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00:00Namo Buddhaya. Welcome to another video. In today's video let's talk about

00:07relationships and I'm going to be sharing with you six principles taught

00:13by the Buddha on having a healthy and happy relationship. Well maintaining a

00:22healthy relationship, maintaining a happy relationship or long-lasting

00:28relationship is a bit challenging. Why? Because we have different personalities.

00:35We are different from one to another, right? But we lose this ability to

00:42understand about this situation, this reality. What is the reality? The

00:49difference between each other. Sometimes we ask from the people or we ask from

00:56our partners, why can't you think like me? Why can't you be like me? Why can't

01:05you act like me or behave like me? This is where we make many problems in

01:14relationships. But if we can realize the difference between one another or if we

01:22can realize this reality, what is that? We are different from each other. Then we

01:28can get the power of understanding. There's one important quality that we

01:35must practice in any kind of relationship and that is the

01:40understanding, right? Understand other situations, understand why they are

01:47acting like that, why they are behaving like that. So our great teacher Supreme

01:53Buddha taught there are six principles to practice. These are the

01:59practices actually. If you practice these six principles in any kind of

02:04relationship, your relationship will be much more happy and healthy. Okay so

02:11without any further ado let's get into these principles and I'm going to

02:16explain one by one in turn. First of all the Buddha said you need to practice

02:24these principles when that person, the person or our partner or a companion or

02:31the people who we are relating to, when that person with us or in front of us

02:36and also in the times where that person is not with us. That means both privately

02:44and publicly we have to practice and maintain these principles in our life

02:50and also these principles was taught by the Buddha to monks actually because as

02:56monks we live as a community. Now in our monastery we have more than 25 monks so

03:06when you analyze their personalities they all are different. They all have

03:10different ways of lifestyles. So when we are interacting there may be some

03:15problems, there may be some crashes, but if you practice these qualities, if we

03:22practice these qualities there will be less problems, there will be less

03:28disagreements. So that is why Buddha taught us these principles. So this was

03:33originally preached by the Buddha to the monks actually and also you can apply

03:39these principles to your life also. So let's get into the first principle.

03:45Buddha said you need to treat your spiritual companions in regarding to

03:52monks actually. Buddha said you need to treat your companions with physical

03:59kindness, bodily kindness. What do you mean by bodily kindness? There are certain

04:08things that we can do from our body in order to show our kindness or show our

04:15compassion towards that person. It may not be big things like spending money on

04:23big things and buying big things to the person, but also there are many things

04:29that we can do, little things. There are little things that we can do for that

04:33person to create happiness on that person's mind and also we can give that

04:40by doing these things we can give that idea that we value your life, that I

04:47value your being with me. So Buddha said do the acts of loving kindness from

04:56your body. Maybe like helping in his career, maybe like helping in his

05:02household activities. If you take an example like in a husband and wife

05:07relationship, you can share the things that you are doing in the life.

05:12We can help each other. That is one way of showing love and kindness to that

05:18person and also we can show in many ways our love and kindness to these people.

05:24When you act or when you act from your body with love and kindness that creates

05:30the mutuality between people. So the first principle is to treat people with

05:37physical kindness. Then Buddha said as the second principle treat the

05:45companions with verbal kindness. You can speak nice and kind and heartwarming

05:53words to them to create the happiness and create the pleasure in

05:59their mind. Each and every one of us likes to listen to pleasant words, right.

06:08We all surrender in front of the kindness, kind words, kind actions. So the

06:16first and second thing is to treat them with physical kindness and also with

06:22verbal kindness. And as the third principle Buddha said, this is the most

06:28important principle and that is treat your companions with mental kindness.

06:37This is the important one. Why is that? Because if you maintain, if you

06:43generate these kind thoughts towards the people around you, in your mind your

06:49thoughts become your actions. Then your actions will be more kind. Your thoughts

06:55become your words. Then your words will become more kind. So as the third

07:01principle Buddha taught us, treat your companion with mental kindness, okay.

07:11So when you treat your companion with mental kindness that means you are

07:15spreading this rays and this power of kindness towards them when that person

07:23is in front of us and also in the in the times where he or she is not

07:29with us. We have to do it in the same way. That is the third one. And also as the

07:36fourth principle Buddha said, you have to share without reservation. For the monks

07:46Buddha said, if you get any kind of food or any something good to your life

07:53you have to share that thing with your spiritual companions. Now we monks when

08:00we get some food we always try to share with our monks. So you can adopt that to

08:06your life. Whatever the things that you get, maybe like you ate, you had something

08:11very delicious food when you're working in a long distant place and when you

08:16come home or when you come to your partner or even you come to that person

08:20you can say, hey I had this food, I had this delicious food, I need you to have

08:26that. That means you are sharing it. When you share without reservation it creates

08:35the peacefulness and it strengthens the relationships. So sharing is one of the

08:42most key and important ingredients in relationships. And as the fifth

08:47principle Buddha said, you have to be virtuous. What do you mean by virtuous?

08:55Now in Buddhism as normal people, in Buddhism we practice five precepts.

09:03Buddhist people practice five precepts. Abstaining from killing beings, abstaining

09:09from stealing, abstaining from sexual misconduct, abstaining from telling lies

09:18and abstaining from taking intoxicating drinks and drugs or alcohols. So these

09:26are the five precepts that lay people practice in Buddhism. So when you become

09:32more moral or virtuous it creates the trust in people. Now there is in

09:40relationships, in normal relationships, in people this third precept is very

09:45important. In third precept, in third precept it simply says you are not

09:52cheating your partner. That means it creates the trust and loyalty

09:59between the partner and in the relationship. In any kind of

10:04relationship trust is the foundation. Without trust there is no use

10:12of a relationship. So when you become more virtuous you will create the trust

10:18and loyalty in the relationship. And as the sixth and the final principle

10:25Buddha taught us you have to have a common view in any kind of relationship.

10:32That means if you can in a relationship if both the people or if

10:39everyone work for one dream, work to achieve one goal that creates the peace

10:46in this relationship. Now as monks Buddha said you have to have one dream or one

10:53goal in your life. There's only one purpose of becoming a monk and that is

11:00to end the sufferings of this long cycle of rebirth and to be enlightened.

11:07When all the monks get together and work for that dream then that will be so much

11:13easy to live with them, right. When someone is deviating from that path that

11:20creates the problem, right. So in relationships also if everyone of us can

11:28if everyone of us can work for one dream or to achieve one goal then

11:34that will be more easy and more happy. So these are the six principles that we

11:40must practice in any kind of relationship. You can apply these

11:45principles to any kind of relationships whether it is husband and wife maybe

11:49like girlfriend and boyfriend whether it is like parents and children whatever

11:54the relationship is you can apply these principles and make it more healthy and

11:59happy. So practice these principles add them to your life and make your life a

12:06better one. So I'm going to end this video with a nice quote that I've read

12:13it says all relationships go through bad times but the real relationships get

12:23through bad times. So practice the principles and make your life a better one.

12:29Namo Buddhaya

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