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Topic: Nikah ki Ahmiyat o Fawaid || نکاح کی اہمیت و فوائد
Host: Syeda Zainab
Guest: Dr. Imtiaz Javed Khakvi, Sadia Saeed
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Topic: Nikah ki Ahmiyat o Fawaid || نکاح کی اہمیت و فوائد
Host: Syeda Zainab
Guest: Dr. Imtiaz Javed Khakvi, Sadia Saeed
#MeriPehchan #SyedaZainabAlam #ARYQtv
A female talk show having discussion over the persisting customs and norms of the society. Female scholars and experts from different fields of life will talk about the origins where those customs, rites and ritual come from or how they evolve with time, how they affect and influence our society, their pros and cons, and what does Islam has to say about them. We'll see what criteria Islam provides to decide over adapting or rejecting to the emerging global changes, say social, technological etc. of today.
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00:00A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem, Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
00:13Tamaam Tar Durood o Salaam Aqa wa Maula Ahmad-e-Mustafa Muhammad-e-Mustafa Sallallahu-Alaihi-Wa-Sallam
00:20A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem, Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
00:50A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem, Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
01:20A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem, Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
01:50A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem, Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
02:20A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem, Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
02:25A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem, Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
02:30A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem, Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
02:35A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem, Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
02:40As-Salaamu Alaikum, Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu.
02:42Are you well?
02:43Alhamdulillah.
02:44It is my pleasure to meet you.
02:46Sister, as we told our viewers, today we will talk about the importance of Nikah and its benefits.
02:51In light of the importance of Nikah, in the light of the Holy Qur'an, tell our sisters,
02:56in light of the Hadith Mubarakah, please tell us.
02:59Thank you very much, Zainab.
03:00Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
03:02In the first verse of Surah An-Nisa, Allah the Lord of Glory has said,
03:06Ya ayyanna suttakoo rabbakumullazi khalaqakum min nafsi maqeeda wa khalaqa minha zaujaa.
03:12O people, fear your Lord who created you with one soul,
03:16and created this wife for you.
03:19What is Nikah?
03:21It is a sacred contract in which, through acceptance and acceptance,
03:26in which, in the presence of witnesses,
03:28in which, while keeping the Aqm-e-Mehr,
03:31a contract is made in which two parties, two men and two women,
03:36who are strangers or relatives, form a new relationship,
03:40which is called Zaujain through Nikah,
03:43which is called husband-wife relationship.
03:45You see, the smallest unit of any society or any nation is the house and the family,
03:50that is the family.
03:52If this family is strong, then the structure of the whole nation is strong.
03:57And Allah, the Lord of Glory, has stated the purpose of this in the Holy Quran.
04:01If we read further from this verse of Surah Nisa,
04:04then we come to know why this Zaujain relationship was made,
04:07so that the progeny of humanity can survive.
04:09And the order of the system in the universe,
04:14the progeny of humans progresses in the same way,
04:16and for that, a very good, civilized method was given,
04:20through which, in which Allah and the Prophet are witnesses,
04:23two parties, two individuals accept each other.
04:27Then the house is the first relation, it is agriculture,
04:31it is production, where the construction of man is to be done,
04:35where the construction of the future buildings of the nation is to be done.
04:39So, through this agreement, through this Nikah,
04:43goodness and blessings are given to them, love is given to them,
04:47as you have also said.
04:49In Surah Ar-Rum, Allah, the Lord of Glory, has stated the purpose of Nikah,
04:53He says,
04:57that they should get peace from each other,
04:59that there should be peace for each other,
05:01that there should be love, love and mercy for each other.
05:04See, when there are strong storms of society,
05:07heat and sun, and all kinds of sorrows and problems,
05:11then when the two Zaujains face each other,
05:14then the strength increases many times,
05:16they become a support for each other in sorrow and happiness.
05:20Then when we talk about the construction of the future of the nation,
05:24then how will this future be built?
05:27For that, morals, character, culture,
05:30have to be transferred to their children in the new generation.
05:34Those Zaujains have to become parents,
05:36and while becoming parents,
05:38they have to transfer their Islam, their culture.
05:41So, in both, the relationship that comes into existence through Nikah,
05:45Allah has given so much blessings,
05:47that if you become poor,
05:53that you become poor,
05:54Allah has made you rich through the blessings of Nikah,
05:57He has given you wealth through Nikah.
06:01Meaning, through the blessings of Nikah,
06:03wealth also receives blessings.
06:05Then you see, through this,
06:07the system of civilization is being protected,
06:10the system of economy is being protected,
06:12the system of morals is being protected,
06:14the system of character is being protected,
06:16the system of religion is being protected,
06:18the system of faith is being protected.
06:20Through this one relationship,
06:22the unit that is formed,
06:24if you maintain that unit,
06:26that is why it has been strictly rejected,
06:30that someone should instil enmity in Zaujain,
06:32or create a distance between them.
06:34Then the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
06:36declared this as his Sunnah.
06:38He gave the command,
06:40that Nikah should be done in an open environment,
06:42and in a luminous environment.
06:44When the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
06:46was married to Ummul Momineen Hazrat Mehmoodah,
06:48it was done in Masjid-ul-Haram.
06:50And even today, I understand,
06:52that a lot of people are interested,
06:54to go to Madinah Park,
06:56and sit on her lap,
06:58and perform Nikah.
07:00So he gave a command,
07:02that this is also an act of worship,
07:04and perform this act of worship,
07:06in a pure and good manner,
07:08so that you may receive its blessings.
07:10Then the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
07:12gave four Sunnahs,
07:14which are Miswak, Khushboo,
07:16Haya, and Nikah.
07:18So from the very beginning,
07:20the marriage of Adam, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
07:22and Hawa, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
07:24is how the universe was created.
07:26The entire human race was born in the universe.
07:28So he is one of the poets of Islam.
07:30And Allah says,
07:32وَمَنْ يُعْزِّمْ شُعَائِرَ اللَّهِ فَإِنَّهَا مِنْ تَقْوَى الْقُلُوبِ
07:34That the one who respects
07:36the poet of Allah and the poet of Islam,
07:38is one of the righteous people of the heart.
07:40SubhanAllah.
07:42So the respect of Nikah is necessary for all of us.
07:44And through this,
07:46the relationship that comes into existence,
07:48we have to make it.
07:50We have to try not to put any misunderstanding
07:52or misunderstanding
07:54and to have love and affection in them.
07:56And the Prophet of Allah,
07:58peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
08:00has cursed such people,
08:02that between the two parties,
08:04i.e. the husband against the wife,
08:06and the wife against the husband,
08:08he incites them to do something.
08:10In this regard,
08:12we have the blessed hadith.
08:14Let's talk about individual and collective benefits.
08:16Sadi, you are with us.
08:18What would you like to say
08:20about the individual and collective benefits of Nikah?
08:22Thank you very much.
08:24I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Satan.
08:26In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Ever Merciful.
08:28Peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Beloved,
08:30the best of all creation.
08:32Peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Beloved,
08:34the best of all creation.
09:02Peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Beloved,
09:04the best of all creation.
09:32Peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Beloved,
09:34the best of all creation.
10:02Peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Beloved,
10:04the best of all creation.
10:32Peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Beloved,
10:34the best of all creation.
11:02Peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Beloved,
11:04the best of all creation.
11:32Peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Beloved,
11:34the best of all creation.
12:02Peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Beloved,
12:04the best of all creation.
12:32Peace and blessings of Allah be upon the Beloved,
12:34the best of all creation.
13:02Once again, I would like to welcome you all.
13:04My name is Sayyeda Zainab.
13:06We have guests with us today.
13:08They are discussing the importance of Nikah
13:10and the benefits of Nikah.
13:12Let us continue our discussion.
13:14We also discussed the benefits of Nikah
13:16from a societal, individual and
13:18social point of view.
13:20Doctor Sahiba,
13:22please tell us,
13:24the religion of Islam has taught us
13:26a very simple way of Nikah.
13:28It is a very simple act.
13:30It is an obligation that we can fulfill.
13:32However, we have seen
13:34that we are spending a lot of money.
13:36We are also involved in
13:38unnecessary rituals.
13:40Due to unnecessary things,
13:42we have made it difficult for ourselves.
13:44What would you like to say in this regard?
13:46Thank you, Zainab.
13:48In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
13:50The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
13:52said that the most blessed Nikah is the one
13:54in which there is the least amount of modesty.
13:56Zainab, we get guidance
13:58from the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.
14:00If we keep in mind
14:02all the Nikahs of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
14:04then, as I said in the beginning,
14:06his Nikah is
14:08a very simple act
14:10for which a mosque-like,
14:12pure and bright environment was chosen.
14:14He should go there
14:16and perform
14:18that Sunnah in a pure environment.
14:20The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
14:22said that Nikah is a Sunnah.
14:24Nikah is my Sunnah.
14:26I have to perform it.
14:28Then, as you can see,
14:30where there is an order for the Nikah of youth and girls,
14:32there is an order for the Nikah of slaves
14:34and orphans as well.
14:36They should arrange for their Nikah as well.
14:38It becomes your responsibility
14:40as a responsible citizen in a society.
14:42Then, how was it possible
14:44to forget the element of simplicity in it?
14:46But, today,
14:48the way we are running,
14:50in which we have spread
14:52the expenses so much
14:54which can be done in a simple way,
14:56what is the definition of simplicity?
14:58In which you can do your work
15:00in the best way
15:02in the least expense.
15:04Undoubtedly.
15:06Your needs should be fulfilled.
15:08So, today,
15:10when we go to the youth,
15:12what do we do in it?
15:14We take loans,
15:16we are proud of it,
15:18we are proud of it,
15:20we are proud of it,
15:22we try to arrange for the things.
15:24Then, we want to show it to the world
15:26that we have given so much wealth
15:28to the girl.
15:30Then, you see,
15:32the booking of halls,
15:34halls where there is
15:36maximum luxury.
15:38Then, along with it,
15:40there is a ritual of Nikah
15:42which is for the agreement,
15:44which is Sunnah.
15:46And, after that, the reception.
15:48But, what is happening here is that
15:50it is not ending.
15:52And, we have to keep
15:54a separate style for every event.
15:56There are branded suits.
15:58Yes, branded suits,
16:00henna, mayonnaise,
16:02this and that,
16:04and I don't even know the names.
16:06Those are the things
16:08that have nothing to do with Nikah.
16:10And, spending so much money
16:12on them,
16:14is harmful for both,
16:16for the girl and for the boy.
16:18The result is that
16:20we are doing Nikah
16:22on the basis of materialism.
16:24Because of which,
16:26the Nikah is not successful.
16:28Today, we see that
16:30the fights are increasing in the families.
16:32The reason is that the stress increases.
16:34If you have taken a loan,
16:36then you have to pay the loan.
16:38You will be under mental pressure.
16:40And, if you have not taken a loan,
16:42you have taken a job by showing off.
16:44You have strictly forbidden
16:46to show off.
16:48The biggest form of showing off
16:50and showing off is being done
16:52on the occasion of marriage.
16:54And, it has been called
16:56the work of devils.
16:58The work was important,
17:00but if you spent more than the limit,
17:02then it became showing off.
17:04In the same way,
17:06if the work was not important
17:08and you spent on it,
17:10then it is showing off.
17:12And, you see in the Holy Quran,
17:14in the same way,
17:16you should not show off.
17:18This is also one of the works of devils.
17:20So, in every situation,
17:22we have to control our expenses.
17:24And, when the big people
17:26become an example of it,
17:28then its effects will go down.
17:30For example, there was a tradition
17:32that one dish should be kept.
17:34This was very good.
17:36Even the poor people took advantage of it.
17:38So, if the whole society
17:40becomes dependent on some things,
17:42I will see that the villagers
17:44have made very good arrangements.
17:46Because, there is a similarity
17:48that in some villages,
17:50if there is a marriage,
17:52then this will happen.
17:54And, if someone dies,
17:56then the villagers arrange
17:58for food and drink,
18:00and also for simple lentils.
18:02So, we should do such work
18:04so that on these occasions,
18:06there is no unnecessary expenditure
18:08on unnecessary material
18:10So, do it in such a way
18:12that there is a social gathering
18:14in which your relations increase.
18:16A relationship is formed.
18:18And, this is the beauty of Islam
18:20that there is a feast like Waleem-e.
18:22There is a feast on Eid-e-Ayn,
18:24there is a feast on Waleem-e,
18:26there is a feast on the birth of a child.
18:28So, call your relatives,
18:30give them food.
18:32But, the food should be
18:34to an appropriate extent.
18:36They should not be proud of
18:38their food.
18:40This way of thinking is wrong.
18:42We should negate this way of thinking.
18:44We should set an example in a simple way.
18:46And, sister, I have seen
18:48that the women,
18:50especially the girls,
18:52they are busy with their relations
18:54because they do not have
18:56a dowry to give them,
18:58or their parents do not have money
19:00to organize big events.
19:02And, because of this,
19:04their age also goes down.
19:06So, there is a need to get out of this.
19:08While we were talking about one dish,
19:10I suddenly thought that
19:12we have also seen in our society
19:14that there have been marriages
19:16only on cold drinks.
19:18So, there was a time like this.
19:20I will come to you, Sadia.
19:22Please tell us what is the best
19:24and appropriate age for marriage.
19:26We often hear that a girl should complete her education,
19:28a boy should get a good job.
19:30No, he is not earning so well.
19:32He is starting a business.
19:34So, both the boy and the girl
19:36are getting old.
19:38So, what is the right age for marriage?
19:40In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Ever Merciful.
19:42Just like you said that
19:44a girl should complete her education
19:46or a boy should get a good job,
19:48so that a better business
19:50can be established.
19:52So, a person's thoughts
19:54are based on the environment
19:56and the society.
19:58Now, if there is a delay in marriage,
20:00the mind works in the same way
20:02that if we have stopped
20:04in one direction,
20:06then when we will be more developed,
20:08then our mind will think that
20:10it should be better than this or that.
20:12Then it will become a thing
20:14that is ready to be ordered.
20:16And this is not easy for us.
20:18So, when Allah the Almighty
20:20has made you capable,
20:22and in the Holy Quran,
20:24in Surah Nisa, Allah the Almighty
20:26has said, the meaning of the verse
20:28is to get the marriage of orphans,
20:30so that they reach the age of maturity.
20:32When they reach the age of maturity,
20:34then get them married.
20:36The second important point is that
20:38when this city gives you
20:40a certificate of citizenship,
20:42this country gives you a certificate
20:44which you call NIC,
20:46which is your identity,
20:48when it is found on the city level
20:50that this child has reached the age of maturity
20:52and he has got that certificate,
20:54then get him married.
20:56And then if there is a lot of delay,
20:58then you should start worrying
21:00about them in the age of 18 or 17
21:02that they should be saved from evil.
21:04And then there is a limit of 22 years
21:06that you get them married in 22 years.
21:08Like I said in the beginning
21:10that the person who is saved from evil
21:12and shamelessness,
21:14he locks himself up.
21:16And he should be saved.
21:18And the best way to be saved
21:20is that when the child reaches this age,
21:22then he should get married.
21:24Now this concept that our child is studying,
21:26we will not get him married
21:28until he completes his Ph.D.
21:30And our second child is studying,
21:32he will not get married
21:34until he reaches a certain age.
21:36We have to get married.
21:38Sister said a very beautiful thing
21:40that marriage should be done with simplicity
21:42and there is blessing in simplicity.
21:44So when our Shariat-e-Mutara,
21:46our religion of Islam
21:48explains this,
21:50that you should adopt simplicity
21:52and you will get blessings in simplicity.
21:54Here society has made it so difficult
21:56that now we think
21:58that today or tomorrow,
22:00or day after tomorrow,
22:02it is not according to us.
22:04You have to see his religion
22:06and faith to get married.
22:08After seeing all his things,
22:10in our country,
22:12the appearance and bank balance
22:14are seen first.
22:16Later we come to his religion.
22:18The requirement is that
22:20when you are a Muslim
22:22and you are following Shariat-e-Mutara,
22:24and all those things are there,
22:26then Allah promises to give you rizq.
22:28I said in the beginning
22:30that the marriage in which
22:32good intentions are included,
22:34there will be blessings in your rizq
22:36and in your Nikah.
22:38And for the sake of Allah,
22:40take this step
22:42and make it easy
22:44so that all the difficulties
22:46and all the bad things
22:48that are spreading,
22:50that we do not do
22:52what is required of us
22:54on time.
22:56May Allah enable us
22:58to bring these things back
23:00and we should do
23:02everything easily.
23:04The religion of Islam
23:06made this beautiful relationship
23:08and the bond of Nikah
23:10so easy that
23:12we have made it difficult ourselves.
23:14We have to go to a break.
23:16Assalam-o-Alaikum
23:18Assalam-o-Alaikum
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23:46We feel very sad
23:48when there are
23:50one, two or three daughters
23:52in their family
23:54and they are worried
23:56about their marriage.
23:58When we think about
24:00their marriage
24:02and their dowry
24:04and how many
24:06ceremonies
24:08they have to attend
24:10and what their relatives
24:12will say
24:14when they get old
24:16and their daughters
24:18also get old.
24:20So, make marriage easy.
24:22Let's move ahead.
24:24Please tell us
24:26what are the factors
24:28which are hindering
24:30their marriage.
24:32Thank you, Zainab.
24:34If we look at
24:36the factors
24:38which are hindering
24:40their marriage
24:42First of all,
24:44we are not giving
24:46marriage the importance
24:48which it should.
24:50We have removed it
24:52from its natural status.
24:54Today, we say that
24:56we need food,
24:58we need clothes.
25:00We give importance
25:02to our dowry.
25:04If we have a luxury car,
25:06if we have a house,
25:08if we have enough
25:10children,
25:12we are depriving them
25:14of a happy, successful
25:16and stable life.
25:18Our society has become
25:20motherly.
25:22It is important
25:24to give importance
25:26to our children.
25:28If we have a son,
25:30he will say
25:32that our business
25:34should settle
25:36and we should get married
25:38On the other hand,
25:40the girls also have
25:42the same expectations
25:44as the boys.
25:46They have the same
25:48selfishness and motherliness.
25:50Prophet Muhammad
25:52said that
25:54if someone gives you
25:56the message of marriage
25:58and you like religion and ethics,
26:00then get married.
26:02Otherwise, it will spread
26:04mischief in the society.
26:06If a boy is getting married,
26:08he will see
26:10what the girl will bring
26:12in dowry.
26:14The dowry is given
26:16in a long list
26:18which is very cheap.
26:20If the dowry
26:22is not given,
26:24then there are
26:26expectations.
26:28On the one hand,
26:30there are expectations
26:32on the wealth
26:34and on the character
26:36of the boy.
26:38On the other hand,
26:40there is no consideration
26:42of the girl's character
26:44and upbringing.
26:46The boys
26:48and the girls
26:50have the same thought.
26:52They say that
26:54the family should be small.
26:56Many mothers
26:58say that
27:00they do not want to get married
27:02if their son is settled
27:04and has a good government job.
27:06They do not care
27:08how much he earns.
27:10If his business
27:12is settled,
27:14then the demands
27:16are not fulfilled
27:18and the marriage
27:20is delayed.
27:22I remember
27:24a woman
27:26who told me
27:28that she does not have
27:30any demands
27:32but she wants
27:34her son to be educated.
27:36While saying this,
27:38she put 10 demands
27:40in front of her.
27:42As a result,
27:44the marriage
27:46is not fulfilled.
27:48The expectations
27:50of both
27:52are very high.
27:54After marriage,
27:56the boy thinks
27:58that the girl
28:00has come as a queen
28:02and he should be a servant.
28:04This is a hindrance
28:06to the marriage.
28:08Even after marriage,
28:10the family is broken.
28:12Then,
28:14there are language barriers.
28:16You can call it geography,
28:18gender,
28:20sect.
28:22All of us
28:24have our own identity
28:26and we are not even ready
28:28to see
28:30that marriage is not happening.
28:32Even now,
28:34medically,
28:36diseases are increasing.
28:38Despite this,
28:40they are not ready
28:42to get out of it.
28:44They are old enough to get married
28:46but they are not married
28:48because there is no relation
28:50in the community.
28:52Punjabis do not speak
28:54Punjabi.
28:56Break these barriers.
28:58When you talk about
29:00Islam,
29:02you should see the practice
29:04to get out of these things
29:06and look for a better relationship.
29:08Do not keep
29:10expectations from each other.
29:12Another factor
29:14is that if the sisters
29:16are not getting married,
29:18the boy cannot get married.
29:20If you are getting a suitable
29:22relationship,
29:24then you should get married.
29:26May Allah bless you.
29:28You will also have sisters.
29:30If the boy himself
29:32wants to get married,
29:34then he should be
29:36taunted.
29:38Do not do this.
29:40As you said,
29:42there are so many
29:44expenses for
29:46dowry and
29:48other functions
29:50because of which
29:52the girls stay at home
29:54and do not get married.
29:56Make it simple.
29:58Sometimes, if the
30:00girl does not get married,
30:02they put so many obstacles
30:04that if she gets married,
30:06we will do this.
30:08They make marriage
30:10a reason for bloodshed.
30:12For God's sake,
30:14get out of these things.
30:16I have seen that
30:18there are some groups
30:20among our children
30:22who say that even if
30:24it is a rental car,
30:26we have to go with a wedding
30:28procession.
30:30In spite of this,
30:32in our relatives,
30:34in our family,
30:36in our relatives,
30:38we also hear
30:40that the boy and the girl
30:42are demanding
30:44that we get married
30:46to a girl
30:48who is actually
30:50a grown-up
30:52and is going to get married.
30:54They are thinking
30:56and I am very happy
30:58that they say
31:00that it has to be done
31:02with simplicity.
31:04If you want to give something,
31:06make us financially strong
31:08and we will invest
31:10that money in our work
31:12and make our life better.
31:14Alhamdulillah, I am very happy
31:16to hear that some girls
31:18said that you give us
31:20the amount that you will
31:22spend on the wedding
31:24and then we will go to Umrah.
31:26Alhamdulillah, we are hearing
31:28such things. May God
31:30increase this.
31:32Sadiya, I will come to you.
31:34If we adopt simplicity
31:36in the matters of marriage,
31:38we will get many benefits.
31:40What benefits will we get?
31:42In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
31:44You have explained
31:46so many situations
31:48and we came to know
31:50how many demands are there
31:52and they are not being fulfilled.
31:54You have mentioned simplicity
31:56in the beginning.
31:58When we adopt simplicity
32:00and in the religion of Islam
32:02we arrange the wedding
32:04according to simplicity,
32:06the first thing is that
32:08a person is saved from debt.
32:10Most of the time,
32:12to arrange the events,
32:14we have to arrange
32:16according to the standards
32:18of the people.
32:20We do not change our mindset
32:22that we have to live
32:24as we are.
32:26They say that spread your legs
32:28as much as you can.
32:30But we go out of it
32:32and return it.
32:34May God not give you such a situation.
32:36Debt is such a thing
32:38that you have to pay it.
32:40When a person does everything
32:42with simplicity,
32:44he will be saved from debt.
32:46According to my standard,
32:48I can only do this.
32:50There is nothing wrong in it.
32:52In fact, he is saving himself
32:54from spreading evil in the society.
32:56A person who has a debt
32:58should come to his house
33:00and fight with him.
33:02Then people should know
33:04that he did all this
33:06First of all,
33:08you will be saved from debt
33:10which destroys your mental peace.
33:12It is better that
33:14your mental state is safe.
33:16Secondly,
33:18when you marry with simplicity,
33:20there is blessing in it.
33:22There is mercy in it.
33:24It is the Sunnah of the Prophet.
33:26Thirdly,
33:28when marriage is done
33:30with simplicity,
33:32in today's time,
33:34when we meet people
33:36who are evil-minded,
33:38we invite people to
33:40see our happiness.
33:42We invite people
33:44to see our happiness.
33:46We show them
33:48what we don't have.
33:50We tell them that
33:52we own everything,
33:54but it is not true.
33:56We become a source of happiness.
33:58When we meet people
34:00who are evil-minded,
34:02we invite them to
34:04arrange their marriage
34:06with simplicity.
34:08This is a dangerous situation.
34:10When people get involved
34:12in family disputes,
34:14because of their simplicity,
34:16when we act with simplicity,
34:18neither the girl's family
34:20nor the boy's family
34:22will be evil-minded.
34:24In this way,
34:26a beautiful marriage will take place.
34:28Do you have any last message?
34:30Everyone should play their role responsibly.
34:32Especially, when girls
34:34reach the age of 20,
34:36they should attend the marriage.
34:38Sadia, one line and message.
34:40I would like to say that
34:42people say that you should
34:44get married first.
34:46You should get married first.
34:48Allah will take care of you.
34:50I would like to thank you
34:52for coming here.
34:54Both of you
34:56have been a great guest
34:58and had a good conversation
35:00about marriage.
35:02A man says that he will get married
35:04after taking the risk.
35:06A man's God says that
35:08you should get married
35:10and I will bless you.
35:12He is God
35:14and he is right.
35:16I would like to take your leave.
35:18May Allah bless you.