This lecture is about children Rights.
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00:00A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem. Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
00:06An-Nahm-ud-Duhu-Wa-Nasalli-Ala-Rasool-Hil-Kareem.
00:11Intihai Qabal-e-Itraan Sameen-o-Hazreen.
00:15Mujhse Hache Logo.
00:17As-Salaam-Alaikum-Wa-Rahmatullahi-Wa-Barakatuhu.
00:22Durood Pak.
00:24A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem.
00:27Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
00:30In the last session, I spoke about the rights of parents.
00:37Today, I will speak about the rights of children.
00:42The responsibilities of parents are,
00:48first of all, when a child is born,
00:52a call to prayer is given in his ear.
00:55In some Hadith, it is also mentioned that
00:59the Prophet gave a call to prayer in one ear and
01:02said Aqamat in the other.
01:04After that, the second thing,
01:08Tahneeq is the call to prayer in which
01:11the Prophet used to pray for the blessings of the child.
01:14When the child was born,
01:16he used to put dates on his ear and
01:20used to pray for him.
01:23The third thing is that
01:27the name of the child should be good.
01:31It should have good meanings.
01:35And the fourth thing is that
01:38the education and training of the child is important.
01:46And then, Aqeeqah should be done in seven days.
01:54The name of the child should be given
01:57for seven days.
01:58Aqeeqah should be done.
01:59The hair should be cleaned.
02:00There are different narrations of scholars on this.
02:03And then, it is the responsibility of the parents
02:09that his Nikah, marriage, all these things
02:13are included in the responsibility of the parents.
02:16Because when a child is born,
02:21if he already hears the call to prayer,
02:25Allah Akbar,
02:28then he will follow Tauheed.
02:32And he will be safe from many such evil things.
02:38This is why it is important.
02:42It will take a lot of time to explain the rest of the things.
02:46But I want to come to the main point.
02:50The main point is that
02:54education and training.
02:57That is, to give a good education to the child
03:03and at the same time to train him.
03:06Because knowledge and training are two different things.
03:11To gain knowledge or to give knowledge
03:16is a different thing.
03:19But training is a different thing.
03:21If there is no training with knowledge,
03:24then there is no benefit of knowledge.
03:27Training is necessary.
03:29Therefore, it is the most important responsibility of the parents
03:33to train their children in such a way
03:38that they become true followers of the Prophet,
03:43and follow him.
03:46When he is 7 years old,
03:50ask him to pray.
03:54And even if he is scolded a little,
03:57it is okay.
03:58But if he gets used to praying,
04:02then God willing,
04:04he will keep doing it all his life.
04:07This is a big responsibility of the parents.
04:11The training of the mother and the father
04:14plays a very important role.
04:17In what?
04:19In the building of character.
04:22In the building of character,
04:24the training of the mother and the father
04:27plays a very important role.
04:29And there is also society in it.
04:32The parents should keep in mind
04:35that if the friend and the society are good for the child,
04:40then he will go in the right direction.
04:43If the society is wrong,
04:46then he will go in the wrong direction.
04:49This is also a very big responsibility of the parents
04:52to keep an eye on him.
04:55Who does he sit with?
04:58Who does he not sit with?
05:00How are his friends?
05:02This is an order from God
05:06that he should be trained
05:09to take him on the right path.
05:14For this, it is important that
05:17when the child grows up,
05:19a friendly environment should be created.
05:22In Surah Al-Ma'idah, verse number 55,
05:27Allah says that
05:29your Momin and Muslims are friends of Allah and His Messenger.
05:35And then in Surah Tawbah, verse number 71,
05:40Allah says that all Momin and Mominat are friends of each other.
05:45So when the child grows up,
05:48he should be given a friendly environment in that house.
05:53If there is a friendly environment in the house,
05:56friendship with the wife,
05:59friendship with the children,
06:01friendship with the brothers,
06:03then a good society will be created in the house.
06:06A good society will be created in the house.
06:09When that society mixes up with the other society,
06:14then those people will also get better.
06:19So it is important for the father and the mother
06:24to understand the ethics of religion
06:29and all other matters.
06:32Because we are Muslims.
06:34We have to follow the guidelines given by the Prophet.
06:38So we have to bring the children to the same level.
06:42So it is important for the parents
06:46that first of all, if they themselves need reformation,
06:51then they should reform.
06:53Later, they should reform the children as well.
06:55And the father should be an exemplary person in the family.
07:02The mother should be an exemplary person
07:05because the children have to follow them.
07:07When the children are in a healthy society,
07:15then those people have a healthy mind.
07:22They have positive thoughts.
07:25Positive thinking creates a positive society.
07:31And the Prophet established that society in Medina.
07:37And even after 40 years,
07:41that healthy society,
07:43a positive society,
07:45a friendly society,
07:47continued to exist.
07:49When there was a famine in Mecca,
07:54the Prophet sent wheat for the help of the disbelievers.
08:00This is the society of Islam.
08:03When it comes to the rights of the children,
08:07we should make the children a good citizen,
08:10a good human being,
08:12and develop a good society.
08:14If there is a deficiency in us,
08:17a deficiency in the parents,
08:19then we should remove it.
08:21The children will follow me,
08:24they will follow you.
08:26If I do something like this,
08:29and it is in the knowledge of the children,
08:31then I cannot stop them.
08:33For example,
08:36if a person smokes a cigarette,
08:38how can he tell the child not to smoke?
08:41So, when we understand that we are Muslims,
08:48and the work of a Muslim is to establish peace on this earth.
08:53The work of a Muslim is not corruption.
08:57There is no scope for corruption in Islam.
09:00And the biggest corruption is the corruption of intentions,
09:06the corruption of temperament,
09:08the corruption of vision.
09:10All these are the kinds of corruption
09:12on which the angels had said that the earth will be corrupted.
09:17Therefore, for a positive society,
09:20peace is necessary,
09:22reconciliation is necessary,
09:24reformation is necessary.
09:26So, for that, the real education and training of the child,
09:30I am emphasizing that this is a very important work.
09:35And in a society where this work is done,
09:38where there is a building of character,
09:41that people stop lying,
09:44this should be reduced.
09:46Honesty should be established.
09:49In any society,
09:51even if it is a non-Muslim society,
09:53Allah will definitely give respect to that society in this world.
09:58He will definitely give respect to that nation.
10:00In the future, whatever Allah decides about them,
10:03it is about non-Muslims.
10:05But here they have been given respect.
10:08And respect is being given.
10:10The people who are honest,
10:12the people who are honest,
10:14the people who speak the truth,
10:16the people who do not adulterate,
10:18the people who do not steal,
10:20the people who do not mix water in milk,
10:22this should be prepared for the children.
10:26So, Islam is saying that
10:28love, compassion, friendship with children.
10:31Because children are a gift from Allah.
10:37Those who do not have children,
10:39ask them how big a gift these children are.
10:43And children are a gift from Allah.
10:46Therefore, it is important to value them.
10:50So, the respect for parents,
10:53I have said this in the previous statement,
10:55but love, compassion and friendship with children should be maintained.
11:00Where there is a need for double standards,
11:02there is a little permission.
11:04But it should not go beyond a particular limit.
11:06So, pray to Allah,
11:08may Allah enable you to follow what I have said.