Married at First Sight UK Season 9 Episode 24
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00:00Oh
00:06Previously
00:09The couple's days out
00:14Lace
00:16Turned up the heat amongst the group. Do you care about Holly? I'm not talking about this shit. No much pissing me off
00:22Alex is already ruining my spa day game on. I'm ready free and
00:27Challenging questions amongst all the couples is lying about their feelings Alex. I agree with that
00:33I'm gonna say you shattered any hope of the truth. Your husband is not physically attracted to you
00:39To have to beg a man for the bare minimum
00:42Pipe down right? Come on. Stop it. No, okay. Okay. You don't go at the men the same you do the women
00:48I don't want to hear nothing from your mouth
00:51And one marriage came to an abrupt end
00:56I'm leaving boys
01:00Tonight
01:04The Sasha Alex feud you're a little pussy sometimes just need to know when to be quiet
01:09Triggers Ross at the mixer. I want you to go to stash and apologize for what you said. I ain't apologizing
01:16Stop bitch little prick and dinner party disagreements. I'm not gonna Sunday for the bullshit. I'm not I'm trying to defend the marriage
01:23Yeah, I don't even know what going on in it
01:26Spark conflict for some couples. Did you just kiss another wife?
01:31God, we see intimacy very differently. Well, you want to test out having sex with me
01:36Jesus Christ, but it's a surprise arrival
01:40That shocks the group
01:57You look nice
01:58Thank you. Apart from the rainbow flip-flops. They need to go which we need to go
02:04They're going in the bed going in a way. They definitely are
02:07The couples are over halfway through the experiment. Well, I don't think you've worn this yet and
02:14after a tumultuous group day out
02:16Got very personal very quickly and that's why I didn't appreciate it. It was the least relaxing spa. I've ever been to
02:22Do you look like you were grinding on Adam? Weren't you?
02:25Wasn't grinding baby as free style
02:28They are preparing for their fifth dinner party. I'm just not sure what to expect
02:41Catch this t-bar a day
02:48This week has been exactly what me and Karen needed
02:53It's definitely lifted my spirit first and last day of a VT value
03:02But
03:03When you do get on so well intimacy is important
03:07Karen has definitely taken a step back. I am
03:11finding it really difficult because I
03:15Do just want to rip his clothes off and my car
03:18I
03:22Care for Christina more than what I think she probably realizes
03:26But at the end of the day, I don't want to be intimate with Christina unless I'm there emotionally
03:31Me mine is just a little bit all over the place at the minute
03:34Cheers to a shit cup of tea. I
03:37Just need to try and find the spark again
03:49I
03:50Say it's gonna be a big day. Let's just go go go, isn't it? That's non-stop
03:56Absolutely non-stop love hate weapon for me overall just help me clarify a few things in my head about our relationship
04:04It's not where either us wanted to be. I
04:07Know it's me. That's holding back on the intimacy side
04:11But it's very hard to connect with someone who isn't emotionally available
04:14After a visit from expert Charlene
04:19A conflict over intimacy. How do you feel about feeling more vulnerable around me? I don't think I
04:27Like you enough to be able to do that
04:31Cast doubt on their future together
04:33There are things I need to learn about how I could build intimacy and take it on board for a future relationship
04:39The man is still wearing a wedding ring on his finger. It's not nice to it
04:46How you feeling I'm I'm a bit I don't know I feel like I
04:57Don't know it's just reflective on it's just a shame isn't it
05:01Casper and I are gonna walk in together
05:04But we're probably the most apart we've ever been
05:07We haven't really done the experts homework
05:10You know, I haven't really had any sign that he's sort of willing to give the intimacy a try
05:18But I hope that we can just put a line under the sand and I really want us to go in and have a nice time
05:24I think the whole Alex situation got out of order. You know, I mean the way he spoke to you
05:30To say that I'm begging you for bare minimum
05:33And the fact that you're still not attracted to me how he said it made it sound like you'd been saying it to him
05:40I don't know. I don't know. I don't know
05:42I don't know. I don't know. I don't know
05:45I don't know. I don't know. I don't know
05:47I don't know. I don't know. I don't know
05:49Not attracted to me how he said it made it sound like you'd been saying it to him. Oh, yeah, I get that privately
05:55I think that because you spoke to him about holly and you've had maybe a little bit of go at him. He's just
06:01Got like fiery in the moment and that was just like a little dig at you fine
06:04But I just think just because it's in the moment doesn't mean that it still doesn't warrant an apology because it does
06:09Obviously, it's something we'll have to have a chat about
06:12Because I think if I was there he wouldn't have said them comments
06:16It's not nice to know that polly was upset I do feel like I need to defend her
06:21But I just feel like i'm put in a sticky situation because i'm really good mates with alex and polly's my wife
06:27It'd be interesting to see what happens today with him and rosso
06:31Because sasha ain't gonna be happy either is she no, so it's gonna be like both of them attacking him
06:35Today is going to be an interesting dinner party. We've got to see alex
06:41But it's going to be nice going in
06:44All good, really strong
06:46And knowing that you've got my back
06:49Let's see. Oh, don't be bad, babe
06:51Let's see if he um has got as much to say with my husband there
06:55We had a lot going on today. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gonna lie
07:00Let's see if he um has got as much to say with my husband there
07:03We had a lot go on at the big day out
07:08I've said all that I need to say to alex. He's different with the girls to the boys
07:13I'm, not going to be the one piping up this time. I want to let my husband defend my honor
07:18I'm going to say what i'm going to say. Oh, so you're just going to get straight into it straight away straight into it
07:24Yeah, all right been waiting for this though
07:27We can't
07:29Isn't that that's what he said to you
07:32Me and alex we've had fun from day one, but his comment towards my wife is actually disgusting dog. I'm gonna stand for that
07:41That's what I would speak to him about
07:43man to man
07:51There are a few issues which are actually laughable
07:54Sasha and polly were both going for me
07:56Unless i've come to you for any advice. I do not understand why you think you qualify to give me advice
08:04In this situation nobody's asking me how do I feel my wife's not here she's left without saying a word
08:11I'm already going through a lot
08:14I'm going into tonight's dinner party having to defend my marriage to the rest of the group
08:19But there's nothing that these people can do to me to phase me
08:26So
08:35How are you feeling about seeing alex tonight just don't want to hear anything that will just irritate me
08:40I definitely feel like alex is projecting a lot of his marriage on a lot of the other couples
08:45Once I get the apology that I think I deserve from alex, maybe we can move forward
08:49So
08:52What's your approach with alex, I don't know how i'm feeling when I go and see him let's just try going calm
08:58See what happened, innit?
09:06Sasha loves to put her nose in other people's business
09:10People are coming for me from every angle
09:13If it comes down to it, I can definitely more than handle myself
09:20So
09:30So fifth dinner party very big one this week we're coming off of love hate week
09:36And sadly, we've said goodbye to ryan and shannon. So we wish them both all the best
09:42So let's take a look. Shall we?
09:44So
09:47First in amy and luke walking in very confidently all the prosecco to ourselves
09:54It's good to see the two of them smiling together slowly. I got this. I got this being with you. You've got loads of practice
10:02Thank you
10:04Bravo, bravo, darling
10:07There we are
10:08Cheers cheers cheers to us
10:14Hello
10:17Emma and casper
10:18Hello guys
10:22I'm getting a sense that they're smiling, but there's a lot of tension behind the smiles
10:25I understand you met with the two of them this week. I did they did some intimacy tasks
10:32And there were some interesting conversations that came on the back of that
10:36I suspect that they're not in the greatest place unless of course they've worked through some of those issues
10:44Tell us about your week then. Oh, we've had a great week, haven't we?
10:47So I took amy to pottery. So yeah, cute little date day
10:51You're doing some craft and shapes and molds, isn't it? I I heard they were phallic. Yes, they were indeed
10:56But they went into size the molds went into size. We got a bit hot and then yeah
11:02Yeah, I I heard you. Um, we're reenacting ghost
11:06Beautiful. He loved it. I was like
11:09Amy bless. It was a bit like
11:11I was like luke stop
11:14laughing
11:17Here he is
11:20Well, he's alex alone, of course this week holly has made a special request to
11:26Leave the experiment for a moment and spend some time with her children
11:29I've had a big week
11:32This isn't something that we usually do but on this occasion we felt like it was necessary for holly to see her children
11:38But what's great is we're expecting to see holly tomorrow at the commitment ceremony. Yeah, so
11:43Alex is flying solo tonight. So no hole
11:48No
11:52Cheers darling
11:56Right, give us the debrief after this lovely spa retreat you went on
12:00Oh, man, um
12:03Polly and sasha was going at me for ages calling me pathetic and
12:08I'm a weasel telling me i'm nothing all this stuff. So yeah, I clapped back
12:15So it sounds like at the spa there was some altercation with polly and sasha against alex
12:22For me it got quite uncomfortable in there
12:25Especially the sasha conversation. I think both of you went a little bit too far, especially as you're the man in that argument
12:31So just because i'm a man
12:33I have to watch what I say, but because she's a woman. She doesn't have to watch what she says
12:37I think this tension has been building up for a while. We saw at the last commitment ceremony. There was incredible pressure between
12:44Alex and sasha and in fact, both of them were speaking in a disrespectful way
12:48And of course that's not about gender that that is about human to human interaction
12:53And then polly's asking me questions like oh, do you care about holly?
12:57I'm tired of talking about it
13:01Where's your heather
13:03Um
13:05I mean, how would anybody feel if your wife had just left and not said anything to you?
13:15There's no good reason to just leave
13:19And no contact
13:22We know communication between holly and alex has been an issue throughout their entire relationship and clearly
13:28It's evident in her leaving without saying a word that they still need to work on this
13:35Hello
13:38Wow, okay, let's change the energy in the room instantly. How are we?
13:45Last time we saw this couple at the commitment ceremony kieran was sharing that he's really having some difficulty coping with christina's pmdd
13:52So i'm wondering how that has played out this week. What's going on? What's going on?
13:58You guys are lying. You guys never have a chat after that. Yeah, same same situation. See him
14:05It's not the same
14:06I care about her
14:08I think she's incredible
14:12It's just the sparks gone
14:16I want to shake him. I want to show you can be like hello. I am here like hello, but
14:23I can't force him
14:26It's just one of these I don't like it to hear it from you like that
14:30That's the case, but it's just one of these things man. It's life, isn't it? Yeah. Yeah all the ups and downs
14:35And she has meant like she's she's she's amazing she is amazing
14:43The challenge that kieran is presenting is something that we see often at this stage in the experiment
14:48And it's probably because the novelty of the wedding and the honeymoon is worn off
14:53And I think this is something that they have to understand that all couples go through this but many couples can get through it
15:00but anyway
15:02Moving swiftly forward. I've had a really good week
15:05Yeah, good good and i'm really happy there's there's only one thing i'm gonna tell you just for your ears
15:12sometimes
15:13When we're together
15:16She asks me
15:19To park the car in her garage
15:23Oh, I see what you're saying
15:28I was raised always park your car outside
15:34Because if you park inside then it's beyond your control
15:41I think luke is alluding to the fact that amy wants him to climax inside of her
15:47But he doesn't want to do this
15:53Private conversation luke
15:56For me, I couldn't yeah. Yeah. Yeah the whole car inside the garage maybe a front bumper, but I can't put the whole car
16:04Just for your ears only she told me that she feels like i'm treating her a bit
16:11Not special by parking outside
16:15I've got some advice for you. Take the wheels off the car
16:20Have you got a have you got for transit
16:23Okay
16:30How's things we used to would you make me an m? Yeah, where what?
16:38We had charlene round this week. Oh, yeah, we did we didn't date. How did that go?
16:48It's okay
16:51Yeah, not that much steam but you know intimacy there was you know some intimacy
17:01What did you just do um
17:06Uh hugs
17:09Good yeah lush
17:12Yeah
17:14So when I came to their apartment
17:16They both said things that upset one another and I think what we're seeing here is that they're still holding on to that
17:24Intimacy builds in stages, but the foundation of that is is like in respect and if that's not there you can't get anywhere else
17:34Yeah
17:38Sasha and ross
17:40Looking quite serious
17:42Can speak to you please?
17:44Let's go
17:45Wow, so he's just gone straight to alex and pulled him apart from the group
17:49He did that's probably the first time i've seen ross is so angry
17:53Usually he's a barrel of laughs. He's got high energy, but he's come in on a mission. Oh, yes
18:01I'm actually fucking lodging but um
18:05Very angry
18:10Not gonna like what i'm gonna say
18:12I think the other bodies
18:15Oh, wow, why the fuck would you say that to such a man?
18:23Listen whether you're there. Yeah, I would yes
18:31I really would
18:35Have you got anything else you want to say
18:37I want you to go to statue and apologize for what you said. I ain't apologizing
18:47And then no get the fuck out then
18:55Stop this little prick that made
19:08I want you to go to statue and apologize for what you said. I ain't apologizing
19:17And then no get the fuck out then
19:22Stop this little prick that made
19:31We can see that alex upsetting sasha has clearly touched a nerve with ross
19:35But in that interaction what was uncomfortable to see was ross's aggressive behavior
19:40I agree with you if ross had approached that in a much more conciliatory way
19:45With some openness and maybe some curiosity about the situation rather than blaming would have looked very different
19:54Let's keep calm
19:56So
20:00Ross has only heard sasha's side of things
20:03I do acknowledge that there were some things at the spa that I shouldn't have said. However, it was a retaliation
20:10But don't try and come at me until you know the facts
20:13I just feel like in every situation you feel like you need to put your two pence in
20:19You don't speak to the men the same way you speak to the women in this group
20:23So you just said to ross he wears fake jewelry. Did you say that though?
20:27He got out the one who brought that actually thought
20:30Yeah, I said she wears fake jewelry
20:33Why would you say that though? Why would she say what she said to me?
20:36Tell me what she said. She's like, oh, you're nothing. You're a weasel. You did see that
20:40No, because you think you're a big scary guy. I really don't know compared to the people. I really don't know
20:46You never said that she never said that what whenever I ever said i'm a big scary guy
20:50I said that he's a big scary guy
20:52You're involving yourself in something that you don't need to be involved in luke. You don't need to be involved in this
20:59Luke saw what was happening
21:00He saw that alex felt like he was being backed in a corner and he came over to sit next to him to show him
21:07You know what? I'm here to support you. Yeah
21:10Now the rest of the room is not helping to diffuse the situation
21:13When there is conflict that is happening in front of you
21:16Everyone is now responsible for the outcome of that conflict because everyone also could be a casualty
21:22of the conflict
21:24Can you imagine if I said something to holly?
21:29Can you imagine that though
21:32Listen bro, holly wouldn't go at you the same way. Sasha came at me
21:40Sometimes you just need to know when to be quiet. Do you need to know when to be quiet?
21:45I
21:49Love him. Why can't I why can't I i'm happy i'm not sad. You're happy. I'm. Yeah, i'm good. You're a fucking baby
21:56That fucking frog has done me at the prana as soon as someone says something to you
22:00Wow, no, no, no
22:02You're a little pussy
22:06What sasha's now doing is really entering into that kind of aggressive behavior that is absolutely
22:13Not acceptable, although alex knows that the more he smiles the more he's agitating them
22:19I've been called a pussy. I've been called this this every name under the sun i've been called
22:23There was a lot of name calling and you handled it so well apart from that last minute like don't
22:27Egg it on I will call that man a pussy over and over and over and over again
22:32With no shame because what he does and how he bullies women is unacceptable
22:43Oh, you're looking at me he's doing it again
22:50Alex is antagonizing them, isn't he?
22:53Yes, he is
22:54But I think the positive thing here is that he's recognized that he needs to remove himself from the situation
22:59And I think it's a good move
23:01Should we all just take a big big deep breath together? Yeah, right breathe inhale four breaths in
23:07Does anybody fancy a bit of reiki?
23:10Oh
23:15Nathan and lacy you haven't missed anything. I know
23:19Nothing. No, nothing's happened
23:22This is what we need bringing the energy back into the room. Yes, the poor things have no idea what they've just walked into right?
23:32Adam and polly hello, honeys
23:36Oh
23:37It just got bad. Oh, honey. Yeah. Oh my god
23:40When we saw polly and adam last week at the commitment ceremony things were a little tense, but they're looking really good now
23:46So i'm wondering what's happened during love hate week. Things are going well by the look of it sit down for this one
23:54Oh you missed that what happened
23:57Wow, what happened well, obviously about what happened at the spa idea
24:01Ross was like do I get an apology and he went no, I'm not getting an apology
24:04Okay
24:06Glad you weren't here really it would I think it would have been worse
24:10And apparently we went for him. We went for him at the spa. Of course we did. Of course we did
24:15All of the problems that have come from people this week
24:19Goes back to alex. I just don't know what's to come for the rest of the night because how bad can it get?
24:34Oh
24:48Facing my second wife mate, you wouldn't have a chance in your dreams
25:04Up here on your lap
25:06I've never done it. I thought I thought it was decorative. You can put that in there
25:11Try some wine, um, come on you deserve some wine i'm gonna have one i'm gonna have famous last
25:20I'm sure that I can be fixed. I appreciate that conversation you standing up for me tonight
25:27We just need to look to sesha's
25:29Family environment of the man playing the role of the protector and that's something that she has seen
25:34And she now wants to emulate in her relationship. And really what she's doing is she's saying to him you've just
25:41Achieved some points here. It's fine to have traditional values
25:46But when it gets to the point where it's actually hurting other people
25:49I think you need to sort of take a moment take stock and think is this actually serving us here?
25:56Speech oh
25:59I ain't listening to that shit. I ain't listening to it. No, i'm not listening to it
26:03I'm, not i'm not i'm not gonna stand here for the bullshit. I'm not
26:08Oh
26:11Fucking out
26:13Wait, what how much does make people angry? I don't know
26:17Babe
26:19I ain't listening to his bullshit. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Come here. I'm not listening to his shit
26:24Well, luckily for me, I just turn me in
26:27Do you like that? Can you?
26:29One day he was gonna say that then
26:32This is good to see that ross is able to help sasha to regulate her emotions to make her laugh and actually calm down
26:40Clearly they both have each other's back and that's really admirable to see
26:46Anyway this week it's been a tough week
26:54Just try and enjoy every single moment going forward the good the bad the ugly it's all part of the process
27:00um
27:03Not many people have heard from holly this week I thought she was gonna magically show up tonight
27:09it would have been nice to
27:11you know, but um
27:13Let's just enjoy the rest of the night
27:15Enjoy the rest of the process. However long we're here for
27:19and um
27:20Just try and keep in good spirits
27:23Cheers
27:25Cheers guys well said
27:29So
27:32It's really difficult for alex to be in that place of the unknown
27:37And uncertainty, of course, he's also left with this big question mark about why holly has left and where she's gone
27:43So I kind of feel for him in this moment
27:49What's that dolphin
27:52Oh
27:57Trying to get your nose do you like to eat my chicken
28:00How many chickens do you have today? I've had loads of chicken. I haven't a chicken for breakfast chicken for lunch chicken
28:05No, i'm gonna start laying eggs soon
28:09Alex I heard you wanted to speak to me break the bed. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah
28:13Yeah
28:18Um just about the um
28:20Commitment ceremony the other day. I think it's bullshit because them to have lips
28:25fucking snake man
28:27Snake you me. Yeah, you
28:29Where was the double date?
28:32But have they not been sneakily kissing I know you didn't be to fix him
28:39I misheard what you said about
28:41Um, austin and hannah
28:48It did upset me i'll be honest I thought what a prick
28:53I was like, why is he talking to me like that?
28:55I thought we was closer than that and for one I would never snake you it was a genuine misunderstanding
29:00You know what? I mean on my part. Okay
29:03So I do apologize genuinely
29:07I do accept your apology. Yeah
29:11Yeah, thank you for saying sorry
29:15This is great to see yeah
29:18Alex is showing up. He's taking some accountability and apologizing. This is great stuff
29:23Yeah, it's great from alex and it shows, you know conflict resolution is a two-way street
29:28Yeah, lacey approached this right very calmly. Yeah, very respectful and look at that. They get a resolution. Yeah. Yeah
29:36I did think he was being a bellend. I was I was being a bellend
29:39I'm glad you took that on the chin take that on the chin, you know
29:43But i'm never gonna be in the wrong and not and not apologize
29:48How are you guys anyway, yeah good paradise as usual with you two man positive vibes, haven't they
29:55Anyway, I appreciate it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, no problem. See you guys in a bit. Have a good evening
30:00Do you have a swap?
30:02I guess the next hour. Yeah, i'll have a quick chat about it. Oh, yeah, of course. Yeah. Yeah, that's fine
30:07little cash up
30:10I think we need a little chat about the big day
30:17Holly's come back quite upset
30:21Because you said that i'm faking my feelings and
30:26Obviously the attraction thing's been such a big thing for her where it's made her feel like shit
30:31Yeah, and the fact that you threw it in her face upset her
30:40When you first came into this process
30:43Holly wasn't your type on paper. No, so I wouldn't say your feelings are fake. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, but
30:49She's had to beg you to do all these things. Yeah
30:55Which has been the bare minimum
30:58And you know what on top of that she'd been coming at me all day
31:02With sasha as well. I get that and she even said to me at one point my relationship's better than yours. I'm like, bro
31:09That was the uncalled for
31:12The thing is in all of this i've had i've got my own marriage to deal with yeah, yeah
31:18My head could already be scrambled from there
31:20So i'm just
31:27I'm really feeling for adam right now because he's obviously listened to polly speak about things that alex has said
31:33And now he's hearing alex say things I think actually he also maybe agreed with slightly so where does he go?
31:40He's in quite a difficult position
31:43The same thing has happened with me or us. I don't want to happen with me and you
31:47It is shit though, man
31:48And then I think the fact that you and ross were such good mates was like shit that had to go like that. It's annoying bro
31:53today
31:54They could possibly have got an apology
31:57But he approached the situation totally wrong. Look at how you've approached it. You've come to me and got my side
32:02Yeah, of course to me rush came in like yeah
32:06I get that
32:07And that's why I just want you to fucking
32:09Yeah, yeah
32:10Yeah, we'll have a conversation because I know you do get on. Yeah, like you two are fucking close. Yeah. Yeah
32:16But there's no bad bad blood there from me. Yeah, okay
32:20Respect bro
32:22Credit to both alex and adam they were able to
32:26Approach each other from a non-aggressive
32:29And non-defensive mode, it's good to see him go around the table and make up with everyone. Yeah
32:40Tell us about your week we did we did stuff that brought us really close again
32:45Something's is definitely growing
32:51I couldn't have asked for a better person to do
32:54Um, yeah, what are you saying? What are you gonna do?
33:06You told me that you you'll never like me enough to be emotionally vulnerable with me
33:10But I thought maybe that we might be able to explore something. Yeah
33:18We see intimacy very differently
33:21It's not quite confusing messages i've got this week because I asked you after it
33:25Like do you want to practice what charlene has given us and you said to me?
33:30Well, yes emma because I want to learn about being in a relationship with other people
33:36To say that it's essentially saying to emma you are replaceable
33:44I want to learn about it is what you said. Yeah, because that's why i'm here and then i'm like well fuck that
33:50I'm just
33:54Well, you wanted to test out having sex with me just to see if it feels like it yeah
34:00It's okay, it's okay for me to be a test but when you're tested you're like no fucking way
34:05Oh, no, no, no, I respect your boundaries, didn't I?
34:09It is very clear that the two of them have both been hurt by things that each have said to the other and now
34:14That they're getting into this point scoring mode. They're not malicious people
34:19They're not trying to be nasty, but they're coming from a place of pain
34:24Yeah, yeah, it's all my fault again, yeah, yeah, of course emma
34:28You're definitely not intimated anything other than that all the time. I know I have I have
34:34There's a lot of powerful non-verbal communication that we're seeing here
34:39These are two people that are just not happy together anymore
34:44Oh jesus christ, oh for fuck's sake
34:49So
35:09How's your weekend
35:11Oh, um
35:14I've had a good week. Actually. We have had a good week
35:18In the grand scheme of things. Yes
35:21We had a day with hugo
35:25Oh lovely, it was so nice really needed
35:30What have you done this week apart from the sparring salsa? You done me like a really nice little date night
35:36I walked in and there was nice little like
35:38Rose petals and candles when I walked in and there was dinner
35:42It's great to see adam actually stepping up in the romantic stakes, which is exactly what polly wants
35:47Yes, love hate week has been good for these two. They've made a lot of progress
35:51It's nice that polly can see that you've got that in you. Yeah, and I do feel like nathan could probably learn a thing or two
35:57Mate, oh actually guys when I um came home yesterday. There was a little treat on the table and nathan bought me flowers. Oh
36:06The most expensive in the shop as well you left a price on it, but we won't
36:10Yeah, how much was that then three pound fifty
36:15Did he leave the price on he always does that because they were expensive and I was like, you know, have a look
36:20No, I I really was really happy with that. Yeah
36:23It's little things that help. Yeah
36:33I've definitely had some realizations
36:35Ha ha ha
36:39You know, we're well into the process now over halfway
36:43Everyone's at the point now where love's starting to come out like people are people have got like the real thing
37:01It could have been so different
37:06Oh
37:14Anybody want any ride
37:23It's hugo
37:26It actually is
37:31Thank you
37:36You talk to me polly what's going on
37:42I'm just upset
37:43With the comments that you made. Mm-hmm
37:46I was attacking
37:48But off the back of when you got personal with me saying he wasn't attracted to me
37:53And that i've had to beg him for the bare minimum
37:56How you said it?
37:58Made it sound like
38:00He has said that to you recently, okay, okay in private, yeah
38:04Yeah, everything that adam said to me in private is exactly what he said to the experts
38:11so there's no
38:13hidden
38:14underground creepy crawlies
38:17I don't want to be going at it with you. And no, I don't either
38:23So why are you coming for me then because I felt like I needed answers about certain things about my best friend in here
38:29That no one was getting okay. Let me let me say this though
38:32you're
38:33Asking me questions. I don't have the answer. I just get very defensive about people that I care about. Okay
38:39Well, why don't you ask her if she still cares because she's the one that's not here. I will I will
38:43i'm trying to defend a marriage
38:45that
38:46I don't even know what the fuck's going on in it
38:53You know, but I do need to I know it's something to work on so
38:57I apologize for how I spoke to you at the spa. Thank you. You are my sister
39:05I feel like we're seeing the layers be stripped away from him tonight and
39:10He's showing vulnerability. He's taking accountability
39:14He's apologizing. He's showing real empathy for other people
39:18This is the side of alex. We want to see more of
39:22Apology acceptance
39:27So you know that I do and I only get like this because I care
39:39Hey, i've got i've got a question for the table
39:41If it's wife swap week, which wife would you want to get?
39:45Let's go round starting from casper
39:48Paul yes
39:50i'll take that
39:52Yous are the definition of this experiment, I think oh, shut up next question
39:59Adam I love you
40:01Do you know if you give me a fucking console I go mad. Oh my god. Oh, did you just kiss another wife?
40:12I should think not kieran
40:14Remember respect for your wife, please
40:17You're not even at that level with me. Let alone one of my best friends in it
40:22So
40:27That would hurt so much, you know, he's been saying i've got cold sores I can't kiss you
40:31I can't be intimate with you. But here I am
40:33Laying a smacker on another wife
40:44Clearly nothing was in that kiss, but it's because of christina feeling rejected
40:49Through the relationship that of course it's going to have an impact on how she feels in the moment
40:55Think of my feelings, please
40:57Is
41:15I'm fearing that my feelings have been disregarded
41:23I'm guide
41:27So
41:35What I like about him is you do everything from scratch like you don't buy any jars or packets
41:39If she could she'd go and take the salt out of the sea
41:42like
41:43you know what I mean like
41:45Um, surely you're not all having a different pie without it
41:57Oh
42:11We're expecting to see holly tomorrow night at the commitment ceremony, but here she is tonight. Yeah surprised us all
42:17Oh my god
42:22I've got this man. Yeah, I don't even know how to go. I don't even know if i'm happy or sad bro
42:27Give her a big hug. I'll tell you mister
42:30Oh my god
42:41So glad you're back you okay? Yeah, just needed to take some. Yeah. No, I know you did
42:46Holy
42:49Hi, you okay
42:52You all right, yeah i'm good. Thank you
42:55The thing is alex has done so well tonight with managing conflict
42:59But i'm just hoping that he'll manage this situation correctly and not let his ego get in the way
43:06So, where do we start
43:09I don't know. Is there anything you want to say?
43:12Are you okay? Yeah
43:16For me I just needed to
43:20Selfishly put myself first
43:25I just feel like the no communication for a week is mad. That was just
43:30People are coming at me asking me all kinds of questions and
43:34I'm trying to defend the marriage and I don't even know what's going on myself
43:39I think
43:41After the comment that you made at the lift the other day and how you walked off when I felt so vulnerable
43:47That's what made me think I need to go home to my babies
43:51You said what I need to go home to my babies
43:54Yeah
43:56To me that makes me feel like you don't give a shit about the fact i've got kids
44:01So instantly i'm gonna think fuck you
44:04I didn't say I can't be arsed
44:06You did
44:09Saying that comment is shit
44:12I don't know. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about
44:15I don't know what you're talking about
44:17I don't know what you're talking about
44:19I don't know what you're talking about
44:21Shit
44:24Maybe if you ask me more am I missing my children? Am I okay?
44:28How are you feeling? You didn't seem unokay though. Yeah, but you have never asked
44:32I don't know. You don't ask me how I am. I'm missing my kids
44:36You have never once asked me
44:42These are things I don't forget as a mom
44:44So
44:46If we break it down to what's really going on here her identity is so clearly tied up in being a mother
44:52And he was essentially dismissing a big part of who she is so I can see where she's coming from as well
44:59If you can respect what i'm saying for once then we can move forward for once
45:05Yeah
45:08Those two words are quite significant for once because really what holly's doing here is generalizing
45:15That the behavior he's showing here is something he shows all the time
45:19And so I think right now alex is realizing he's in a bit of a no-win situation
45:26At the end of the day for me right now as it stands the only way we can move forward
45:31Is after speaking to the experts tomorrow?
45:38So
45:40One of the most dangerous things you can do in a relationship is give an ultimatum
45:49And that's exactly what she just did
45:55Next time I know i've got a good thing while some couples have cause to celebrate
46:00It's the first time that i've had like butterflies raw emotional honesty
46:04Every man and woman deserves to be treated like a king or queen sparks anguish for others if that's what she thinks of me
46:12Why am I here?
46:13I don't really know where me head's up. I don't want to lead her on i'm petrified
46:18And a lingering feud i'm still angry
46:21No, you fucker
46:22Felt like I was being attacked and I just attacked back plus a clash with wife. Holly. I've had enough of your shit
46:28Don't try and come on here putting some big act you're not fooling nobody puts alex in the eye of the storm
46:34You need to understand me now. I'm not holding back anymore. I've remembered who the hell I am and I don't put up with this
46:58You