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00:00:00Hey there. Hey there, everybody. Hope you're doing well. 26 June 2024. Where the hell did

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00:01:12Enough bittiness. Enough bittiness. I'm going to start with a story. So this morning, this

00:01:26am, this a.m. this morning, what I did was I woke up and I took care of the ducks. Story

00:01:41for another time. And then I tootled off to a cafe because I hadn't left the house

00:01:46for three days because I've been working quite hard. But I left the house and I went to a

00:01:52coffee shop and I cranked up the old computer. It's actually kind of an old computer now.

00:02:01And I have been working on the short version of the Peaceful Parenting book. We're getting

00:02:08it down to 27, 28 percent of the original. So it's me, but concise, which is to say me,

00:02:19but the polar opposite of me. Opposite Steph, evil twin Steph, concise Steph. Anyway, so

00:02:26I'm walking away and it's a nice cafe, nice view. The coffee is fantastic. I had a chicken

00:02:34Caesar salad and then a little scone, just right. And a half-calf cappuccino. I try to

00:02:41keep myself to two coffees a day. So I'm working away, working away on the Peaceful Parenting

00:02:47book and it's good. Oh man, it's so good. It's so good. I mean, this is like squished

00:02:55concentrated philosophy that is high octane nose candy. It's soul candy. Anyway, so in comes,

00:03:06you can tell, like you know this kind of stuff, in comes a middle to upper middle class woman

00:03:13with her two little daughters. Two little daughters. One of them looks to be about

00:03:25let's say 14 months. One of them looks to be about 26 months. I actually have this kind of

00:03:30weird thing, you know how some people can guess the weight and some people can guess that I have

00:03:34little to no hair. I'm really good at figuring out the ages of kids. Now I'm still working on

00:03:40the millisecond, but anything other than that, I'm bang on, bang on. So 14, maybe 16 and 26,

00:03:4926 months. Two little girls. So she sits down with them and of course immediately one of them

00:03:58drops a straw. And of course, because she's not me, she's like well we can't use that straw anymore.

00:04:07I'm like toughen up the immune system kid. You have to pick up the straw with your lips from

00:04:14the floor. But anyway, so I said oh you know I'll get you another straw because you know what it's

00:04:20like. You get the kids settled in there very little. You can't leave them up there because

00:04:23this is kind of upstairs. So you can't leave them up there. So I jumped up and I went down and got

00:04:28her a straw and because I could see she was a slightly fussy middle to upper middle class mom,

00:04:33I picked the straw up, picked the straws up in a napkin, went back upstairs and gave them the

00:04:39straws and she was appreciative and it was nice. So I get back to work. Now what I notice and I'm

00:04:46not like trying to stare at people but you know they're like right across from me and it's pretty

00:04:50hard to notice because her kids are escalating. They seem like nice kids but they're escalating

00:05:01which means that they're kind of getting wound up. They're kind of getting aggressive. They're

00:05:05kind of getting punchy and I'm just watching this because I'm curious. So I go back to work on the

00:05:12book for a bit but then I can you know you get this you know when you when you develop this

00:05:16hypervigilance as a kid right you can't you can turn it down you can't turn it off right.

00:05:23And what do I see the mother doing? And this is something I've kind of vaguely

00:05:29seen or thought about before but holy crap.

00:05:31It is I don't know I honestly I don't know the right term but what sort of pops into my head

00:05:42is fuss budget management. Yeah fuss budget management. You know oh your plate is too

00:05:49close to the edge. Oh don't pick up the crumbs. Oh here's your straw. Oh that chair is too close

00:05:56to the table and it's just managing and moving and managing and this fuss budget mini management.

00:06:04And no no no connection. And the kids are being managed. Look it's a bit of a mom thing. Let's be

00:06:14frank right. It's a little bit of a mom thing. This is not anything negative. I mean I have a

00:06:20great admiration from others because they A kept us all alive and B shepherded us to the very top

00:06:26of the food chain. So no hate no complaints. But I will say this. It is not. Geez no wonder this

00:06:40plate goes off after after five minutes. It is not connected. It is not connected to the children.

00:06:46It's not connecting with the children. And the kids were bored disconnected and floating off in

00:07:04space. And to me the way and of course I worked in a daycare and lots of experience with kids

00:07:11in the family and friends. So the way that you calm kids down is how? Because you could tell

00:07:18the management led to the escalation which led to more management which led to more escalation.

00:07:23How do you calm kids down? Come on y'all know how right. How do you calm kids down?

00:07:33How do you soothe their adrenaline? How do you dial down the cortisol?

00:07:41How do you calm children down? What is the antithesis of escalation?

00:07:52Oh I can wait. I know it's always a little bit of a delay right.

00:08:04That's right. Let me let me read off. Sarpante bribe distraction no connection. How do you calm

00:08:13kids down? You connect with them. You lean forward and you say something like I'm gonna tell you a

00:08:20little story about every single person in this cafe. That sinister bald guy over there who keeps

00:08:26staring at us is working on a book on parenting. Radiating both disapproval and a question within

00:08:32his own mind of whether or not he should say something right. You tell oh you have a little

00:08:40piece of lemon cake here let me tell you and just doesn't matter if you make it up just make up

00:08:45something. Engage with them. Talk with them. Ask them questions. Connect. Connect. Connect.

00:08:54God this management stuff drives me nuts. Oh your hair is falling in your soup. Oh you need to

00:09:03shuffle back a little bit. Oh your shoe's coming undone. Let me do it up for you. Oh you dropped

00:09:07the straw. Oh my god. Puppets puppets puppets puppets dance dance dance.

00:09:17Oh man. And you could see that there's a kind of panic in the kids with this management stuff.

00:09:25And and I'm not you know I'm not trying to pick on this woman but I will say that it really

00:09:31crystallized a bunch of stuff that I've seen before. I really you know.

00:09:44And the management stuff what okay why and it's a mom thing for the most part. It's a mom thing.

00:09:54Why do women do this? And I don't mean this in a critical way. I don't mean this in a critical way.

00:10:00I'm genuinely curious. Help me understand. I'm like right at the foggy cliff edge of my grokking.

00:10:08Why do women constantly micromanage children rather than just talk to them?

00:10:16Is it like they she feels like she's posing for an imaginary photograph? Is it because

00:10:20it's some sort of status thing? The kids have to look fine and be polite and

00:10:24like why why do they micromanage children?

00:10:33I don't know. I've never I've never had a problem with my daughter in public. Never.

00:10:46Okay to manage their own anxiety. Okay but that doesn't answer. I mean I'm not sure that answers

00:10:51much. There's a lot of anxiety about kids misbehaving for moms.

00:10:59Right and can I tell you how bad it got?

00:11:08Can I tell you how bad it got?

00:11:14I started to get anxious. I'm not a particularly

00:11:18anxiety-prone person. Can't be a moralist in public and be that. I'm not particularly

00:11:23anxiety-prone person but I was just like I'm not sure I want to see the next part of this series.

00:11:30The next installment looks a little stressful.

00:11:38Like the kids were standing on chairs and they were wobbly.

00:11:42They were near a balcony and I was like

00:11:50anyway so one kid was trying to pull the other kid off the chair. One kid was like

00:11:55they literally started standing and screaming at the top of their lungs.

00:12:00And I didn't like I was it was painful right and you know I'm older I got to protect my hearing

00:12:07right. So I literally had to do this like the woman was sitting away from me so I had to put

00:12:12my fingers in my ears and then the kids kept screaming and like again it's painful like you

00:12:17know that that real soul shredding spine shredding pain. It's painful. It's like you know it's like

00:12:25painful like you know that that real soul shredding spine shattering kid scream. And so

00:12:32then I dug in my computer bag I had a pair of headphones and I just put them over my ears to

00:12:37try and protect my hearing. So anyway I mean obviously she was nobody up there was happy and

00:12:47and you know there were a bunch of people trying to work and you know yeah just like hammering an

00:12:53ice pick into your inner ear. And anyway she I actually was going to pack up and leave because

00:13:03like it was I can't sit there like this and I can't work right and it was painful like physically

00:13:10painful the volume right. I'm sure I'm surprised my watch didn't say bro you're about to lose your

00:13:15hearing. Are you at a rock concert? It's kind of metallic right. Okay so we all suck at answering

00:13:24this question. I know I do. I'm just glad it's not just me. Sorry to be rude but you know I want to

00:13:31be honest. Don't make me scream. So you say

00:13:40they're managing their own anxiety, they're managing their children, there's a lot of

00:13:43anxiety around kids misbehaving from moms. How could you embarrass me like that in public? Heard

00:13:48that from my mother. A gal gave me the excuse of it's because she has five children. Right. So y'all

00:14:00Right. So y'all have this delightful theory and you know I think it blows chunks but I could be

00:14:10wrong. So your theory is the women are anxious about their children misbehaving and that's why

00:14:15they micromanage. Is that your theory? Hit me with a why if that's the general theory, if I

00:14:23understand this correctly, that the women are micromanaging because their children shouldn't

00:14:29misbehave and if the children misbehave then the mothers will be judged in horrible harsh

00:14:37cauldron like coven feminist blah blah blah right. Is that right? Come on. H M U. H M U.

00:14:49H M U. Hit me up. Let me know. Yes. All right.

00:14:58You know that doesn't answer the question, right?

00:15:05What do you mean you have no kids and no theories? Are you saying

00:15:09that you were never micromanaged as a child? What are you, from Aldebaran?

00:15:15Ah yes. Fresh from the salt mines of Kessel we have BoarMega22 who has no encounters with

00:15:23humanoid females of any way shape or bipedal description. You ever go on a field trip

00:15:32with female teachers? What is this answer?

00:15:38Help me to know. But why does this, why is there no answer? Why does this, well they've got anxiety,

00:15:46they want the kids to behave badly, well rather, they want the kids to behave well. Why? Why does

00:15:50this not answer the question? Why doth it, and you know just because it's tough for me to answer the

00:16:03question doesn't mean it couldn't be easy for someone else. I actually kind of relieved.

00:16:09I also disagree with that theory. Yes, I'm actually kind of relieved because I'm like

00:16:14racking my brain like why, why, why? And then you're like well it's this.

00:16:21Is micromanaging the opposite of parenting? I don't know what the opposite of parenting is.

00:16:26I don't know. Were the moms punished for similar behavior or is it the why women wear makeup?

00:16:32Answer. Okay, so this woman has a kid who's almost three. She takes these kids out into public.

00:16:41She micromanages. The kids end up screaming. She's probably had this going on for two to two

00:16:47and a half years. If she's so concerned about the children misbehaving, why doesn't she change what

00:16:54she does? That's what I don't understand. The last thing in the world I'd ever want is for my

00:17:05children to misbehave in public, so I'm going to repeatedly do the same empty-headed, complete,

00:17:12absent, closed-heart micromanaging that had them blow up in public the last 4,000 times.

00:17:17Why do people do things that repeatedly do not work?

00:17:33If you were very concerned about, I understand, right? If you're very concerned about your kids

00:17:37misbehaving in public, then why would you do the things that cause them to end up standing

00:17:44and wobbling on chairs by a balcony screaming at the top of their lungs? Why?

00:17:50Right? That's like me saying, well, the most important thing is for me to go north and I

00:17:56head south and the GPS says, you're going south, not north, recalculating, take a u-turn, make a

00:18:00u-turn if possible, and you do it, and I just keep going down, keep going south, and you're saying,

00:18:08well, I mean, and I say, why do women go south? And you say, because they want to go north,

00:18:15and that doesn't answer the question. If the mothers want the children to behave well,

00:18:24why do they keep doing the micromanaging stuff that has the children inevitably end up acting

00:18:30badly? I do not understand, my friends, and I would like to understand.

00:18:46Women make no sense to me. Stillp? Oh, still? Still? In the still of the night. All right.

00:18:54I don't know. I don't know the answer. Because you want them to misbehave?

00:18:57I don't know. I don't know. They never considered another solution.

00:19:08I don't think that's true. Are you saying that women have no capacity

00:19:12to change their behaviors when they're getting the opposite of their desired outcome?

00:19:17I don't think that's true.

00:19:28I don't think that's true.

00:19:32I mean, some women, sure, but some men, too. So why? Why would you keep doing the same thing

00:19:36you've always done? Like, the family was made up really nicely. That's how you could tell

00:19:41they're sort of middle upper middle class, right? The kids had little bows in their hair,

00:19:46and the mother was dressed to the nines. So she clearly puts a lot of effort into appearance.

00:19:53So why not say, my children keep escalating in public. I wonder what I can do. Let's try that,

00:20:00shall we? How do I stop my children misbehaving in public?

00:20:31Hmm. All right.

00:20:41Now, but it's always like after they've escalated. The articles are all about after they've

00:20:46escalated. Okay, that's not helpful, because that's about a woman getting her hair done.

00:21:01All right. Managing your child's behavior in public.

00:21:09All right. Children who are four or five usually cannot remain compliant and well-behaved for over

00:21:15two hours. Children may also not know what to expect in public situations, making them anxious,

00:21:20blah, blah, blah. Okay, so tips on how to manage misbehavior in public. One, create learning

00:21:27experiences. Hey, that's just what I was talking about with the lemon cake. Creating learning

00:21:32experiences can help prepare your child for the outing. If you know your child struggles with

00:21:35trips to the grocery store, you may need to set up trial runs where you are not pressed to get

00:21:39dinner on the table. Only go inside for a short period of time and praise all your child's positive

00:21:43behaviors, holding your hand, staying close, blah, blah, blah. Or if going out to eat at a

00:21:47restaurant is the issue, try going to expensive places first and only getting a drink or a snack.

00:21:52Okay. Oh, learning experience. Okay. I don't know what that is. Oh, so that's all right. It's like

00:21:55clear rules. Yes. Involve and engage your child in the event or activity. If you're at the grocery

00:21:59store, you can ask your child to help you find the right apples. Engage in conversation about

00:22:03color, shapes, or how much items cost to keep their interest. Yes, of course. Of course.

00:22:11You know, I'd go grocery shopping with my daughter when she was very little. We'd show me

00:22:15all the red things and where's the bread? And I'm going to hunt. I'm going to find the eggs before

00:22:19you do. And like, you just make it fun. Make it fun. So she can just look this up, right?

00:22:32Involve and engage your child in the event or activity. How are children supposed to be engaged

00:22:35in a coffee shop where they're just sitting there doing what, right? So honestly, I mean,

00:22:42all this time spent doing your hair and getting the right dress and putting your kids'

00:22:47hair in bows and bonnets. And like, what's the point?

00:22:56I don't understand. Somebody says, I think it has nothing to do with managing their children.

00:23:00They are managing their emotions. Okay, I get that. But all right. I keep doing terrible things

00:23:08like addictive videos because it often makes me feel more alive than when I'm with myself.

00:23:12That often bleeds into how I treat others. Okay, a bit of a non-sequitur, but that's fine.

00:23:16I think the children's escalation would justify further micromanaging in the future in the

00:23:19mother's mind. She will also have something to complain about to her friends and family.

00:23:27So the default is management. This is how to manage that. This is a how to manage list,

00:23:33right? No, no management. Like if you get your kids involved in the activities,

00:23:37I don't think there's management. So if it was the state creating more poverty with the welfare

00:23:43state, when the stated goal of ending poverty with the state, would you not say the real goal

00:23:48is to create more poverty? The state is just a bunch of people. So when a bunch of people achieve

00:23:51the opposite of the stated goal, then the opposite of the stated goal is the goal. So when the mother

00:23:54does this, yes, I get that. I get that. But why? Shopping was where my resistance to my parents

00:24:01started by refusing to push the cart anywhere. Yeah, I mean, honestly, when you have eyes to see,

00:24:10you see some fairly ugly stuff on a regular basis. So after I did my work this morning on

00:24:20peaceful parenting, I had a three-hour private call in a coaching session with a guy. And then

00:24:27I chatted with my wife for a while. And then I went to the grocery store. And I'm going to the

00:24:33grocery store. I'm a bit of a fruit addict, right? So I go to the grocery store. As I'm walking into

00:24:39the grocery store, it's one of these grocery stores where there are two types of carts, right?

00:24:43There's a big cart where the kid can sit. And then there's a little cart where there's no room for

00:24:47the kid to sit, right? And this guy's walking in with his daughter. She's probably three and a half

00:24:53on his hip. Now, when kids are three and a half, they love to sit in, right? It's like a little

00:25:00zamboni for them, right? They get to sit in the shopping cart. So the dad grabs this tiny shopping

00:25:07cart. And the girl says, Dad, I want the big shopping cart. I want to sit. And he's like,

00:25:12no, we're taking the small shopping cart. And she just starts to really complain. And he just

00:25:16sweeps into the store. I'm like, what? What are you doing? What are you doing?

00:25:25If your kid wants a large shopping cart and she wants to sit there,

00:25:30I don't understand. Why wouldn't you? Like, I don't understand. Why wouldn't you? What's wrong

00:25:36with that? What's wrong with that? I mean, oh, I'm in a big hurry. It's like, you're not in a big

00:25:42hurry. This was at six o'clock, right? At six o'clock, I went to the grocery store.

00:25:49Why wouldn't you just, oh, yeah, okay, let's do the big cart. What's the problem? I mean,

00:25:55you can't be in that big a rush. It's not like you've got to get to work.

00:25:59And if you are in a big rush, that's not your kid's fault.

00:26:05But he's just like, nope, he sweeps into the store. And the kids, I didn't hear the rest of

00:26:09it because I try to avoid those kinds of situations. Obviously, if I see something

00:26:13really abusive, I'll step in. But that was just kind of rude. And it's like, why?

00:26:19Your kid wants to sit in a big cart while you go grocery shopping.

00:26:27I don't understand why you would say no to that. Why? Why would you say no to that? It's just like

00:26:31a reflex. No, I don't. I don't follow. I don't follow. No, it was not a cart where you had to

00:26:42put the loony in. McDonald's used to be fun, had things to keep kids busy in the playland,

00:26:51now it's a depressed middle-aged adult, boring as an adult.

00:26:56Oh, the first time I went into a coffee shop when I was 17, my first thought was how boring it seemed.

00:27:08I don't know. Yeah, I mean, bringing kids to a coffee shop, I really don't know. I like the

00:27:15cars with the small cars attached to the front, and I always put them back so it's easy for other

00:27:19parents to find. Yeah, yeah, those are great fun. But here, I mean, what's really sad is that your

00:27:26kids, your kids would love to spend time with you, but you've got to meet them halfway, right?

00:27:37Changing her behavior means having to confront her friends and family about that behavior and

00:27:42her childhood, maybe getting too close to the bodies that you've talked about before, yeah?

00:27:47Why not make the grocery store more fun by enjoying the time with the children? Yeah.

00:27:53I, again, I don't, I don't understand it. And I'm not like playing dumb,

00:27:58for once. No, I do not understand why, if your kid wants the...

00:28:04I don't know. Why? Why? Why not?

00:28:10Right? It's just rude.

00:28:24Somebody says, my mom laughed about a story how she pulled my hair in frustration because I was

00:28:28misbehaving in public. Insane. Yeah. One of the first times I really began to question whether

00:28:41it's a funny thing about rules in society, right? So with my mother, I mean, as you know,

00:28:44she was violent and aggressive with regards to like stupid nonsense, who cares kind of rules,

00:28:50right? But I remember being in the first year I was in boarding school, she would come up to visit

00:28:58every, I don't know, two, three months, it felt like. She would come up to visit and she took me

00:29:06to, this was a place near, gosh, Sheltonham. Do I have that right?

00:29:13And I was running around a fountain and I fell into the fountain.

00:29:21And I thought I was going to get the crap beaten out of me. Like pulled out and, you know,

00:29:26punched and like all that kind of stuff, right? And there was nothing.

00:29:31She was pretty good natured about it.

00:29:32And it was fine. That's bizarre. I remember being really like, I was like terrified because I fell

00:29:47into the fountain and she just helped me out and, you know, we'll walk it off and

00:29:53let's get some napkins. And she was just great.

00:29:57Of course, I realized later, it's like, it's in public,

00:30:00you got to put up the appearance and all of that.

00:30:05Somebody says, apologies for the typo. So a reason to achieve misbehavior in your child

00:30:10could be to justify after the fact your negative feelings towards them,

00:30:13perhaps because you have not processed your mother's treatment of you.

00:30:18A reason to achieve misbehavior could be to justify your negative feelings towards them.

00:30:23But I think there is a courting of self-pity and disappointment. I can't take you kids anywhere

00:30:27and you never listen. And like, there's a certain amount of on the cross maternal martyrdom.

00:30:32Maybe that's got something. Also, why not bring activities that the kids enjoy? Yes,

00:30:36coloring books, toys, etc. Especially coffee shop setting, they could all pretend they're

00:30:39working like the other adults. Like if you were treated badly and you universalize it,

00:30:46then children have to be bad, right? So you need your children to be bad. So you act to

00:30:51achieve bad behavior in your children. Yeah, bringing your kids to a, bringing like one of

00:30:55three-year-olds basically to a coffee shop with no activities. I mean, that's just, that's not

00:30:59even courting doom, that's guaranteeing it, right? And then not engaging with them and fussing and,

00:31:04right? A little ashamed to admit this, but I can't imagine not giving my kid the big cart

00:31:09if maybe they were misbehaving or throwing a tantrum about nothing just before that.

00:31:15Oh, so you're gonna, you're gonna max, you're gonna match your kid's tantrum with a little

00:31:20petty tantrum of your own. You can't have the big cart because it's immature to have tantrums.

00:31:25Okay, well, that's obviously not modeling what you want out of your kids. I don't know if you're

00:31:30half kidding, but I'm sure you understand, right? But yeah, it's like one little, one little,

00:31:35that's a funny thing. Like Google, I said this in a show not too long ago, right?

00:31:41It was a solo show. Maybe you missed it. But if you did, here's the brief version, which is,

00:31:49many philosophers from even the pre-Socratics, but certainly Socrates onwards,

00:31:53say that, you see, immorality is just ignorance. It's just a form of ignorance. I mean,

00:31:59surely if everybody knew the costs and benefits of good and evil, they'd just choose to be good

00:32:03rather than evil. So evil is really just the absence of the knowledge of good, that if you

00:32:08just gave people enough information, you would be able to woo them away from the dark, black heart

00:32:13of misdeeds and have them just pursue the shiny trebuchet to heaven that a deep knowledge of

00:32:18virtue inevitably produces, right? So evil is just a lack of knowledge, right? Now, we've really

00:32:27put that one to the test and put it to rest. We've put that entire theory to bed, because

00:32:33if you said to Socrates, oh, so evil is really just a lack of knowledge. So if we put the sum

00:32:39total of humans' knowledge in people's asses, and they could reach it at any time and look up

00:32:45anything any time, no matter where they are, that would be about as much knowledge as you could

00:32:51possibly give access to human beings, right? You couldn't give more access to knowledge than having

00:32:57the sum total of human knowledge available. You could even talk to the little magic box and have

00:33:02it read back to you all of the knowledge you had, right? Like I had one little query here which gave

00:33:08the answer as to what to do with your kids in a coffee shop. So the idea that evil is just a lack

00:33:13of knowledge has been perfectly put to rest by smartphones and the internet, because now everybody

00:33:17has access to infinite knowledge, and yet so many of them remain evil. So this idea that evil is just

00:33:23a lack of knowledge? Nope. Nope, nope, nope. All right. I know some camps in the white cell, or is that

00:33:33white shell? I know some camps in the white shell, and as a kid we flew through Toronto on the way to

00:33:38Orlando. Oh, and Dryden. My sum total first-hand knowledge of Ontario. What the hell does that

00:33:44have to do with? I don't know. That's called Hanlon's Razor is a Scythe. I don't know what the hell that

00:33:50means either. I guess I... did everybody have a stroke, or did I? Did I have a stroke? In Costco, waiting

00:33:56for my food, stood next to a mom who was just scolding and attacking her children for being

00:33:59curious and exploring. Yeah. Evil hates virtue because it awakens their own guilt. All right.

00:34:08Tell me the number of professional martyrs you've had in your life. Oh, the minister of doom and

00:34:14gloom from the kingdom of woe is me has arrived, and all is sorrow. Mrs. Bartlett, right? All is

00:34:21sorrow and tragedy, and they're just hot done by, and the doctors never listen, and the teachers

00:34:26don't listen, and their children don't listen, and oh, the violin of cat gut self-pity is just

00:34:34constantly playing like an orchestra of the generally damned. Have you ever had such a person,

00:34:41such a soul-sucking vampire of joy and hope in your life? Hanlon's Razor equals assuming evil

00:34:47comes from ignorance as opposed to malicious intent. Oh, okay. Thank you. I was not aware,

00:34:53but now I am. Oh no. Half of all the people I grew up with.

00:34:59Oh, I'm so sad. Oh, isn't it awful? I had eight aunts who sang that in chorus. Four come to mind,

00:35:09and then I went to the doctor, and I said to the doctor, doctor, this is an issue, and he just

00:35:16said, no, no, no, no, it's all in your head, and he just wanted to stuff me with full of pills, and I said,

00:35:21no, doctor, I'm just, you know, there's these stories where, and I, you know, my friend who's a lawyer

00:35:26said that I was completely in the right, but nobody listens to me. Who listens to me? Nobody.

00:35:30I'm always right, and nobody ever listens to me. Oh, God. The self-pity. Oh, my gosh.

00:35:41I'd like to dig an infinitely deep hole and throw all of the Karen-based hope into it until it

00:35:46rests to a tiny gentle center right in the middle. You know, you dig a hole all the way through the

00:35:49earth through so something in, it doesn't go back and forth, up and down, it just goes right and

00:35:53slows down and stops in the middle because gravity shifts. Oh, it used to be a peculiarly,

00:36:01peculiarly, and pecuniary female trait, but boy, is it ever spreading to men these days. Ooh, like a

00:36:09little estrogen ball-eating, nutsack-destroying, spinal-shredding tsunami of girliness. Oh, I'm

00:36:18such a victim. Oh, this is so hard done by. Oh, these terrible things happened hundreds of years

00:36:23ago, and thus I have no free will and cannot compete. Oh, give me your money. Crazy stuff,

00:36:30man. You were trying to remember where your mother took you. Sorry, can't help.

00:36:38But I grew up in England. Why are you talking about Toronto and Orlando?

00:36:42I actually looked up the other day. I went to Camp Bolton many years ago. I actually spent quite

00:36:50a few summers in Camp Bolton because my mom was in hot pursuit of mail cash, and it shut down. It

00:36:58was mismanaged, and it's gone, along with the Science Center. Entropy and falling IQ has doomed

00:37:07all of the edifices of my childhood. Yeah, this self-pity shit, oh my god, it is just rampant.

00:37:17Well, of course, you know, the government gets paid. The government will pay you for. Hey,

00:37:25when's the debate, by the way? Isn't there a presidential debate coming up? I'm sorry I'm so

00:37:29off politics. I can't remember. When is this debate? It's not tonight, is it? I might watch

00:37:33that. Isn't CNN threatening anyone who tries to comment on it? Excellent. Yeah, that sounds like

00:37:39a democratic fair use. Yes, you own the debate, and nobody can talk about it and show any clips

00:37:45from it. Ah, CNN. Ah, and at least Julian Assange is out. I was not expecting that. Is it tomorrow?

00:37:57Really? Tomorrow, I love you, tomorrow. All right, good to know. Good to know. All right,

00:38:05maybe I have to shuffle a couple of things around, but I'd watch that. Are you going to watch it?

00:38:11Just out of curiosity. I don't know. I mean, just because I'm off politics obviously doesn't mean

00:38:15anything to anyone else, but are you going to watch it? Can you imagine what kind of cocktails

00:38:24they're putting Joe Biden on? June 27th. Oh, that is tomorrow, like 7, 8 p.m. kind of thing.

00:38:37All right, I have three calls tomorrow. I might have to shift one. All right.

00:38:47Yeah, Wikileaks had to delete the DNC files from their website. Well, it's still in the Pirate Bay,

00:38:51right? Yep. I mean, I don't blame the guy.

00:38:59The stadium in Winnipeg was built less than 20 years ago. Concrete crumbling.

00:39:03Roman concrete still holds together after 2,000 years. Yeah.

00:39:13Yeah, I mean, poor guy. What is he? How long has he been in prison now? Five years? More?

00:39:17I remember doing shows on him. I did a show with Cassandra Fairbanks, now Cassandra,

00:39:23husband name. I did shows on... poor guy, man. Poor guy.

00:39:30All right, so let me get to your questions. Feel free to type them in.

00:39:34You know, we're 45 minutes into the show.

00:39:38Not one tip. Oh, don't make me pull out my Aunt Edna and crucify myself on the back wall of Woe

00:39:46is Me. Oh, the sadness. Freedomain.com slash donate, people. Doing quality work here.

00:39:55Quality cafe stories. All right, so let me get to your questions, comments. What do we got here?

00:40:04What are some tips to determine if a company is a good place to work for?

00:40:09Did you ever have crappy jobs? I really did have crappy jobs. All I had was crappy jobs

00:40:14when I was younger. I mean, gosh, what did I do? Let me see if I can go in chronological order.

00:40:20I painted plaques when I was 10 for the 1977 Silver Jubilee. Got a little bit of cash for

00:40:25that. That was my last job in England. When I came to Canada, I got a job that I had to take like,

00:40:32oh my gosh, it was like, I took a bus, a subway, and a streetcar to get to this job,

00:40:39putting together the New York Times on weekends at a bookstore, but I loved the job. I didn't

00:40:44love putting the New York Times together and finding all the places to put the newspapers,

00:40:48but I did get to basically take home whatever books I wanted because they just rip off the

00:40:52covers and they called remainders, you get your money back. So I basically had an infinite library

00:40:56in that place. And I worked there. I got a paper route. I took over some guy's paper route for

00:41:04quite some time, which was not fun for me because I'm not exactly a morning kid and never was and

00:41:08never will be. And then I got a job in a hardware store where I worked for a couple of years. Then

00:41:16I got a job at the same time I was cleaning offices at night. I also would go, I remember

00:41:23there was a woman, my friend of mine and I would go and we would clean the dog hair off her carpets.

00:41:29We would get these J cloths and just scrape all the dog hair off her carpets. And I did that work

00:41:35for a while. I worked as a dishwasher, but I couldn't do that. I literally would rather starve

00:41:41than be a dishwasher. And then I started getting jobs in restaurants as a waiter. I worked at

00:41:46Pizza Hut. I worked at Swiss Chalet. I worked at a downtown seafood restaurant when I was downtown.

00:41:56Yes, I had lots of crappy jobs. Then I started doing temp work because I was good with computers

00:42:01and I started working in temp work and that was pretty good. But I was so efficient at temp work

00:42:09that I would be booked for a week and get it done in a day, whatever I needed to get done,

00:42:15because I'd program stuff and create keystroke combos and stuff. I had a little macro program

00:42:20I took with me. So I was very much in demand, but it was kind of tough to keep me employed because

00:42:24I was so efficient. So yes, I've had tons and tons and tons of crappy jobs. And even when I

00:42:34got into the professional software field, there was some serious crap involved in the jobs.

00:42:41It was a serious shit sandwich cavalcade often, right? Because the tension between lying

00:42:49pathological sociopathic sales and hard done by Aunt Edna, woe is me, crucified tech teams.

00:42:56The tension is real. The tension is real. Ah, Pizza Hut was great back in the day, man. Oh,

00:43:03that oily crunch. Heard about Calgary police arrested Tommy Robertson on supposed outstanding

00:43:10immigration warrant. Had to surrender his passport. Can't leave the city. They're going

00:43:13to court about it. Yeah, I saw a little bit of that. Ezra Levant was interviewing him.

00:43:18And yeah, for what? Does it matter? It does not.

00:43:282018 was the arrest, but living in the consulate in England was basically house arrest, right?

00:43:31He's been 12 years he's been in, right? But I mean, it's been five or six years since the actual

00:43:37arrest. But yeah, he was living in the, oh gosh, Venezuelan consulate, wasn't he? For a long time.

00:43:43For a long time, just monstrous. Just monstrous.

00:43:56All right. So yes, I have had, I've had crappy jobs.

00:44:05All right. Thanks. I see a question. Thank you for the tip.

00:44:07Let me just go and check freedomain.com slash donate. Ooh, a little chilly. A little chilly.

00:44:16All right. If a company is a good place to work for.

00:44:28So I have some red flags. I have some red flags.

00:44:34In particular, bosses who are both female in their 30s or 40s and single, that's not good,

00:44:41because a lot of women, when they age, will throw themselves even more into their career to avoid

00:44:48the fact that they are not married. And so you will get some, I had a friend of mine many years

00:44:55ago, and whenever his boss had a boyfriend, this was a woman in her late 30s, whenever,

00:45:02or mid to late 30s, I guess, whenever her boss, whenever his boss had a boyfriend,

00:45:06the work was like fantastic. And then every time they would break up, it would just be savage,

00:45:11you know, like negative. So, and it could be the case with unmarried men as well, but people

00:45:18are not good bosses if their lives are going badly, because they tend to throw themselves

00:45:22into work, bury themselves in workaholism and expect you to go down with them.

00:45:26So another thing, if the business talks about being a family, get the fuck out. It's a cult.

00:45:36It's a cult. If, yeah, if a, if a business talks about, you know, well, we, we consider our

00:45:41employees family. And it's like, no, you don't, you just use that word. So you're underpaid.

00:45:49So yes, when they have a cult of super importance, you know, we're changing the world. It's like,

00:45:58you're not changing the world. Almost nobody is changing the world. Okay, we're changing the

00:46:02world, but almost nobody's changing the world. But if they're changing the world,

00:46:11if they use too many buzzwords and so on,

00:46:15you want a place where people love getting better at stuff. I love getting better at stuff. Oh,

00:46:22it just gives me that Six Sigma Pareto principle dopamine, just, oh man, when I could get 10%

00:46:29faster processing off the same processing processor by improving the code base,

00:46:35it gave me a deep, delicious, satanic orgasm of productivity thrills. So people who just love

00:46:42getting better at things. I'm always trying to get better at what I do here, be more animated,

00:46:49yet still not quite insane. Go to insanity, back it up a tiny bit. That's my sweet spot. Just,

00:46:55you know, and that's, that's a surf edge. That's brain parkour with the other dimensions of

00:47:00schizophrenia. So always trying to be free and entertaining and engaging in my language,

00:47:07but not to the point where I lose my mind and get arrested. So there's that.

00:47:14So yeah, that's not a good sign. If you have undefined benefits, intangible benefits,

00:47:26that, you know, the company culture is part of the benefit. That's not great.

00:47:33If they charge you for coffee, get out. If you have two people in HR during the interview,

00:47:43get out. Because that just means you're going to be fired from HR,

00:47:49womb-drying Karens anyway. And so yeah, there's a lot of red flags around that kind of stuff. But

00:47:54you want to work for a place, you know, they have a realistic view of themselves because a lot of

00:47:59people will pump up and go, we're changing the world, which means we'll pay you less, right?

00:48:04And companies that don't share the risks and rewards where you get a salary, but no options,

00:48:12again, I'm talking about more sort of professional stuff, but where there's no risks or rewards

00:48:15that are shared with the employees, that's not good because it means you have a greedy

00:48:19set of managers who want to hold on to all the benefits themselves. And that's not good.

00:48:25So let's see, what else have I noticed? What do you guys have? Let me see what you guys have.

00:48:36I've finished, somebody says, I finished your French Revolution series last week. I knew it

00:48:40was bad, violent, bloody, massive mob rule, and senseless bloodshed, but no movie or documentary

00:48:45I've ever seen ever did the French Revolution the injustice it deserved. Well, it's back, right?

00:48:50It's back. I mean, the Bolsheviks and the French Revolution guys, they're back. They're back.

00:48:59Let's see here. I washed dishes for nine years at an Irish pub.

00:49:07At the same time, I was a school teacher during the day. Dishwashing paid better.

00:49:16At my worst job, my manager would cry when his favorite sports team would lose a game.

00:49:21You just covered 15 hours of business material off the cuff, bravo. Managers that don't pay

00:49:33commissions for sales you make. Oh yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. People who use the

00:49:39phrase best in class. Best in class, all of these kinds of buzzwords are just wretched.

00:49:48We produce best in class, blah, blah, blah. It's like, there's no such thing as best in class.

00:49:57Best in class AI. Oh, so you stole more. Did you steal more? AI is just this big stinking pile

00:50:03of stolen stuff. It's a testament to violations of pretty much eight of the 10 commandments.

00:50:10So it's a big pile of steam and theft masquerading as pretend intelligence.

00:50:17Yeah, best in class is terrible because there's no such thing, right? Because whenever you focus

00:50:22on one thing, you're not focusing on something else. So it's best in class in terms of its

00:50:27reporting capacities. It's like, well, that's just saying that, well, you know, renting is worse than

00:50:35owning a house because you're just throwing your money away. So you're comparing all the strengths

00:50:39of owning a house with all the weaknesses of renting and think you're doing something

00:50:42intelligent. So wherever you, you know, SWOT, right? Strengths, weaknesses, opportunities,

00:50:49and threats, right? So this SWOT analysis, it's like, just stop spitting out

00:50:58corporate acronyms like a machine gun of NPC stupidity and just talk to me like a normal person.

00:51:03And yes, we're aiming to be best in class. And it's like, I don't know.

00:51:10So then you're more expensive and then you're, right. So it's like, you know, the Lamborghini

00:51:15saying, well, we're best in class. And it's like, not if you're not a multimillionaire,

00:51:18then you're just a massive waste of libido enhancement for insecure middle-aged men.

00:51:23So yeah, this best in class stuff is, you know, I think I wrote some great software

00:51:29and we had best in class stuff in some areas, but our integrations were not good with other

00:51:35software because I, I found that stuff boring. So I didn't really work on it.

00:51:40I was really good at creating dynamic web interfaces off a database that contained

00:51:44the interface of all of our GUI to the database. But because that was fun, you know, like you get

00:51:50to write some code and recreate a windows interface on the web back in the day when this was tough.

00:51:55But I hated back bolting to Oracle and SQL databases. Ugh, forget that. That sucks. So I

00:52:02didn't do that. We're best in class with our web interface and reporting structure. Yes.

00:52:08Our integrations, well, we're about as integrated as main. Put it that way.

00:52:18My current, at my current job, there's a lot of workplace politics, gossip, blame games,

00:52:22it's going to be a struggle not to get caught up in the bullshit. As a kid, I loved Lambos. Yeah.

00:52:30Somebody's asking me for massive life advice and sending me $5.

00:52:40Always interesting. Always an interesting audience.

00:52:46Oh, this is so important. It might actually kill your mother. Well, if it's that important,

00:52:52sorry, if it's important enough to give me $5, I probably would question how much you value your

00:52:58mother's life. If you're relying upon me to save your mother's life and you're giving me $5,

00:53:03I'm not sure you want her to live.

00:53:09Best in class at paying employees and giving them benefits and protections. Yeah. Yeah.

00:53:17What was it? What was the company? Was it? I don't want to guess the company. I have a name

00:53:21in my head, but I don't want to be unfair. But there was a company that recently said,

00:53:33well, you can continue to work at home, but if you do, you'll get absolutely no career advancement.

00:53:37And like a massive, surprisingly large percentage of the employees said, yeah, I'm good with that.

00:53:43I'm fine having absolutely no career advancement. Just don't make me come into the office. Right.

00:53:52Uh, you want to also look, maybe $5 is all he has.

00:54:01Oh yes. It was Dell. I thought it was Dell. Yeah. Oh yes. Maybe $5 is all he has. Well,

00:54:07he's got internet, he's got a computer and he's got, and he can also say this. And I know that

00:54:12this is a very low tip for such a large ask. That's totally fine. That's totally fine.

00:54:16You know, like if, if I'm going past some guy who's homeless on the street, who's begging for

00:54:21money and I give him 15 cents, at least I'm going to say, I'm so sorry, man, this is all the money

00:54:28I have. That's pretty funny.

00:54:40Um, so when I would go to, to get a job and I would, um, I would want to walk around. I said,

00:54:54you know, can we just have a quick stroll around the floor? And then I would get to see

00:55:01the employees and get a sense of the, the energy. And if everything was gray and cubicles,

00:55:08that was a big problem for me. If it looked like a man cave of a cocaine addicted 12 year old,

00:55:16in other words, here's our foosball table. This is not Palladium. This is a place of business.

00:55:24So if it looks like a Tom Hanks apartment from the movie big, I'd be like, my interest is now

00:55:30very small. Uh, if it was all completely gray, there was absolutely no splash of color or soul

00:55:35to the place at all. That's a, an indication of a bad environment as a whole. So yes, yes.

00:55:46So he says, sorry, I can send more. Just trying to figure out how this app works.

00:55:51Yeah, that's not true though. Sorry. It's just, I mean, I hate to call you out. It's not true.

00:55:55You saw you sent five bucks in which case you'd say, Oh, sorry, I meant to send more or whatever.

00:55:58Right. So now that's, uh, that's what people say, right? Like I, they, they send me five bucks

00:56:03and I don't care the five bucks, right? Just, you know, if you're asking a huge question,

00:56:07that's going to save your mother's life. And you send me five bucks, you can at least say,

00:56:10I'm so sorry. It's only five bucks. My mom sent me five bucks. I don't care.

00:56:14I'm so sorry. It's only five bucks. My mom's worth a lot more than this. And I'm really leaning on

00:56:17your 40 years worth of expertise. Here's five bucks. But then people, when I call them out,

00:56:22people say, Oh, I don't know how the app works. Of course you do. Come on, come on. Well, this is,

00:56:28but this is part of my advice, right? This is part of my advice. And, uh, I, uh, if I ever took a job

00:56:38as a manager, I would never, ever, ever, ever, ever take the job without meeting with my employees,

00:56:43my potential employees, right? I just wouldn't do it. Like if people would say, Oh, you're going

00:56:47to manage, you know, some jobs I was managing like 30 or 35 people. So I need to meet them.

00:56:52Or at least the team leads or something like that. Cause I need to get a sense of,

00:56:55are they traumatized? Cause you know, when you're being brought in, it's because you're

00:56:59usually replacing someone. Did the last manager break the employees, right? That's kind of

00:57:05important. Cause I don't know that I want to rebuild people like all that kind of stuff.

00:57:09Right. So yeah, these are all, you know, you get Six Sigma stuff. And if the manager has a whole

00:57:17bunch of, uh, see, you know, I remember I didn't take a job once because the manager had a whole

00:57:23bunch of business books on his shelf with no bends. Right. I remember, uh, I went on a date

00:57:35with a woman once and we went back to her place and, uh, she had Stephen Hawkins, a brief history

00:57:40of time on the coffee book, right? On the coffee table. And, uh, anyway, I, I lifted it up and I

00:57:49said, Oh, brief history of time. How interesting. And she's like, yeah, it's a challenge. And I'm

00:57:54like, you, you mean it's a challenge to open? Cause I like lift, I opened it, you know, dust

00:58:00and moth coming out, blow the dust off and all of that. So it's like, it's a challenge to open,

00:58:09but let's not pretend you've read it. Okay. This is a set piece. This is like me wearing a wig

00:58:16made of a guy's wheelchair. So yeah, it is. Um, uh, I, I remember cause this guy had this,

00:58:22all these business books and you could tell they'd never been opened. And I'm like, okay, I'm not,

00:58:27I'm not doing that. I'm not doing that. Uh, yeah. Freedomain.com slash donate.

00:58:33That's just the easiest way to, to sort it out.

00:58:40Uh, I remember, uh, I didn't take a job because a guy started telling me about the difficulties

00:58:45he was having with his adopted kid. You know, I adopted two kids. One of the kids is doing great.

00:58:49The other one's hanging out with a bunch of skateboarding weirdos and I can't, what?

00:58:53Okay. I might do this in 20 years, but not now. Not yet. Not today.

00:59:04So no, like if you can't, like if, sorry, like if you can't figure out the app, right. So if, uh,

00:59:15if you're working as a waiter, right. And, and somebody tips you like they, they have a $200

00:59:21meal and they tip you $5. Like, I think we've all done this. Haven't we all done this?

00:59:26Where we try and leave a decent tip, but for some reason we enter it wrong.

00:59:30Right. In, in which case you say, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. I tipped you five bucks on 200.

00:59:35Um, I need to be able to tip again. And if you can't tip again, I literally have gone to the

00:59:39bank, gotten cash, gone back, found the waiter and paid the waiter. Right. Cause I'm not leaving

00:59:47a $5 tip on a $200 meal. Not that I have a lot of $200 meals, but you know what I'm saying? Right.

00:59:53So, uh, if you make a mistake, right. You don't wait to be called out. Right. I mean, isn't this

00:59:59a basic decency thing? Right. Which is if you meant tip more and you tip me $5 and I'll answer

01:00:07the question. I'm, I'm just, you know, telling you how to go through life so that you don't

01:00:11annoy people too much, you know, and you know, if you want to roll with the, you know, I don't

01:00:17want to say like I'm a big deal. Right. I mean, but you know, I've been pretty successful in the

01:00:22art world and pretty successful in the business world. And I was the biggest podcaster on the

01:00:26planet for a good chunk of time. Uh, no, you can, whatever works for you for tips. I'm totally easy

01:00:31with, but, um, I'm telling you a little bit how to roll with big dogs, just a little bit,

01:00:39you know, like you want to elevate your game and you want to roll with some bigger dogs, don't you?

01:00:44I mean, in your life, you don't want to kind of stay down with the $5 and like, you want to

01:00:48roll a little bit. Right. The coins. Yeah. The coins aren't great. As I said before the coins

01:00:56on the locals platform, I mean, cause not their fault, but Google takes a third of the coins

01:01:01because they just take a third of everything that's spent. Right.

01:01:03Beware automatic tip amounts. The dollar amount does not match the percent on the button.

01:01:12I don't quite know what that means, but they're starting at 18% these days. Right. It's tough, man.

01:01:19It's tough. All right. Um, yeah, so keep the coins. Uh, I appreciate those. Uh, but yeah,

01:01:25freedom.com slash donate is the best place. Somebody says that the company I started at

01:01:29six months ago, my boss is retiring at about four years and everyone is 50 plus. Are these red flags?

01:01:36Uh, well, you know, we're all living on the fading.

01:01:43We're all still existing on the fading competence of the boost of the boomers,

01:01:49right? The boomers are all retiring and they're being replaced by idiots. So this all momentum,

01:01:55right? Right. This is all momentum, right? We, you know, you throw a ball up in the air,

01:02:02it goes up for a while, but it's going to come back down. So we're just, you know, we just,

01:02:05I wrote a whole novel about this called the present. You should get it at freedom.com slash

01:02:09books. And he just, you know, we're still going up a little bit, but the, the IQ updraft is gone.

01:02:16Right.

01:02:25Every time you critique a massively important question attached to a small tip,

01:02:29I love to picture beautiful and tragic straw, beautiful and tragic straw man. I imagine it's

01:02:33some poor dude sitting on public wifi typing away on an overheating laptop with a cracked

01:02:38screen that's held together with duct tape and twine who saved $5 over the last six months from

01:02:42his dirt farming job. I think we might, let's throw that in to, uh, to the, uh, thumbnail

01:02:50generator. Let's see what we get. Oh, that's funny. You know, and this is the funny thing too,

01:02:59right? And the funny thing is if somebody says, I have a massive question that my mother's life

01:03:05depends on, here's $5. And I say, you know, it doesn't seem overly generous considering it's

01:03:09your mother's life that's on the line. People don't say, oh yeah, you know, that is probably,

01:03:14like, they don't just say, I'm sorry. It's always some excuse. Well, I don't know how the app works.

01:03:17And I typed the thing. It's like, you just literally saw your tip go through. Yeah. I mean,

01:03:23just please don't lie like this. Then it's like an under tip followed by a justification,

01:03:28followed by a defense, followed by somebody else jumping in. Maybe that's all he's got man. And

01:03:32then followed by, well, I don't know how this app works and I don't know the difference between

01:03:35five and 50. And it's like all just nonsense. Steph, did you see the CEO of Boeing is an

01:03:45accountant and Elon Musk called him out and said the CEO should know how to build airplanes,

01:03:48not spreadsheets. Steph, how do you think an accountant ends up as CEO? I don't know. What

01:03:53the hell do I know? What do I know? I mean, I assume accountant needs to tally up their diversity

01:04:01numbers, right? Like a lot of corporate decisions are run by this DEI diversity stuff, which is

01:04:09just a money grab. And anyway, so boomers retire, nepotism kicks in, business goes bankrupt in two

01:04:17years. Yeah. Yeah. Very happy in my current job. Feel like I've stumbled upon a company with a

01:04:26bunch of normal people, which was a pleasant surprise. Manages, employs all of good character

01:04:29and everyone gets on with it. That's nice. That's nice. All right. Let's get on with some more

01:04:39questions. Yeah. I mean, people will send me 10 coins, which is $1, which ends up being

01:04:5260 cents or something like that. I mean, honestly, please don't. I'm just saying,

01:04:57please don't. Like, honestly, if it's your last $5, don't spend it on me. Spend it on bus fare to

01:05:03get a job. Please don't spend your last $5 on me. My God, that's crazy. Get some food.

01:05:12You know, get to a homeless shelter. My God, this is terrible. Whatever you do, do not spend your

01:05:20last $5 on me. Awful. All right. Any advice for someone who is beginning to take philosophy

01:05:29seriously and you once described it as walking across the desert alone. Any advice for such

01:05:33an individual who now finds himself losing relationships? Well, language is destiny,

01:05:45my friends. Language are the train tracks you lay ahead of yourself. Language is destiny. Where

01:05:53you end up is based upon the language you use. Free will lies in how you define terms.

01:06:06You think I'm kidding? I will just demonstrate to you right now exactly what I'm talking about.

01:06:14I am losing relationships. Oh, philosophy doth cost my soul as the relationships

01:06:22leave my body like the hooks out of the gullet of a bass fish.

01:06:29Losing relationships. Nope. You are not losing any relationships. You are shedding

01:06:38bullshit. You are shedding liars and manipulators

01:06:43who do not care to follow you on the journey towards truth, reason, reality, and morality.

01:06:51I mean, when you take your ship

01:06:54to Sting's Harbor and they scrape all the barnacles off the hull, do you say,

01:06:59ah, my ship is being sunk and riddled with scrapes?

01:07:07Nope. You're just getting rid of the crud that screws up your ship.

01:07:19You're not losing relationships because if you had relationships, they would be enhanced by

01:07:23philosophy because a relationship is where you meet in reality. That cozy little place we call

01:07:28facts, truth, reason, and evidence. That's a relationship. You can't have a relationship

01:07:33with manipulation. You can't have a relationship with delusion. You can't have a relationship with

01:07:37an NPC any more than you can date a fucking toaster. You're not losing relationships.

01:07:43You're shedding bullshit. You are paving the way for real relationships.

01:07:51You are paving the way for real relationships. So I want you to think of it like this.

01:08:02You inherit from a distant unknown relative a lovely little tract of land where in or where

01:08:10on or whereupon there is a ramshackle, fucked up, leaning over, 12 different colors, windows sagging,

01:08:18half rotten roof piece of crap that they pretend is a house, right? The house is,

01:08:28even with Jared's help, absolutely unsalvageable.

01:08:36You bring in a builder. The builder can barely contain his laughter. He's like,

01:08:41I don't want the fact that that sagging ass piece of house of cards is but I wouldn't even go in to

01:08:46inspect that thing because that thing is about to fall down, man. It's going to make me sneeze but

01:08:50by the time I inhale the sneeze I'm going to be stubbing so much air the fucking ceiling is going

01:08:54to come down on me like a ton of bricks and a Wikipedia editor combined with a science center

01:08:59architect. A little spittle there but it's well deserved. So you got this piece of land.

01:09:09In order to live on that piece of land you're going to need a house. However,

01:09:13you have an entirely half-melted shitbox of a skate three glitching bullshit non-house

01:09:19built 150,000 years ago and maintained about as well as, I don't know, the economy for the

01:09:27next generation in all western countries. So if you email me and you say, because you know,

01:09:36the builder says I'm not coming on this property until you knock that piece of shit down.

01:09:43I'd say burn it but you'd probably get asbestos poisoning three states over.

01:09:51So you've got this absolute piece of my GPU just melted while playing Minecraft

01:09:58slidy bullshit house that's not a house. You can't live in it. Floors are rotten,

01:10:02stairs go nowhere. It's

01:10:06Hogwarts without Maggie Smith's strangely elevated bust.

01:10:13Yeah, well, what can I tell you? She's confusing. So

01:10:20you say, the builder says to you, yeah, you know, you knock this down, you scrape it out and

01:10:30you've got some, maybe the foundation could be saved, I don't know, but

01:10:34at least we'll have some foundations to start from, right? And you write to me and you say,

01:10:40Steph, oh Steph, A, here's four dollars and B, how could I possibly survive the loss of this house?

01:10:57Of this house. This abode of ancient shelter for ancestors of which I know little.

01:11:06Steph, this magnificent mansion of protection from the elements, how?

01:11:15Steph, how will I survive the loss of this house? And you send me a picture.

01:11:27Like, what? Are you crazy?

01:11:31That's not a house. That's a deathtrap liability of asbestos monsters.

01:11:39That's a place where you couldn't even film a fucking horror movie because it would kill

01:11:44half the cameramen. That's a breathing deathtrap of moldy hell. So no, you don't have a house.

01:11:54You've got a liability. You don't even have the illusion of a house. Now scrape that thing out

01:12:02and consign it to the star winds of the universe and maybe you've got a place you can build an

01:12:06actual house, but right now you don't have a house. My advice for someone who's beginning

01:12:14to take house building seriously and who has to rip up a decaying mansion that is the dental

01:12:22equivalent of a completely tooth-rotted hellscape of an ex-tooth, how can you help me, Steph, get

01:12:34over the loss of this house? It's like it's not a house. It's in the way of a house. You can get a

01:12:39house there, but you've got to get rid of this shit first. So you get rid of this monstrosity

01:12:52of a broken ex-house and then you can build a house. But if you think you're losing a house,

01:12:59you need to look at the picture again. So here's the thing. I will solve this for you

01:13:04and then the tips will flow in. Oh, okay, okay, let me ask you this. Is it worth it for me to solve

01:13:12this problem for you in about five minutes so that you don't ever think that philosophy is

01:13:19costing you one single relationship? Is that worth anything to you? I want to make sure what I'm doing

01:13:26is worthwhile. So if I can solve for you in five minutes the illusion that you're losing any

01:13:37friendships or relationships or family relations when you pursue philosophy, reason, truth,

01:13:43evidence, and morality, if I can solve that problem for you in a few minutes,

01:13:51is that worth something to you?

01:13:56Tell me yes, tell me no. I will rely upon you.

01:14:01Oh, so sorry. I seem to have missed some comments over on Rumble. All right.

01:14:12Does the truth need to be compromised with a lie to be truth? Does freedom

01:14:15need to be compromised with tyranny to be freedom? No. Okay.

01:14:29Oh, that's funny. Somebody talking about my brother. How interesting.

01:14:33Interesting. Interesting.

01:14:45Ah, I've been waking up at sunrise. I've been following the light across my room.

01:14:51Oh, looks like, are we getting? Why have people stopped typing? Why have people stopped typing?

01:15:03Have you all passed out? Are you gone?

01:15:06Am I going to have to do Duke Nukem voice for the rest of the evening?

01:15:14On the topic of humility, I was working at a company and the owners absolutely

01:15:17adored this one employee. The guy was divorced three times, either divorced or his death by

01:15:23overdose. And when I got into a disagreement with the guy, they told me I needed to look

01:15:27at his positive qualities like loyalty. Okay. So do you know what the answer to that is?

01:15:34You know what the answer to that is, right? That's not even that complicated. I mean,

01:15:38I can tell you the answer to that mystery. The answer to that mystery is that the managers,

01:15:46in my opinion, obviously I don't have any proof, but my assumption would be that the managers

01:15:51did something illegal and the employee has dirt on them. And so they have to go with this weird

01:15:58guy because he's got dirt on them. A lot of business runs on bribery. Well, sorry, a lot

01:16:04of business runs on, in a sense, blackmail. If you know that your boss has done something wrong,

01:16:11then maybe he had an affair while on a business trip. Maybe he's been taking money from the

01:16:18company till maybe he's been putting in illegitimate expenses and all of that, right?

01:16:33So you think I have the easy job, right? Fun philosophy blogging job. Oh yes, this job has

01:16:40been nothing but fun. Let me tell you, bomb threats, death threats, slander, libel, you name

01:16:45it, defamation. Yeah, it's been nothing but fun. Those alien bastards blew up my ride.

01:17:02All right, well, I don't think anybody's responding to me, so I won't inflict the

01:17:07solution. I'll maybe do it another time. Let me make a note here.

01:17:14Uh, you. You are losing relationships.

01:17:32Yeah, what exactly does the boss keep locked up in the bottom drawer?

01:17:36Yeah, you know, maybe the IT guy found the boss's browsing history and maybe,

01:17:43maybe he's getting a big raise to keep it quiet.

01:17:54All right, sorry, let me just check here.

01:17:59Why here? Why here? All right, so I think there are some people who want the answer.

01:18:04Okay, so I will give you the answer. I'd like to know about losing relationships

01:18:11with philosophy. I believe it applies to me. All right, so I'll give myself five minutes.

01:18:22Five minutes, a mere 300 seconds, starting now. All right, if you have a relationship,

01:18:29you can be honest. If you're lying to someone, it's not a relationship, it's a manipulation.

01:18:35Fair? If they're lying to you, it's not a relationship, it's a manipulation. So it's a

01:18:40mutual proximity to other flesh bags because you don't want the actuality of being alone,

01:18:48so you pretend that you have, quote, relationships with people when all you are engaged in

01:18:53is mutual lying, bullying, and self-erasure. So if you have a relationship, you can tell the truth

01:19:00to that person. So if you get into philosophy and you start working with reason and evidence,

01:19:06then you start to get the truth, the truth about yourself, the truth about the world,

01:19:09the truth about others, the truth about history, your own and societal because history is basically

01:19:13a manipulation to control the future. Everyone thinks history is about the past. No, history

01:19:17is about controlling the future by exploiting the present based on mostly lies. So if you have a

01:19:25relationship, it has to be based on honesty because if you're lying to someone, it's not

01:19:29a relationship, it's an exploitation. So if you think you're losing a relationship because of

01:19:36philosophy, no problem. What you do is you go to the person and you say, hey, I think I'm losing a

01:19:42relationship because of philosophy. I think this relationship is kind of getting strained because

01:19:45I'm really into philosophy, truth, reason, evidence, and knowledge. Because, you know,

01:19:49it's a relationship, which means you can tell the truth, right? You can tell the truth.

01:19:54Now, if you find yourself frightened, frightened, to have an honest conversation with someone,

01:20:01it's not a relationship. There's nothing I won't talk to my wife about. There's nothing she won't

01:20:07talk to me about. There's my friends and people I work with, they can all say, is there anything

01:20:12that we can't talk about? No, I think we talk about just about anything. So if you have a

01:20:22relationship, it's got to be based on truth and honesty. So if you think you're losing a

01:20:25relationship and you think it's a real relationship, you're losing the relationship because

01:20:29you're not being honest, so go and be honest in that relationship and find out. Is it real? Well,

01:20:37if it's real, you can tell the truth. If you're lying, you're killing the relationship, not

01:20:42philosophy, and you're killing the relationship against the primary dictate and founding

01:20:46principle of philosophy, the prime directive of philosophy, is tell the truth. Tell the truth.

01:20:56Oh, I fear I'm losing a relationship because of philosophy. Okay, so either you're not telling

01:21:00the truth or the other person's not telling the truth, or you're not telling the truth.

01:21:07Or neither of you is telling the truth. Now, if you're not telling the truth but the other person

01:21:11is receptive to the truth, philosophy is not costing you the relationship. You doing the

01:21:15opposite of philosophy is costing you the relationship because philosophy says tell

01:21:18the truth and you're lying. If the other person hates you for telling the truth, it's not a

01:21:23relationship. Because if you get attacked and rejected and scorned for telling the truth,

01:21:31it's not a relationship. So if you think you're losing relationships, go and save them. I know

01:21:38this sounds cynical. I don't mean that at all. Honestly, go tell the truth. Go and save those

01:21:43relationships by telling the truth. Now, if the person is open and warm and receptive to the

01:21:48truth, even if they're shocked and appalled a little bit, they still care about you enough to

01:21:51want to ask more and be curious, great, you've just saved the relationship. But we all know

01:21:56that's not what's going on. What's going on is that you have found out by telling the truth

01:22:01that people hate the truth. Okay, so the truth has revealed that there was no relationship.

01:22:07It was just mutual masturbatory self-avoidance and lies.

01:22:13There's no way back because you can't undo the truth. There's no control Z,

01:22:16no edit undo for learning the truth. The mind, once stretched by a new idea,

01:22:21never regains its former shape. So if you think you're losing relationships to philosophy,

01:22:30do the philosophical thing and go and tell the truth.

01:22:35Now, if the relationship is revealed to be a total lie because you're attacked, scorned,

01:22:39hated, rejected, and ostracized for telling the truth, then you have just rid yourself

01:22:45of a brain-sapping, soul-destroying, progress-calcifying delusion.

01:22:52It wasn't a real relationship. It was a place you were forced to lie.

01:22:58Now, once you know that it's a place you were forced to lie,

01:23:02you'll never refer to it as a relationship again. Do you think I ever had a relationship

01:23:08with my mother or let's say other family members? Nope, because every time I told the truth,

01:23:16I got attacked, scorned, and rejected, and ostracized. Never had a relationship because

01:23:21you can only have a relationship in reality, in honesty, in truth, and virtue. It's the

01:23:27only relationship that's possible. So you're not losing a relationship. And if you refer

01:23:33to it as losing a relationship, then what you're saying is, I'm lying, right? Oh, I'm losing this

01:23:39relationship. Well, then it's got to be because you're lying. Because if it's the other person

01:23:42who's lying, you're not losing the relationship, you're shedding an exploitation. So go tell the

01:23:47truth and find out.

01:23:57Five minutes-ish, right?

01:24:04I'd like to hear your answer to that question. Unfortunately, I cannot donate until next week.

01:24:07Hey, I appreciate that. Set a reminder. Thank you.

01:24:21Wow, Steph. Once again, that was an informative and impactful answer. I call the avoidance things

01:24:26like landmines, things I can't talk about with others because they blow up over shit. So yes,

01:24:31it is lying and false relationship. This hits home. It's like Rachel and her living mannequin

01:24:37have a boyfriend, only have a, quote, relationship so long as they lie to themselves and each other,

01:24:40as in the present. What relationship was there, right? Damn, this is another takeaway. I've got

01:24:45to save this segment with notes. Thank you. You are welcome. All right.

01:24:57Shedding an exploitation. Kaboom. This is fire. Thank you, Steph. And you send a dollar.

01:25:05Okay, I assume everybody's just trolling me at this point. Hey, it's your conscience, not mine.

01:25:10It's your conscience, not mine. Thank you for revealing the truth about how to escape lies.

01:25:20Thank you for revealing the truth about how to escape lies. It's a dollar.

01:25:32I'm sure that's a mistake. I'm sure you're just...

01:25:36Please, for the love of all that's holy, is it tough to check the numbers you're typing?

01:25:41Is this impossible? God forbid you bet or pay your taxes, you're gonna fat finger your way

01:25:49into oblivion. All right. So let me give you one other thing. I meant to send $10.

01:26:06Thank you. Well, just check. I mean, I don't know why you understand that you're only as good as the

01:26:11work you produce. And if you can't double check your work, I'm not saying this is, you know,

01:26:15but you just need to get into the habit of double checking your work. I've had this

01:26:19conversation with literally zillions of people. I'm not perfect too, whatever, but I double check

01:26:22my work. Oh, that's interesting. Yeah, I'll pass it along to James. But yeah, you have to double

01:26:35and triple check your work. You're only as valuable as the work you provide in an economic

01:26:41sense, right? And if somebody else has to check your work, you're automatically,

01:26:51your economic value goes down by like at least 50% if anybody else has to check your work. Do

01:26:56you know how valuable, how insanely valuable it is to have someone whose work you don't need to check?

01:27:03And again, this is just like, if you can't, if you're just going to type like, and you know,

01:27:08this is a sensitive issue in an area. I just talked about it for like 10 minutes or whatever,

01:27:11right? So that's something you'd want to double check right before you send it, right? I mean,

01:27:17that just is. And this is not about this $1 or $10 or whatever. This is something

01:27:25that is about, can your work be trusted, right? In other words, it used to be, well,

01:27:30there's a buck. I'll send it. Oh, shit. Oh, God, I got it wrong. Oh, no. Oh, right?

01:27:35I'm telling you, this is not just in this, right? It's not just in this situation that that's

01:27:40happening. I'm planning a big donation myself, lump sum donation in a few months on route.

01:27:49Thank you. Now, from being in the trades, not having to check someone's work is hugely

01:27:56beneficial. Yeah, you will be forever economically crippled if people have to check your work.

01:28:04You will forever be economically crippled. You cannot make good money if people have to check

01:28:08your work. And not everyone, of course, but a lot of people that I've ended up working with,

01:28:17I've had to have this conversation. Not everyone. And again, I make mistakes too,

01:28:21but in general, very few. But I've had to have this kind of conversation with a lot

01:28:27of people I've worked with over the years, like, no, just double check your work.

01:28:31If you have time to do it over, you have time to get it right.

01:28:35Just double or triple check your work, because if you have to have someone double check your work,

01:28:43that's deducted from your salary, right? You understand that in the business world. If

01:28:46somebody's got to double check you, well, I want to send this email to the board. Oh, yeah,

01:28:50better have someone look it over, right? So whatever other people have to double check

01:28:57is deducted from your paycheck, which is you can't make money if people have to check your work.

01:29:03If you mean to send ten dollars, but you send a dollar when it's really important you get that

01:29:08right, that's a big issue. Double, triple check your work. Be someone who's bulletproof. Be

01:29:20someone that other people can just send your shit out and they don't need to worry about it,

01:29:25and then you get paid more because you don't need a backup, right? You don't need a backup.

01:29:41Just be that person because, you know, be that person whose word is bond, right? Be that person

01:29:49whose word is bond. If you say you're going to do it, it's going to get done.

01:29:56If you say it's going to be right, it's going to be right.

01:30:03If you make a commitment to deliver, it gets delivered. Be that person.

01:30:11When you say it's done, it's done, and nobody needs to check on you. Nobody needs to review.

01:30:19Nobody needs to look for typos or things that are wrong or slipped digits. Just don't be that.

01:30:25I started a new job today. I hated the fact someone noticed a tiny mistake. I did one

01:30:33mistake all day. I'm not going to bully myself over it, but I do hate it. Yes, you should hate it.

01:30:44Thank you. I appreciate the tip. No, you should hate. Hate errors. Hate errors. You know,

01:30:51I do my job like I'm checking the engines on a spaceship. I do my job like I'm

01:31:00handing a scalpel to a surgeon working on Freddie Mercury's throat.

01:31:08I do my job with such detail and precision and the goal of accuracy. And look, I mean,

01:31:14how many things have I had to correct in terms of errors and details over the years?

01:31:18Maybe half a dozen over close to 20 years. Now, that's a pretty good accuracy,

01:31:23and some of those weren't even mine because I used to have a guy who gave me presentations.

01:31:29Now, it's still my responsibility, but it wasn't my error. I just didn't catch the error.

01:31:36Yeah, because I used to, I had a guy who gave me some presentations, and

01:31:43they'd just be like typos and errors and it's like, I don't want this shit.

01:31:49I feel, honestly, I don't know if I'm a perfectionist. I feel offended. I feel like,

01:31:55why would you? It would be like, you know, if I'm super hungry and my wife says,

01:32:01I'll get you a meal, and she just gives me like a still frozen pizza. I'm like,

01:32:05what? What am I supposed to do with this? It's worse than that. It feels like there's

01:32:09shit on something. It feels like somebody's giving me a sandwich that is mold and shit.

01:32:18And I hate it. I hate it in myself too. And again, make mistakes from time to time.

01:32:29I recognize that there is a certain amount of inevitability to this kind of stuff. I get all of

01:32:35that. And there's, you know, a certain amount of errors that are always going to exist. But I think,

01:32:40you know, as a whole, I've been pretty good on getting things right. In fact, I've been fantastic

01:32:46at getting things right. I know that. I mean, occasionally I go over it in my brain,

01:32:50like all the things I got right.

01:33:00Just, this is one of the biggest pieces of advice I can ever give you. I'm telling you,

01:33:05get shit right. Accept nothing but the aim of perfection. Look, I've done an hour 40 minutes

01:33:14of free-balling, and I've been precise and accurate and detailed

01:33:21and creative and innovative, and that's a commitment to quality and excellence.

01:33:27You know, I did some work, I did some work this week that is so good, I literally got goosebumps

01:33:33while I was doing it, because I'm always aiming to get better. I'm not trying to be some praise

01:33:37of myself or anything like that, because I can be kind of hard on myself in a good way,

01:33:41like an encouraging way, like, you can do better. And I always feel that. I'm good, I can do better.

01:33:46Every show I'm like, I'm going to do better. Do better. Don't rest on your laurels. Don't be lazy.

01:33:51Don't repeat. Don't use the same stories. Don't use the same analogies. Don't use the same jokes.

01:33:56Don't repeat. Be creative, be innovative. Constantly trying to shake things up.

01:34:01Different backdrop, walking around. I did a call-in today, and I did an arduous hike,

01:34:07because I knew it was going to be a really tough subject, and I wanted my blood pumping.

01:34:11Just constantly trying to shake it up, and do things different. I hate errors.

01:34:19Because, you know, here's the thing about errors, is you know how much you hate them.

01:34:28Right? If you're really hungry, you go to a restaurant, let's say you're allergic to mayonnaise,

01:34:31and you order your favorite sandwich, and you say, no mayonnaise, they read it back to you,

01:34:34no mayonnaise, and it comes with mayonnaise, and you're hungry, you're annoyed.

01:34:38Right? If your computer has an error, and there's dead pixels on the screen,

01:34:43and it keeps randomly rebooting, you hate that. You're offended. You're upset.

01:34:51What is it? I was reading the ROG ally, Republic of Gamers ally, little handheld thing.

01:34:56They put the SD card slot next to the fan exhaust, and it keeps melting them and burning it out.

01:35:03That's stupid. There was a chip, Intel chip some years ago,

01:35:10had calculation errors in the base tables. People hate that stuff.

01:35:18You hate these errors.

01:35:23If they deliver the wrong thing, you get mad. If you get a computer that doesn't work, you get mad.

01:35:30You rely on people getting shit right to live.

01:35:38To live. You can't live if people are shoddy.

01:35:45You know, I had to get a cyst removed from my shoulder, right? They need the right amount of

01:35:53painkiller. They need to cut deep enough to get it out, but not so deep they do too much damage.

01:35:59People have got to be perfect at this stuff. You know, when they were cutting the tumor out of my

01:36:04neck, they had to go deep enough to get the whole tumor, but not so deep that I'm half

01:36:09beheaded or get a jugular nick, right? You ever have a computer? I had an HP computer once. I

01:36:19bought it secondhand. It locked up randomly. That's some annoying shit. Like total screen

01:36:28freeze. Couldn't move, like couldn't save. Wasn't like it crashed or it didn't even reboot.

01:36:33Total lockup. That was 600 bucks.

01:36:38That was worse than, I would have been better off setting fire to those $600 than buying that

01:36:45HP computer. It was refurbished at a store.

01:36:51It still pisses me off because, oh, I'll check the drivers. I'll update the drivers. Oh, I'll

01:36:58talk to HP. Oh, I'll update the operating system. Oh, I'll move it to a cooler place. Maybe it's

01:37:03too much in the sun. Like the amount of time I spent on that stupid computer because it didn't

01:37:09work. So we, the electricity that comes to your house, you expect uptime of a hundred percent,

01:37:19don't you? Every time the internet's down, people lose their minds. You expect and live on

01:37:27accuracy. So do I. So be part of that circle of humanity that does their shit well.

01:37:35Double check your work. Triple check your work. Be the person who doesn't need someone over their

01:37:40shoulder like a kindergarten teacher saying, well, have you checked that? Is that right? Is that

01:37:43good? Is that accurate? Be, be excellent because you love excellence and you hate incompetence

01:37:56and everyone does.

01:38:03Be excellent. Your value, your humanity, your reliability is so important.

01:38:14Be excellent at your work. Be excellent as a friend. Be excellent in your parenting. Be

01:38:22excellent in bed. Be excellent as a lover. Be excellent in affection. Be excellent in negotiation.

01:38:30Just be good. You guys have no excuse to not be in the top one percent of everything you do.

01:38:38No excuse. You're into philosophy. You follow everything that I'm talking about. You have no

01:38:43excuse for more than one percent error. You have no excuse to not be at least 99 percent accurate

01:38:53and aim for much higher than that. You have no excuse to not be in the top one percent of your

01:38:57profession. You're easily smart enough. Sorry, it's just a fact. I mean, we all have emotional

01:39:02stuff. I get all of that. You have absolutely no excuse to not be in the top one percent.

01:39:07Shoddy people are like rust.

01:39:19Can you imagine some guys working on your brakes

01:39:23in your car and he's shoddy? You'll die and maybe kill people. You'll be going down a hill and

01:39:32you'll hit the brakes and it'll be all patchy and shit and you'll just go over the cliff.

01:39:37Jeez.

01:39:48I mean, you ever have a graphics card which stutters, overheats, drives you crazy, locks up?

01:39:53It's a problem. You ever have phones that freeze or batteries that wear down too quickly?

01:39:59Shoddy, shoddy stuff and you hate it so don't add to it ever

01:40:06or at least have the goal of never adding to it.

01:40:12Relentless dedication and devotion to quality is as close to God as we can get.

01:40:22It's as close to the angels as we can get.

01:40:25Breaking orbit from the sea of incompetence and heading to the stars of excellence is the

01:40:31greatest journey there is. Apply yourself to as great a job as you can possibly do. I don't care

01:40:38how little or how small that job is. Be the best fucking dishwasher. Be the best painter. I was

01:40:43always aiming for that. Aim to be the best? Why not? Maybe you can be. Maybe you can't be but you

01:40:51Maybe you can be. Maybe you can't be but you can sure as hell aim at it and then

01:40:55if you aim at the best you get used to being good at something or aiming at that and you

01:41:00hit that thing where you can be fucking perfect and you will go like a shuttle.

01:41:11Don't apologize for your fumble. Don't apologize for your fumble. Gave us a great speech.

01:41:22The Pentium 60. Yeah yeah. It had a complete malfunction. A computer

01:41:24malfunction if it ran across certain numbers. Yes.

01:41:32Yes. Somebody says I worked with a guy who was a total work addict and perfectionist freak

01:41:38of the highest order. He talks over me during meetings, gives me his feedback and criticism

01:41:41during meetings while I'm trying to speak. No he's not a perfectionist then. He's an

01:41:44asshole because a perfectionist would also be perfect at giving feedback.

01:41:52So he's just random and intrusive and right he's an over talker and so he's not a perfectionist.

01:41:57Perfectionists will often say well I'm just a perfectionist and that's just giving them

01:42:01an excuse to be an asshole. No because if you're a perfectionist be good at meetings,

01:42:05be good at giving feedback, be good at all of this.

01:42:11Yes Steph you're absolutely amazing to me. I aspire to be as accomplished as you and

01:42:14to help others. I'm really listening. Yes I hate errors. We all do. Errors are death.

01:42:19You understand? Errors are death. Errors get people killed. I mean just think you're hunting

01:42:26for your tribe and you pick the wrong arrow, the bent one and shoot it and the deer runs away,

01:42:36you all can die. Errors are death. Oh I forgot to feed the chickens. Well I forgot to close the

01:42:45chicken coop. Well guess what? Your chickens all got killed, got coyotes and you got nothing for

01:42:49winter. Oh I forgot to feed the cows. Oh dear well the cows got sick and died. Oh I forgot to

01:42:57put the scarecrow up and the birds ate all our seed crops. Like errors are death.

01:43:09I was in training to work at a factory. At the end of training I was doing the job of three people

01:43:13because my two training partners were going to leave and I had to pick up their slack.

01:43:16The employer refused to pay me three people's wages. Wouldn't even pay two people so I left

01:43:20them to hire three people for the job. Yeah for sure.

01:43:26My current computer crashes once a night consistently though. I crash and you're good

01:43:29for the next 10 hours. One crash and you're good for the next 10 hours. Pretty sure it's a graphics

01:43:33card issue. Yeah I'll pull the card.

01:43:39Pull the card. Stefan prevents the great slowdown with a single amazing speech.

01:43:47I am excellent in bed. I love you Steph. This is another segment I will save and listen to

01:43:51again and again. Sorry to fumble like that. My sincere apologies. No problem. No problem.

01:43:57Thank you for the tip.

01:44:01Be perfect as your heavenly father is perfect. Yes.

01:44:07Steph how to deal with the problems that arise from going above and beyond in corporate America.

01:44:10Usually the only reward is a 25 gift card.

01:44:15Yep well corporate America is no longer a meritocracy. Corporate anywhere is no longer

01:44:22corporate America is no longer a meritocracy. Corporate anywhere is no longer a meritocracy.

01:44:27It's all shitty social engineering. That's why spreadsheet guys end up in charge.

01:44:34Right so there's no meritocracy. The only meritocracy is in small agile

01:44:41employers. Maybe it's your own company but there is no meritocracy. Meritocracy is dead

01:44:46in mainstream business. In the mainstream business world meritocracy is dead.

01:44:52Right you know that right. We don't have to go into this. I've been talking about this right.

01:45:02I mean and for white males and we know this right. The jobs are going to non

01:45:05whites non-males. I mean that's just this is statistical fact. The meritocracy is dead

01:45:11and for a lot of people that's a disaster. For everyone here this is an opportunity.

01:45:16A huge opportunity. You get a 25 gift card for doing a great job. That's a wonderful incentive

01:45:25to start your own business or join some other startup or whatever right. I mean the idea that

01:45:31you guys would be working for someone else is frankly offensive to me. I mean if I said

01:45:42if I said hey I'm really I'm really angling to get a job at CNN

01:45:50so that I can read off the cue cards and the teleprompter.

01:45:59How would you guys feel if I said I'm going to work at a corporate network.

01:46:02Right.

01:46:12How would you feel would you like hey Steph that's a really good move man you'll make more

01:46:16money. Those guys get paid a lot. Millions and millions of dollars. Yeah you should totally go

01:46:21for it. Or I don't know here at CBC I'm going to work for a government network.

01:46:38Can you imagine. That's how I look at you guys talking about employment problems.

01:46:43Yes yes. And let's say I got offered a job at one of these places. You know you're actually

01:46:48quite charismatic and really good at spontaneous stuff man. I'd be like yeah you know Harvard

01:46:54offered me a job. I'm going to go teach philosophy at Harvard. It's not going to be filmed or released

01:47:00or anything like that. Oh and I'm going to have to follow their curriculum. But I'll get tenure

01:47:09and I'll get summers off. I'll get a sabbatical every couple of years so I can go and write some

01:47:15bullshit pomo verb syllable nonsense vomit and call it philosophy.

01:47:21Here's philosophy. Here's philosophy. So Jean-Paul Sartre, I don't know if you knew this,

01:47:26in 1923 he took a massive overdose of mescaline and he saw crabs, literal crabs,

01:47:35for decades. This went on forever and ever. He took so much mescaline he ended up with a

01:47:41permanent visual hallucination of crabs. And he was a massive drinker and drug taker and smoker.

01:47:57So if you think of me working at CNN or Harvard or CBC or even some right-wing place or whatever,

01:48:03you know, if you thought of me working there you'd sit there and say damn why would you do that?

01:48:09You guys working for people? Are you fucking kidding me? Now obviously if you are working

01:48:15for an entrepreneur who's encouraging entrepreneurship, my friends, that's a good

01:48:20thing. There's nothing wrong with getting your apprenticeship in. Damn, there are few other

01:48:26world's father figure during a time when they have none. I'm aware that some people look upon me as

01:48:34Big Daddy and not the kind that's in Bioshock.

01:48:37Oh, maybe I'll be reincarnated as that. Who knows? Who knows?

01:48:44Steph working at OANN or Newsmax. Again, no hate to those places or anything like that, but

01:48:53guys, look into starting your own business.

01:48:57Oh, Simone de Beauvoir, yeah, brought him grad students for threesomes. It was absolutely

01:49:02repulsive. They're all just like foul, hideous people. Well, French intellectuals, why would I

01:49:08even need to say that? And they all, a whole bunch of French intellectuals try to legalize

01:49:15pedophilia, right? You know that, right?

01:49:22So, okay, I'm going to end up with this. Now, it's been a crackerjack of a show.

01:49:27Freedomain.com slash donate. Nothing came in. I mean, I know I'm getting a couple of tips on

01:49:32locals, which I appreciate. Nothing came in tonight. Freedomain.com slash donate. Come on,

01:49:38you know this is kind of crackerjack electric value. And I'm going to

01:49:47finish up with the coup de gras, the daily wire.

01:49:57So, here's the coup de gras. Now, thank you for the tip. Appreciate that.

01:50:03All right, the coup de gras. Are you ready? It's going to blow your mind.

01:50:12So, if you have

01:50:17bullshit proximity, which is you can only be around people if you lie,

01:50:21that's bullshit proximity. It's not a relationship. It's bullshit proximity.

01:50:26If you have bullshit proximity, you are not losing relationships. What are you doing?

01:50:32What are you doing? What are you doing if you have bullshit proximity,

01:50:39which is you can only be around people if you lie?

01:50:43Are you losing relationships? No. What are you actually doing?

01:50:51What are you actually doing if you're hanging around with people that you can only be around

01:50:56them if you lie? Taking out the trash? Nope. Shedding? Nope. Losing dead weight? Nope.

01:51:04If you continue to hang with these people.

01:51:13All right, let's go back to the house.

01:51:14The drunken Salvador Dali watercolor in the rain, lean to that's pretending to be a former abode,

01:51:23right? Now, if you say to the builder, you have to build where this house is and you have to preserve

01:51:35this house, what's he going to say? Build exactly where this house is, but preserve this house,

01:51:42but preserve this house. What's he going to say?

01:51:47That's the deal. Got to build where this house is and preserve this house.

01:51:57You are not losing a house because you don't have one. You are preventing a house from being built.

01:52:06When you hang around bullshit proximity non-relationships and you start to tell the truth,

01:52:14if you don't dump the trash, you are not losing relationships, you are preventing relationships.

01:52:29You're not losing relationships, you're preventing relationships by pretending you're losing

01:52:34relationships. You don't have a house, you won't knock down the house, which means you can't get

01:52:43a house. You are crippling yourself, you are preventing relationships by hanging around

01:52:51bullshit proximity. Gotta lie in order to be around people. I don't care if they're friends,

01:52:56I don't care if they're family, I don't care if they're the Archangel Gabriel and his pet dog

01:53:02Mango. You are just living in a decaying former abode that is only called a house for linguistic

01:53:15convenience. You end up with nowhere to live if you can't knock, if you can't stand knocked down.

01:53:32You end up with nowhere to live if you can't

01:53:37stand knocking down

01:53:41that within which there is no shelter.

01:53:46You can't live in the house that's rotten and if you can't stand knocking it down,

01:53:51you got no place to live.

01:53:52If you can't stand to destroy that which is trash, you cannot plant that which will grow.

01:54:05You can't do it. Just hanging around, crying about a house that was wrecked a hundred years ago,

01:54:14saying I'm losing this house, I can't knock down this house because I'm losing. You're not!

01:54:19You're just preventing a proper house from being built.

01:54:24You all knotted up in this bullshit proximity stuff

01:54:27is keeping good people away from forming any kind of honest bond with you.

01:54:37I mean imagine you're driving and some guy's sobbing, hey you okay man? Oh this house,

01:54:44this house, I'm losing this house. It's like this is a shit pit of decayed

01:54:50rotten timbers and holes and asbestos and mold and what are you talking about?

01:54:57This is not a house. This is a liability. This is not a house. This is the prevention of a house.

01:55:04This is the opposite of a house. This is an anti-house.

01:55:18This is a trap

01:55:23of anti-shelter.

01:55:29It's not a house, it's a cathedral of poison.

01:55:34It's not a place of shelter but of asbestos mold and black lung death.

01:55:41And I'm not telling you anything you don't already know.

01:55:50I'm not giving you one single shred of information you don't already know, right?

01:55:57I built a trap house. It's mighty mighty, gonna let it all hang out.

01:56:07Love you big daddy Steph. Thank you. I appreciate it.

01:56:20There's no more opposite of a house than a non-house. You can't give up on that.

01:56:26Because you call it a house.

01:56:46Does that make sense?

01:56:52Does it make sense?

01:56:57I told you it was going to be a good ending. A happy ending, I dare say.

01:57:11All right. Ah, got some great call-ins coming your way. If you'd like a private call,

01:57:17freedomain.com, freedomain.com slash call, freedomain.com slash call to help out with

01:57:22the show, freedomain.com slash donate would really help out. We're doing some fantastic work.

01:57:26I have forgotten to do the demo of the new installable

01:57:31freedomain apps, so I will do that tomorrow. But thank you guys so much for great conversations.

01:57:40They are impactful to me. They are impactful to the world. And I thank you for the stimulation.

01:57:45I thank you for the fat-fingered typists of tonight. I really do. I'm not kidding.

01:57:50I absolutely thank you for that. Have yourselves a glorious and wonderful evening. We will do,

01:57:55well, maybe Friday night we'll do a Skype thing. Those chats are nice,

01:57:57but they're tough on donations. But we'll figure that one out. We'll figure that one out as we go.

01:58:01All right. Lots of love, everyone. Thank you so much for your time, effort, and attention

01:58:06and support tonight. freedomain.com slash donate. I'll talk to you soon. Bye.

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