What is the essence of being a mother?
Sa episode na ito ng #DigiDokyu, kilalanin si Sharmaine Gonzales, isang beauty queen at proud transgender mother.
Sa edad na 12, umalis siya mula sa kanilang tahanan at doon natagpuan ang kanyang chosen family na naging malaking impluwensya sa kanyang buhay. Ang pagmamahal, pagsuporta, at pagtanggap na kanyang natamo mula sa kanyang bagong pamilya ang nagsilbing inspirasyon niya sa pagpapalaki ng kanyang biological daughter na si Zia.
Sa episode na ito ng #DigiDokyu, kilalanin si Sharmaine Gonzales, isang beauty queen at proud transgender mother.
Sa edad na 12, umalis siya mula sa kanilang tahanan at doon natagpuan ang kanyang chosen family na naging malaking impluwensya sa kanyang buhay. Ang pagmamahal, pagsuporta, at pagtanggap na kanyang natamo mula sa kanyang bagong pamilya ang nagsilbing inspirasyon niya sa pagpapalaki ng kanyang biological daughter na si Zia.
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00:00Many has been part of history, but only few can bend history.
00:11Itself on this night of spectacle and public display, we transgender bend history.
00:20And that is our story.
00:27Hi, I'm Charmaine Gonzales, hailing all the way where the Chicharron Festival was celebrated.
00:36I'm from the municipality of Santa Maria, province of Bulacan.
00:43A proud Contisera, and I'm proud to be a Transgender Mom.
00:57I discovered that I'm a girl when I was 12 years old in my first year of high school.
01:19I feel like I'm a girl.
01:23I put on makeup even when I'm being scolded at school.
01:30My family doesn't know that I do these things because they don't really teach me.
01:37I don't have siblings. I'm the third oldest in my family.
01:40I'm the only part of the LGBT community.
01:43I left home when I was 13 years old because I didn't feel the presence of my family.
01:52That's why I decided to leave.
01:57I walked to the park in Santa Maria.
02:01Then I saw a gay man.
02:05He said that's where I lived.
02:08He said that he would help me.
02:10I decided to go with him because I was looking for a family.
02:16I was only a year old when I was adopted by a transgender man who is no longer in Canada.
02:23He adopted me when I was 15 years old.
02:29Mamita is the one who took care of me.
02:32She became my second mother.
02:35She took care of me, raised me, and supported me in everything.
02:41When Mamita came into my life, she taught me how to stand on my own two feet.
02:51She forced me to go to school.
02:56I will never forget what Mamita taught me.
03:00She taught me to stand on my own two feet and not to beg anyone.
03:06She also taught me to stand on my own two feet in a good way.
03:14I want to be a mother because I want my life to be complete.
03:18Because life is incomplete.
03:21I don't have a family.
03:24I don't have anyone to support me.
03:27I love you, Mommy.
03:30Sia is my daughter.
03:32She's four years old.
03:33I love her so much.
03:35I will do everything for her.
03:38When we adopted Sia, I was taking HRT.
03:41I was taking hormones like meal blockers.
03:44But I was afraid at that time because I was afraid that the hormones I was taking might affect her.
03:52But with God's mercy, she was healthy and there were no problems.
03:59Kit is a trans man.
04:01He's the one who brought Sia to life.
04:04He's also Sia's father.
04:07I'm the one who provides Sia with everything she needs.
04:11Then Kit is the one who takes care of her.
04:13I buy her everything she needs, like diapers, groceries, and most importantly, biscuits.
04:20I take care of her in the park, in the playgrounds.
04:26I have an online business.
04:27I sell swimsuits.
04:30I made a way for me to have my own business.
04:33I owe 5,600 pesos to the government.
04:36Because if you don't have 300 pesos, you don't have 500 pesos in your pocket.
04:41You can't feed a child.
04:44I really do everything I can to earn money.
04:51My favorite part of being a mother is taking care of Sia.
04:57She has no problems.
04:59You can see her even when you're very tired.
05:01You can see her.
05:03The problem will really go away.
05:07Sia is now four years old.
05:09She's about to go to school.
05:11I want her to go to school because I want her to have a normal life.
05:18I'm afraid because I'm part of the LGBT community.
05:24Her mom and dad are part of the LGBT community.
05:26I need to teach her how to guide herself.
05:32I need to make her understand that she has parents like this.
05:42Even if her parents are like this, they're still normal.
05:47They're still her parents.
05:49That's the most important thing.
05:51It's not about the criticism.
05:53It's about how you handle it.
05:57I talk to Sia about this.
05:59I tell her that her mom is a transgender.
06:03She says,
06:05Mom, what's transgender?
06:07I tell her,
06:09I'm the one who made you.
06:11You came from me,
06:13but your mom is a woman.
06:16Your mom's heart is a woman.
06:18Your mom's mind is a woman.
06:20Your mom's body is a woman.
06:22It's just a man's body.
06:24Before Sia came into my life,
06:26I was just at home.
06:28I was busy.
06:30I wasn't able to focus on work or business.
06:34When Sia came into my life,
06:36when she came out,
06:38that's when my mindset changed.
06:40I needed to work.
06:42I needed to do business.
06:44You can't just walk around.
06:46You can't just walk around.
06:48I have a responsibility that I can't escape.
06:50So I really needed to move.
06:52I really needed to work.
06:54And I really did my best.
06:56That's the most important thing for me.
06:58That Sia changed.
07:00When Sia came into my life.
07:08I started being a contessera
07:10when I was 15 years old.
07:12That's when I started earning money.
07:14That's when I became a manager.
07:18That's when I started providing my own stuff.
07:20Sia watched my pageants.
07:22And one time, I invited her.
07:24When I was doing my makeup backstage.
07:28I was doing my makeup.
07:30She was getting brushes.
07:32She was doing her makeup.
07:34Whatever she wanted, I would support her.
07:36Everything.
07:38I would do everything for her.
07:40Even if she left the Philippines.
07:42Go.
07:50If ever Sia discovers
07:52that she's part of the LGBT community.
07:54I will accept her.
07:56I will support her.
07:58Because our purpose as parents
08:00is to accept
08:02what our children want.
08:06We will support them
08:08no matter what they want.
08:10No matter what gender they want.
08:12As long as they grow up.
08:14My advice to Sia,
08:16I know that she will reach a point
08:18where she will have someone to lean on.
08:20You need to be brave.
08:22You need to fight for your life.
08:24Don't pay attention
08:26to the people
08:28who will lean on you.
08:30Because
08:32the time will come
08:34when they will understand
08:36that even if you have a transgender mom
08:38or a trans man dad,
08:40there's nothing wrong
08:42with having a parent like that.
08:44Because as long as you don't have
08:46someone to lean on.
08:54If I can talk to
08:56my 12-year-old self,
08:58I will tell her
09:00that her decision is right.
09:02Her decision is right
09:04because you made a decision
09:06that no matter what,
09:08you made the right decision.
09:10That you don't regret anything.
09:14That no matter what problem
09:16comes to you,
09:18that you don't expect
09:20from anyone
09:22that you will be the one
09:24to stand on your own two feet.
09:26Thank you because you are so strong.
09:34Thank you for watching this video.
09:36If you like this video,
09:38please subscribe to my channel.
09:40Thank you.
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