Love Is Blind's Marissa Answers Burning Questions About Ramses — Including Their Post-Split Hookups
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00:00Who has not, I'm sorry, who has not slept with an ex
00:03after a bad breakup?
00:05Like me and Ramses, obviously our chemistry was there.
00:09We obviously had real feelings for each other.
00:11We break up and there's a few times where we connected
00:14and I never intended to say that,
00:16like, but I'm always just gonna be myself
00:18and you see it right there.
00:19You're just gonna see me.
00:20Like, I didn't wanna say that,
00:22but I don't stop to think about like the image
00:24and what are people gonna think.
00:26I'm not the only one who's ever done that.
00:27And if I am, so be it, I guess so.
00:29But that's just,
00:32so in that moment, I was trying to tell Nick,
00:34okay, Nick, like, just because she's messy
00:36doesn't mean she wants to be with you.
00:37Like, Ramses and I don't wanna be together
00:39and we've still connected a few times.
00:41Like, it just wasn't what it was and it wasn't pretty
00:44and it's not great and it's not healthy,
00:46but it just wasn't what it was.
00:47I guess I should clarify.
00:48Like, it wasn't like Ramses and I were like,
00:50we're now friends with benefits.
00:51Like, that was not the case.
00:53I had to be in DC, we'd get drunk,
00:55I'd get drunk somewhere or like drink.
00:56I was drinking a lot more than I should have
00:58and like I had to cut it out for a bit
01:00and we would like drunk text
01:01and then like one thing led to another.
01:03That was it.
01:05You know, sometimes we would just like text
01:07and like we'd hang out and then one,
01:09but like, it wasn't friends with benefits.
01:11It was only a few times
01:12and we both knew that wasn't good for us
01:16because I still had such strong feelings
01:18and he also has his strong feelings
01:20regardless if he wants to be in a relationship or not.
01:22So that was not a regular thing.
01:25Yeah, not a regular thing.
01:29Good Lord, no.
01:29He talks about it.
01:31I can't remember if it was in the reunion or not,
01:32but like we talked about it.
01:33Like I have more of an anxious attachment
01:36and he has more of an avoidant attachment
01:37and like for him, he was like, I'm done and he's out.
01:40Like he needed out of this experiment.
01:41He has his reasonings
01:43regardless if he understands them or not.
01:46So I think honestly my reaction to the breakup,
01:51obviously I'm devastated not to be,
01:52I was devastated that we were breaking up.
01:54I was even more devastated he didn't even want to try to date
01:58and that's something that I always tell him,
01:59like I'll never forgive you for that
02:01because it's just such a switch up.
02:04It's just like, did you really love me
02:06or was it like, what was it?
02:08And I know he loved me, but like we just,
02:10I loved him clearly more, I think.
02:13Or like I loved him differently.
02:14I don't know if more, but I loved him differently.
02:16I used to think so.
02:17Like it took me about quite some time to come to terms
02:21that I don't think so anymore.
02:23I think that again, I would have made that work.
02:26I would have gone through whatever I need to get through
02:29to make that relationship work
02:30because I really do, it did love Ramses.
02:33And so I would have.
02:35I think that ultimately it wouldn't,
02:38our lifestyles just wouldn't have matched up enough.
02:41Like I think that I needed someone a little bit more
02:44who can anticipate my needs a bit more,
02:46who could be there for me
02:47and allow me to kind of like take a step back.
02:50But I was so used to operating in a relationship
02:52where I'm the one kind of leading in a sense.
02:55And so now I'm like, no, I'm taking a step back.
02:58You can lead.
02:59And I think that's where we probably
03:00would have had some issues.
03:02I need a partner who's gonna anticipate my needs a bit more.
03:04I need a partner who's gonna allow me
03:06to be the more emotional one
03:09and not have me like lead the relationship as much.
03:14And I figured that out with Ramses.
03:16It's just like,
03:17I'm currently dating someone right now actually.
03:19And he's very much, he has those qualities
03:22that like Ramses didn't have for our relationship.
03:25Like I'm sure he has it for other relationships, I guess.
03:27But like as far as our relationship,
03:30I'm able in my new one to like take a step back
03:32and like my boyfriend like takes care of me in a way
03:35that like I used to take care of other people
03:37and how I took care of Ramses in a way.
03:39So it's nice to be taken care of.
03:42We met out at like, we actually met at Barcelona in DC
03:46and we like kind of dated a bit
03:48but I was still working through a lot of my emotions
03:51with Ramses.
03:52And so we just kind of stopped going on dates
03:54and kind of took a break, but we still stayed friends
03:56and we started dating in April.
03:59So yeah, and it's going very well.
04:02My mom loves him and it drives me insane.
04:05She's never loved a boyfriend more.
04:07They like call each other and have private conversations
04:10like, and he texts my brother and my sister.
04:12And like, so it's really nice to have him
04:14like involved in my family in a way,
04:16again, like another partner is never,
04:18I think they can be intimidated by my mom at first.
04:20And he never was.
04:21I knew he was.
04:22I was even worried.
04:23Like when he met my mom, I was like, here she goes.
04:24Hi.
04:26So yeah, I didn't worry.
04:28She loves him, yeah.