Tips_for_Happy_Married_Life_-_Ramzan_ilm_Hai_Transmission_By_Qasim_Ali_Shah
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If you want to live a happy married life then you must adopt these 3 habits.
Qasim Ali Shah is not just a Motivational Speaker but an enthusiastic doer. He followed his passions and proved his self a Successful Entrepreneur, Inspiring Teacher, Best-Selling Author, Philanthropist and a Transformational Trainer.
#islam#urdu#ramzan#bayan#trnding
If you want to live a happy married life then you must adopt these 3 habits.
Qasim Ali Shah is not just a Motivational Speaker but an enthusiastic doer. He followed his passions and proved his self a Successful Entrepreneur, Inspiring Teacher, Best-Selling Author, Philanthropist and a Transformational Trainer.
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00:00Ramzan-e-ilm hai, Ramzan-e-ilm hai
00:07Bismillah-ur-Rahman-ur-Raheem
00:08Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to Ramzan-e-ilm-e-Khussusi Transmission
00:13In today's first segment, we are going to discuss a very important topic
00:17which is the issue of home and family
00:20Husband and wife are a relationship that cannot be lived without
00:25and people have to face a lot of difficulties with it
00:29But the best influence is in those homes
00:32and the best impact is on children and even on the society
00:36comes from those homes
00:38which live their lives with peace and beauty
00:43live their lives with happiness
00:45How is this possible?
00:47Today we will discuss this in our first segment
00:50With us is Qasim Ali Shah
00:52Assalam-o-Alaikum
00:53Walaikum-as-salam
00:54It is a very tricky topic and I say it is the story of every home
00:58How is it possible to make a strong relationship between husband and wife?
01:03First of all, let me tell you a tragedy
01:06Divorces are increasing very fast
01:09Unfortunately
01:10It is a record in the last 6 months
01:12It is a record in the last 6 months
01:15Now what has happened is that in this society
01:18very fast
01:19the foundation bricks on which the society stands
01:26The relationship between husband and wife has started to deteriorate
01:29and the biggest reason for it is that
01:32there is no forgiveness in both
01:36and you don't have to walk with them
01:38But the one you have to walk with till a distance
01:40you should not fight with him
01:42The one you don't have to walk with till a distance
01:44you should not fight with him
01:46Very good
01:47There is no fight in both the cases
01:49What kind of fight?
01:50Wasif sir's sentence is that the one you have to leave
01:53What kind of fight is that?
01:55You can't leave him
01:56What kind of fight is that?
01:58So what happens is that
02:00the fight that we have with our self
02:05with our complex
02:07we make that fight active and start it with the other person
02:10We don't think about it
02:11The fight is with our self
02:12There can be a problem with our own self
02:14Not being able to walk with them
02:15Now I will tell you the factors
02:17Actually I have talked a lot about this with Justice Anwar
02:21But my experience in marriage counselling
02:26is that there are a lot of marriages that happen in a hurry
02:29In that understanding whether it is a mismatch
02:32whether it should be done or not
02:34Then what is his profile?
02:35What is his previous experience?
02:37How do you take relationships in this family?
02:39How many happy couples are there in this family?
02:42There is a tendency of divorce in some families
02:45I will tell you this
02:46Like there is a tendency of sugar
02:48There is no such tendency in some families
02:50There are many families in which I have seen 4-5 divorces
02:54All of them
02:56How unfortunate
02:58The reason is that those kids have not seen a healthy relationship
03:03Now I will tell you a very deep thing
03:05This is a difficult thing
03:06For some people, healthy things are unhealthy
03:11Their standard of being healthy is unhealthy
03:15This is very dangerous
03:18According to them, fights and arguments are the same
03:23They are trying to ruin the relationship
03:26They are ruining each other's relationship
03:28I remember that we used to stay somewhere
03:31The husband used to trouble his wife
03:37There used to be a lot of noise outside
03:39One day I remember that the lady who used to live in that house
03:43ran out
03:44We all thought that she got beaten up so she ran out
03:47After that, she ran away
03:51When we looked back, a man's head was open
03:54and he was abusing her
03:56She hit him with a stick
03:58Finally, he got tired and attacked her
04:01The next day, he hit him with a stick
04:03You remember
04:05When your own sticks don't work, then these sticks work
04:09These are the real beauty of relationships
04:13The beauty of relationships is very important
04:15Strengthening them, making them better
04:18Polishing them, taking them along
04:21Who is the most damaged child?
04:24Absolutely
04:25When there is a conflict between husband and wife
04:28The boy and the girl both settle
04:30The child is the most damaged
04:32Why is it damaged?
04:33It is damaged because he saw an unhealthy relationship
04:37He has heard words like sadness, moods, issues, fights, abuses, get out
04:47His dictionary is all damaged
04:49Then I say that his normal dictionary is damaged
04:52What will he do?
04:53You said a very good thing
04:55That children are the victims of all these things
04:59My question is
05:01Other people's interference
05:03You have your own conflicts
05:05But in our society, people interfere a lot
05:08Whether it is a woman's mother or a man's mother
05:13Or friends etc
05:15How important is it not to interfere in these relationships?
05:20This is a sign that someone is interfering
05:23That the relationship is not good
05:24That you are letting them interfere
05:26You have created a space, so someone is interfering
05:29When you haven't created a space
05:31It depends on how good your commitment is
05:35Some men and women have a habit of exposing their partners
05:41They expose their bad habits to others
05:45This is a very bad condition
05:47Because it is such a personal relationship
05:49In this relationship, there is no veil
05:54In this relationship, the Quran has said that there is a veil
05:59There are clothes
06:00What are the clothes?
06:02Think about it, who is closest to you?
06:04Who is closest to me?
06:06I was asking a question in class
06:09Who is closest to you?
06:12Someone said my mother, someone said my daughter
06:15Someone said my sister
06:17Someone said my friend
06:19I said the closest person to you is your wife
06:21It is a reality
06:23She is with you
06:25Whether you like it or not, she is with you
06:27Now, this relationship is called a dress
06:32A dress
06:33What does a dress do?
06:35It is such a beautiful symbol
06:37Why is it given?
06:38A dress gives you grace
06:40This relationship gives you grace
06:43If after marrying someone, your grace has not increased
06:48You are not graceful
06:49What kind of relationship is this?
06:51Number one
06:52Number two
06:53A dress protects
06:54It gives you protection
06:56Protection of the weather
06:58A dress hides your weaknesses
07:01It hides your shortcomings
07:03But a dress is such a strange thing
07:05That someone will find it bad and someone will like it
07:10A dress increases your personality
07:13What is the wonder of a dress?
07:15A dress adds beauty
07:17Beauty is not possible without a dress
07:20A dress plays a supportive role in beauty
07:23All the roles of a dress
07:25If this role is not there in a husband and wife relationship
07:28Then there is no relationship
07:30Don't you think that we have changed the role models in our relationships
07:37Over the period of time
07:39If we look at our role models
07:411400 years ago
07:43They are the ultimate role models for us
07:45Where a woman is doing everything on her husband
07:51In return
07:53A woman is being given respect
07:55Work is being done at home
07:57This is the fundamental principle
07:59Which is inspired by our western world
08:01Which is taking our lives forward
08:03What do you think?
08:05What do you think?
08:07How important is it to have the right role models?
08:10Pakistan has a thousand problems
08:12Poverty
08:14Unemployment
08:16Electricity
08:18Gas
08:20Social fabric
08:22When a daughter comes home
08:24Mother takes care of her
08:26Because of social fabric
08:28Brothers and sisters are taken care of
08:30Because of social fabric
08:32Father gets old
08:34Children take care of them
08:36Because of social fabric
08:38If a house of our family is left behind
08:40We support it
08:42Because of social fabric
08:44We share our food with our employees
08:46Because of social fabric
08:48Someone has a sister, someone has a brother
08:50You tease me
08:52That whoever comes, you say he is my brother
08:54Or elder brother or younger brother
08:56This is the grace of Allah
08:58Alhamdulillah
09:00Allah has given me such strong arms
09:02That day Sunil Manjh came
09:04I was surprised
09:06I had a car
09:08I had to decide
09:10Should I keep it or not
09:12He guided me
09:14He guided me
09:16Why did he guide you?
09:18Relationship is like this
09:20The one with whom you break bread
09:22You have a deep relationship
09:24The one with whom you break bread
09:26You should never be unfaithful to him
09:28Let's come to this relationship
09:30This relationship
09:32One is making bread
09:34One is providing flour
09:36Despite that there is no respect
09:38In relationships
09:40How to revive that respect?
09:42Remember one thing
09:44One more special thing
09:46This can be fixed anytime
09:48Its just the shift of your mind
09:50If both of you decide
09:52Both of you sit and decide
09:54That we have to fix
09:56Then 1000 problems will be fixed
09:58And if you want to ruin it, then no problem will be ruined
10:00I have seen many people
10:02Who suddenly decided to separate
10:04Both couples decided to separate
10:06Reason is that there is no compatibility
10:08They can't live together
10:10There are many people
10:12There are many problems
10:14There are many storms
10:16So in this relationship
10:18There is a blessing of Allah
10:20That when you want to fix it, it can be fixed
10:22Next is very important
10:24This relationship also requires some rules
10:26Which are silent rules
10:28Those rules don't have to be announced
10:30I remember
10:32One of your husband
10:34He is very close to me
10:36He told me
10:38That this relationship can't be run on the basis of fear
10:40This is a very big sentence
10:42I have quoted this in many places
10:44That the relationship in which there is fear
10:46The relationship in which there is check and balance
10:48The relationship in which there is fear
10:50That he might run away
10:52What kind of relationship is this?
10:54It is a relationship of trust
10:56There is complete trust in it
10:58Once you check
11:00Check everything
11:02Then you can trust
11:04You mentioned about Shiraz
11:06Believe me
11:08I always tell him
11:10We are thankful to Allah
11:12That we don't fight
11:14He doesn't give me a reason to fight
11:16But
11:18If I have a problem
11:20He puts his ego aside
11:22And says
11:24I love you more than my ego
11:26This is the same thing
11:28In a relationship
11:30The matter of ego is very important
11:32One more thing
11:34We have seen a lot of movies
11:36The love we learn from movies
11:38Is not the same as life
11:40There are ups and downs in life
11:42The movie has to end in 3 hours
11:44A boy comes
11:46A girl comes
11:48They have 4 eyes
11:50Then a love story starts
11:52Then a villain comes
11:54Then a crisis starts
11:56Then the boy manages the crisis
11:58In the end, they get married
12:00And the scene of the end comes
12:02Life is of 70 years
12:04The relation of marriage
12:06Starts from the age of 25
12:0830-35 years
12:10If the basis is not right
12:12If there is no clarity
12:14Remember this
12:16If your partner
12:18Is not like you
12:20Even if he is like you
12:22He doesn't understand
12:24Your emotions
12:26And he
12:28Doesn't have the temperament
12:30To support you
12:32A woman has 3 basic needs
12:34Believe me
12:36If someone fulfills these 3 needs
12:38What are those 3 needs?
12:401. Care
12:422. Emotions
12:44A person needs emotions
12:46Emotions are something
12:48You should try
12:503. Protection
12:52A strong person is with me
12:54Do you remember
12:56We were talking about this off camera
12:58A strong man is very important
13:00A strong man
13:02Means he should learn to manage
13:04He shouldn't fight with his mother
13:06But he should learn to manage
13:08Balance is very important
13:10All my brothers
13:12Who come and cry in front of me
13:14That I am spoiling my wife because of my sister
13:16My sister is spoiling because of my wife
13:18My wife is spoiling because of my mother
13:20I am fighting with my mother because of my wife
13:22These are all weak people
13:24A man should be strong
13:26A man should be strong
13:28Because of his determination
13:30Because of his decisions
13:32Because of his earning
13:34He should earn well
13:36Happiness solves a lot of problems
13:38A happy person solves a lot of problems
13:40Now
13:42There are 2 things
13:441. Care
13:462. Protection
13:483. Appreciation
13:52You have applied the best lipstick in the world
13:54The whole world has admitted
13:56But your husband didn't
13:58You should have thrown that lipstick in the trash
14:02You are looking like a queen
14:04You are the most beautiful woman in the world
14:06The whole world says wow
14:08But your life partner doesn't pay attention
14:10He doesn't know where he is
14:12So you left
14:14Communication has ruined a lot
14:18You don't know where you are sitting together
14:20You are sitting together
14:22You are not together
14:24I don't want to praise my husband
14:26Alhamdulillah
14:28But one thing
14:30To share with you
14:32When I go to the room
14:34Even if he is on the phone
14:36He will intentionally
14:38Turn off his phone
14:40And put it aside
14:42That now my wife is here
14:44I don't want to talk on the phone
14:46There are times when I am busy
14:48It's not like he is hiding
14:50I know all his passwords
14:52He says you keep it
14:54I want to give it
14:56This comfort is very important
14:58To cut the long story short
15:00The respect you give in life
15:02The way Shah sahab said
15:04The way you protect
15:06The way you feel for the other person
15:08And when you are getting married
15:10I understood one purpose
15:12And that too
15:14Aka-e-Durjahan Muhammad-e-Mustafa
15:16When Bibi Fatima Zahra
15:18Salaam-u-Alaiha
15:20The next day
15:22Imam Ali asked
15:24O Ali tell me
15:26How did you find my daughter?
15:28The answer given by me and your Imam
15:30Believe me
15:32That is the basic reason
15:34That you have to join this relationship
15:36Imam says
15:38In the obedience of Allah
15:40And in the worship of Allah
15:42I found Fatima helpful
15:44Allah hu Akbar
15:46In our life
15:48We do everything from our heart
15:50If we are
15:52Helping our husband
15:54In our work
15:56Or in our family
15:58Then that relationship
16:00Is the best
16:02May Allah give us the opportunity
16:04We are very eager to join this relationship
16:06May Allah give us the opportunity
16:08To fulfill this relationship
16:10Ameen
16:12Fatima Zahra will stay for a short time
16:14Will come back
16:16As-Salaam-Alaikum