You did a great job.
09:18Another perks of poly.
09:20Thank you. You're welcome. Can you clean up a little?
09:24That was so fun. I had a blast!
09:26They think
09:28it's just like a bedroom thing.
09:30They don't realize like
09:32it's a whole relationship. It's a whole life.
09:34It's everything.
09:36You can love more than one person
09:38so to me it just means
09:40opening my heart to love more
09:42people. Her family wasn't that good.
09:44I think she likes a big family. She also
09:46likes women but the fact
09:48that having a big family and someone always
09:50there. You kind of always connect
09:52on the main goal of
09:54we want to build a happy loving family
09:56for everyone.
10:04I
10:08finally heard the baby's heartbeat
10:10for the first time. Well no it's not the first
10:12time. The second time. And so
10:14this is the baby's heartbeat recording right here.
10:20Stop!
10:22They're so cute.
10:24Oh my god my heart!
10:26This is too cute!
10:28And then you were here.
10:30Oh my god I love this so much.
10:32Did I put you to sleep?
10:36Very much so.
10:42Last time he was kind of like head over here
10:44but I feel like he's definitely fallen this way.
10:46He was kicking more this way last time.
10:48He's crazy. And then they always say that it's like
10:50how he is on the inside
10:52is how he's going to be on the outside.
10:54Oh great.
10:56That means he has
10:58the same energy as his mom.
11:00The assistant said
11:02we just watched you on TikTok.
11:04And I was just like oh no.
11:06I thought we were going to have to get a new doctor for a second.
11:08Oh my god we love you!
11:10There's definitely someone that doesn't approve.
11:12Not to mention it's a southern state. There's laws like
11:14the don't say gay and other
11:16just not friendly towards
11:18people, women, color, you name it.
11:20It's here so
11:22I don't know. People say on the internet too
11:24like on I guess mostly on TikTok
11:26they're just like you guys should be reported.
11:30Is it?
11:32We've made jokes
11:34online about getting pregnant
11:36in a threesome but we knew it was a reality
11:38of a non-monogamous relationship
11:40so this baby might have been conceived
11:42in one of our threesomes.
11:44I definitely feel like
11:46a part of me
11:48has helped make this baby.
11:50I love that.
11:52If she was living in
11:54more of a permanent girlfriend
11:56then the word mom or mama
11:58or however they wanted to call her
12:00as a second mom it totally wouldn't offend me.
12:02We want to be a big family
12:04so I want our baby to
12:06love and need their love
12:08just as much so I'm glad
12:10she feels a part of it.
12:12It makes it that much more special.
12:14I don't know anything about kids
12:16but since I love them so much
12:18I'm like so excited.
12:22Right now my role is helping
12:24set all of us up
12:26Set all of us up.
12:28Ready? No.
12:30Nope. Say yeah I guess.
12:32She has no choice.
12:34Yeah right. There's an impending timeline
12:36that's coming whether we're ready or not.
12:38This is way too cute.
12:40This is way too cute.
12:54Adorable.
12:56We do date multiple
12:58girls right now but
13:00it's because this whole dating scene
13:02is totally different than when we started
13:04dating. Most people aren't super single
13:06anymore. Since we are so
13:08polyamorous we are open with
13:10our relationships to let them know
13:12you're not the only person that we're dating
13:14just like we love the respect from Jessa
13:16when she lets us know that she's dating
13:18someone else. They tell me about their
13:20experiences when I'm not there. I tell them
13:22about my experiences when I'm not
13:24there. So it's
13:26literally just like it doesn't
13:28seem like we are far apart. The love
13:30is still there. Love is love.
13:34Jessa
13:36Shirt underneath?
13:38Just straight chest. People think
13:40it's a lot waiting for one woman, two women.
13:42You just never know when they're gonna
13:44be ready. It's two different schedules
13:46and it's just crazy but
13:48I just go
13:50pretend to be busy and do something around the
13:52house. Are you all ready? Yeah.
13:54Let's do it.
13:58Looks good to me.
14:00We all date. But if we were
14:02to become a clothes type
14:04thing which we want to do. We want
14:06to become one family knit. Then
14:08we would close off all the other relationships
14:10with the girls. We wouldn't be messaging
14:12and doing like that. That's the end goal for sure. Yeah.
14:14Whether it is what it is
14:16or what not we just
14:18keep moving as us and we hope that we
14:20get a live in wifey. That would be amazing.
14:22But if not then
14:24that sucks.
14:26Had fun while like you only live
14:28life once so
14:31I guess we still
14:33had fun along the way. We still made it
14:35to 80 together
14:37with this baby that's kicking the crap out of
14:39me right now. So we still
14:41made it. We have each other at the end of the
14:43day so.