AYLA and David met on Instagram and sparks flew when they decided to meet in person. David admitted to Love Don't Judge: "I was attracted to her the second I saw her and I knew that she was attracted to me, too." When they initially started chatting, Ayla revealed to David that she was trans. "I was incredibly nervous. I expected to get some aggressive messages," she explained. But an unfazed David said: "It was never anything to me. I've only ever seen Ayla as a woman and that was it." At times, family has struggled to accept the relationship which has been tough for Ayla. Opening up, she said: "It was really hard for me. Nothing positive from family." Ayla's transition started when she was 24 and since then she's had multiple cosmetic surgeries and procedures. Ayla said: "I've always been drawn to the plastic look. I need to have this surgery done." In this episode of Love Don't Judge, the couple will give us an insight into the judgement they often cop and Ayla's future surgery plans. Summarising on their relationship, David said: "Nothing's forced, nothing's tried. I can be completely myself."
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00:00This is Ayla. She fell in love with David.
00:04He gets judged because I am his trans Barbie fiancée.
00:09Since transitioning, Ayla's obsession with plastic surgery has concerned friends.
00:14A little bit worried about how it could have a negative impact on their health further down the line.
00:18And in the past, Ayla's family have expressed doubts about David's intentions.
00:23I'm a straight guy. I never set out to date a trans person.
00:27Nothing positive from family. Yeah, just horrific.
00:32I'm Ayla. This is David. He gets judged because I am his trans Barbie fiancée.
00:38David and I met on social media. He messaged me.
00:41Here we are, 16 months later, engaged.
00:44I was attracted to her the second I seen her.
00:47And I knew she was attracted to me too, with her reaction.
00:53Used to be a scaffolder. Now I'm a content creator.
00:56Not joining the forces.
00:58I knew Ayla did solo adult content. We wanted to move into the world of doing it together.
01:04It gave us more flexibility, more time together, more in our life.
01:07And we love doing it.
01:09We look good together too, so, you know, why not?
01:12Me and David had done a couple of videos.
01:15I didn't want to do any more until I'd had my surgery.
01:19There's many parts to getting my boobs bigger.
01:22For me, it's something that I've been kind of attracted to since I was a kid.
01:27Like, my favourite thing was I remember getting like a real life-sized Barbie.
01:30And I was so, so excited for that because I was able to more, like,
01:34visualise myself with it rather than a small little doll.
01:37So I've always been kind of drawn to the plastic look.
01:40It's definitely gone further than I thought it would.
01:44It's felt like life or death. It's felt like I need to have this surgery done.
01:48It's about Ayla being who she wants to be.
01:51That's what's the most important thing.
01:53I'm still a good, genuine, authentic, real person.
01:56Then I can be as fake on the outside as I want.
01:58Before we met, she says, I need to tell you something.
02:01I was, like, incredibly nervous to tell David that I was trans.
02:04What I expected from him was to get some aggressive messages.
02:08It got to the stage where he told me. I was like, I know.
02:10It was never anything to me. I've only ever seen Ayla as a woman.
02:13And that was it.
02:14I still have that fear that, like, someday you're going to wake up
02:18and you're going to be like, sorry, Ayla, like, it's too much.
02:21I'm going to be with a cis girl and have kids.
02:24I'm with a normal woman. I'm with... Yeah.
02:26I'm with a normal woman. I'm with my wife.
02:29We are going to have kids. We are going to have a family.
02:32Did I ever imagine dating a trans person? No.
02:36Because a woman's a woman to me.
02:39No one's ever suggested I was gay. Not to my face, anyway.
02:44I'd love to see that.
02:46No, I'm not attracted to men. I'm attracted to women.
02:49She's a woman and that's it.
02:50I'm a straight guy. I never set out to date a trans person.
02:55I always knew I was different to my brothers growing up.
02:58My family knew that too.
03:01Growing up on Skye, I was homeschooled for primary school
03:04and I was very much allowed to just be myself.
03:07So it wasn't until I went to high school that things changed.
03:12I remember always kind of joking to my family that I'm a girl,
03:16but it sounds bad to say it, but I'm a girl, but I'm an ugly girl.
03:18I began my transition socially when I was 24,
03:24then surgically when I was 26.
03:28I was performing in drag for maybe a couple of years.
03:31At that point, this guy came up to me,
03:34who I didn't know at the time was a trans guy.
03:36We had this instant connection and he was like,
03:40you should transition. You'd be so much happier.
03:43The next day, I didn't take the drag off.
03:45I remember going out into public with my wig on and that was it.
03:49I was Ayla.
03:51Then I went to see my family on Skye,
03:55showing up as Ayla and my mom was great about it.
03:58And my brother was fantastic.
04:00He was like, you know, what's wrong with her showing up as she is right now?
04:04I feel like I'd wasted so much time already trying to keep family happy
04:08that as soon as I made that decision, it was booking a surgery.
04:12That was it. I was off.
04:13My first surgery would have been 2018
04:16and I had my face done for the first time.
04:20So I had a wee jaw shave, I had my chin shaved,
04:23and my nose done.
04:23Then I had five boob jobs, two facial surgeries
04:26and then my reassignment surgery.
04:28I'll do my nose again and I'll do my jaw again
04:31and then my boobs again.
04:32It's always going to be my boobs.
04:35Family has always been the one and it doesn't make you feel great
04:38because you're so happy to finally be in a normal relationship.
04:43It's not met by family with the same shared excitement.
04:47It was really hard for me.
04:49Nothing positive from family.
04:51Everything was suspicious in terms of,
04:54he's trying to use you,
04:55he'll just be wanting to get into the industry that you're in.
04:58Suspicions of, you know, why he'll be with you
05:01and probably saying that to a million other girls.
05:05My family were positive,
05:07which I've never had any negative comments for anyone.
05:10My mom's quite a simple person.
05:12The way I was when Ayla messaged me
05:15that she had something to tell me,
05:16it's the way that my mom reacted when I told her to.
05:20She was like, so, are you happy?
05:22Yep.
05:22Is Ayla happy?
05:23Yep.
05:23Do you make each other happy?
05:25Yep.
05:26Through time, they'll see you happy
05:27and they'll know that yous are serious.
05:29I do understand Ayla's family's worries.
05:32Of course I do.
05:34Friends like Thomas have usually fought with guys like David.
05:37Is the guy a chaser?
05:38Is he after you purely because you're trans?
05:41So, Ivy, what do you think
05:44about me being a surgery-obsessed diva?
05:47I've known you for so many years
05:49and I've seen how much you've grown with him.
05:51Screaming.
05:52I'm very much a little bit worried about how it could
05:54have a negative impact on health
05:56further down the line there for you.
05:57I know the effect that people who are
06:00not as open-minded or as understanding of these things
06:02are just going to see visually and make a really
06:04negative and wrong visual assumption.
06:07Yeah.
06:07Ayla's always been a very much
06:10the biggest personality in the room,
06:11but you don't see how much she's struggling
06:14and suffering with the recovery
06:16and the rehabilitation afterward
06:18and how much it affects her mentally and physically.
06:21Being the biggest personality in the room,
06:22that's all very well and good,
06:24but do I have the biggest boobs in the room?
06:26That's the real question, Ivy.
06:28Always have the biggest boobs in the room.
06:30Yeah.
06:31You always have the biggest boobs in the room, girl.
06:33You walk into a room and your boobs walk in five minutes
06:35before you do.
06:38I leave with my chest, Ivy,
06:39and also my boobs.
06:43I just don't want you to have to feel like
06:45any problems can be fixed with surgery.
06:47You're such a beautiful woman,
06:49inside and out.
06:50It's just a honest reflection on what
06:52an important person in Ayla's life thinks.
06:54The way I see these two together,
06:56it's perfect, it's beautiful.
06:58If I'm being real, I'm jealous.
07:02Their relationship is so beautiful.
07:04It really is, I'm stealing your man.
07:06It's such a supportive relationship.
07:09And within our community, that is so important,
07:12that you have a rock and a guide and everything.
07:16Thank you.
07:16Mother approves.
07:18Mother approves. Mother approves.
07:21Doing content with David,
07:23honestly, it's one of those things I would want to show
07:26someone in the pub.
07:27I'm so proud of it, I want everyone to see it,
07:29and I literally feel no shame or embarrassment or anything.
07:33The reason that this relationship works for me
07:35is because everything that I've ever looked for
07:38Nothing's forced, nothing's tried.
07:40I can be completely myself.
07:42I'm forever grateful to David for giving me normal.
07:46Things I always dreamed of.
07:47But never thought that I would ever get.
08:08you