Married at First Sight UK S9 Episode 17
Married at First Sight UK Season 9 Episode 17
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00:00:00There's a new couple coming tonight what previously
00:00:08Three new couples crashed the dinner party these two look
00:00:12Freaking good and the cracks in one of their marriages became clear to the group still really rejected. He's so shut down
00:00:19He's not giving me anything told us something probably the most special thing. She was about to use it as ammunition
00:00:24Oh, wow, you're not talking to me
00:00:27I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall
00:00:31See you then, but they weren't the only couple in crisis
00:00:35I struggle to relate to you as a person around your sister. There was more fragility there cried at the side of them
00:00:41I wouldn't say that that is me. So sorry Casper if that's not the answer that is needed
00:00:47Emma hasn't taken on board any changes. She has to make about herself. I'm running out of energy for it bullshit
00:00:53I need to see some sort of side and she might change the whole
00:00:57It's not just me
00:01:00Tonight
00:01:03The commitment ceremony marks a fresh chapter for some having the cuddles in bed kisses and it feels like a relationship now
00:01:11But spells a drastic turn of events for others. I'm not convinced. We have a future
00:01:17Things are down to the wire now. It's make or break. Yes, I can be more vulnerable. Well, that's not me
00:01:23And will one couples time in the experiment? I'm so sorry. You don't believe me
00:01:28I'm full of resentment be over before it's barely begun. Can you accept Hannah's apology?
00:01:47Let me get that
00:01:53It does feel nice to be going into a commitment ceremony with me and you in a better place
00:01:57I do feel like the cuddling and kissing
00:02:01Except as helped us get a bit closer as well on it. Yeah, it's been nice
00:02:06It feels like a relationship now rather than just friends. Oh, yeah
00:02:13There's obviously other couples that are not getting on I felt a little bit guilty
00:02:17Yeah, I know. I did not expect this to be though. This is a easy peasy
00:02:21Lemon squeezer
00:02:29The dinner party was obviously a rollercoaster
00:02:31and it did feel a little bit like we're moving forward but then I've not seen Steven since
00:02:35We were at the dinner party and I was glancing at him and I'm like I am attracted to you
00:02:38Like I do fancy you like there is something there. I'm ready to move forward. Like I want to speak to the experts today
00:02:44Hopefully we can pull this back
00:02:47The one thing that I've been struggling with ever since the honeymoon is after an argument that we had I
00:02:53Didn't have a problem with the dinner. I wanted to change it to suit our your needs afterwards
00:02:57You've come away and gone at least I got my way
00:03:00It's awful that comment mate not lying. You've just said to me. We're not gonna say certain things
00:03:04We've sent you on and off and you've just you didn't say it
00:03:06Do you want to talk about all the shit we've said off camera then should I do it to you?
00:03:09Don't you dare go down that route?
00:03:17There was a comment Hannah was gonna make that told her in confidence off-camera about something really personal to me in my life
00:03:22And I think she was going to use it as ammunition
00:03:25So I just don't think I can trust her at this point, which is why I'm really struggling with this marriage
00:03:35Last night didn't end. Well, I haven't spoken to Casper since he left the dinner table
00:03:41I thought actually we'd had a good dinner party
00:03:44It was the honesty box that made him shift and made him retreat
00:03:49Don't worry about the girls. That's what I am worried about Emma and Casper's dinner party clash
00:03:55Came off the back of a difficult in-laws week. What's the crack?
00:04:00Doesn't fancy me what I've never fancied curvy women
00:04:05That's not a nice thing to say
00:04:07And I got really angry and I just needed to say no. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, you can't say that
00:04:14I
00:04:16Can do so much
00:04:18But at some point I do have to look at myself and see what I can get out of this
00:04:25During the honesty box last night. I answered the question
00:04:29What did I need from her to get the marriage back on track and I asked for her to show some more fragility
00:04:34Which she said that's not gonna happen
00:04:36The commitment certainly is not gonna be the easiest conversation I've ever had
00:04:39I don't think she has it in her to accept that. She could possibly be part of the reason we're struggling
00:04:51Let me get that
00:04:55Do you start shop I'll bring it in then
00:05:00You'll like this play there this is something for us
00:05:09It's a book on sign language
00:05:13It's coming Tom so we can learn together
00:05:16It's a nice idea
00:05:19To learn some sign language together and there's something we can teach each other
00:05:24Yeah, it's very nice of us
00:05:32Going into the commitment ceremony today, I wouldn't say that we're in a great place
00:05:37But I'm not going in throwing in the towel
00:05:42My biggest concern is the moods, you know
00:05:46It's been that roller coaster up down up down up down
00:05:51How long could you carry on doing?
00:05:54Wilson and I've had quite a rocky week. I would prefer to go home because this week is my daughter's birthday
00:06:03We both agreed that we would write stay and at the commitment ceremony
00:06:07Because he said he wants the expert advice. Thank you
00:06:11I have told Orson that I wouldn't leave until he was ready to leave
00:06:14I am willing to sacrifice my daughter's birthday to show integrity
00:06:22Probably make or break this next week
00:06:28Holly and Alex last night
00:06:29I don't know what was going on, but she was dead tearful and he didn't really want to speak
00:06:33Yeah, it was really hard seeing how sad like that because she is the life and soul of the group
00:06:39Oh, it's gonna be spacey at the commitment ceremony today
00:06:55Don't have a conversation
00:07:00Obviously we have had a really good week
00:07:02but I
00:07:04Want to be able to talk to my partner and tell him when something pisses me off
00:07:07But I feel like sometimes can't be like that with you
00:07:11Why because of how confrontational it gets when we disagree to agree?
00:07:16I'm not an unapproachable person if you come at me respectfully, you're gonna get respect back
00:07:21If you come at me hostile, you're gonna get hostility. I didn't come at you hostile. That's not no
00:07:26I feel a bit shit
00:07:27I feel like we need to have a chat and you stormed off on me when I tried to speak to you when we
00:07:32Made a deal that we'd listen to each other and in that moment you show me that you didn't want to hear it
00:07:37I got good energies from you
00:07:40Alex's interest in new bride Amy at last night's dinner party
00:07:46Sparked insecurities in Holly
00:07:52But attempts to raise this with him
00:07:56To me led to a fresh round of conflict for the couple
00:08:01Are you joking me?
00:08:04And I'm not being funny Alex I'm sat at that dinner party last night
00:08:08There's new couples come in which has already made me anxious like I don't like change really
00:08:12Then you spent half the night talking to Amy way back to me
00:08:15How do you think that made me feel if you feel that way address it?
00:08:19This is why I'm telling you I can't dress it if you I tried to be fine with you and you was being frosty
00:08:24I wasn't being frosty. I said are we gonna speak when we get back and you was like
00:08:28Yeah
00:08:30In the process you'd rather stand and speak to Amy than try and sort things out with your wife
00:08:34I feel some way I tell you I'm gonna hold it in you just like to act like you're cool
00:08:38And you're not big Holly only comes out when there's cameras around and there's people around
00:08:41Because you don't listen to me if I start raising my voice. It's gonna be a madness
00:08:45This is why I can't come from you. It's gonna be a madness you wanna
00:08:49I want to say it's gonna be a man. I'm gonna do something. I'm not your ex
00:08:52Don't try and project that onto me
00:08:56You fake how am I fake because when we are behind closed doors, you're not saying nothing and
00:09:14You rude arrogant and you fucking think you're sick and you're not you think you're sick as well. I'm not a confrontational person
00:09:20I don't like it. I don't like this fucking arguing. It's awful
00:09:25There's no need for anything to get confrontational
00:09:28You chose to do it in front of people and in front of cameras make a big scene. Oh, Holly's upset. Oh
00:09:34Holly and Alex have gone for a chat. It's embarrassing
00:09:37So I'm just like, oh, yeah, she's doing this for the people and for the cameras which comes across as not genuine
00:09:44Nothing left to say man
00:09:46Nothing left to say
00:09:51This whole situation has made me question Holly's integrity because she's saying one thing to me behind closed doors
00:09:56Then we get in front of a group and it's another story
00:09:59Right now I feel like I don't really know who the real Holly is
00:10:21You
00:10:33Hello and welcome to your third commitment ceremony
00:10:38To our three new couples welcome
00:10:41To truly benefit from our support. You need to be as honest and open as possible on this couch
00:10:48For the rest of you this commitment ceremony is the halfway mark
00:10:53It's time for us and for you to take a long hard look at your marriages to decide
00:10:59Whether or not they have what it takes to go the distance
00:11:05Let's get started
00:11:08Amy and Luke to the couch, please
00:11:11Welcome aboard. Thank you very much. Gosh, you two must feel like you've been thrown in the deep end
00:11:16Do we just?
00:11:18Why don't we start with the wedding? What were your first impressions Amy? I asked for a 12 out of 10 and I got one
00:11:26Okay, what about you Luke
00:11:28You know, I did ask for a Disney princess and here she is. She looks like the million dollars. She's absolutely gorgeous
00:11:35The honeymoon was amazing. I mean, I don't say this lightly, but that was the best
00:11:38Moment in my life Wow to be in the Bahamas. I felt like a James Bond villain. I
00:11:45Had the best time of my life
00:11:47It was amazing, wasn't it?
00:11:49He just supported me throughout it and made me feel really at ease and really respect my boundaries
00:11:55I'm going at a very slow pace and he understands that I'm not the type of person that he thinks I am
00:12:01I'm going at a very slow pace and he understands that so I really appreciate it
00:12:06Initially, I called her bluff because I thought yeah, right two days and I work my magic, but
00:12:15But she's why needs she's not like any
00:12:17Other woman that will fall for my cheesy shenanigans. She's a woman of principle and that's what I need
00:12:24She's got such a pure heart. I
00:12:28Really want to make this work. I'm so starstruck by you Amy
00:12:33Amy, how do you feel when Luke compliments you I hate compliments
00:12:39They just make me feel really awkward and that's what I see there is a strong connection between the two of you
00:12:46But maybe it's about learning
00:12:48What does it for the other person as well because sometimes if you compliment someone and that's not how they like to experience love
00:12:57It can make them repel a little bit
00:13:00Perhaps I don't have to compliment her every time I do it because I genuinely
00:13:04It's nice to wake up to someone looking like you have to see her without makeup
00:13:07It's nice to wake up even as you're talking there
00:13:10There's lots of compliments that you're saying and what I'm noticing is that Amy looks uncomfortable every time you compliment her
00:13:15I just think to get the most out of this relationship. It's about understanding what each other's love languages are
00:13:23That the fact that you're already talking about these kind of awkward things is such a positive thing
00:13:28Keep letting each other know what those boundaries are and keep having fun. I think we're gonna go to the decision
00:13:36Amy start with you. I
00:13:39Feel like me and Luke was so different, but we fill in each of those gaps
00:13:44He's like the light in my dark sort of thing. So I have decided to stay
00:13:53Luke over to you. I'm so glad that I've got Amy by my side to help me in this journey
00:13:59So absolutely, I want to stay
00:14:05Thank you so much and enjoy your first week living together, thank you
00:14:09I
00:14:21Next up on the couch we have Emma and Casper
00:14:34Welcome back. Welcome back
00:14:37So you've just had in-laws week, how was it Casper?
00:14:44I'm gonna be honest
00:14:46Soon as I knew that I was going to be bringing up the honeymoon again apprehension who started to creep back in again
00:14:51And was that apprehension based on those feelings of shame? Yeah, but yeah reliving something that you're not proud of
00:14:59continuously
00:15:01It's hard, you know, it's not something you want to do. I would say there wasn't a whole lot of positive
00:15:06about me
00:15:08Why do you think that was they only got the snapshot but the first week and nothing since the first week I think
00:15:15There wasn't a whole lot of but he's tried to change anything, okay?
00:15:20There needs to be a contract between you that you can leave what happened on the honeymoon behind you
00:15:26Because it sounds like for you Casper. It's come up again this week and it's pretty much ruined the experience. It was a 10-second
00:15:33Part of a three-week process
00:15:35I'm not proud of it. But if you're consistently going and there is again that thing that makes me feel shame
00:15:42It's just dragging me down every time
00:15:44Like no, I'm bored of it. I'm over it. You know, let's draw a line under it. Everything about that is done now
00:15:51It doesn't need to be brought up again
00:15:54No, I want to draw a line under it. I don't think I'm that person. Yeah, you're saying you're not that person. Yeah
00:16:00Can you both agree yeah to leave it behind yeah
00:16:06Okay
00:16:07Last night during the honesty box you talked about seeing a little of her fragility
00:16:12I think was the word that you used and you'd like to see more of that. Yeah, I said I liked you around your friends
00:16:17You were more fragile. Yeah, and I something I could relate to more and Emma went that's just around my friends
00:16:23But really I'm just going to be Emma and that's what I got out of that response was I've asked for something
00:16:29She's got no. No, I'm gonna be me
00:16:32What am I working with
00:16:34If Emma is just Emma and what we see that just confidence positive
00:16:39I'm gonna have a fabulous day every day. No matter what. I can't see how I'm ever gonna match that
00:16:45Also, I find it false. I
00:16:48Feel like I've been really open in this and she seems to me that Emma's walls
00:16:53So what I don't feel any emotions
00:16:56That I could relate to that was the hardest day I'd had and
00:17:00For Casper to say he only really likes that side of me. Yes, I can be more vulnerable
00:17:06Well, that's not me
00:17:11You're really just showing one part of yourself
00:17:14And I think what Casper's tapping into here is there's a vulnerable side or a softer side of you that you're still protecting
00:17:21Drop some of those walls
00:17:24Because we all have walls in different ways
00:17:26You have a very positive and very sales like way of showing the world that you're okay
00:17:32But my sense is that means that no one's ever really going to get close to you
00:17:40Emma don't take this the wrong way. Okay, it's all love. Have you ever heard of the term toxic positivity?
00:17:48I've been told I have it
00:17:50You're the first person to laugh
00:17:55What was most telling was last night you have your husband being emotional
00:18:02Telling you the moment that he felt connected to you and I thought
00:18:07You know what? Emma needs to learn. She needs to learn to just sit in the emotion. Yeah
00:18:13If you can go back and redo last night, what would you do? He's just
00:18:17Said that that was a moment. What could you do?
00:18:20Say thank you. I listen I hear no, it's not funny
00:18:26What you could do is you could affirm him you could affirm that feeling yeah, I'm here with you right now, right?
00:18:32I'm gonna sit in this moment with you
00:18:34This is the work that you could do. Yeah, it's going to make you better in all aspects of your life
00:18:41Right, but if you want to grow you've got to learn to sit and feel that emotion
00:18:46What I don't want Emma is for you to beat yourself up about being positive
00:18:51Yeah, it's just recognizing the times when actually it's okay to be vulnerable and you will still be loved in the same way. Yeah
00:18:59Things are down to the wire now with the two of you. It's make or break
00:19:04If you are to stay for another week together
00:19:07We're gonna need to see some real change from both of you
00:19:11Okay, Casper, let's go to you what's your decision I
00:19:19Thought long and hard about it. It's not been easy
00:19:25But we're about halfway through this process
00:19:29I'm not happy and I decided that the best thing for me to do would be to leave
00:19:42Okay
00:19:46And to you Emma
00:19:51I've been flitting between the two
00:19:54the last
00:19:56three days
00:19:58We came to the dinner party last night
00:20:00And we had a nice night did up until the honesty box came out
00:20:07And I woke up this morning
00:20:09Conflicted again, I
00:20:12Wanted to ask you guys what I can do to improve
00:20:17And I want to give you the opportunity to say that I can change
00:20:32Well as you both know if one partner says stay and the other says leave
00:20:36You will both stay for another week to continue to work on the relationship
00:20:44How does that sit with you Casper
00:20:46You
00:21:02You will both stay for another week to continue to work on the relationship
00:21:10How does that sit with you Casper
00:21:17I
00:21:22Always give everything 100% I work hard everything I do so and I will listen I will take feedback on board
00:21:31We need to see
00:21:32Not just positive Emma. Yeah, but the whole of Emma. I hear you. I do. Thank you. Thank you so much
00:21:40Thank you
00:21:41Thank you
00:21:46You next up on the couch Ross and Sasha
00:22:00Welcome hi
00:22:03So, can we talk about in laws week, how was it?
00:22:06All I wanted to do was see my dad and just be like you're gonna be so happy with you
00:22:10I've ended up with like I feel like Ross is every dad's dream partner for the daughter
00:22:16Obviously, I went to the gym with them dinner
00:22:24It was good so then Ross, how does it feel to have her father's approval? Oh
00:22:30It's amazing feeling because I don't know how close them to uh, I know
00:22:35My job to protect enough and I said everything that I need to stay to a dad and it made him happy start
00:22:41Yeah, it's fun amazing. Okay, this is good in laws week was good
00:22:46So I'm curious though. Is there anything that you reflected on that? You like to now come and tell us I feel like Ross does
00:22:52So much for me does all these little romantic things to like make my day
00:22:56And I just wanted to know what would give him butterflies when I ask him these things. He's like, are you doing great now?
00:23:06It might just be because I meet his main needs which a communication and support but what would like make him think oh god
00:23:14That was lovely when Sasha did that. Yeah, do you know what I mean? Guess what you have the opportunity to ask him right?
00:23:23What could all you do on a day that would give you butterflies or make you happy
00:23:29They won't do it to try and make me both fine
00:23:34She don't know because I'm always a happy stay
00:23:38I've a thought here part of what Ross is telling you which is incredibly
00:23:45Romantic is he saying Sasha you're enough. She's enough. Yeah
00:23:56But no you can tell you can tell you see you are enough, all right, but I have no doubt that he feels love
00:24:03He has told me
00:24:14Yeah, I mean I say out loud if I have to
00:24:30Yes, that's what we're here for I lost bench job I
00:24:34Just appreciate so much. So sweet
00:24:38blush, you know
00:24:42Can we go to a decision
00:24:44So we've got to that love mark now. I
00:24:47Was hoping I'd find it's a bit mad that I actually have and I've got this dream man
00:24:53and I'm really proud of us and
00:24:56Yes, so I said
00:24:59Stay
00:25:06When I first I knew gonna be the one
00:25:09This women the family's made us longer I should study
00:25:21Thank you look forward to seeing you next week, thank you so much
00:25:39Next up to the couch Holly and Alex
00:25:51Hey guys, hi. Hello. We love you to see the two of you
00:25:56So it was quite a dramatic dinner party last night. I
00:26:01mean
00:26:02Coming into the dinner party. We had a good week prior to that. Yeah, everything was sweet
00:26:08There wasn't any inkling in my mind that something was up with Holly
00:26:16Holly can you maybe see Alex point a few that actually he goes into a dinner party and that it can feel quite
00:26:23Blindsided by the fact that you're mentioning how you feel when he thinks that you're actually quite good
00:26:29for me
00:26:31In past relationships when there's been confrontation
00:26:34I've always felt more secure in an open environment when there's other people there just because it makes me feel protected
00:26:42When me and Alex have had arguments before they do get very confrontational
00:26:47That's probably why I do bring things to the dinner party because I feel as it's a safe space for me
00:26:52There's speaking in private and then there's the dinner party. Yeah where there's like 20 people
00:26:58Everybody's gonna see us and then it's like, oh they're having issues. It's like
00:27:03At the end of the day if I feel like I need to speak to my husband
00:27:06Then I should be able to do that without there being a problem
00:27:08You know, it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks why we're talking but why wait until the dinner party where there's 20 people when?
00:27:16We've been around
00:27:18company two three people
00:27:21And even when we did come you came away from the 20 people so we were still alone in the end
00:27:26Anyway, so what do you make of that then?
00:27:30You want to show
00:27:36You're letting it out at the most embarrassing of times at dinner parties
00:27:45It's not adding up to me this is some bullshit
00:27:49I
00:27:56Think because the two of you have committed to
00:27:59Working on managing conflict. I would definitely praise you Holly that you took on that advice. You spoke in a calm manner
00:28:07But I think what happens sometimes in this dynamic is that an argument that could be squashed in five seconds seems to escalate
00:28:16It's stupidness and we even spoke and I said I'm asking you to respect me
00:28:22And my decision that I don't want to speak right now
00:28:25but you pushed and pushed and pushed I
00:28:29Heard Alex, but for me, I'm a panicker. So
00:28:32Instantly I was like, I don't want to go to bed on an argument
00:28:36Like I just want to put it to bed and I want to saw it
00:28:38We have been really good Alex. I this week we have laughed with giggled
00:28:46Sometimes I want to be like
00:28:47Just give it up. Do you know I mean like but I can't do that because I know it'll just go
00:28:53And I really don't want that
00:28:57Guys let's look at how we can move forward with this situation
00:29:01something happens when
00:29:04Conflict arises, but it's how it's said
00:29:07It's all the other body language that you may not be aware of that makes the other person feel like oh my gosh
00:29:13We're gonna go into combat here again
00:29:15There's a perception of me. I can't help the way I look I can't hug with my face expression is and this can't help your facial
00:29:21Expression that's behavior
00:29:24It's just my face. It just does what it does Alex you do it
00:29:28Your brain controls your face and I I do wonder if this could be one of the missing pieces for you is
00:29:33Not being aware of the nonverbal communication that comes across
00:29:37I noticed that if you disagree with something even something we're saying your face is all
00:29:41Screwed up and you're looking angry and you're doing something with your chest you might not be aware of this
00:29:46But only 7% of your communication is the words
00:29:50Yeah
00:29:5193% comes across nonverbally and I think there could be something here for you in terms of just becoming a bit more aware of it
00:29:57and the impact on Holly definitely I
00:30:00think I focus so much on the verbal communication because look at me like if I start raising my voice it just
00:30:07Automatically comes across
00:30:08Confrontational aggressive intimidating all this kind of stuff. So I put such an emphasis on making sure I'm not raising my voice
00:30:15That maybe I'm not paying attention to the nonverbal communications. That's growth what we're talking about there
00:30:21But you have to work on the conflict resolution because I do feel like you guys have something good here
00:30:27If you can just work on the conflict
00:30:29So let's go to the decisions
00:30:34Holly if we can start with you
00:30:37I
00:30:39Feel like since the last commitment ceremony we have worked on the boundaries
00:30:43So that is a really good start for me that showing that we can do it
00:30:49For me it's about learning to address things because I know how when we argue it just goes fools
00:30:59But
00:31:00You make me feel beautiful every day
00:31:03You make sure I'm always fed and watered you make me a brew every morning and you know
00:31:09They are the qualities that I love about you
00:31:12Yeah, I have chose to stay
00:31:20And over to you Alex
00:31:33When me and Holly are good, we're very good. I'm just tired of going over the same thing
00:31:44I've been blindsided so many times. The trust isn't there for me
00:31:48I
00:32:01Been blindsided so many times the trust isn't there for me
00:32:10Tired of it
00:32:12Because it's just communication
00:32:15If we can just get this part right then
00:32:20It'll be amazing, you know
00:32:23When Holly's happy, there's nobody I'd rather be around
00:32:26I'm having fun when we're not at each other's throat
00:32:30So for that reason I've chosen to stay
00:32:34If
00:32:40You guys could make this work, but I think this could be a beautiful relationship genuinely, thank you guys
00:32:58Okay, next up to the couch we have Ryan and Shannon
00:33:05You
00:33:07Hello
00:33:09Welcome
00:33:10Love you to see the two of you together. So you've had your wedding. Tell me about your first impressions
00:33:18She was my type 20
00:33:20The initial sexual attraction has to be there and obviously when I look up it's obviously that
00:33:26Personality is good. She's got manners. What more could I ask for though? And Shannon?
00:33:31What was your first impression when you when you met Ryan? I thought he was a pretty boy
00:33:36Obviously, he's like ridiculously handsome
00:33:38I'm not used to having somebody that's so attractive
00:33:41So it has taken me a little bit to get used to
00:33:44Well, I said to Shannon I said listen, you don't need to be worried about anything
00:33:47I will not get a wondering eye and that will be me. I've only got eyes for her anyway, and that's that
00:33:54I mean even just looking at the two of you here. I feel like there's a real connection here
00:33:58The body language is really powerful. You look super comfortable in each other's presence
00:34:05Would you say physical intimacy is in the place that it needs to be?
00:34:10What happens behind closed doors will stay behind closed doors
00:34:13I love that as a response, but obviously I'm trained in looking at body language. I'll just smile
00:34:20She knows
00:34:22And I know it's quite early on in the experiment for the two of you
00:34:26But what would you say are maybe some of the bumps that you've found that's happened in the relationship from my situation?
00:34:33It's been perfect with Shannon. So and we have a lot to relate to as well. Obviously, I've had cancer twice a dad passed away
00:34:40With cancer I've supported her on that. Yeah, there was a night on the honeymoon that I got like pretty upset
00:34:46When I was bawling my eyes out and like he gave me like a space to feel comfortable
00:34:52Opening up about it and being emotional and I've never really been like that with anyone
00:34:56I think we like proper bonded that night didn't we? 100% you know, I've got you
00:35:01You guys have seen some interesting things in life at quite a young age
00:35:05So maybe it's given you a different perspective, but maybe helped you to also appreciate each other so much more as well and have fun
00:35:13Yeah, we have so much fun together
00:35:15Life's too short. You're here once and I think I just want to be happy and enjoy my time
00:35:20I will experience it with someone and I've got Shannon now and I hope this can continue
00:35:26I really love this connection. So I'm really happy to see what's developing here, which is fabulous
00:35:33So now it's time for the decisions Shannon. Would you like to start? I mean, I don't think I need to say a whole lot
00:35:40I think it's very obvious
00:35:45Ryan what's your decision? Yeah, I've came here and to be honest, I didn't think I'd get the person that I've got
00:35:57Well Ryan Shannon, we hope that you go from strength to strength, thank you Paul. Thank you. Well, thank you
00:36:10Next up
00:36:15Polly and Adam
00:36:18I
00:36:22Love you two
00:36:24Couple dressing. Yeah
00:36:29So last week on the couch here one of the big topics for you two was intimacy
00:36:34It was interesting to hear you Adam
00:36:36Announced to the group that the two of you are now officially out of the friendzone. Yeah
00:36:44Yes, we're fully supportive of the sex
00:36:48I've
00:36:50Realized I was being stubborn. I was stuck on the type thing and I was probably giving Polly
00:36:5670%
00:36:57Now I'm having little cuddles in bed kisses and it feels like a relationship now, don't it? Yeah, what's different for you this week?
00:37:03I think because I felt like there was like that spark missing
00:37:07I was just plodding along hoping it was gonna come
00:37:10But because obviously we're not being intimate and kissing and cuddling and stuff that maybe would never come
00:37:16So I feel like now I'm giving it 100% and it don't feel like I'm living with my best friend anymore
00:37:21Okay, and how's it been for you? Polly really good. Yeah, I feel like I've got what I've needed from Adam
00:37:28So it sounds like you've made this great leap from friends to
00:37:33sexual partners
00:37:35I'm interested in this bit in the middle the emotional intimacy in that that connection that is beyond friendship
00:37:41Can you tell me a bit about how that's developed?
00:37:43I feel like because the intimacy side of it has now come you are now more vulnerable with someone
00:37:49I do feel like it brought us closer
00:37:52So I feel like it's a good step in the right direction
00:37:55And I have realized that I was the problem because I wasn't letting Polly in
00:38:00Polly if you were to be really honest with yourself now, what would you say you need from Adam?
00:38:05I genuinely just more PDA
00:38:09to be
00:38:10Almost proud that he's with me and that he doesn't care and that he's secure enough in himself that it's not just for us
00:38:16Joe, I mean your sense of
00:38:19Security and self-esteem is very much tied up in the way other people see the two of you as a couple
00:38:26So if receiving PDA from your partner, does that help you to feel a bit more secure in the relationship?
00:38:32Yeah, I would definitely say it's a sense of security for me. I think it's a sense of
00:38:37Reassurance for me as well because I've always been made to feel so unsure so that comes from me what's missing
00:38:44Come and give me a kiss when I'm doing something or be more touchy-feely with me more compliments. I mean just more
00:38:52It's more of everything
00:38:54Adam you're sitting here nodding and agreeing
00:38:58Do you really understand what needs to change here?
00:39:01I need to just give Polly more just even just a little things because I know the little things mean a lot to Polly
00:39:07I could tell like how
00:39:09Polly's mood change just from having a little cuddle a little kiss. This is so out of my comfort zone
00:39:15It's new it's completely new and I want to learn and I want to be better good on you
00:39:21All right, you guys we're gonna go to the decision Polly we'll start with you, please
00:39:26We have had a really good week it has been really insightful and really helpful for both of us I think
00:39:33So I have chosen to stay
00:39:40This probably the best week we've had I feel like we've got closer and
00:39:46I'm excited to see what happens from here. So
00:39:50I'll put stay as well
00:39:52All right, you two will keep listening to each other keep asking for what you need and keep doing the sex
00:40:08Next up Rochelle and Alston
00:40:22So lovely to see the two of you
00:40:25Talk me through how your week has been
00:40:29It's been a little bit up and down I would say
00:40:32We had our first argument
00:40:35Our arguments stem from something that came out a couple days after the wedding that he's an actor
00:40:40So I'm kind of like so are you playing a role here? Are we here for different reasons?
00:40:44And so I brought that up, but I didn't really get anything back
00:40:49Now, of course, we know
00:40:50Alston isn't an actor. That's a hobby. He's an engineer
00:40:55But it feels like it kind of brought up something in you around trust. Oh, yeah, definitely definitely
00:41:00But when I tried to address it
00:41:03Shut down
00:41:04So nothing progresses
00:41:09You know, I have a question there was a comment that you made Rochelle last night
00:41:13It's just been way and weighing on me weighing on me
00:41:17You were asked is
00:41:19Orson the man that you need? Okay, and do you remember you said no
00:41:24You essentially said he wasn't masculine enough. I
00:41:29Took it fucking personal. I really did for a man. That's pretty cutthroat, right?
00:41:36For me a strong masculine man is somebody who has his own mind
00:41:41Masculinity is leadership and I just don't feel that I'm getting that right now
00:41:47I'm not sure if I could trust Orson to lead me
00:41:53But is there space within a relationship to have that discussion but I need to get some value to I
00:42:01Need to learn something as well
00:42:03I've just been raising my child for the last 20 years
00:42:06I don't need to be another teacher and lead like can there be some balance here?
00:42:11I'm not convinced. We have a future
00:42:29I'm not convinced. We have a future
00:42:40Have you really not been able to learn anything from Orson at all
00:42:47Also, not can you answer that because I actually can't think of anything it's your question I can't think of anything
00:42:56Awesome what does it feel like to hear Rochelle say that she has learned nothing from you?
00:43:03It doesn't feel good
00:43:06The
00:43:07Switch for me if I'm being totally like transparent and honest
00:43:12We decided to have a deep conversation because it was like right. We never had that. Let's let's have a deep conversation
00:43:19And she said like awesome. You don't really stimulate me mentally
00:43:24So yeah, it was he was a tough fucking week
00:43:26I can't lie if I'm being totally honest feel something in me that just maybe switched off a little bit
00:43:33I didn't know that that I mean this is the first I'm hearing that me saying that made him switch off
00:43:39Then you hadn't brought that up
00:43:42One thing that we're seeing I think tonight is that the two of you do need to
00:43:48Communicate more clearly and openly with one another you ask your partner. What are you feeling in this moment?
00:43:54How can I help you? How can I support you more? Yes, I agree
00:43:59Okay, so let's go to decisions
00:44:02Should we start with Rochelle, okay?
00:44:09I definitely
00:44:11knew I was committing to the process we did speak about whether we should leave and
00:44:18Also said that he would like to have the experts advice and he felt it was too soon
00:44:23so for that reason I
00:44:26wrote staying
00:44:32Also, what's your decision?
00:44:36If I walked away from this experiment not understanding why we're clashing
00:44:43Can we resolve stuff? I can't just leave until I know otherwise. I'll be doing myself an injustice so
00:44:50And that note I've decided to stay
00:44:53Hey
00:44:59Hey guys, so another week of a lot more work a lot more openness and good effective communication
00:45:07There's things that I like in Rochelle. Hence the reason why I'm still standing here. I
00:45:12Think there's hope because this is just something there. Can we both?
00:45:18find that something I
00:45:21I don't know. I
00:45:25Do feel a little bit irritated with Orson
00:45:28He said he wanted to stay and then he gets on the sofa tonight and starts bringing up all this stuff that he'd never mentioned
00:45:34to me I
00:45:35Stayed in the process when he knew I didn't want to and I sacrificed my daughter's birthday for that cretin
00:45:41So definitely gonna let him know how I feel
00:45:47Next up on the couch
00:45:49Kieran and Christina. Yeah
00:45:55Hey
00:45:57How are you both?
00:45:58brilliant
00:45:59Brilliantly. Okay. So was in last week who came to visit you?
00:46:03My mom came to visit me and my best friend came to visit me. All right now
00:46:09What did best friend have to say about our boy Kieran? Oh
00:46:13She
00:46:14Absolutely loved him. Oh
00:46:16She cared about was just seeing me happy and she was like I haven't seen you this happy and so long
00:46:24This is good. So what did mom think of?
00:46:27Steena, oh me little mom loves loves Christina a bit
00:46:30She knew what the wedding that we were a really good match and she loved the energy the wedding
00:46:35Was just nice for me mom to say that I had continued on throughout and yeah
00:46:38She's just really happy to say we're both really happy and happy to say our son happy. Of course. Yeah, absolutely
00:46:45So every week getting better, okay
00:46:47How strong are your emotions towards each other today?
00:46:52Very strong. I agree. I care about Christina a lot and when she feels something I feel it as well
00:47:00And I feel in terms of emotion. We'll both feel each other the same way. Mm-hmm. I agree
00:47:06All right, this is good so you don't even need us anymore then I
00:47:13Appreciate that the only thing was that I'm very very touchy feely
00:47:22But we literally haven't and I really hope you don't mind me no, no serious
00:47:25but we literally haven't been able to kiss or like probably be intimate since the
00:47:31honeymoon
00:47:33For another head on me lip like
00:47:39But you wanted to
00:47:55Keep looking at it every day. I'm like, right. Yeah, it's going it's really good. It's really good. It's allowed it to have a bit more
00:48:01Emotional emotional connection. Yeah, which is really
00:48:05Yeah, which is really benefited us. It's been a bit of a blessing in disguise. I think I love it
00:48:10I love it. You're the optimist here the optimist. Yeah
00:48:13All right. Can we go to a decision? Yeah. Okay, Karen you go first
00:48:18Every week we get stronger and stronger
00:48:21And I'm really proud of everything that we're doing together
00:48:25And I'm really excited to see what the next few weeks are gonna bring and you are incredible
00:48:30For that reason I have wrought steel
00:48:39This was a really easy one
00:48:40I'm really happy like with how far we've come and I am just looking forward to having more fun with you
00:48:48So I'm going to stay
00:48:55Yeah, this is really good we love the affection
00:48:57And I love how you both look at each other in the eyes when you're referring to each other
00:49:01That's affirming your partner right there. So continue to continue and hopefully the cold sore goes down
00:49:10Thank you so much
00:49:12Thank you
00:49:24Next up to the couch Nathan and Lacey
00:49:33Hey guys
00:49:35Hello
00:49:36How has the last week been for the two of you been good it's been good had a Lacey's and mum and sister around this
00:49:43week
00:49:44Put my foot in it a little bit with some banner. I
00:49:48Did say tread careful my mum and sister. They're very sensitive and Nathan. What did you say?
00:49:55I do this thing with lace where like if I cook or something
00:49:57I'll say I'm sorry about presentations bit like bottom bin in it that bottom of the bean. Yeah, I say bottom bin
00:50:03But yeah, so I was like I can't eat this but like bottom bin in it here
00:50:07and I left
00:50:10Didn't realize this is mum can take banner even though he told me because they're so similar with their mannerisms
00:50:16I thought I just drop it in there. But yeah, I know emotions completely changed. She did get upset. Yeah
00:50:22Yeah, obviously it was literally the second time. They've met
00:50:25Too much. Yeah. Yeah, I did forget. Yeah, maybe you didn't sort of read the room
00:50:31I thought fuck cuz obviously their opinion means so much to me
00:50:36So I was a bit gutted and I did want the ground to swallow me up
00:50:39And I can see how much it meant to both of you to impress your family
00:50:44I said it was probably nerves and he was trying to humor you because he was nervous
00:50:48I said he's not like that and they listened to me and I just loved the fact that they was like
00:50:53We're not gonna judge him on this. I was like, please don't
00:50:57Just don't this cooking food
00:51:00Never again
00:51:02No one in that family, no way it's all right dodgy filter I
00:51:11Think it's very clear to see that you guys in a really good place and
00:51:15Yesterday at the dinner party Nathan you said that you were falling for Lacey
00:51:19You know, I definitely do have a lot of love for Lacey and I definitely can see that growing. Yeah
00:51:26Would you say that emotionally you're opening up more
00:51:29Yeah
00:51:30Speaking in front of loads of people especially people that I knew and you don't necessarily know it was just a bit awkward, you know
00:51:36Yeah, no, if that's what she wanted. Yeah, he gave me exactly what I wanted to hear
00:51:40You know, it's always such a pleasure to have the two of you
00:51:43On the couch because you can really see the progress and dare I say the love developing between the two of you. Yeah
00:51:50Let's go to a decision. So Nathan if we can start with you, I'm learning more and more about myself
00:51:56And yeah looking forward to what's more to come like, you know
00:52:01For that reason I'm gonna stay
00:52:08And Lacey what's your decision very happy do fall I found my person it's a bit cream sorry
00:52:15So I said stay baby
00:52:17I can't wait to see how you guys develop next week. So good luck
00:52:34Love you, too
00:52:38And last up on the couch we have Hannah and Steven
00:52:48Right, hey guys gonna be explosive
00:52:53Welcome
00:52:54Okay. So this body language right here
00:52:58This is incredibly frosty. I mean you can't sit further apart
00:53:03So where did it go wrong? He needs to answer that
00:53:09The first couple of days on the moon were great
00:53:13and
00:53:14then we had a
00:53:16Massive blow up because I just spoke my truth. What was your truth? It was the Hannah show
00:53:25And then during the argument
00:53:28Hannah was gonna use something against me. I told her in confidence, which was really close to my heart
00:53:33They just still won't go into because it's so personal
00:53:36Hannah shouted back at me saying I thought we weren't gonna talk about things that we spoke about behind closed doors
00:53:42So if you want to talk about things that have been said in confidence, why don't we?
00:53:46Then she stopped
00:53:48Although she said she wasn't gonna use it what she was gonna say isn't fucking ammunition
00:53:54I didn't say it and I respect you wasn't gonna say it. I was never gonna say it
00:53:58I respect you didn't say it, but you know, believe me
00:54:02Correct, even that thought
00:54:05Come into your head to use I didn't I came in to be brutally honest. I'm full of resentment
00:54:12Okay, which which is a very strong word
00:54:14so just so we're all clear you told Hannah something in confidence and you feel as if she used it as
00:54:21Ammunition against you. I've tried forgetting about it
00:54:25But every time in the back of my head, I'm like, I can't get my head around someone that would
00:54:30Even though you said you wouldn't do it
00:54:32It's what I'm feeling and it's what I think you were going to do and it's really hard to get past that I would never
00:54:36Do that to you. I would never do that to a human being
00:54:39But you don't believe no, so we're fucked
00:54:47Okay, I think this is a great opportunity to apologize to him
00:54:52I'm so sorry
00:54:54And I genuinely was never going to and you don't believe me, but I was never and I never will I never would
00:55:02Whether you're my partner whether you're my husband whether you're whatever you you're a person in my life
00:55:05And I would never ever ever disrespect someone like that in public or private. I would never do it
00:55:15Can you accept Hannah's apology
00:55:32No
00:55:35You
00:55:45Can you accept Hannah's apology
00:55:55No
00:55:58I
00:56:03Caught deep and it still does
00:56:06Okay
00:56:08And what seems to be very apparent is this threatened secret? I don't think I even threatened it
00:56:14I just felt like I was being attacked and I needed to protect myself
00:56:17Even though you're saying your intention was never to reveal the secret. You've damaged the trust there. Can you see that? Yeah
00:56:24Yeah
00:56:26Trust can be built back, but it takes a hell of a lot of effort to build it back
00:56:32And is that something that you're willing?
00:56:34to put in
00:56:43I didn't see the point anymore
00:56:46It's dead in it
00:56:49So
00:56:50Let me ask this. Why are you still here?
00:56:53You came here to sit here. What what what what can we help you with? I don't know what you can do. I don't
00:56:59Genuinely don't know. Yeah. Why did you come here in the first place? Why do you enter this experiment to meet my person?
00:57:06This is like it was my genuine last-ditch attempt to find my person. Okay
00:57:14What has happened
00:57:17Clearly has derailed
00:57:19This relationship, but what you have to remember is how you felt
00:57:24walking into the experiment and
00:57:26The work that it requires you is to step outside of your ego and say, you know what?
00:57:32I'm going to step out on faith. I'm gonna step out on vulnerability, right?
00:57:37That's the hard work. But the question is are you going to do it?
00:57:47I'll go to the decision. Okay
00:57:53Hannah if you can go first
00:57:57Okay, I'm gonna take a risk I've got feelings for you I don't want to quit on the first week and I want to stay
00:58:17I've been tossing and turning over this black completely
00:58:23As soon as you lose
00:58:25Trusting someone I've never had that in a relationship and it's hit me harder than I thought it actually would
00:58:33And I can't sit here and say all those things I've just said and then say I'm gonna say so
00:58:39You
00:58:44Know the rules
00:58:46Okay, when one partner writes stay
00:58:50You stay and you continue to work on your relationship
00:58:54So you'll be here for another week. I know I've signed up for okay
00:58:58Will you work on your marriage?
00:59:03I'll try my best
00:59:05Okay, that's fair. That's fair. All right
00:59:08Thank you
00:59:17Genuinely no idea what it'll take for her to win me back
00:59:21But I knew I signed up to in this process and she's my wife. So I'll give it a go
00:59:29It's shit for someone to sit there and say I'm holding on to this one mistake you made and I resent you for it
00:59:35Massively regret that this all is stemmed from that one comment if I could take it back. I would
00:59:40I've tried every single day to make this work
00:59:43Why can't we just start fresh build a friendship and see how we go?
00:59:46Because I feel like that's what a lot of people here have done
00:59:48I signed up to this experiment to find a husband to fall in love. So I'm not gonna give up at the first hurdle
00:59:54I'm not a quitter
00:59:56It's on him the balls in his court
01:00:01Next time
01:00:04The couple's head off to a country retreat
01:00:08We're claiming this room while it marks a fresh start for Emma and Casper
01:00:12I actually don't know how to accept showing my vulnerable side the fact you're questioning something again
01:00:17I need to change something about myself that sharing vulnerability. That's progress. Could it spell the end for Rochelle and Dawson?
01:00:23It's fine for you to say you bore me. Is it wide for you to lie?
01:00:28You're a fraud and I've seen through you and group gossip about new bride Hannah
01:00:33After the commitment ceremony when Stephen was walking towards her
01:00:36She said to also not hold my hand making jealous puts her firmly in the firing line with husband
01:00:42Stephen the behavior after has been terrible. So I can't even have banter and try and make friends while I'm here. Oh
01:00:48I'm getting so sick of people throwing me under the bus. Get me off this fucking TV show
01:01:03You