Personality Disorder Healing Beyond Boundaries - Getting beyond the Veil - video Dailymotion

Mark L Lockwood - Contemplative Intelligence

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00:00People began to discover this nature within themselves, this higher nature

00:07of a person that was not depressed or anxious or who was feeling suicidal thoughts or whatever it

00:19might have been. Underneath the veil of the narrative, which is this constant incessant

00:28negative story that many, many people who are suffering from stress and addictions and

00:36depression, this constant narrative keeps running and running and running and

00:42this is the narrative of the personality, which is a mask that we wear. And what we discovered

00:51once we started to really take these changes, these drastic healings and changes and

00:56transformations in people seriously, we started to discover that once they disidentified

01:03from this narrative, from this perpetual story of thoughts and feelings, perceptions,

01:13attitudes and traits that were basically now automated, in other words, much like a computer

01:20program, when they disidentified from that stream of thoughts and consciousness, they really began

01:30to heal quite rapidly and quite deeply. So people were presenting from all over the world

01:39different problems and the weird thing that we didn't expect to discover

01:44was that the way through these problems, some extreme, some 20 years of depression, clinical

01:51depression, you know, very, very chronic anxiety, panic disorders, people were in nightmares. They

02:03were in a mental health crisis with medications as much of their only hope and it wasn't working.

02:15So we knew something had to be done and that's when we started to really take pen to paper,

02:21like 13, 14 years ago, and we started to analyze people with all these different problems,

02:29different geographic locations, different ages and so on,

02:33coming to a central hub which was our center for healing and saying, listen, I've exhausted every

02:40opportunity. I've been to five psychiatrists, I've been in therapy for many years and

02:50I've tried ketamine and ayahuasca, I've tried everything and I can't get there.

02:56So we took pen to paper and started to take things seriously, noting how people,

03:04certain people were coming and healing themselves and what we found we didn't expect to find,

03:10which was these real common people doing very, very uncommon things and, you know, the Alexa was,

03:22well, it wasn't us, it was themselves. To get to the main core issue of what was keeping people

03:28depressed and stressed and anxious was that they identified with the personality and,

03:36in fact, they thought that that's all that they were. So they identified with a construct

03:43and every thought, every experience, every trait that they developed from those thoughts and

03:50experiences, every perception that they had, every memory and false memory, every feeling,

04:00emotion, every outcome and every perceived outcome, all built up into this mask of personality,

04:08of course, personality meaning mask, persona. And this persona became a veil and it was literally

04:16a veil between their happiness and wellness and peace and a nightmare that was anxiety and fear

04:26and a sense of trappedness that they couldn't get out of. So the identification with the story,

04:35with the narrative of who they thought they were coming in and saying, you know, my 20-year

04:42depression, my negative childhood, my upbringing, which was so stressful, this had become who they

04:51thought they were and when there was a disidentification with the personality, we saw that

04:58the narrative or the story that they were running was not really who they were. Underneath that,

05:06underneath this veil of the narrative, as we call it, or veil of ignorance, because we don't really

05:12know who the authentic self is yet, when we get beneath that, marvellous and wonderful things,

05:20really that we know nothing about, start to effervescently sort of emerge and we become

05:29far, far greater beings than we ever thought that we were and beings that are capable

05:35of healing the mind, body, heart. You know, as you think, so shall you be and when you

05:42identify with something that's not real, you suffer and the personality, which again is our

05:49thoughts, feelings, perceptions, attitudes, traits, all these things, when we identify with the unreal,

05:55we suffer because only the truth is going to set us free. So we started seeing this truth

06:01setting people free, this authenticity that we'd heard so much about over the years starting to come

06:08alive. You know, we've all heard of the authentic self, we've all heard of spiritual awakenings and

06:13so on, but an authentic self is where healing resides. It's not something we expected to find.

06:22So it was beauty, truth and goodness that emerged from people that actually set them free

06:28from a frightened, fearful personality that had often kept them in states of absolute

06:37frozenness of fight, flight and freeze that were very, very deep and so rehearsed and so thought

06:46of over and over again. And of course, when you thought rehearsed over and over again is something

06:52that becomes a belief and as you think so shall you be becomes who you believe you really are.

06:59And if that ain't you, you're gonna suffer, you're gonna be in pain until you're set free.

07:07Because I think life is about becoming who we really are, which is really rooted in our values,

07:13it's rooted in generally people are great, they're kind, loving, open, you know, we'll jump into an

07:21ocean or rescue people out of a burning building, people that are strangers on instinct, but yet we

07:30develop these thick exterior masks that defend us, where we don't speak to family for 10 years,

07:37where we cut people off, we become angry, we become victims, victims of island people, and we become

07:45people that are separate. And, of course, when we believe we separate, we suffer even more.

07:53Separation leads to anxiety. And anxiety is separation anxiety. So this is how things are

08:01born. And it's something that really we're, you know, we're doomed to suffer, we're doomed to

08:08make these choices to survive when we're young. But there comes a time. And usually, that time is

08:17through some suffering, that we realize, look, I need to be free, I need to, you know, ask that

08:24famous three word sentence of who am I. And when that starts to emerge, this is spiritual awakening,

08:33this is spiritual work. And by that, all we mean is looking inside, instead of looking towards that

08:40environment that created that narrative. Our parents, people, places, things, conversations, and

08:46situations that we thought were who we were, but they're a narrative. And at the end of the day,

08:56they're a veil. So when we disidentify with the veil, with the masks of persona,

09:05we also disidentify with codependence, things we needed codependence, we disidentify with being a

09:11victim, and a people pleaser, and so on and so forth. What we've created is something beautiful

09:18for people called the paradigm process. And it's pretty simple, really, we take, you know, the 10

09:24most common masks that we wear. And we find an antidote for each of these masks. And, you know,

09:32our need for control and judgment and so on, we find a pathway back, which is, you know, self-love,

09:39gratitude, authenticity, and so on. So these 10 simple pathways are to just remove the construct

09:48of the veil of that narrative, which has become our attitude, our traits, our personality. So once

09:56we start removing those, consciously, with conscious awareness, with contemplative mindsets,

10:04in other words, when we are able to use the tools of mindfulness, of being able to see this narrative,

10:12you know, with practice, you can see it straight away, these automatic, redundant, almost useless

10:19thoughts. These thoughts are not us either. They're there, you know, you don't even choose

10:27these thoughts, really, they just run perpetually and constantly and sort of rehearse us into trying

10:34to be safe, which of course doesn't work. Freedom comes by removing the veil, by removing the masks,

10:42and allowing our authenticity to emerge. Thinking that we're rotten, bad people

10:50is inherent, and you won't believe what a bit of work on self-love can do.

10:56Something that people don't realize is almost a dirty word. And self-love and growth and

11:05contribution and all of these paradoxes bring joy and set us free. Defense brings nothing but war,

11:14suffering, and rehearsing of survival techniques. You know, three o'clock in the morning, that's

11:22what we're doing, until we show up, we emerge through that veil and say, I'm not the mind,

11:29I'm not even the body, I'm not this matter. We start to really ask those questions of who am I,

11:36where have I been, where am I going? We can take pen to paper, pen is definitely mightier than the

11:42sword, and we can begin to work on ourselves. We can do it through talk therapies, we can do it through

11:49meditative practice and through contemplation. So it's quite strange that when we get beyond this

11:55veil of the narrative, I ask, who are you without your story? And people that are able to stop long

12:03enough and actually consider that question, because it's a frightening question in the beginning,

12:09that can even set some people's nervous systems off. Alarms go off and they're having a panic

12:15attack or they're suffering generalized anxiety or avoidance or trying to distract themselves.

12:23Anything but look at who we are without the story, and the mind is very afraid it's going

12:29to find something frightening and worse, which never happens. We haven't seen it happen yet.

12:36What we've seen emerge is beauty, truth and goodness in people. We've seen the need for anxiety,

12:45the need for depression, for staying connected to those post-traumatic stress

12:53scenarios that play out again and again and again like a nightmare.

12:58We're not saying you get rid of your personality really, we're saying transcend it and include it,

13:06story and all, you know, dissolve and integrate that personality into your emerging authentic

13:12self, which is really a beautiful journey, discovering who we really are, who other people

13:19really are, who God is, and what this constructed universe is all about, is something that is

13:28actually one of the most beautiful things that we've ever discovered. So it's developing a self

13:39love, will develop a love for others, and develop a love for God, universe, nature, and so on. And

13:47this contemplative intelligence, this disidentification with narrative, is something

13:53that can really transform the self first, but then transform the world. You can't be racist,

14:03discriminatory, when you're not judging people with that judge insurgent personality mask.

14:11And when we become free, so do others. So there is a great, great shift happening, and we shouldn't

14:19be disheartened where people are really waking up, and pretty much it's out of necessity,

14:26mental health crisis, COVID, you know, not being able to trust the government maybe as much as you

14:32could, really having to turn inwards and discover the essence of the self, which is the journey.

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